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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Girlfriend is pregnant and our families are mad at us!
Q. I have been dating my gf for almost a yr now. She is 17 and I am 18. a few months ago we found out she was pregnant. Since we told our parents its been hell. Her parents were upset, her dad natural blamed me. Its been almost 2 months since we told ...
A. 22 September 2011: Just read your exchanges. You say "fuck you" "shut up" to your dad? Really? He sounds pretty reasonable to me in these messages. You come across as a bit of an immature teenager. Granted, you're a father-to-be, but you still sound like you're having ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is pregnant and our families are mad at us!
Q. I have been dating my gf for almost a yr now. She is 17 and I am 18. a few months ago we found out she was pregnant. Since we told our parents its been hell. Her parents were upset, her dad natural blamed me. Its been almost 2 months since we told ...
A. 22 September 2011: "Dad, I know I screwed up in one of the most major ways I could have. I am so sorry. I am sorry I let you and Mom down, I'm sorry I let Ginny's mom and dad down. I'm sorry I let myself and Ginny down. I'm sorry. I'm scared to death and every time ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is pregnant and our families are mad at us!
Q. I have been dating my gf for almost a yr now. She is 17 and I am 18. a few months ago we found out she was pregnant. Since we told our parents its been hell. Her parents were upset, her dad natural blamed me. Its been almost 2 months since we told ...
A. 21 September 2011: As a new parent, you will soon be learning the meaning of the word "patience" as well as forgiveness and understanding. Now that you have the example of your parents' reactions, you know what NOT to do.
Good luck with the baby and your new life... (read in full...)
Am I cheater? Is this really that bad? I need help
Q. I was in a relationship with the girl of my dreams! She was seriously the most amazing person on this planet and we had so much fun together. I Miss her so much. I would kill for her and die for her in a second. She means the world to me. I wanted ...
A. 20 September 2011: So you're more upset that she caught you than you did those things? You're not getting bashed, you wanted input and you obviously don't like being told how your behavior appears to other people. If you think that showing her this thread would ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is pregnant and our families are mad at us!
Q. I have been dating my gf for almost a yr now. She is 17 and I am 18. a few months ago we found out she was pregnant. Since we told our parents its been hell. Her parents were upset, her dad natural blamed me. Its been almost 2 months since we told ...
A. 20 September 2011: What do you think is a reasonable level of "support" from your parents? Babysitting? Financial help, like paying bills, buying nappies and baby food? Transportation?
I think you don't realize the scope of responsibility that raising a child enta... (read in full...)
He says he's only staying until their child goes off to university
Q. The man I love has married his cousin. He says he is only staying with her until their child leaves home for university. Once she has left home he says we can then start to make plans for our future and tell our respective partners, with the ...
A. 19 September 2011: Wow. This guy is one amazingly smooth talker, if he has convinced you he's in love with you. He's actually MARRIED someone else? Nothing says "I love you less" than going through with a marriage ceremony to someone else!
This is when people will... (read in full...)
How can I stop these affecting me and most of all how can I beat him at his own games without speaking to him directly?
Q. An ex bf of mine who is a real nasty piece of work has recently taken to playing small mind games while I'm at college. It's nothing massive but just small things. He's taken to deliberately walking past me and is constantly in and around places I ...
A. 19 September 2011: I'd start wearing sunglasses that don't allow him to see your eyes. Tell your friends that your ex seems to be stalking you as he may have some sort of mental problem that will escalate his behavior. Change up your routine so that you aren't ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend taking body building products. Could it be affecting his personality?
Q. Please can you help me,I have been with my boyfriend for 2 amazing years and lived together for over 1 year. In the last couple of weeks my boyfriend has become very down and has mood swings, he seems to have lost interest in everything including ...
A. 19 September 2011: http://www.medicinenet.com/anabolic_steroid_abuse/page3.htm#effects
http://men.webmd.com/tc/anabolic-steroid-abuse-topic-overview
If he is taking anabolic steroids then he could be having these side effects you have mentioned.
Maybe he's not awa... (read in full...)
We're getting comfortable but she won't sleep with me
Q. So I been talking to this girl for a few weeks now. At first, she was very resilient. I heard a lot of the word "no", but now she seems more interested in hanging out. We've gone on a couple of dates/hangouts ( casual dinners, public shoppin...
A. 19 September 2011: Talk to her about how you feel about her and don't make the mistake of pushing her sexually just yet. She's signaled pretty clearly that she is going to wait until she's completely comfortable and you will have to be content to do this at her ... (read in full...)
Am I cheater? Is this really that bad? I need help
Q. I was in a relationship with the girl of my dreams! She was seriously the most amazing person on this planet and we had so much fun together. I Miss her so much. I would kill for her and die for her in a second. She means the world to me. I wanted ...
A. 19 September 2011: Well, if you get so drunk you cannot account for your actions, you're going to have to take the consequence of them anyway. "I was so drunk I'm not responsible for my actions" isn't really a defensible position, because basically, by getting so ... (read in full...)
Guy says he likes me but he doesn't answer when I call or text
Q. This guy says he likes me, but everytime I text him or call him he doesnt answer. idk what to do! Is he really interested in me like he says he is? ...
A. 19 September 2011: It doesn't sound like he's interested, so I'd stop trying to reach him. He knows where you are, he has your contact information, he knows you have tried to reach him. The fact that he's not getting back to you is a sign that he's either not ... (read in full...)
Peace in the family means apologising for something I haven't done
Q. I had an old argument with my older brother since I was 6 year old and my father always took his side over me. Now I’m trying to make my independent family, settle down and get married and hopefully be able to see my children but because of this old ...
A. 19 September 2011: What a terribly sad story. I'm sorry you have such an appalling family and I think the only advice I could offer would be to cut contact and move away from them so they cannot be a part of your life any longer.
When it comes time to ask another fath... (read in full...)
Should I have a baby with this married man?
Q. I have a serious question that I know will ruffle A LOT of feathers but I'm sorry, I really need advice, I've been seeing a married man for a while and were very close, best friends more than lovers. Recently I have been getting urges to have a ...
A. 19 September 2011: I'm feeling sorry for this baby before it's even born. A broody mother with jealous feelings for the cousins. An absent father with iffy prospects. Sounds like this is more about the mother's insecurities than a proper life for a baby.
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How can I make everyone happy this christmas, and still spend it with my boyfriend?
Q. I know xmas is a few months away but its already causing me stress! I met my boyfriend at uni on the first day, two years ago and we've lived together since. A few weeks into our relationship i met his parents who live in the London area and ...
A. 14 September 2011: My solution would be to celebrate your Christmas with him on New Years Eve and leave the family celebrations to the family for now. If you remain together, and become a firmly established couple after uni, then you can alternate Christmases.
S... (read in full...)
Am I being overly sensitive because he didn't say sorry for giving me a really bad cold?
Q. I'm casually seeing this guy...he is seeing a few other women - to make a long story short, my best friend is his sister and they live together. She thought he was coming down with a cold, so when we went out and I got him some cold medicine. He ...
A. 9 September 2011: You know what? This is bothering you so much, stop texting hints to him and just tell him flat out that this is really bothering you and that you would like a nice apology.
Either you'll get one or you won't but you will have made yourself clea... (read in full...)
My ex has forgotten when my birthday is. Do I have a right to be peeved or am I making a big deal of nothing?
Q. My ex and me were together for just under six months. It's been several months now since we broke up. We've tried to be friends since then but it has been difficult for me because she ended it and then got a new boyfriend soon after. Anyway, t...
A. 8 September 2011: You tried to remain friends; it's not working for you right now. Tell her you need to go no contact for a while and then, when you think you can manage, that's when you'll re-establish contact.
Don't let her need to feel okay about the break up or h... (read in full...)
What can I do to keep myself busy until I go to Uni next year? All my friends have moved away and I'm depressed about not going to Uni this year....
Q. Hi all, im feeling really depressed and i know its only going to get worse. I want to be a midwife and my school adviser told me to apply for the midwifery course straight away. I did this, and got rejected. This being because they prefer you ...
A. 8 September 2011: You could ask for the nursing coursework material and get a year's headstart on your fellow students! You could find somewhere to volunteer until March.
If you don't knew exactly when you're going to start uni, assume that it will be in March, that... (read in full...)
Am I being overly sensitive because he didn't say sorry for giving me a really bad cold?
Q. I'm casually seeing this guy...he is seeing a few other women - to make a long story short, my best friend is his sister and they live together. She thought he was coming down with a cold, so when we went out and I got him some cold medicine. He ...
A. 8 September 2011: I guess based on your medical situation that you have to be your own health care advocate and err on the side of caution from now on. If someone is sneezing and showing signs of a cold or flu, then assume it's a cold or flu, even if they say it may ... (read in full...)
My ex has forgotten when my birthday is. Do I have a right to be peeved or am I making a big deal of nothing?
Q. My ex and me were together for just under six months. It's been several months now since we broke up. We've tried to be friends since then but it has been difficult for me because she ended it and then got a new boyfriend soon after. Anyway, t...
A. 8 September 2011: Thank goodness she isn't your current girlfriend who forgot your birthday, shrug your shoulders, "some people" and then forget about it. She at least made the honest admission she couldn't remember and I think the intention was a positive one. You ... (read in full...)
I should feel sorry for her but I hate her and her perfect life!
Q. He's got a girlfriend and he knows I like him. He said he wants to sleep with me even though he's with her like I'm some sl*t or something. She's oblivious to what he's like. She must be, he been trying to get in my pants for nearly two years behind ...
A. 2 September 2011: You're welcome. Life is very short, as I've learned. Don't waste it trying to learn how a skanky dude thinks. Instead, spend a little time thinking about how you think and your life will begin to change, for the better. I know it will. You just have ... (read in full...)
I should feel sorry for her but I hate her and her perfect life!
Q. He's got a girlfriend and he knows I like him. He said he wants to sleep with me even though he's with her like I'm some sl*t or something. She's oblivious to what he's like. She must be, he been trying to get in my pants for nearly two years behind ...
A. 2 September 2011: Nah, look now. You're stuck in a rut and need to replace those obsessive thoughts with something else. I'm not going to spend one minute of time speculating on what motivates a skanky dude or fantasizing about what her life is like--that's a waste ... (read in full...)
She wore another guy's engagement ring for several months before we were dating, I didn't know that till just now, what do I do?
Q. My wife if nearly three years, and the mother of our 6 month old, was engaged before we were married. She was also proposed to several times. When we were dating, she told me that one serious boyfriend who proposed, she denied him and they bro...
A. 2 September 2011: Maybe she feels badly for the way she treated the poor guy and has deep feelings of guilt. My guess is it makes her deeply uncomfortable to think about how deeply she must have wounded him. She probably didn't like that particular aspect of herself ... (read in full...)
I should feel sorry for her but I hate her and her perfect life!
Q. He's got a girlfriend and he knows I like him. He said he wants to sleep with me even though he's with her like I'm some sl*t or something. She's oblivious to what he's like. She must be, he been trying to get in my pants for nearly two years behind ...
A. 2 September 2011: http://www.actionforhappiness.org/10-keys-to-happier-living/be-comfortable-with-who-you-are/details And one that's specific to your self-esteem.
Have you ever tried meditation or cognitive behavioral therapy? Might be worth a try.
So what are the ... (read in full...)
I should feel sorry for her but I hate her and her perfect life!
Q. He's got a girlfriend and he knows I like him. He said he wants to sleep with me even though he's with her like I'm some sl*t or something. She's oblivious to what he's like. She must be, he been trying to get in my pants for nearly two years behind ...
A. 2 September 2011: Here's another one I like. It gives you concrete things to try: http://www.actionforhappiness.org/10-keys-to-happier-living... (read in full...)
I should feel sorry for her but I hate her and her perfect life!
Q. He's got a girlfriend and he knows I like him. He said he wants to sleep with me even though he's with her like I'm some sl*t or something. She's oblivious to what he's like. She must be, he been trying to get in my pants for nearly two years behind ...
A. 2 September 2011: Take a look at that website. It might open your eyes a bit, and give you something to work on.... (read in full...)
I should feel sorry for her but I hate her and her perfect life!
Q. He's got a girlfriend and he knows I like him. He said he wants to sleep with me even though he's with her like I'm some sl*t or something. She's oblivious to what he's like. She must be, he been trying to get in my pants for nearly two years behind ...
A. 2 September 2011: So what are you doing to alter that reality? Besides obsessing on her or him, I mean. What positive steps are you taking to deal with it?... (read in full...)
Is it possible my teacher might have a thing for me?
Q. hello everyone, well i know you probably get alot of questios about people being in love with teachers, but please answer mine because no one ever answers it. so here goes... right i am a young 13 year old girl and i have feelings for my teacher who ...
A. 2 September 2011: Sorry, as someone who is close in age to your teacher, I can tell you with a great deal of certainty that he sees you as a schoolgirl with a crush on him, and it probably doesn't cross his mind more than one minute in a day. He's probably had other ... (read in full...)
I should feel sorry for her but I hate her and her perfect life!
Q. He's got a girlfriend and he knows I like him. He said he wants to sleep with me even though he's with her like I'm some sl*t or something. She's oblivious to what he's like. She must be, he been trying to get in my pants for nearly two years behind ...
A. 2 September 2011: Why on earth did you chose THIS guy to determine your worth. You're a crappy guy selecter, that's pretty obvious, but the rest of it hinges on you deciding that a lying cheating scumbag is somehow the arbiter of your value as a girlfriend. You fix ... (read in full...)
Should I let it go and forgive my boyfriend?
Q. My boyfriend and I had been dating for 4 months but have known each other for almost 3 years. I always suspected that he and my sister had/have a thing for each other, but always thought that it was more like unspoken. He was once her teacher ...
A. 2 September 2011: He sounds like the kind of guy who keeps a string of girls who are ready to give him sex. You're just part of the stable, I think, along with your sister.
So what to do? Well, first, forget the fantasy that he will fall in love with you, that's simp... (read in full...)
I caught my girlfriend cheating, but I still love her
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for a little over 3 years. She was my first everything and we loved each other so much we didn't go a day without each other. we had a very strong relationship. I never talk to any girls once I met her. I didn't really ...
A. 2 September 2011: Sorry, your girlfriend of 3 years will only meet you in a public place? Is this an internet-based relationship or did you two actually meet and spend time together in real life, face to face, breathing the same air?
I think it's time to reco... (read in full...)
She checked out the waiter and now I'm wondering if I should be worried?
Q. I have a fiance that i am mad about, but i got a bad impression a few days ago that has been driving me crazy. We were at a bar having drinks, when a decently fit waiter showed up to serve us, and could see that she was impressed by his appearance ...
A. 1 September 2011: You asked her to marry you and she said "yes"? Wouldn't that constitute accepting you as you are?
I will look at handsome men but that doesn't mean I am going to try to date them, have sex with them or even have a conversation with them. My husb... (read in full...)
My soon to be ex lacks boundaries-how do I stand up to him?
Q. I really want to get over my ex, we are currently going through a divorce, I am divorcing him for his adultery with an ex best friend of mine!! He is in a relationship with her and living with her. We have a little boy too. I really want to get o...
A. 1 September 2011: Sorry to hear he made such an appalling mess of things with you. What an awful thing for him and her to do! As Eyes said, give it time, you have some healing still to do.
I think it might help if you had some ready-made answers designed to defl... (read in full...)
She says she can't get pregnant and its ok not to use condoms
Q. She says she can't have baby any more... Hello, the girl who I am going to have sex with told me that she can not have any more babies...she said it is safe for me to cum gallons of sperms inside her, and she doesn't want me to use condoms...sh...
A. 1 September 2011: Could you please tell us how many STIs you have had? And how many STIs has she had?
Condoms aren't terribly enjoyable to use but they beat the hell out of the treatments for the various STIs you could catch. For example, I understand the remo... (read in full...)
I want my boyfriend to get fillings before he meets my mother
Q. How do I ask my boyfriend to please get his fillings back? It's two of his front teeth. He had told me he lost them again from very bad gritting of his teeth during sleep. He had always been very cautious with his mouth until I asked him. I told him ...
A. 31 August 2011: The problem isn't his teeth. The problem is they haven't met each other and already you report they don't like one another. How did that happen? As you are the one managing the flow of information between them, this is down to you. Keep in mind tha... (read in full...)
Is it possible for me to still grow taller at 19?
Q. Is it possible for me to still grow taller at 19? I'm a guy and I just turned 19 on August 3. Here's a brief history: -Dad is about 5'8 Mom is about 5'1 3/4. Brother is 22 and 6'1 1/2. Brother stopped growing around 14-16. My dad's uncle was...
A. 31 August 2011: It's possible. If you are really desperate to know if you still have any more vertical growing to do, talk to your doctor and ask if your epiphyseal plates are closed. There's a discussion of their function here: ... (read in full...)
Should I talk to my guy's parents about his behavior?
Q. Hi My boyfriend seems to have anger management issues and I was wondering how would I teach him that acting agressive towards a woman is wrong? I had considered telling his parents or perhaps letting it be known to a few of our friends but then...
A. 30 August 2011: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-can-i-show-my-boyfriend-his-violence-is-wrong.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-boyfriend-is-unappreciative.html
Are these your posts as well? I rather think they are.
Sweetheart, you are in a relatio... (read in full...)
Six years and he still won't set a date??
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 years, we have been engaged for 6. We do not live together, in fact we only get to see each other maybe once or twice a week because of his work schedule. I love him so much and he says the same. But we ...
A. 30 August 2011: Sounds like he's just not able to make that commitment to you. Maybe there's some legal entanglement in his past he hasn't told you about, like a youthful marriage?
I personally would have been gone 5 years ago, one year after the ring was prod... (read in full...)
What's your read on this?
Q. How would everyone read my 18 year old female friend [I'm a guy] asking me to comb and play with her hair from behind? And insisting she's the one who should massage my back over her friend? ...
A. 30 August 2011: Um, "me me me pay attention to meeeee!"?... (read in full...)
Three kids! How do I tell my mom about him?
Q. Hiya Hope you can help me, I just need some advice. I am 31 with no children. I really want children one day. I jave recently met a wonderful guy. He adores me, I love being with him when we get the chance and I feel very happy with him. ...
A. 29 August 2011: So let me play your mother's role, so you can practice. "You've met a lovely guy, how wonderful! How did you meet? Through friends?"
"He adores you, how wonderful, he should indeed. So how often do you two get to see each other? There's more to i... (read in full...)
His parents made my life hell, and now that we've moved away he's withdrawn
Q. My husband is driving me crazy. We have been married for almost 20 years - when we first married he insisted that we live close to his parents who constantly meddled and controlled him making my life miserable. They had 24 hour access to our house ...
A. 29 August 2011: The problem is that moving won't have changed the underlying problem. You just relocated it.
Did you ever see a counselor at all? Or did you just get fed up and move?
Honestly, you have a lot of life yet to enjoy. Maybe you should consider... (read in full...)
Married man wants to keep me as his side dish. How do I walk away?
Q. Hi Cupids. This is my first time here. I could really use your advice. You can be honest and harsh, whatever you feel is necessary. I know what I have done is not right. I am a married mom and I have been having an emotional affair (no physi...
A. 29 August 2011: "I can keep denying that but the truth is I want to be with this other man and not my husband."
But this other man hasn't made one move to even contact you this summer. So he's not into you. He doesn't want your heart. If he did, he'd have spen... (read in full...)
Married man wants to keep me as his side dish. How do I walk away?
Q. Hi Cupids. This is my first time here. I could really use your advice. You can be honest and harsh, whatever you feel is necessary. I know what I have done is not right. I am a married mom and I have been having an emotional affair (no physi...
A. 29 August 2011: Are you sure this man thinks you are having an emotional affair? Just because you have had talks about deep feelings with him doesn't mean he thinks you two would become an item if things were different.
The fact that he hasn't pursued you this summ... (read in full...)
We used to be in love but now its all going downhill
Q. Alright, so I'm having soo many problems with my boyfriend right now. I'm bored of our sex and he can't really give me an orgasm anymore. I asked him if we could try a threesome and he got really really pissed. He asked who I'd choose and I told him ...
A. 29 August 2011: How much time do you spend trying to understand the other one's point of view? There's a lot of individual complaints from both sides that are fairly easy to understand as an outsider; I'm wondering why you are defensive and can't see his side of ... (read in full...)
Is she trying to brush me off or maybe she's playing hard to get?
Q. Hi everyone, I've written various questions of a theme about a married woman at work to whom I am very attracted, and her attempts to brush me off, ignore me etc (successfully i might add) I had a fairly off the wall thought in relation to this...
A. 29 August 2011: It's a bit sad that you are so obsessed by this woman. Maybe you should take her hint and leave her alone. Life holds more than this fruitless and pointless obsession, you know. See your GP and get some counseling as it appears to have taken over ... (read in full...)
How I can I work around my feelings so that I don't end up fired?
Q. Hello, I started a new job a little over a month ago. I love it a lot and definitely do not want to have to quit. However, I am extremely attracted to one of my managers ( the one that hired me no less!!) Whenever she's around I can feel my hea...
A. 29 August 2011: Absolutely stop asking if she loves you. It will lead to the end of your job if you keep that up. If you were a guy, your write up on your employee evaluation would indicate that you had a potential for sexual harassment and they would be building ... (read in full...)
Is she trying to brush me off or maybe she's playing hard to get?
Q. Hi everyone, I've written various questions of a theme about a married woman at work to whom I am very attracted, and her attempts to brush me off, ignore me etc (successfully i might add) I had a fairly off the wall thought in relation to this...
A. 29 August 2011: I think it's extremely unlikely that she's ignoring you because she secretly likes you. It's far more probable and likely that she's ignoring you because she wants you to leave her alone.
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