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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Worried about this persistent discharge
Q. Alright. It's been about, what? 3 months? going onto 4? And I feel horrible and disgusting. It started after my period in august. There was A LOT of discharge. I thought it was normal at first, because my period just ended. But for the rest of ...
A. 9 November 2010: Any news on the test results?... (read in full...)
He makes fun of me, hurts me and then says he loves me?
Q. I stopped at my boyfriends this weekend and he got drunk one night, I was lying on the sofa and he turned to me and said "wheres this come from?" and pointed at my stomach he then said "you've got a right little stomach on you" meaning he thinks ive ...
A. 8 November 2010: What did he say when you asked him "what the heck is going on"? It's a reasonable question to ask.
You have some past and current issues with anorexia and a hurt wrist, and he drunkenly yet somehow deliberately presses on both of those. While drun... (read in full...)
If he don't please me, should I have to please him?
Q. my boyfriend admitted that he only cares about his sexual plessure and that he isnt worried about me getting mine. witch explains why all this trying to convience him that i want more forplay isnt working. i tried to explain to him that the type of ...
A. 8 November 2010: Oh, man. The door would be hitting this guy's rear end so fast... well, you have tried and tried. He doesn't sound particularly trainable. What do YOU want?... (read in full...)
Are my fantasies normal? I don't want to lose my family because of this....
Q. hey.... i just have big sex fantasies... i dont know how im gonna take it out from my mind but start hurting me ... i have beautiful wife and baby... i wanna watch my wife sex with another guy... i know its wrong but making me so exciting.. we watch ...
A. 2 November 2010: Try a mirror and a wig or mask on yourself, if your wife will consent. I think fantasies like this are common but trying to force her to do this will wreck her trust of you, assuming she still does trust you.
If you are having consuming thou... (read in full...)
He cant go out without drinking!
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for 9 months already and I love him with all my heart. But lately Ive been feeling really unhappy every time we go out or he goes out he HAS to drink. He gets really stupid when he does and I don't like it. He doesn't ever ...
A. 2 November 2010: Hi, you've seen some red flags already in his behavior. He says it's poison but drinks anyway, and doesn't limit to one or even two social drinks. He drinks a six pack of beer. This is problem drinking. I know lots of people do it when they are ... (read in full...)
Sister in law urges...
Q. hey there again its me the crazy OCD guy that thinks about his sister in law lol.:P The last thing I am is OCD and I dont need any medication either. It wasnt my idea in the first place to trade my wife like a power tool! It was my GREAT brother in ...
A. 2 November 2010: It's generally considered polite on this board to do the followups on the questions you've asked already, before posting again, for the third time on this. Here's the advice I gave you via PM. Nothing you've written here changes it for me.
"My sist... (read in full...)
How effective is the birth control shot?
Q. I've been sexually active with my boyfriend for about a year and a half now and we've been together 2 years. I just started the birth control shot back in July so I just had my 2nd shot on October 12th. This past Saturday, we had sex with no condom ...
A. 2 November 2010: "The birth control shot is one of the most effective methods of birth control available. It works best when you get the birth control shot regularly, every 12 weeks.
"Less than 1 out of 100 women will get pregnant each year if they always use the ... (read in full...)
My teacher shouts at me around others but is nice in private. What does it mean?
Q. my teacher is grumpy in front of others and shouts at me and points out my flaws but when i go to ask for doubts privately he acts so sweet and he brushes on me and acts as if nothing wrong has happened, what does he have in mind?...
A. 1 November 2010: He's probably trying his very best to get you to pay attention to the lesson plan instead of daydreaming. Focus on your schoolwork instead of him for 2 weeks and see how that goes. My guess is that he is frustrated with kids who don't seem to be ... (read in full...)
What if I cannot stop my attraction to my sister in law?
Q. hi, Im back again with these SIL thing. I got your answers to the question however I dont think it done me much justice. Im still having these feeling in fact I woke up thinking about her. What if i cant stop it? I know im married and so is she with ...
A. 1 November 2010: If your emotions and feelings are so uncontrollable ("What if i cant stop it?"), then it sounds to me like you might need a doctor's visit and perhaps some medication? People who cannot control their sexual urges to the extent that it could wreck ... (read in full...)
Should I consult my daughter about possibly dating her close friend?
Q. Here is a story. I am a woman in my early forties. I ve been told i look 10 years younger, and everytime i say i have a 24 year old daughter, eyebrows are raised. I m divorced from my childs father for many many years, but we managed to stay g...
A. 1 November 2010: I think the fundamental question is actually this: whose feelings matter most to you? Your daughter's or this male friend of hers?
Choose wisely, as this may affect your relationships for the rest of your life.... (read in full...)
How can we grow as a couple when we cant even get one day to ourselves because of his mom!
Q. Thanks in advance for all advice. Ok I have a live in boyfriend for 1yr in my home - yes we split bills - right off the bat* Now I really love him and can look past some sexual issues he has (pre ejac, lack of drive)- He feels horrible and has...
A. 1 November 2010: Declare date night to be a phone-free time. Leave the mobiles at home, or turn them OFF. If you go to a movie, you should be turning them off anyway; just forget to turn them back on again. Don't announce to his mom when you are going out for the ... (read in full...)
I am not thrilled about the wild boy's night out before out wedding!
Q. Heyy guys I have a big problem on my hands that i really need some advice on. Me and my other half who have been together for quite a while have decided to get married, the wedding isnt until 2012 but its already being planned however all of h...
A. 30 October 2010: So this party is nearly 2 years off? I wouldn't worry about it right now; you have plenty of other things to worry about.
I expect his friends are fully aware of your reaction and are winding you up to see just how upset and shrill and hyst... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a guy "popped your cherry?"
Q. What does it mean when a guy has 'popped your cherry'??...
A. 29 October 2010: It's a rather crude and fanciful way to say he has disrupted your hymen, which to some people means he has taken your virginity. Whatever virginity is, there is no full consensus.
h... (read in full...)
Boyfriend just grabbed me and "did it". He didn't see anything wrong with that!
Q. Hi All - I need some insight on this. So yesterday I went to see my bf and we both knew we were hooking for sex before he leaves for the weekend to see his mother. Anyway, when i got there he was just uninterested. I touched him, he didnt touch m...
A. 29 October 2010: Hm. You know something, if he doesn't think he did anything wrong, maybe there's something seriously wrong with him. Certainly there's something wrong with his judgement.
I would say there's something wrong with your judgement if you tolerate this... (read in full...)
I am not thrilled about the wild boy's night out before out wedding!
Q. Heyy guys I have a big problem on my hands that i really need some advice on. Me and my other half who have been together for quite a while have decided to get married, the wedding isnt until 2012 but its already being planned however all of h...
A. 29 October 2010: Out of curiousity, why are you doing these parties in 2010, if the wedding isn't until 2012? A lot can happen between now and then, and maybe it would be prudent to wait until 2012 for the bachelor and bachelorette parties. Have an engagement party ... (read in full...)
Husband of 27 years regrets that he didn't have sex with other women!
Q. I have been married for 27 years and a while ago my husband told me that the biggest regret of his life was that he hadn't had sex with more women. He had always lead me to believe that he had only been with me, but during this odd conversation I ...
A. 29 October 2010: Have you two talked about this since that first conversation?
I am in two minds about this for you. It's sort of good news/bad news and I guess it depends a lot on you and how he is behaving right now.
Okay, so the bad news is obvious. He has told... (read in full...)
Pregnant and no one knows but me
Q. Okay so I'm pregnant and the guy doesn't know It and neither do my parents. Help me please?!!...
A. 29 October 2010: Wait. Three days ago you were asking this question: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/should-i-have-a-kid-dont-get-off.html
So you asked this question 3 days ago, and today you're pregnant? That's simply amazing, as it normally takes that long just... (read in full...)
Airports new "feel you up" measure is crossing the lines!
Q. ok. who was watching cnn this morning? airports are bringing in some new security measures and its getting personal. i watched (on cnn) an employee run her hand between and right under a female passengers breasts. they touch your butt and quickly ...
A. 29 October 2010: I was on one flight between New York and London during a particularly high terror alert phase and they rechecked every single person including pat-downs. I'll tell you what, I felt as though I was on the most thoroughly screened aircraft that day. ... (read in full...)
Airports new "feel you up" measure is crossing the lines!
Q. ok. who was watching cnn this morning? airports are bringing in some new security measures and its getting personal. i watched (on cnn) an employee run her hand between and right under a female passengers breasts. they touch your butt and quickly ...
A. 29 October 2010: How would you propose people be screened in order to prevent terrorists from getting weapons or chemicals on board a plane?... (read in full...)
How do I get past my insecurities about my appearance?
Q. Pretty much all my life i've been insecure about my appearance. I'm 5'7 126 pounds with auburn hair and hazel eyes. People have told me i'm attractive sometimes even "stunning". I just can't see it myself, i hate having my photo taken or looking at ...
A. 29 October 2010: Have you been abused in your past? You sound like someone who is suffering from 'stinking thinking' as though your self value and self worth have been battered for a very long time.
With this kind of thought process, the only advice I can give is t... (read in full...)
Is texting your girlfriend's friend behind her back classed as cheating?
Q. I need to know if you have been with your partner for a few years,and you find out that hes been texting one of your friends both doing this behind your back but no sexual contact is this classed as cheating?...
A. 29 October 2010: Is he arguing that he's done nothing wrong? Is that why you had to ask the question about this?
It's really semantics, isn't it? He and she have obviously been doing something they couldn't tell you about. It's not okay, you know it's not okay, so s... (read in full...)
Pregnant and no one knows but me
Q. Okay so I'm pregnant and the guy doesn't know It and neither do my parents. Help me please?!!...
A. 29 October 2010: Sounds like you have some sort of a plan. I would suggest you spend the 'hang out' time figuring out some answers to questions your parents are going to ask.
Here's a sample list:
1. Where are you going to have the baby? Who is the doctor? ... (read in full...)
Pregnant and no one knows but me
Q. Okay so I'm pregnant and the guy doesn't know It and neither do my parents. Help me please?!!...
A. 29 October 2010: What test kit did you use to find out you were pregnant? You could just show your parents the test kit and they will know as soon as they see it.
Your guy could definitely get in trouble with the law now, if he has impregnated you. http... (read in full...)
His dad found our sexy texts and now thinks I am gay so he is not allowed to see me anymore!
Q. So me and a friend of mine were planning to experiment sexually and we were planning and talking about it through texts, we were really good friends and just wanted to try it out, well i guess he was careless but his Dad read the messages and thinks ...
A. 29 October 2010: Hang in there until you are old enough to move out into your own place. Do well in school and university could be in your future.
When you are older, you can make your own decisions; right now, your parents have a responsibility for your safe... (read in full...)
In the heat of the argument I told him he has a tiny penis! I know I have screwed up, so how do I fix this?
Q. Ok so ive been seeing this guy for a while now almost a year. He told me before that he always thought he had a small penis (he had been drinking, in fact i dont know if he remembers telling me that) but hes not small hes like 6.5 in. Ive been told ...
A. 28 October 2010: Our OP has answered: "Im the original poster. The arguement startd over porn. He said "sorry my ex was a freak and i was hopin u were into it to" and i was really hurt. Aftr we talkd about it we agreed we both made up what we said along with a bunch ... (read in full...)
Why does she need a visa?
Q. So this is the story since I've been living in mexico for a long while now, one of my bff's is like having a "long distance ""engagement"" thing" sorta. She's mexican and he is american. So common right? The thing is that she told me what are the ...
A. 28 October 2010: Here's the link she needs to read:
http://travel.state.gov/visa/immigrants/types/types_1315.html... (read in full...)
Why does she need a visa?
Q. So this is the story since I've been living in mexico for a long while now, one of my bff's is like having a "long distance ""engagement"" thing" sorta. She's mexican and he is american. So common right? The thing is that she told me what are the ...
A. 28 October 2010: Then I expect it's a different set of paperwork. Why don't you or she have a look around that website I provided? I don't really have time to do the research for her or you tonight. If she's the one who wants to marry this guy, shouldn't she be ... (read in full...)
What does it feel like to have someone you consider a life partner?
Q. What does it feel like to be with someone who you want to spend the rest of your life with and to have them want to be with you too?...
A. 28 October 2010: Followtheblackrabbit pretty much summed up how I feel about it. Well said. It is an amazing feeling of serenity and strength.... (read in full...)
Why does she need a visa?
Q. So this is the story since I've been living in mexico for a long while now, one of my bff's is like having a "long distance ""engagement"" thing" sorta. She's mexican and he is american. So common right? The thing is that she told me what are the ...
A. 27 October 2010: One thing to point out, if she gets that visa and enters the US, they need to get married within 90 days. So it's kind of important that they actually intend to marry... if it's just a 'engagement thingie' it probably won't work and she won't get ... (read in full...)
Why does she need a visa?
Q. So this is the story since I've been living in mexico for a long while now, one of my bff's is like having a "long distance ""engagement"" thing" sorta. She's mexican and he is american. So common right? The thing is that she told me what are the ...
A. 27 October 2010: The girl is Mexican but her guy is the one raised in the States, right? She still has to enter the country (US) and has to fulfill whatever the current requirements are to cross the border. Just because she's engaged to a guy from the States doesn't ... (read in full...)
Do men really get afraid?
Q. My boss and I have been fooling around for about 6 months, no sex, no kissing, just fondling. We haven't gone further as he is very afraid of my husband finding out and hurting him. We are both married with children. Yet we continue to fool around. ...
A. 27 October 2010: Why, do you think a married man who fondles his married subordinate might actually lie?... (read in full...)
In the heat of the argument I told him he has a tiny penis! I know I have screwed up, so how do I fix this?
Q. Ok so ive been seeing this guy for a while now almost a year. He told me before that he always thought he had a small penis (he had been drinking, in fact i dont know if he remembers telling me that) but hes not small hes like 6.5 in. Ive been told ...
A. 27 October 2010: The other aunts have pretty well covered what I was thinking on this one, but I just want a bit of clarification on two points.
One, have you had sex since this fight, is that why he's talking penis enhancement and won't let you see him naked anym... (read in full...)
My LDR guy is coming to visit and he wants to have sex with me, but I have no idea how to do it!
Q. well im from NZ and im having a LDR with a guy from Australia. we've met once when i was in Australia, well he is comeing to visit me in 2 days and he'll be staying in a hotel and he wants to have sex with me. im ready to have sex with him but the ...
A. 27 October 2010: Are you really sure you are ready to have sex with him? Seeing as you don't know anything about it and will be starting from zero?
There are many websites out there that describe sex and what happens. What I would recommend is that you not feel you ... (read in full...)
Is it a problem I can't fully retract my foreskin?
Q. I can't retract when i have an erection; but when it's not erected; i can retract it but i never went under the head because i'm scared the skin is so tight it won't go back like it was :/ Is it a problem or is it ok if i just leave it like that? I ...
A. 27 October 2010: See your doctor, it sounds like phimosis to me. http://www.webmd.com/sexual-conditions/guide/sexual-health-male-reproductive-problems-penis-disorders
Take care!... (read in full...)
Life after depression and big relationship problems, is there such a thing?
Q. Hi everyone. Thank you in advance for reading this. This is not a short post and I am not in a very stable state of mind so the writing may reflect that. And thanks again for bearing with me. And I really appreciate every piece of advice I can poss...
A. 27 October 2010: "So I suppose the right thing to do would be to come clean to my husband, cut contact with J and then just concentrate on therapy. But I am too scared to do anything. So everything is just hanging in the air and I am too depressed again to act. I ... (read in full...)
I treated her bad so her famly came and took her away from me
Q. my problem is as follows, me and my gf have been dating for almost 10 months, she just turned 20 and im 22, i was a jerk in our relationship, did some terrible things which iam truly sorry for. Her family was concerned about her and just over a ...
A. 27 October 2010: How did you go about changing? What did you do to get help in changing?... (read in full...)
Yikes, do I rekindle the old flame or cultivate the new one?
Q. I have an old love (over 20 years) that I reacquainted with this summer after finally ending a messy divorce last year. My old boyfriend lives far far away and works in remote jobsites so he is rarely available. In the months since I last seen ...
A. 27 October 2010: I guess I'd go for the one that has some potential for a longterm relationship. The new one sounds promising. The old love sounds a bit too distant and difficult to really carry on an everyday, "who left the toilet seat up and who's job is it to ... (read in full...)
What does "on the take" mean?
Q. What does it mean when a a guy is "on the take?" When he is consumed with being taken advantage of by a woman? Or when it says that it will take a very "special" person in order for him to open up even when he knows without a shadow of a doubt that ...
A. 26 October 2010: "On the take" to me means he is willing to take bribes, like a dirty cop, or someone who is stealing from work.
"On the make" means looking for sex, or looking for ways to make money.
... (read in full...)
Young & Virgin, are they really that weak?
Q. Of course, I have never had any relationship experience, but a lot of my friends were virgin and their first bf that had sex with them always a dodgebag asshole. Although, they tend to stick with those guys for a year or two before they realize it. ...
A. 26 October 2010: No, women will NOT always love the one who took their virginity.
Would you please define what it is that makes these guys douchebag assholes? Are they sexual predators? What about their behavior makes them awful, nasty, rotten people?... (read in full...)
Worried about this persistent discharge
Q. Alright. It's been about, what? 3 months? going onto 4? And I feel horrible and disgusting. It started after my period in august. There was A LOT of discharge. I thought it was normal at first, because my period just ended. But for the rest of ...
A. 26 October 2010: Get on the phone with the doctor's office.
"I need to see a doctor sooner than my appointment. It isn't a life and death emergency but I have been soaking through pad after pad with discharge with a nasty odor and this has been continuous for four... (read in full...)
Am I being too harsh on her?
Q. hi dearcupids, me again lol :( i just want a bit of re-assurance that im doing the right thing. - me and my ex are trying to be friends, she initiated the breakup with a modified LBJF talk...so i tried to convince her that inst what i wa...
A. 25 October 2010: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-can-i-get-over-my-ex-girlfriend.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-get-over-your-ex.html
If you haven't read these, I really recommend them. I think they are very useful practical guides to getting ... (read in full...)
Am I being too harsh on her?
Q. hi dearcupids, me again lol :( i just want a bit of re-assurance that im doing the right thing. - me and my ex are trying to be friends, she initiated the breakup with a modified LBJF talk...so i tried to convince her that inst what i wa...
A. 25 October 2010: If she can't text at work then why did she text you in the first place?
She is a drama queen and you are a supporting player. You are refusing to do the script properly and are annoying her.
She can dictate 'minimal contact' but you can dictate ... (read in full...)
Am I being too harsh on her?
Q. hi dearcupids, me again lol :( i just want a bit of re-assurance that im doing the right thing. - me and my ex are trying to be friends, she initiated the breakup with a modified LBJF talk...so i tried to convince her that inst what i wa...
A. 25 October 2010: And how old is this girl, out of curiousity? Does she have any brothers or sisters?... (read in full...)
Am I being too harsh on her?
Q. hi dearcupids, me again lol :( i just want a bit of re-assurance that im doing the right thing. - me and my ex are trying to be friends, she initiated the breakup with a modified LBJF talk...so i tried to convince her that inst what i wa...
A. 25 October 2010: What a drama queen. Good grief. So at least you're now on minimal contact. I'm a bit confused though, what does that mean, exactly?... (read in full...)
Am I being too harsh on her?
Q. hi dearcupids, me again lol :( i just want a bit of re-assurance that im doing the right thing. - me and my ex are trying to be friends, she initiated the breakup with a modified LBJF talk...so i tried to convince her that inst what i wa...
A. 25 October 2010: Stop giving her so much of your feelings! She doesn't need to know what you are thinking and in fact isn't entitled to know anymore, as she has chosen not to be your girlfriend any more.
So, my reply to that last text. "Unless you are going to say ... (read in full...)
Am I being too harsh on her?
Q. hi dearcupids, me again lol :( i just want a bit of re-assurance that im doing the right thing. - me and my ex are trying to be friends, she initiated the breakup with a modified LBJF talk...so i tried to convince her that inst what i wa...
A. 25 October 2010: Perhaps you and your ex can be friends at some point in the future, but right now, it sounds as though the situation is too murky and unsettling to you. You react with fear and anger at her obscure references to going out with "a friend" and she ... (read in full...)
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