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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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I'm 16 and in love with my 26 year old teacher!
Q. How do I approach this man before I graduate high school? I'm 16 and in love with my 26 year old teacher. I know you've all heard this before but im serious. I know what I want and that's a man. The boys at my school are way too immature and the...
A. 11 December 2010: Ah well, another teenager in the group of being unable to write this question from the teacher's perspective. I'm not surprised, I have to say, just disappointed. I thought that you had the potential.
Well, back to your original question. Tell your... (read in full...)
Do I begin giving him an ultimatum when I know that might backfire on me?
Q. I've had a boyfriend for almost 6 years now. He's a great guy, and I'm in love with him, and can see our future life together as being a beautiful thing. He's had a tough life though. His dad died when he was 16, and his grandfather only a few ...
A. 3 December 2010: I think Jmtmj raises an excellent point. I'd also like to point out your argument "Isn't something worth fighting for, worth keeping?" really applies more to him than to you. He's not really fighting, now, is he. He's left that to you to do.
W... (read in full...)
Is there a way out of the friend zone?
Q. hi been getting on really well with a women and enjoy spending time with her i really like her and told her i like her she said am like a brother to her i walked her home and walked away, she rang me down the road saying she could not open f...
A. 2 December 2010: You have to change how she sees you, one shortcut to this is to convince her girlfriends that you are dateable. You want one of her girlfriends to become interested in you to the point that she fears that she may lose you, that she is missing out on ... (read in full...)
I want to get under the covers and play again like when we were 6!
Q. I have a family friend that i have been attracted to for a long time now. she is beautiful. we have been close since birth. when we were 5 or 6 we used to kiss. we would get under the covers in my bed and just play around for hours, nothing down ...
A. 2 December 2010: I think this question sounds familiar. I think this is you too: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/sexual-fantasies-about-my-cousin.html
What would the impact on the family and your "friend" be if your sexual fantasies are unwanted and she reje... (read in full...)
Do I begin giving him an ultimatum when I know that might backfire on me?
Q. I've had a boyfriend for almost 6 years now. He's a great guy, and I'm in love with him, and can see our future life together as being a beautiful thing. He's had a tough life though. His dad died when he was 16, and his grandfather only a few ...
A. 2 December 2010: Your guy has OCD and it has hit the point where it interferes with his daily life. He's stuck in depression and he's stuck in his rituals. Unless he acknowledges he has a problem and takes steps to deal with it, he's not going to get better. This is ... (read in full...)
The best possible way to end a relationship?
Q. i am a 17 year old boy and i have been with my girlfriend for 4 years, i love her but i feel that i am no longer in love with her. Also i feel like she has taken our reletionship for granted as she has made out with my best friend and exposed ...
A. 2 December 2010: Gently, with a kind heart but firm resolve. "I think we have reached the end our romantic relationship. I have enjoyed my time with you but it is now time for us to go our separate ways. I will always care for you and want you to be happy. I know ... (read in full...)
Sexual fantasies about my cousin...
Q. For the past few years, I have had sexual fantasies of my sexy cousin. I have wanted to do anything and everything to her. I don't care if she is blood, she is so sexy. I want to have sex with her, and i am not sure as to how i should tell her. ...
A. 2 December 2010: A couple of thoughts for you here. One, unless you have evidence to the contrary, assume she doesn't have sex with any guy who asks her. (I recognize that in other parts of the world, cousin relationships are not considered taboo. Here in the US, ... (read in full...)
Why was he able to move on so fast?
Q. I have one question for you guys... how is it that guys can move on so fast after a relationship ends? I mean, obviously after two years a relationship takes work since you are likely no longer in the honeymoon phase (esp. if you live together like ...
A. 2 December 2010: You are totally in the process of grieving the breakup. It's the same process as dirtball said, that you go through when someone you love dies. All the promise and potential that you had with that person is gone, it's really tragic and hard to ... (read in full...)
Sexual fantasies about my cousin...
Q. For the past few years, I have had sexual fantasies of my sexy cousin. I have wanted to do anything and everything to her. I don't care if she is blood, she is so sexy. I want to have sex with her, and i am not sure as to how i should tell her. ...
A. 2 December 2010: I think guys your age can have fantasies about a tree if it's shaped just the right way. I diagnose a hormonal firestorm, which has depleted bloodflow to your reasoning centers in your brain. This, coupled with the extreme narcissism common in ... (read in full...)
We broke and made up, then he's canceled our date all in 2 weeks!
Q. Well me and my friend "josh" have known each other since we were little. We are currently in highschool. At the beginning of November i asked him out and he said yea. But a day later he changes his mind and breaks up with me. He avoids me for a week ...
A. 2 December 2010: *NOT letting this stop you! :)... (read in full...)
We broke and made up, then he's canceled our date all in 2 weeks!
Q. Well me and my friend "josh" have known each other since we were little. We are currently in highschool. At the beginning of November i asked him out and he said yea. But a day later he changes his mind and breaks up with me. He avoids me for a week ...
A. 2 December 2010: He's basically telling you without having to come right out and say it: he's not interested in you in the same way you are interested in him.
The best thing to do right now is to back off, stop texting him and just go on about your normal life. If h... (read in full...)
Do I really not have adult rights at 18?
Q. Do I really not have adult rights at eighteen? I went to the ER and they told me they needed my mom's signature. Then my mother told me she made an appointment at the gynecologist because I have irregular periods and told me the doctor will need to ...
A. 2 December 2010: You went to the ER for what reason?... (read in full...)
Boyfriend boring in bed
Q. Well my boyfriend is kind of boring in bed. i think he is not into using fingers and all that stuff. he just goes straight to it, and i find it boring when we are together. i dont know what to do help....
A. 2 December 2010: "Whoa there, love. What's the rush? There's so much to enjoy here, let's take some time and play and explore." If you can't talk to him about this, maybe he's not the right guy for you. If he doesn't listen to what you have to say, either he doesn't ... (read in full...)
I'm 16 and in love with my 26 year old teacher!
Q. How do I approach this man before I graduate high school? I'm 16 and in love with my 26 year old teacher. I know you've all heard this before but im serious. I know what I want and that's a man. The boys at my school are way too immature and the...
A. 2 December 2010: The thing I observe in your post is the narcissism. It's all about what you want and what you feel. There is no examination or analysis of why this teacher should return your affection, no discussion of what your revelation could mean for his career ... (read in full...)
I'm married but I want a female phone friend for just a friendship. Any suggestion?
Q. hi.. I am 34 male. I am looking for a female to share the feelings on phone. I am trying for 6 months on the net but i am not succefull. I am married and my married life is soso. I strongly feel that there should be any female friend in my life. I ...
A. 2 December 2010: If you feel that you are missing friends, spend more time with your wife and her friends. Or seek counseling for your marriage. I think it's in deep trouble, based on your other post: ... (read in full...)
I have feelings for my 16 year old student.
Q. hi.. i am a teacher who teache to 11th and 12th std studets. one of my students is intrested in me for friendship. she didnt expressed it but her body langue suggests that she is intrested in me. she is just 16years of and i am 34 years of age. my ...
A. 1 December 2010: You've been looking online for female "friendship" as well, based on this post. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/im-married-but-i-want-a-female-phone.html
The best advice I have for you is to seek help for your marriage, read your employment cont... (read in full...)
Women: do you want a bad guy or a good guy?
Q. Hello, i am hopin someone can help me here, prefferably a female. I know a girl whom I am attracted to but she is not interested in me just want to be friends. i am a nice guy. steady job, supportive, relaitvely stable, kind, et cetera. But she ...
A. 1 December 2010: I know a guy whom is attracted to a girl who is not interested in him. She just wants to be friends.
The guy is a nice guy. steady job, supportive, relaitvely stable, kind, et cetera. But she doesnt like him, in a romantic way..
Who does she ... (read in full...)
Is love enough? Should I leave, should I ask him to leave?
Q. Is love enough? Should I leave? I have been dating someone for 20 months, but I think I am at the point where I am ready to give up. During this time we have argued at least once a month about the same things (i.e. cleaning, finances, moving...
A. 24 November 2010: You ask if love is enough. The hard answer is no, it is not. You cannot change someone who is unwilling to change. You cannot fix someone who can't see the problems.
I would ask him to move out and see if this jolt might make a difference. Hone... (read in full...)
First boy that I've ever loved, but I think I'm gay
Q. Hi, My problem is this. My boyfriend lives in England whereas I live in Ireland. I met him when I was there on holiday and he's the first boy I've ever loved. I love him deeply and we have plans to see each other soon. The only thing is. I alwa...
A. 24 November 2010: If you're in turmoil, maybe it would be a good idea to stay out of a relationship. If you're serious about not hurting anyone, just let him go for now. If the timing is right, and you figure out what you want, what works for you, and he is part of ... (read in full...)
Shall I rekindle this love?
Q. hello please help me out here i was carrying with a girl from last 2 years we both used to love each other suddenly i left her after one year i got in touch with her and now i love her and she to loves me but when i asked her how did she passed one ...
A. 24 November 2010: Why did you stop seeing her? And why are you upset if she saw another boy? You left her, she was free to see other people. Why should she give up her life and her happiness on the off-chance that you might decide to try to get back together with ... (read in full...)
My husband just disappeared but is all over her facebook page!
Q. 21 years married 24 years together, two kids, I was happy I thought I had the best husband, he was so good to me then the unexpected happened 3 1/2 years ago he had an affair, from the internet, I was unable to forget....I fougnt with him ...
A. 22 November 2010: I really urge you to get a consult with a divorce attorney. Here in the US, what you do next could have a big effect on your financial future, and from what I've heard from friends, some of the strategies are counterintuitive. In other words, you ... (read in full...)
I want to be a porn star does anyone have any advice regarding this matter?
Q. Hello, I am a 17 year old make and I would like to be a male porn star. Does anyone have any advice regarding this matter? ...
A. 22 November 2010: My advice is to have a very good back-up plan for your future.... (read in full...)
My husband just disappeared but is all over her facebook page!
Q. 21 years married 24 years together, two kids, I was happy I thought I had the best husband, he was so good to me then the unexpected happened 3 1/2 years ago he had an affair, from the internet, I was unable to forget....I fougnt with him ...
A. 22 November 2010: Get the very best lawyer you can find and make sure you and your children are provided for--this man has abandoned you and you have to face the future. I'm sorry he's gone, it's terrible and an awful thing he did to you. Make sure you have the ... (read in full...)
Do women really prefer more 'masculine' men for sex but less 'masculine' men for relationships?
Q. I've read quite a few articles about evolutionary psychology and the theory that women tend to prefer more masculine men for short term sexual relationships, but prefer less masculine men for long term relationships. As I understand it, the theory ...
A. 22 November 2010: You're assuming that men who don't cheat and who get married are less "masculine" than the guys who sleep with a lot of women? What a strange notion of masculinity.
My guy is smart, capable, caring, thoughtful, hard-working and is the epitome of m... (read in full...)
I don't understand how this whole reproduction system works!
Q. I know this is a common question. But pls i need help. I don't understand how this whole reproduction system works. Can i fall preg after having sex 6 days after my periods? When am i likely to fall preg(if terms of days after periods)?...
A. 19 November 2010: The other factor in this is how long the sperm live inside the female reproductive tract. They can live for 5 days or possibly longer! So if a few viable sperm are hanging out when an egg becomes available, well, that's a possible pregnancy right ... (read in full...)
If I have a go at this course a third time, will it look bad on my transcript?
Q. Hello everyone .. i'm 19 attending a community college for a 2nd yr now and i'm studying to be a physical therapist and for now i'm doing my basics but .. i'm having a hard time with anatomy and physiology.. i failed the 1st time i took the course ...
A. 17 November 2010: Getting a good grade the third time around would indicate that perhaps you had other issues when you took the courses the first time.
Is this the only course you've ever had this much trouble with? Is it possible you have a learning disability or o... (read in full...)
Will my second pap smear hurt as much as the first?
Q. Ok, well I've been sexually active with my boyfriend for about 2 years now and I had my very first pap smear last year. Well, it's almost time to get my second one and let me tell you, it was very horrible when I got my first one done. I cried ...
A. 17 November 2010: Tell the doctor about your very bad reaction last year. This is important information for him to know, and honestly, bleeding and cramps for two days is a severe reaction to it, I think. Speak up to him, don't be shy or intimidated; it's your ... (read in full...)
Why do women get freaky on guys they don't love, but not with guys they do?
Q. I found out in cleaning out some old files on a unused computer that my GF had a much wilder and mind blowing sex life with her ex before me than she previously described. This mate was mainly a fuck buddy, but they were friends for a few years ...
A. 17 November 2010: Jmtmj and CaringGuy gave good answers too, I was just writing mine when they posted. Didn't want them to think I was overlooking them!... (read in full...)
Why do women get freaky on guys they don't love, but not with guys they do?
Q. I found out in cleaning out some old files on a unused computer that my GF had a much wilder and mind blowing sex life with her ex before me than she previously described. This mate was mainly a fuck buddy, but they were friends for a few years ...
A. 17 November 2010: Quiet-echo and chigirl have given great answers. I wonder why all women get tarred with the same brush: "Why is it women will turn their freak on with one guy they don't really love, then not turn it on with another who they DO love?" It's pretty ... (read in full...)
Is she testing me?
Q. Hi guys. Wondering if you can help me on something that confused me as hell. The other day me and a few friends from work met up and went to a restaurant. While there I caught sight of one really sexy woman. She was a waitress at the restaura...
A. 17 November 2010: I probably would just drop it. She may have been talking to her ex but wasn't back together with him, so technically she was single at the time. It may well be you just got caught in the timing window.
I guess telling a potential new date that you'... (read in full...)
A past trauma affecting my love life
Q. I've had some issues in the past when it comes to sexuality (imposed affection from an older brother). But now that I am 18 and should probably be thinking of romance, I'm finding it almost impossible to execute it. I've been asked out before...
A. 17 November 2010: To get over something like this, you need to see a counselor who has experience in dealing with abuse victims. Yes, you are a victim of abuse, and now need to learn how to survive this in a healthy way. Call your doctor if you need a referral to a ... (read in full...)
I think my now ex-boyfriend has pawned my only valuable item! What should I do?
Q. hi you've seen my last question about the guy i need to dump. the title: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/ive-tried-dumping-him-twice-but-he-doesnt.html you need to see what happened cause at the end i have another question. sorry its a bit long. ...
A. 17 November 2010: Call the police and report the theft of your bracelet. Whatever you do, do not take this guy back. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Will my second pap smear hurt as much as the first?
Q. Ok, well I've been sexually active with my boyfriend for about 2 years now and I had my very first pap smear last year. Well, it's almost time to get my second one and let me tell you, it was very horrible when I got my first one done. I cried ...
A. 17 November 2010: You bled from a pap smear? And had cramping for two days? Whoa, there's something wrong there.
A pap smear is a swab taking cells from the surface of your cervix, which is at the inside back end of your vagina. A doctor would use a speculum to open... (read in full...)
How do women define maturity?
Q. Why do women put so much importance on a guy's hobbies and possessions to decide if he is "mature" or not? To me, maturity should have nothing to do with anything as superficial as collecting action figures, reading comics, not owning a car for ...
A. 17 November 2010: Women face double standards and potentially unattainable standards. Ask any woman who weighs more than society has decided is acceptable. Or one who has decided not to have children. Or one who doesn't like to wear makeup. Ask a woman who has had a ... (read in full...)
Brit in love with an American!
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a 23 year old gay guy living in London. I have really strong values and want to meet someone decent who is kind, genuine and caring. I find it really difficult because most people my age just want to get drunk and sleep around and...
A. 16 November 2010: Hi Jamie, I just wanted to say thank you for your followup, I saw it and just remembered I wanted to check in with you.
I hope you have managed some brighter days and are out and about.
You are right, you did a brave thing, you made yourself... (read in full...)
My parents found out he is married from a private detective, then I heard kids in the background on the phone! Do you think he is lying?
Q. ok i got involved with this guy, and my parents being bossy and overbearing hired a private detective to find out about him, i didnt know this, anyways they came to me and said all these things about him and then they said that they found out he was ...
A. 15 November 2010: Your parents were concerned enough to hire a private detective, you find out he's married with two children, he calls you a jealous BITCH and you wonder what you should do?
You should RUN! Good grief, your parents have just done you a huge favo... (read in full...)
How do women define maturity?
Q. Why do women put so much importance on a guy's hobbies and possessions to decide if he is "mature" or not? To me, maturity should have nothing to do with anything as superficial as collecting action figures, reading comics, not owning a car for ...
A. 15 November 2010: So you are comparing your dating prospects against millionaires and athletes? Hm. Wouldn't it make more sense to size yourself up against your real dating competition, which is other guys your age in your town or city?
The thing you seem to be miss... (read in full...)
I was molested as a kid, is that how I got cervical cancer?
Q. i have cervical cancer and don't know how i got it an i was just wondering if there was a way i got it by being sexually abused as a kid...
A. 15 November 2010: If you were exposed to the human papilloma virus which then led to your cervical cancer, that could possibly be the reason. http://www.webmd.com/cancer/cervical-cancer/cervical-cancer-topic-overview "Most cervical cancer is caused by a virus called ... (read in full...)
I have a boil down south!
Q. I have a boil "down there" and I am scared that my "guy friend" will think im disgusting. Its nothing bad its not like i have a STD or something its just a boil but it terrifies me that he will tell me to get out. Should i be worried? What should i ...
A. 11 November 2010: You're 18-21 and you can't call the doctor yourself?... (read in full...)
Retroactive jealousy and small penis paranoia
Q. i believe i have two issues that combine to ruin my life and my relationship. a relationship with someone that needs me more than I have ever been needed - she is so sweet and so beautiful - she has no one else to turn to or to be loved by but her ...
A. 11 November 2010: Is this your original question? http://www.dearcupid.org/question/girlfriend-was-a-prostitute-and-slept-with-over.html
Honestly, do you think that a former prostitute is a suitable match for a man with retrograde jealousy? I mean, fund... (read in full...)
I go out of my way for him, but what does he do for me?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half. We have lived together almost the entire time. Although I am almost 30 years old, I had never been in a serious relationship before. He is the first guy I have ever loved. We have had ...
A. 11 November 2010: Thank you Jilly, for pointing out some key things that I think our OP might have overlooked in her followups. Very good points indeed! I am still curious why they moved so quickly. The "getting to know each other" phase is challenging if you have ... (read in full...)
Ovulation and how it works
Q. im kind of confused...can someone tell me when ovulation occurs and how it works???...
A. 11 November 2010: Oh dear. You engaged in unprotected sex? Sperm can live for days in your reproductive vagina and uterus and basically hang out waiting for an egg to appear. If you ovulated during this time that they are viable, they could well have met up.
H... (read in full...)
Pregnant to my 23 year old boyfriend, should I tell him? I think he wont want the baby!
Q. im eighteen and still in school and am planing on coming back for year thirteen but i have a huge problem. im in a relationship with my maori teacher 23 yrs old and we have been together for one year now. and now few weeks ago he told me that his ...
A. 11 November 2010: Okay, take a deep breath. Cast your mind back to before you became sexually active with him. Did you discuss what would happen if you became pregnant? Hopefully, you will have discussed it and you just need to remember what you decided.
Another deep... (read in full...)
Brit in love with an American!
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a 23 year old gay guy living in London. I have really strong values and want to meet someone decent who is kind, genuine and caring. I find it really difficult because most people my age just want to get drunk and sleep around and...
A. 11 November 2010: Hi Jamie, I'm sorry this has been a difficult relationship for you. You made yourself vulnerable and revealed your feelings to someone you cared a lot about and to be ignored and pushed away is very hurtful. I don't know why he hasn't replied, I ... (read in full...)
I go out of my way for him, but what does he do for me?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half. We have lived together almost the entire time. Although I am almost 30 years old, I had never been in a serious relationship before. He is the first guy I have ever loved. We have had ...
A. 10 November 2010: Why did you move in so quickly? It takes a while to get to know someone, and getting so involved so fast leaves nowhere to run if things deteriorate. Did he HAVE to move in with you? Has he been making poor choices in some way, is that why he has no ... (read in full...)
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