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... Send *tayc63088 a private message | | | *tayc63088's profile:My name is Stacey. I've been on this site for years. I come and go at times depending on how busy life is.
I've had my share of relationships. And quite a few odd ones at that. I love to give advice when I have been in a similar situation and feel I can help out some. I feel my most common advice is to COMMUNICATE. A lot of people write in about a partner they have been with for years and ask how to tell their partner such and such. A relationship needs communication. Be open and honest always.
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Difference between gut feeling & being paranoid
Q. Hi, After a partner has cheated how to you differenciate between "am I just been paranoid" or is this "my gut feeling". My b/f cheated last year. We're trying to work things out and it seems to be fine. We live apart which dosent help me at all e...
A. 21 January 2009: The difference for me is when I can tell myself "oh I'm just being paranoid" and when I honestly believe/know it is what he is doing. Of course even gut feelings can be wrong, although I can't remember a time when mine was. My specific example would ... (read in full...)
Why did he change
Q. i have an online boyfriend we became realy close and shared everything with eachother we were deeply in love but then about a month or so ago his computer broke down. i lost my paitence and sent a mesg accusing him of not loving me but i said ill ...
A. 19 January 2009: Well his computer broke down for a while and you weren't talking to each other. He probably just got over it in that time. Which of course means it isn't love. And you try to talk to him and he doesn't really care to answer quickly. You don't have ... (read in full...)
My husband made me get implants, I got ill, had them taken out and now he doesn't treat me right
Q. What would you do or how would you feel if your husband told you that he was embarrassed to be seen with you in a bathing suit because you were small breasted and that he thought you looked like a man and wanted you to get implants? How would yo...
A. 19 January 2009: Your question is what would we have done and how would it make us feel. Do you mean would we have gotten the implants in the first place or do you mean would we have them removed or keep them after the sickness? I doubt that I would get implants for ... (read in full...)
Ladies do you have some suggestions on planning a nice night leading up to sex?
Q. I want to plan a nice night leading up to sex for my girlfriend. Ladies do you have some suggestions on planning a nice night leading up to sex?...
A. 15 January 2009: Take her out definitely. When you pick her up have flowers. Maybe ice skating, or just something a little different than movies. Then take her to her favorite restaurant or the first restaurant you both went to together. Go somewhere where you can ... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend doing this???
Q. We’ve been together for 3 months.. after 2 months he changed and started been all weird and not calling me much.. he use to call me every day..last time I saw him he got really angry and accused me of cheating on him... saying I am not giving him ...
A. 15 January 2009: One thing I have heard on numerous occasions is that a guy will constantly accuse you of cheating when that is what he is doing. He realizes how easily he is getting away with it so he suspects you are too. Even if that isn't what is going on, he is ... (read in full...)
I need a new me!!!
Q. Might be a superficial question but I'm very down about myself these days. It's because of the way I look and how I think this makes people treat me differently, earlier this week I decided I wanted a change, and I wanted to dye my hair dark instead ...
A. 15 January 2009: It's not the color that makes a difference in facial structure, it's the cut. You should look up online different cuts for your face type. For instance, I have a heart shaped face, or diamond face, and I cannot wear my hair all one length and flat. ... (read in full...)
I have no plans but do I lie and say I do?
Q. Hello Cupiters! I am going out on a first date with this guy I met online about a month ago. Now we're just talking texting.. Anyways, we already have plans for Saturday (dinner, miniature golf). We were having a good conversation this morning ...
A. 15 January 2009: I think you are being paranoid. To me it didn't sound bad what you said at all. He saw that you were busy so continued to talk about your plans on saturday. Don't worry so much! But hold on, you have never met him and he is picking you up from your ... (read in full...)
I don't feel that "spark" any more between us.
Q. I'm engaged to a great guy. Treats me better than I feel I deserve sometimes. We've been together for 5 years. We met when I was 19 he was 21. He had been engaged to a girl he had dated sense high school. She cheated on him and they broke up. Not ...
A. 15 January 2009: I read your post and can't agree more with Tisha's answer. I feel like you are scared to be completely without him more-so than you are in love with him. I can't say anything better than Tisha though, lol. Follow her advice! ... (read in full...)
Finger my girlfriend on her period
Q. Can I finger my girlfriend when she's on her period? I'm seeing her this weekend and she said she'll be on. If we wanted to should I just stick to the clit? She got fingered by her previous boyfriend while she was on her period but I don't know all ...
A. 15 January 2009: It's going to be the same, just she will be on her period. So put a towel down under her and do whatever you normally do. As long as the blood thing doesn't creep you out then everything should be fine. ... (read in full...)
I truly believe this will work out, she just needs time.
Q. So basically she said she needs time to figure out what she's going to do about her ex which she went out with 3 years for, she still has feelings for him and she needs to straighten them out, those feelings were getting in the way of are ...
A. 15 January 2009: It sounds like you are trying to convince yourself. You didn't even ask a question. You just came on here telling us she needs time from her ex before she dates you. I don't really understand.... (read in full...)
My ex cheated with my best friend and now wants me back
Q. i was in a relationship with Eric for almost half a year. After we broke up i found out that he went out with my best friend and they chose to keep this from me until i found out they went out for about a month or two. He keeps saying how he really ...
A. 12 January 2009: No. He is coming back to you because he is alone and the other chick used him. He even admitted it. He was in love with her but she just used him. Where does anything in that comment say "I love you and I realized what I did was wrong so I left ... (read in full...)
What does "All is fair in love & war" mean?
Q. This is just a general question, and the internet doesnt really help so i thought i'd ask it. Ive heard the saying "Alls fair in love and war" alot lately and i just wondered what it actually means. Lol i feel a bit dumb asking people who have said ...
A. 12 January 2009: I know what it means but it is one of those things that is kind of hard to directly define, so I looked it up.
"All is fair in love and war" - Behavior that is unpleasant or not fair is acceptable during an argument or competition.
The clic... (read in full...)
I wish I could turn back the clock and undo what I did...
Q. Back in the summer my ex dumped me and started seeing another girl. I was so in love with him it really hurt and for months I hated them both. Deep down I know it wasn't the girl's fault, he didn't dump me for her, she was unaware of what he done to ...
A. 12 January 2009: Just tell her what you told us, you were not meaning to hurt her, you were just jealous and in love and made a mistake. She should understand. Actually she may even thank you (not outloud or necessarily anytime soon) for letting her see what a ... (read in full...)
We've been together 11 months now but I want to be with someone else...
Q. I have a girlfriend who I have been with for 11 months, but I'm starting to feel like I'm losing the spark with her and I'm starting to get feelings for this other girl, Julie, who my girlfriend hates. I tell her I don't speak to Julie but I do and ...
A. 12 January 2009: Tell your girlfriend you don't want to be in the relationship anymore. Just say you lost the spark or connection or whatever you want to say and that you want to be on your own. Please do not tell her about Julie. It will crush her even more than ... (read in full...)
Which finger does a promise ring go on?
Q. My boyfriend just gave me a promise ring. I am very excited but did have one question. Is there a certain hand or finger to wear it on? Do you wear it on the left hand like an engagement ring? Or is there no etiquette at all? Thanks in advanced for ...
A. 10 January 2009: Ok thanks. It is a pre-engagement ring so I will wear it on my left hand. Thanks again!... (read in full...)
Everything is great except for this one little detail....
Q. Hi! I need some help with my situation. I was sexually abused by a family member growing up and now am very distrustful of men in general and sensitive to their motives. This has caused me to wreck just about every relationship I've ever been in. I ...
A. 9 January 2009: I think people vary on what they find disrespectful. For instance I find that getting on my knees and giving a blow job while he is standing up is disrespectful to me and makes me feel slutty, not everyone thinks so. I agree with you that what he is ... (read in full...)
What build size do women prefer?
Q. This is more curiosity then a problem, In general as i know everyone has different tastes what do women prefer in a mans build, for example im 5 10" very broad shouldered with a large chest and a waist narrower then my shoulders with large strong ...
A. 9 January 2009: Completely depends on the woman. I prefer the soccer player type. Almost all of my friends perfer the football player type. I also like short, smaller guys, not tall. Other women like tall skinny guys. Some like muscular tall guys. Just like some ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend isn't spontaneous!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months now, and i told him i loved him about 4 months in because that is how i felt. I wanted to say it before he did so i knew i felt it and wasn't saying it in guilt. Like i have done in the past.It's just i am a ...
A. 9 January 2009: I know what you mean. I get bored veryyy easily too. Also even though my exes ended in some dramatic sadness it was still exciting and different. Then being in a relationship with basically the same thing everyday is quite boring. You just have to ... (read in full...)
14, possibly pregnant b/f wants me to move..should I?
Q. okay so i am 14 and i might be pregnant!! i told my mom my boyfriend and his parents!!! but know he is movin to phoenix and he wants me to go with him my mom says i am going to ruin my life if i go but for me to do whatever the hell i want and i wa...
A. 9 January 2009: No one can say whether your life will be "ruined" or not. Leaving with him will leave you with little to no options should you 2 break up. Also you will need to be completely dependent on him and his family until you can get a job and make money. ... (read in full...)
Break up or keep the relationship going on?
Q. You see... one of us is moving to a new country which is on the other side of the world. I think that it's impossible to marry each other in the future because of this. We will be apart for years and years without seeing each other. Now I'm not ...
A. 8 January 2009: Well if you want to get married and you say you will never marry this guy, then you should break up. I tend to not date people I can't see myself marrying in the future but most people aren't like that. A lot of people just go with the flow rather ... (read in full...)
Its the weekends I miss a man
Q. Whats the best way for a 30 something women to meet new men. Im not really into internet dating and there are hardly any men left in my town. WOuld love to meet someone to spend my life with! I work full time and go to the gym 3 times a weeks - so ...
A. 7 January 2009: You mentioned you weren't into online dating but which have you tried? I was very against it too. I went on match.com and saw that they have a guarantee, 6 months subscription and if you don't find love you get the 6 months free. You really have ... (read in full...)
Was sex with me pre planned???
Q. Hi, I have been seeing a guy recently. We went on about 3-4 dates before I actually invited him over to my place. I prepared a small dinner for him (he got the wine) and then we cozied up and watched a movie. It was perfect, really. We ended...
A. 7 January 2009: I think it sounds like he was embarrassed by coming so soon. Was it like he was acting like he didn't come? Like he stopped and started talking about something you said like it bothered him, did you know at the time he came? Or did you see it later? ... (read in full...)
I just want one occasion were he will see me for the first time the night and think.. ok she looks sooo much better than usual.
Q. I need a little help.. I've been with my boyfriend 16 months now.. and I know he loves me and he thinks I'm beautiful and is very happy with the way I look so that's not what this is about. We're going out for a meal this weekend, I've gone out...
A. 7 January 2009: I'm not sure how you normally get ready, but what I do when I want to look really really nice is go all out. I get a pedicure, my nails done, I wear heels (normally I don't). You already have the new outfit. Maybe put your hair up. Definitely get ... (read in full...)
Has anyone had a good experience on antidepressants?
Q. I'm clinically depressed. It's genetic and everyone in my family suffers from it. I'm not looking for a happy pill so much as to just be able to get through my day without having a few bad spells along the way. Has anyone had a good experien...
A. 7 January 2009: I think it takes trying a few different ones to find your right one. I only tried one, which didn't really work for me. I don't think I really need it though. My sister was on zoloft I think it was and she said it made her worse. She is now on ... (read in full...)
My ex said we will never get back together
Q. I NEEED SOMEONES ADVICE..PLEASE.. My boyfriend broke up with me about 4 months ago. We had went out for 10 months. we were inseperable, we spent so much time together probably to much. It was my first real relationship and I found myself acting ...
A. 7 January 2009: My ex did the same thing to me. We dated about 9 months and I started get jealous and insecure and ruined the relationship. A few months after that he started texting me, and since I had never gotten over him, I was sooo excited. I thought it meant ... (read in full...)
I can't get over his past
Q. OK this will be really long but I feel I have to give you the full story so you can try and help. Me and my boyfriend are both 24. We have been going out for almost 8 months. We told each other we loved each other after about 3 months. A month or so ...
A. 7 January 2009: Also what I said in my first post I wrote, Everything happens for a reason. He would not be the person he is today without having gone through these previous relationships. They have made him appreciate you more than he would have otherwise. They ... (read in full...)
I can't get over his past
Q. OK this will be really long but I feel I have to give you the full story so you can try and help. Me and my boyfriend are both 24. We have been going out for almost 8 months. We told each other we loved each other after about 3 months. A month or so ...
A. 7 January 2009: Well you definitely love him. It wouldn't affect you like this if you didn't. I am going through this exact same thing with my boyfriend. You start the relationship and hear how many people they have been with and it's like "oh, ok." Then later when ... (read in full...)
Was this mean or well deserved?
Q. In high school I used to be teased because I was overweight, wore glasses, and quiet. As I went to college I started to go to the gym and is a ripped 200 pound running back. When I came back home from college one of the girls that teased me now ...
A. 6 January 2009: I don't know what other posters will say but I say she deserved it. Karma is a bitch. And the nerve of her to ask you out after she made fun of you... wow. Congratulations on the weight loss!... (read in full...)
How can I tell my boyfriend to stop talking/seeing his ex?
Q. I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 28. I have the feeling my boyfriend is cheating on me with his ex. (she is my age). I know his ex, she was once friends with my older sister and she can be very intimadating and very sneeky. When I look through his ...
A. 6 January 2009: You need to either learn to live with him talking to her or move on. It seems like they are good friends and he obviously has no plans on giving her up just because it upsets you. So decide now what you want to do. You can give ultimatums but I ... (read in full...)
How to make it last longer?
Q. I'm starting to get very sexually frustrated here. I'm 15 and my boyfriend and I started to have sex a little over a week ago. We've done it tons of times so far, but I've never gotten any satisfaction from it. At all. It's just that he lasts about ...
A. 6 January 2009: Ok what works for most is getting him off before you try to have sex. Like give him oral or a handjob or whatever you are comfortable with to let him get the quickness out of his system. So let him cum, wait til he gets hard again, and right after ... (read in full...)
Virgin Girl that is waiting until marriage...
Q. When I was starting to get to know a boy and the guy getting to know me But, later confused that I was a virgin and his response was that he liked me so much to have sex that he couldn't stop for me that he said that I had to lose my virginity... ...
A. 6 January 2009: Some guys will wait. I know this because I dated one, actually 3, who were willing to wait as long as I wanted. If he loves you he will wait for you. If he only wants sex, then he's out the door. You're better off without this ass. He would've just ... (read in full...)
Tatoos
Q. Not a love question but I bet there will be someone reading this who can answer! My dad and I are really close and have decided we want to get tattoos together; he's going to get a design right down his back. I'm not that daring yet and want ...
A. 6 January 2009: I have one on my lower stomach on the left side. It didn't hurt too much. In fact I don't even remember it hurting. I went in there expecting the most horrible pain imaginable and it was surprisingly not that bad at all. I have heard the same things ... (read in full...)
Why does nothing happen the bullies?
Q. Why does nothing happen the bullies? I know a bully who bullied at school for a year she is now classic singer and with good looks and great job in big city. Another who rejected me, I lost all confidence in myself. I could go back doing sport...
A. 5 January 2009: They may have great jobs but that doesn't mean their life is perfect. Trust me, you have no idea what they really go through or what is really going on behind the scenes. I believe in karma and know for a fact some people who were not so nice to me ... (read in full...)
How long does it take for the contraceptive pill to take effect?
Q. So I'm on a birth control pill. I'm on it for medical reasons. I am not having sex and I don't plan to for a while. But I was wondering though how long does birth conrtol take to "kick in" as a contraceptive? (preventing pregancy)...
A. 5 January 2009: My doctor told me it will take a full month of the pills before having sex without a back-up form of contraceptive. So take one full pill pack before having sex without any other form of protection.... (read in full...)
I'm scared I'm not big enough for her!
Q. I have never had sex but me and my girlfriend want to. I worry about my penis. I measured it and it's 5.5 inches but I'm only sixteen. Her ex was about 2 or 3 inches longer from what I've been told. I'm scared....
A. 5 January 2009: Oh that doesn't matter! My ex is 2in bigger than my current boyfriend. I couldn't care less. It's about how she feels about you. Besides, just because he is bigger doesn't mean he is better. There are reasons she is with you besides your penis size ... (read in full...)
I'm very scared of being hurt again.
Q. Hello all, I'm a 22 year old female and I have been seeing a 21 year old guy for around a month now, and a couple of days ago we decided we were pretty much boyfriend/girlfriend and made it official. I really like this guy, I'm really happy! Howeve...
A. 3 January 2009: My ex told me he loved me on the 3rd date... Talk about fast. I stammered. I didn't know what to say. I told him I didn't know, it was kind of soon but give me time, I like to say it when I know I mean it. We dated for about 9 months and I did end ... (read in full...)
He treats me more like a slut than his GF.
Q. hey i really love my boyfriend, but he doesnt treat me the way i want to be treated. the way he talks 2 me is always dirty (sexual) and i want him to b more romantic and chivalrous towards me. he says that he is romantic cos he gives me pres...
A. 2 January 2009: And I don't mean to disagree with anyone but telling him to light candles or do things for you just isn't the same as him doing them on his own. Even if he did these things it would be because you are telling him to, that isn't romantic. It's the ... (read in full...)
He treats me more like a slut than his GF.
Q. hey i really love my boyfriend, but he doesnt treat me the way i want to be treated. the way he talks 2 me is always dirty (sexual) and i want him to b more romantic and chivalrous towards me. he says that he is romantic cos he gives me pres...
A. 2 January 2009: Ok I dated a guy exactly like this. The fact is you can't make him romantic or chivalrous, he either is or he isn't. I had to learn this the hard way. My ex would always talk about sex, basically all he talked about. It made me feel cheap in a way. ... (read in full...)
I can’t just be friends because I’ll always want more.
Q. My girlfriend split with me 3 months ago because she says I couldn’t talk to her and that made her worry about what future we would have. We’d been together for over a year, been through some hard times with exs and stood by each other no matter ...
A. 2 January 2009: She's not being fair to you. I understand how both of you don't want to lose each other but this is very unhealthy and like you said, is seriously messing with your head. You have to make a decision. You said you were attempting to move on but her ... (read in full...)
What sort of physique do girls like in a boyfriend?
Q. Hi, happy new year. I want to know this from girls. Girls, what sort of physique u like in ur bf? Tall, short, fat, skinny, muscular, anything. Feel free to give me ideas on wot u actually look for. Thanks. Pls. ...
A. 1 January 2009: Well every girl likes something different. I'm into guys who are taller than me, but not too tall, I kind of like short guys. Also I like skinny, not sickly skinny, but I'm not into muscles or any of that. More like average but the thinner side of ... (read in full...)
How should I react if I run into my ex?
Q. Hello there! My ex had commitment issues and couldn't handle our relationship. He asked to still be friends but he only wanted a friends with benefits deal, which made me angry. So after that, whenever he called or texted me, I didnt reply.I have ...
A. 1 January 2009: My advice is to not make a scene by calling him a jerk. It makes you sound like you still like him and are still upset about it and makes you seem like the immature one. When you are mad about something it means you still care about it. Don't ignore ... (read in full...)
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