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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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A little primer on women and sex...
Q. A Primer on Women and Sex Look, we girls are funny. We don't sexually mature all overnight, our first sexual experiences are often painful, crappy and frankly unfulfilling on many levels. We don't know how to give blowjobs, most of us don't grow up ...
A. 2 March 2013: Dirtball! Long time no see! Happy to have you back here and so happy you are posting again. Thanks for the kind words on the old article. I hope it helps someone... even just to have a laugh when needed. Thanks again.... (read in full...)
What was this - friends with a little bit of benefits?
Q. I have a question about friends with benefits (FWB). My wife and I watched the movie 'Friends with Benefits' about 2 weeks ago. This past weekend we were at some of our friends home, and the topic of this movie came up. I just casually said, yep, ...
A. 23 November 2011: Yeah, I didn't think you'd come back with a followup. You were just continuing your little campaign of humiliation.
The point is that you chose a public forum to decide to humiliate her, and this was a point you could have discussed and deci... (read in full...)
Tis the season...
Q. Hello Everyone. Here at Dear Cupid we receive many requests for help. Some are serious relationship problems, others aren't quite so serious. One such question is "What should I get my significant other for Christmas?" I intend to give you some ...
A. 22 November 2011: You can also go to this page: http://www.dearcupid.org/search and type in "Christmas present ideas" or "gift ideas needed" and you'll get plenty of posts too!... (read in full...)
What was this - friends with a little bit of benefits?
Q. I have a question about friends with benefits (FWB). My wife and I watched the movie 'Friends with Benefits' about 2 weeks ago. This past weekend we were at some of our friends home, and the topic of this movie came up. I just casually said, yep, ...
A. 22 November 2011: Your wife's sexual history is not something you get to disclose to anyone, and especially not in a group setting.
You deliberately chose to humiliate and embarrass her. That was cruel and mean of you. Are you angry at her for some reason?
You o... (read in full...)
So lost and hurt after discovering my boyfriend has been sleeping with some of his female friends
Q. What do I do? i love him so much but i'm so lost and hurt. I found out recently my bf has been sleeping with one of his friends since we got together and then found out he recently had a threesome with two of his other female friends. That and ...
A. 21 November 2011: He should want to make YOU happy. He cares more about making Mr. Willy happy. That's HIS priority list. When you are a bit more secure in yourself and realize you deserve better, you'll understand why we are all telling you he's not likely to ... (read in full...)
So lost and hurt after discovering my boyfriend has been sleeping with some of his female friends
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A. 21 November 2011: "He lives his life to the fullest because he is a soldier and doesn't know when the day will be his last." Live life to the fullest, meaning get as much sex as he can with as many women as he can until you wise up and break up with him. Live life to ... (read in full...)
No man wants to get married, they can't stay committed to one woman, and ogle my female friends! Thats what HE said!
Q. First off, this is a bit long so thanks to any for reading! Im not sure if I am overreacting or not. My boyfriend and I are approaching our 5 year anniversary and have lived together for over 4 and a half years. He swept me off my feet, convinc...
A. 16 November 2011: Am I overreacting?
No
Do all guys really feel so strongly about sleeping with other women that they are potentially willing to lose a long-term relationship that has so far worked out really well?
No
Is it fair of him to refuse to discuss movin... (read in full...)
Boyfriend gets a girls number at the bar and lied before, deal breaker?
Q. So I have a major decision to make. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years and I just found out he's quite the liar. Back in January, he went out with his friends and told me they were going one place but I found out they went to a b...
A. 16 November 2011: It would be for me. Getting another girl's number and the continual lying points to a guy who doesn't really believe in the rules of fidelity. Sorry!... (read in full...)
Questions about contraception....
Q. I am going away with my boyfriend next month and I am really excited! :D I have been with my boyfriend for 7 months officially now and it is going great! We never argue and it's well... perfect :D Recently I went on the pill, we are both virgins...
A. 16 November 2011: You'd have to discuss the timing and efficacy of these choices with your doctor. Generally, the advice is to use a hormonal method combined with a barrier method to really minimize the risk. So the pill plus a condom, or the implant plus a condom.
I... (read in full...)
He's continually embarrassed me and abandoned me
Q. I have moved across the country, away from all of my family, for my boyfriend. We moved from Florida to Oregon so that he could have steady work to support us and our 3 children. When we arrived here after a week of being on the road with a 5 yr ...
A. 16 November 2011: I understand fully how difficult moving across the country can be and how stressful it is. You were going to a strange new place and he was essentially going back home. Alas, it sounds as though he lacks any empathy for your feelings and worries.
I... (read in full...)
Are we dating? I don't know!
Q. I'm a sophomore in highschool. I currently have an unspoken thing with a senior. We are mutual friends of my neighbor's. Matt (neighbor) kind of prompted us. It was so obvious I liked Sid. I didn't know if he liked me or not. He dropped hints, but ...
A. 15 November 2011: Ah yes, you had to tell him. I understand. I had similar feelings too and could not keep my feelings hidden. The problem is that you force him to declare how he's feeling at that moment and if he is still figuring things out, you get the answer you ... (read in full...)
Contraception advice, anyone?
Q. So me and my long term boyfriend have been using condoms as our only method of birth control and it's not an ideal situation. He constantly complains about how much less good it feels and frequently gets irritated that I won't go back on the pill or ...
A. 15 November 2011: And chigirl: "And maybe that's the clue: a loving partner wouldn't!" And there it is. Exactly right.... (read in full...)
Contraception advice, anyone?
Q. So me and my long term boyfriend have been using condoms as our only method of birth control and it's not an ideal situation. He constantly complains about how much less good it feels and frequently gets irritated that I won't go back on the pill or ...
A. 15 November 2011: CindyCares summed it up perfectly: "See it this way . You are lucky . You are not throwing away 2.5 years of unfettered bliss with more potentially to come " for a conversation " .You have ONLY wasted so far 2.5 years of your life with a ... (read in full...)
My Bf has given me an ultimatum-either I orgasm with him and without my vibrator or he's going to break up with me!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together 2.5 years and I always thought we had a pretty good sex life. We have sex 5-8 times a week usually and feel really comfortable with each other and have great chemistry. It might help to preface this with saying ...
A. 15 November 2011: I've just posted on your other question here: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/contraception-advice-anyone-.html
If you have any additional questions already published here on this topic, I'd appreciate if you would link them, so that we get the ... (read in full...)
Contraception advice, anyone?
Q. So me and my long term boyfriend have been using condoms as our only method of birth control and it's not an ideal situation. He constantly complains about how much less good it feels and frequently gets irritated that I won't go back on the pill or ...
A. 15 November 2011: For the other posters, here's the link to the other question: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-bf--has-given-me-an-ultimatum.html
"He constantly complains"
"[he] frequently gets irritated"\"I feel like trying pills means sacrificing my own sex ... (read in full...)
Why do guys feels the need to brag?
Q. Why do guys brag? He was a party boy and obviously I didn't give him anything sex-related/making out related to brag about. so... when people asked why we hung out around one another...he said that I hung around him and even the police couldn't...
A. 15 November 2011: He didn't like you back and he has the mental agility of a 13 year old. With apologies to 13 year olds.... (read in full...)
A little primer on women and sex...
Q. A Primer on Women and Sex Look, we girls are funny. We don't sexually mature all overnight, our first sexual experiences are often painful, crappy and frankly unfulfilling on many levels. We don't know how to give blowjobs, most of us don't grow up ...
A. 15 November 2011: Dark heart, thanks for posting on my article! Good stuff! I didn't need to add the 40 minutes thing because you have provided it. That's a real eye-opener, going to my previous comment on the iron/oven timing for sexual response.
I guess I shou... (read in full...)
A little primer on women and sex...
Q. A Primer on Women and Sex Look, we girls are funny. We don't sexually mature all overnight, our first sexual experiences are often painful, crappy and frankly unfulfilling on many levels. We don't know how to give blowjobs, most of us don't grow up ...
A. 15 November 2011: Odds, thanks for posting on my article! Woot! "The problem for me occurred when the women did not communicate what they wanted on any particular night - slow and tender or rough and passionate - perhaps they didn't even know, but I was usually stil... (read in full...)
Contraception advice, anyone?
Q. So me and my long term boyfriend have been using condoms as our only method of birth control and it's not an ideal situation. He constantly complains about how much less good it feels and frequently gets irritated that I won't go back on the pill or ...
A. 14 November 2011: Sooooo, are you planning to reconcile with the asshole?... (read in full...)
Contraception advice, anyone?
Q. So me and my long term boyfriend have been using condoms as our only method of birth control and it's not an ideal situation. He constantly complains about how much less good it feels and frequently gets irritated that I won't go back on the pill or ...
A. 14 November 2011: Yep, too many problems.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend seems to have lost interest in sex
Q. So me and my gf have been dating for almost a year now ( 11 months to be exact). we had sex already...for some reason my penis size really bothers me... i am about 1-2 inch flaccid only and about 4-4.5 inch erected... i have a rather small ...
A. 14 November 2011: What else do you do besides intercourse?... (read in full...)
Contraception advice, anyone?
Q. So me and my long term boyfriend have been using condoms as our only method of birth control and it's not an ideal situation. He constantly complains about how much less good it feels and frequently gets irritated that I won't go back on the pill or ...
A. 14 November 2011: After 2.5 years of bliss then his resentments bubble to the surface and he becomes irate? You have sex 5-8 times a week, you give him blow jobs, you can orgasm (with some help) and he wants to be a bully about it? Now, all of a sudden?
I'd go on a... (read in full...)
Contraception advice, anyone?
Q. So me and my long term boyfriend have been using condoms as our only method of birth control and it's not an ideal situation. He constantly complains about how much less good it feels and frequently gets irritated that I won't go back on the pill or ...
A. 14 November 2011: Hey, are you the same poster whose boyfriend issued the orgasm ultimatum?
I'd make that a permanent break up. You don't need to be browbeaten.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend insists on attending a concert while I'm in surgery
Q. This may take me some time to write so here goes. I've just moved in to a house with my bf of two years, we've got a mortgage togther. We started to try for a baby around a year ago and in september I got pregnant with fertility treatment. After ...
A. 14 November 2011: This question reminded me of a friend of mine's similar situation. She was struggling to conceive for a few years, finally got pregnant, had terrible morning sickness and then, alas, she miscarried. On the evening of that day, when she and her ... (read in full...)
I didn't bleeed when I lost my virginity this weekend. Did we do something wrong?
Q. dear cupid, i lost my virginity this weekend. i will admit it hurt a lot for me, we did it for the second time (same night) and it was better the second time. however, i was quite disappointed because i dont think my cherry popped as there was no ...
A. 14 November 2011: What do you think the term "cherry" means?
You sound quite normal, nothing to worry about. Remember, safe sex!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend insists on attending a concert while I'm in surgery
Q. This may take me some time to write so here goes. I've just moved in to a house with my bf of two years, we've got a mortgage togther. We started to try for a baby around a year ago and in september I got pregnant with fertility treatment. After ...
A. 14 November 2011: I think that you do have a right to be upset. Let's look at this from the two issues involved; one is the physical, which is the surgery and the hormonal changes caused by pregnancy, the other is the emotional, which is the trauma caused by the ... (read in full...)
My Bf has given me an ultimatum-either I orgasm with him and without my vibrator or he's going to break up with me!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together 2.5 years and I always thought we had a pretty good sex life. We have sex 5-8 times a week usually and feel really comfortable with each other and have great chemistry. It might help to preface this with saying ...
A. 14 November 2011: More links: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/ask-dr-cullins/ask-dr-cullins-sex-5267.htm
http://www.malehealth.co.uk/node/18960#moresexy
and http://w... (read in full...)
Other Non-Pregnancy Methods
Q. Hello everyone, I thank you for taking your time reading this, I was only wondering if there is any other way to prevent pregnancy other than condoms and birth control pills. I really appreciate it, thank you....
A. 14 November 2011: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
There's good info at http://www.plannedparenthood.org
The best person to ask is your gynecologist, so that your own personal risk factors ... (read in full...)
My Bf has given me an ultimatum-either I orgasm with him and without my vibrator or he's going to break up with me!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together 2.5 years and I always thought we had a pretty good sex life. We have sex 5-8 times a week usually and feel really comfortable with each other and have great chemistry. It might help to preface this with saying ...
A. 13 November 2011: Welcome to the ownership of your own sexuality.
If he continues to struggle with this, get him to that sex therapist. ... (read in full...)
She kept it from me that she is HIV positive!
Q. Am a guy who in April meet a girl, i fell in love with her so much that even though she sometimes acted childsh i would readly forgive. unfortunately she kept something important a secreat her HIV status, of which she is HIV positive. our ...
A. 13 November 2011: Withholding information about one's HIV positive status is indeed a criminal offense in many countries. I think that it demonstrates a callous disregard for your health and well-being, indeed your life.
That would be the end of the rela... (read in full...)
Are people joined at the hip once they marry?
Q. Once people get married are they joined at the hip? Do they get time outs like a week at a time, a few times a year? On average is this acceptable? Kids can survive without a parent once in a while right? Do you think giving partners time out will ...
A. 13 November 2011: I think all couples choose different levels of connectness. Some are glued at the hip, others work on different ends of the country and conduct long distance marriages. I personally think space is good. Too much togetherness can be stifling. It also ... (read in full...)
My Bf has given me an ultimatum-either I orgasm with him and without my vibrator or he's going to break up with me!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together 2.5 years and I always thought we had a pretty good sex life. We have sex 5-8 times a week usually and feel really comfortable with each other and have great chemistry. It might help to preface this with saying ...
A. 13 November 2011: And really, holding each other's orgasm hostage is um, what's the best word.... juvenile? silly? manipulative? Surely you two are more mature than that?... (read in full...)
My Bf has given me an ultimatum-either I orgasm with him and without my vibrator or he's going to break up with me!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together 2.5 years and I always thought we had a pretty good sex life. We have sex 5-8 times a week usually and feel really comfortable with each other and have great chemistry. It might help to preface this with saying ...
A. 13 November 2011: Attempting to force you to have the orgasm of HIS choice is controlling, no matter how "selfless" he thinks he's being. This is about his ego, not your pleasure. You know how to reach orgasm, you use a vibrator. You're not broken, as the article ... (read in full...)
My Bf has given me an ultimatum-either I orgasm with him and without my vibrator or he's going to break up with me!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together 2.5 years and I always thought we had a pretty good sex life. We have sex 5-8 times a week usually and feel really comfortable with each other and have great chemistry. It might help to preface this with saying ...
A. 13 November 2011: http://men.webmd.com/features/6-sex-mistakes-men-make
http://men.webmd.com/guide/sex-fact-fiction
I like these links for him to read.
Okay, so wait, you all are holding each other's orgasms hostage now? Really? ... (read in full...)
My Bf has given me an ultimatum-either I orgasm with him and without my vibrator or he's going to break up with me!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together 2.5 years and I always thought we had a pretty good sex life. We have sex 5-8 times a week usually and feel really comfortable with each other and have great chemistry. It might help to preface this with saying ...
A. 13 November 2011: Pity. Ah well, if life with him consists of him making unreasonable sexual demands on you without providing the support for them, then you're better off without him. Sorry.... (read in full...)
He doesn't care and he ignores me now!
Q. hey guys ,i'm in a relationship with a boy about 2weeks, we met 2 times , and they was a terrible dates, cuz he was always late , he is handsome and cute but at the same time so arrogant i really like him so much , i talk with him and i told him ...
A. 13 November 2011: I'm afraid there isn't much you can do. He's arrogant and rude, and frankly, it doesn't sound as though he cares enough to change for you.
I would back away and see if he makes an effort to come find you, but I would not hold my breath for that to h... (read in full...)
My Bf has given me an ultimatum-either I orgasm with him and without my vibrator or he's going to break up with me!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together 2.5 years and I always thought we had a pretty good sex life. We have sex 5-8 times a week usually and feel really comfortable with each other and have great chemistry. It might help to preface this with saying ...
A. 13 November 2011: I would never tolerate that sort of sexual blackmail, by the way. A man who is incapable or unwilling to take on new knowledge to enhance your sexual experience is a man who is ultimately selfish. Asperger's or no, if he's making ultimatums like ... (read in full...)
My Bf has given me an ultimatum-either I orgasm with him and without my vibrator or he's going to break up with me!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together 2.5 years and I always thought we had a pretty good sex life. We have sex 5-8 times a week usually and feel really comfortable with each other and have great chemistry. It might help to preface this with saying ...
A. 13 November 2011: If he has trouble seeing the world from anyone else's perspective, then maybe some direct comparisons need to be drawn so he can understand it from your point of view.
Suggest that he attempt to reach orgasm solely through stimulation of his scro... (read in full...)
I keep striking out with the ladies, need help! is being 40 pounds overweight a factor? What needs to be done?
Q. so in my interaction with the ladies, I've heard this line WAY too much: "you're such a great guy, a girl would be real lucky to be with someone as nice and real as you are." All the while I'm thinking, "if i'm such a great guy, then why don't y...
A. 13 November 2011: Honey, if you have a 100 percent rejection rate on asking a woman out on a date, you have issues. Either you are asking out the wrong women or you have some personal issue that you don't recognize. Maybe the woman doesn't realize you are actually ... (read in full...)
My Bf has given me an ultimatum-either I orgasm with him and without my vibrator or he's going to break up with me!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together 2.5 years and I always thought we had a pretty good sex life. We have sex 5-8 times a week usually and feel really comfortable with each other and have great chemistry. It might help to preface this with saying ...
A. 13 November 2011: Ah, your boyfriend will likely receive some harsh criticism here. Assuming he's operating from a place of ignorance and insecurity, and that he is NOT an abusive controlling jerk, then I would recommend you take the step of going to a sex ... (read in full...)
A little primer on women and sex...
Q. A Primer on Women and Sex Look, we girls are funny. We don't sexually mature all overnight, our first sexual experiences are often painful, crappy and frankly unfulfilling on many levels. We don't know how to give blowjobs, most of us don't grow up ...
A. 13 November 2011: I had to look up "motorboating" too. Ah, that poor guy, I wonder when someone will break it to him that he is not firing on all his cylinders, lol.
Well, to answer your question, charliesdevil, what I observed in myself was less wishful thin... (read in full...)
I'm scared my penis won't give her an orgasm because of what I've been doing to make it bigger!
Q. I was watching a jelqing video because I want to make my penis longer and thicker, but the speaker said that too much pulling causes the tendons or ligaments or whatever to become weak which makes an erect penis not stand straight up and be ...
A. 13 November 2011: Quick, flip over on your side! Then to the other side! Then flip over so your back is facing up.
Notice anything?
Yes, that is correct! Your penis is not standing straight up! What a shock! Oh my god!
Seriously, stop watching those videos, they... (read in full...)
Which university should I choose to be able to come out as gay?
Q. Next year I'll be graduating and when I get to college I wanted to be myself and why I say that is because I'm gay and I'm not out the closet really no one knows and when I got to college I wanted to be alone away from family and old friends because ...
A. 13 November 2011: How about assuming that you are out and everyone knows you are gay. Which university suits you best then?
My point is that you will come out and if you've selected the university based on its lack of your family and friends rather than the best... (read in full...)
A little primer on women and sex...
Q. A Primer on Women and Sex Look, we girls are funny. We don't sexually mature all overnight, our first sexual experiences are often painful, crappy and frankly unfulfilling on many levels. We don't know how to give blowjobs, most of us don't grow up ...
A. 12 November 2011: Thanks, Mia, I appreciate it!... (read in full...)
A little primer on women and sex...
Q. A Primer on Women and Sex Look, we girls are funny. We don't sexually mature all overnight, our first sexual experiences are often painful, crappy and frankly unfulfilling on many levels. We don't know how to give blowjobs, most of us don't grow up ...
A. 12 November 2011: HippyChick, it's nice to hear that you have had no problems in the sexual arena, I do hope you stay at your peak for the rest of your life! I certainly wasn't trying to insult you or women who were fortunate enough to be sexual naturals. I did ... (read in full...)
A little primer on women and sex...
Q. A Primer on Women and Sex Look, we girls are funny. We don't sexually mature all overnight, our first sexual experiences are often painful, crappy and frankly unfulfilling on many levels. We don't know how to give blowjobs, most of us don't grow up ...
A. 12 November 2011: Olderthandirt, Abella, thanks for reading! OTD, your comment is exactly why I put this together. I think men and women spend a lot of time trying to apply their own particular logic to the opposite sex's thinking process, our filters are somewhat ... (read in full...)
A little primer on women and sex...
Q. A Primer on Women and Sex Look, we girls are funny. We don't sexually mature all overnight, our first sexual experiences are often painful, crappy and frankly unfulfilling on many levels. We don't know how to give blowjobs, most of us don't grow up ...
A. 12 November 2011: @Cupid Boy, ah, that conversation would be in a primer on dating, this one article was designed to help men understand what might be going on in a woman's mind during sex. Of course it deals in generalizations, just as your answer dealt in ... (read in full...)
A little primer on women and sex...
Q. A Primer on Women and Sex Look, we girls are funny. We don't sexually mature all overnight, our first sexual experiences are often painful, crappy and frankly unfulfilling on many levels. We don't know how to give blowjobs, most of us don't grow up ...
A. 12 November 2011: Thank you, person12345! I appreciate the review. Add your insights and thoughts too, please.... (read in full...)
A little primer on women and sex...
Q. A Primer on Women and Sex Look, we girls are funny. We don't sexually mature all overnight, our first sexual experiences are often painful, crappy and frankly unfulfilling on many levels. We don't know how to give blowjobs, most of us don't grow up ...
A. 12 November 2011: Thank you, charliesdevil! I decided to compile some posts I've written into one bigger one, as I was planning to answer a post about sex today. It dawned on me that I had covered the topic before and went back to find it. So I put together a ... (read in full...)
Are we dating? I don't know!
Q. I'm a sophomore in highschool. I currently have an unspoken thing with a senior. We are mutual friends of my neighbor's. Matt (neighbor) kind of prompted us. It was so obvious I liked Sid. I didn't know if he liked me or not. He dropped hints, but ...
A. 11 November 2011: My suggestion is to make him work to be with you. Become less available. Be a bit more mysterious and vague about who you are spending time with. Create the illusion that you have lots of boys chasing you and are having to fend them off.
If you ... (read in full...)
Are we dating? I don't know!
Q. I'm a sophomore in highschool. I currently have an unspoken thing with a senior. We are mutual friends of my neighbor's. Matt (neighbor) kind of prompted us. It was so obvious I liked Sid. I didn't know if he liked me or not. He dropped hints, but ...
A. 11 November 2011: Don't get out ahead of yourself, you've been on one date and have spent some time with him. This one date doesn't make you an official couple just yet.
My advice is to slow down a bit and don't pressure him to declare himself just yet. Give him time... (read in full...)
Contraception advice, anyone?
Q. So me and my long term boyfriend have been using condoms as our only method of birth control and it's not an ideal situation. He constantly complains about how much less good it feels and frequently gets irritated that I won't go back on the pill or ...
A. 9 November 2011: I know you have already had some good advice on this but I have to chime in. When I read your post, I thought to myself, this is a guy who is really rather selfish. Yes, it would be nice to have sex without a condom but that is much less harmful to ... (read in full...)
Tis the season...
Q. Hello Everyone. Here at Dear Cupid we receive many requests for help. Some are serious relationship problems, others aren't quite so serious. One such question is "What should I get my significant other for Christmas?" I intend to give you some ...
A. 10 December 2010: I have a great thread to post here for people who might need a lot of ideas: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-kind-of-a-christmas-present-can-i.html
Thanks for keeping us merry and bright. :D... (read in full...)
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