My girlfriend has had threesomes in the past and it's eating me up!
Q. Hi all 1st time here and just looking for some advice. I'm with my girlfriend of 10 years. A few years back myself and my girlfriend broke up for a while. During this time she had thresomes, one with two other females and another two with 1 f...
A. 7 September 2010: It sounds like you are suffering from something we usually call retroactive jealousy. This is an article about it:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/retrograde-jealousy.html
I normally do not recommend threesomes in a relationship, bu... (read in full...)
My wife likes to be completely dominated, and while I enjoy this there are a few things worrying me about this.....
Q. the back story... After 8 years of marriage my wife has suddenly discovered that she likes to be completely and utterly dominated. She has always been that way to a point however now she wants to take it to a whole other level. She likes it when I h...
A. 7 September 2010: It sounds like you have unlocked something she really desired. And also that you are taking the responsibility and trust very seriously. That's great. I really hope it works out for you. I suspect it will.
I would love to hear back on how you ... (read in full...)
I can't stand that my boyfriend smokes marijuana. what do I do?
Q. So this summer my boyfriend of over a year has recently started trying drugs and partying, etc. He's a year older than me, so he's off at college and doing more stuff. This really really bugs me, as an understatement. I can't even describe how much ...
A. 6 September 2010: I guess I should add that I live in Amsterdam, The Netherlands, where attitudes towards marijuana are quite different from more conservative countries.
I should also add that despite marijuana being available for sale openly in shops in The Neth... (read in full...)
Shaved, trimmed or natural?
Q. What do guys prefer? Shaved, trimmed or natural? ...
A. 6 September 2010: I prefer trimmed very short, but not all gone. Well fully shaved is totally fine too, but the former is preferable give the choice.... (read in full...)
I can't stand that my boyfriend smokes marijuana. what do I do?
Q. So this summer my boyfriend of over a year has recently started trying drugs and partying, etc. He's a year older than me, so he's off at college and doing more stuff. This really really bugs me, as an understatement. I can't even describe how much ...
A. 6 September 2010: "I've listened to his stories and tried to act like i don't care as long as he doesn't do anything stupid"
Why have you tried to act like you don't care? You'll have given him really mixed messages. For a relationship to work you have to be hones... (read in full...)
Should I be friend with my ex on facebook?
Q. I am attached now. And the previous guy who have betrayed me in a relationship broke up now and wanted to be just friends with me. I don't know if I should be forgiving and accept him as a friend in my facebook again?...
A. 6 September 2010: I'd suggest no. Mainly because your current boyfriend isn't going to like it. And this guy betrayed you... he's not worth keeping in your life... (read in full...)
Evidence that he's looked at escort sites and had a Craiglist ad
Q. Hi everyone. Have been reading the site because I'm just so lost right now. I ended things with my boyfriend of 10 months earlier this week. There have been some trust issues in the past which I guess is what led up to this. This past Tues...
A. 6 September 2010: @Flipper66 - spam with your own address in the from field is common. But these also contained attachments of a photo of himself! That seems inexplicable, or at least vastly less likely than the other possible reason: ie that he sent them.... (read in full...)
For those of you into BDSM, how did you start?
Q. Thanks to some recent events and meeting the right person, I'm beginning to think that's where I'm headed. So I'm curious: for those of you who are into bdsm (especially bottoms), how did you get started? Was it a progression (e.g. light span...
A. 5 September 2010: For this question you are probably best off going to one of the various bdsm community sites online.
I would recommend going very slowly to start with. The most important thing is to have strong trust between you and your partner. ... (read in full...)
Evidence that he's looked at escort sites and had a Craiglist ad
Q. Hi everyone. Have been reading the site because I'm just so lost right now. I ended things with my boyfriend of 10 months earlier this week. There have been some trust issues in the past which I guess is what led up to this. This past Tues...
A. 5 September 2010: As you say, a hacked computer wouldn't leave outgoing emails from him, with his photo attached, in the trash. No way.
It's a shame he can't come clean when his lie is so absurd.
It sounds very much like you've done the right thing in leaving... (read in full...)
How do you tell your boyfriend he is being too rough with oral?
Q. How do you tell your boyfriend he is being too rough with oral? ...
A. 4 September 2010: You just have to come out and tell him. Try not to make it sound like a criticism (unless the sex really is bad) - something like: 'I love having sex with you, but with oral sex you are being a bit too rough with me'.
If you're struggling to be ab... (read in full...)
My wife likes to be completely dominated, and while I enjoy this there are a few things worrying me about this.....
Q. the back story... After 8 years of marriage my wife has suddenly discovered that she likes to be completely and utterly dominated. She has always been that way to a point however now she wants to take it to a whole other level. She likes it when I h...
A. 2 September 2010: That's really good to hear :)... (read in full...)
Long distance skype hookup advice
Q. my girlfriend just left for college about a month ago and we decided to have a long distance relationship. I am a really sexual person and not seeing her in person has been tough. I want to try sexually experimenting with skype. I think it might be ...
A. 2 September 2010: Just get used to talking to her on skype video until you are both very comfortable with it. Then you can start talking about sex, and see what happens... (read in full...)
What should he eat so it can taster better?
Q. okay I finally let my husband cum in my mouth last night it was fun wacthing him helpless feeling the great sensation he felt... it was a hard core turn on for me too.... hahahaha but what can he eat or change eating so his magic juice can taste ...
A. 2 September 2010: Yes indeed :) Just got geographic issues to contend with. Where is q when you need him?... (read in full...)
My wife likes to be completely dominated, and while I enjoy this there are a few things worrying me about this.....
Q. the back story... After 8 years of marriage my wife has suddenly discovered that she likes to be completely and utterly dominated. She has always been that way to a point however now she wants to take it to a whole other level. She likes it when I h...
A. 2 September 2010: Everything said below could be true.
There could also be another side to this. Submission and domination can be positive and loving in a relationship if done in the 'right' way. It can represent an intense level of trust and intimacy that can be h... (read in full...)
What should he eat so it can taster better?
Q. okay I finally let my husband cum in my mouth last night it was fun wacthing him helpless feeling the great sensation he felt... it was a hard core turn on for me too.... hahahaha but what can he eat or change eating so his magic juice can taste ...
A. 2 September 2010: Day 1. Wheatgrass, peppermint, lemon, pineapple and honey.
Now just need to find a test subject...... (read in full...)
What is her problem? I have never seen this side to her before!
Q. I got married recently and I really regret inviting an ex colleague of mine which I thought was a friend! Since I've been back from honeymoon all she has done is slag off my wedding, not only to me but to some mutual friends and god knows who e...
A. 2 September 2010: She claims she doesn't believe in marriage.
Seems like her emotions have betrayed her on that one though.... (read in full...)
I can't clear my mind of the images of her past
Q. So I am yet another person who has retroactive jealousy. It has bothered me for about 7 months now, on a daily basis. I broke the bank by going to therapy but it proved essentially useless. I do have OCD and am trying to remedy that with various ...
A. 2 September 2010: It can work, but as you already know, OCD has a very strong connection to severe retroactive jealousy. You're going to have to tackle your OCD to also beat your retroactive jealousy most likely.
OCD takes time. Your relationship may not survive ... (read in full...)
What should he eat so it can taster better?
Q. okay I finally let my husband cum in my mouth last night it was fun wacthing him helpless feeling the great sensation he felt... it was a hard core turn on for me too.... hahahaha but what can he eat or change eating so his magic juice can taste ...
A. 1 September 2010: Sprayed your keyboard with pineapple juice? That stuff is sticky.... (read in full...)
What should he eat so it can taster better?
Q. okay I finally let my husband cum in my mouth last night it was fun wacthing him helpless feeling the great sensation he felt... it was a hard core turn on for me too.... hahahaha but what can he eat or change eating so his magic juice can taste ...
A. 1 September 2010: I hope so too... (read in full...)
What should he eat so it can taster better?
Q. okay I finally let my husband cum in my mouth last night it was fun wacthing him helpless feeling the great sensation he felt... it was a hard core turn on for me too.... hahahaha but what can he eat or change eating so his magic juice can taste ...
A. 1 September 2010: All this talk of q's product gave an idea for a different product:
http://dl.dropbox.com/u/10866745/thegulp.jpg... (read in full...)
What should he eat so it can taster better?
Q. okay I finally let my husband cum in my mouth last night it was fun wacthing him helpless feeling the great sensation he felt... it was a hard core turn on for me too.... hahahaha but what can he eat or change eating so his magic juice can taste ...
A. 1 September 2010: "Keep him off nuts.. nuts help him to produce more of the stuff"
And I thought it was 'nuts' that produced the stuff in the first place. Oh wait. Wrong kind of nuts... (read in full...)
What should he eat so it can taster better?
Q. okay I finally let my husband cum in my mouth last night it was fun wacthing him helpless feeling the great sensation he felt... it was a hard core turn on for me too.... hahahaha but what can he eat or change eating so his magic juice can taste ...
A. 1 September 2010: Really Gabrielle? If you have your results in the right format, could you upload them to a google docs spreadsheet and share them with me? :)
I'm thinking a well written report would be very popular and useful! I am an occasional graphic designer... (read in full...)
What should he eat so it can taster better?
Q. okay I finally let my husband cum in my mouth last night it was fun wacthing him helpless feeling the great sensation he felt... it was a hard core turn on for me too.... hahahaha but what can he eat or change eating so his magic juice can taste ...
A. 1 September 2010: This would make an entertaining scientific research project... (read in full...)
Struggling with my wife’s past.....
Q. Hi I have been married for 3 years, and been in the relationship for 5 years. Before we got married, my wife told me about her past, the number of guys she has slept with which is 4.When she told me I felt uncomfortable proceeding with ...
A. 1 September 2010: Do you realize that 4 is a very low number by average standards? If you divorce her, finding a women with less than 4 partners is almost impossible, and you will likely have to 'settle' for someone with more.
I suggest you read this article:... (read in full...)
Retroactive jealousy regarding my wife! How do I deal with it?
Q. Hi, I need to ask you all about my wife. She has a very sexually chequered past that haunts me, but to be honest, at other times turns me on too. What I need to know is how to deal with it and get over it. She is a beautiful woman, 30yrs old ...
A. 31 August 2010: I understand where you guys are coming from. In my darkest days of retroactive jealousy I was at the true edge of madness. I thought I was in the process of permanently losing my mind. A level of mental anguish I didn't realize as possible for ... (read in full...)
How can he think his behavior is acceptable?
Q. Im fuming! Me and bf were meant to be doing something today.... i text him this morning saying what did he want to do later on and that was 5 hours ago, its now 3pm and ive not heard from him. I have also called him once and no answer. He seems to ...
A. 30 August 2010: Is it possible his phone is broken, out of power, lost, or he forgot to pay his bill? Is it possible he is caught up an urgent problem at work and can't get away? Is it possible he's looking forward to tonight but doesn't know what he wants to do ... (read in full...)
My Boyfriend wont change his facebook status to "in a relationship"
Q. Living in this era everyone who is in a relationship would like to put their relationship status as in the relationship with your partner right? I have been with my boyfriend for 6months now and whenever I ask him to declare as "in a relationsh...
A. 30 August 2010: Facebook is just a website. Think for a moment, isn't it silly that you're pressuring your boyfriend to display his relationship on some website? It's JUST a website.
Relationships are personal and private things. Displaying it on facebook... (read in full...)
My Boyfriend wont change his facebook status to "in a relationship"
Q. Living in this era everyone who is in a relationship would like to put their relationship status as in the relationship with your partner right? I have been with my boyfriend for 6months now and whenever I ask him to declare as "in a relationsh...
A. 30 August 2010: I would never put my relationship status on Facebook - exept perhaps 'married'. Facebook is a 'public space' and my relationship status is personal.
I think he's being perfectly reasonable.
I would add that the majority of my friends don't sh... (read in full...)
She won't swallow!! Help!
Q. How after 5 years of great sex do I get my girlfriend to swallow? I return the faver to her in every way..oral sex, anal licking, she dose not like oral sex on her but she lets me preform it on her every so often and enjoys it most of the time. She ...
A. 29 August 2010: She let's you come in her mouth. That's 99% of the pleasure for you right there. Just look the other way when she spits it out if it matters so much. Or if you really want it swallowed, have her spit it into your mouth and you swallow it and see how ... (read in full...)
Why do all the men in my life turn to porn?
Q. LONG story short: My boyfriend is great and I love him dearly. But (there's always a but, right?) I found porn on my computer and now I'm having trust issues. I confronted him and he has stopped (for 8 months now). I just can't quit thinking ab...
A. 29 August 2010: Have the grace to accept that others may hold different opinions than yours without taking it as a personal affront. Also know that the more you insult each other the more it undermines both your arguments in the eyes of the rest of us. Calm ... (read in full...)
Retroactive jealousy regarding my wife! How do I deal with it?
Q. Hi, I need to ask you all about my wife. She has a very sexually chequered past that haunts me, but to be honest, at other times turns me on too. What I need to know is how to deal with it and get over it. She is a beautiful woman, 30yrs old ...
A. 29 August 2010: I understand why the sauna thing would hurt you.
At the article suggests, you need to teach yourself to not focus on the images when they appear, to break the obsessive cycle. This takes time, patience and perseverance on your part.
In the ... (read in full...)
Retroactive jealousy regarding my wife! How do I deal with it?
Q. Hi, I need to ask you all about my wife. She has a very sexually chequered past that haunts me, but to be honest, at other times turns me on too. What I need to know is how to deal with it and get over it. She is a beautiful woman, 30yrs old ...
A. 29 August 2010: You have my sympathy. I've been there and know how terrible these images and feelings can be. I can say that I believe it is possible to overcome this, although it is difficult and will take great effort on your part.
I highly recommend you read... (read in full...)
It took me a while to orgasm? what can I do to make it faster?
Q. My boyfriend just gave me an orgasm last night! Initially i had given up that maybe its only me who can give myself an orgasm but he did it last night.It was through oral sex.We've been having sex for 6months now and he's been going down on me since ...
A. 29 August 2010: Say it ain't so Miamine!
Some men perhaps :)... (read in full...)
He takes forever to ejaculate!! What's wrong..is it me?
Q. help! me and my boyfriend have been together for 10 months now and everytime we have sex, he takes forever to ejaculate. Is it me ? Am i doing something wrong! He always says he loves it when were done but still it takes awhile... Help?!...
A. 29 August 2010: As the others have said he could be waiting for you.
He could also have some kind of anxiety about orgasm. This may be messing with his head. In this case, helping him feel relaxed can help.
Or he could just be masturbating a lot, and also po... (read in full...)
Getting married and just found out boyfriend doesn't believe in any kind of birth control!
Q. Hello everyone. I feel like my problem is a bit weird and I don't want to go to my friends or family with this, so I'm coming to you guys. Anyway, I'll be getting married this December. My fiance and I made the decision to wait until our wedding ...
A. 29 August 2010: I'm stunned he didn't mention this earlier. Something so extreme!
Contraception is one of the fundamental rights of women in the 21st century, probably THE fundamental right. If you look around the world you can see what I mean.
Where there i... (read in full...)
Having trouble staying interested in straight sex with my wife
Q. I have been faithful to my wife for the better part of two decades. I love her very much. Physically, however, I find myself having grown very bored with "regular" sex over the last few years. When we have sex, I have to fantacise to get into it. ...
A. 28 August 2010: For a contrast to some of the answers below, I've always believed in (and had success with) direct and clear communication about sexual desires. I'm not saying make demands, nor make her feel obligated. But explaining clearly how you are feeling in ... (read in full...)
My parents control me
Q. My I am a 19yr old girl and my parents control me the funny thing is they act as though they are not doin it.My dad alwats says that i could have a boyfriend but not right now and that i dont need a bf right now.My mom is racial and does not like ...
A. 27 August 2010: Reading this, I'm not really sure what your question is.
You are 19. Have you considered moving out of your parents home? Can you go to university, or get a job and rent a place to live with some friends? It sounds to me that's going to be a sim... (read in full...)
Horny girls?
Q. At what age are girls the horniest? And how can u make a shy guy horny?...
A. 27 August 2010: In my experience, from about age 35+... (read in full...)
How can I Improve my posture? does it show a bad impact on my personality?
Q. how can i improve my posture?walk with bent shoulder just like olders...it shows a bad impect for my personality ?...
A. 27 August 2010: Look for some classes in something called 'Alexander Technique'. This is exactly what it's for, and it works. ... (read in full...)
Have a big penis and don't know where to put it.
Q. Im a 20 year old guy who has kind of a wierd problem or dilema. The problem is that I have an above average size penis(8 inches long and almost 6 inches around(its true, Im not kidding)) and I just have no place to put it in my pants. Sometimes ...
A. 26 August 2010: Gabrielle!! Funny :)
As for the problem: get fairly tight underwear and baggy trousers. ... (read in full...)
Is this normal after anal sex?
Q. My husband and i have been sexually active together for over 15 years. We enjoy it, and have sex 6-8 times a week. We're not porn addicts or sex addicts or anything, we just love sex. We have been having anal sex a lot more over the past few years. ...
A. 26 August 2010: The last (anon) poster, just below this, is right. It's perfectly normal, and nothing to worry about. I suspect your husband finds it a turn on too.
However, if it grosses you out: well, it's up to you whether you want to continue doing it or no... (read in full...)
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