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I've had my share of relationships. And quite a few odd ones at that. I love to give advice when I have been in a similar situation and feel I can help out some. I feel my most common advice is to COMMUNICATE. A lot of people write in about a partner they have been with for years and ask how to tell their partner such and such. A relationship needs communication. Be open and honest always.
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Any tips for me on how to approach him?
Q. I'm a jr. in high school. I'm on the softball team as well as other clubs. I have a lot of good friends. But I have trouble when it comes to guys. They never seem to work out for whatever reason. I like a sr. guy Andrew. He is very attractive....
A. 16 April 2008: Well unless he tells you or really makes it obvious that he does, you probably won't know he likes you. Going to his game and going out to eat after as I mentioned before is a good idea and doesn't have to mean a date. Of course for you you would ... (read in full...)
Are there any other people who want to wait for marriage before having sex?
Q. As a young man 25 years old, I want to know if there are any other people from 18-35 who have standards and want to remain virgins when they marry, also would not marry a person who has been divorced and had kids of of wedlock?...
A. 16 April 2008: Also, Dr Pete had an amazing answer I just read. I agree 100%. ... (read in full...)
Are there any other people who want to wait for marriage before having sex?
Q. As a young man 25 years old, I want to know if there are any other people from 18-35 who have standards and want to remain virgins when they marry, also would not marry a person who has been divorced and had kids of of wedlock?...
A. 16 April 2008: EXCUSE ME? I do not have morals and standards because I am not delusional and wait until I am married and spend my life with someone I care nothing about just so I am not sinning? Are you kidding me? Do you realize you can have morals and standards ... (read in full...)
Are there any other people who want to wait for marriage before having sex?
Q. As a young man 25 years old, I want to know if there are any other people from 18-35 who have standards and want to remain virgins when they marry, also would not marry a person who has been divorced and had kids of of wedlock?...
A. 15 April 2008: I'm sure there are a lot of people like you with your standards. However I don't feel people should be judged for their past and who's to say the one for you is going to fit exactly what you want? No one is perfect and expecting someone perfect will ... (read in full...)
Feelings for my fiance's best friend and he likes me too. How do I tell him?
Q. ok, i have a fiance, but i have strong feelings for his best friend, i dont know where they came from but he also said that he loves me also, how do i tell my fiance?...
A. 15 April 2008: 16-17 with a fiance? And you aren't even in love with him? I'm not really understanding this. Break off the engagement obviously. Tell him you are not ready, you don't need to hurt him by telling him you have feelings for his best friend. Give it ... (read in full...)
How can I make her jealous?
Q. So now i go out with that boy right across from me now and we are like in love turns he liked me for a long time.Well we go to seprate schools and there is this girl in his class that likes him.So anyway me my boyfriend and his sister who is my best ...
A. 15 April 2008: No. Don't try to make her jealous, you don't even need to. It is very clear she already is. Bumping into and skating around you? Quite immature and quite sad. Don't go down to her level. Be the mature one. And remember, you have the guy and he has ... (read in full...)
Does anyone have advice for me on having this baby?
Q. If im going to have this baby its going to change things so much im in school is there anyone whos been through this i could do with the advice x...
A. 15 April 2008: You could change things? That is a great understatement. You will not even have a life. Think about it... You have not even lived 1/4 of your life and already you are going to have a child?? You won't have a childhood, it will be taken away from ... (read in full...)
Feeling clueless as to what to do about my partner's smoking!
Q. I am at odds on what to do about my smoking partner. Is it wrong to ask him to stop? I've read some of the other posts here and some seem to be strongly of the opinion that it is wrong to expect them to quit as you entered the relationship kno...
A. 15 April 2008: No, I would not TELL him to quit. I would explain to him you really dislike the smoking and see what he is willing to do. Maybe smoking outside or never around you? Maybe ask if he is even attempting to quit? A guy I dated was a smoker and knew I ... (read in full...)
Husband wants sexual pleasure, but will not return the favours, so I feel unwanted!
Q. hi, i am writing to ask about my husband doesn't seem to be sexualy interested in me any more i no he is not having an affair because we have are own business so we are together most of the time.also he wants sexual pleasure from me in the way of ...
A. 15 April 2008: Why do guys feel that buying you anything you want will replace wanting to be/feel loved? Sorry, I have just been there. Anyway, I would ask him why. You didn't explain why he doesn't do it. Also do you mean he won't give you oral, or won't have sex ... (read in full...)
I discovered the guy I was seeing had a GF all along, now I'm dating "some other guy" to make him jealous, any ideas??
Q. met this amazing guy thought everything was going really well, we had sex it was pretty good then I started to fall ''in love'' with him even though I dont even believe in love properly then all of a sudden i find out he had a girlfriend all alon...
A. 15 April 2008: This entire thing is very immature. He cheats then ignores you and won't explain why... You use some guy to make him jealous... Sounds very middle school to me. And question- how is she not good enough for an immature, lying, cheater? I don't know ... (read in full...)
How to offer the best strip show to my BF? I'm stressed about not organising properly...
Q. How do I give the best strip show for my boyfriend? I would love to do it for him, cause I know he would love me to .. but I am soooo stressed out, that I will mess up, or that I will look pathetic infront of him, since he saw strippers (via ...
A. 14 April 2008: Ooo easy. First off, you will be much sexier to him than strippers since he loves you and probably finds you irresistable. Second, get a great song you can really really get into. One you feel most comfortable dancing to and the moves just come to ... (read in full...)
Will I get pregnant if I keep having unprotected sex? He pulls out!
Q. Me and my BF had sex lots of times without using condom but always when he wants to pull the sperm out he takes his penis out of me, I'd like to know how safe is this from not getting pregnant? I've had sex lots of times with him this way, and I ...
A. 14 April 2008: As everyone else said, yes you can get pregnant with this method. It's actually not a good method at all. I have heard you can get pregnant just by having sperm anywhere near your vaginal opening, it doesnt even have to be inside you. But anyway to ... (read in full...)
Are my chances of pregnancy slim?
Q. Okay I'm just wondering if anyone can help me here... In feburary, I took the emergency contraceptive pill. My period was due around the 6th of march, and when it didn't come, i took a test that showed up negative. Eventually my period came arou...
A. 14 April 2008: Pretty slim. Im not sure about the contraceptive pill, but I do know it is possible to have your period or blood and still be pregnant. Also home pregnancy tests can be wrong. Most likely you are not though, Im not trying to scare you. I would say ... (read in full...)
How can I stop my mouth aching when giving him oral?
Q. How can I stop my mouth aching when giving him oral? I've been giving my long term boyfriend oral for months now, but I still don't seem to be able to keep going without my mouth really aching. It gets so uncomfortable that I have to stop after ju...
A. 14 April 2008: Yeah what I did was mix it up a bit. Go from licking, to using your hand, to in your mouth. It'll be more exciting too and possibly make him finish quicker. Also using your hands at the same time works nicely. Not sure if this works for everyone but ... (read in full...)
His hints make me think that he likes me, what should I do?
Q. ok well where do i start, there is this guy who i have been friends with for about 5 years now and he is going out with my best mate for 3 years. i get the feeling that he really like me because he keeps comming out with very open convosations about ...
A. 14 April 2008: You didn't mention if you like him? Well either way, you should ask him about his feelings towards you, make sure you are right, and let your friend know. It's kind of crappy to her for him to be asking your mom about marrying you. Unless you are in ... (read in full...)
Any tips for me on how to approach him?
Q. I'm a jr. in high school. I'm on the softball team as well as other clubs. I have a lot of good friends. But I have trouble when it comes to guys. They never seem to work out for whatever reason. I like a sr. guy Andrew. He is very attractive....
A. 14 April 2008: Tisha's idea was cute. Also you could go to one of his games and cheer him on, or ask him to come to one of your games. Maybe afterwards go out to eat to celebrate or if you lose, to make you feel better :) Make sure you let him know you are ... (read in full...)
How can I look and feel attractive with out make-up?
Q. I've worn make-up since i can remember, all day everyday, even on holiday. I don't feel comfortable without it on, the thing is, as you can imagine, my skins already becoming quite knackered out already, i have pinkish skin with dark freckles ...
A. 14 April 2008: I used to wear a lot of make up, eye liner and quite a bit of foundation. What I did was not completely stop using make up because I like it, it doesnt have to be worn to cover up your face but just to accentuate your features. I use Bare Minerals ... (read in full...)
I'm 25, so why am I still single?
Q. Why am I still single? I'm a 25 year-old intelligent woman with a college education and a good job. I would say I'm above average in appearance, though slightly overweight, but I have lost weight recently and I'm getting many positive comments about ...
A. 14 April 2008: Looking for love will get you nowhere. It will happen when it is meant to. And wanting a husband? I've learned something valuable you should really take to heart. You should never want a husband, you should want the love of your life. Just wanting ... (read in full...)
Should I press rape charges against my cousin (I got a rape test done 3 years ago), especially now that he has 3 little sisters? Afraid of my family's reaction.
Q. Okay, about 3 years ago my cousin and his friend raped me, and I really want to press charges ( I got a rape kit test done) however, i'm not sure my family would approve being as he is my cousin and all......now I know I should do it because he has ...
A. 14 April 2008: Your family will not disown you. This wasn't your fault. You absolutely need to press charges... This guy and his friend have been getting away with it for 3 years! They cannot do this... You cannot allow them to do this. Not going to the police is ... (read in full...)
I want him to tell his ex about us., whereas he says he doesn't want to hurt her. Should I be suspicious?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend now for 4 months. He was with someone when we met but finished their relationship to be with me. His ex now has been texting him daily, and he has been replying. After a secret quick inspection of his phone I found out ...
A. 14 April 2008: What person who is completely romantically over their ex and are now friends doesnt share their relationship status? Or lets them continuously say they should be together? My ex and I are friends now and I can't imagine allowing him to go on asking ... (read in full...)
Why did he turn his caller ID off twice? This awakens my trust issues from the past...
Q. Hi everyone, im really fed up with my boyfriend. H e was out with his friends fri night and he rang me today his phone was on private number. This also happened another time after he was on a night with the boys. With is number being off, i find ...
A. 14 April 2008: I dont get it. Calling from a private number=cheating? I agree it is fishy and quite strange, but where is the connection to him cheating? Maybe if you had looked through his phone and saw a lot of private numbers in his call history, but how does ... (read in full...)
We're not agreeing on our wedding plans, can you help, please?
Q. He wants a drive-thru wedding, i want a normal wedding.....I dont know what to do.....can you please help?...
A. 14 April 2008: 16-17? How is it legal to even get married at this age? Unless perhaps you mean yall are just discussing it and dont agree on the same type of wedding...? Dont worry about your wedding now. Getting married too young is a mistake, trust me. But if ... (read in full...)
Some guys are so hard to read...Is he just leading me on?
Q. I have a crush on someone at work....well, we used to work together. I stopped working at this job over a year ago. I ran into this guy I had the crush on and used to work with. He actually seemed glad to see me, he said he was so glad he ran into...
A. 14 April 2008: Well how does the conversation go? Is it like- yeah we should hang out sometime. Or- Lets see a movie this saturday, are you free? Since these are quite different. From my experience, I hear/say "we should hang out sometime" as kind of a polite ... (read in full...)
How can I get the friendly but shy store clerk to ask me out?
Q. How can I get the friendly but shy store clerk to ask me out? I went there yesterday with the intention of flirting with him, but his boss was right there and we didn't have much time to talk. I don't know him very well, but he's a friend of a frie...
A. 14 April 2008: He could be interested, or he may have said you came in the store because you have mutual friends and he just mentioned he say you that day. I agree with the previous posters. If nothing else, flirt a little bit, let him know you are interested. Or ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me, I'm trying to move on after a broken heart, now he's trying to get close again. Why?
Q. I was in a long distance relationship for 2 years, before packing my bag to come to the US to be with him 6 months ago. The first 6 months were very stressful and challenging, as I learnt to adjust to the new environment, make friends, weat...
A. 14 April 2008: To me, and I may be wrong, it sounds like he is just trying to keep you around. I say this because I went through the same thing with an ex. We broke up because he wanted to pursue his ex girlfriend. Now he is trying to talk to me again. But not ... (read in full...)
Why do I need to know who my girlfriend has had a fling with?
Q. I know guys come on here asking for help for problems about dealing with their girlfriends past. I have a similar problem but i don't understand why! I keep wanting to know who my girlfriend has had a fling with, the funny thing is she gave her virg...
A. 14 April 2008: I am the same way you are. You don't have to be a guy to wonder about your partners past. With me it is a psychological thing in that I can't help that I wonder about it. In a way, I want to be reassured I'm better than their exes. Basically that's ... (read in full...)
He disgusts me so much! All I see is an old pervert instead of the guy I fell in love with!
Q. I'm having some guy issues. I'm going out with a guy who I met online and I have been dating him for 4 1/2 years. It didn't occur to me that he would ever lie to me about his age. But it all started when my mom didnt believe me when I told her he ...
A. 12 April 2008: You know the answer. You should not ever be with someone who disgusts you. I really don't like the fact that he lied to you either, there isnt an excuse for it. Lying for 4 years about his age?? One of the worst things you can lie about. I don't ... (read in full...)
Any sweet ideas on asking her to the prom without going over the top?
Q. I want to ask this girl to the prom. She's a friend but never goes near boys or accepts to go with them anywhere. But because I'm her friend I want to try my luck. Any sweet ideas to ask her without going over the top?...
A. 12 April 2008: My fantasy- throw rocks at her window, not at an unreasonable hour as birdy stated, and ask her out :) Not sure if she is a romantic but I would have loved that. Or- Leave a little note on her car (if she has one), maybe with a cute little poem in ... (read in full...)
How can I let go of this fear and just start being my true self in front of him?
Q. I am normally a fun to be around person and easy going person who is also funny (I think), but the problem is that you really have to get me to be comfortable with the people before I am able to do this. I have a huge crush on this guy I know, and I ...
A. 12 April 2008: As hard as it sounds, just totally be yourself. When you get to an awkward silence, say something like "hmm... gotta love awkward silences.." Try to kind of break the ice. I've found I'm more shy and awkward around people I'm just not too compatible ... (read in full...)
How can I forget her and see better things for the future?
Q. Obsessed with my ex. Not a day goes by where I don't think about her and everything we did together while in our relationship, which eventually fell apart because of distance, which would have been too much for us to cope with when she went to...
A. 12 April 2008: All you can do is get over her if she is moving on. You need time, time heals all wounds. Yes, it has been 10 months, but sometimes it can take years. It's very hard... I know. But I do have a question, when is the last time you have talked to her? ... (read in full...)
3yrs and he still hasn't got divorced, should I stay or should I go?
Q. What should i do? If my boyfriend of three years hasn't gotten a divorce, should i stay or should i go? He says he will do it soon, even his wife says she doesn't love him any more....
A. 12 April 2008: Ok, I'm assuming they arent legally seperated either. So he is cheating on his wife. What makes you think he wouldn't cheat on you? Women should never date a married man. You set yourself up for heartbreak and most likely no future. I say you should ... (read in full...)
Should I ask for his phone number or will he think I'm wierd?
Q. Hi, I need some advice. There is this guy I met and I really like him. At first I didn't know I liked him but I think he liked me. I'd see him often and had great time talkinn to him. But I was too shy to make a move.Then he droped out of our ...
A. 12 April 2008: I would ask. Confidence is very attractive. Just tell your friend- I haven't talked to him in awhile, I'd like to get in touch- or a variation of that. When you call the guy you like, just say something like "hi! It' been awhile. I just thought ... (read in full...)
I've heard that the herbs Fennel or Fenugreek boosts breast size!
Q. Where can i buy the herb Fennel or Fenugreek? Other than on the internet? I've heard it boosts breast size, I NEED IT. aha Please tell me :) x...
A. 12 April 2008: It is false. What the herbs do do is increase breast milk production, not increase breast size.
"There is no evidence that natural breast enhancement supplements lead to breast enlargement. Some herbs have been used historically to improve the prod... (read in full...)
Am I sticking with him because I hate the idea of being alone?
Q. Hi, I'm really confused I fell in love with one guy and we were best friends for so long but we decided, well i decided, that it would be best that we didn't see eachother so we didn't ruin our friendship. Now i'm with another guy, i really do like ...
A. 11 April 2008: Im where you are right now. Not sure if you love him or not, maybe he is just a good friend. But when he says he loves you you just get confused and not sure about your feelings. Also you may feel bad at the prospect of hurting him. I totally ... (read in full...)
Trying to have sex but he 'can't get it in' and it really hurts, is this normal?
Q. Hi everyone, I am 20 years old and I tried to have sex with my boyfriend for the first time and he was unable to get in me. He tried but just could not get in and it hurt everytime he tried. Is this normal for the first time or do you think there ...
A. 11 April 2008: It happened with me as well. A combination of me being small and him being quite large. I was brought to tears the first few times he tried. Make sure you are wet or he is lubricated, definitely DO NOT try if you are dry down there. Makes me cringe ... (read in full...)
Why when I try to get my girl friend to try oral sex she just sits there and gives me weird looks?
Q. here's my problem... when i try to get my girl friend to try oral sex she just sits there and gives me weird looks and so i ask her wat and shes like i dont know and so i ask her how does she not know and she doesnt really say anything so.. if ...
A. 11 April 2008: Um... she doesnt want to clearly. So how about you stop asking her like a horny little boy? Grow up. She isnt interested so why ask her over and over? Poor girl.... (read in full...)
I hit my pregnant girlfriend and now she is ignoring me! I feel awful...
Q. I hit my girlfriend and she is 5 months pregnant i feel bad and everthing but she is ignoring me and i dont get. I said sorry she was winding me up and i hit her i really need to see what can i do please help i feel awful. PLZ HELP?! she is alot ...
A. 11 April 2008: You will not like my answer. There was no reason to hit her. Being wound up is a ridiculous excuse that makes me extremely angry. You DO NOT hit someone you "love." And when she is pregnant on top of it all?? I dont want to hear your sob stories ... (read in full...)
I'm having serious doubts to whether I should stay with him because I don't fancy him anymore..
Q. I've been with the same guy 6 years, he never wanted kids because of problems with his child that put him off, from his previous marriage. I ignored him.. now I feel nothing but resentment and don't fancy him and avoid sex but feel very unfulfilled ...
A. 11 April 2008: No, sex does not mean everything. It is an integral part to a relationship though. To me it sounds like you are no longer in love with this man. Aside from hurting his feelings, what reason do you have to stay with him? You clearly do not have ... (read in full...)
Should a couple share ALL their secrets? What do you think?
Q. Do you think a couple should share everything in their mind? All their secrets? ...
A. 11 April 2008: I think you should share anything you want to share. If there are some things you want to keep to yourself, that is fine. I don't know that anyone can say someone else knows every single thing about them. ... (read in full...)
Why do older guys always try to get at me? I can't find a boyfriend at my school...
Q. This year it seems like all my friends have boyfriends or love interests and i don't have anyone. I don't think i'm ugly or unattractive. I get compliments on my appearance. It seems like older guys are always trying to get at me but no guys at my ...
A. 11 April 2008: Hmm do you think they could be intimidated? Sometimes guys think a cute girl probably already has a boyfriend and dont bother approaching her to just get turned down. The fact that older guys want you (depending on what age you mean by "older"), is ... (read in full...)
I'm developing feelings for a gorgeous guy at work! Is this okay?
Q. A while ago, I met an amazing guy through work. It started off as just a business relationship but we ended up becoming quite good friends and I began to really fancy him. He made me laugh constantly, we had so much in common in terms of interests ...
A. 11 April 2008: So he sounds interested. Sounds normal to me. Unless they dated for a long while, I wouldnt worry about you being the rebound girl. He may have even dumped her for you, since he didnt give you the details in the message. Just meet him and let him ... (read in full...)
Do guys think I'm a loser because I'm a virgin?
Q. I am 20 years old, and I am still a virgin. It's not because of religious reasons; I have dated before but I just haven't found the person to do it with. What I am fearing now is how guys see virgins. I have always watched TV and movies that basi...
A. 11 April 2008: No. In this case it is a double standard. Not that it is right at all. Guys would probably hear more about being 20 and a virgin than say a female would. I think it is very admirable that you would wait until you meet the right person, and if you ... (read in full...)
I found out that my boyfriend is interested in having sex with a transgender, should I confront him or should I just let him leave his fantasy?
Q. I found out that my boyfriend is interested in having sex with a transgender, should I confront him or should I just let him leave his fantasy?...
A. 11 April 2008: Ah happened to my friend in a similar situation. She checked his phone history and found out her boyfriend had cheated on her and when she confronted him, HE blamed HER cause she shouldnt have been looking through it... No it isnt the same situation ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend sucks at giving head.
Q. My girlfriend sucks at giving me head. How do I make her better....
A. 9 April 2008: No problem. Let us know if it worked at all.... (read in full...)
I found out that my boyfriend is interested in having sex with a transgender, should I confront him or should I just let him leave his fantasy?
Q. I found out that my boyfriend is interested in having sex with a transgender, should I confront him or should I just let him leave his fantasy?...
A. 9 April 2008: Talk to him. Find out why etc. Maybe once he explains it you will understand and feel better? I think not bringing it up will only make it worse for you and give you weird ideas about him.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend sucks at giving head.
Q. My girlfriend sucks at giving me head. How do I make her better....
A. 9 April 2008: Watch porn with her. Thats how I learned. Then like mentioned before, let her know when you like what she is doing. If you dont like anything she is doing... haha... then I guess have some fun with it. Ive done food with syrup or whipped cream and ... (read in full...)
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