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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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I'm with a great guy, except he may be facing 4 years in prison. Should I wait?
Q. Well I been dating this guy for a little over a year now. And he is a great guy. Hes the best thing thats happend to me. I love being with him and I catch myself smiling for no reason sometimes:) But he has been in trouble wit the cops before, ...
A. 13 January 2012: One more thought on this. The guy who goes off to prison will come back a much different person. He'll have experienced life behind bars and I don't believe that is a pleasant thing. I understand it can harden some into lifetime criminals.
Do you ... (read in full...)
I'm with a great guy, except he may be facing 4 years in prison. Should I wait?
Q. Well I been dating this guy for a little over a year now. And he is a great guy. Hes the best thing thats happend to me. I love being with him and I catch myself smiling for no reason sometimes:) But he has been in trouble wit the cops before, ...
A. 12 January 2012: At 17, I'd suggest you try to move on. If he's making choices that lead him to being in prison for 4 years, he's likely to have a very drama-filled and unhealthy life. Probably not the best choice for a good long-term relationship. You can always ... (read in full...)
Should a married couple share almost everything?
Q. I'm asking about how much openness there should be in a marriage. Not just a relationship, but a marriage. I think that once you make that step to commit to be together for the rest of your lives, things change. My wife and I are very open with e...
A. 12 January 2012: I think it's up to each individual couple. Some people have sensitive jobs and their spouses can't have access to phones and emails and computers.
Your friend's actions do sound suspicious but when did you become their relationship cop? Why are ... (read in full...)
Have sex with ex while she with another man what does that mean
Q. Hey guys, need some help, Me and my gf of 3 years recently split up and we stil talk and act like we r stil an item, we chat every day and nite, problem is she has got a bf. But she stops at myn and we have sex, (while she is in a relation...
A. 12 January 2012: She dangles you on a string because you put yourself out there for her to mess with.... (read in full...)
Have sex with ex while she with another man what does that mean
Q. Hey guys, need some help, Me and my gf of 3 years recently split up and we stil talk and act like we r stil an item, we chat every day and nite, problem is she has got a bf. But she stops at myn and we have sex, (while she is in a relation...
A. 12 January 2012: Your options:
Continue on as you are and eventually she takes you back and dumps boyfriend (unlikely)
Continue on as you are and eventually she dumps you for good (strong possibility as she has a current boyfriend)
Continue on as you are and even... (read in full...)
Would you post christmas/new years greetings on facebook or make it private?
Q. If you wanted to post happy christmas and new year or happy birthday to someone on facebook would you put it on their wall or send it by private message. If you did it by private message what would be your reason for doing it. The reason I a...
A. 12 January 2012: Some people don't know how to use Facebook and may not realize the difference between the wall and the private messaging.
Some people may not want everyone to know they are communicating with you.
He may have gone through his address book and priv... (read in full...)
Have sex with ex while she with another man what does that mean
Q. Hey guys, need some help, Me and my gf of 3 years recently split up and we stil talk and act like we r stil an item, we chat every day and nite, problem is she has got a bf. But she stops at myn and we have sex, (while she is in a relation...
A. 12 January 2012: Some people are addicted to drama. They like the thrill of cheating and engineer their lives so that have maximum complications. She likes the zing of having sex with the ex while still having sex with the new boyfriend.
Some people have to boos... (read in full...)
My guy's great, but oral is BORING!
Q. I find it incredibly boring when my BF goes down on me. We've been intimate for about 3 months now and have decided not to have intercourse yet, but we've done just about everything else in the book (or outside it). My guy is great, he really turns ...
A. 11 January 2012: Is it possible he's focusing on the interior of the vagina and ignoring the clitoris? Maybe he's not very up on his female anatomy and needs some guidance. Depending on your own physical make up, you may find certain areas more sensitive and enjoy ... (read in full...)
My wife withholds physical affection. Is there hope she will ever change?
Q. I have been reading a lot of the stories on this site about men whose wives have lost their sexual desire. This happened to my wife, too, many years ago. I think we have had sex just once in 10 years and maybe only a few times in 15 years. We have ...
A. 11 January 2012: Is there any hope for us?" Not at this rate. Why haven't you gone to see a marriage counselor?
"I don't think she can suddenly be that woman I'd like her to be. Could she ever be?" It sounds like she has some sort of aversion to physical cont... (read in full...)
Deep affection for my old teacher!
Q. So I'm 18 and I still have this huge crush on my old teacher. He's married, I'm in a serious relationship (I love my bf to death and would never ever think of cheating). But I just can't get over him because of various festivals and school ...
A. 11 January 2012: I guess you have to decide if feeding the crush--which is what you are proposing--is more important than feeding the new relationship you are in. I think crushes can be the result of projecting feelings and wishes onto the object of that crush; in ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend's mum dislike me?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almsot 2 years now, I'm 18 and he's 20. We both go to the same University (which is a 2 hour journey away from our parents) and we're planning on living together next year (but I'm scared of telling his ...
A. 11 January 2012: I'd stop worrying about why she projects dislike toward you. I'd start treating her with some pity. Someone once said, "be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle." That stuck with me for some reason, but I think perhaps you could put ... (read in full...)
Attached man, but on a dating website. Really?
Q. I have been dating a man for eight months. We live together and I feel we know each other quite well. He says he is very much in love with me. He's been divorced for more than 15 years and says he hasn't felt this way about another woman, since ...
A. 10 January 2012: I say you may have moved in too quickly. Eight months of dating and you're already living together? Granted, there's a honeymoon period when you feel like you've found 'the guy' but obviously, there's a process of discovery and acceptance that ... (read in full...)
Is my penis really that small? My wife seems to think I am lacking in that department.....
Q. I need some advice on the classic "size" question. My wife has indicated that she thinks I am lacking a bit, or not average. This bothers me. I am about 5.8 x 5.1. However, when not erect, its about 2-3. From others perspective, is th...
A. 9 January 2012: How did she "indicate" your penis is small? How long have you been married and did you have sex before you wed? What does she say when you asked her why she married you then? Have you been to see a sex therapist?... (read in full...)
Is it normal to feel angry after breaking up with a loser?
Q. About a month ago I broke up with my then-boyfriend. We had been together for a year and a half at that point (it was an online relationship), but he was not good for me for a number of reasons, most obviously because he is 31 years older than me. ...
A. 7 January 2012: Why wouldn't you feel angry?
Start practicing compassion for yourself. No one is perfect. No one gets through life without making some sort of miscalculation or mistake. It'll be okay. You're not involved with him any more. You figured it out. (Did... (read in full...)
Some questions about 'doggie style'
Q. Hello, I'm 20 and had some questions about doggy style. My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. I have never really wanted to pursue this position because there is not really any eye contact and feels more like a "get her done" ...
A. 7 January 2012: I think you can spend a lot of time researching how to ride a bicycle, learning how to sit on the seat and balance and move your legs and read about what the sensation of moving feels like. But until you try it, you don't ever know what the ... (read in full...)
Do some women also have an overblown sense of entitlement when it comes to sex?
Q. People always say that men have an overblown sense of entitlement when it comes to sex. But I think some women can be like this too. I'm not trying to be sexist. I just think there are some situations where it's always the woman who "decides" when ...
A. 7 January 2012: Isn't this just another way to describe differing levels of sex drive? Maybe "overblown sense of entitlement" to some would be "higher interest in sex"? I expect there are plenty of couples where one partner has a much higher sex drive. In some case... (read in full...)
Me and my boyfriend just can't seem to have sex!
Q. i have tried to have sex twice with my boyfriend but every time, it really hurts and he makes me bleed. the first time we tried it, it didn't get very far in and i started bleeding. the second time which was two days ago he put it all the way in but ...
A. 7 January 2012: Have you visited a gynecologist yet? I think if you are this concerned and worried about it, a visit to her (or him) might set your mind at ease. She could examine you and tell you if your hymen is the problem here! A quick visit and well worth the ... (read in full...)
Any suggestions on how to orgasm faster?
Q. Hi there, my problem is the opposite to many that you have probably seen- not sure if this is appropriate for this site, but anyway Im sure I'll be told if it isn't. I am a male in my 40's and would like to know whether anyone can recommend any te...
A. 7 January 2012: I would discuss this with your doctor. You should be evaluated to see if there is an underlying medical condition that is contributing to this. Are you healthy with normal hormonal balance and vasculature and muscle tone? Are you taking any ... (read in full...)
"I'm Not Your Trophy Girl".
Q. I have been talking with this guy for the past 3 months. He wants me 2 Be HIS WOMAN.BUT i havent really said yes 2 him. THIS IS WHY... We Talk alot on the phone. I Told him im pretty much a"Jeans and T-Shirt " laid back kinda woman.He tells me if ...
A. 6 January 2012: He tells me if ur gona be with me u have 2 step ur fashion up.
You tell him if you want to be with me, it's an "as is." You either take me the way I am or move along.
Why are you talking to a guy like that in the first place? The first time he ... (read in full...)
I love him. Want to be with him. But how do I stop him from getting so mad at so much I do?
Q. Dear cupid, My and my boyfriend have been togther for one year... And hes my life and i love him very much. But there has beeb such a big problem for a long time, he gets mad at almost everything i do, wearing the wrong cloths, even having lint...
A. 6 January 2012: When you say he gets mad, how does he show it?... (read in full...)
He's confusing me. Sure I have jealousy issues. First they were major to him, now not so much? But does he want me back now, or not?
Q. Hi I broke up about a year and the reason it happened was because i had jealousy issues and which made us fight, even though he did nothing to be jealous about , i used to be jealous of the past. He used to say it will only push him and it happened...
A. 6 January 2012: I think he was just saying that he missed you, but that he didn't want you to get your hopes up that you'd reconcile. He was being honest about his feelings, maybe feeling some sadness that the relationship didn't work out but he isn't planning to ... (read in full...)
Are there any solutions? I cry all the time, and it just gets messy.. I don't want't to hurt any of them, I don't want to hurt either of them, nor "play games" with J
Q. I am 17.. i dont have anyone i can really talk to and i know this post is long but PLEASE read it and give me some advice.. first I'll start off with, i am going off to university next year and i know many people have told me "oh just be single a...
A. 6 January 2012: You love them both but neither enough to say, 'this guy is the one!' You're with J but admit that a guy who can drive and lives closer to you will be enough to make you.... what? Hold hands?
Look, you're a nervous wreck because you are feeling trap... (read in full...)
My mom will not help. How old do I need to be to get birth control without a parents permission and without prescription?
Q. I was just curious about how old i have to be to get birth control without a parents permission or without prescription. I'm 14 now, and i know i shouldn't be on it now, but it's not what you think. I have horrible cramps to the point that i stay ...
A. 6 January 2012: To take the birth control pill, which is a hormonally based contraceptive, you will need a prescription from a doctor. Instead of asking for birth control, ask for whatever will help your severe symptoms. Bring up this issue in your next doctor's ... (read in full...)
He calls me names and gets mad at me and treats me bad. How can I fix this? or Stop him doing this?.
Q. Dear cupid, My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year, and its been the best time in my entire life, i lovvve him sooo much. But i have a problem, he treats me very bad sometimes and calls me names and all that. Also he gets mad a...
A. 6 January 2012: The only way to fix this is to leave him. You're involved in an unhealthy relationship with an abusive guy and there's nothing you can do to get him to 'fix' things. He has to choose to become a better person and my understanding is that doesn't ... (read in full...)
How do you talk sexy without sounding stupid?
Q. dear cupid, i've been looking for ways to spice things up with my guy. i watched a little bit of porn, but felt weird about it, soo i decided to just consult google and see what i could find out (snicker if you must...lol). one of the tips that i'...
A. 4 January 2012: I think saying things like "I want you to ....." "I love the way you ...... " "I'm going to ...... to you until you ......" is probably pretty easy in the moment. Just fill in the blanks! Just say if things feel good or amazing and how excited ... (read in full...)
Now I have the chance to make my mothr proud
Q. Ive been talking to this guy for 3 months. He likes me a lot. I like him too.We have known eachother since the 5th grade. Hes 39 and single.hes been married once. Im 40 never been married but been in a relationship for the past 7years. He knows ...
A. 4 January 2012: If you are always stressing and unhappy about your daughter, how will that change with a new man in the picture? You'll still be stressing and unhappy. It sounds like you want out, why not just admit that to yourself? Just be realistic that things w... (read in full...)
Wife doesn't want to get rid of pictures of her ex. Am I being unreasonable?
Q. We're only married 6 months and already we have an 'issue'. When my wife and I got serious and started talking about getting engaged, we both deleted 'exs' from our facebook accounts, deleted them from our contacts in our phones. I even threw out ...
A. 4 January 2012: Why can't you let her decide for herself what pictures she chooses to keep? It's her past and her photos and basically, her property. And I agree with Cerberus, you're getting angry at the thought that nonexistent children may possibly stumble ... (read in full...)
Are we ready for a threesome?
Q. Hi! Want to know if you think we are ready for a threesome. We have been married for 6 years and have children. We both come from a conservative Middle Eastern background, we are not fully liberal but both are relatively open minded. W...
A. 4 January 2012: You might be ready, but your wife is not. I can see you thinking she is because of the role play response, but that's just fantasy and still intimacy between the two of you.
I'd leave it alone, keep up the role play and let HER decide when the time... (read in full...)
I don't just want to date my b/f I want to marry him and we keep fighting about it!
Q. Hi, I'm in a pickle! I'm 27 and my boyfriend is 33. He is Egyptian Muslim and I am British Muslim revert (but I don't wear hijab or anything). We've been together for 2.5 years. The last year has been horrific!! His mum and sisters apparent...
A. 4 January 2012: If he wants to be sexually intimate with you, let him wear a condom. Why alter your hormones and deal with the side effects for a guy who has strung you along for 3 years?
And I agree with CindyCares. The guy has had plenty of time to deal with his ... (read in full...)
How do you deal with people you cant trust?
Q. How should one deal with people who you can't trust? I know this one guy that keeps saying things that I later find out aren't true. He comes up with excuses that can easily be seen through, and I know it isn't correct. When confronting him he gets ...
A. 4 January 2012: Thank you for the followup. I think I'd put him extremely low on the list of priorities as well, just to match the treatment you've received.
I would deal with it by not bothering to deal with him any longer. I don't see the point in trying to conv... (read in full...)
Now I have the chance to make my mothr proud
Q. Ive been talking to this guy for 3 months. He likes me a lot. I like him too.We have known eachother since the 5th grade. Hes 39 and single.hes been married once. Im 40 never been married but been in a relationship for the past 7years. He knows ...
A. 4 January 2012: So the relationship is falling apart due to the relationship between your current partner and your daughter? It sounds to me as though that's what needs addressing then, as there's no guarantee that the new guy will do any better with her than Mr. ... (read in full...)
What is more important? Her wellbeing or my sanity? Help...
Q. i am a bisexual girl and i just got out of a 2-year "weird thing". well it was definately not a relationship but not friendship either... when i met her we both became interested in each other but we were both seeing people. when some months later i ...
A. 4 January 2012: It sounds to me like the two of you were toxic together and you did the best thing, which is move on. You are not responsible for her happiness; she is an adult and has to get on with her own life.
I would stop feeling guilty, mourn the loss of the ... (read in full...)
How do you deal with people you cant trust?
Q. How should one deal with people who you can't trust? I know this one guy that keeps saying things that I later find out aren't true. He comes up with excuses that can easily be seen through, and I know it isn't correct. When confronting him he gets ...
A. 4 January 2012: Is this guy a co-worker, a family member, a friend or a romantic interest? If he's the first, document everything in interactions with him, send him confirming emails, be sure you are communicating well with your supervisor.
If he's a friend, I thin... (read in full...)
My Mum's a tacky dating tramp all over Facebook. Help!
Q. My mum's using the fb date site and she adding all these guys for friends and flirting with them. I want her to stop because it shows up on fb to everybody thats her friends and some of them are my friends and relatives. She's acting like a slut and ...
A. 4 January 2012: "Mom, let me give you a Facebook tutorial. It seems like you don't understand how to message people or keep things private, based on some of the posts I have read recently. I have certainly heard about some of these posts from family and friends and ... (read in full...)
Now I have the chance to make my mothr proud
Q. Ive been talking to this guy for 3 months. He likes me a lot. I like him too.We have known eachother since the 5th grade. Hes 39 and single.hes been married once. Im 40 never been married but been in a relationship for the past 7years. He knows ...
A. 4 January 2012: Wow, he's going to med school at age 41-50? That's quite the career change. What year is he in? I'll tell you, it's hard work to date a med student. They have no time and then the lousy hours that follow with internships and residency? That can be ... (read in full...)
Bizzare excuses: am I just being paranoid or is he right that I have trust issues?
Q. How does a guy who has been sketchy react when you suddenly start being sketchy back? I have never played hard to get and may make it too easy when I like a guy. If we are dating and he wants to see me - I say yes at the drop of a dime. I don't li...
A. 4 January 2012: It sounds to me like he's not actually single. I think I'd pass on dating this guy...if he's acting this bizarre when he's trying to woo you, just imagine how bizarre he'll act when he finally gets you. Not worth the effort, at least to me. Pass! ... (read in full...)
How can I ease the pain I get when having sex with him?
Q. Me and my boyfriend are a LDR and so whenever we see each other we are always quite physical. However he is quite big and it took me a few times to get used to his size. After we've had sex a about two or three times over a period of a few days I ...
A. 4 January 2012: It sounds like you may need to consult with a medical professional on this one, as it has stumped you and the agony aunts here. Time to see your doctor. Best wishes!... (read in full...)
My wife's friend is marrying my wife's 1st boyfriend and we don't want to go to the wedding, should we?
Q. We need advice. My wife has this good girlfriend that she's known for a few years. We're married 4 years now and everything is great. This girlfriend hasn't been a big part of our life because of who she's dating (and now marrying). This girlfrien...
A. 3 January 2012: Oh, and it seems to me to be a bit late for your wife to bring this up with her friend. If she was a good friend to this woman, I'm surprised that information wasn't shared by her already, if she chose not to share it back then, it seems to me to be ... (read in full...)
How can I ease the pain I get when having sex with him?
Q. Me and my boyfriend are a LDR and so whenever we see each other we are always quite physical. However he is quite big and it took me a few times to get used to his size. After we've had sex a about two or three times over a period of a few days I ...
A. 3 January 2012: Less intercourse and a whole lot more foreplay, which maybe should include manual and oral stimulation for your pleasure. Sounds like you are not relaxed and aroused enough. Also, having sex three times a day for three days may cause some serious ... (read in full...)
I really need help in losing weight! My dr. only gave me diet pills that didn't help
Q. ok so im not sure how to word this delicately so im just going to blur it all out. im fat. morbidly obese to be precise. when i hear it i feel physically sick at myself. but why is this not enough to stop me from binge eating? i always have been ...
A. 3 January 2012: If you are binge eating, you have some sort of trigger that causes you to eat. Something makes you feel low and so you turn to food as a comfort? You have to deal with the reason you eat.
Starving yourself and fad diets are not the way to go. They... (read in full...)
What does a man mean when he insists that he wants to date a woman he can respect
Q. What does a man mean when he claims persistently that he wants to date a woman he can respect. Really stressing on it. I thought it was the vise versa- desiring to date a person who can respect you. ...
A. 3 January 2012: Sounds like he has a list of attributes he expects in a mate. Why not simply ask him. "I appreciate you feeling so strongly about whom you date. Would you please explain what attributes you consider to be respect-worthy and which attributes you find ... (read in full...)
I like her personality but am not attracted to her. She wants sex and I'm just confused!
Q. ok im in a massive mess. i started talking to this 16 year old going on 17 online a few days ago. we got on straight away and instantly clicked. we organised to meet one day this week. we spoke about sex and i told her that im a virgin. she was ...
A. 3 January 2012: Just tell her the truth that you don't see yourself with her. It'll seem hard now but the reason you are feeling in such a mess is because you have got yourself in a situation you don't want to be in. She's falling for you and as you can't return ... (read in full...)
My wife's friend is marrying my wife's 1st boyfriend and we don't want to go to the wedding, should we?
Q. We need advice. My wife has this good girlfriend that she's known for a few years. We're married 4 years now and everything is great. This girlfriend hasn't been a big part of our life because of who she's dating (and now marrying). This girlfrien...
A. 3 January 2012: What old memories are being brought to the forefront for you? Are you battling retroactive jealousy?... (read in full...)
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