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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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A little primer on women and sex...
Q. A Primer on Women and Sex Look, we girls are funny. We don't sexually mature all overnight, our first sexual experiences are often painful, crappy and frankly unfulfilling on many levels. We don't know how to give blowjobs, most of us don't grow up ...
A. 2 March 2013: Dirtball! Long time no see! Happy to have you back here and so happy you are posting again. Thanks for the kind words on the old article. I hope it helps someone... even just to have a laugh when needed. Thanks again.... (read in full...)
Are we dating? I don't know!
Q. I'm a sophomore in highschool. I currently have an unspoken thing with a senior. We are mutual friends of my neighbor's. Matt (neighbor) kind of prompted us. It was so obvious I liked Sid. I didn't know if he liked me or not. He dropped hints, but ...
A. 15 November 2011: Ah yes, you had to tell him. I understand. I had similar feelings too and could not keep my feelings hidden. The problem is that you force him to declare how he's feeling at that moment and if he is still figuring things out, you get the answer you ... (read in full...)
A little primer on women and sex...
Q. A Primer on Women and Sex Look, we girls are funny. We don't sexually mature all overnight, our first sexual experiences are often painful, crappy and frankly unfulfilling on many levels. We don't know how to give blowjobs, most of us don't grow up ...
A. 15 November 2011: Dark heart, thanks for posting on my article! Good stuff! I didn't need to add the 40 minutes thing because you have provided it. That's a real eye-opener, going to my previous comment on the iron/oven timing for sexual response.
I guess I shou... (read in full...)
A little primer on women and sex...
Q. A Primer on Women and Sex Look, we girls are funny. We don't sexually mature all overnight, our first sexual experiences are often painful, crappy and frankly unfulfilling on many levels. We don't know how to give blowjobs, most of us don't grow up ...
A. 15 November 2011: Odds, thanks for posting on my article! Woot! "The problem for me occurred when the women did not communicate what they wanted on any particular night - slow and tender or rough and passionate - perhaps they didn't even know, but I was usually stil... (read in full...)
A little primer on women and sex...
Q. A Primer on Women and Sex Look, we girls are funny. We don't sexually mature all overnight, our first sexual experiences are often painful, crappy and frankly unfulfilling on many levels. We don't know how to give blowjobs, most of us don't grow up ...
A. 13 November 2011: I had to look up "motorboating" too. Ah, that poor guy, I wonder when someone will break it to him that he is not firing on all his cylinders, lol.
Well, to answer your question, charliesdevil, what I observed in myself was less wishful thin... (read in full...)
Which university should I choose to be able to come out as gay?
Q. Next year I'll be graduating and when I get to college I wanted to be myself and why I say that is because I'm gay and I'm not out the closet really no one knows and when I got to college I wanted to be alone away from family and old friends because ...
A. 13 November 2011: How about assuming that you are out and everyone knows you are gay. Which university suits you best then?
My point is that you will come out and if you've selected the university based on its lack of your family and friends rather than the best... (read in full...)
I'm concerned about the DVDs he's watching as a means to get an erection!
Q. I've become a little bit concerned about my husband in the past few weeks [well, 3 actually]. He's spending a lot of time at the gym and online, and in his room are hundreds of magazines with pictures of shirtless men! Also included was a D...
A. 13 November 2011: It doesn't sound good for the longevity of your marriage and sex life, sorry. I have some links for you to read and perhaps the people there can help you understand your husband a bit better.
But a guy who needs images of men to achieve erec... (read in full...)
He's trying to stop drinking but it always ends in tears!
Q. I have had a horrible evening, my partner is trying to stop drinking, for the sake of ou relationship, its been happening for 3 years, he has stolen from me and others to get drink. i have ended this relationship time after time. because of ...
A. 13 November 2011: He clearly cannot drink any more; he is an alcoholic and needs to get help. I would say that you should keep him away from your family and your home until he's been through rehab and has some months of sobriety logged. And 'rehab' doesn't mean he ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend cheated three times, is that reason to dump him?
Q. Hi there. I've gotten together with this guy about 2 weeks ago after we had been dating for 3 months. I found out he's cheating on me just three days after we got together and yet he's done it 3 times already. I'm really confused since he seems t...
A. 13 November 2011: Dump. I think that saying, 'you start as you mean to go on' applies here. He's planning to continue getting it on with other women.
Run, Forrest, run!
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Are these normal reactions to sex or am I lesbian?
Q. I often ask myself,am i BIOLOGICALLY lesbian?it doesn't really matter because i am EMOTIONALLY straight and have a boyfriend and love him more than my life ! but: 1)my first experience was with a girl when i was really too young ,10 or 11,and s...
A. 13 November 2011: "Here's the plan. If you want any sexual contact with me, you will have to wear a condom. This includes oral sex and intercourse. As you well know, single females cannot buy them easily here. So, it's on you to do this, if you want sexual intimacy. ... (read in full...)
Do girls always find nude art in a guy's place offensive?
Q. Ok, I studied film in college and since then have gotten interested in still photography as well, especially photographers like Howard Schatz, Patrick Demarchelier, Andreas H. Bitesnich, and Herb Ritts. Nudes happen to be one of the subject-matter ...
A. 13 November 2011: I have a nude drawing I did in a college art class hanging in my house, but it's in my bedroom. I wouldn't hang it in more public rooms in the house because I think some people are uncomfortable with nudes.
You know in the movies when the scene is o... (read in full...)
Why didn't my ex wish me a "Happy Birthday!" this year?
Q. my birtday was yesterday and one of my good friends (he is also one of my exes and half a month ago it seemed like he would like me more) didn't send me birthday wishes. I don't think he forgot it because we know each other for 3 years and he was ...
A. 13 November 2011: He's an ex for a reason. Don't ruin a perfectly good birthday party wondering why an ex didn't take the time to wish you a happy birthday. He has no idea why you'd be upset and honestly probably didn't even think about it. He sounds a lot selfish ... (read in full...)
How can I make my girlfriend less moody?
Q. The past few days my girlfriend is always in a bad mood. There will be times where she in a great mood, and then all of the sudden her mood just change into a bad mood. When she in a bad mood she just seem so dead. I have no experience on what to ...
A. 13 November 2011: "Emma, I notice every now and again you seem to get very quiet and sad. It makes me feel protective and I want to do what I can to make you happy. I'm not really good with words or things like that but I just want you to know something. When you ... (read in full...)
Women seem to use me for sex, but I want a relationship
Q. Girls always tell me that I'm attractive, funny and smart -- I'm in university doing chemistry/physics, but I always feel so stupid whenever I get involved with a girl. I really liked this girl, and I slept with her a few times a few weeks ago. I...
A. 13 November 2011: Don't have sex until you are officially boyfriend/girlfriend. Pretty basic, something we'd probably tell a girl in your situation.
If you want to be in a relationship, don't settle for casual sex. If you are having sex and you don't have the offi... (read in full...)
My best friend's boyfriend likes me??
Q. Hi everyone, About a month ago my best friend started going out with this guy. Before that relationship, she was together with this she loved so much. And he broke her heart, so she was really depressed for a few weeks. So now she is together...
A. 12 November 2011: Are you angry at or jealous of your friend in any way? Possibly just a little bit? Because what you are describing is a passive-aggressive way of getting back at her for something. You may not realize it, but it's a pretty hostile act to allow her ... (read in full...)
Before we were married, my wife said she was horny but didn't want to have premarital sex on moral grounds, but now that we're married she still doesn't want to have sex!
Q. I've had an on and off relationship with my wife for about 8 years. When we first met, we were together for about 2 years. She had a very high sex drive, and that aspect of the relationship was good, but we didn't get along very well. We broke ...
A. 12 November 2011: I found you a link to start off: http://agoodhusband.net/2008/04/supporting-your-wife-after-rape-or-sexual-abuse/... (read in full...)
Before we were married, my wife said she was horny but didn't want to have premarital sex on moral grounds, but now that we're married she still doesn't want to have sex!
Q. I've had an on and off relationship with my wife for about 8 years. When we first met, we were together for about 2 years. She had a very high sex drive, and that aspect of the relationship was good, but we didn't get along very well. We broke ...
A. 12 November 2011: To add to mishmash's very good post, I'd like to add another possibility to consider: that she suffered from some sexual abuse in her past, possibly as a child, or even a date rape. Often, women who have experienced that may run through a very ... (read in full...)
I want this job as an au pair and need some ideas on what to write about myself!
Q. I was wondering if anyone could give any advice on what i could write to a host family for an Au Pair job ?. They want to know a bit of information about me as a person, and they want to know why i want to go to their country to be an Au Pair. I ...
A. 12 November 2011: I'd talk about your personality a bit too, like how patient you are and if you are calm in a crisis. Give examples of how your personality means you would be a good au pair, and that you would be someone they can trust with their precious children. ... (read in full...)
I want to go back to counselling. Will my counsellor be offended that I didn't come back to counselling after summer?
Q. At the end of the last school year, I used my university's free counseling services. Though my counselor was helpful and supportive, I felt panic each time, before I went. My heart would beat extremely fast, and it was difficult to breathe norm...
A. 12 November 2011: She will be happy that you gathered up the courage to come back and will not be offended in the slightest.
If you often have panic attacks, talk to your GP and see if there isn't something she or he can offer you to help. I don't use that type of m... (read in full...)
My boyfriend saw that I wrote "I love S" on my hand. He isn't "S"... what do I do?
Q. okay so i'm in love with two people. my boyfriend and this guy called S. i've loved S for nearly 2 years now and he loves me too, but we've never been together offically. so yeah i wrote i love you "S" on my hand and my boyfriend saw it. what should ...
A. 12 November 2011: Hi Judey, by writing something that obvious on your hand, your subconscious was hoping that your boyfriend would see it. Maybe you are really not wanting to be in the relationship, but rather than breaking up, you are subconsciously engineering ... (read in full...)
A little primer on women and sex...
Q. A Primer on Women and Sex Look, we girls are funny. We don't sexually mature all overnight, our first sexual experiences are often painful, crappy and frankly unfulfilling on many levels. We don't know how to give blowjobs, most of us don't grow up ...
A. 12 November 2011: Thanks, Mia, I appreciate it!... (read in full...)
Why do relatives and friends try to put her off me? What can I do to stop this type of problem from happening to me?
Q. I have a problem with dating Jamaican women. It usually start off just right, we get along well with each other, we talk things out and we go out all the time...plus I help her out all the time. I take reasonability in our relationship this has ...
A. 12 November 2011: If she buys into that stereotype, are you really sure she's the woman for you? I mean, you've been demonstrating that you are a good man for 3 years and she dismisses all that with a few words from friends and family?
I think if you really want... (read in full...)
A boy I like is ill with a tumor. I don't know if I want to tell him I like him, and I'm here for him, or say nothing?
Q. The boy i like at school has been diagnosed with a tumour on his windpipe. Im really scared for him that it could be cancer as i dont want to see him die. I've never told anyone I like him and hes not at school because hes in hospital. Im conf...
A. 12 November 2011: If he's in hospital, he's got a lot of stress and may not even notice if you tell him you like him. People who are ill or in hospital hear things differently due to the stress of the illness, and the stress of being hospitalized.
I would find a wa... (read in full...)
Did I freak her out with my last text?
Q. Hi, I met a girl last week at my friends party. She danced with me for over an hour we kissed quite a bit and she really showed interest staring into my eyes holding me all that stuff. She asked if I wanted to exchange numbers with her and we did. I ...
A. 12 November 2011: I agree with honeypie. If you want to get to know her better, call her and ask her out. I think continuing to text will just set you up for more opportunities for misconstruing your meaning. Texts do not convey body language or tone of voice, so she ... (read in full...)
A little primer on women and sex...
Q. A Primer on Women and Sex Look, we girls are funny. We don't sexually mature all overnight, our first sexual experiences are often painful, crappy and frankly unfulfilling on many levels. We don't know how to give blowjobs, most of us don't grow up ...
A. 12 November 2011: HippyChick, it's nice to hear that you have had no problems in the sexual arena, I do hope you stay at your peak for the rest of your life! I certainly wasn't trying to insult you or women who were fortunate enough to be sexual naturals. I did ... (read in full...)
A little primer on women and sex...
Q. A Primer on Women and Sex Look, we girls are funny. We don't sexually mature all overnight, our first sexual experiences are often painful, crappy and frankly unfulfilling on many levels. We don't know how to give blowjobs, most of us don't grow up ...
A. 12 November 2011: Olderthandirt, Abella, thanks for reading! OTD, your comment is exactly why I put this together. I think men and women spend a lot of time trying to apply their own particular logic to the opposite sex's thinking process, our filters are somewhat ... (read in full...)
A little primer on women and sex...
Q. A Primer on Women and Sex Look, we girls are funny. We don't sexually mature all overnight, our first sexual experiences are often painful, crappy and frankly unfulfilling on many levels. We don't know how to give blowjobs, most of us don't grow up ...
A. 12 November 2011: @Cupid Boy, ah, that conversation would be in a primer on dating, this one article was designed to help men understand what might be going on in a woman's mind during sex. Of course it deals in generalizations, just as your answer dealt in ... (read in full...)
He's supposed to be happy with his new wife, why is he bothering me on yahoo, msn and fb?
Q. My exboyfriend just got married two months ago. He sent me a friend requeston yahoo without any message on it and I decide to delete it and that was what i did.This was four days ago and he only been married for two months. The next day he sent me ...
A. 12 November 2011: Report him to the social network site security people. He is harassing you. They'll be able to tell which way the messages are flowing. Block him as well.
Be sure to print out and save the messages before you do that, so that you have a record of h... (read in full...)
A little primer on women and sex...
Q. A Primer on Women and Sex Look, we girls are funny. We don't sexually mature all overnight, our first sexual experiences are often painful, crappy and frankly unfulfilling on many levels. We don't know how to give blowjobs, most of us don't grow up ...
A. 12 November 2011: Thank you, person12345! I appreciate the review. Add your insights and thoughts too, please.... (read in full...)
A little primer on women and sex...
Q. A Primer on Women and Sex Look, we girls are funny. We don't sexually mature all overnight, our first sexual experiences are often painful, crappy and frankly unfulfilling on many levels. We don't know how to give blowjobs, most of us don't grow up ...
A. 12 November 2011: Thank you, charliesdevil! I decided to compile some posts I've written into one bigger one, as I was planning to answer a post about sex today. It dawned on me that I had covered the topic before and went back to find it. So I put together a ... (read in full...)
I don't want to end up getting attached to someone who I'm going to end up having to take care of like a baby when I'm older.
Q. Hello everyone, To make it kinda short and sweet, I'll just get right to the point. I've been dating this guy who's two years older than me for about four years now. I'm 18, he's 20. Being a Senior this year at high school, it defiantly go...
A. 12 November 2011: Heartfullalove, you have schooled us. Well done. What HFL said, OP, read what HFL said in his posts. ... (read in full...)
Depression. I need help to allow me to have a better life. Any tips, strategies, Advice please?
Q. hi i just wanted some advice about depression. im in my 30s still living at home and dont work. i feel my life is lacking, and as im gay i will never have the whole family thing like husband and kids. i I'm too scared to give birth anyway and this...
A. 12 November 2011: You have a medical condition that needs good treatment. I think you should ask your doctor about adding some medication, just for a short time, say a year, that may help you to reset your brain chemistry.
You are stuck in cycle of negative thin... (read in full...)
Are we dating? I don't know!
Q. I'm a sophomore in highschool. I currently have an unspoken thing with a senior. We are mutual friends of my neighbor's. Matt (neighbor) kind of prompted us. It was so obvious I liked Sid. I didn't know if he liked me or not. He dropped hints, but ...
A. 11 November 2011: My suggestion is to make him work to be with you. Become less available. Be a bit more mysterious and vague about who you are spending time with. Create the illusion that you have lots of boys chasing you and are having to fend them off.
If you ... (read in full...)
Why do some guys like women to send them nude pictures???
Q. Before I say anything just thought i say that DO NOT judge me for this cause I`ve beaten myself up about it and regret it, plus i`m an adult. Also i have another question which relates to my post so instead of making another post I decided to post ...
A. 11 November 2011: Practice forgiveness and compassion for yourself. I expect you've punished yourself enough now. Don't let this harm your self-esteem any more.
Write down the lessons you've learned. Write yourself a letter to remind yourself of what you choose to d... (read in full...)
Why did I get used and how do I resist him?
Q. I did something really stupid, it's a typical issue really. I slept with this guy, I'm 18 and he's in his early 40's. We get on really well, we work together and he used to make me feel special, he would hang out with me, hug me etc. we kissed on ...
A. 11 November 2011: What do you mean, you couldn't resist him again? Do you not have any control over your actions?
Is this an alcohol problem, as in, "I drank too much and we got it on"? Or is this a case of you needing attention and so desperate to get it you thin... (read in full...)
I don't want to end up getting attached to someone who I'm going to end up having to take care of like a baby when I'm older.
Q. Hello everyone, To make it kinda short and sweet, I'll just get right to the point. I've been dating this guy who's two years older than me for about four years now. I'm 18, he's 20. Being a Senior this year at high school, it defiantly go...
A. 11 November 2011: I'd break up with him too. I think people are best matched when they share common goals, and similar work ethics. Your guy apparently has no goals and no work ethic. It's sad but not the end of the world for either of you.
Have you talked to him ... (read in full...)
Am I asking too much for handmade birthday cards from my grandsons?
Q. I have two sons, 32 and 30 years old and I have two grandchildren, one is 4 and other is 1 year old. It was my birthday today 11/11/11. Earlier this week I asked my sons to make, with my grandchildren, a birthday card for me with the date 11/11/11 ...
A. 11 November 2011: I don't think you're asking too much but my guess is that they don't realize how significant receiving these cards are for you. They're men, they have small children, they're probably exhausted and a bit clueless. Spell it out for them, as nicely ... (read in full...)
Do I go for a man who has long term suitability or one who I feel attracted to?
Q. In such a dilemma!! Im 23 and hav met a lad who is 25,get on so well with and he has a really good job, a nice car and would def be a good long term partner. I am attracted to him but not as much as a lad i work with and this is my problem, he is on...
A. 11 November 2011: If you are having this type of dilemma the answer is to choose neither. You haven't found the guy who's right for you just yet is all. Relax and wait and don't enter a relationship just because you are feeling a bit panicky.
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Where can we go to get him a girl and what can I do to help him stop being so negative?
Q. My friend is 21 years old and he constantly moans that he can't get a girlfriend and that every girl he's been with only lasts a month!He keeps asking me whats wrong with him and I lie to him saying I don't know but the fact is He's a very needy and ...
A. 11 November 2011: *at a necessary minimum, which means I only see them if I have to....
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Where can we go to get him a girl and what can I do to help him stop being so negative?
Q. My friend is 21 years old and he constantly moans that he can't get a girlfriend and that every girl he's been with only lasts a month!He keeps asking me whats wrong with him and I lie to him saying I don't know but the fact is He's a very needy and ...
A. 11 November 2011: "John, do you realize we've sat here for 20 minutes and you've not said one positive thing? Maybe you need to lighten up a little and learn that life doesn't always go the way you want it. Let's play a game. For the next hour, you can only say ... (read in full...)
Why do some guys like women to send them nude pictures???
Q. Before I say anything just thought i say that DO NOT judge me for this cause I`ve beaten myself up about it and regret it, plus i`m an adult. Also i have another question which relates to my post so instead of making another post I decided to post ...
A. 11 November 2011: Look, in 2 years, if you were dating a guy who lived in the same town, you'd likely have gotten naked with him by now, right? So the difference is that you did it over the internet?
My worry for you is that you were in a dating relationship onli... (read in full...)
Could a sexual friendship with soon to be X sister in law be wrong?
Q. I'm currently separated from my wife, her brother is also separated from his wife. His wife and I have been secretly communicating by text, email and have met at a resturant to talk. I am attracted to her sexually. I think she could be sexually ...
A. 11 November 2011: I think it's secretly a way to get back at the spouses. I think you aren't really thinking about the backlash or repercussions that would happen if your kids ever found out you had slept with their aunt.
I'm assuming you have children? Maybe you ... (read in full...)
He said I "owe" him sex!!! Should I feel bad?
Q. On another note, I broke up with my ex-boyfriend last week after him controlling me for over 2 years. A week before I had began getting closer to my guy friend but I hadn't noticed it 'till I broke up with my boyfriend. It's been a week since my ...
A. 11 November 2011: No need to feel bad whatsoever. Cheerfully and gratefully wave "bye-bye" to Mr. Manipulator and ignore him from now on. He's a loser!... (read in full...)
Are we dating? I don't know!
Q. I'm a sophomore in highschool. I currently have an unspoken thing with a senior. We are mutual friends of my neighbor's. Matt (neighbor) kind of prompted us. It was so obvious I liked Sid. I didn't know if he liked me or not. He dropped hints, but ...
A. 11 November 2011: Don't get out ahead of yourself, you've been on one date and have spent some time with him. This one date doesn't make you an official couple just yet.
My advice is to slow down a bit and don't pressure him to declare himself just yet. Give him time... (read in full...)
Unofficial with one girl who wont have sex yet, and an offer on the table for sex with an old friend....should I go through with it?
Q. We've gone on a few dates and everything is sailing smoothly except one thing: She is just NOT ready to have sex. To me, it feels like she is chopping off my balls and making me her eunuch. I want to love her and show her a great passionate pleas...
A. 10 November 2011: Time to move on. I expect there are other women out there who will find you sexually desirable. Your persistence is puzzling, have you never ever experienced that famous song "You can't always get what you want"?
Maybe she has an STD and is wait... (read in full...)
My wife shared a hotel room with a male colleague!
Q. Is it ever OK for a married woman to spend the night in a hotel room with another man? My wife has been working at this new job for 2 years. The company scheduled an out of town trip for seminars which will help her get a promotion that s...
A. 10 November 2011: It sounds like you have a good handle on the situation and so there's nothing to worry about.
That image you have of her seeing the guy in his underwear? Um, if women found images of guys in their undies sexy or compelling Playgirl would have done... (read in full...)
My wife shared a hotel room with a male colleague!
Q. Is it ever OK for a married woman to spend the night in a hotel room with another man? My wife has been working at this new job for 2 years. The company scheduled an out of town trip for seminars which will help her get a promotion that s...
A. 9 November 2011: I think it IS a big deal that she spent the night in a male co-worker's hotel room. At the very least, she should have simply booked a new room for herself, or insisted that her roommate pay for an extra room. Very unprofessional and inappropriate ... (read in full...)
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