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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Am I being too harsh on her?
Q. hi dearcupids, me again lol :( i just want a bit of re-assurance that im doing the right thing. - me and my ex are trying to be friends, she initiated the breakup with a modified LBJF talk...so i tried to convince her that inst what i wa...
A. 25 October 2010: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-can-i-get-over-my-ex-girlfriend.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-get-over-your-ex.html
If you haven't read these, I really recommend them. I think they are very useful practical guides to getting ... (read in full...)
Am I being too harsh on her?
Q. hi dearcupids, me again lol :( i just want a bit of re-assurance that im doing the right thing. - me and my ex are trying to be friends, she initiated the breakup with a modified LBJF talk...so i tried to convince her that inst what i wa...
A. 25 October 2010: If she can't text at work then why did she text you in the first place?
She is a drama queen and you are a supporting player. You are refusing to do the script properly and are annoying her.
She can dictate 'minimal contact' but you can dictate ... (read in full...)
My daughter told me she is bisexual and I don't know how to handle this?
Q. My 17 year old daughter has been trying to tell me she is bisexual for the last six months.I have responded with kids today are bicurious and that is what she is doing. Each time she mentioned it I would cut off the conversation, and say I can't ...
A. 25 October 2010: I honestly don't have any experience in this area. I do have gay friends, pretty much all male, who have had varying degrees of acceptance by their families. I think at 17 she probably has some good idea as to her sexuality and your trying to deny ... (read in full...)
Am I being too harsh on her?
Q. hi dearcupids, me again lol :( i just want a bit of re-assurance that im doing the right thing. - me and my ex are trying to be friends, she initiated the breakup with a modified LBJF talk...so i tried to convince her that inst what i wa...
A. 25 October 2010: And how old is this girl, out of curiousity? Does she have any brothers or sisters?... (read in full...)
Am I being too harsh on her?
Q. hi dearcupids, me again lol :( i just want a bit of re-assurance that im doing the right thing. - me and my ex are trying to be friends, she initiated the breakup with a modified LBJF talk...so i tried to convince her that inst what i wa...
A. 25 October 2010: What a drama queen. Good grief. So at least you're now on minimal contact. I'm a bit confused though, what does that mean, exactly?... (read in full...)
How do I get my girlfriend to view her sexuality positively instead of negatively?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for 1 year. Since the start of our relationship, we haven't had sex. I don't see it as a problem but it has crossed my mind why we haven't took the next step. So recently I sat down with her and as subtly ...
A. 25 October 2010: I would still encourage her to go for therapy. If it's going to interfere with her relationships, she's not able to deal with it by herself. I figured she hadn't been through therapy as you wouldn't be here posting this if she had managed to work ... (read in full...)
Am I being too harsh on her?
Q. hi dearcupids, me again lol :( i just want a bit of re-assurance that im doing the right thing. - me and my ex are trying to be friends, she initiated the breakup with a modified LBJF talk...so i tried to convince her that inst what i wa...
A. 25 October 2010: Stop giving her so much of your feelings! She doesn't need to know what you are thinking and in fact isn't entitled to know anymore, as she has chosen not to be your girlfriend any more.
So, my reply to that last text. "Unless you are going to say ... (read in full...)
I have been called a "wasp" - what does that mean?
Q. if someones calls you a wasp what does that mean?...
A. 25 October 2010: Why don't you tell the context in which it was said? That would be more helpful than letting us guess and guess and guess.... (read in full...)
Is it normal to want to experiment with each other?
Q. Me and my bestfriend are both 14 (and both girls), lately, we've been talking to each other on Msn over webcam, and talking about experimenting with each other, and we've shown each other our boobs over webcam already. she's sleeping round mine thi...
A. 25 October 2010: I think it's normal to want to experiment. The real question is do you care about this relationship? Because if you want it to last, you may not want to 'experiment,' as you may find your feelings uncomfortable afterwards. It may ruin the ... (read in full...)
Why does he behave this way?
Q. Iam a married woman and developed a friendship with a married guy in one of our projects.This guy is very religious, which actually made me his friend as i too have an inclination to spirituality. But every now and then he stops calling or seems to ...
A. 25 October 2010: What did he say when you asked him your last question?
Is this really a friendship or is there more to this for you? Perhaps he is uncomfortable because he fears his wife will find out. Do you know his wife, does your husband know him, or is this... (read in full...)
For the girls: What do you notice when you look at a guy?
Q. Girls what stands out when you look at guy?...
A. 25 October 2010: Overall fitness, his face and shoulders, the way he's dressed. Is he well-dressed for whatever the event is? Is his posture good? Does he smell nice?
... (read in full...)
Am I being too harsh on her?
Q. hi dearcupids, me again lol :( i just want a bit of re-assurance that im doing the right thing. - me and my ex are trying to be friends, she initiated the breakup with a modified LBJF talk...so i tried to convince her that inst what i wa...
A. 25 October 2010: Perhaps you and your ex can be friends at some point in the future, but right now, it sounds as though the situation is too murky and unsettling to you. You react with fear and anger at her obscure references to going out with "a friend" and she ... (read in full...)
I have been called a "wasp" - what does that mean?
Q. if someones calls you a wasp what does that mean?...
A. 25 October 2010: In my day, it meant "White Anglo-Saxon Protestant." This was the group considered to be the ruling elite in the US. It is generally meant as a derogatory term.
You might ask the very powerful question: "What do you mean?" when people ask things you ... (read in full...)
Why did she text this, what does it mean?
Q. So I'm texting a girl that's a friend and I told her I was heading to 24hr fitness to go and work out but I wrote "to go and work out till I fall, not actually till I fall" and then she texted me a one word text saying oil in all caps Why did s...
A. 25 October 2010: Maybe her phone corrected "LOL" to "OIL"? Spellcheck hates text abbreviations!... (read in full...)
Husband is a big time drinker! Do I stay?
Q. My question to you is that I been with my husband for 16 years we have 3 beautiful girls together, my husband is a big time drinker and Iam not talking just about beer its hard liquor Its where my oldest daughter he hits her,and verbally abusive me ...
A. 22 October 2010: I am sorry for your situation and I hope you find the help you and your family need. You know that this kind of abuse can harm your children terribly and it is time to be as brave as you can and take steps to resolve it.
I want you to contact thes... (read in full...)
How do I get my girlfriend to view her sexuality positively instead of negatively?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for 1 year. Since the start of our relationship, we haven't had sex. I don't see it as a problem but it has crossed my mind why we haven't took the next step. So recently I sat down with her and as subtly ...
A. 22 October 2010: Has your girlfriend been to counseling? I think that would be best for her to start the healing process. If she is still punishing HERSELF for the abuse she suffered, she has not done the work needed to heal.
I don't know why abuse victims resi... (read in full...)
What is it your partner does to keep you with her?
Q. I'm just hoping to hear from a few long-time, happily married/committed men on what it is about their relationship with their wives/girlfriends that makes it work? Also, to any men who have/had stable relationships, what are some of the factors ...
A. 22 October 2010: My husband needs to be appreciated. I think that's close to respect and admiration but it is just subtly different. He gets things done and some of them are things that will help or please me. I recognize those and let him know how much I appreciate ... (read in full...)
Bedtime capers!
Q. I have an issue. My girlfriend get very upset with me when we try to sleep in the same bed. I toss and turn when I sleep. She says that I knee and elbow her. She yells at me for this even though I tell her that I am not doing it intentionality and ...
A. 22 October 2010: Get one of those foam-topped mattresses. Gravity keeps you exactly in place. There's no rolling to the middle.
You could also do twin beds and just pick one when it's time for making love.
The arguments can be worked on if you both learn to commu... (read in full...)
Beaten, vunerable and utterly lost, can anyone help me?
Q. About six years ago I wondered from house to house, bridge to bridge... one day i found the father of my 2 wonderful boys... lost myself i helped him find himself but i have remianed lost.. He was so into getting stoned, he would hardly pay ...
A. 22 October 2010: Please contact this number to find a women's shelter close to you. You may also find an advocate to help you deal with custody of your children.
NATIONAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOTLINE
Live Help 1(800)799-7233 - 24 hours
http://ww... (read in full...)
Tempted to break up with her for someone else but what if it doesn't work out?
Q. Using an old account, currently 18. Hmm, well, this is a tricky one. I've been going out with someone for a year, she's lovely and we're best friends. This october i've started university, and am living 2 hours from home. Problem 1: I don'...
A. 22 October 2010: I think you should tell your girlfriend that you need to take a break, that you aren't really ready for a committed longterm relationship. That is true and accomplishes two things. One, it means you can do whatever you like with the single girls you ... (read in full...)
I can't be without my boyfriend, but I can't carry on having his dad talk about me in this way.
Q. Ok, here it is. I suffer from slight mental health issues. Having been bullied since I was about 10, I have learned to block a lot of things out, but eventually it all gets on top of me, and I have serious breakdowns, to the point where I curl up ...
A. 22 October 2010: I think it is a mistake to have your boyfriend tell you everything his father says. It is NOT always better to have comments passed along and in this case, it only hurts you more and more. You know now he is not a big fan of yours, there's no point ... (read in full...)
Help, my girlfriend may not love me! Suspicious things?
Q. I think my gf does not like me..... To start the story off we met through friends. By giving us each others number. We then hit it off we txt all the time and every night chat on phone for average 2hours (once 7hours) via this voda sim. We live in ...
A. 22 October 2010: I'm sorry to say this but I think this girl has dropped you and hasn't had the courtesy to let you know. She's obviously avoiding you and barring a major family crisis or emergency surgery or something like that, she is doing her very best to avoid ... (read in full...)
Another Porn Issue
Q. Again....another porn issue. My boyfriend (who will be 50 next year) has 1182 snipettes of short porn movies, at least 3 folders of nude 20 somethings for his viewing pleasure and he doesn't understand why I might have an issue with this. I don't ...
A. 21 October 2010: "He tells me I'm the best partner he's ever had"... So is he the best partner YOU'VE ever had? Is he the best partner for you?
Sounds to me like there are a whole lot of strikes against this guy. Little surprise after little surprise and we are not ... (read in full...)
Is it really right to strike someone in this situation?
Q. I was surprised and a bit shocked by some of the responses to A recent post about a guy wanting to know if women found it attractive when a guys junk happens to show. Several of the women say that they would slap the guy in the face if his junk ...
A. 21 October 2010: I'm hoping to hear that the man has reconsidered his idea to flash his genitals, and that he doesn't try to look up skirts, that's what I'm hoping for. If he's not out there trying to drum up sexual interest in unsuspecting women, he's much less ... (read in full...)
Is it really right to strike someone in this situation?
Q. I was surprised and a bit shocked by some of the responses to A recent post about a guy wanting to know if women found it attractive when a guys junk happens to show. Several of the women say that they would slap the guy in the face if his junk ...
A. 21 October 2010: "If I caught a guy trying to look up my skirt, I would immediately label him as a perve and either slap him, yell at him, or both."
"If i saw someone looking (as it sounds you do) i'd more likely slap you then feel good because of it."
Are t... (read in full...)
What does "wandering eye" really mean?
Q. What does it mean by "wandering eye"? I've read a few posts here about women who are upset that their boyfriends/husbands are "looking" at other women. I've never read anything about a man who is jealous that his girlfriend/wife "looks" at other men ...
A. 21 October 2010: A "wandering eye" is also a euphemism for saying someone is going to be a cheater. The implication is that they cannot stay focused on their current partner and are on the lookout for the next conquest.
... (read in full...)
Weight advice needed!!!
Q. I have been on a very low cal diet (450-700 cals) for the past 2 months, I have no idea how much weight I have lost, my scales have been broken. I now have a pair of scales :) I weigh 115lbs at 5'6.5" and I am 22 years old. Basically, I need to lose ...
A. 21 October 2010: The first thing to go, they say, is the heart, the lack of nutrients drives the body to suck them from whatever internal organ it can, and it apparently often starts with the heart. That's why so many anorexia nervosa sufferers wind up dying of ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend can't marry me because of my past.
Q. In the beginning of our relationship I told my boyfriend about my past sexual relationships. I have slept with more guys than he has girls and have had a few friends with benefits type situations. I wanted to be honest and upfront with him because I ...
A. 21 October 2010: Here's a thread I started dealing with this issue. There are some good discussions in there and it may help you understand what is going through his head as he struggles to cope.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/retrograde-jealousy.html
There... (read in full...)
Weight advice needed!!!
Q. I have been on a very low cal diet (450-700 cals) for the past 2 months, I have no idea how much weight I have lost, my scales have been broken. I now have a pair of scales :) I weigh 115lbs at 5'6.5" and I am 22 years old. Basically, I need to lose ...
A. 21 October 2010: You're on the verge of being underweight. Your doctor friend isn't really your doctor, that's a ridiculous way to manage your health.
Sounds to me as though you've come up with a creative way to explain your anorexia. I also think that Miamine hit ... (read in full...)
Girls say its small! Is it?
Q. I'm 20 and I want to know why girls keep telling Me that my 7" long 6" girth penis is small? is it small or what? please answer. ...
A. 21 October 2010: "What's the best penis size?
Q. What is the best penis size? because im like at 7 inches and my penis is 5"thick so i want to know if ill be hurting my gf or not pleasuring her
A male reader, ghostface20 +, writes (21 October 2010):
you're on... (read in full...)
I don't look innocent! Is that a bad thing?
Q. Okay so some guys think i look not innocent but i really am innocent! i havent done anything bad and they know that, but they think i just look like im not innocent. is that a bad thing?...
A. 21 October 2010: Does this mean your clothes make you look, shall we say, "available" for sex talk and sex play? Maybe you are giving off the signals that they interpret as you being sexually active, knowledgable and desiring this type of attention?
It could be very... (read in full...)
Girls say its small! Is it?
Q. I'm 20 and I want to know why girls keep telling Me that my 7" long 6" girth penis is small? is it small or what? please answer. ...
A. 21 October 2010: If you're in bed with one and she says it's small, she clearly is angry with you for some reason.
If it's groups of girls, they are telling you it's small because they don't want to hear how big your penis is, they are annoyed and are trying to make... (read in full...)
Why can't a guy get it in his head a girl is taken?
Q. So I have a boyfriend, but there is this one random guy who is insisting I'm like a whore because I'm friendly and have guy friends but I also have girlfriends too, but this one guy knows I'm taken, and keeps asking me to do stuff. I've told him to ...
A. 21 October 2010: Show the texts to your parents and the school. Make sure his sexual harassing texts are recorded and reported.
On facebook, flag and report tge offensive posts, but then block him. Again, record tge sexual harassment. He's counting on blackmail to g... (read in full...)
I like my Bio-Lab partner, but does my Bio-Lab partner like me?
Q. I'm in college now and as my title asks, does my Bio-Lab partner like me? I'm very confused.I like her a lot(my college friends say I LOVE her)she a very sweet and gentle person from what I can tell. We would meet at the campus library often(no...
A. 21 October 2010: Rather than go in for the kiss, I would suggest you try to hold her hand as you walk her home. But pay attention! She'll either be happy to have you holding her hand, which is just about as non-threatening an indication you like her as you could ... (read in full...)
B/f says he can't move on till his ex gets pregnant or married?
Q. I will try my best to cut a long story short. My current love interest, the father of my near 1yr old is still in love with his ex girlfriend and has said on a few occasions that he can't move on until she gets pregnant or gets married. Just a li...
A. 21 October 2010: He sounds like a mess. Clearly, he is unable to commit to you and has come up with an amazing excuse to avoid doing so. I am sorry that you have a child with him and thus will have him in your life forever, but I would suggest that you close that ... (read in full...)
Why can't a guy get it in his head a girl is taken?
Q. So I have a boyfriend, but there is this one random guy who is insisting I'm like a whore because I'm friendly and have guy friends but I also have girlfriends too, but this one guy knows I'm taken, and keeps asking me to do stuff. I've told him to ...
A. 21 October 2010: Next text from him, you reply: "Hi Jimmy, this is Mr. M, Kat's father, answering. My daughter tells me that you keep bothering her despite being told to stop. I am telling you now to stop contacting her. She is now tracking all contact you make with ... (read in full...)
Do you think that getting a hand job during a massage is really cheating?
Q. I am a little bored and was intrigued by all the ads for Asian massage places and something called "table shower". My question to you all is do you think that getting a hand job during a massage is really cheating? It seems to me that it is not ...
A. 21 October 2010: Do you really think that your religion would give a nod and a wink to a hand job as being okay and not a problem with a marriage?
What if a really handsome and hot massage therapist gave your wife a really happy ending? His flat abs and gorg... (read in full...)
Do women like to catch a glimpse of a man's penis or balls?
Q. Do women like it when men wear shortish kind of shorts and maybe you catch a glimpse of what he is packing here or there (san undies, of course). I love it when I happen to catch a glimpse up a woman's skirt, or into her shorts, or down her top to ...
A. 21 October 2010: It doesn't turn me on. Well, if it was Brad Pitt.... maaaayyybbeee. But most guys, um, no, it's just kind of exhibitionistic and honestly, doesn't do anything for me. In fact, if the guy is overweight or unattractive, it is really kind of yucky to ... (read in full...)
Help! I think my mom is cheating on my dad!!!
Q. Ever since my mom got a facebook I've had suspicions of her cheating on my Dad. I've seen her on it and she mostly talks to guys. About a month ago I was downstairs alone her phone went off, I looked ( I know I really shouldn't have) and it was all ...
A. 19 October 2010: I agree with Vintage, this really isn't yours to explore or expose here. You don't know the details of their private relationship (between Mom and Dad) and you may be allowing your dislike of your mother to look for things to criticize her about.
M... (read in full...)
I have a fat fetish and want my girl to be even bigger!
Q. Okay so i have a big problem. I've been dating the same girl for a year and i told her i have a fat fetish and i needed her bigger. so shes gained about 20 lbs for me but i am still not nearly sexually satisfied. i know for a fact im in love with ...
A. 19 October 2010: Why don't we try a different approach here? Why don't you write the problem/situation from your girlfriend's perspective and post it? This may help resolve the issue, and perhaps some work on looking at this from her side will help you understand ... (read in full...)
I want to find an older woman who doesn't think I'm too young to have sex with her!
Q. I wish I could find an older woman who doesn't say I am too young to have sex with her. I am 21 by the way. I have been attracted to older woman. We go out on dates and do fun things. When the sex thing comes up they always say I am too young to ...
A. 19 October 2010: Older women generally do not like to be reminded that they are older. Stop mentioning it, go on dates, get to know the woman and if you and she have made a connection, then things will happen naturally.
And Danielepew makes an excellent point. No o... (read in full...)
Should I dump the girl I love to go for a hotter girl?
Q. Hi I am currently in a relationship with someone I love. My friends say she is gross and ugly. A "hotter" girl likes me but I don't like her. Should I dump my current gf and go for the other one?...
A. 15 October 2010: There comes a moment in every person's life when he realizes he should stop letting other people run his life. This is part of growing up. Are you mature enough yet, to make your own decisions, or are you still guided by a committee of friends?
T... (read in full...)
I have a fat fetish and want my girl to be even bigger!
Q. Okay so i have a big problem. I've been dating the same girl for a year and i told her i have a fat fetish and i needed her bigger. so shes gained about 20 lbs for me but i am still not nearly sexually satisfied. i know for a fact im in love with ...
A. 12 October 2010: "I need" "I want" "I'm not satisfied" "I" "I" "I"...
Are you an only child by any chance? You certainly sound as though you've only ever concerned yourself with "me me me me."
She's done gaining weight for you. Live with it, or let her go find som... (read in full...)
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