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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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I have a fat fetish and want my girl to be even bigger!
Q. Okay so i have a big problem. I've been dating the same girl for a year and i told her i have a fat fetish and i needed her bigger. so shes gained about 20 lbs for me but i am still not nearly sexually satisfied. i know for a fact im in love with ...
A. 19 October 2010: Why don't we try a different approach here? Why don't you write the problem/situation from your girlfriend's perspective and post it? This may help resolve the issue, and perhaps some work on looking at this from her side will help you understand ... (read in full...)
Should I dump the girl I love to go for a hotter girl?
Q. Hi I am currently in a relationship with someone I love. My friends say she is gross and ugly. A "hotter" girl likes me but I don't like her. Should I dump my current gf and go for the other one?...
A. 15 October 2010: There comes a moment in every person's life when he realizes he should stop letting other people run his life. This is part of growing up. Are you mature enough yet, to make your own decisions, or are you still guided by a committee of friends?
T... (read in full...)
Need reassurance that my penis is big enough for her!
Q. OK, I've been married for almost 32 years. I've never been with another woman, but my wife had some flings long ago before we were married. I've always wondered if I'm really big renough for her as she seems to always enjoy sex but almost never cli...
A. 14 October 2010: Your wife is in the 75% club. That's the number of women who NEVER climax through intercourse alone. She's perfectly normal. So are you.
She's not broken, her nerve endings in her vagina aren't as numerous as they are in her clitoris. Her vagi... (read in full...)
Complicated and hurtful family mess
Q. I feel really stupid writing about this, but I would like to get other people's takes on this situation. My 29 year old daughter is "re-marrying" her husband of 10 years. I haven't spoken to either of them in over a year because last year I was ...
A. 14 October 2010: I wondered how she could ask you to the wedding when she hadn't accounted for her inexplicable actions of invading your privacy and then throwing you out. She apparently had been forced to choose between her husband (the cheater) and you, and alas, ... (read in full...)
Complicated and hurtful family mess
Q. I feel really stupid writing about this, but I would like to get other people's takes on this situation. My 29 year old daughter is "re-marrying" her husband of 10 years. I haven't spoken to either of them in over a year because last year I was ...
A. 14 October 2010: Has she tried to apologize to you at all? I'm just wondering what kind of communication besides one email has come from her side?... (read in full...)
We had sex, he came in me, and I tried to wash it out. Will that work?
Q. hey i need help well my boyfriend cum in me and i dnt know what to do, im really scard . it happen today and i when in bath and whased it out, well i tryed, so wat i do. xx...
A. 13 October 2010: You may have avoided pregnancy last time, but trying to 'wash out' the sperm actually tends to push the little critters up into the uterus, where they lurk for days and days waiting for the egg to pop down. You HAVE to go to the ... (read in full...)
What does a naked man look like?
Q. Hello. I am a teenager. My hormones are all over the place. I have always had more of a physical/emotional attraction to women. But I also like men. I just dont know what I am yet. I know what a woman looks like naked because I see myself in the ...
A. 13 October 2010: Not having seen every penis on every man, I really don't know if they all look like that one. The link I gave you is a slide show of drawings and there are a whole variety of penis shapes/sizes there.
Remember that we are all more than our geni... (read in full...)
Why do you answer to these questions?
Q. I just want to know something, why do you guys answer to these people? what do you plan to get out of it? do you think "God" will reimburse you for your efforts and "love"? do you feel better by helping others you don't know? I really don't see any ...
A. 12 October 2010: -I just want to know something, why do you guys answer to these people?
Because people talking to other people and figuring things out is what gets things done in this world.
-what do you plan to get out of it?
I get satisfaction that I might... (read in full...)
How is it with medical practioners?
Q. I know they don't get emotionally involved with their patients.But in my experience there are a few who really are compassionate and loving and are very sincere with their patients and their familes. I though I had met one like that whom I emailed,...
A. 12 October 2010: Excuse me, but you are texting and calling a physician or medical practitioner about someone ELSE'S condition, someone who is no longer under this person's care?
You have to respect that this individual is no longer taking care of you or your rela... (read in full...)
I have a fat fetish and want my girl to be even bigger!
Q. Okay so i have a big problem. I've been dating the same girl for a year and i told her i have a fat fetish and i needed her bigger. so shes gained about 20 lbs for me but i am still not nearly sexually satisfied. i know for a fact im in love with ...
A. 12 October 2010: "I need" "I want" "I'm not satisfied" "I" "I" "I"...
Are you an only child by any chance? You certainly sound as though you've only ever concerned yourself with "me me me me."
She's done gaining weight for you. Live with it, or let her go find som... (read in full...)
After 11 years my partner has still not divorced his wife!
Q. I have been with my partner for 11 years, we have 2 children together. When i first meet my partner he had not long left his wife. Within a year i was pregant and he left me, we later go back together and have since had another planed child and ...
A. 11 October 2010: You have to take legal advice on this one. It seems to me that your children deserve to have their financial needs met by their father and you should ensure that is taken care of, no matter what happens between you two.
I'd be worried about gett... (read in full...)
One girl won't stop causing drama. Can we take legal action?
Q. Hi, Right now there is a girl at my high school who is bullying me and another girl. She is saying mean things about us to other people and making it seem like we are bad people when really we don't want anything to do with her or the situatio...
A. 11 October 2010: Take it to your parents and the school authorities, if it is occurring on school property during school hours. Even if just a part of it is during the school day, take it to the school counselor.
Bullying succeeds as long as the bullied acqu... (read in full...)
What does a naked man look like?
Q. Hello. I am a teenager. My hormones are all over the place. I have always had more of a physical/emotional attraction to women. But I also like men. I just dont know what I am yet. I know what a woman looks like naked because I see myself in the ...
A. 11 October 2010: Here are some drawings that will help you. They show different genitals of both males and females, so you can see the variety of sizes and shapes.
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/teen-talk/watch/am-normal-behind-fig-leaf-26794.htm
Every... (read in full...)
Is my body normal?
Q. Hi, im 15 years old.I love my body, short,small breasts,wide hips, that stuff. Theres just one thing that bugs me, my clit.i dont know how to explain, but it sticks out like its big.you know what i mean? Its always been like that since i started ...
A. 8 October 2010: I'm sure you're perfectly normal. It doesn't matter one bit what other people look like as long as YOU are healthy. I do have a website that may illustrate the differences people have (now that I said it doesn't matter what other people look like, ... (read in full...)
First time my boyfriend has ever been violent, should I give him a chance if he goes to anger management?
Q. Two days ago, I tried to talk to my boyfriend about his behavior dealing with other girls, not the first time out of 4 years we'd talked about this. I had prepared myself to finally let him go (or at least I thought I had). I did it all in a very ...
A. 8 October 2010: Go see your doctor so make sure you didn't puncture a lung with that fractured rib. And I hate to say it, I think your boyfriend has a major problem. I wouldn't trust him much after THAT awful scene. Just think of the fear you'll experience the next ... (read in full...)
I need help making the right choices to be healthy
Q. I have been feeling so sad about how I look and feel about myself. I really want to change my lifestyle by eating right and exercising. I want to get better physically and emotionally. They say that when you eat right and exercise that it makes you ...
A. 8 October 2010: First, get a walking buddy. Someone who will be there rain or shine three days a week for an hour of walking. Better still, get two walking buddies, then you REALLY have to show up!
If you need some motivation, sign up for a charity walk in a mont... (read in full...)
Should I get pregnant out of revenge?
Q. Hello my name is Haibine, i've dating my bf two years, but he had a girl while he was with me but i didn't know that. when find out he told me he leave the i didnt trust him, i was cleaning his room and i find a letter the girl sent him, she told ...
A. 7 October 2010: "Honey, I have something to tell you about the reason you are here. Your father was a cheater and got another girl pregnant. I was so angry that I didn't want him to have anything to do with this girl or his child, and I had you in revenge. That's ... (read in full...)
Only son is in living with another man in a gay relationship
Q. Hi I have given birth to 3 sons in 22 years. 2 died at birth and my living son is just 17 and has met someone from the internet 'A 21yr old man!' he did not tell me what was going on just that he was moving out. Neither lads work and sponge ...
A. 7 October 2010: I'm happy to hear he phoned you and you had a chance to talk. Keep talking, it sounds like you have been trying to call him and got discouraged, no wonder you did if he never answers. Project your love for him as best you can and he'll know that you ... (read in full...)
Why wont my husband perform oral sex on me?
Q. I have been married to my husband for 11 years now and I am very hurt by the fact he will not perform oral sex on me I give him bjs all the time but he won't ever return the favor. I desire it so much that I often think about cheating to get oral ...
A. 7 October 2010: Good luck with practicing again! I hope it all works out well for you, and I'm pleased you were able to speak to him about it with a hopeful response from him. ... (read in full...)
I stole money from my date and now I'm scared!
Q. I need help! I meet this guy at a bar we exchanged numbers went on 2nd date. He has a bit of an ego but I kinda liked it. But he turned me off because he kept talking about all the money he had that he had everything he wanted. We went to a hotel ...
A. 7 October 2010: You need to clear your name? You've been stealing from the guys you are with? Come clean, be honest, return the money and go get professional help. You have some sort of compulsion or a complete lack of self-control or no morals. A mental health ... (read in full...)
Has anyone had a threesome just to keep their partner?
Q. Has anyone had a threesome just to keep their partner? How did this work out?...
A. 7 October 2010: Are you the one asking a lot of questions about threesomes? Why don't you just spell out the situation and ask the question pertinent to your situation rather than string in out in a chain of hypotheticals?
I've never been put in that situ... (read in full...)
I secretly believe he will leave his wife for me! Am I mistaken?
Q. i've been having an affair with a man for the past six months. we really are in love. when we first got together we never thought that we would have feelings for each other the way that we do he is in a loveless relationship for convenience. him and ...
A. 7 October 2010: Run a test. Cut off the sex entirely and see how long it is before he makes a move. Either he leaves his wife or he finds a new girlfriend on the side.
Please don't throw your life away on a married guy with no intention of leaving his wife, it's... (read in full...)
Can you give a guy a blowjob even if you have a sore throat?
Q. Can you give a guy a blowjob even if you have a sore throat?...
A. 7 October 2010: Do you think it might be strep throat? Because if it is, you don't want to be spreading that around, and it's pretty contagious.
It seems that it matters what is causing your sore throat, a cold or another virus. Get that info and do a bit of rese... (read in full...)
I can't feel him ejaculating inside me, is that normal?
Q. Well, my fiance and I started having sex about 2 weeks ago. We were both virgins and we wanted to wait until we get married in May but it kind of happened by accident. We talked and decided it was OK even though both our families are really ...
A. 7 October 2010: Don't tell the men but it's not really something we feel. There may be a change in temperature slightly and you can feel the contractions a bit but you don't actually feel the ejaculation. You're normal!
I can't speak to the impregnation but from... (read in full...)
Do men like imperfect breasts?
Q. Hi I just got done reading on of the questions on here about if men are surprised by the look of a womans breasts when they take there bra off so now I have a question of my own I'm 33 have had 4 kids and I have 36 D breasts so they are heavy and ...
A. 6 October 2010: And just to throw in the bit about fake breasts, in honor of Breast Cancer Month here in the US, some women don't choose fake breasts for sheer vanity. Some women have to have mastectomies that remove all breast tissue including nipples and then ... (read in full...)
Only son is in living with another man in a gay relationship
Q. Hi I have given birth to 3 sons in 22 years. 2 died at birth and my living son is just 17 and has met someone from the internet 'A 21yr old man!' he did not tell me what was going on just that he was moving out. Neither lads work and sponge ...
A. 6 October 2010: Vintage has been in your shoes and has weathered the storm, I think she speaks so wisely here. I don't have much to add, other than a resource that might help you cope with this: http://www.fflag.org.uk/ It's a support group for familes and friends ... (read in full...)
Why wont my husband perform oral sex on me?
Q. I have been married to my husband for 11 years now and I am very hurt by the fact he will not perform oral sex on me I give him bjs all the time but he won't ever return the favor. I desire it so much that I often think about cheating to get oral ...
A. 6 October 2010: Hey, best wishes to you. I hope he wakes up and realizes he's about to lose you! Don't forget to look to getting some expert help if this is a struggle for you--a qualified, competent couples counselor should be a good resource to have on tap.
G... (read in full...)
Are there bad side effects of having a coil fitted?
Q. My girlfriend was discussing with me about getting a coil put in, she didnt originally want one because she said it made one of her friends gain a lot of weight. She has since talked with her doctor who said that was impossible. Shes made anothe...
A. 6 October 2010: The copper-based ParaGard has this information on its website:
What are the most common side effects? Longer heavier periods and spotting between periods; most of these side effects diminish after 2-3 months. However, if your menstrual flow cont... (read in full...)
Are there bad side effects of having a coil fitted?
Q. My girlfriend was discussing with me about getting a coil put in, she didnt originally want one because she said it made one of her friends gain a lot of weight. She has since talked with her doctor who said that was impossible. Shes made anothe...
A. 6 October 2010: Depending on the coil. The progestin one in the US is called Mirena. Here, from its website, are the common side effects associated with Mirena, followed by the uncommon but serious adverse reactions associated with Mirena.
Q: What are the more comm... (read in full...)
He wants me to pay expenses for his house but I don't live there!
Q. My boyfriend and I both own houses. He rarely comes to mine but wants me to come to his. He has a child that he has custody of every other week and we get along great. I have suggested for the kid's stability that we do the week he has his kid at ...
A. 6 October 2010: In a bizarre way, I think he thinks he's being taken advantage of. Or he's really broke and can't afford gas and things like new TVs and his utility bills. My guess is that he actually is living beyond his means and has rationalized and contorted ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a great kisser! Should I praise him for this?
Q. Hello all. I've been dating my boyfriend for over a year now. He's never had a relationship before, never dated a girl actually and he's a virgin. I've had 2 previous relationships, but never had sex. I'm 22 he's 26. We haven't had sex yet, I'm...
A. 6 October 2010: Why don't you just say "Kissing you makes me feel __________." [Fill in the blank.] "I love the way you are kissing me." "Your kissing makes me melt."
I don't think that letting him know he's doing it right would backfire. I think that NOT lett... (read in full...)
Studies... or women???
Q. I've been trying to create serious relationship but it looks like I'm failing. I've broke-up with more than than four girls in the past two years. And all of them claimed that I was not giving them much time to be with me, others said I'm very ...
A. 6 October 2010: It sounds like you can't maintain the balance the girls you dated were looking for. Of course, you have to focus on your studies. But in order for a relationship to be successful, you have to concentrate on it as well. Thus, you need to strike the ... (read in full...)
Relationships vs. one night stands
Q. Why will a woman hook up with some random guy she meets at a club or a bar, but when that woman gets into a relationship, wait and take it slow with the boyfriend?...
A. 6 October 2010: Why will a man hook up with some random woman he meets at a club or a bar, but when that man gets into a relationship, wait and take it slow with the girlfriend?
... (read in full...)
I"m 14 and my best friends wants a FWB relationship
Q. Im 14 and i just found out my best friend has liked me since 5th grade. We were on the phone a few days ago and he wants to be "friends with benifits" Well i like him alot to and i kinda do wanna be to. but he has a rep of just using people. I can't ...
A. 6 October 2010: He got the rep of using people for a reason. He probably takes advantage of people, uses their desire to be his friend to his benefit and leaves them nothing much but regrets.
I predict that if you do become his FWB, you will start to like him more... (read in full...)
Husband is using me for benefits! I don't want this to happen to me again!
Q. I have posted a ? about my family and in laws trying to destroy my marriage. Today something happened. I think its all adding up. The man I have married contributes very little to the relationship. Nothing in finances but a cell phone on his ...
A. 6 October 2010: Wow, you have a bad situation there and I honestly don't know the answer. I don't think the courts give people anything extra because they feel sorry for them. Wishing won't make things come true, nor will being angry. You have to have a plan and ... (read in full...)
Sex was so fun, I don't regret it but now I"m 14 & pregnant!
Q. Im under 16 and pregnant. Let me fill you in, Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years now since I was 12,i'm 14 now. Anyway, we were celebrating our 2 year anniversary by going for dinner then a movie at his. When we finished our dinner ...
A. 5 October 2010: You could just print out this page and show them. Which test did you take?
Didn't you already think about this possibility when you went ahead and said 'bye bye' to your virginity? It's part of being mature, if you are old enough for sex then you ... (read in full...)
Do you always have a thing for your first love...?
Q. Hi DC, Just a general post from something that I saw on TV the other nite about a couple who reunited after 40yrs apart (leaving thier respective partners/families) Do you always have a thing for your 1st love? Is the expression "1st Love neve...
A. 5 October 2010: I don't have a 'thing' for my first love. I'm actually glad to be out of that relationship, as it wasn't good for either of us. I look back with some fondness but I certainly would NEVER go back.... (read in full...)
Why wont my husband perform oral sex on me?
Q. I have been married to my husband for 11 years now and I am very hurt by the fact he will not perform oral sex on me I give him bjs all the time but he won't ever return the favor. I desire it so much that I often think about cheating to get oral ...
A. 5 October 2010: I also noticed that you said he won't even touch you with his hands. So the ONLY thing he touches your vagina with is his penis? Does he thinks its some kind of magic wand, and that all he has to do is wave it in your general direction and you'll ... (read in full...)
I want to masturbate with my friend
Q. I know my friend masturbates and I want to masterbate with her but I don't know how to ask....
A. 5 October 2010: Masturbation is kind of a private thing, really. I expect lots of people do it but not everyone is asking to join in, that's really kind of being forward.
Why is it that you want to masturbate with your friend? Do you think you might be gay? Or are ... (read in full...)
Too tight for first time?
Q. A few months ago my ex boyfriend fingered me, and it felt really good. But afterwards he told me that maybe I should lose my virginity to someone else as he thought I was "too tight." For various reasons we decided to break up and now I'm with...
A. 5 October 2010: Ah, so was your ex a teenager? I'm afraid to report that teenage boys are just about the worst source for sex education or knowledge of anatomy of females. If he's had his sex education from porn videos, then he knows nothing about real women at ... (read in full...)
How can I help my family to cope with my cousin's cancer?
Q. HI Aunts and Uncles I've just had a close cousin diagnosed with advanced liver cancer. He is only 46 and we are all pretty devastated about this diagnosis. His father (my uncle) died 3 years ago from complications with his lungs. His death hi...
A. 4 October 2010: Oh, I'm so sorry for your loss. It is so hard to lose someone, especially when they had so much living still to do, for themselves and their family. I do so hate cancer.
Let's all take a moment to appreciate the blessings we have in our lives, and ... (read in full...)
Am I a nag or does my partner have a problem with drink and drugs?
Q. am i nag or does my partner have a problem? im 11 weeks pregnant with my 3rd child and been with my partner on and off for 9 years. i left him last year as he drinks 5 times a week and used to take cocaine spending 150 a week on it i just couldnt ...
A. 4 October 2010: No, his behavior is not normal. He has a drink and drug problem and is trying to pretend he does not. You have to take care of yourself and your children and having them tended by a guy who's off his head on cocaine is NOT a good idea.
I'm sorr... (read in full...)
How can I help my family to cope with my cousin's cancer?
Q. HI Aunts and Uncles I've just had a close cousin diagnosed with advanced liver cancer. He is only 46 and we are all pretty devastated about this diagnosis. His father (my uncle) died 3 years ago from complications with his lungs. His death hi...
A. 3 July 2010: I agree with C. Grant. People tend to run for the hills when there is a devastating diagnosis like the one your cousin had, simply because they don't know what to say. I think for the most part, the family will want as much normality as possible. ... (read in full...)
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