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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.

I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman

If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)

Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle

All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.

"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama

"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay

"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain

I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html

http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/

So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.

“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.

The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.

If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.

http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html

If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.

You have my permission to say “no.”

If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.

There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’

Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.

Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.

Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.

I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.

I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html

More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm

I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171

Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.

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Q. DearCupid sees many stories about men and women who find out after they are married that their partners have more sexual experience or partners than was initially understood. It is a very real problem for the one who is devastated to discover the ...

A. 10 October 2011: Hi popeye, it sounds like you have managed to overcome your RJ in a very successful and positive manner. I certainly know no one WANTS to feel RJ or suffer from it; it is not a conscious choice. I guess though that your example and that of other ... (read in full...)

Retrograde jealousy

A. 10 October 2011: Hi idea, I'm sorry I've just seen your comment here. If you have a question, it's a good idea to post it on the site here: http://www.dearcupid.org/ask Otherwise, just take a look around and scroll through the questions in various categories. You ... (read in full...)

Retrograde jealousy

A. 28 July 2011: Thanks for the new additions to the thread, I really think this is a good way for these topics to be covered in a respectful manner. I often see anons posting such bitter and angry words, using the words 'slut' and 'whore' and would invite them to ... (read in full...)

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A. 19 July 2011: I just HAD to copy/paste this answer to another thread. It was a personal distillation by an anon poster as she struggled to come to terms with her boyfriend's RJ. I really like how she breaks it down into concrete chunks so we examine each piece of ... (read in full...)

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A. 14 January 2011: Hi somewhatdamaged, it sounds to me as though you should seek counseling immediately if you are having suicidal thoughts. I would recommend that you see your physician and get an appropriate referral immediately. There are treatment modalities ... (read in full...)

Retrograde jealousy

A. 19 December 2010: You're welcome! Thank Yos and other aunts who came before you and made me realize I did not know how to help. So here's the safe place to discuss it. I'm delighted to have been of help to you. A real day-brightener! Best wishes to you and your girl... (read in full...)

Retrograde jealousy

A. 20 August 2010: This actually kind of illustrates one of the things I wrote in the original post: "BUT, it must be respectful of the aunt holding a differing viewpoint. You must keep in mind that you may disagree with another aunt, but keep it cordial. If you can'... (read in full...)

Retrograde jealousy

A. 9 August 2010: @Stonemason, thanks for posting. No, your situation wasn't one of the ones I was referring to. I've been on DC for a while now and the situation I see again and again is the man who posts that he's just found out his wife wasn't a virgin, or that ... (read in full...)

Retrograde jealousy

A. 31 July 2010: PM, thank you so much for contributing that good insight about the loss of trust issue. This is definitely something that people have to work through and it's not made easier by unspoken assumptions. I hope that anyone reading this has a good think ... (read in full...)

Retrograde jealousy

A. 27 July 2010: @Serpico, no problem. If you don't think that this will be helpful to anyone, there's no need for you to link here. It's like Q just said, we have seen post after post turn into unhelpful and possibly hurtful debate, rather than focusing on the ... (read in full...)

I finally get to ask her out... and she says no!

Q. Hey I'm 13-14 years old and there is this really cute girl in my class and she has broken up with her boyfriend a month or two back and I've already asked her to go out but she said no and she just wants to be friends I've liked her since mid ye...

A. 26 July 2010: Okay, that makes things a little clearer. You were afraid of rejection and then you wanted to be the good guy and do the right thing. That's a good start. This girl sounds like she changes her mind a lot. It's kind of common in teenage girls not ... (read in full...)

Retrograde jealousy

A. 26 July 2010: Q and Miamine, you both understand what it is I'm trying to create here, thank you both for your help and input and insight! It is much appreciated.... (read in full...)

Retrograde jealousy

A. 26 July 2010: "a person deserves the chance to choose, say one partner was a molester ten years ago wouldnt you want to know the whole deal so that what ever consequences that come from it, it was your choice?" I agree that a person deserves to know whether the ... (read in full...)

Retrograde jealousy

A. 26 July 2010: Some good posts on this thread about the topic: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-can-i-forget-about-my-wifes-past.html ... (read in full...)

My wife was a prostitute, but she's mad at me for confronting her.

Q. I've posted here before about the agony of my wife running away at the age of 14 and having sex with strangers on the way or while she was there, she was somewhat shortcoming of the details. After a certain coincidental set of circumstances, I...

A. 26 July 2010: Counseling to me has been the equivalent to talking to a mirror. "So why do you think you feel that way?? "Why would you want to imagine all these horrible thoughts?" And you don't want to answer those questions? Mirrors make it possible for ... (read in full...)

I finally get to ask her out... and she says no!

A. 26 July 2010: What do you mean, "is there anything else I must do?" Um, she said no. I'm sorry you are experiencing rejection, but it happens to just about everyone. You learn to live with it, it is part of growing up, I think. The only thing you "must do" is a... (read in full...)

My wife was a prostitute, but she's mad at me for confronting her.

A. 26 July 2010: Is there some reason you haven't sought professional counseling? Because this is beyond us ordinary little amateur aunts. You're going to have good days and bad days. The facts of her life remain. The fact that you are having trouble coping remains. ... (read in full...)

Ex-boyfriend said eeeew referring to me in a bikini. Do I confront him?

Q. Well, me and my best fried were swimming and having a wonderful time, when my boyfriend texts me I get her phone, because mine was practically dead, and when I get her phone she gets a text message from her boyfriend and he is talking about me, I go ...

A. 25 July 2010: I want to add that I completely agree with Honeypie's answer. She reminded me of the fact that he is your ex and chose to date your best friend. Neither are very considerate of your feelings.... (read in full...)

Everyone is rude to me!

Q. I live in the Greensboro/High Point area of North Carolina, and I've gotten to the point where I can't stand it. People here are obscenely rude to me on a regular basis, and I don't tolerate it. It happens to me several times a day! For exampl...

A. 25 July 2010: Oh wait, there was this other time, when another driver tried to pull in front of me at a very long line at a toll booth (I was on my way down to NC) and I was SO annoyed at him. But I looked in the rearview and thought, oh well, this guy doesn't ... (read in full...)

Everyone is rude to me!

A. 25 July 2010: I love NC. I have wonderful experiences there and enjoy my visits whenever I go. That being said.... I had a flat tire incident in Cincinnati, OH. This guy drove alongside me for a mile or two, waved at me until I realized he was telling me ther... (read in full...)

Would I be living in a sexless marriage if I was to marry this girl?

Q. My problem is very specific. I love my girlfriend and we are together for almost 4 years now. I have plans to marry her and to start a family with her in about two years and she agrees. We have been living together for 2 years, so we know each other ...

A. 25 July 2010: What would I do in your situation? Oh dear, I hate to say this. But I think you and she are not compatible sexually nor are you compatible from a communication standpoint. This is as good as it's going to be with her, you are in your wooing phase. ... (read in full...)

Does penis size determine if a woman will stay in the relationship?

Q. Is penis size a major deciding factor on if a women will stay in the relationship, or leave?...

A. 25 July 2010: Not for the women I know. I can't think of one who broke up with a guy saying his penis size was the cause. It usually is about his behavior, the way he treats her, the way he makes her feel about herself, the way he makes her feel about him.... (read in full...)

Retrograde jealousy

A. 25 July 2010: "what if the partner lies before marriage about sexual past?" Good question! What if that happens? What should the question be back to the one who lied? "Why is it we always come up excuse that they must have had a good reason for lien to there part... (read in full...)

Is his behavior about control?

Q. My ex-boyfriend is still a bother - why does he insist on finding out what I am doing and with whom? He is jealous of me going out with a guy we both know. But the ex-boyfriend has been living with another woman for over a year! And he doesnt care ...

A. 25 July 2010: Chippy, thank goodness you are well away from this creep. I don't care how handsome or charming he was, the man is a narcissist and interested only the servicing of his penis. Be thankful that you are well away from him and I am so proud of you for ... (read in full...)

Retrograde jealousy

A. 25 July 2010: Just to add to the original article, when I first read posts about people troubled by their partners' sexual pasts, I had the same initial reaction as many people. That is "get over it, that was long ago and doesn't have any bearing on your ... (read in full...)

I finally get to ask her out... and she says no!

A. 25 July 2010: You have to respect her 'no' answer. To keep asking her out now will only make her dislike you. I think your best strategy is to get her friends to see you as very date-able. Win over her friends and you stand a chance. ... (read in full...)

Ex-boyfriend said eeeew referring to me in a bikini. Do I confront him?

A. 25 July 2010: And just to think this through a little further, if you're still in love with the ex, don't you think confronting him about his stupid comment will only make you look like a snoop (for going through your friend's phone), insecure (for doubting that ... (read in full...)

Ex-boyfriend said eeeew referring to me in a bikini. Do I confront him?

A. 25 July 2010: But you can still hang out with her and have a wonderful time? Gosh, I would have probably kept my distance then, she doesn't sound like she actually fits the definition of a best friend to me. I think I'd ignore the ex and the bestie for being so i... (read in full...)

I only seem able to have an orgasm in one position. Why is this?

Q. Hi, Can you please tell me why, when i have sex with my husband i feel excited when i face him and my clitoris touchs his penis? If we do different styles eg: a dog style he will be behind me but i cant orgasm, i cant end my excitement in any othe...

A. 25 July 2010: Think of it this way, would your husband have an orgasm if his penis wasn't being stimulated? Your clitoris is the equivalent to his penis. I think lots of people assume it is the vagina that is equivalent, but actually, that would be more like his ... (read in full...)

Ex-boyfriend said eeeew referring to me in a bikini. Do I confront him?

A. 25 July 2010: How old are you exactly? This is sounding more like the early teens than later ones. If you are still in love with him, why do you have a boyfriend and why is your bestie dating your ex?... (read in full...)

My wifes was not a virgin how do I get even?

Q. hai, ok my wifes sexual past haunts me. Married 6 years and i am recently just finding out about her.i was a virgin when i married her and when we talked during our dating years she implied that she was pure. I came acros her diary and yes sorry i ...

A. 25 July 2010: If the OP would like to have admin reopen this question, please PM me. Thanks. As an additional note, questions aren't meant for general debate about positions. If you would like to debate, publish an article (yes, you can do that as an anon or unde... (read in full...)

Why does he REALLY want to keep in touch? Could it be strictly for career reasons?

Q. A few of you may be familiar with my story about a mutual crush I have on my now ex boss. I I have now left. I saw him last week just to finalise a bit of unfinished business. Our previous meeting was after work. He asked me to meet him at 6...

A. 24 July 2010: I didn't read anything in your description of his behavior toward you to suggest that you have a budding romance going on. It sounds perfectly mundane, actually. You are more than likely reading way more into this than actually exists. I think you ... (read in full...)

I told my 33 year old teacher that I love him and he doesn't believe me!

Q. Im just 18.im in love with my teacher.hes 33 i dont care about the age gap.hes married and devoced. His wife has left him because he cant make kids.i told him dat i love him.I think that he cant belive it.How can i tell him that im dead sirious on ...

A. 24 July 2010: If the age gap isn't a problem, then he simply does not love you in the way you want. Sorry, but that happens. If you are having obsessive thoughts about this, spend more time with your friends, finish school, talk to your parents for help. ... (read in full...)

If he really DOES like me then why hasn't he asked me out?

Q. I'm wondering if my male coworker, who's also my friend at work, is interested in me. He always finds a way to touch me, either on my arm, my face, or my leg. He's joked about us getting married a few times, even though he says he's not ready to ...

A. 24 July 2010: He sounds like a bit of a flirt. Maybe he just likes making you smile and thinks you are attractive. You could ask him out yourself, you know, when he suggests hanging out again, name a date and time and see what he says. If he never commits to a ... (read in full...)

I told my 33 year old teacher that I love him and he doesn't believe me!

A. 24 July 2010: Unfortunately, in love matters, life can be very unfair. It is about timing and readiness. In this case, a) he's your teacher and therefore having a relationship with you is considered unethical by his employers, b) there's a significant age gap, ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend has never had an orgasm because she is shy and holds back. How can I help her break this habit?

Q. Hi, I've been trying to avoid posting another question on here because I'd really prefer to work on things like this between just me and my girlfriend. But I'm kinda stumped on this one and the outside advice could help us a lot... Ok, here goes...M...

A. 24 July 2010: I hate to be the one to tell you this, but she ultimately is responsible for her own orgasm. Yes, you may be intimately involved and assisting but the only one holding her back is herself. Do as you are doing by not putting pressure on her. I'd advi... (read in full...)

Theoretical question: Which of the 2 scenarios is worse?

Q. This is more of a theoretical question! Which of the following is worse: 1. Being in a relationship with a man who makes you happy and you know you would have a happy life together BUT always wondering about what could have been with someone els...

A. 23 July 2010: What's worse? Number one. You have too much wonder about another guy. There can ALWAYS be another guy, no matter how old you are. You might be 60 and someone who is "better" matched to you could come along. What happens is that you commit to the ... (read in full...)

How can I have sex with a girl without a condom and not get her pregnant?

Q. How can you have sex with a girl with out a condom, but have sex like putting it in and out with out getting her pregnant? ...

A. 23 July 2010: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-it-wrong-not-to-tell-someone-you.html http://www.dearcupid.org/question/should-i-tell-him-i-have-an-std.html http://www.dearcupid.org/question/should-i-tell-him-about-my-std.html http://ww... (read in full...)

Restrictions on the car driving me crazy, what can I do?

Q. I'm 18, I have "supposedly" have a car and I say supposedly because to me its not mine unless I can come and go as I please. The thing is my parents(mostly my dad) wont let me visit my boyfriend often. My BF lives about 25 mins away the town right ...

A. 21 July 2010: I agree with Ask Oldersister. May I ask, why isn't your boyfriend coming to visit you? It's actually pretty obvious how you can fix the situation. Make sure you own your own car and can pay for the insurance, fuel and maintenance. Then it's enti... (read in full...)

My period is late, could I possibly be pregnant?

Q. i had sex on the 10th of july and i dont use contreception with my fiance...we use withdrawel method, wen he pulled out he didnt do it quick enough and caught just of the inside of my vagina and the rest on my clitoris and groin...i was due on my ...

A. 21 July 2010: Not to add to your distress, but the withdrawal method is about the worst birth control method ever devised. If you can't handle getting pregnant, then you need to find another more reliable birth control method. There are plenty more options out ... (read in full...)

My period is late, could I possibly be pregnant?

A. 21 July 2010: I think some of the tests can detect really soon after a missed period, in fact, now, for you. Why don't you go down to the chemist's (pharmacy is the word we use in the US) and get a pregnancy test?... (read in full...)

Freckles

Q. "OP Own Title" Hi! I have to much freckles! I just want some off not all. I'm filipino-mexicano, I'm just saying, if that changes anything:)... so tell me your remedies that work for you please! ...

A. 21 July 2010: Sunscreen. Sunscreen. Sunscreen. Hats. Hats. Hats. Then more sunscreen. You'll be wondering where they got to after a year!... (read in full...)

I'm just wondering if I'm related to my aunt's ex-husbands son from another marriage?

Q. okay. i'm just wondering if i'm related to my aunt's ex-husbands son from another marriage. here's the story...my aunt was married to this guy, lets call him scott, they got divorced years ago (i was like 2, i'm 22 now) and scott went off and had a ...

A. 21 July 2010: Oh, just that your female cousins might not like seeing their cousin date their half-brother. But if your aunt is trying to set you up with him, then there's probably no hard feelings. It's not like you need to let your cousins determine your dating ... (read in full...)

Are married women basically all disloyal, cheaters at heart, ready to do whatever it takes for male attention?

Q. Why do so many married women cheat? I don't know if this is just a function of where I live (Southern California), but it seems like the majority of women I know well have cheated at some point on their husbands. These range from a few women who ...

A. 20 July 2010: Gosh, my observation of the people around me is the opposite. It's the men who cheat in greater numbers. In my non-statistically significant local sample, 4 marriages ending in divorce, 3 of them caused by the man cheating. Those are the marriages ... (read in full...)

I'm just wondering if I'm related to my aunt's ex-husbands son from another marriage?

A. 20 July 2010: I'd say you are not related... I think it's okay to date him from that standpoint. However, there may be some bitter feelings out there. Do your best to understand them.... (read in full...)

Bad sexual experience has left me stinging!

Q. I have recently had a bad, disturbing sexual experience. One night during intimate encounters with my partner she asked me if we could experiment. After agreeing she said she wanted to put objects up my bum..... Needless to say i was quite worried ...

A. 20 July 2010: Seek medical attention. ... (read in full...)

What is your "depth"?

Q. OK, so I've been seeing a lot of posts here about guys and their penis size, and the depth of the vagina. It's been my experience that the vagina elongates during sex. I say "experience" from what I've read, and what I feel when I'm having sex (...

A. 20 July 2010: May I add on to the answer by DoubleM? He raises a very good point. That a woman can give birth to a baby right through that vaginal canal. And most babies are larger than most penises. Now, I think that most women aren't screaming with plea... (read in full...)

Can you get pregnant from this? Please help!!

Q. Mod Note: Posters Original Title Can you get pregnant from dry humping? I'm so worried. My boyfriend was over a few days ago and we were dry humping. I was completely naked but he was completely dressed. Is there any way I could be pregnant from...

A. 19 July 2010: Did any semen/ejaculate get/land on your vulva?... (read in full...)

My wife was a prostitute, but she's mad at me for confronting her.

A. 19 July 2010: Either we work it out or we split up. I can't continue to go through the days to come with this consuming my life. -- Are you her advocate or her adversary? Quick answer, don't think too much. Advocate for her? On her side? Yes? No? ... (read in full...)

My wife was a prostitute, but she's mad at me for confronting her.

A. 19 July 2010: What would I do? I'd freak out, probably, and then try to find some compassion for a raped, abused, sad and unhappy 14 year old. You're going to have to find your own closure. She's had enough. She's the primary victim. You're the secondary vict... (read in full...)

Help! The condom split!!! Could I be pregnant?

Q. Basically, me and my boyfriend of nearly 3 months had sex last week when the condom split, even though im on the pill im still worried i could be pregnant?!?! I know what your all say that if i've been using the pill properly it wont happen, but.... ...

A. 19 July 2010: I know someone who has 7 children, all conceived while she was on birth control pills. Another one who has 2 girls, also conceived while on BC. Just to remind people that being on the pill is not a guarantee that you will avoid pregnancy. The othe... (read in full...)

I'm 15, he's 20, and my parents hate him...but we are in love! What should I do?

Q. hi im fifteen and im living with a tweenty year old my familly hates him but we are in love what do i do?...

A. 18 July 2010: Can you tell us why they hate him? Besides the obvious, that you are underage, a teenager, and presumably haven't finished high school.... (read in full...)

Condoms! We don't use them, why do you have them?

Q. Serious problem! I've been in a relationship with my guyfriend for the last three years, and during this time we have never used condoms during intimacy. A couple of weeks ago, I discovered condoms in his nightstand, and he hurriedly rushed over ...

A. 18 July 2010: To answer your question, which seems to be what's the best way to break up with him, I would just tell him that it's not working out for you. You don't love him and it is time to let him go find someone else. You don't need to get into a whole lot ... (read in full...)

Husband addicted to porn. Wife on the verge of leaving.

Q. My husband and I have only been married a month, but porn has been an issue since the start of our relationship. Every time I leave, after I go to bed, or get in the shower, he immediately jumps on porn sites. It blows my mind. I addressed him about ...

A. 18 July 2010: No submission will be accepted that will 'hijack' an OP's thread. If this happens, your comments will be taken off the thread. Stay on topic No submissions are accepted that could cause flame wars. We ask all posters to display a mature restrain... (read in full...)

Porn is ruining my relationship and feelings!

Q. Hi there, I am having a little bit of trouble. I have been with my boyfriend for 10 months and we live together. He had lied to me in the beginning about his sex, and how he used to be married. He is 10 years older than I am which doesnt bother me ...

A. 17 July 2010: No submission will be accepted that will 'hijack' an OP's thread. If this happens, your comments will be taken off the thread. Stay on topic No submissions are accepted that could cause flame wars. We ask all posters to display a mature rest... (read in full...)

Should I just pretend I don't know about my husband's one night stands as long as he comes home after the fun?

Q. My hubby treats me and the kids very well..we have been a loving couple for years. Recently I found out that even before we were married, he has been out for monthly one night stands (he usually says he is out entertaining clients when he comes home ...

A. 17 July 2010: I wouldn't be able to pretend that well. Please tell me you are getting monthly pap smears and seeing your gyn after each episode. He is risking your health every time he does this. Maybe it would be prudent to use condoms all the time, even for ... (read in full...)

I think my husband might be gay?

Q. Is my man gay? When I asked him on a scale of 1 to a 10 how good looking is you male friend, his answer was a 20!!! Is my husband gay?...

A. 17 July 2010: My guess is that he said that to end the discussion. Is that all you have to go on?... (read in full...)

Is it possible to conceive a child without ejaculating or going in?

Q. Dear Cupid, my girlfriend is 4 weeks late, and we're obviously quite worried and we've back tracked what we've done over the last month or so. We've done everything other then sex, we're both virgins. We can only put it down to that we've been doi...

A. 17 July 2010: Yes, it is possible, if sperm-containing semen found its way to her vulva. Sperm are designed to swim. Here's an eye-opening video on the topic: h... (read in full...)

I cheated and hate myself for it

Q. i cheated on my boyfriend who i love so much. three years together and i cheat on him in a bathroom of a restaurant. while he was there. he has done nothing wrong to me and doesnt ever talk to any other women. i am a stupid stupid stupid person. i ...

A. 17 July 2010: "i seriously just want to kill myself." That sentence closes this thread. That sentence, and the entire package of feelings you describe, indicates that you need professional counseling. That's what will examine your choices, your drinking, your ... (read in full...)

My mom found my birth control!!!

Q. Yesterday my mom found my birth control. She's very upset about it however, I am 22 and I don't see the problem in taking it. I am her only child and she has always been very overprotective of me, I don't think she realizes how old I am. I've never ...

A. 17 July 2010: "Thank you for your concern, Mom. I'm 22 and it's now my job to take care of myself. I'll take it from here. Love you!" ... (read in full...)