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I've had my share of relationships. And quite a few odd ones at that. I love to give advice when I have been in a similar situation and feel I can help out some. I feel my most common advice is to COMMUNICATE. A lot of people write in about a partner they have been with for years and ask how to tell their partner such and such. A relationship needs communication. Be open and honest always.
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He puts his ex and son ahead of me.
Q. I have been dating this guy for about 3 months. We really like each other a lot. He has a son with another woman and I know that I can't compete with that, but here's the problem. He says that he is tryin to get along with her so that he doesn't ...
A. 9 March 2010: I agree completely with dorothy. I don't know how it could be taken any other way. This bullcrap about trying to make peace with his ex in hopes she will pay child support for him... it's bullcrap. He is sleeping over at her house and ignoring you. ... (read in full...)
Should I talk to my ex boyfriend?
Q. i'm 17 , and i go to an all girls school..so getting over my ex was somewhat kinda easy since i don't see him everyday. he broke up with me about three months ago before christmas vacation...reason being was because he wasn't "in to me as he thought ...
A. 4 March 2010: Smile and be on your way. You won't seem like a bitch. I've seen ex's and pretended I didn't notice they were even there, lol.... (read in full...)
How do I cope with my very first break up?
Q. Dont really know where to start, I'm 26 cant really say i have had a 'proper' relationship until i met the guy i've been with for just under a year now. Throughout my life i've had various problems which have caused emotional/borderline-ment...
A. 3 March 2010: Aw you are so similar to me. I have frequently stayed in relationships that weren't the best for me because of fear of being alone. I also don't have friends or much of a social life outside of my boyfriends. So of course when I have one I cling and ... (read in full...)
Should I talk to my ex boyfriend?
Q. i'm 17 , and i go to an all girls school..so getting over my ex was somewhat kinda easy since i don't see him everyday. he broke up with me about three months ago before christmas vacation...reason being was because he wasn't "in to me as he thought ...
A. 3 March 2010: Do not contact him! You are exactly right in that talking to him again will only make you want to be with him. Then in turn you get false hope every time you hang out, you think "maybe he will change his mind??" and you get let down every time when ... (read in full...)
Am I being too sensitive?
Q. I wonder if i am being too sensitive.. my boyfriend says things to me that i find offensive and disrespectful. He always says things like "i bet you love all the guys you see on the streets and just want to get in their pants and have sex with them" ...
A. 3 March 2010: What the hell kind of boyfriend is this...? I don't even know what half of that means, accusing you of wanting to have sex with everyone. Is he insinuating you are a slut? I must be just as "sensitive" as you because every one of those comments ... (read in full...)
Is there a way to get access to his profile on adult friendfinder?
Q. Can you tell me if there is a way to get a profile of someone on adult friendfinder after they have deleted their account? I have the screen name and former account number. I was catching my cheating dog of a says-he's-not-gay husband and I ...
A. 3 March 2010: Well my ex was actually on this site. I don't know about getting the profile up when it has been deleted... But I got into my ex's account by using his screen name and password. Password I got from from his email. When they send emails about a ... (read in full...)
She claims she is into me, but won't leave her boyfriend!
Q. Im having a very odd situation with a girl i have known for about two years now. I was in a advanced 3D design course and i sat next to her just because i knew no one in the class and she was cute and just gave off a good vibe. We talked a lot but ...
A. 1 March 2010: Sorry, she doesn't love you or care about you. She is attached to this other guy for one reason or another but he doesn't satisfy all her needs, that is where you come in. Like Caring Guy has said you give her the attention she wants. She won't ... (read in full...)
I think I'm too self-conscious to orgasm!
Q. I think I'm too self-conscious to orgasm. I've orgasmed in the past with previous boyfriends but with my current one, whenever he pleasuring me it feels good but then it starts to feels really intense and sensitive and rather than come, I start ...
A. 25 February 2010: I'm not sure if it is the same thing that happens to me, but from how it sounds it is. Like the second poster said, it is just too sensitive and you can't go right into it. I also am not able to recieve oral sex immediately as it is far too ... (read in full...)
Should I fight for an older man who has a child on the way?
Q. hello...im having a hard time and i need advice..im a 17year old girl and i started meeting this man who is 29 ...he started to really like me and i really like him but i dont know about the age difference...no body knows about me and him because ...
A. 25 February 2010: Nooo leave him. I am dating someone who is 29, I'm 21. The age difference isn't too bad because maturity wise we meet right in the middle. You are just 17! An almost 30 year old man should not want to be with a 17 year old. You are too young to have ... (read in full...)
If girls don't usually approach you, are you unattractive????
Q. if girls dont approach you in clubs does that mean youre unattractive to them? do girls normally approach guys or do they wait for the guy to make the first move? and does anyone ever notice that alot of guys you see in clubs that end up with ...
A. 21 February 2010: Well when I went to clubs I would never approach a cute guy. My friends and I would discuss how cute he was though. Usually, with my group anyway, the guy always made the first move. And drunk girls will talk to whoever because they are drunk. The ... (read in full...)
I focus on the negatives but want to make my relationship work
Q. The story (I'll try to be brief)... My boyfriend who I loved and was crazy about, broke up with me around April 2009 after being together for several months. We had been dating long distance for a few months prior to the break up, as he was away o...
A. 20 February 2010: I don't have any advice that differs from CaringGuy. The only thing I wanted to add is that you are EXACTLY like me. You are terrified of being hurt again so you built up a wall around you incase he suddenly dumps you again. I hate to break it to ... (read in full...)
I hate it that he has anger issues but I love him too. Love shouldnt hurt like this
Q. How can i settle differences in my relationship without making an argument worse? My bf has anger issues and its never easy talking to him about anyhtin. It seems like everything gets him upset. He never thinks he's wrong and doesnt say sorry when ...
A. 20 February 2010: I was in a relationship like this. I am an emotional person as was he so basically anything I said would piss him off and vice versa. Not that you are emotional, but I get that your boyfriend gets pissed all the time. The fact that he sees nothing ... (read in full...)
Is this what younger girls are like these days??
Q. Can some of you please explain the mind set of today's young women in their early 20's? I am in my mid-30's and have recently entered the dating scene. Although I am 35, I am in great physical condition and most people say I look 25. I married my...
A. 20 February 2010: Nah you just happened to pick out 2 immature whores, excuse my language. Or atleast exhibiting whore-ish behavior. I am 21 and wait about 3-4 dates before even kissing a guy... So it isn't all of us. I mean I would agree a lot more girls are giving ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend assumes I am sleeping around
Q. I have been dating this man for a while. Lately he's assuming I am sleeping with another man. I am not! However he said, "it's o.k. with me, believe me!" How am I suppose to take that? Confused and Frustrated?...
A. 20 February 2010: It's hard to say without hearing his tone, but I'm assuming he loves and cares about you before this comment was made. And on that assumption, I think he said it because he is scared you are cheating. But rather than feel stupid he is going to try ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wasn't surpised my best friend said he loved me
Q. My best guy friend of about 8-9 years told me he loved me the other day. Im in a relationship of 7 years. I do NOT feel he same about him, hes just a friend. I dont want to lose my friend but i dont want him to love me! We agreed to not talk...
A. 20 February 2010: I went through a very similar situation, best friend said he loved me, boyfriend knew the entire time and had actually told me, I said "no no, just friends" ha. Well you were right in severing all contact with him. I wouldn't say to write him off ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wasn't surpised my best friend said he loved me
Q. My best guy friend of about 8-9 years told me he loved me the other day. Im in a relationship of 7 years. I do NOT feel he same about him, hes just a friend. I dont want to lose my friend but i dont want him to love me! We agreed to not talk...
A. 20 February 2010: I went through a very similar situation, best friend said he loved me, boyfriend knew the entire time and had actually told me, I said "no no, just friends" ha. Well you were right in severing all contact with him. I wouldn't say to write him off ... (read in full...)
Quick question for the girls: what do you look for in a guy?
Q. Quick question for the girls: What is it that you look for in a guy? Both appearance- and personality-wise, I mean. I understand that the answer will vary from person to person, but still, I'm curious......
A. 20 February 2010: Oh and intelligent*** Not super smart or even book smart, just able to hold a conversation and not sounding like a moron. Someone who can actually remember things you say, not an hour later when you bring up something you discussed, the answer is ... (read in full...)
Quick question for the girls: what do you look for in a guy?
Q. Quick question for the girls: What is it that you look for in a guy? Both appearance- and personality-wise, I mean. I understand that the answer will vary from person to person, but still, I'm curious......
A. 20 February 2010: Ok, I am picky though. I love these questions! I look for a guy who has my sense of humor, not just funny. Someone who is open, honest, genuine, likes video games (a must), romantic but not cheesy, sweet to me but not nice in general, talkative, ... (read in full...)
I get overly emotional PMS. Any tips on how to control it?
Q. Whenever I'm on, I get really, really, really emotional. I'm really emotional anyway but when I'm on, I'm like a bomb, I can go off in a second. I cry, I shout, I scream, I do a thousand other things. I don't mind that, it's just that whenever I do ...
A. 20 February 2010: I am the same way as you. Only I am quite happy when people understand that I'm on my period when I act crazy and more emotional rather than just think I am insane! I am also a very emotional person in general so that time of the month is basically ... (read in full...)
How can I be hot with small boobs?
Q. How can I be hot with small boobs? I have small boobs, wide hips and a small waist. I think it's a very feminine looking body. But guys still drool more over busty women! I don't get it, boobs are only fat. I've seen guys drooling over women with ...
A. 18 February 2010: I have small boobs. Never had a problem being hot. Obviously I wouldn't be the type for a guy looking for some big ones, but I don't like those guys anyway :) Plenty of guys like petite smaller frames. I've dated quite a few so I do know. And like ... (read in full...)
Should I just walk away or should I stand my ground as his bestfriend?
Q. Hey Ok so my ex and I stopped talking for about four months (after break up), got to the point where I truly thought I was over him. He contacted me out of the blue and wanted to be friends, after 3 weeks I acepted and we started chatting heaps a...
A. 18 February 2010: It's hard to say if he is ignoring you for her sake or not. I would definitely assume so, since he was talking to you before and then started to ignore you when he dated her. Definitely not a best friend btw. My friend and I had discussed when we ... (read in full...)
Birthcontrol is a must but has killed my sex drive..
Q. I have been on birth control (the NuvaRing) for about 4 months now. I find it causes me to not want sex really at all. Apparently that is a cause of taking it. My boyfriend wants to have sex all the time but I never feel like it anymore. I ...
A. 18 February 2010: I had a similar problem with a pill I was on. I had absolutely no interest in sex. I just switched to another pill though and it was solved. If you refuse to take any kind of pill you just need to talk to your doctor and let him/her know that the ... (read in full...)
Should I just walk away or should I stand my ground as his bestfriend?
Q. Hey Ok so my ex and I stopped talking for about four months (after break up), got to the point where I truly thought I was over him. He contacted me out of the blue and wanted to be friends, after 3 weeks I acepted and we started chatting heaps a...
A. 18 February 2010: You have to walk off. Whether he is your best friend or not he is ignoring you so you don't have much of a choice. Do you really know you still love him though is my question. I was in a similar situation. I had an ex of about a year and a half. ... (read in full...)
I hate having to choose between my beliefs or him! What should I do?
Q. there is this boy i like and we went out for a week and then he ignored me for a while, and then he came back and was like i'm sorry. he wants to get back together. I really like him ALOT. however, he's like you know what type of relationship i ...
A. 7 February 2010: I do agree. Just tell him what you said, sex is a huge decision and you want to wait until marriage and if he can't handle that then he obviously does not love you and you are done with him. Good job on standing up for yourself!... (read in full...)
I hate having to choose between my beliefs or him! What should I do?
Q. there is this boy i like and we went out for a week and then he ignored me for a while, and then he came back and was like i'm sorry. he wants to get back together. I really like him ALOT. however, he's like you know what type of relationship i ...
A. 7 February 2010: You are right, if he liked you he would want to be with you regardless of sex. You have been talking for a week and he is talking about needing a sexual relationship or nothing? It's all he wants. I have no clue why you like this guy. He's a jack ... (read in full...)
If you love someone and are committed to them, shouldn't you forgive them and deal with whatever made you unhappy about them?
Q. If I find myself in a situation where my man can't accept my past because we always fight about it and I end up feeling so lost because I don't know what to do, I apologise to him all the time but it ends up feeling like he's not hearing me? My ...
A. 6 February 2010: It is possible to feel love for someone but simply not be compatible or get along. Now apologizing for you past?? You have nothing to apologize for, it has nothing to do with him. I understand some people have problems dealing with a partner's past ... (read in full...)
Do men only cheat when they feel like less of a man?
Q. Is it true that men only cheat when there girldfriends make them feel like less of a man?...
A. 5 February 2010: Men cheat for a couple reasons, maybe not into the relationship anymore but too coward to end it, a chick throws themselves at them and they can't turn it down... But I've been told the number one reason is that they don't feel appreciated. So then ... (read in full...)
She keeps flirting with other guys but says it's harmless, it bothers me
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for a few months now. Recently she has started to flirt a lot with other guys, and I don't know what to do. She said they were just good friends of her, but don't all girls say that? She even went to the movies with ...
A. 30 January 2010: I don't even think the flirting is ok, let alone going to a movie with a guy! Wow. Flirting is all good and fine, until you say it bothers you. Then continuing to do it, obviously she does not care about your feelings. Some people are just ... (read in full...)
He's gone really clingy all of a sudden and I feel hemmed in, what do I do?
Q. I've been dating someone for about 8 weeks, the first 4 weeks were brilliant, we get on really well, we talk alot, laugh and joke, enjoy alot of the same things...But then he started showing a really needy side, constantly asking me if we were ok, ...
A. 30 January 2010: My question is what are you holding on to? There must be a reason why you don't want this to have an official title. Aside from the distance. And I feel that the clinginess wouldn't bother you if you were truly interested... Really ask yourself what ... (read in full...)
He got one of his friends pregnant while we were dating. Should I trust him and stay with him?
Q. When I first started dating my now boyfriend he texted me all the time. I really believed we had a connection. However after dating him for a little less than a month he slept with one of his friends and got her pregnant. He told me right away that ...
A. 21 January 2010: Not worth it. Aside from already having trust issues and talking about counseling already within a month of dating, he is about to have a kid. Do you really want to deal with that? I mean that kid will always be there, and so will the best friend he ... (read in full...)
I don't tell my boyfriend about my problems as I don't want him to think I cannot handle things!
Q. I miss my boyfriend a lot when he goes back to school. He occassionally comes back on the weekend, but I just feel so distant from him even though we try to talk at least once a day. I support him as much as I can so I don't let on to how much I m...
A. 21 January 2010: I understand your thought process behind it, keeping your thoughts to yourself so he doesn't have to worry about anything but school and he has a lot going on. I disagree personally. I think in a relationship you should be completely open and ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for getting upset at the way my bf disrespects me?
Q. Ok, my and my boyfriend have been together for almost 5 years. I'm starting to question our relationship though because of the inconsideration he has for me and my feelings. Last night his nephews and niece had stopped by with his sister. His ...
A. 21 January 2010: To me it just sounds like a bad fight, nothing to end a relationship over. Yes he may have started it but now the fight has turned into being over what you said, that you don't love him. I have been in many of the same fights and have learned that ... (read in full...)
My best friend's in love with me! But I don't see him that way.
Q. I met him two years ago.. (He's two years elder to me and we're in the same school) Since then we've been best friends. We used to hang out all the time, and talk the whole day. And he kept on having a crush on me. I didnt know about it till my ...
A. 21 January 2010: Wow, ignore the first post. Absolutely ridiculous. I have been in your situation. I was best friends with the sweetest guy, would have done anything for me, not really attractive to me but attractive, I was more comfortable with him than anyone ... (read in full...)
H's bashing me to other people, on this dating site! What is his problem?
Q. I dated someone who is now on match.com and is bashing me to the women he is now communicating with. A friend on match.com found this out through her community of members and told me. I texted him and let him know i knew, which of course he denied. ...
A. 21 January 2010: Well his issue is what everyone else has said. As for what he is saying about you, ignore it. Women can see through the bs he is saying or they will when they find out how he is. And besides who cares what some woman you will never meet thinks ... (read in full...)
Seeing my ex opens up old wounds
Q. [moderator note: not a question as such, but the in-depth background provides the jist for one] Hi, I split up from my ex-girlfriend of a year whom i see at University a year ago after she gave some "its not you its me excuse". I was really sh...
A. 23 November 2009: Well I've been through something similar. I dated a guy for almost a year, he dumped me and I was devastated. We had a job together when we broke up and I had to see him with other girls, flirting and so on. I quit the job so I wouldn't need to see ... (read in full...)
I haven't dated in a year!!! Any advice?
Q. hey, i was in a really close relationship that ended a year ago, but since then i just havent dated anyone. when i go out with friends i sometimes notice when a girl is interested but im so shy around girls i think they assume im not into them and ...
A. 19 November 2009: I know what you mean I think. I hate meeting guys at bars because it is a bad scene and you are looking for someone serious and another relationship, not a "hook up". I am the same way. I have been looking up different ways to meet people than just ... (read in full...)
Has anybody taken a break and everything worked out in the end?
Q. Ok so I'm 23 my bfs 25 we were dating for 4 months yet we have gone thru so much in so little time... yet he asked for space to make sure what he wants n to see if he's ready to make the next step which is marriage, yea sounds fast but we know each ...
A. 19 November 2009: Ha wow I am going through that now. We dated for 4 months, he talked about getting married and how much he was in love with me, etc. We had a couple fights and small disagreements, nothing major at all, and the last fight we had he left. He had left ... (read in full...)
I'm really excited about this new guy, but suddenly he seems distant
Q. Dear Cupid I broke up with my ex back in March and we havent been on speaking terms at all for the last couple months (we decided that we cant be friends right now because it would always be more, and he had a new gf) he broke my heart but i am ove...
A. 11 November 2009: *Meant to be ISN'T flaky* typos...... (read in full...)
I'm really excited about this new guy, but suddenly he seems distant
Q. Dear Cupid I broke up with my ex back in March and we havent been on speaking terms at all for the last couple months (we decided that we cant be friends right now because it would always be more, and he had a new gf) he broke my heart but i am ove...
A. 11 November 2009: Honestly the reason he isn't talking back to you doesn't matter all that much. If he cared about you he wouldn't be ignoring you. If he cared or thought you were worth the effort and someone said something to him about you, he would've confronted ... (read in full...)
She's using excuses to talk to me
Q. My (ex) girlfriend, 27, and I, 30, split January 10th after being together for a little over a year. 5 months of that year we lived together but decided to move back with our folks for a few months until finances got better and then we were going to ...
A. 12 March 2009: It's hard to tell if she is making excuses to talk to you. But you know her and say she doesn't need those things so it may very well be an excuse to talk to you. Honestly there is no way to know.There are two methods I know of that you can do with ... (read in full...)
How do I get him back without calling him?
Q. my ex boyfriend and i were dating for over a year. we broke up often but got back together within 1 day max. but this time its different. my ex has been having trouble with his step mother and school. hes been charged for plagiarism and has been ...
A. 12 March 2009: The only way you can get him back is by not calling him. Like you said, he chose this. And he is being weird. My boyfriend has done this same thing. Your ex seems to be going through some stuff and is taking it out on you. That or he may have met ... (read in full...)
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