Why does my wife insist on lying about my penis size?
Q. As I have said on previous posts, my wife has had about of 25 sexual partners before me (we met each other when she was 40). She is a very well educated and very kind person. At the begining we were very open during our conversations and at that ...
A. 8 January 2013: "Please remember that you are smaller or bigger in comparison to others. "
Ah ok. You have developed an obsession with her having had sex with some guys with larger dicks than you.
There's a few things you can do:
- Deal with your obsession... (read in full...)
Why does my wife insist on lying about my penis size?
Q. As I have said on previous posts, my wife has had about of 25 sexual partners before me (we met each other when she was 40). She is a very well educated and very kind person. At the begining we were very open during our conversations and at that ...
A. 6 January 2013: " I think there is no such thing like "average". You are small, very small, big or very big"
No there is very much such a thing as average. There is: very small, small, average, big, very big.
You've managed to convince yourself of some... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has not treated me right since he discovered I had a one night stand before dating him. Do I end things?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a few years and we are getting married soon. At the beginning, he was really sweet, caring and understanding. The kind of guy that I have always wished for. However, one day, I told him that I had an one ...
A. 6 January 2013: It's part of human nature (in our genes) that men prefer woman who are younger, more virginal and more attractive as their primary mate. In the same way women (in their genes) prefer men who are more confident, stronger, smarter and funnier. That's ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has not treated me right since he discovered I had a one night stand before dating him. Do I end things?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a few years and we are getting married soon. At the beginning, he was really sweet, caring and understanding. The kind of guy that I have always wished for. However, one day, I told him that I had an one ...
A. 4 January 2013: I think we can call this post well and truly hi-jacked. Apologies to our original poster.
"If anything behavioral was an evolutionary adaptation, it would not vary wildly depending on where you are in the world and what period of history you are ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has not treated me right since he discovered I had a one night stand before dating him. Do I end things?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a few years and we are getting married soon. At the beginning, he was really sweet, caring and understanding. The kind of guy that I have always wished for. However, one day, I told him that I had an one ...
A. 4 January 2013: Much new science is laughed at by the establishment until in a sudden burst of embarrassment they have to accept and adapt to it. It's not so long ago we burned people at the stake for saying the world went around the sun. That many contemporary ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has not treated me right since he discovered I had a one night stand before dating him. Do I end things?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a few years and we are getting married soon. At the beginning, he was really sweet, caring and understanding. The kind of guy that I have always wished for. However, one day, I told him that I had an one ...
A. 4 January 2013: For me this fundamentally comes down to making choices: exercising our free will.
When you're experiencing negative emotions, resentment and jealousy towards your partner you are facing a choice.
You can give in to the feelings: and bl... (read in full...)
How can I ask him for another hookup without sounding slutty or needy?
Q. After coming out of a very serious relationship and getting my heart broken i've decided to swear off realtionships for a while and just have fun. So basically at a party I hooked up with one of my male friends and we had pretty awesome sex. The ...
A. 4 January 2013: "I've decided to swear off realtionships for a while and just have fun."
"The thing is, I want to do it again."
Doing it again is what leads to a relationship unfortunately (or is that fortunately?)... (read in full...)
I had sex with a random guy to get over my ex and now I feel so ashamed....
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend, first love, and the guy i lost my virginity to a few weeks ago and i still feel incrediblely heart broken. I went to a party and drunk loads to try and forget about it and ended up having sex with a random guy. I feel ...
A. 3 January 2013: Some girls in your situation do that with 10 guys before they realize they're on a losing path. Count yourself lucky you learned after one and don't don't don't do it again. You're not a slut if you stop now, not at all. ... (read in full...)
Why does my wife insist on lying about my penis size?
Q. As I have said on previous posts, my wife has had about of 25 sexual partners before me (we met each other when she was 40). She is a very well educated and very kind person. At the begining we were very open during our conversations and at that ...
A. 3 January 2013: Dude, 5.5 inches is the exact average. Your penis is the very definition of normal.
Men feel about penis size the way women feel about weight. Women always want to be a bit skinnier and men always want to be a bit larger. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has not treated me right since he discovered I had a one night stand before dating him. Do I end things?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a few years and we are getting married soon. At the beginning, he was really sweet, caring and understanding. The kind of guy that I have always wished for. However, one day, I told him that I had an one ...
A. 3 January 2013: If we had to be pressure free to love someone no one would ever be in love. It's the hard times that really tell us whether we are in love, not the easy ones.
He's just making excuses.
It's really very simple: he's entitled to negative feel... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has not treated me right since he discovered I had a one night stand before dating him. Do I end things?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a few years and we are getting married soon. At the beginning, he was really sweet, caring and understanding. The kind of guy that I have always wished for. However, one day, I told him that I had an one ...
A. 3 January 2013: It sounds like it's still bugging him but he's not mentioning it. I suggest giving him an ultimatum: either drop it entirely and stop harboring resentment, or threaten to leave him. He's not going to return to the way he was unless he really ... (read in full...)
Please share your thoughts on my situation with sex with my husband.
Q. My husband says that he mentally tries to delay his own orgasm and I wish he wouldn't because my body can't take it. Pleasuring him goes on so long that I dread sex. Rather than delaying his orgasm LESS he gives me suggestions on how I could last ...
A. 2 January 2013: The problem here is simple: you don't enjoy sex with your husband. It's not about finding ways for home to have less and quicker sex with you. Is about fixing the fundamental problem: finding a way for you both to enjoy sex.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's past threesome never bothered me before but now it does
Q. I've been seeing this girl for about a year now. She told me about 6 months ago that she had been involved in a threesome. It'd happened about 15 years ago. It honestly didn't really bother me at all. I know girls experiment and everything and it ...
A. 1 January 2013: It's normal to not like hearing this.
Don't blame yourself for yor reaction. But now see if you can let it go. ... (read in full...)
Retroactive Jealousy is the brain cancer of happy relationships...and I'm on my deathbed-
Q. I won't bore everyone with the same old story here because the problem here has been identified and well answered by many kind people and suffering men. I suffer severely from retroactive jealousy and have immersed myself in tortured thought...
A. 20 December 2012: It sounds like you have it bad. You have my sympathy.
The good news is that you have identified the problem. You also are not blaming her, and rationally recognize that what she did is not that bad, all things considered.
You don't need to fe... (read in full...)
Anyone know this average?
Q. What is the average number of men a 26 yr old girl has slept with?...
A. 17 December 2012: "Average" can be very misleading. Just like "normal". For this particular number the mean and the median are probably rather different ... (read in full...)
Thoughts regarding retrograde jealousy....is a person's past really not any of the current relationship's business?
Q. An observation from a straight guy: I CALL BULLSHIT on people who claim that lovers are not accountable for how their sexual past is non of their current relationship's business. What if you only ever had one girlfriend, and before she met y...
A. 15 December 2012: When you say holding someone 'accountable' for their sexual history I read punishing them.
And I just can't condone that ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has stood me up 4 times in the past 3 weeks.
Q. I need some outside advice... We've dated for over 2 years now. My girlfriend has stood me up 4 times in the past 3 weeks. Each time, she had what sounds and feels like a reasonable excuse why it happened. First time, she had fallen asle...
A. 15 December 2012: You are assuming women are reasonable. They are frequently not. Or at least not in the way men mean "reasonable."
You seem unwilling to follow the advice being given here. Too bad. ... (read in full...)
Was it wrong of me to tell my boyfriend to touch another part of my body as I don't enjoy him fingering me?
Q. Sex Question: I have been with my boyfriend for about two years and we have a great sex life. The one thing that I do not really like is when he fingers me. Everything else is great,but I feel like he can be a bit to aggressive in that department ...
A. 13 December 2012: "We have kind of talked about this but I don't think he really gets it."
Actually it's not TMI, it's not enough I.
You need to do more than kind of talk about it, you need to really talk about it. Embarrassing and difficult, but it's how you... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has stood me up 4 times in the past 3 weeks.
Q. I need some outside advice... We've dated for over 2 years now. My girlfriend has stood me up 4 times in the past 3 weeks. Each time, she had what sounds and feels like a reasonable excuse why it happened. First time, she had fallen asle...
A. 13 December 2012:
Candid Cally and Ciar both give really good advice, read it carefully:
"You are contributing to her stress by telling her you are upset with her because these stressful things in her life ruined your plans"
"You have got to learn to be more ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has stood me up 4 times in the past 3 weeks.
Q. I need some outside advice... We've dated for over 2 years now. My girlfriend has stood me up 4 times in the past 3 weeks. Each time, she had what sounds and feels like a reasonable excuse why it happened. First time, she had fallen asle...
A. 12 December 2012: I suggest you back off. Leave her some space. Don't make plans to see her. Focus on doing stuff you enjoy: see friends, have fun.
That will help you with your self worth. And it will also change the dynamic between you and your girlfrie... (read in full...)
My bf wants pics of me should I send them?
Q. Hi Recently my bf asked me to send pics of myself in underwear I love him and trust him and I want to do it... its not I don't feel comfortable with it and he said if I don't want to do it its fine but I don't want him thinking I am some kind...
A. 12 December 2012: You're not stupid. The opposite: you are smart enough to come here and ask for advice. And smart enough to have already known what the best thing to do is.
People just make a lot of noise sometimes because they are concerned. If there's one thin... (read in full...)
My bf wants pics of me should I send them?
Q. Hi Recently my bf asked me to send pics of myself in underwear I love him and trust him and I want to do it... its not I don't feel comfortable with it and he said if I don't want to do it its fine but I don't want him thinking I am some kind...
A. 11 December 2012: You don't sound happy :( People are just making such a big deal because it happens here every few days that a girl in your situation comes on this site having shared photos, and then they've got loose.
Imagine this: they're on your boyfrien... (read in full...)
Why is my husband into this kind of disgusting porn?
Q. My husband and I have been married for 15 years. I have always been aware that he watched porn (before marriage). The first time I found a video I threw it away, and I didn't say anything to him about it and neither did he. Needless to say he got ...
A. 11 December 2012: "I understand addiction, I am actually in NA, been off pills for 5 years. I know the lengths addicts will go to on order to get what they want."
It sounds like he has some level of addiction to porn. Your experience will give you a great understa... (read in full...)
Should I allow my boyfriend to do something sexually that I'm not comfortable with?
Q. My boyfriend of over a year keeps asking me to let him cum on my face... We've done literally everything else and I feel he should be happy with all the stuff we do. He just won't leave me alone about it. I think I would feel really disgusting and ...
A. 11 December 2012: "I truly think it's about watching too much porn. That being said have you ever asked him WHY it's so important to him?"
Monkey see monkey do.... (read in full...)
Why is my husband into this kind of disgusting porn?
Q. My husband and I have been married for 15 years. I have always been aware that he watched porn (before marriage). The first time I found a video I threw it away, and I didn't say anything to him about it and neither did he. Needless to say he got ...
A. 11 December 2012: He's probably been looking at porn for a long time. For many men porn gets less interesting /effective over time so they tend to increase the intensity. This means finding more and more extreme porn. It's the same process that a drug user takes more ... (read in full...)
Why can't I ejaculate when I'm with girls?
Q. Hi all, Just a quick question that has been bothering me for some time now. Ive slept with around 12 girls, mixture or sober and drunken experiences as you would expect, but only one of these girls has ever been able to make me ejaculate. Ha...
A. 10 December 2012: Well, perhaps you are just not attracted to them? Perhaps you are ending up in bed with them because you think that's what you should be doing and they are coming onto you? After all, what guy wouldn't sleep with a girl that offers herself to him?
... (read in full...)
Should I allow my boyfriend to do something sexually that I'm not comfortable with?
Q. My boyfriend of over a year keeps asking me to let him cum on my face... We've done literally everything else and I feel he should be happy with all the stuff we do. He just won't leave me alone about it. I think I would feel really disgusting and ...
A. 10 December 2012: Ughhh. Tell him porn is not reality. The women in porn do that because they get paid hundreds of dollars to do it.
"I always give in to him when I don't want to do anything but he does.".
Have a good think about that. Is that really how you w... (read in full...)
My sex life with my boyfriend of seven years is unsatisfying.
Q. I am 25 yrs old my boyfriend of 7 years just turned 24 and our sex life sucks we don't have one he sleeps all.day and plays video games all night we don't sleep together anymore when I'm in the mood he tells me I'm a freak to leave him alone he ...
A. 10 December 2012: It sounds like he's depressed, and addicted to video games. That will make him moody, aggressive, and uninterested in you. Tackle his depression and addiction and your relationship will improve.... (read in full...)
Does anyone feel shame after masturbating?
Q. I've read a lot of testimony from others about feelings of shame after masturbating, and I share a similar experience. However, I am only ashamed after thinking about or viewing certain things that under normal circumstances I would find morally ...
A. 10 December 2012: The link that person12345 is great, i suggest you read it. It talks in great detail about what you have mentioned: why we get turned on by degrading porn and then feel guilty afterwards. It also will tell you what the long term side effects of this ... (read in full...)
Why can't I ejaculate when I'm with girls?
Q. Hi all, Just a quick question that has been bothering me for some time now. Ive slept with around 12 girls, mixture or sober and drunken experiences as you would expect, but only one of these girls has ever been able to make me ejaculate. Ha...
A. 10 December 2012: Do you masturbate to porn a lot? That could be a cause. The intensity / arousal of porn can be something you get adjusted to and a 'real girl' just won't do the job as a result. Strange but true. If you think it might be that check out 'delayed ... (read in full...)
The past is not always in the past and lies hurt!
Q. Ok this is more of a post rather than a question and I've been wanting to post this for awhile and feel I want to be an advocate to those that have been hurt and lied to and has damaged there lives so with that said here I go .thismay be all over ...
A. 10 December 2012: You are right. Lying is wrong, and lying to the person who is supposed to be the love of your life is terrible. Lying when you know that if you told the truth that person would not be with you is terrible.
Unfortunately this happens, and the prob... (read in full...)
Boyfriend uses porn to "practice". Should I be concerned?
Q. Me and my bf have been together for a little over a year. He occasionally watches porn when im not around. we dont live together...and only see each other about once a week. hes always honest, caring and loving and we have a great relationship. we ...
A. 10 December 2012: Porn is terrible practice for sex. Since when does sitting on a chair staring at a computer screen with one hand down your pants improve your ability to connect with someone?... (read in full...)
My bf wants pics of me should I send them?
Q. Hi Recently my bf asked me to send pics of myself in underwear I love him and trust him and I want to do it... its not I don't feel comfortable with it and he said if I don't want to do it its fine but I don't want him thinking I am some kind...
A. 10 December 2012: We see so many girls come on this site saying: "my bf asked me to send pics to him, then we broke up and he shared them with his friends. No everyone has them and laughing at me, and much worse. I can't go into school, I can't tell my parents, my ... (read in full...)
How can I ask my girlfriend to have anal sex with me?
Q. Hi, i need some advice from the ladies. I have a wonderful girlfriend and we love each other very much. I love her to bits and she is super hot. I would like to have anal sex with her, i noticed that when i touch her, or lick her there, it arous...
A. 10 December 2012: Ok i'm being misunderstood when I say ask when drunk, so i need to clarify.
What I mean is you want an honest answer from her. I said you could ask when you are both drunk, but at the same time out of the house somewhere. In a situation when you... (read in full...)
Worried because my hookup count is building up...
Q. Hello all, It's been more than half a year since I got out of my first and only relationship that lasted a good 1.5 years. And since the end of that relationship, I've had a good handful of drunken hookups. I've had three one night stands alr...
A. 9 December 2012: It sounds to me like you miss being in that relationship, and are substituting random hookups for the sex and intimacy you had in it. Which is a very normal thing to do, but in the end usually not healthy.
At the same time stop making excuses ... (read in full...)
How can I ask my girlfriend to have anal sex with me?
Q. Hi, i need some advice from the ladies. I have a wonderful girlfriend and we love each other very much. I love her to bits and she is super hot. I would like to have anal sex with her, i noticed that when i touch her, or lick her there, it arous...
A. 9 December 2012: Since she gets aroused when you touch her there she's quite possibly going to like it, even love it.
You can try just asking. Maybe wait till the two of you are out somewhere, and drunk. The advantage being: you're both drunk, so its easier, ... (read in full...)
What can I do? My husband focuses on details in an argument to avoid answering questions! Drives me nuts!
Q. My husband and I just got married in September, after being together two and a half years. We were driving home from his friends house the other night and talking about relationships and how funny people can get when they notice one small thing ab...
A. 8 December 2012: "How do I get him to not go so crazy over this? I'm trying to get over it and even though I brought it up, I wasn't trying to be rude about it, I was just clarifying."
Simple: don't talk about it. Don't bring it up. And if he does, change the subj... (read in full...)
My B/f cant keep his erection on during sex!
Q. Hey guys soo my boyfriend and I started having sex a 4 or 5 months ago. We've been consistent , maybe having sex like every other week on average... More or less. The thing is his boner sometimes just randomly go down randomly during sex, and we ...
A. 6 December 2012: This happens a lot to guys who have been brought up on a diet of internet porn from their early teens. It's probably the most common reason for this problem for guys of his age. This website has a lot of information on erectile disfunction caused by ... (read in full...)
Is he a player if he's busy on the weekend?
Q. Hi, I just met a lovely guy, he's South American and seems like the perfect guy. He's sweet, attentive, funny, complimentary etc. We met only 3 days ago and slept together on the first night - there was so much chemistry and we were both pretty ...
A. 6 December 2012: "I haven't fallen for him yet (although I could see that happening) but we just get along so well, it feels like we're really good friends already".
That's the thing. You've only just met. You may feel like really good friends, but you're not. You... (read in full...)
Is he a player if he's busy on the weekend?
Q. Hi, I just met a lovely guy, he's South American and seems like the perfect guy. He's sweet, attentive, funny, complimentary etc. We met only 3 days ago and slept together on the first night - there was so much chemistry and we were both pretty ...
A. 5 December 2012: "Research shows that sleeping with someone on the first night doesn't affect whether you end up with that person or not. "
I've read that research. I've also read a lot more research that suggests the opposite. It's not to say it doesn't happen t... (read in full...)
Why is there such a double standard regarding men's and women's sexuality?
Q. Hi, I am openly dating. And my brother seems to think that I am a potential hoe even though I do not have sex with these men. He's young and is influenced heavily by society and the media and the defintion of what a woman is "supposed" to normally ...
A. 5 December 2012: I've had similar experiences Cerberus. I live in Holland now, but have also lived in the USA and the UK.
"Imagine my surprize when I discovered if a Dutch or German etc. woman liked you she wouldn't hesitate to come over and talk to you. In our c... (read in full...)
Why is there such a double standard regarding men's and women's sexuality?
Q. Hi, I am openly dating. And my brother seems to think that I am a potential hoe even though I do not have sex with these men. He's young and is influenced heavily by society and the media and the defintion of what a woman is "supposed" to normally ...
A. 4 December 2012: "Feminism ignores that and it excuses the weaknesses of women and then finds the weaknesses of men unacceptable. To me that's a double standard."
Good post Cerberus and I agree with much of it. Except that my experience of feminists has not been... (read in full...)
Why is there such a double standard regarding men's and women's sexuality?
Q. Hi, I am openly dating. And my brother seems to think that I am a potential hoe even though I do not have sex with these men. He's young and is influenced heavily by society and the media and the defintion of what a woman is "supposed" to normally ...
A. 4 December 2012: "Feminism, along with past promiscuity, lying and cheating are total dealbreakers "
Wow. Well that goes to show how utterly misunderstood feminism is!
... (read in full...)
Was I wrong to end my long term relationship over my boyfriend's porn habits?
Q. I have always had a problem with my boyfriend’s porn use and we would get into fights about it where he would promise one day he would give it up when he was satisfied with our sex life. I would then promise to let it go and stop snooping on him. ...
A. 4 December 2012: " In my gut feeling, I felt like he wanted me to leave the house so that he could watch porn without having to worry about me walking in on him. I ended up expressing that fear/thought to him and he completely lost it and blew up at me."
Your ... (read in full...)
What gives girls the right to be angry with men who did not respond to their advances and rejected them in the past?
Q. A little over a month ago I moved back to my hometown after many years of absence. Since returning I have had a few "blast from the past" encounters (in the shape of eye contact and non-verbal communication only, mostly over the frozen chicken isle ...
A. 2 December 2012: The phrase 'Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned' has lasted 300 years for a good reason.... (read in full...)
Why is there such a double standard regarding men's and women's sexuality?
Q. Hi, I am openly dating. And my brother seems to think that I am a potential hoe even though I do not have sex with these men. He's young and is influenced heavily by society and the media and the defintion of what a woman is "supposed" to normally ...
A. 2 December 2012: This has turned into a really interesting discussion. However we're all falling into the trap of using 'straw man' arguments.
What is a straw man argument? It's when you hold up a 'straw man' that you can then beat down By design the straw ma... (read in full...)
Why is there such a double standard regarding men's and women's sexuality?
Q. Hi, I am openly dating. And my brother seems to think that I am a potential hoe even though I do not have sex with these men. He's young and is influenced heavily by society and the media and the defintion of what a woman is "supposed" to normally ...
A. 1 December 2012: Sex and the city?
One amusing fact about that TV show: it was written and produced by a very very gay man: Darren Star.
This is why if you picture the 4 characters as gay men living in new york the show suddenly rings much truer and makes ... (read in full...)
Why is there such a double standard regarding men's and women's sexuality?
Q. Hi, I am openly dating. And my brother seems to think that I am a potential hoe even though I do not have sex with these men. He's young and is influenced heavily by society and the media and the defintion of what a woman is "supposed" to normally ...
A. 28 November 2012: The double standard has roots in biology: that casual sex for a man can be responsibility-free, whilst for a woman can result in 9 months of pregnancy then a child to bring up. Hence women are 'supposed' to be more discerning.
However there is... (read in full...)
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