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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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My bisexual/lesbian friend dislikes gay men!
Q. Dear cupid, My best friend is a female bisexual and she's great, but I have one problem and its the fact that she hates gay men. I'm so fed up with her double standards its drives me up the walls. Sometimes she calls them names like F****t and ...
A. 12 December 2011: Distance yourself from this toxic best 'friend' now so you don't have to deal with idiotic hypocrisy and judgmental nonsense. She doesn't sound great to me, she sounds bitter and nasty! She's not friends with you, as you are, she's friends with the ... (read in full...)
What are views on large labia minora?
Q. Im 16 and I know I have big, above average, labia minora. I know there are operations like labiaplasty, but I don't find item uncomfortable. It's a major body image issue for me. I just want to know, what are men/women opinions on large labia? ...
A. 4 December 2011: "Where the hell did people come up this crazy idea that childlike vaginas are sexy?" I blame Hugh Hefner and the porn industry that followed. Also the hair removal companies!
Honey, your labia minora are fine, perfectly normal and healthy. Stop star... (read in full...)
Should I just do what I want and not care what this guy thinks of me afterwards?
Q. I met this guy online about three months ago. We've been talking since but have never met. He's tried to a couple times but I laughed it off because I had a boyfriend and didn't want to. Well, my boyfriend broke up with me about three weeks ago,...
A. 4 December 2011: You don't fully trust him. Don't have sex with him for now. It sounds like he's being patient in the expectation of having sex. Is he being patient in the expectation that he'll begin a relationship with you?
I'd sit back and let him pursue you.... (read in full...)
Should I change myself for him or stay the way I am?
Q. So my man is 9 years older than me, he is stuck in his ways n believes women should act n be a certain way. I'm conflicted because I'm falling in love with him and I am nothing like what he believes in. My question is should I change ways and be ...
A. 3 December 2011: So basically he doesn't like you the way you are. Um, that's not a good start. I'd pass on this guy and there will be another who loves you just the way you are. Rigid, inflexible men with expectations aren't really a good bet for a healthy ... (read in full...)
He's cheated once before, what do I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I has been on and off for two years. He cheated on me once and I forgave him and now I noticed him telling other girls that he is single and he is flirting with them. Also he is telling some other girls that he love them. Yes, I ...
A. 3 December 2011: Break up with him and breathe a sigh of relief that you won't have to snoop on him any more.... (read in full...)
I'm living with a guy who I'm madly in love with, and he's going out with one of my friends
Q. Hi, I'm going through quite a conflicted phase at the moment, and was wondering if you could help. I'm living with a guy who I'm madly in love with, and he's going out with one of my friends. I've loved him for almost a year now - we were stay...
A. 3 December 2011: It sounds like you should look for another place to live, honestly. His actions show that his feelings aren't as strong for you as they are for her. Sorry, it hurts, it's not nice but there it is. He's kind of a jerk, actually, if he was flirting ... (read in full...)
Should I change myself for him or stay the way I am?
Q. So my man is 9 years older than me, he is stuck in his ways n believes women should act n be a certain way. I'm conflicted because I'm falling in love with him and I am nothing like what he believes in. My question is should I change ways and be ...
A. 3 December 2011: If he's stuck in his ways, why can't you be stuck in yours? Just because he's 29 doesn't mean he knows what is best for YOU.
Could you be more specific?... (read in full...)
Shall I forget all this or start from the beginning?
Q. Topic started when I saw a girl in the university about a year ago .. From the first moment I felt it was a different girl .. We did not talk a lot just to say hello as colleagues .. She had a lot of friends and was very popular within the unive...
A. 3 December 2011: I would advise that you forget her and get on with your life. Seek counseling as you are having so much trouble letting go. She's not interested and she has not shown you that she is willing to try to make things work. I think you have built up a ... (read in full...)
Coping with bereavement of losing your love to suicide
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A. 3 December 2011: Thank you Abella, for this very wonderful article and your heart-felt and amazing followup. With much respect and hugs.... (read in full...)
We're both virgins, should I expect him to be somewhat skilled?
Q. Okay, this might be a little odd and maybe shallow, but I was wondering: guys, how were you the first time you had sex? And girls, were you pleasantly surprised or not? I ask because my boyfriend and I are planning to have sex for the first time and...
A. 3 December 2011: How was the first time you tried to ride a bicycle? Or drive? Or try a new dance?
The word skill may be defined as "Proficiency, facility, or dexterity that is acquired or developed through training or experience." Acquired through training or expe... (read in full...)
Unhygienic session of anal sex.. Will I get sick?
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been together for a year now and finally had anal sex. I've had anal sex before but they've always taken place in the shower (with my ex of five years) so it had always been clean and super enjoyable. Well, it kind of ...
A. 3 December 2011: http://www.webmd.com/sex/anal-sex-health-concerns
Condom, wash, change to new condom for oral or vaginal sex. No exceptions, no "in the heat of the moment" bad decisions.
He should not be taking the penis out of the anus and putting into your mou... (read in full...)
My girlfriend was my best friends "booty call". How do I get over this?
Q. My girlfriend of about 5 months now slept with my best friend two years ago - multiple times. I know this shouldn't bother me, but the fact that I know her past, and how she was (sleeping around/being a 'booty call'), has me skeptical. I have been ...
A. 2 December 2011: Doesn't that mean your best friend is a user, if he's using girls for booty calls? Alternatively, they both may simply have wanted a sexual encounter without an engagement ring or picking out china patterns.
If you are having this much trouble, I'd ... (read in full...)
Did he cheat or is it all in my head?
Q. hey everyone I have bi polar disorder and depression and anxiety issues and paranoia...(yeah I know its a big nice gift right?) anyways...I am engaged to my fiance (obviously thats why hes my fiance lol) but lets see...a few months back I found a ...
A. 2 December 2011: See a doctor and get appropriate treatment for the bipolar disorder. It's my understanding that medication is necessary for people who have it. Get that sorted out FIRST, then you can revisit the trust issue.
Best wishes to you.... (read in full...)
I've pretended everything is ok, but want to break up with him. How do I do that when he thinks everything is great?
Q. I have been dating this guy for about 6 months, we are not official but it was definitely heading that way. I have always been iffy about the idea of being with him coz he was a player but I thought Id give him a chance. He hasn't done anything ...
A. 2 December 2011: Do it today; you'll feel a huge sense of relief and will get control of your own life back. As for what he tells people you did, phone sex honestly isn't the worst, AND you were dating. So people expect you to be doing something, and if that ... (read in full...)
"Momma's boy" - attractive or not to women?
Q. Want to get some feedback from women here... I grew up without a father so my mother had to be both parents in a way. As a result, I've always been a "Momma's boy". She's not protective or invasive in my personal life we just have a very solid and ...
A. 1 December 2011: You want to "better attract women" so I'm wondering what type of woman you are looking for? I've read some of your posts and you seem to be a guy stuck between two worlds in a way. That is not a particularly comfortable or nice place to be in the ... (read in full...)
How do I let my SO know I don't want a relationship?
Q. How do I let my significant other know that I don't want a relationship? He has told me that he is a manipulative bastard, emotionally dead and not good enough for me. I can't see anything completely wrong with him now, he has told me that he loves ...
A. 1 December 2011: It sounds to me as though he's trying really hard to break up with you and you are hanging on for dear life.
Maybe he cares enough about you to let you down gently but he doesn't love you enough to be with you. Telling you he's a bastard, emot... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 1 December 2011: I'm sorry you didn't reach the conclusion you wanted with your wife but at least you are on the road to your own happiness. It sounds like you're doing fine and will come out of this a bit wiser. I hope you find someone who will make you happy! Good ... (read in full...)
Is this just mild, controlling behavior or something else?
Q. My bf of 2 years is really a sweet guy but he has this very mild, controlling behavior...For instance, if I ask him if we can get something to eat he will say "no, we just ate" or "no, have patience." At a restaurant, he controls what I eat and ...
A. 28 November 2011: "he won't let me do it." What, he'll physically restrain you? Throw such a temper tantrum that you cannot ignore him and you have to leave the restaurant or store?
If you need medical attention for something, get it. Don't ask for his opinion or s... (read in full...)
Is this just mild, controlling behavior or something else?
Q. My bf of 2 years is really a sweet guy but he has this very mild, controlling behavior...For instance, if I ask him if we can get something to eat he will say "no, we just ate" or "no, have patience." At a restaurant, he controls what I eat and ...
A. 27 November 2011: As my 9 year old nephew would ask, who made him the boss of you? Just order what you like, if he freaks out about it or starts an argument, you'll know he's a bad bet for a boyfriend. Break up with him if he can't handle you making your own ... (read in full...)
Does his comment actually mean anything because of ellipses in it
Q. I invited an old flame out for a coffee next time he was up near where I lived. I didn't get a response until he accidentially posted a comment on my status page on facebook which was meant for someone else. I private messaged him the next day to ...
A. 27 November 2011: I agree ... we see a lot of posts here ... sometimes the poster just doesn't have the formal usage pattern.... I think it probably doesn't really mean anything.... (read in full...)
She says I should have sex with other woman, but I only want her!
Q. I have a simple, but somewhat complicated issue I've working things out with my ex, she doesn't really view herself as someone who can fulfill my desires, we live two and a half hours from each other. She says she'll remain loving and give me the ...
A. 24 November 2011: The bottom line is you aren't suited for each other, sexually or emotionally. you may care for each other a great deal, but you are not a good match. That happens. It isn't anyone's fault.
I think the wise choice would be to let her go fight her ... (read in full...)
She says I should have sex with other woman, but I only want her!
Q. I have a simple, but somewhat complicated issue I've working things out with my ex, she doesn't really view herself as someone who can fulfill my desires, we live two and a half hours from each other. She says she'll remain loving and give me the ...
A. 24 November 2011: I agree with Abella, she can't force you to have sex with someone else if you don't wish to do so.
It sounds like she's expecting you to do it, so she can see her self-fulfilling prophecy of being cheated on realized.
Maybe it is for the best tha... (read in full...)
Can my new Facebook friend be trusted? Should I send him the picture he wants?
Q. I met a guy on Facebook, he said he likes me, he is really nice and sweet. But there's something weird about him, he wants me to send him my picture but he doesn't want to give me his phone number. He said he is just being careful and I'm being ...
A. 24 November 2011: I think you are being idiotic if you think this is okay or normal or in any way sensible. Ask your mother what she thinks. Yeah, I thought so. She doesn't know you're flirting with a guy who has only girls as friends on his FB. He's a creepo.
N... (read in full...)
I took a risk and I think I messed it up!
Q. Ok, so there's this guy. :) I haven't really noticed him until the day I caught him staring at me. Since then, I've turned into a complete different. I do things to make him notice me like walk more in front of him and stare at me (sounds weird). ...
A. 24 November 2011: Is there some reason you can't simply talk to him? Instead of walking around in front of him hoping he'll notice you? Just talk, say 'hi, I think you know my friend Gail,' and go from there?... (read in full...)
I want to talk to this stunning woman on the train but don't know how!
Q. Ok most days going into work I see the most stunning woman on the train, and I can't seem to get to talk to her. I've tried the old sit opposite and try and make eye contact and smile stuff, but she's always got her head buried in The Times (or on...
A. 24 November 2011: And if you really are interested in seeing her, get up earlier. :)... (read in full...)
I want to talk to this stunning woman on the train but don't know how!
Q. Ok most days going into work I see the most stunning woman on the train, and I can't seem to get to talk to her. I've tried the old sit opposite and try and make eye contact and smile stuff, but she's always got her head buried in The Times (or on...
A. 24 November 2011: I've been on London trains, they aren't that different.
Leave the free copy of the Metro for the next person and ask if you can read her Times. That's pretty bold but if she's seen you for many months, you aren't an absolute unknown to her.
If yo... (read in full...)
Is a 30 year old man too old for a girl of 19?
Q. Ok so I met a guy in April met at a nightclub he was 24 we hit it off got together but within about a month weird things started uhappening he kept having serious accidents I couldn't get thru to his phone he could only call me he claimed it was a ...
A. 23 November 2011: He's one slick liar! I think he's married too. Lots and lots of creative lies. Follow him home one day. I expect you'll be unpleasantly surprised.... (read in full...)
Drunken night led to sex with college mate and now I don't know how to handle seeing him!
Q. oh dear I have really made a HUGE mistake. I'm a mature student, and on a night out recently I slept with one of my peers. I rarely drink (holidays and special occasions) and this evening I was totally out of character and got so terribly te...
A. 23 November 2011: I think you did very well; it sounds as though you've handled the awkward situation as best it could be managed. I hope the doctor's result is all clear. Then this will all be a distant memory. Good luck with your studies!... (read in full...)
How can I make sex feel as good as masturbation?
Q. Since I was 3 or 4, before I even knew anything about sex, I've performed a type of masturbation where I'm on either my side or my belly with my legs crossed and rub myself aggressively with both hands. I'm 18 now and still do it. It feels ...
A. 23 November 2011: I think part of it is the muscle contraction of your legs. You're engaging your pelvic floor as well. The thing I think some women fail to take into account when they can't reach orgasm is that it is an active state of muscle use, not simply lying ... (read in full...)
How can I be more confident and stop these negative thoughts?
Q. have not had the best time in terms of my confidence and negative thoughts etc. but, alot of good positive things have happened over the past year or so that have changed my mindset/made me feel good/learn alot about myself a bit. I am at a stage ...
A. 23 November 2011: Good for you for trying to move forward and get past this. I suggest you research cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) as this may help you manage your negative thinking and improve your thought processes. I have a link that will give you a start in ... (read in full...)
How can I stop these sexual feelings towards my teacher?
Q. I'm an 19 years old girl , I loved my teacher since i was 14 , everyone said it was a crush but it was not , i couldn't understand why i loved her , i was crazy about her , loved school just because of her , my teacher loved me also she exepted ...
A. 23 November 2011: It's been 5 YEARS? Time to see someone about this, I'm afraid, if this is bothering you so much. Perhaps research something called "limerence" http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Limerence and see a psychiatrist. It may some sort of form of obsessive ... (read in full...)
He hit me, but I still think about him...
Q. Here it goes... I am a 21-year-old, single mother at this point. My current ex is the father of my child. In the beginning of our relationship, he was kind, caring, sweet, loving and good to me. However, we did have our problems. I cheated on ...
A. 23 November 2011: I expect what you are feeling for is the loss of your idea of what he could have been to you. He turned out to be violent, and with your past history of an abusive relationship, perhaps you are selecting men who are abusers. You did have happy times ... (read in full...)
Career vs Love - what comes first?
Q. What's more important? • a career that pays $10k more than you currently earn... With greater responsibility and pressure. Or... • being in a loving relationship, building your own home and having a future with somebody that loves you? Your wag...
A. 23 November 2011: In my 20s, option A. In my 30s, option B.... (read in full...)
What was this - friends with a little bit of benefits?
Q. I have a question about friends with benefits (FWB). My wife and I watched the movie 'Friends with Benefits' about 2 weeks ago. This past weekend we were at some of our friends home, and the topic of this movie came up. I just casually said, yep, ...
A. 23 November 2011: Yeah, I didn't think you'd come back with a followup. You were just continuing your little campaign of humiliation.
The point is that you chose a public forum to decide to humiliate her, and this was a point you could have discussed and deci... (read in full...)
How can I become emotionally stronger?
Q. My boyfriend advices me to be emotionally strong because of my past reactions to many situations.and whenever i have a problem that I share with him (about any difficulty outside our relationship or a problem I have related to him) ..he begins to ...
A. 23 November 2011: You sound pretty normal to me. The one with expectations seems to be your boyfriend?
To break down your question into manageable chunks:
"My boyfriend advices me to be emotionally strong because of my past reactions to many situations.and whenever... (read in full...)
I want to talk to this stunning woman on the train but don't know how!
Q. Ok most days going into work I see the most stunning woman on the train, and I can't seem to get to talk to her. I've tried the old sit opposite and try and make eye contact and smile stuff, but she's always got her head buried in The Times (or on...
A. 22 November 2011: She's got her head buried in The Times because she's a stunning woman and has been hit on many times. Person12345 and Celtic Tiger have her pegged, I think.
Ask her if you can read her paper when she's done and make a comment on a story in the pape... (read in full...)
Should I move in with b/f? Feelings are conflicted
Q. I am on placement in the city and he is in his graduate job so we are both hardworking adults in our 20s (I am 21 he is 22). He keeps mentioning us moving in together when I graduate, even looking at places we could potentially live (this would be ...
A. 22 November 2011: I'd simply say that while you appreciate his feelings on moving in together and his desire to support you, that you can't make those kinds of long-term plans at this point in your life.
Tell him you're happy to discuss what it would be like but are ... (read in full...)
How can I encourage my depressed ex to get help?
Q. dear cupid, what is the best way to convince a depressed person to get help? my ex-boyfriend is currently struggling with depression; that's what caused him to end our relationship, and he's kind of getting distant from his family, too. i r...
A. 22 November 2011: There's not really any way to convince a depressed person to seek help. All you can do is talk about how depression is a medical condition and deserves to be treated by a doctor with an appropriate diagnosis and treatment. Do call for help if you ... (read in full...)
Drunken night led to sex with college mate and now I don't know how to handle seeing him!
Q. oh dear I have really made a HUGE mistake. I'm a mature student, and on a night out recently I slept with one of my peers. I rarely drink (holidays and special occasions) and this evening I was totally out of character and got so terribly te...
A. 22 November 2011: If you can't remember anything, how do you know if protection was used, as in a condom? You should make an appointment with your doctor and have a quick check, a guy who sleeps around may have given you something. Also, depending on the timing, Plan ... (read in full...)
Help! Does he love me or is he just using me for sex?
Q. hey everyone I have been friends with a guy for three years and we finally got together seven months ago (life was good) ...we started have a sexual relationship about three months ago, i am just abit worried that he doesnt love me anymore and just...
A. 22 November 2011: What does 'in his own way' mean, exactly? Does that mean he decides to do nice things for you on his own schedule or does that mean he calls you when he wants to see you but doesn't set up proper dates?
If you're having doubts, it's either your expe... (read in full...)
Tis the season...
Q. Hello Everyone. Here at Dear Cupid we receive many requests for help. Some are serious relationship problems, others aren't quite so serious. One such question is "What should I get my significant other for Christmas?" I intend to give you some ...
A. 22 November 2011: You can also go to this page: http://www.dearcupid.org/search and type in "Christmas present ideas" or "gift ideas needed" and you'll get plenty of posts too!... (read in full...)
What was this - friends with a little bit of benefits?
Q. I have a question about friends with benefits (FWB). My wife and I watched the movie 'Friends with Benefits' about 2 weeks ago. This past weekend we were at some of our friends home, and the topic of this movie came up. I just casually said, yep, ...
A. 22 November 2011: Your wife's sexual history is not something you get to disclose to anyone, and especially not in a group setting.
You deliberately chose to humiliate and embarrass her. That was cruel and mean of you. Are you angry at her for some reason?
You o... (read in full...)
Tis the season...
Q. Hello Everyone. Here at Dear Cupid we receive many requests for help. Some are serious relationship problems, others aren't quite so serious. One such question is "What should I get my significant other for Christmas?" I intend to give you some ...
A. 10 December 2010: I have a great thread to post here for people who might need a lot of ideas: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-kind-of-a-christmas-present-can-i.html
Thanks for keeping us merry and bright. :D... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 26 July 2010: So did you actually talk to someone about the 'ducks'? Or was your comment more meant to keep me from asking more? What concrete steps have you taken to protect your interests, financially?... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 13 July 2010: Thank you for the update. How are those ducks?... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 7 July 2010: It occurred to me that she might be keeping tabs on you through other people and knows more about your state of mind than you think. If you've been open about your feelings of desperation, then she knows you're still off balance from this.
I want... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 7 July 2010: My husband says I'm a lateral thinker. Whatever that means. But I just started wondering about mutual friends. Who were her friends here in the US, are you talking to them and are they in contact with her?
I'm sorry, the fact that she's gone home... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 6 July 2010: I know I'm late to this discussion, but have you seen a divorce lawyer yet?There's a lot of things that could sneak up and surprise you financially. I'd go just to develop a strategy to maintain the best financial outcome for you. Plan for the ... (read in full...)
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