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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Why would he suddenly make his facebook photos public?
Q. A guy removed me as a friend from his facebook list because he wanted no regrets and didn't want me to know about his actions. I got a really amazing makeover in the upcoming year. I know I shouldn't be searching him but ... I did. Anyway, he has e...
A. 27 September 2011: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/so-are-his-little-postings-on-facebook-about.html
Now that I've read this, I think he's thumbing his nose at you and saying "nyah nyah nyah good riddance bye bye don't call me I'll call you but don't hold your brea... (read in full...)
Husband has cancer but cheated on me when I was asleep nxt door with his kids
Q. well hello everyone i dont know were to start and i have never postd before i just dont know what to do, im a mother of 5 ages 11 ,7,3,2 and 8month old baby me and my husband have been togeather 16 years and we have had our problems alot actually ...
A. 26 September 2011: I'm sorry that you are in this situation. It sounds as though there are services available to you, if you are willing to go. If you have no money and nowhere to stay and 5 children to feed, but he has a place to stay and money, then clearly you ARE ... (read in full...)
Husband has cancer but cheated on me when I was asleep nxt door with his kids
Q. well hello everyone i dont know were to start and i have never postd before i just dont know what to do, im a mother of 5 ages 11 ,7,3,2 and 8month old baby me and my husband have been togeather 16 years and we have had our problems alot actually ...
A. 25 September 2011: Call the hotline, please. They'll be able to refer you to local help, and posdibly an attorney who can protect your children's rights. Call, please.
Sorry to hear he's been so awful. Get practical, start planning, that might help you feel less help... (read in full...)
Am I taking this too personally?
Q. My boyfriend and I are pretty solitary. We go out and do things, but generally just the two of us. One of our mutual friends was talking about Halloween parties and he really wanted to go, but he did not seem to even think of taking me with him ...
A. 23 September 2011: With my guy, I occasionally have to make it very clear that something is important to me. He usually gets it and will then remember, especially if the discussion is particularly memorable or I can get him to understand it from my side.
That bein... (read in full...)
Ex is stalking me and making me very uncomfortable!
Q. Okay, I confront her with proof about her stalking and she completely denied it. She went off on me about how she got better things to do with her time when she clearly did to it. She admitted it to someone as well a while back. All i asked ...
A. 23 September 2011: Who cares why a disturbed person does weird things? The basic thing is to block her stalking and if you have to, report her to someone. Okay?
Take some basic security and privacy precautions, maybe spend the hours you might be thinking about her ... (read in full...)
Why would he suddenly make his facebook photos public?
Q. A guy removed me as a friend from his facebook list because he wanted no regrets and didn't want me to know about his actions. I got a really amazing makeover in the upcoming year. I know I shouldn't be searching him but ... I did. Anyway, he has e...
A. 23 September 2011: I think person12345 probably hit on the reason: he wants to keep his employability and doesn't need party pictures out there for current or future employers to see.
Glad to hear you got a makeover, now use it to move on from him! Good luck!... (read in full...)
Car or bed?
Q. My boyfriend and I are planning to have sex for the first time this weekend. We have two options, either in the back seat of my car or in my room while my sister is home. Which do you think would be a little better?...
A. 23 September 2011: Yes, 18 days isn't really very much time, and I notice you didn't mention how old he was.
Well, kiddo, we just worry about some of the posters who come on here and ask, "I'm 17 and I'm going to meet my boyfriend who I met online for the very firs... (read in full...)
Who do I pick? Ducky, Arby or Dorky??
Q. Help me pleased I don't know what to do! Okay so I have a few diferent guys asking me out and I got no Idea who to pick. 1 guy is my ex BF (call him Ducky) Him and I were dating for like a week then I had to break up with him cuz of drama in my l...
A. 23 September 2011: Hey, so isn't it a school day today? Focus on school and worry about this stuff later. There's no good reason to ruin your grades worrying about something as insignificant as boys, lol.
Trust us, with time, things will become clearer. There simp... (read in full...)
Emails and texts with sexual innuendo, should I be upset or is it harmless?
Q. My fiancee lives with me. He sometimes sends emails to his ex girlfriends with sexual inuendos. Should I be upset about this or is it harmless flirting/banter. He doesn't tell me about the messages and I have asked that he does. I have also see...
A. 23 September 2011: Oh brother. He's got an interesting way of 'entertaining' himself.
He'd be my ex-fiance, looking for a new place to live, just about now. It's so not okay.... (read in full...)
Ex is stalking me and making me very uncomfortable!
Q. Okay, I confront her with proof about her stalking and she completely denied it. She went off on me about how she got better things to do with her time when she clearly did to it. She admitted it to someone as well a while back. All i asked ...
A. 23 September 2011: Change all your passwords. Block her on all social network sites you may use. Reset your privacy to 'friends only' and make yourself invisible on searches on these networks so she cannot stalk you.
Check your computer to ensure she didn't inst... (read in full...)
Am I taking this too personally?
Q. My boyfriend and I are pretty solitary. We go out and do things, but generally just the two of us. One of our mutual friends was talking about Halloween parties and he really wanted to go, but he did not seem to even think of taking me with him ...
A. 23 September 2011: Why wouldn't you feel comfortable bringing this up with him?
"Babe, I know we are kind of loners, but I'd like to go to a party with your friends with you. I'm feeling a bit concerned and hurt that you didn't think to include me in your frie... (read in full...)
My married ex's birthday is coming up, how do I wish her a Happy Birthday?
Q. Dear Cupid, I had an affair with a married woman. It had been almost a year since we broke up. I didn't answer her call and reply her mail. I'm still single and I couldn't find a girlfriend may be cuz of my busy work. To be honest, sometime I...
A. 23 September 2011: Wow, we've gone from a birthday card to the ex, who was a married woman and you've been broken up for a year to this follow up? It seems you have a larger issue to deal with?
I would suggest you tell your family and friends that you are seeking to d... (read in full...)
Am I being demanding or is he being uncaring, and doesn't love me as much as it appears?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost half a year. Things are generally well, but I occasionally feel he doesn't love me as much as he says. We live quite a distance apart so have to be in touch mostly via text. He replies to them fairly well, ...
A. 23 September 2011: I think you have a more fundamental problem than his short, apparently grudging, text messages to you.
If the bulk of your relationship consists of you texting one another, um, well, is it really the kind of relationship you want? Texting is an effi... (read in full...)
Who do I pick? Ducky, Arby or Dorky??
Q. Help me pleased I don't know what to do! Okay so I have a few diferent guys asking me out and I got no Idea who to pick. 1 guy is my ex BF (call him Ducky) Him and I were dating for like a week then I had to break up with him cuz of drama in my l...
A. 23 September 2011: I think you should just continue to get to know them and spend time as friends with them. There's no rush to have to decide, just be honest and say that you just want to get to know people better before you decide anything.
Otherwise, you're just... (read in full...)
The reality of an open relationship is not so good
Q. Hello - My husband and I have been married for 8 years. We have talked about an open relationship and I thought this was a good idea. I had sex with another man a couple of months ago. It was only one time and it truly was just sex. It was ...
A. 23 September 2011: It sounds like you two haven't really reached a mutual understanding of or agreement to the 'rules' of your 'open marriage.' I think the success of such an arrangement depends heavily on a perfect understanding of each other's limits and boundaries. ... (read in full...)
My married ex's birthday is coming up, how do I wish her a Happy Birthday?
Q. Dear Cupid, I had an affair with a married woman. It had been almost a year since we broke up. I didn't answer her call and reply her mail. I'm still single and I couldn't find a girlfriend may be cuz of my busy work. To be honest, sometime I...
A. 23 September 2011: Close down that account and forget about it. If she contacts you, just tell her it was sent automatically. It's possible it went to an account she doesn't use much either, especially if it was her secret account she kept hidden from her husband. ... (read in full...)
Husband has cancer but cheated on me when I was asleep nxt door with his kids
Q. well hello everyone i dont know were to start and i have never postd before i just dont know what to do, im a mother of 5 ages 11 ,7,3,2 and 8month old baby me and my husband have been togeather 16 years and we have had our problems alot actually ...
A. 23 September 2011: It sounds like you are in an abusive relationship with a guy who happens to have cancer. You've been 'thrown out' of the house you lived in with him? And are now struggling on your own to raise 5 children and try to help him?
Not to say this is the ... (read in full...)
Best friend keeps stealing my girl!
Q. So Im in college and my best friend is a year older than me. In a way, he's always been my "wingman" but recently it seems he ends up taking the girl I'm aiming for. The first time it happened, I met this super hot chick at a party me and my friend ...
A. 23 September 2011: He clearly sees 'getting girls' as a competition with you and knows how to push your buttons. You're trying to be a player but are being outplayed.
I don't see many signs of a 'great friendship' in what you've written about him.
If you are abid... (read in full...)
My mother can't afford the wedding, my b/f's family can but won't help!
Q. Me and my fiance are planning our wedding. I've always wanted to get married in a cathedral, and have a ball-gown style dress, and of course marry the man of my dreams. Unfortunately...my mom who would be fronting the bill, can't afford how much the ...
A. 22 September 2011: I'm not asking for a fancy wedding. I've always just wanted a ballgown and a small cathedral. I don't live in NY or Europe, where those are common. I've never imagined anything else but those two things.
--Okay, so you MUST HAVE the ballgown and ... (read in full...)
Car or bed?
Q. My boyfriend and I are planning to have sex for the first time this weekend. We have two options, either in the back seat of my car or in my room while my sister is home. Which do you think would be a little better?...
A. 22 September 2011: Tell us about your boyfriend. How much time have you two spent together in person?... (read in full...)
More serious than "boyfriend", not engaged, what do you call it?
Q. I have a question about how to describe my relationship. My boyfriend and I are not yet engaged but are very committed to each other, to the point that we are planning on sharing a house shortly. "Boyfriend" no longer seems like the right word. ...
A. 22 September 2011: Your "intended"?
"Partner" is used extensively in the UK by heterosexual couples and I don't see why it wouldn't apply to your situation. I don't think "GAY!" when I hear the word.
"SO" as in "significant other" and of course the formerly famous "... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is pregnant and our families are mad at us!
Q. I have been dating my gf for almost a yr now. She is 17 and I am 18. a few months ago we found out she was pregnant. Since we told our parents its been hell. Her parents were upset, her dad natural blamed me. Its been almost 2 months since we told ...
A. 22 September 2011: Just read your exchanges. You say "fuck you" "shut up" to your dad? Really? He sounds pretty reasonable to me in these messages. You come across as a bit of an immature teenager. Granted, you're a father-to-be, but you still sound like you're having ... (read in full...)
Why aren't men pursuing me?
Q. this has been a constant problem. A guy tries to go out with me and he ends up dropping me like a bad habit. I am beginning to think I freak the guys out for some reason unknown to me. Here's the story. Ill meet a guy and there's instant ...
A. 22 September 2011: Do you call or initiate contact with the guys in that month, or are you waiting for them to do all the courting?... (read in full...)
He says he doesn't want to ruin the friendship but then why are we fooling around sometimes?
Q. Im going to try to keep this brief but I have been friends with this guy for nearly 3 years and he has become my best guy friend. Over the last few months things have been moving to a more serious level and things have moved passed friendship. We ...
A. 22 September 2011: You don't actually have to make a big deal out of this. You know he has feelings for you, how deep, he'll have to work out in time.
I think you can continue to hang out with him but no more getting all close and snuggly and then going on to sex.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is pregnant and our families are mad at us!
Q. I have been dating my gf for almost a yr now. She is 17 and I am 18. a few months ago we found out she was pregnant. Since we told our parents its been hell. Her parents were upset, her dad natural blamed me. Its been almost 2 months since we told ...
A. 22 September 2011: "Dad, I know I screwed up in one of the most major ways I could have. I am so sorry. I am sorry I let you and Mom down, I'm sorry I let Ginny's mom and dad down. I'm sorry I let myself and Ginny down. I'm sorry. I'm scared to death and every time ... (read in full...)
I feel guilt about saying NO to my Mom. She is draining me financially. How do I stop her doing this to me ?
Q. Over the past two months my mother has drained me financially and borrowed over $800 from me to pay for bills. I have an issue with it because she's acting as though it's her money, or money that I owe her, while never even saying as much as a thank ...
A. 21 September 2011: She doesn't even ask, she usually says 'This bill is due today, I need you to pay it for me'. "I don't have the money to pay that bill for you. You will have to ask someone else."
The last time I refused to lend her a large amount of money in lieu... (read in full...)
Car or bed?
Q. My boyfriend and I are planning to have sex for the first time this weekend. We have two options, either in the back seat of my car or in my room while my sister is home. Which do you think would be a little better?...
A. 21 September 2011: Ah, so you're responsible for your sister while she's in the house with you? Then it's really a bad idea to put the burden of keeping your obvious activities secret from your parents. It makes her a co-conspirator and that's really unfair. Not to ... (read in full...)
She slept with my friend on the day we met
Q. Hi...This is my first post here.. I'm a 21 year old male and I met the girl of my dreams 1 month ago.. However, there are complications. I met her at a ''party'' at my friends house where she was the only girl... I chatted with her for a while ...
A. 21 September 2011: Well, it's a good thing it's over, then, isn't it? Aren't you doing a bit too much obsessive thinking over this girl?
Again, if you hang out with guys who "reserve" women for the night, you're going to meet women who allow themselves to be "res... (read in full...)
Am I wasting my time with this woman?
Q. I met a woman 3 months ago on a dating site. It has been a very intense relationship whereby I've not seen much of her and have been regularly dumped by text! I don't even know where she lives - she's like an MI5 agent - she reckons she's had ...
A. 21 September 2011: "Lovely" doesn't excuse "abusive." She needs to sort herself out. If she's this awful in the courtship phase of things, I can only imagine how dreadful she'd be if you got more involved. RUN.... (read in full...)
Is there something that can be done to get him out of my families life safely and for good?
Q. My father is very mentally abusive towards my mother and young brother ! I've had enough!!! But my mum is scared, he has been physically abusive before ! What can I do, or who can help ??? Is there something that can be done to get h...
A. 21 September 2011: I have a link for you here: http://www.welshwomensaid.org/index.html I think they will be able to give you local, practical advice on your options.
Best wishes.... (read in full...)
Do people look badly upon me if I tell people that I think they are attractive?
Q. Just looking for some opinions on my behaviour and how it would make you feel and to be honest how it makes me look. When I find someone attractive I tell them. I am not interested in being with any of them but always tell them if they are sexy or...
A. 21 September 2011: Do you also tell people when you find them unattractive? Why do you think you need to tell people that you find them attractive?... (read in full...)
Car or bed?
Q. My boyfriend and I are planning to have sex for the first time this weekend. We have two options, either in the back seat of my car or in my room while my sister is home. Which do you think would be a little better?...
A. 21 September 2011: Are you babysitting your sister, or is she older than you are?... (read in full...)
Am I wasting my time with this woman?
Q. I met a woman 3 months ago on a dating site. It has been a very intense relationship whereby I've not seen much of her and have been regularly dumped by text! I don't even know where she lives - she's like an MI5 agent - she reckons she's had ...
A. 21 September 2011: RUN, Forrest, RUN!
Yes, you are wasting your time with this woman. She needs to look to her family and friends for support and stop playing games with people on the internet.
... (read in full...)
She slept with my friend on the day we met
Q. Hi...This is my first post here.. I'm a 21 year old male and I met the girl of my dreams 1 month ago.. However, there are complications. I met her at a ''party'' at my friends house where she was the only girl... I chatted with her for a while ...
A. 21 September 2011: One more piece of advice. It's time to find some new friends. If you can't handle dating a girl who's slept with your friends, then don't hang out with guys who "reserve" women at parties and sleep with them. In other words, don't have male whores ... (read in full...)
My mother can't afford the wedding, my b/f's family can but won't help!
Q. Me and my fiance are planning our wedding. I've always wanted to get married in a cathedral, and have a ball-gown style dress, and of course marry the man of my dreams. Unfortunately...my mom who would be fronting the bill, can't afford how much the ...
A. 21 September 2011: His parents aren't responsible for fulfilling your childhood dreams, alas. They have their own dreams, which they are funding for themselves, I assume? I mean, your fiance's grandparents aren't funding their life, vacations, paying their bills and ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is pregnant and our families are mad at us!
Q. I have been dating my gf for almost a yr now. She is 17 and I am 18. a few months ago we found out she was pregnant. Since we told our parents its been hell. Her parents were upset, her dad natural blamed me. Its been almost 2 months since we told ...
A. 21 September 2011: As a new parent, you will soon be learning the meaning of the word "patience" as well as forgiveness and understanding. Now that you have the example of your parents' reactions, you know what NOT to do.
Good luck with the baby and your new life... (read in full...)
How can I make my boyfriend of over two years commit?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for over 2years but he doesn't seem like he wants to commit and i don't think i can wait any longer. We've spoke about getting engaged but he doesn't seem interested and the same with a baby, theres always ...
A. 21 September 2011: I think he may be doing you a favor, to not commit right now, you just don't realize it yet. Look, everyone's timing is different, but a guy who was willing to have a baby after only being with the mother for 7 months has some issues with good ... (read in full...)
How can this man hurt me with his lies and act like he's done nothing wrong?
Q. I have been with this guy for 3yrs and i thought everything was going well. He was involved in a horrible motorcycle accident were he became dependent on me for 4months. i had just met this man one week before, i decided to help him and quickly ...
A. 20 September 2011: One more thought, has he actually said out loud that he thinks he is a sex addict and needs help? Because if he has not admitted that he needs help and has committed himself to obtaining that for him, you can do all the analysis and wishful thinking ... (read in full...)
How can this man hurt me with his lies and act like he's done nothing wrong?
Q. I have been with this guy for 3yrs and i thought everything was going well. He was involved in a horrible motorcycle accident were he became dependent on me for 4months. i had just met this man one week before, i decided to help him and quickly ...
A. 20 September 2011: "How can a man be so cruel and still have the heart and face to tell the person he "LOVES" he has done nothing wrong." Because he's afraid he's going to lose the domestic help. Where else could he live in an apartment complex next to strippers and ... (read in full...)
Where do I hide the condoms?
Q. My friends bought me some condoms (I have a new boyfriend- he's gorgeous and very sexy- they were joking around), but I want to hang onto them just in case anything does happen- better safe than sorry! Does anyone have any ideas as to where in my ro...
A. 20 September 2011: Drop them in a bag with travel-sized bottles of other things like shampoo and soap and label the bag "FREE SAMPLES." Jumble it all up and keep it with your gym or travel gear.... (read in full...)
Broke off our engagement ...did I do the right thing?
Q. Just found out that my bf of four years didn't marry his ex gf because her divorce hadn't come through. He claims this is not the case and it was because they weren't the right match but turns out she was separated from her ex but still married to ...
A. 20 September 2011: He's been your boyfriend for FOUR years? And you think you are second best? Why would he have stuck around for FOUR years if you were just a stopgap? He would have ditched you in the first year if that were the case.
You clearly are upset at lear... (read in full...)
He forgot my birthday and I am going to forget his. Am I doing the right thing?
Q. I've been this guy for about 4yrs. The past year has been nonstop fighting between us because he's constantly screwing up but for some reason, I always stay. I'm not even sure if I love him anymore, and most of the time, I absolutely can't stand him ...
A. 20 September 2011: Wow. You've been pissed off at him since APRIL? Really? He's made some attempts to fix things and all you focus on is the negative. The guy doesn't stand a chance.
Yes, forget his birthday, then call it 'even steven' and just let it go. If you can'... (read in full...)
Had my teeth fixed and I'm worried my boyfriend will hate it!
Q. I've always had a fairly big gap in my front teeth and my boyfriend said he likes it, it's cute, etc... But I've wanted to get it fixed since I was little, so I finally did. It's really, really, really different looking. My whole face looks totally ...
A. 20 September 2011: Why would he hate something that makes you feel happy and good about yourself? If you're already the most beautiful girl in the whole world to him, you'd actually have to knock OUT teeth, not have them enhanced, in order to lose your ... (read in full...)
I need some insight into the female mind!
Q. I need some insight into the female mind. I am away from home right now. Been away for about 4 weeks, and I have two more to go. My wife and I video chatted today, but the whole day she has been short on calls/texts. She seemed super tired (yaw...
A. 20 September 2011: Are you in different time zones? Like, on the other side of the world time zones?
Do you have children? Could she be pregnant? Is she resentful of your extended trip? Have you been having problems before you left?
Does your wife expect you to be a ... (read in full...)
Am I cheater? Is this really that bad? I need help
Q. I was in a relationship with the girl of my dreams! She was seriously the most amazing person on this planet and we had so much fun together. I Miss her so much. I would kill for her and die for her in a second. She means the world to me. I wanted ...
A. 20 September 2011: So you're more upset that she caught you than you did those things? You're not getting bashed, you wanted input and you obviously don't like being told how your behavior appears to other people. If you think that showing her this thread would ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is pregnant and our families are mad at us!
Q. I have been dating my gf for almost a yr now. She is 17 and I am 18. a few months ago we found out she was pregnant. Since we told our parents its been hell. Her parents were upset, her dad natural blamed me. Its been almost 2 months since we told ...
A. 20 September 2011: What do you think is a reasonable level of "support" from your parents? Babysitting? Financial help, like paying bills, buying nappies and baby food? Transportation?
I think you don't realize the scope of responsibility that raising a child enta... (read in full...)
Am I cheater? Is this really that bad? I need help
Q. I was in a relationship with the girl of my dreams! She was seriously the most amazing person on this planet and we had so much fun together. I Miss her so much. I would kill for her and die for her in a second. She means the world to me. I wanted ...
A. 19 September 2011: Well, if you get so drunk you cannot account for your actions, you're going to have to take the consequence of them anyway. "I was so drunk I'm not responsible for my actions" isn't really a defensible position, because basically, by getting so ... (read in full...)
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