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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Think my husband is having gay encounters
Q. Help! I recently discovered an email account I did nopt know about which led to Craigs lists postings I did not know about. Long story short, my husband of 18 years had communications with other men over a period of 4 months while travelling. He ...
A. 6 December 2010: Wow, he's threatening suicide? This is beyond me, honestly I would tell your therapist about his threats and the gun/bullets thing. Maybe he feels his world is imploding and has no way to cope.
The meeting up with a man would be pretty clear evid... (read in full...)
Brit in love with an American!
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a 23 year old gay guy living in London. I have really strong values and want to meet someone decent who is kind, genuine and caring. I find it really difficult because most people my age just want to get drunk and sleep around and...
A. 16 November 2010: Hi Jamie, I just wanted to say thank you for your followup, I saw it and just remembered I wanted to check in with you.
I hope you have managed some brighter days and are out and about.
You are right, you did a brave thing, you made yourself... (read in full...)
I go out of my way for him, but what does he do for me?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half. We have lived together almost the entire time. Although I am almost 30 years old, I had never been in a serious relationship before. He is the first guy I have ever loved. We have had ...
A. 11 November 2010: Thank you Jilly, for pointing out some key things that I think our OP might have overlooked in her followups. Very good points indeed! I am still curious why they moved so quickly. The "getting to know each other" phase is challenging if you have ... (read in full...)
Pregnant to my 23 year old boyfriend, should I tell him? I think he wont want the baby!
Q. im eighteen and still in school and am planing on coming back for year thirteen but i have a huge problem. im in a relationship with my maori teacher 23 yrs old and we have been together for one year now. and now few weeks ago he told me that his ...
A. 11 November 2010: Okay, take a deep breath. Cast your mind back to before you became sexually active with him. Did you discuss what would happen if you became pregnant? Hopefully, you will have discussed it and you just need to remember what you decided.
Another deep... (read in full...)
Big nipples vs. Small nipples, which do guys prefer?
Q. Girls have all different sizes of nipples and we dont really pay too much attention to it until it comes down to having to strip down and reveal them to boys..soo what do guys prefer...big nipples or small ones? or does it not matter at all? ...
A. 11 November 2010: My guess is they are going to answer that they feel privileged to be in the presence of bare nipples in the first place and are not busy judging them for size. They are busy being appreciative.
Don't be self-conscious about whatever you have, I'm ... (read in full...)
Will swallowing sperm help me to conceive?
Q. Is it true if a girl swallows sperm can it help her conceive? I was told it helps you get pregnant. Now don't think I'm asking will it get me pregnant I'm asking will it help?...
A. 11 November 2010: Thank you dmartin for an expert opinion! That helps a lot. I appreciate it.... (read in full...)
Brit in love with an American!
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a 23 year old gay guy living in London. I have really strong values and want to meet someone decent who is kind, genuine and caring. I find it really difficult because most people my age just want to get drunk and sleep around and...
A. 11 November 2010: Hi Jamie, I'm sorry this has been a difficult relationship for you. You made yourself vulnerable and revealed your feelings to someone you cared a lot about and to be ignored and pushed away is very hurtful. I don't know why he hasn't replied, I ... (read in full...)
Is there a slim chance I can get her back?
Q. I'm still madly in love with my ex-girlfriend. We had an amazing relationship, with a few problems, but nothing that time couldn't fix (we're only 21) However, I screwed up way too many times. The first offense was in may 2009 I e-maile...
A. 10 November 2010: What were the lessons you learned, out of curiousity?
If it is a rebound, it's a rebound with a guy she's known for a while and if he's a good trainer, he's reliable, he's able to focus entirely on one person, he's health conscious and probably does... (read in full...)
Why do some women wish they were taller?
Q. The question is easy: why do some women wish they were taller? This is the reason most women wear high heels for example. I'm just wondering why, is it to scare off predators or do they just think taller women are more attractive? Is i...
A. 10 November 2010: Ah yes, sore feet. The bane of any poorly fitted shoe. I have flats that can hurt after an hour, and I have high heeled boots in which I can spend hours walking on city pavement.
But when they are soooo pretty.... oh. Nice shoes.
As for being ta... (read in full...)
Why does this 40 year old man want my virginity?
Q. I've been speaking with a 40 year old man for about 4 months on the internet. Don't tell me about the fact that I'm 18 and he could be my dad. I am aware of that. That's not the advice I'm seeking. Or tell me that he's going through a midlife crisis ...
A. 10 November 2010: Thank you, tennisstar.
The guy likes to chat, sexually until he learned you were underage. You've built up an elaborate fantasy on the basis of not much at all. He has kids, he has history. He probably has more than one chat-partner.
I'd say leav... (read in full...)
We have financial issues, I'm thinking about finding a sugardaddy!
Q. I am married and have a soon-to-be 6 month old baby. We are starting to have a hard time with finances (just like everyone else in the country). I work full time at home on the farm and part time outside of the home (as needed) and my husband has 2 ...
A. 10 November 2010: Could you please help us by defining what you think the phrase "sugar daddy" means?... (read in full...)
Is this standard I've set going to land me alone?
Q. I had this crush on guy and decided it'd been a while since our second date so I wanted to ask him to do something for a change. He always text to contact me. I wanted to talk but decided to first text him see if he was busy. He was on his way to an ...
A. 10 November 2010: What you're doing wrong is spending too much time worrying about a guy whose primary means of communication with you is via text. You're not wrong for wanting another date or trying to get to know him better. Nothing wrong with that.
Maybe a big ... (read in full...)
Is there any hope for us to grow closer emotionally in this marriage?
Q. I have been married for 15 years. We have 4 children (youngest is 5). We have a 'solid' relationship and my husband is a generally decent man. He has a stressful, high-responsibility job and is very well-respected in his field. In my opinion he is a ...
A. 10 November 2010: Oh, and at this point in the marriage, what do you have to lose by trying Odds' prescription for creating intimacy with him? I think he actually has a pretty good approach to trying to reconnect with your husband.
The problem remains though, that... (read in full...)
Is there any hope for us to grow closer emotionally in this marriage?
Q. I have been married for 15 years. We have 4 children (youngest is 5). We have a 'solid' relationship and my husband is a generally decent man. He has a stressful, high-responsibility job and is very well-respected in his field. In my opinion he is a ...
A. 10 November 2010: To clarify, I meant don't worry about the effect of going to a marriage counselor would have on the kids. Don't worry that the children will be traumatized in some way by attempts to deal with the marital unhappiness that is so clearly at issue ... (read in full...)
Will swallowing sperm help me to conceive?
Q. Is it true if a girl swallows sperm can it help her conceive? I was told it helps you get pregnant. Now don't think I'm asking will it get me pregnant I'm asking will it help?...
A. 10 November 2010: This question is probably better directed at someone with expertise in reproductive medicine. I read the article on pre-eclampsia in Wikipedia. I also then read the abstract of the articles.
Here's an extract from that article's abstract: "The pres... (read in full...)
Why does this 40 year old man want my virginity?
Q. I've been speaking with a 40 year old man for about 4 months on the internet. Don't tell me about the fact that I'm 18 and he could be my dad. I am aware of that. That's not the advice I'm seeking. Or tell me that he's going through a midlife crisis ...
A. 10 November 2010: You asked "why would he want to be with someone as inexperienced as me when there's obviously women his age that would know how to please him?" You didn't provide any more information than that.
So what we see is an 18 year old girl, a virgin, who ... (read in full...)
Am I shallow for my worries due to his hair colour?
Q. i have a problem, a man reaaly likes me and would do anything for me but because he is ginger im scared what people will say! what do i do?...
A. 10 November 2010: Okay. This post for some reason seems to be drawing very angry replies. Here's a reminder for our aunts. Read the guidelines here: http://www.dearcupid.org/pages/answer-guidelines.html
If you cannot respond with helpful advice and without an insu... (read in full...)
Sex - what do women prefer? And why do some women like to swallow when others dont?
Q. [Mod Note: 2 questions from the same poster have been merged into one] Here is a question that I always wanted answered by someone other than my wife.....Why do some girls like to swallow seamen and some don't? What do most woman prefer, oral sex...
A. 10 November 2010: Oh, forgot to mention that some women have sensitive gag reflexes, which will influence their decision to swallow or not. I know one who can't brush her back teeth without gagging, every single day. I feel sorry for her dentist.... (read in full...)
Sex - what do women prefer? And why do some women like to swallow when others dont?
Q. [Mod Note: 2 questions from the same poster have been merged into one] Here is a question that I always wanted answered by someone other than my wife.....Why do some girls like to swallow seamen and some don't? What do most woman prefer, oral sex...
A. 10 November 2010: Have you ever tasted semen? Ever had it shot down your throat, hot out of the tube? Hm. It's an acquired taste, just like, say, oysters or snails. Individual women will like different things.
As for the next question, again, individual tastes will... (read in full...)
Why do some women wish they were taller?
Q. The question is easy: why do some women wish they were taller? This is the reason most women wear high heels for example. I'm just wondering why, is it to scare off predators or do they just think taller women are more attractive? Is i...
A. 10 November 2010: There are two questions here, why do some women want to feel taller and why do some women like wearing high heels?
I am average in height, I wanted to be taller when I was a teenager so I could jump higher in volleyball and basketball. I also want... (read in full...)
Holidays bring the family together, right?
Q. Well.... I hope that this mess is communicated clearly enough..... In the past four years, I've lost a Brother to cancer and my Dad to multiple strokes. I've also gotten a hip replacement, bought and sold three homes and moved countries once; an...
A. 10 November 2010: Sis, you can tell your lame-ass sister (LAS) that you do not feel well enough to manage it. Period. If you want to have some fun, you could become the really whiny relative who goes on and on about her medical issues. When they do that chat thing, ... (read in full...)
Need advice on being upfront to online boyfriend I lied to.
Q. I met a guy on a dating site 4 1/2 months ago. At the time I was trying out the site and didn't feel comfortable posting my real photo and other personal information on a dating site. In the past I had an issue with a online stalker so i was nervous ...
A. 10 November 2010: "Frank, I have something I need to talk about with you. When I posted my profile on the website I met you on, I had had a very awful situation with an internet 'stalker' and I was concerned for my safety. Now that you and I have got to know each ... (read in full...)
How much sperm is needed to get a girl pregnant?
Q. How much sperm is needed to make woman to be pregnant? Is there a minimum amount of sperm required to make a woman to be pregnant? ...
A. 10 November 2010: One sperm is enough. If you are talking about the amount of semen, which is the fluid in which sperm is found, just a small amount will do. A 'normal' ejaculate volume is 2-6 milliliters, and contains an enormously high number of sperm, 40 million ... (read in full...)
Best time to have sex without a condom so she doesn't get pregnant?
Q. What is the best time I can have sexual intercourse without using condom with my g.f without her being pregnant?? I need answers from experienced people.....
A. 10 November 2010: If your girlfriend is your age, she's still maturing and her cycle is still erratic and unpredictable. Having sex without a condom means that ejaculate containing sperm is introduced into her vagina. Sperm can live in that environment for a long ... (read in full...)
Can I ask out the teacher's aid?
Q. I am taking a Psychology course, along with 400+ students, and when I met my TA (we'll call her Clarice), and I was just shocked at how beautiful she was. She's about 5'8, very kind, is from Brazil, and is 2-3 years older than I am. Although I like ...
A. 10 November 2010: https://documents.ku.edu/policies/provost/ConsentingRelationships.htm
I think your best bet is to wait until after you are no longer interacting as teacher/student. You could say something like, "I have really enjoyed our discussions in the clas... (read in full...)
I go out of my way for him, but what does he do for me?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half. We have lived together almost the entire time. Although I am almost 30 years old, I had never been in a serious relationship before. He is the first guy I have ever loved. We have had ...
A. 10 November 2010: Why did you move in so quickly? It takes a while to get to know someone, and getting so involved so fast leaves nowhere to run if things deteriorate. Did he HAVE to move in with you? Has he been making poor choices in some way, is that why he has no ... (read in full...)
What exactly is my wife getting jealous over?
Q. I'm trying to put my finger on my wife's jealousy issues so I'd like to know, primarily from women, what images could make her feel this way. As a man, I feel sick when I think of who/how she went down on other guys...but what about women? What ...
A. 10 November 2010: It's not likely to be a specific sexual act. It's far more likely that she is comparing herself to the other women and finding herself wanting. The insecurity leads to jealousy. The idea that you might find another woman sexually desirable could be ... (read in full...)
Holidays bring the family together, right?
Q. Well.... I hope that this mess is communicated clearly enough..... In the past four years, I've lost a Brother to cancer and my Dad to multiple strokes. I've also gotten a hip replacement, bought and sold three homes and moved countries once; an...
A. 10 November 2010: Sweetie, what is it you want to accomplish? Do you want to let your sister know that you are angry from years of built up resentment and just kind of WAAAAAAAHHH it at her? Do you want to change her behavior?
I've read your whole question and with... (read in full...)
Why does this 40 year old man want my virginity?
Q. I've been speaking with a 40 year old man for about 4 months on the internet. Don't tell me about the fact that I'm 18 and he could be my dad. I am aware of that. That's not the advice I'm seeking. Or tell me that he's going through a midlife crisis ...
A. 10 November 2010: One obvious reason could be that he can't risk being compared to anyone else because he knows he's lacking in some fundamental way. Either he's not a good lover or he has size issues.
Some men like the thought of making a sexual novice bleed. They... (read in full...)
Boyfriend made me throw up from his comments
Q. After a comment my boyfriend made about my weight I started to throw up food after eating it I know I shouldn't I know it can cause a lot of health issues but if I don't do it ill sit their biting my nails feeling really anxious until I do it. I ...
A. 9 November 2010: Why would you NOT go to the doctor? You've admitted starting something that ultimately could really harm your body and you feel anxious about it if you don't do it. These two things are enough to tell me that you need more help than you can give ... (read in full...)
At 5'6'' weighing 100 pounds, is my friend anorexic?
Q. Hii Aunties and Uncles, basically, I have a pen pal who lives several hundred miles north from me and she recently had surgery and lost a lot of weight. In her last letter to me she said she weighs 100lbs (7stone 2lbs) and she's 5foot 6.5 inches...
A. 9 November 2010: This is very underweight and unless she is under a doctor's care, she is at risk for a number of health issues. You can't fix this for her, she has to take care of herself. I have a link for you to give to her, if you are so concerned. It has some ... (read in full...)
I've dated a lot of jerks, but this game where he throws me out only to ask me back the next day is new.
Q. ive been with this guy for 7 months now. he seems to have a hard time opening up, and seems like someone who nevr really could want a relationship. im the idiot who chases him. so here's the situation.. we moved away from our hometown together, we ...
A. 9 November 2010: To follow up with tennisstar's advice, make sure you aren't leaving any financial details unattended. If you are paying for the car which is in his name, stop. Let his credit take the hit when he can't make payments any more Better still, if you ... (read in full...)
I know this sounds stupid but I would like to spend the holidays with him, but I can't.
Q. Okay so me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 months. Before we even started dating his sister decided that she didn't like me because I am 10 years younger than him. I have still never met her or any other member of his family. He lives in ...
A. 9 November 2010: How odd, that he'd be willing to tell her about you but then not stick up for himself and your relationship. Hm. Maybe he's got a problem in that she'd throw him out of the apartment? Whatever the situation, I'd probably let him know that this isn't ... (read in full...)
I get myself into some pretty crazy situations.
Q. Basically , I'm having sex with a cop. I thought it was going to be a one time thing when we met butt it wasn't, and now I'm head over heals for the guy.... I'm 1, 18 in a month and a half. he thinks I'm 19. I plan to tell him when I do turn 18 ...
A. 9 November 2010: It's really hard to know how to tell someone who has lied from the start how to suddenly become truthful. I think you owe it to him to be honest, and it would make sense just to tell him, as nicely and firmly as possible, that you are 17. He's going ... (read in full...)
I've dated a lot of jerks, but this game where he throws me out only to ask me back the next day is new.
Q. ive been with this guy for 7 months now. he seems to have a hard time opening up, and seems like someone who nevr really could want a relationship. im the idiot who chases him. so here's the situation.. we moved away from our hometown together, we ...
A. 9 November 2010: Why do you think you are okay with being treated like this? What inside you is telling you that it's okay to be treated like this?
Honestly, just make plans to move some place and take back control of your life. Who cares if he's cheating? He's abus... (read in full...)
Is there any hope for us to grow closer emotionally in this marriage?
Q. I have been married for 15 years. We have 4 children (youngest is 5). We have a 'solid' relationship and my husband is a generally decent man. He has a stressful, high-responsibility job and is very well-respected in his field. In my opinion he is a ...
A. 9 November 2010: I'm sorry, Odds, but telling a woman who feels bullied and trapped that she has to give her captor a handjob once a week in the hopes that he will soften towards her is just a non-starter. Marriage is a joint effort toward a common goal. If he's not ... (read in full...)
Worried about this persistent discharge
Q. Alright. It's been about, what? 3 months? going onto 4? And I feel horrible and disgusting. It started after my period in august. There was A LOT of discharge. I thought it was normal at first, because my period just ended. But for the rest of ...
A. 9 November 2010: Any news on the test results?... (read in full...)
I lied about my identity for 2 years and now he wants nothing to do with me!
Q. Okay so here's the thing I was stupid and lied about my identity on facebook..while I did that I met this guy, I didn't tell him the truth and I fell for him..he said he loved me he loved my personality and all... Well 2 years later I told him the ...
A. 9 November 2010: I think it's probably the best idea to ignore it. It sounds like he was just saying 'goodbye'. It sounds like the entire 'relationship' was on Facebook, and so was rather tenuous to begin with.
Presumably, he now knows who you are and can get in t... (read in full...)
Why can't she just see how gorgeous she is?
Q. Here's a bit of back story on the situation. We started dating about two years ago, and at the time she had a lot of self-esteem issues. She was about 135 lbs and constantly thought she needed to lose weight. But I actually adored her womanly ...
A. 9 November 2010: Ah, yes. The girl who will not believe that she is actually attractive at the weight she thinks is a wee bit too much. This is a tough one.
Here's what's in her head. "I know I should be happy that he loves me just the way I am but I also know that... (read in full...)
Think my husband is having gay encounters
Q. Help! I recently discovered an email account I did nopt know about which led to Craigs lists postings I did not know about. Long story short, my husband of 18 years had communications with other men over a period of 4 months while travelling. He ...
A. 8 November 2010: Thanks for the follow up. I don't know what to tell you other than to make sure you are taking good care of yourself. This may be all a huge misunderstanding but him giving out his hotel room number and specifying sexual acts he wants on Craigslist ... (read in full...)
I'm so ticklish it interferes with intimacy
Q. I'm in my late teens and have been going out with my boyfriend for almost two years now. We have been friends since childhood and so are pretty close, and are very comfortable just cuddling and watching a film, playing computer games, going to ...
A. 8 November 2010: Have you tried asking him to STOP tickling you?... (read in full...)
Think my husband is having gay encounters
Q. Help! I recently discovered an email account I did nopt know about which led to Craigs lists postings I did not know about. Long story short, my husband of 18 years had communications with other men over a period of 4 months while travelling. He ...
A. 8 November 2010: Sorry for being late on this one, I meant to respond earlier.
I think you have good reason to be concerned. A friend of mine is a doctor specializing in the treatment of people with HIV. He has many stories of having a woman come in puzzled why she ... (read in full...)
I feel pressure to have a boyfriend
Q. I constantly feel this pressure from my friends,or the whole damn society that I should have a boyfriend. I've liked a couple of guys,but nothing happened because I didn't want to. I find love a bit stupid,because you just end up hurt. And I don't ...
A. 8 November 2010: "how to be more outgoing and how to let someone know you like them,without making a fool out of yourself?"
Ah, but there's the thing. Being outgoing means you are willing to make a fool of yourself. Letting someone know you like them means havi... (read in full...)
He makes fun of me, hurts me and then says he loves me?
Q. I stopped at my boyfriends this weekend and he got drunk one night, I was lying on the sofa and he turned to me and said "wheres this come from?" and pointed at my stomach he then said "you've got a right little stomach on you" meaning he thinks ive ...
A. 8 November 2010: What did he say when you asked him "what the heck is going on"? It's a reasonable question to ask.
You have some past and current issues with anorexia and a hurt wrist, and he drunkenly yet somehow deliberately presses on both of those. While drun... (read in full...)
Worried about this persistent discharge
Q. Alright. It's been about, what? 3 months? going onto 4? And I feel horrible and disgusting. It started after my period in august. There was A LOT of discharge. I thought it was normal at first, because my period just ended. But for the rest of ...
A. 26 October 2010: Get on the phone with the doctor's office.
"I need to see a doctor sooner than my appointment. It isn't a life and death emergency but I have been soaking through pad after pad with discharge with a nasty odor and this has been continuous for four... (read in full...)
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