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I've had my share of relationships. And quite a few odd ones at that. I love to give advice when I have been in a similar situation and feel I can help out some. I feel my most common advice is to COMMUNICATE. A lot of people write in about a partner they have been with for years and ask how to tell their partner such and such. A relationship needs communication. Be open and honest always.
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How should I react if I run into my ex?
Q. Hello there! My ex had commitment issues and couldn't handle our relationship. He asked to still be friends but he only wanted a friends with benefits deal, which made me angry. So after that, whenever he called or texted me, I didnt reply.I have ...
A. 1 January 2009: My advice is to not make a scene by calling him a jerk. It makes you sound like you still like him and are still upset about it and makes you seem like the immature one. When you are mad about something it means you still care about it. Don't ignore ... (read in full...)
Why did he do this terrible things?
Q. Let me list what what my ex did to me 2 months after the break up (he convinced me to start talking to him again after a personal tragedy. For the next two months (4 months after the break up): Txted about how something reminded him of me Txted...
A. 1 January 2009: I think he is trying to keep you around with false hope while he does whatever he wants. I think also that he met up with this new skank and now decided he doesn't want a girlfriend and wants to mess around. And he's asking for you in 2 years?? He ... (read in full...)
Too much sex, I'm tired & my fiance doesn't understand!
Q. Me and my fiancé had sex three times a day for 6 months straight (with no breaks)!! Eventually she wore me out and I needed a little break from it. A week later I haven’t even touched her in that time. When we going to bed my fiancé went bathroom ...
A. 1 January 2009: PS- Really try not to turn her down again when she goes out of her way to be sexy for you, even if you are really tired. She may never have the confidence to do it for you again. Most women are self-concious about their bodies. In fact a survey I ... (read in full...)
Too much sex, I'm tired & my fiance doesn't understand!
Q. Me and my fiancé had sex three times a day for 6 months straight (with no breaks)!! Eventually she wore me out and I needed a little break from it. A week later I haven’t even touched her in that time. When we going to bed my fiancé went bathroom ...
A. 1 January 2009: I can only imagine how hurt her feelings are. We are always told how much guys love lingerie and dressing sexy and to do this and get turned down? I would be falling apart also. I don't know how you will contact her when she is refusing to take ... (read in full...)
I can't figure out what women want!
Q. ok so I am a 19 year old guy who is very frustrated. I am pretty good looking with my life in order. I have been through 6 relationships in my life. And this is basically how they have all gone: the girl and I fall in love, we love each other very ...
A. 1 January 2009: My boyfriend was in the same predicament you are in. He said every one of his girlfriends before me did the same thing to him. They would date for a few months and then the girl would say "I just don't have that connection with you. We should be ... (read in full...)
Should I kiss her?
Q. I have to make this quick because the girl I'm writing about is coming over in just a few minutes. I've known this absolutely amazing woman since we were just in diapers and I started falling for her in freshman year of high school. We're now both ...
A. 1 January 2009: It's the new year. This gives you an excuse to kiss her :) I say go for it. You can judge her reaction from then but it's the perfect time to do it. Watch the ball drop and give her a kiss. She may ask why you did it, she may not. Just communicate ... (read in full...)
I think I messed up my relationship!
Q. I constantly had a fight with my boyfriend recently and I was so mad at him yesterday that I texted him that we should end the relationship if things don't go accordingly. I didn't mean to do so seriously; I was just mad at him at that time and bl...
A. 30 December 2008: I made this mistake with my last boyfriend. I would get mad and say "I'm done, I don't want to do this anymore." It was the harshest thing I could think of to say and I would blurt it out without considering what I said. Well it happened twice maybe ... (read in full...)
In love with her cousin, what must I do?
Q. Im a 36 year old man. My fiance' is 32. Im in love with her cousin who is 32. My fiance and I never got along during our 10 year relationship. She's not financially stable. Her cousin is the ideal woman for me. Her cousins boyfriend is just like my ...
A. 29 December 2008: You don't mention how her cousin feels about you, just that you think it would be an amazing relationship. Job one is to end the engagement because she knows you aren't happy and you don't love this woman if you say you are in love with someone ... (read in full...)
Should I ask if he wants to hang out?
Q. alright well there was this guy that i was seeing and he said he would call me when he was back in town and never did, this was a few weeks ago, i sent him a message asking for a friends info because he was the only one who had it, and he knows it...
A. 24 December 2008: I would say- "It's no problem, don't worry about it. Thanks for the info. Since you are back in town we should hang out some time. Talk to ya later." It's short, simple, and to the point. You won't come across needy or like you really like him, just ... (read in full...)
Does acne make me too ugly to get a girlfriend?
Q. I got two questions. One,wot are da qualities that girls look for in a guy? I am 19 . Still single. So pls,help me out. Two,i had lots of acne.so i have some spots on my face,not that much visible .but is it way too much ugly to have spots on face?...
A. 24 December 2008: You used to have acne? Don't worry about it. Qualities I look for in a guy- confidence but not cocky, sweet, honest, open and loves to talk, funny, easily comfortable with him, romantic. I'm sure there are more but those are the deal breakers. All ... (read in full...)
I'm freaking out about being pregnant! Is there a chance?
Q. I'm 17 years old and I'm paranoid and worried to death that I could be pregnant. My boyfriend and I were dry humping recently with our underwears on but it was pretty rough (to the point where he was little inside of me, but with underwears in ...
A. 24 December 2008: Your period is not due for another 1-2 weeks? If I read this correctly then you can't even get these symptoms so early in pregnancy. Symptoms normally start about 6 weeks after conception or later. I have been where you are at a lot of times. ... (read in full...)
Our relationship is fine, but I still really want to get out!!
Q. Help!! I feel like i am in a perfect relationship, yet kicking and screaming inside!! I feel that everything is great, he treats me well, respects me, we have a good time together, and we are living together. Yet despite all this, i am constantly ...
A. 24 December 2008: I feel this way sometimes. Like you are in a perfect relationship but something doesn't feel right or you are scared to be with him forever or just want to be alone. I'm not sure if this is your case but with me, it's boredom. I get bored really ... (read in full...)
I'm going on top and I have no clue what to do up there!
Q. going on top and not sure what to do!! i have had 6 sexual partners but majority have been one night stands. only two have been with a regular partner. i have never been confident in bed however when it comes to one night stands i am far more conf...
A. 24 December 2008: Ok I don't know how to describe it best but I'm going to try to describe what I do so bear with me. I get on top, of course. I am not fully upright though, I'm more leaning towards where he is lying and resting on my hands on the bed beside his head ... (read in full...)
Questions about cumming...
Q. how much does a guy usually cum? what will make him cum more? how many times can he cum while messing around? how long does oral sex take so that he cums? (confused)...
A. 24 December 2008: I just read up on it a bit for you. Normally a guy will cum about a spoonful. Waiting will make him cum more, like say you waited a few days or weeks, there will be a lot more cum. If you were to have sex or give him oral all night, after a few ... (read in full...)
How do you please his "willie" without sex?
Q. how do you give a hand job? what other ways can you please his "willie" without intercourse or oral/anal sex?...
A. 24 December 2008: Buy lube first to give the best handjob. Now you just get creative and find out what he likes best. A few things to try- (Before both put lube in your hands to warm it up some then run your hands over his penis.) 1. Use both hands, one on top of the ... (read in full...)
If he likes me then why are we not back together?
Q. Hiya guys, One question about my ex bf, weve been split for about 3 months,we talk eveyday and see each other most days, but when i do see him he flirts with other girls and talks as in what he wants to do to them ( he nows these girls and so do i)...
A. 24 December 2008: He was using you for sex, now he has met another girl online and you are not having sex anymore. The reason he flirts with other girls around you and tells you in depth about the girl he is in love with? He is a dick. I went through something ... (read in full...)
Should I just throw in the towel?
Q. Five months and counting. I still think about my ex all the time. I have never been this hung up on anyone before. Granted it was my first long term relationship (2 yrs) but when does it end! I fell in love with him and I am afraid it will never go ...
A. 19 December 2008: You will fall in love again. It varies from person to person with how long it takes to get over someone. I was with my ex for 10 months and it took me a year and a half to get over him. And the only reason I did get over him was from meeting my ... (read in full...)
Is something going on behind my back with her and the ex?
Q. Hi, I have been with my gf for 3 years now, were both young, early twenties. probably like most relationships we have our fair share of ups and downs, recently mostly downs and she has started to doubt our relationship. I know for a fact sh...
A. 16 December 2008: I think in a relationship of 3 years there should be a better sense of comfort with your girlfriend. You should be able to look at her phone if you want and ask what you want, I don't see the problem with that at all. My boyfriends have looked ... (read in full...)
15 and might be pregnant!!!
Q. Hi im only 15 and i think i might be pregnant. I'm soooo scared and i had sex (for the first time) about 2 weeks ago. And we started than stopped right away. We didnt use protection (which is soo stupid now), and i missed my period. (My periods ...
A. 15 December 2008: Don't freak out just yet. I have had a few pregnancy scares but most of the time it is just being a hypochondriac. Your periods aren't regular and tender, swollen breasts happen around the time of your period. Actually many period symptoms are the ... (read in full...)
Should I date my daughter's boyfriend's father?
Q. Help me please! My daughter is 20 and she has been dating this young man for a year and a half. I went to high school with his Dad. Well me and his dad went out this weekend and had an amazing time. I really believe this relationship could go ...
A. 15 December 2008: Wow his son is being really selfish. His dad could have found true love and happiness and he "doesn't approve". He needs to grow up. Anyway, have his dad sit with him and ask why he feels this way and explain how happy you make him. If he still says ... (read in full...)
How can I make my ex want to try again and prove I'm not clingy anymore?
Q. my boyfriend says he broke up with me because i was emotionally clingy; and i want to start over and maybe try again in the future; but do you think he wouldnt want to try again cause i was "emotionally clingy"? and after we broke up i tryed talk...
A. 15 December 2008: You can't make him, but not calling or contacting him is the best thing that you can do. By not calling you are seemingly not as clingy and it gives him a chance to miss you. If he doesn't come around and call you or try to talk to you again then he ... (read in full...)
She needs time but am I wasting mine? Should I keep trying?
Q. i've been textin this girl for nearly 2 months now and i really like her alot. but im not realy sure if she likes me. a few weeks after i was textin her i asked her did i have a chance and she said i would have if it was a while longer, because she ...
A. 15 December 2008: It depends on how long or how significant her last boyfriend was. Right now she may just need a friend. Since it has been 2 months since you last asked her, just ask again how she is feeling about dating you. If she is still not over it, be there ... (read in full...)
She confessed she loved me after 5 months, I can't say it back yet, could this ruin what we have?
Q. My girlfriend told me she loved me today. We've only known each other for 5 months and been going out for one of them. We were lying down and I didn't know what to say and kind of stared at her for a little while. I then sort of mumbled -"i think i ...
A. 15 December 2008: No, stop worrying. You did the right thing. It hurts like hell to say it to someone and not hear it back, I feel for her. But explain to her it is just too soon for you. You care for her and like her a lot but want to be absolutely sure of how you ... (read in full...)
Considering leaving my husband - any one in the same boat?
Q. I've been married 15 years and have a teenage daughter. We got married only after 5 months of courtship. First 3 years of marriage were slightly turbulent as we continued to discover each other better. For the rest of the 12 years, we were focused ...
A. 15 December 2008: Not myself personally, but my sister was exactly where you are. She and her husband had been together for 10 years and have twin 4 year old sons. She confided in me 3 years ago that she was unhappy. Exactly as you have said, they were living in the ... (read in full...)
What should I do with my pubic hair?
Q. I don't know whether or not to shave my pubic hair. I have shaved it in the past, but let it grow back as I was not sure if girls are 'meant to' do this - I heard that it is a matter of opinion, but I am still unsure of what to do - where and how ...
A. 15 December 2008: Many guys have different preferences. Of all the guys I've talked to, shaved is their favorite. BUT you should try many different ways to find how YOU like it. If the guy you are talking to has a problem then he is an ass. My boyfriend is fine with ... (read in full...)
Should I put our friendship at risk?
Q. I have a problem, I really like this boy, but he already has a girlfriend. I knew that he liked me a while ago, but at the time I was going out with someone else and I didnt fancy him. The problem is that he is my friend and we are quite close, so I ...
A. 15 December 2008: Say "How are you and your girlfriend doing?" If he says anything better than okay or alright (like excellent, or I'm so happy with her, etc) it is clear you shouldn't make any moves or let him know how you feel right then. If he does say "we are ... (read in full...)
He wants to leave town and find a job somewhere else.
Q. Hi.. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 years. We had many break ups but none of them where over serious issues. But about 2 months ago we broke up and only got back together after one month and a lot of begging from my side. We both ...
A. 15 December 2008: If he wants to leave and it is without you, he doesn't care too much about being with you. I think him saying he is holding you back is an excuse. You said he has said he doesn't feel the same but will always love you. That's not a good sign. ... (read in full...)
Why is he acting so strange now?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for almost seven months now and we used to hang out all the time and spend time together, but now lately hes been acting really strange and I dont know what to do, everytime I try to talk to him we just end up getting ...
A. 13 November 2008: It sounds like he is cheating on you. Not the answer you want to hear, I know. That or he has met someone else and wants to see where it is going before dumping you. I have been there unfortunately. Even if this is not the reason, he has clearly ... (read in full...)
When did you first have a boyfriend/girlfriend - that actually lasted a few months?
Q. Poll: When was the first time you had a relationship, and what age did you have your first kiss? I'm not talking about a peck on the cheek or peck on the lips type of kiss, I mean a toungue kiss? And when did you first have a boyfrien...
A. 3 September 2008: My first real love with anything meaningful was when I was 18. I think when I was 15 I dated a guy that lasted about 2 months and we kissed a lot but it was at 18 when I dated and fell in love and lasted about a year. ... (read in full...)
How can I make noises during sex without sounding fake or cliche? And please note that I am of age!
Q. Hi My question is why am I so quiet during sex and avoid eye contact? Some background info: I have a very frustrating situation and I have friends who have given me advice both good and bad about it and it just doesn't help. I am seeing this guy ...
A. 20 July 2008: What I did was talk more openly to my mom about it. Definitely not my dad. I didn't go into detail or anything but we just talked. I have always been close with my mom so it made me feel guilty having sex etc without her knowing and with her still ... (read in full...)
How can I make noises during sex without sounding fake or cliche? And please note that I am of age!
Q. Hi My question is why am I so quiet during sex and avoid eye contact? Some background info: I have a very frustrating situation and I have friends who have given me advice both good and bad about it and it just doesn't help. I am seeing this guy ...
A. 19 July 2008: I had the same problem you have. I couldn't look him in the eyes and couldn't be loud. Although you say you are comfortable with him, you obviously aren't. I thought I was with my previous boyfriend but was not able to make noises etc. With my ... (read in full...)
I'm furious at what I found on his Facebook account. Am I over reacting?
Q. I need advice. I have been married for 15 years and we have 4 children. My husband recently got a facebook account. He has added old friends and even an old girlfriend. I didnt like that much but she also added me as a friend so I did not let...
A. 6 July 2008: No you are not overreacting. It is cheating. Plain and simple. I wouldn't immediately get a divorce but don't let him get off either. Try talking about it and why he feels the need to talk to this girl since he doesn't consider it "real". It may be ... (read in full...)
Was it my period or did he break my hymen?
Q. please someone help. ok today my bf poked me he has done it various times in the past.. but i am still a virgin well i hope. he sed he used four fingers today and he hasnt ever done that. i am due my period in about 5 days and i am really wor...
A. 6 July 2008: You will know it is your period if you continue bleeding. If he broke your hymen there will be blood but will stop, you know how periods work, you will bleed for the week or so. It is possible to break your hymen using 4 fingers.... So this could be ... (read in full...)
He seemed so totally into me, then when I suggested we get together, he freaked! Why?!
Q. hey im in a little tricky situation and was wondering to get some help... anything.... so here goes Ive been hanging around with this guy for about 6 months and we become really close to each other. when i first started chatting to him it was ju...
A. 6 July 2008: The only thing I can think of is that he is a commitment phobe. I think you have the exact right attitude, if you like me date me. Just back off from him. Talk to him when you want but date whomever you want to and don't think of yourself as with ... (read in full...)
Stuck between a bad boy and a nice guy
Q. Age old cliche - and I never thought it would be me asking advice on it! Basically, I'm stuck between 2 guys. Let's start with Guy # 1. Someone I dated for 6 months, really truly fell head over heels for him. He has a bit of a rough past, no...
A. 6 July 2008: I think the drama of guy number is what has you still so attached to him. Having to keep everything low key and your parents not approving is in a way kind of fun. It's hard to describe. Then you go to dating someone who is nice and fun to hang out ... (read in full...)
I made out with a guy that says he is gay, the weird thing is that he has a wife! What should I do??
Q. Well I'm a 16 year old, gay guy who takes tumbling. I recently came out to my instructor. After I told him he told me that he was gay to. Then he leaned over and started making out with me. But the weird is, is that he has a wife! I really like him ...
A. 3 July 2008: Run away. He has a lot of issues going on you don't need to be dealing with. Sure you like him but he's married. Plus imagine how his wife would feel. Meet a nice single guy without all the crazy baggage. Good luck. ... (read in full...)
I feel like everything but his girlfriend, should I leave him??
Q. We're both 21 years old and I have been living with my boyfriend for 10 months and for a while now I have been feeling more like a chauffeur, a mother, a roommate, and a maid to him. The last thing I feel like is his girlfriend, unless he wants to ...
A. 3 July 2008: You say that you aren't happy. I doubt it is just the financial strain that has made you question the relationship after everything else you mentioned. Before leaving him have a sit down. Discuss everything you just said and hear his side. If he ... (read in full...)
I told him to make a decision about our relationship and he hasn't called back! What does this mean?
Q. i am 23 yrs old i have a male friend that i grew up with since 7th grade we lost contact, and ran into each other this year. so we have been conversating i am single he say tha he single so we had sexual invovlement more than once and i spend the ...
A. 3 July 2008: Um he sounds like he is more into partying and having sex than into a relationship. He probably doesn't want to settle down quite yet but then again I don't know the guy, just my thinking that if he was interested in a relationship he would've said ... (read in full...)
Girls (and guys) have you ever been used?
Q. has anyone ever used you to get sex when you really liked them and you thought they liked you too but all they wanted was to get in your pants? and if so how did you get over it? ...
A. 8 June 2008: Yepp, been there. It hurts like hell... Well I just stopped talking to him altogether and in doing that I realized how he was such a HUGE dick and that I could do so much better. Also I realized he never really cared and that I can get someone who ... (read in full...)
Attempted sex with a new person for the first time in 2 years, and it hurt. Is it menopause or nervousness? Any idea?
Q. Hope someone can help. I broke up with my boyfriend about two years ago. I have messed aroung with a few guys from time to time since then but have not gone all the way. Well, I tried to go all the way with someone a couple of nights ago and it ...
A. 31 May 2008: It could be nerves but usually when you haven't had sex for long periods of time it is going to hurt again when you do. Maybe even feel like the first time again. It happens to every woman and 2 years is a long while so I am betting that is all it ... (read in full...)
My boobs become very painful around my periods... do you think anything could be wrong?
Q. am 17 years old and a bit over weight as a result my boobs are quite big am a 44dd but for the past couple of moths right around my periods my boobs become very painfull a started my periods when i was nine and this has never been a problem before i ...
A. 27 May 2008: Breasts get sore around your period, it is very normal. I wouldn't worry about having breast cancer unless you feel a lump, and if you do get it checked out immediately. Otherwise you are completely normal as I also have painful/sore breasts around ... (read in full...)
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