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I've had my share of relationships. And quite a few odd ones at that. I love to give advice when I have been in a similar situation and feel I can help out some. I feel my most common advice is to COMMUNICATE. A lot of people write in about a partner they have been with for years and ask how to tell their partner such and such. A relationship needs communication. Be open and honest always.
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What are the best casual dating sites out there?
Q. I have tried a few of these online dating sites recently but have had no replies and windered if anyone knew the best ones to keep faith with. I stopped using photographs in the end because i was getting nowhere-i am an ugly guy-but still had no ...
A. 2 September 2012: Again I agree with SVC. I know a man who is red headed, almost obese, long greasy hair and has glasses. Been married for years with 3 kids. I've seen quite a few disgusting customers come into my store, married. You won't listen which I figured ... (read in full...)
What are the best casual dating sites out there?
Q. I have tried a few of these online dating sites recently but have had no replies and windered if anyone knew the best ones to keep faith with. I stopped using photographs in the end because i was getting nowhere-i am an ugly guy-but still had no ...
A. 1 September 2012: Again the free sites are garbage. They are free for a reason. I was on plentyoffish for a total of 1 hour before seeing it was nothing serious or what I should be doing. Every man I saw was looking to just hook up and almost every woman was of the ... (read in full...)
I'm beginning to lose interest in my boyfriend
Q. I think I am starting to become uninterested in my boyfriend. I was afraid this would happen if our relationship did not take off. Some things may have changed, but not enough to say this is who I want to spend the rest of my life with. When i...
A. 1 September 2012: I agree, it's just who he is. You can tell him he should change some things but he won't. It's like telling you not to be a sexual person. You could try but it wouldn't be you and it would lead to resentment or giving up altogether. He seems to be a ... (read in full...)
Should I get out of this relationship?
Q. I've begun noticing unpleasant things about my boyfriend and I've come to the conclusion that he is controlling... I just couldn't figure it out for the longest time because he is so timid and he has never lifted a finger on me...I never thought he ...
A. 1 September 2012: Yes please get out. Those are all warning signs of an abuser. My father is one and my mom has shared some tell tale signs. The controlling nature to the point of not allowing you to visit a store or eat what you want will only get even worse. And ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend's cheating ex is coming over to stay with her and I'm not cool with it!
Q. Please help?! I met this girl a few months ago on a dating website. Anyway I totally fell for her. I'm in love with her. She totally blew me away. However there has been a few situations. Please let me explain. I have on 3 separate occasions c...
A. 1 September 2012: Not overreacting, underreacting. I do not care what anyone says about "being secure in yourself and you wouldn't worry", bullshit. You don't have an ex come and stay with you. And you don't try to get away with whatever you want by accusing the ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend and I want to try different positions, any suggestions?
Q. I’m tall and my boyfriend is short. Both my boyfriend and I enjoy having sex and are willing to try different positions, other than me on top and missionary! got any suggestions?? ...
A. 1 September 2012: My husband and I got the book Kama Sutra Step by Step- The Ultimate Guide to the Ancient Art of Love Making. I have mentioned it on this site before. Tons of new positions with great illustrations and how to's and different foreplay methods to try. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend posts about our relationship problems on Facebook.
Q. Last night my boyfriend and I discussed a problem we've been having and it didn't turn out so well. We ended up arguing then ended the discussion. A few weeks ago we had got into an argument and he posted a status about it on facebook. He says it'...
A. 1 September 2012: I hate people like this. Whining to people on facebook for attention. That is all it is. That's why I don't have a facebook. I don't think deleting him is a solution. He is still airing your dirty laundry on his page. Deleting him is attempting to ... (read in full...)
How do I solve this problem? I need to meet people in my new city!
Q. I'm in need of some advice both in terms of social and dating. Recently I just moved city due to a new job. The problem here is I don't know anyone in this city at all; and it's a bit of a distance from anyone I used to know. I'm not sure ex...
A. 1 September 2012: I turn to online in times like these. Where I live we have a site called Meet Up. It has tons of groups with various interests, from books to video games to dogs. It even has groups for people new to the city. I just checked and it is in the UK as ... (read in full...)
I always do favors for a work collegue but she doesn't appreciate me or do anything in return!
Q. There is a certain work collegue I have done many regular favors for over the years. One specific favor takes me out of my way a bit and she has takes it for granted. Yesterday I was stuck and couldnt get my morning coffee. I saw her coming back ...
A. 1 September 2012: People can sometimes become accustomed to certain things, like favors, and take the person for granted. Just stop doing things for her. It isn't petty. It is standing up for yourself and not being walked all over. ... (read in full...)
This guy seems into me but I think he may be engaged, help!
Q. So me and this guy have been talking. We both find each other attractive. Here's the one thing that's bugging me...he has told everyone I know he's single. But we found pictures of him from a few months back with a girl and an engagement ring. His ...
A. 1 September 2012: I assume you saw pictures where it was clear they are in a relationship, like kissing or far too close to be a sister or a friend who happens to be engaged. If that is the case then he is just a player. And it is definitely a situation to back out ... (read in full...)
My long distance boyfriend wants to go to prom with me but I'm afraid he won't like me because I am fat.
Q. i have a long distance relationship and he wants me to go with him to his senior prom, i told him i will. HE wants to see me sooner than that and so do i but the problem is im afraid to. I know im fat, but im not really huge like i should be, i ...
A. 1 September 2012: Do you have access to Skype or the ability to show him your whole body? It will ease your mind and be best if he can see you and assure you he is still very into you and wants to go to prom together. I understand being worried he may not like you ... (read in full...)
My daughter is getting in the way of my relationship with my husband!
Q. hi i have a 15year old daughter and her relationship with her stepfarther(my husband) is veryunnatural. they are to close. she gets away with almost everything. he doesn't see that there relationship is effecting our marrage. how do i deal with it. ...
A. 31 August 2012: I don't want to jump to the conclusion that he is molesting your daughter but his actions seem to lean that way. And it could explain your daughter not having a close relationship to you. A lot of times a young girl will blame her mother more than ... (read in full...)
Should I text him? please help
Q. I was chatting with a customer at work, and he asked for my number, kind of jokingly. I said no. When he came back a little later we chatted some more. When I handed him his receipt, he asked where my number was. As there were customers behind ...
A. 31 August 2012: Are you friends with the fellow you work with? If so you can ask him for some info on this guy, if he's in a relationship or whatnot. If you barely know him then don't bother with that. Yes this guy could be a flirt or whatever but really any guy ... (read in full...)
I can't get over the fear he will leave me for someone younger.
Q. Hi! I am 39 yrs old and my bf is 22. Among the all the suitors I had, he had been the most determined that's the reason I chose him. I know someday he will be leaving me for a much younger lady. This fear keeps haunting me every time I look at him. ...
A. 31 August 2012: While it is not impossible to last, I would say it is unlikely. 22 is very young, especially for a guy. Men usually take longer to mature. I cannot imagine a 22 year old guy wanting to settle down with a 39 year old woman. Again it is not ... (read in full...)
I want to call off the engagement! I'm freaking out!
Q. I am freaking out! I am getting married next month and... I don't want to!! I want to call this engagement off! It's not that I don't love my bf, it's just that this whole marriage thing is scaring the hell out of me. So many things can go wrong in...
A. 31 August 2012: I would listen to Person. Unless you want to end the whole relationship, don't stop the wedding. About a month or 2 before my wedding I was freaked the hell out. I was completely rethinking everything. Like what happens if we change down the road ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend seeing the first girl he slept with?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together 1 year. He has recently started playing tennis with the first girl he ever slept with (they never dated, it was a one night thing). Its been making me quite uncomfortable, they've played a few times this week....
A. 31 August 2012: I don't think it is weird to make you feel jealous. I wouldn't like that either. He can find a tennis teacher/coach whatever they are called, there's no reason to need her around. I would tell him how you are feeling and that you don't want him ... (read in full...)
I'm not depressed but I feel so numb!
Q. For the last few years i've felt incredibly numb and emotionaless, i'm not depressed, i'm genuinly a happy person, but I feel like I dont really have any emotions when it comes to major things in my life. I started feeling like this when the pe...
A. 31 August 2012: They are right, being depressed is being numb. I have suffered from it before. I wasn't crying my eyes out or elated or anything really, I was just... There. I realized I was depressed when my husband told me so. I didn't want to do anything, I felt ... (read in full...)
Who can I talk to about getting cosmetic surgery?
Q. Who can I talk to about getting cosmetic surgery? I don't want to talk to a surgeon because they'll only tell me facts about what I want to get done. When I look at forums specifically for this, all the people there are always like "go for it" and ...
A. 31 August 2012: So is it a cosmetic surgery on one body part, like your nose or boobs? Or all over liposuction? Or a number of things? You say you have self esteem issues. I do not believe surgery cures self esteem issues. I think if you have a body part you have ... (read in full...)
I'm never turned on or want sex!
Q. Ok so, me and my boyfriend have been together two 1/2 years. Everything about him fits me like a puzzle piece. The only problem is that...I'm like never turned on. I never want to have sex, and even if we do start fooling around I have to use lube ...
A. 31 August 2012: How long has this been going on? Do you do sufficient foreplay or do you try to go right into sex? I found myself losing all interest at one point in time for a few months when I was depressed/stressed about things going on in my life. I also have ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my mom want me to sleep in the nude?
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, I'm a 14 year old girl. I like to sleep in the nude but my mom doesn't want me to. She never gives me a reason, she just objects. I started sleeping naked over the summer when it's super comfortable. What would she find wrong o...
A. 31 August 2012: I assume you live with your father? Maybe even brothers? I think it just makes for an uncomfortable situation to have her child sleeping in the nude. It is probably a little inappropriate when you aren't living completely on your own and someone ... (read in full...)
Having an affair with a married woman.
Q. Hello, Thanks in advance for your help in this matter. Her's my issue: I have known this woman for several years online. We planned on meeting in person a few times and it fell through each time. We live in different cities and the timing just wasn...
A. 30 August 2012: She sounds like a winner (the most sarcasm you could imagine). She needs to be with a wealthy man, so she's a gold digger and can't support herself, and would rather cheat and have money than be on her own or be with a man she could be happy with. ... (read in full...)
I'm not in a position where I can get a divorce but I want to get to know this other man. I'm very unhappy and don't know what to do.
Q. I am 28 and have been married for 5 years. I was good at first. But when I got pregnant with our first child my husband starting watching porn. Without getting into massive detail, I eventually confronted him about it and told him how I felt. After ...
A. 30 August 2012: Have you spoken to your husband at all about being unhappy and wanting out? I think that is your first step. Forget about the other guy for the time being, you have much bigger things to worry about. After telling your husband you want a divorce ... (read in full...)
I'm staring at the dissolution of my marriage...
Q. Hey guys its been a while since I last posted. I thought everything would come along well with my wife and I but I'm sadly mistaken. She has really turned against me. It all started just after she left for her 9 week holiday. She started saying...
A. 30 August 2012: She comes back in 2 weeks. You need to calm down right now. The fight you had was awful, but since then has she said she wants a divorce? She said she won't be doing anything with men behind your back so I take that to mean she calmed down a little ... (read in full...)
Having an affair with a married woman.
Q. Hello, Thanks in advance for your help in this matter. Her's my issue: I have known this woman for several years online. We planned on meeting in person a few times and it fell through each time. We live in different cities and the timing just wasn...
A. 29 August 2012: I'm not being judgmental but what you are doing is pretty much the definition of a home wrecker. Yes maybe her marriage is awful, but she should leave it then. Why is she staying with him? Why does she have to wait for him to divorce first? If he's ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wanted to take a break and now it's been over 2 weeks. How do I know if it's over or if she will come back?
Q. I need help interpreting an email from my GF I am currently on a break with. Some background: My girlfriend of 2+ plus initiated a break about two weeks ago. Since we live together I've been staying at my mother's house while she finds a new apar...
A. 29 August 2012: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-this-really-a-break-or-is-this.html
And this is your before post right? You were living together, why is she trying to find her own apartment? That doesn't sound like it was ever meant to be a short break. N... (read in full...)
What's with men and the way they talk about girls?
Q. My boyfriends best friend was coming home for the first time,I have never met this guy and I wanted to create a good impression cuz he is my boyfriends best friend..so I woke up made lunch,cleaned the place..and then his friend came over we had ...
A. 29 August 2012: I agree with Cerberus. He didn't say it to you, he was telling your bf and that was a compliment. It would be disrespectful if he said it to your face, yes. Your bf didn't correct him because he is proud to have someone so attractive, it was a ... (read in full...)
Too Close For My Comfort
Q. I need advice. My 24 year old stepdaughter moved in with us. She quit a perfectly good job and came home. She doesn't clean up, she doesn't pay rent, she generally acts like she is still a child instead of the grown woman she is. My problem and...
A. 29 August 2012: It is gross. You are not wrong to be bothered. And it is weird. I'm 24 myself and an attractive girl. My dad tells me so. He has never felt me up though... Or kissed me. Or done anything creepy like this. It bothers me that he makes the statement ... (read in full...)
Is it fair of him to ask me to find another home for my cat??
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together 8 months, I'm 25 he's 27. Things have moved pretty quickly, but we are very happy and talk about the future openingly, and we are definitely in love. We currently live separately, but have talking about getting ...
A. 29 August 2012: Being such a big animal lover I would say keep your cat for sure. I love my dog and would never give her up because my boyfriend didn't "feel like" living with her. Your cat did nothing wrong and if he is willing to never live with you because a cat ... (read in full...)
Did I make the right choice by telling him to get rid of his female friend?
Q. So about a year ago, my boyfriend of 3 years and I got into a right about a female friend he's had for about two more years than he's known me (we've known each other for 7years). It might also be a good idea to add that we also dated for two years ...
A. 29 August 2012: I agree, you were not in the wrong at all. She was still very much in love with him and he loved the ego boost and attention he got from her. Otherwise he would've said their relationship is only hurting her further and giving her false hope. A true ... (read in full...)
I'm dating a guy but he still has his dating profile up and says he is single!
Q. Okay so this is gone and past and i am completely over it but i was in a relationship for 2 1/2 years.. i moved in with him and gave everything to this guy and was honest and true to him and he had another girl for 1 year and a half of it and ...
A. 29 August 2012: Wow I'm surprised at the responses to your previous update. You are a couple and he has his dating profile up! It doesn't matter if it has only been 3 months, which is actually pretty long btw it isn't just a couple weeks, you have discussed being ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have a really good relationship with your mother-in-law?
Q. Hello everyone. So... my husband is often abroad for work. I lost my mom to cancer a couple of years ago. Since day 1 I've bonded with my mother in law whom I consider like a mother and a best friend. So, while my husband is abroad I often (say, on...
A. 29 August 2012: I agree with eyeswideopen that she seems a bit jealous. There is nothing creepy about being close to your mother in law. Doesn't make much sense how it could be creepy... Or that there is a law that says you can only be civil to in laws. I think ... (read in full...)
Tattoos of each other's names. Now we've split up, should I get mine covered?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have recently split up we both have tattoos of each others names I booked to have mine covered over but they can't do it til after Christmas my ex is having a tattoo done Christmas time when I asked him is he having my tattoo ...
A. 28 August 2012: It's all with what YOU want to do. Don't worry about what your ex says. He could claim now he will always keep in then have a new girl down the road demand he get rid of it and he could. If you don't want to always see your ex's name then cover it. ... (read in full...)
My ex girlfriend don't stop texting me.
Q. my ex girlfriend keeps texting me wanting to meet up one minute and then not so nice texts the next but doesnt seem to quit even though i never reply. she knows it is over and i no longer want to be in touch. was with her 3 months approx and she ...
A. 28 August 2012: Try calling your cell provider and have her blocked. It's what I did and worked for me. I also hear about apps blocking numbers. You say you don't have one but can you not get one? If neither of those are options then just continue to ignore her. ... (read in full...)
I'm dating a guy but he still has his dating profile up and says he is single!
Q. Okay so this is gone and past and i am completely over it but i was in a relationship for 2 1/2 years.. i moved in with him and gave everything to this guy and was honest and true to him and he had another girl for 1 year and a half of it and ...
A. 28 August 2012: It depends on how long you have been dating and if you have had the discussion of being an official couple and now boyfriend/girlfriend. You may be going on dates and find yourself to be official but he isnt yet. Now if you have discussed it and it ... (read in full...)
I met my soul mate online but he just broke up with me via text because his mom told him to!
Q. Dear Cupids I am at my lowest point ever I hope you can understand everything I have to say , and would really like your opinions of how to go about this. I met this guy online ( i know I was also one of the ones that said never ...
A. 28 August 2012: I think you did everything right. When it all went down you texted that you won't be waiting around forever. I applaud you. You showed that you love him but you won't sit around waiting, you have more self respect than that. I'm glad everything ... (read in full...)
Why is it that I always wind up with cheaters? I've never cheated!
Q. hello, i used to write on here a while ago when i used to need someplace to talk about the fact that i was sure my boyfriend at the time was cheating on me (which he was with several people). Anyway i broke up with my ex because i met someone i ...
A. 28 August 2012: Grymsoul has amazing advice. You need to be happy alone or on your own to be happy in a relationship. You are depending on other men for happiness and have a fear of being alone, that's why you jumped from one relationship into another, you couldn't ... (read in full...)
Are there any real benefits to casual sex?
Q. My first sexual experience was a FWB. I was 13, she was much older and, to my recollection, it was a very awkward, uncomfortable situation. It bothered me a lot and perhaps has made me biased against them. When I go back through my memory, the ...
A. 28 August 2012: Well I am against FWB. I think sex should be intimate and loving, not casual and with some guy/girl. That's why I think most of the time it turns out bad, because sex is a loving act one ultimately falls for the other. You can't share something like ... (read in full...)
Did his one sentence reply mean leave me alone?
Q. Hello basically i'm 21 now finished uni. Before, i was certain that my lecturer was trying it on with me more so towards the end. He has always been like my shining white knight, helped me a lot. I emailed him few days ago first time we have spo...
A. 28 August 2012: It was just a polite response to your email. If he was interested in you the way you thought he would've found the time to sit and write you a long wordy email. Nothing snarky or rude about it, just something polite to say. Most of the time those ... (read in full...)
I thought things were going well, I was beginning to like him. What happened?
Q. Okay so, I met this guy at a friend’s place say around two weeks ago. We hit off immediately. We spoke a lot and were inseparable till the end of the gathering. It was a completely new experience for me. He lives in a different city by the way so he ...
A. 28 August 2012: That was kind of random. And sucks since it sounded like you got on so well. The only thing I can think is that he didn't like your response to the song he sent you, like maybe he felt he was putting himself out there and you didn't give the ... (read in full...)
Does watching lesbian porn mean I'm bisexual?
Q. Hi I am a 24 year old virgin,I don't believe in sex before marriage,I believe in abstinence..I know some of you may think its crazy but these are my values,luckily the men I have dated understood this about me and never pressured me into sex.. I...
A. 28 August 2012: No it does not make you bisexual. I used to watch lesbian porn as well. And as for straight porn with a man and a woman, it is nothing like real life. It's all fake and done a certain way and over the top for entertainment purposes. ... (read in full...)
Do women look at men's butts?
Q. Is it true that women look at mens butts like men look at theirs...!!??...
A. 28 August 2012: Yes it appears some women do! I have always looked at guy's physiques sure and love me some nice abs, but men's asses never crossed my mind or do anything for me.... (read in full...)
Was I wrong for telling a man that my b/f had a small penis?
Q. i was so hurt when my boyfriend friday and said sone pretty hurtful things so i went on a dating site as i was angry and so lonely and i went on it and said about my boyfriend willy becausr i was so angry and he said my kids were mistakes am i in ...
A. 28 August 2012: Yes it was very wrong and extremely immature. The bigger question is why do you even have a dating account if you have a boyfriend? I have been in many awful, mean fights with many different guys and never felt the need to create an account on a ... (read in full...)
Do women look at men's butts?
Q. Is it true that women look at mens butts like men look at theirs...!!??...
A. 26 August 2012: I have honestly never looked at a man's ass in my life. ... (read in full...)
I met my soul mate online but he just broke up with me via text because his mom told him to!
Q. Dear Cupids I am at my lowest point ever I hope you can understand everything I have to say , and would really like your opinions of how to go about this. I met this guy online ( i know I was also one of the ones that said never ...
A. 25 August 2012: I think the entire relationship was very rushed. Saying you are in love is pretty serious seeing as it has only been 2 months total and a lot of that time wasn't even in person. I see it either 2 ways- He wouldn't have dumped you despite what his ... (read in full...)
What are the best casual dating sites out there?
Q. I have tried a few of these online dating sites recently but have had no replies and windered if anyone knew the best ones to keep faith with. I stopped using photographs in the end because i was getting nowhere-i am an ugly guy-but still had no ...
A. 25 August 2012: Ah, I apologize I have no idea where I saw Canada, lol.
i was always positive in outlook and sent interesting messages about my interests etc.
Maybe you thought they were interesting messages and they didn't come off that way. It's a very real... (read in full...)
What are the best casual dating sites out there?
Q. I have tried a few of these online dating sites recently but have had no replies and windered if anyone knew the best ones to keep faith with. I stopped using photographs in the end because i was getting nowhere-i am an ugly guy-but still had no ...
A. 24 August 2012: Well I met my husband on a dating site and have pretty good experience with the different sites. I would first say you need a picture, regardless of how you look. I wouldn't even check out a profile of someone without a picture, for all I know you ... (read in full...)
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