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I've had my share of relationships. And quite a few odd ones at that. I love to give advice when I have been in a similar situation and feel I can help out some. I feel my most common advice is to COMMUNICATE. A lot of people write in about a partner they have been with for years and ask how to tell their partner such and such. A relationship needs communication. Be open and honest always.
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Period brought on by sex? It only lasted 1 day!
Q. Okay so I am in a relationship have been for quite a while, just the other day I was due on my period, at first it was late evening, after having sex with my boyfriend it was spotting and only showing when wiping which was fine. Next day I was at my ...
A. 10 October 2012: Hmm that is strange. No idea why that would happen. Well if you are worried then seeing a doctor would be a good idea. I'm not one to rush to a doctor that's why I said I would wait to see what happens during your next period, but it's up to you. ... (read in full...)
Should I date this guy with no job and who didn't go to college? I like him!
Q. Hey guys,I've been friends with this dude since early this year.(March to be precise).Well, we exchanged numbers and really hit it off.Lately we've been spending lots of time together and i really like him and he feels the same way too.Thing is he ...
A. 10 October 2012: According to your update he sounds fine. As the other posters said, as long as he is not lazy and content doing nothing while struggling financially then it should be okay. I dated 2 different lazy men with no work ethic and I would never do it ... (read in full...)
Period brought on by sex? It only lasted 1 day!
Q. Okay so I am in a relationship have been for quite a while, just the other day I was due on my period, at first it was late evening, after having sex with my boyfriend it was spotting and only showing when wiping which was fine. Next day I was at my ...
A. 10 October 2012: Ok so when was the day it was really really heavy? And have you had anything since then? You had a day of spotting then the next day was heavy and then the period ended if I'm reading correctly. Are you on birth control? When I was on birth control ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has pics of hot girls at his job. Why? I feel bad and unsexy.
Q. Guys, please fill me in on this subject? I pulled up at my boyfriend's job yesterday ( I needed service on my car ) He is a mechanic. On his toolbox, I noticed a couple of posters of hot girls with barely any clothes on and a swimsuit calende...
A. 10 October 2012: Well first off don't listen to Family Guy. I love that show and have seen every episode so I know how their jokes are, it isn't real men's thoughts, just something meant to be funny. Like their various jokes about Jewish people- not how Jewish ... (read in full...)
Did I do the right thing in finishing this relationship?
Q. Dear Cupid Here it goes, me of my bf (soon to be ex) were on and off for past 2 years. He never calls and when I do he always says he is bored to talk to me, picks up a fight and wont call or return my calls for a week. Sometimes even without ...
A. 10 October 2012: Yes you did the right thing! Pat on the back and good job! He treated you like less than dirt and you blocked him in every way possible. You definitely did the right thing and stood up for yourself. Keep your self respect and don't call him ever ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend impregnanted another girl, but I still love him!
Q. I am a young lady aged 20 and have been dating my first boyfriend since July 2011. We were so happy but just like any other couple we also had our share of ups and downs of which mostly were about his unfaithfulness, i would see texts messages from ...
A. 10 October 2012: Good job! Very proud of you!... (read in full...)
She said she just felt like talking to a guy on line! Your thoughts please? But why would she start talking to a stranger online?
Q. I've been with my GF for almost 3 years. When I first met her she was always online chatting and I know she has done a lot of stuff she regrets while she was chatting.. She had promissed me to stop that because I said I would leave her and her 2 ki...
A. 9 October 2012: It is up to you whether or not it is forgiveable. I never said to leave her, I only gave her reasons for why she did what she did. Personally I don't consider it cheating, but the lying is what bothers me. You said you had to finally get it out of ... (read in full...)
She said she just felt like talking to a guy on line! Your thoughts please? But why would she start talking to a stranger online?
Q. I've been with my GF for almost 3 years. When I first met her she was always online chatting and I know she has done a lot of stuff she regrets while she was chatting.. She had promissed me to stop that because I said I would leave her and her 2 ki...
A. 9 October 2012: I will answer why she wants to talk to a stranger online- attention. She wants outside male attention. She lied in that it was an accident. He may very well have messaged her first but you don't accidentally talk to someone. Nor do you accidentally ... (read in full...)
He's too "nice" for me and it's a turn off.
Q. I have been seeing this really nice guy for the past 4 months. His "niceness" is starting to bother me, in that I find him to be not as masculine as I'd like him to be. He is the type who always has a smile on his face, who is always polite, ...
A. 9 October 2012: I like nice men and I can't stand dominating men. I hear about women that go after "bad boys" or someone intimidating and I never understood it. They are the ones that will treat you like shit more than likely. But if your type is more dominant then ... (read in full...)
Advice please? First time sex for a 24 year old virgin. Is it as painful as some say it is?
Q. Ok so I think ive found my 'one' we've been going out for a while now and are coming upto a point n our relationship where we both want sex. However I'm scared this would be my first time. I really like this guy and want to take our relationship...
A. 9 October 2012: Make sure you are on birth control of some kind. Make sure you are 100% comfortable with the man you are losing your virginity to, that you are able to talk to him easily about anything- you aren't scared to share all feelings openly. Once that is ... (read in full...)
Can you date one person and not be boyfriend/girlfriend?
Q. I've been a serial monogamist. 3 years, 2 year, 1 and 1/2 year relationship. I've never really "dated" multiple people at once. Call me Old fashioned - but it seems disloyal. Am I wrong? Within the last 3 months, I started dating for the first...
A. 9 October 2012: No, I dated the same way. I went on dates with one guy, if he didn't work then we parted ways and moved on. Dating multiple people at once makes no sense to me. If he was worth more than a date then we would try to make it serious, if not then he's ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend impregnanted another girl, but I still love him!
Q. I am a young lady aged 20 and have been dating my first boyfriend since July 2011. We were so happy but just like any other couple we also had our share of ups and downs of which mostly were about his unfaithfulness, i would see texts messages from ...
A. 9 October 2012: You have been dating for a little over a year. He has already cheated numerous times and now someone is pregnant. Not only does he cheat, he doesn't even have the respect for you to attempt an apology, he just blames you. He doesn't care about you. ... (read in full...)
Is this bad? "Virgin" girlfriend has kissed 80 guys!! What does this say about her?
Q. Is it bad that my girlfriend is only just turned 20 and has kissed around 80 guys. She says it's nothing bad because she's still a virgin, so it's not like she slept around, but that kissing was harmless fun. But what do you guys think? I find it...
A. 9 October 2012: Uh it is pretty weird. How do people even keep track at such a high number?? Does she write this down, "I kissed Mike on the 10th of October..." I have no idea how many people I have kissed in my life. I could guess a ball park of around 10 max. I'm ... (read in full...)
We've went on dates I really like him but he told a woman on facebook he loved her after she said it to him!
Q. There's a guy I went on a few dates with and I like him very much. I feel like we are a good match and he does indeed seem into me, only thing is our distance is definitely a challenge. We are friends on Facebook and for some reason, ALL of his ...
A. 8 October 2012: When is the last time you went out with him? How often do you talk to him? And what do you talk about? How far do you live from each other?
Without knowing any of these answers and going by only what you posted I would say to leave him as a fri... (read in full...)
I was given an ultimatum by 2 men. Which do I choose?
Q. I am in love with two men at the same time. Yes, it IS possible. I have been putting myself under great stress because I've been unable to choose which one I ought to stay with and whom I should let go. I am very compatible with one man and we h...
A. 8 October 2012: The only thing you feel for guy 2 is comfortablity. You "love" him but don't love him in that way. You don't settle for a guy because of comfortablity. You pick someone that has it all, that you feel comfortable with in addition to love and ... (read in full...)
We've been togetehr a year and still havnt slept at his house?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and we still havent slept over at his house, He's stayed at mine atleast 30+ times, whenever ive even hinted at it i get stuff back. His parents werent comfy over it because im the first female to ...
A. 8 October 2012: So you have been to his home before though, and he lives with his parents? If that's the case then this isn't something to be worried over, he obviously just doesn't feel comfortable or his parents don't feel comfortable, with his girlfriend staying ... (read in full...)
Do I call off the engagement because I don't want to marry?
Q. So, I need some advice after accepting my bf's marraige proposal because I'm not sure if I've made a bad decision :( Been together 2 years, he's been pushing to live together for 1 year, I've held off til the last few months and now feel ready t...
A. 8 October 2012: Well you need open communication with him, you can't have a good relationship without communication. So if you feel like you don't want marriage, tell him so. If you feel like you may change your mind one day but know that right now you don't want ... (read in full...)
How do I get my gf of ten months to open up to me again after I asked her not to?
Q. Okay, so I've been with my gf for ten months now. I love her honesty, she's type to say what's on her mind without being disrespectful or rude. She'll simply let you know her truth and I used to love that. If she says she doesn't like something o...
A. 8 October 2012: You explain that you never had a problem with her honesty, you had a problem with how it was delivered. Say you may have said you wanted to be lied to to spare your feelings but that's not what you meant, you just want honesty that isn't said in ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has had sex with 100 girls. Am I just the next one in line?
Q. My boyfriend confessed to having nearly 100 past sexual partners. I'm still a virgin, which makes it a shocker for me. He told me that before he turned 21 (his bday is next month) he wanted to go above 100, but said he would stop at me. He wanted me ...
A. 8 October 2012: Ok so I'm a bit confused and need something cleared up. He turns 21 next month and wants to have over 100 partners by then correct? I guess he is wanting you to make it 100 and then not be with anyone else after that..? But he said he would wait as ... (read in full...)
I'm not his Gf but I thought we were friends. Then he let me down. Should I bother to contact him again?
Q. I met this guy about a mouth ago. We got close and when he'd see me, he'd carry my bags. Pick me up and hug me in front of all of our friends. He'd always give me good advice. He's everything I wanted in someone. He's smart, humble, outgoing...
A. 6 October 2012: I think you did the right thing. It was a red flag to me, I've dated liars before and it started with the same crap. The guy you were talking to didn't fess up, it took a lot of talking and you telling him what you saw before he finally admitted it. ... (read in full...)
I feel if he becomes a part of my life that I will also have to support him due to his large existing debts. How could this work?
Q. Hi, i want to have an opportunity to have a relationship with my friend. He is a good guy, but i try to tell him he needs to take care of himself and not depending on his family. He got a job and his boss (sister's husband) doesnt pay him on time....
A. 6 October 2012: Not only is it ok to think like this, but it's correct and intelligent. Relationships are about far more than just love. You need compatibility to make it work. And his spending habits and financial life are not suitable for you, he's a grown man ... (read in full...)
My ex is threatening that he would post naked pics of mine online
Q. Hi i'm 29 years old and just broke up with my 31 year old boyfriend . He was always putting me down telling me I wasen't good enough that all his ex girlfriends were smarter had good jobs and were prettier. He wouldn't even let me meet his kids said ...
A. 6 October 2012: Ok first things first, stop talking to him. He still calls so ignore his calls or have him blocked. You broke up 6 months ago and he's an asshole, there is no reason to be in any contact with him and he shouldn't know if you are dating or not.
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Is it normal to not want sex at all one week? Yet another week Sex is all I can think of?
Q. Is it normal to not want sex? Last week, it was all I could think about. And this week, I have no desire for it. I mean, sometimes people go through a dry spell, where they don't have sex for a long period of time. This is almost the same, I gues...
A. 4 October 2012: Totally normal. I downloaded an app on my phone a few months ago that tracks your period and your ovulation cycle in a calender. Called My Days. It gives you the ability to put in notes and put down days when you were intimate. I noticed by looking ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's outgoing personality is causing some trust issues with me. How can I deal with this, or should I even deal with this?
Q. Hi there, I am in a big mess and I need some good advice! My boyfriend and I have been together for around 7 months now. He has a very friendly nature and is able to have conversations with almost anyone and everyone. He makes friends with fem...
A. 4 October 2012: These are things you do not do in a relationship, he is very much in the wrong.
His ex for starters. She threatens to ruin your lives and sends naked pictures by phone and email. If he were serious about getting rid of her then why hasn't h... (read in full...)
Boyfriend does what he wants without considering my feelings
Q. My boyfriend and I have had a rocky relationship to say the least. The first year of our relationship he had an emotional affair with an old girlfriend. He even kissed her once and even though he told me about it, I have never fully trusted him ...
A. 4 October 2012: He gave you an ultimatum, either you let him get rides with this girl or he walks. Let him walk. There's no need for him to have to ride with her and he clearly doesn't give a crap about your feelings towards it. Don't bother trying to work on ... (read in full...)
I always have to prompt b/f to wear a condom. Is this normal?
Q. Hi, Hope you can help. I have recently started a new relationship with a guy. Now I am not very sexually experienced but know we have to be careful, so am on the pill. Everytime we slept together I have had to prompt my boyfriend to wear a condom...
A. 4 October 2012: I will be in the minority here and while I understand where other aunts are coming from, I'd have to say I dont see this is a huge deal. The first big problem I see here is that you never discussed protection with him. The two of you never discussed ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong of me to be irritated when my ex wants to show me pics his ex took of him while they were on vacations together.
Q. Is it wrong of me to be irritated when my ex wants to show me pics his ex took of him while they were on vacations together. He has them downloaded on his computer and will show them to me talking about the place they were at. He even uses one of ...
A. 4 October 2012: No it's not wrong. I would be irritated too. I'm with you now, I don't want to hear about your ex's. Let him know you don't really care to hear about ex's, you realize they exist but don't want them in your face or places you have been to compared ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has started holding my head and staring at me during sex. It's weird and makes me uncomfortable, how do I get him to stop?
Q. This is a bit embarrassing but... My boyfriend of four years has started doing something really strange when we have sex. He started doing that close to six months ago and I don't know why he started. When we are...in the act...he holds my head i...
A. 4 October 2012: That would weird me the hell out too. No idea why your bf would've started it suddenly, how about you ask him? You need to have open communication. Having awkward sex for 6 months isn't right. Ask him why he does it all of the sudden. Tell him to ... (read in full...)
Should we wait until we have sex for the first time to try anything or should we find out our likes/dislikes now?
Q. I'm 17 and have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. Our school did a sex ed talk with our form yesterday and we answered loads of questions and talked about stuff as a class. I found it really interesting. I discovered lots of things about my ...
A. 3 October 2012: He sounds like a responsible and caring boyfriend, and it seems like you two have a mature and understanding relationship, congratulations! I think it is natural to try somethings before having sex for the first time. You kind of build up to it if ... (read in full...)
My parents seemed cold towards meeting my black girlfriend, then later mom called and said she wanted bi-racial babies. What do I say?
Q. I'm a senior in college and over the summer I brought my gf home to meet my folks. We had been dating for a year and wanted to wait before meeting each other's families. So the first half of the holiday we went to her parents' in another state---it ...
A. 3 October 2012: Don't be too hard on your mom. Parents can sometimes make dumb comments like this without thinking too much. Plus I am sure it would be shock if you have never dated anyone black and never mentioned it to your parents before bringing her by. I know ... (read in full...)
I am so in love with her. But my friend's actions with her, prior to us being a couple, make me feel bad. How do I learn from this? Stay? Or breakup?
Q. I'm in my first relationship with a girl i am madly in love with and have been dating her for nearly a year. she was the first and only person i've kissed or done anything with physically and are relationship is really really good and we have been...
A. 3 October 2012: You are suffering from retroactive jealousy. It does not mean you don't love her enough. It's almost the opposite, you love her so much it hurts you to think of her with another man. I feel very bad for you because most men/women who suffer from ... (read in full...)
This guy calls me a lesbian. He says he does it for a joke. What should I do?
Q. I have this friend who likes to joke around and call me a lesbian. I have asked a numbers of times not to call me a lesbian and he keeps saying, "oh lighten up i am only Joking". I have told him please stop it. he always says "I am Joking". Ye...
A. 3 October 2012: At your age you shouldn't care I'd he does "go around town calling me a lesbian." unless the age range is wrong, 26-29, this is a non issue. You know what I would say if a man came up and told me "that girl's a lesbian! She likes showering with ... (read in full...)
Is it because she has already done it all? She's been wild sexually in the past with others. Now she is happy with if fortnightly.
Q. I have a question and I was hoping I could get some insight from the females on here. I will try to keep it short, but I feel I have to give a little background so you guys know the full story. Both my girlfriend and I are pretty close to getting...
A. 3 October 2012: I think if the sex is already like this so soon into the relationship it's a bad sign for the future. Early years of a relationship are full of sex, it's not until marriage and kids that you hear sex starts waning. It's possible that she isn't ... (read in full...)
Is a 6-7 year age gap really that big of a deal in dating?
Q. I've recently started dating this girl. She's really nice, I get along with her really well. But there's a slight age difference. I'm 22 (23 soon), she's recently turned 30. I've only told a few of my friends about her (we've only been on a ...
A. 3 October 2012: My sister is 29 going on 30 and dating a man younger than my youngest sister, he's 21 maybe 22 now. At first we all thought it was weird and kinda gross. Probably compounded by the fact that he's younger than the youngest of all of us. I figured she ... (read in full...)
He suggested this game, but I don't know what will work. How am I supposed to convince my boyfriend to have sex?!
Q. my boyfriend wants me to convince him to have sex to see how convincing I can be. He wants it to be a game. I know he does, because he told me he wants to see if i can convince him to as well. I need help I've tried different things, but no luck....
A. 2 October 2012: You need help convincing your boyfriend to have sex with you? I'm genuinely confused and need more explanation on this game thing. You said nothing is working, so right now you aren't having sex at all until you can come up with a way to convince ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has suggested I get a sex toy for when he is away. But I'm not sure. Are there any that are better than most that you would recommend?
Q. I have quite a high sex drive, and my boyfriend has suggested that I think about buying a toy for when I'm 'in the mood' but he isn't around. I've never used toys before and although I've thought about it, I'm a bit hesitant. Sure it'd be nice to ...
A. 2 October 2012: I bought a vibrator years ago, it's called the bullet. I had heard about it from girl friends who used it alone and even with sex sometimes. It's a small vibrator about the size of lipstick, probably what SVC is talking about, attached to a cord ... (read in full...)
Afraid of commitment and really unsure of just about everything in my life right now
Q. This is a long post but I really want to ask a lot of deep questions from the very wise agony aunts. For those that haven't followed my previous posts, I'll give a very quick intro to my situation. I met my wife three years ago. I had just finishe...
A. 2 October 2012: I remember your other posts. I'm sorry but your marriage is over. At this point you are going through the motions but the chance of making it last forever...? Very, very slim. You aren't happy, she's not happy. What are you waiting for? She isn't ... (read in full...)
Because of an open relationship I may lose my gf
Q. a year ago, i asked my gf for an open relationship. i really wanted to experience more sexually from different types of women. We had been together for three years before i asked her, and after five months she told me she would give a try, though s...
A. 2 October 2012: Well all you can do is try. She may not go for it but you need to at least try. You said you told yourself you were done with the other women and deleted their numbers. Did you tell her this? I think you need to sit down with her and lay it all out. ... (read in full...)
How can I get my girlfriend to show anger like a normal person?
Q. My girlfriend never gets mad. She just never gets impatient or annoyed or frazzled or frustrated. It's come to the point when I just want to instigate fights to get a reaction out of her. I push her, and push and push, but she nevers gets angry. W...
A. 2 October 2012: It is normal to have conflict and fights at times in relationships. She sounds a lot like how my husband was in past relationships. When we first started dating he told me he never gets mad, ever. And other girlfriends would start fights and try to ... (read in full...)
Need to tell him I've got feelings for some-one else, but how? What should I say? I feel terrible.
Q. How the hell do you tell a guy you've been on a few dates with that you have feelings for someone else? I've been out with this guy a few times and I do like him so much, but the problem is that this guy who I met much before the one i'm seeing now, ...
A. 2 October 2012: There's nothing to feel terrible about. You only went on a couple dates and you realized you aren't over someone else. It has happened to me so many times. Now if you kept him around as a back up while trying to work with the other guy, then you are ... (read in full...)
We broke up, but now she wants me back. Do I stand up to her? Usually she gets her own way.
Q. Hello Everybody! Okay, I have a situation. I finished with my girlfriend a couple of weeks ago because she was cheating. Please see my previous questions. (Had really good advice as well. Thank you to all!) Anyway she got in touch the ot...
A. 1 October 2012: Don't stand her up, and don't go and tell her what a liar and cheat she is. This will only boost her ego, it means you still care enough about her to take time out of your day to meet up and say mean things to her because she hurt you. She can only ... (read in full...)
Extreme guilt after faking a pregnancy
Q. This is really hard for me to write about. When I was 16 I faked a pregnancy with my boyfriend at the time. I definitely had some sort of issues, I was cutting myself at the time and extremely depressed, manipulative, and obsessive. H...
A. 1 October 2012: I think you should see a counselor/therapist. You seem very depressed and honestly I think you feel far too guilty. Plus you have had depressing thoughts in the past and used to cut yourself so you should get help to the root of this.
As for who ... (read in full...)
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