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I've had my share of relationships. And quite a few odd ones at that. I love to give advice when I have been in a similar situation and feel I can help out some. I feel my most common advice is to COMMUNICATE. A lot of people write in about a partner they have been with for years and ask how to tell their partner such and such. A relationship needs communication. Be open and honest always.
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How do I get out of the mindset that somebody I can't be with is "the one" for me?
Q. How do I get out of the mindset that somebody I can't be with is "the one" for me? I was dumped by this girl a year ago now, due to problems in our relationship we couldn't overcome. i.e. We went to different uni's, and so she let distance become a ...
A. 16 April 2008: No it is quite normal. Or if it is abnormal, I am right there with you. It had been over a year for me and I wasn't over my ex. I would see his name on things or hear our song on the radio and swear it was a sign we were meant to be. I cried too. He ... (read in full...)
I found out that my boyfriend is interested in having sex with a transgender, should I confront him or should I just let him leave his fantasy?
Q. I found out that my boyfriend is interested in having sex with a transgender, should I confront him or should I just let him leave his fantasy?...
A. 11 April 2008: Ah happened to my friend in a similar situation. She checked his phone history and found out her boyfriend had cheated on her and when she confronted him, HE blamed HER cause she shouldnt have been looking through it... No it isnt the same situation ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend sucks at giving head.
Q. My girlfriend sucks at giving me head. How do I make her better....
A. 9 April 2008: No problem. Let us know if it worked at all.... (read in full...)
Does a guy only want you for sex if he asks for it on a first date?
Q. If a guy and a girl go out on a first date and he then asks her to be his gf and she says yes, then he asks to have sex with her (on the first date!), do you think its fair to say he probably is only really looking for sex and if he doesn't get it ...
A. 9 April 2008: Oh yeah, they will surprise you all right. Although Ive always heard how catholic school girls are the craziest ones? Atleast you are out of the relationship and didnt fall for his begging or "good boy" portrayl.... (read in full...)
I found out that my boyfriend is interested in having sex with a transgender, should I confront him or should I just let him leave his fantasy?
Q. I found out that my boyfriend is interested in having sex with a transgender, should I confront him or should I just let him leave his fantasy?...
A. 9 April 2008: Talk to him. Find out why etc. Maybe once he explains it you will understand and feel better? I think not bringing it up will only make it worse for you and give you weird ideas about him.... (read in full...)
Does a guy only want you for sex if he asks for it on a first date?
Q. If a guy and a girl go out on a first date and he then asks her to be his gf and she says yes, then he asks to have sex with her (on the first date!), do you think its fair to say he probably is only really looking for sex and if he doesn't get it ...
A. 9 April 2008: So he dumped you? What was his reason? Once again, I do not know the guy so it's hard for me to say. But by constantly asking for it, it makes him sound pathetic and embarrassing to be honest. And you shouldnt want to hear some guy begging for sex ... (read in full...)
He keeps looking at me, does this mean he likes me?
Q. ok I'm a junior in HS and he's a senior. We have the same science class and had gym together. I think he likes me, but I have no clue Every day he stands in the hallway after class, and I pass by him every day on my way to my next class. I always ...
A. 9 April 2008: I dont know to say he likes you just from looking at you. Not that anyone can say he does, maybe he enjoys staring. What I can say is he most likely finds you attractive. I agree with DoubleM, smiling goes a looong way. Its not being outgoing, just ... (read in full...)
How do I move? Sex tips please!
Q. I've had sex a fair amount before but it's always with the man on top, if ever i try to go on top i get nervous and stop because i don't know what to do, how to move etc.. How is it done? I always feel like I'm not very good at it in general!!...
A. 9 April 2008: You kind of just go with it. The problem is you are insecure about it is why you get nervous and dont know what to do up there. Watch porn, see how she does it, just to get the idea. What I did because I was uncomfortable and nervous the first time ... (read in full...)
I don't know what to do I don't have a man in my life and my job is shit.
Q. I don't know what to do I don't have a man in my life and my job is shit. Everytime I try and change my life for the better- it ends up being the worst decisons Ive made i.e trying to get a new job or finding a new man. I don't know what to do ...
A. 9 April 2008: Ok Ive been where you are. What I did was quit my job, first off. I went back to school (i didnt go to college), and started looking for a new job I would like. Also, I stopped looking for guys. When you are looking you will find none, and its the ... (read in full...)
Does a guy only want you for sex if he asks for it on a first date?
Q. If a guy and a girl go out on a first date and he then asks her to be his gf and she says yes, then he asks to have sex with her (on the first date!), do you think its fair to say he probably is only really looking for sex and if he doesn't get it ...
A. 9 April 2008: Hmm I dont know the guy so I hate to assume, but from past experiences I would have to say yes. Its easy to find out. Dont have sex on the first night and see how long he will stick around. Say you would rather wait. If he cares about you he will ... (read in full...)
I'm in need of a regular agony aunt I can anonymously get to know.
Q. I need people to talk to about my problems via email, i have no one i can talk to that i know in real life, id like both to remain anonymous but if u pride yourself in giving grounded and most important of all honest advice, even if u think it will ...
A. 9 April 2008: Same as mentioned from everyone else. Pm me anytime. Id love to talk :)... (read in full...)
My girlfriend sucks at giving head.
Q. My girlfriend sucks at giving me head. How do I make her better....
A. 9 April 2008: Watch porn with her. Thats how I learned. Then like mentioned before, let her know when you like what she is doing. If you dont like anything she is doing... haha... then I guess have some fun with it. Ive done food with syrup or whipped cream and ... (read in full...)
I encouraged him to be open about his porn use.....so, why does he lie?
Q. When me and my bf first met the issue of porn had come up jokingly and we both confessed that we had watched it and he told me that he had absolutly no desire to watch it at all anymore because he was over the teen phase. this had shocked me ...
A. 9 April 2008: I agree with most of what lazy guy said. He cant help what turns him on. I dont necessarily believe it means he wants to act on it. I admit I have watched porn and been turned on but never would ever do it. Lesbian porn for example. There are men ... (read in full...)
I'm with a beautiful girl but lately I've been feeling ignored...
Q. Hello guys I'm going to get straight to the point, I have this beautiful girl who always says that she loves me. But lately I feel ignored, we play online games all of a sudden she logs in to the game we mostly play and tell me that she's been ...
A. 8 April 2008: Ok, it could be one of 2 things. She's lost interest/met someone else or she really doesnt want to be a bother and is playing hard to get. It's hard to know what she is thinking because I do not know her. She could be insecure and feel like she ... (read in full...)
I love to laugh and joke -my bf is so moody and this bothers me! What should I do?
Q. He doesnt seem to laugh or joke around with me...im 21 but im a child at heart..im also a very traditional gal..i dont like too much of that mushy mushy stuff..but i do like it wen a man charms his lady..at first things wid me n my man were ...
A. 8 April 2008: You think maybe you arent compatible? I dont think it is a good thing to feel lonely with him. This is him, moodiness and all, take him or leave him. If you dont like his seriousness or how he is so moody, I think you should consider leaving him. ... (read in full...)
I broke it off with my cold hearted gf..but I find the loss so hard to cope with! Any advice?
Q. Hi, everyone, I have been in relationship with my partner for 2 years. I have to say, from the first few months of knowing her I felt that we might not be right for each other, as I started to read some signs which wasn't feeling right!, but I ke...
A. 8 April 2008: Sometimes the feeling that since she moved on and doesnt seem to care makes it so much worse. You gave her love and cared about her, and she moves on so quickly. She was different in the beginning because it was the beginning. Would you have kept ... (read in full...)
How do I get out of the mindset that somebody I can't be with is "the one" for me?
Q. How do I get out of the mindset that somebody I can't be with is "the one" for me? I was dumped by this girl a year ago now, due to problems in our relationship we couldn't overcome. i.e. We went to different uni's, and so she let distance become a ...
A. 8 April 2008: I know the same exact feeling. Its been a year, why am I not over him yet?? And sometimes feel like he/she is your soulmate, thats why no one else has meant so much and why you arent over her. You are still in love. Put simply. There is no reason ... (read in full...)
Suddenly feeling really insecure about his feelings. I ned to know he loves me and I don't know what to do now.
Q. i broke up with my ex boyfriend in October because i felt like i stopped loving him. i started a new relationship in january. although i still had alot of insecurities about my previous boyfriend. through the new relationship i was constantly m...
A. 8 April 2008: It is certainly not a good thing he isnt sure about your relationship, but I think you have a bigger problem, with yourself. You sound a lot like how I used to be. Worried to death he doesnt love you but you love him and cant lose him cause you are ... (read in full...)
We got on so well then she text me to say she wasn't ready to be in a relationship...
Q. Hello all, I have been using a singles website, and met someone in December on there, started by only chatting on im, then she asked for my mobile number so we then text each other, then home numbers. We met up for a couple of days, I stayed i...
A. 8 April 2008: There is not much you can do sadly. She text you letting you know she didn't want a serious relationship and did not put forth any interest in just taking it slow or being friends for a while etc. Texting her would most likely put her off more, you ... (read in full...)
Should I continue a relationship with a man I have no future with?
Q. Im in a 2 1/2 year relationship with a guy i love to bits we have a three month child together. During the pregnancy the relationship was pretty dire but he has really changed and become a great dad. During the pregnancy he told me that he would ...
A. 7 April 2008: He is leaving the country and didnt even ask if you and your son wanted to go with him and be together? And he talks about future relationships? It sounds like he doesnt really want a future with you at all, or not right now at least. You are not ... (read in full...)
I want him to come back, yet my heart tells me to leave him alone.
Q. This guy told me to leave him alone because he was talking to someone else...now he's calling me back..i've been nice and i've been talking to him but my heart is telling me that i'm being used, and that he will do it all over again, so i told him ...
A. 7 April 2008: No, trust your heart and your instincts. Sounds like he came back to you after the other one didnt work out. You like him, yes, but seriously trust your instincts. Keep ignoring him, he will stop calling and you will get over him. Good luck :)... (read in full...)
He says he loves me but he jokes about my weight. What can I do about it?
Q. Hi I have a problem, I've been with my boyfriend for about two months and because of my weight I was too shy to take it to the next level. But we had sex the other day he is very slim and he commented on my weight and hurt my feelings. We were havi...
A. 7 April 2008: No. NO NO NO. You are pretty. Do not ever let some prick tell you you arent. You dont have to do anything to "make yourself pretty", you are beautiful exactly the way you are, believe me. If this piece of shit cant see that he deserves to be alone. ... (read in full...)
He said I came on strong and I was acting weirdly!
Q. okay where to start , i met this lad around college and we also work together , was great we got chatting on myspace then he gave me msn was all going well , there wasa college party there and it was also my birthday , i had a rather huge ...
A. 7 April 2008: He may think you like him and doesnt have the same feelings back, so by asking him and getting everyone else to ask him is like he is being smothered by someone he doesnt think of in that way. Bottom line, he is a jerk. And those arent very good ... (read in full...)
Am I being 'over-jealous'?
Q. I think I am being very jealous. My boyfriend does sides jobs every now and then. This time it is at a store two women own. I only know what he tells me. And he told me they were ordering lunch today and he ordered something as well and th...
A. 7 April 2008: Its not crazy to feel jealous, its just an insecurity issue. I struggle with them myself at times and wonder why I worry about some of the things I worry about him doing. Really think about it, are you scared he would cheat on you? Or find someone ... (read in full...)
I love my 18 year old cousin who I just can't stop thinking about! Is it wrong?
Q. I'm 13 and I love/have feelings for my 18 year old cousin. Is that wrong? About my cousin: (in my point of view) my Cousin just turned 18 and is now going to Columbia university. She has a very nice personality, funny, innocent, adorable, beauti...
A. 7 April 2008: I agree with birdy completely... It may be normal to have feelings towards an attractive cousin, especially being older and "perfect", but you have taken it much too far. As she said, it is a selfish "love", i dont believe it is love at all. You ... (read in full...)
Questions on physical features- which do you prefer?
Q. ok these questions I need to ask and need answers to so please answer them -blonde or brunette? -big boobs or small boobs? -pubic hair shaved or not shaved? -tall or short girls are better? -are braces a turn off? -what about glas...
A. 7 April 2008: Anything as long as you have the confidence to carry it. Some people truly can pull off anything. I think it varies from person to person. There can be attractive people with glasses or braces, big or small boobs. No one is "perfect" and it shouldnt ... (read in full...)
Does it really hurt to use cream hair remover 'down there?'
Q. Hi just quick question. Is it true that it really hurts to use hair removal stuff in your private areas? I don't really want to try shaving and now i've heard that it really hurts to use the cream, so i'm running out of options. Thank you....
A. 6 April 2008: Like nair? Ive used nair remover like on the bikini line but i would not recommend using it too close to your area or opening. It says on the bottle not to do so, so yes it would most likely hurt. Shaving isnt so bad, besides that you need to do it ... (read in full...)
Do you guys know any ways or tips on how to make myslef "cum"
Q. I know I young and your all gonna tell me I'm too young to be asking this question but I don't think I'm too young and would love it if someone would answer this question for me and give me some tips. I'm 15 almost 16 just to ket you know . I ca...
A. 6 April 2008: Does it turn you on when hes saying the "sexy things"? And are you touching yourself? You didnt mention it, you just said you try to come and nothing happens. Just practice on yourself and find out what you like when you arent on the phone, you ... (read in full...)
Lovers and Friends?
Q. Okay, me and this boy hang out a lot. We talk about a lot of stuff with each other, and we can just have fun with each other. We both kinda have this "Love and Basketball" thing going on. We sometimes just play 1-on-1 and he'll always be flirtatious ...
A. 6 April 2008: I think you like him as more than a friend, maybe not sure on the boyfriend part yet. But at the same time if you have to ask yourself if you like him, maybe you dont. The only way to know if he likes you would be to ask. He may just be flirtatious ... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as someone out of your league?
Q. I have a crush on a professor of mine. But putting the ethics aside of whether it's appropriate dating a professor, is there such a thing of someone simply out of your league? Because that's how I feel. Of course, I don't think that he'll like me, ...
A. 6 April 2008: No, it is a state of mind. You lack confidence in yourself and feel he is out of our league. Everyone is on the same level as we are all people. There is something special about you and I can bet someone out there thinks you are "out of their ... (read in full...)
How do you know when to give up on a crush?
Q. Dear Cupid, How do you know when to give up on a crush? I've been in love with an older man (17 years older) for over a year now. He is very sexy, handsome, successful, athletic, popular, great in bed, fun, laid back...in a lot of ways he is like ...
A. 6 April 2008: You should move on, definitely. If he's just been divorced and is with different women all the time, he won't be settling down with just you anytime soon. DO NOT confront him on women he's been seen with etc if you do want to keep him around. You ... (read in full...)
Should I know how I feel after 5mths of dating?
Q. Is 5 months enough time to know how you feel for someone you're dating?...
A. 6 April 2008: Depends on the person. Sometimes it takes longer to really realize how you feel. Also it depends on the type of relationship and how serious you 2 really are. You will know how you feel in your heart eventually, dont worry about it.... (read in full...)
I'm "confused" about continuing a relationship with a guy who lies!
Q. dear cupid i am in love with this guy for about two months now.he lie to me by tellin me he has one child ,when he figure out i no he lie he tell me he has three.from ever since that i no he was gonna continue to tell me more lies.his...
A. 6 April 2008: Ok, I didn't even need to read more than the first 2 sentences. He's a liar. Dump him. Even considering continuing this relationship is a mistake. For someone 6 years older he is isnt very mature. Let him go immediately. ... (read in full...)
Why can't I seem to get a girlfriend?
Q. Why can't I get a girlfriend? Every girl luvs me because of my advice and that I act my age and am mature but no matter how much they like me I can't get a girlfriend. They just don't see me in that way. A girl a year younger than me met me, we ...
A. 6 April 2008: There is nothing wrong with you. Girls your age are too young to appreciate you right now. You may have heard the saying, girls are attracted to a**holes. Dont change yourself, be patient. You will meet someone special. Trust me, now I would kill ... (read in full...)
Who is Really at Fault??
Q. After four years in my relationship with my boyfriend I just found out that about a year and a half ago he cheated on me. He said he worked with this girl and she flirted with him. He told her he had a girlfriend and for a little while she left him ...
A. 6 April 2008: Yes, you both cheated. If you get down to it, your ex was much worse being that it was 2 1/2 years in, but technically you both cheated. Not that who is at fault matters too much now anyway, the relationship is done and over with. Just let it go and ... (read in full...)
How can I ever trust her? And if I do end up trusting her how do I know she won't start seeing another guy behind MY back like she did before?
Q. I like this girl a lot about 4 years ago, but at the time she was dating someone but very unhappy and was going to break up with him and eventually go out with me, but weeks turned to months and eventually i gave up on her and her constant lies of ...
A. 6 April 2008: Let her go. Seems like she is keeping you around "just in case" nothing else works out. Besides that, she would inevitably cheat on you. If you did end up trusting her you wouldnt worry she is cheating behind your back, to answer that last question. ... (read in full...)
She is soo outta my league but I still can't get her outta my head!
Q. I started speaking to this girl same age as me and will meet when out with friends. I really like her but I don't stand chance. She is really good looking and suprisingly is sweet with no attitude!!! She is soo outta my league but I still can't get ...
A. 6 April 2008: You should get some confidence! You can have any girl you want, dont think anyone is above you or too good for you. Let her know you like her, girls love confidence. If she turns you down, move on. You never know what could happen and could regret ... (read in full...)
Do I give up my boyfriend for this lad I met on holdiay?
Q. Hey, Well this is a very long one, so please take your time to read it properly, it would mean a lot to me. I have recently been on holiday to Skegness and I live 3 hours away from there by car, and I met someone over there and he is wonderful, I'm ...
A. 6 April 2008: First of all, dump your current boyfriend, definitely. You seem bored with him and also you cheated on him. Not fair to stay with him after that. Do you think the holiday guy really cares about you? or is just in it for the physical aspect? By not ... (read in full...)
I still like my ex but I have some questions
Q. ok so about a month ago back me and this guy max broke up. We were doing fine in the relationship. On day we were texting and be was saying how much he missed me and wanted to hangout, then he asked what I was doing well at that time my friend ...
A. 6 April 2008: He sounds like a jealous, insecure jerk. He said Austin would be better for you because he was jealous you were talking to him on the phone. Then asked you if you were looking for any guys then said, good luck? He wants to make sure you are still ... (read in full...)
Is it really the end or is he just stressed out with school?
Q. My boyfriend of one year has just broken up with me and I'm devastated. It was completely out of the blue so I'm still in shock. Up until very recently things were going really well, we were crazy about each other. He started a really inten...
A. 6 April 2008: There is nothing you can do on your part. He may be having a meltdown and confused right now. It's all on him. Give him his space. The feelings didnt disappear. He obviously loves you to some degree to cry over the prospect of hurting you. What I ... (read in full...)
I end up falling for straight guys again and again...could this guy be different?
Q. Hey there, I really need some advice re my feelings for a colleague. I am a gay man in my early thirties, though have never been in a relationship as such. However, for as long as I can remember, I have always focused my attentions on on...
A. 6 April 2008: Tell him. You have to. Even if he turns out to be straight, atleast you let him know how you feel. And you will regret keeping it to yourself in the long run, and always ask "what if..." The worst that could happen is he turns out to be straight, ... (read in full...)
There is a girl I like and I want to tell her everything I want to do but she lives too far away!
Q. Ok there's this girl that i like, She's 2 years older than me, we txt alot and say things like have fun at school and i love you and xoxo but i want to go up another level in love but she lives on the central coast and im in sydney so its hard to go ...
A. 6 April 2008: If its true love like you say, you should be comfortable enough to tell her whatever it is you are feeling. The worst that could happen is you stop talking to each other and you each move on. It seems bad now but you should be with someone you are ... (read in full...)
I want to sneak my boyfriend over when my mom is away...any tips on how to not get caught?
Q. my mum is going away for a few days and am wantin to have my bf down to stay over. we've both agreed on not rushin into anything and takin things slow but am on the pill already the only thing am worryin about is my grandparents as they dont know am ...
A. 6 April 2008: Ok well when i snuck my boyfriend in, he would park his car aways down the street. Or you could pick him up where ever he is coming from. When you hear someone approaching your house or opening the door, have him hide in the bathroom shower with the ... (read in full...)
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