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I've had my share of relationships. And quite a few odd ones at that. I love to give advice when I have been in a similar situation and feel I can help out some. I feel my most common advice is to COMMUNICATE. A lot of people write in about a partner they have been with for years and ask how to tell their partner such and such. A relationship needs communication. Be open and honest always.
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Like her personality but not fully attracted to her physically. Do I stay or move on?
Q. I've been dating this woman I met online now for about two months now and I'll be honest when it comes to the physical attraction I just don't find her as attractive as I want to find a girl I date to be. I find myself looking at other women when...
A. 14 August 2012: There isn't much worse than dating someone you have no attraction to. And comparing them to other people you wish you were with... I've been there. It isn't shallow, it just is what it is. Everyone has their type. I wouldn't reccomend trying to ... (read in full...)
I think he's the ONE. He's cheating on his Gf to be with me. But why the delay in breaking up with his GF?
Q. There's this guy. And he's cheating on his girlfriend.. with me. I'm the 'other girl.' I honestly love him and think he's the one. However, he told me he's thinking of breaking up with his girlfriend to be with me, but he hasn't. It kill...
A. 14 August 2012: Ugh please move on and listen to your friends. He's trash. He's cheating on his girlfriend, and you are helping. Even if they broke up do you really think he would hesitate to do he same thing to you...? I never understood people who do this. He's ... (read in full...)
I love my Gf not my ex. What can I say to my Gf when she objects to me talking to my ex?
Q. Ok, a little back story of my ex and I. We practically grew up together starting from middle. We were best friends and soon gravitated to being something more. We've been through a lot together and could never really let eachother completely go. She ...
A. 14 August 2012: I'm sure most people will say your girlfriend is being unreasonable but I agree with her. I don't think anyone in a relationship should remain friends with an ex, no matter how long you knew them. Especially one who still eludes that she wants you ... (read in full...)
I want validation that he is not cheating on me! If I asked to see his phone would that be wrong?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been seeing each other since May, but lately I've had this gut feeling he is hiding stuff from me. He's been acting a little shady in my eyes. Yesterday I asked him if he was talking to any other females. I excepted a no, ...
A. 13 August 2012: Well in general I see no problem with asking your significant other to see their phone. It shouldn't be hidden anyway. But your problems go beyond what looking at his phone could even do for you. Listen to caring guy because he is spot on. I have ... (read in full...)
How do you go about forgetting someone who has hurt you deeply?
Q. How do you go about forgetting someone who has hurt you deeply? I'm trying to forget that I even met the guy in the first place -- but it so far has been difficult. I've deleted him from FB..got rid of his number...haven't made any attempts to ...
A. 7 June 2012: He disappeared because he wanted it over and was too immature to face you like an adult. It's that simple. Of course it hurts like hell now and you want an explanation. Even if you got one it would be an excuse, one that wouldn't help because you ... (read in full...)
He's giving me the silent treatment again, what should I do this time?
Q. I am stuck on what to do - i dont know if contacting my boyfriend will make things worse. A few nights ago my BF seemed to get angry about something and saying he would stop coming over to my house. Nothing actually happened so i dont know where ...
A. 7 June 2012: Not only should you not contact him this time, you shouldn't continue dating him anymore at all. Not only does he have serious immaturity issues, he also has communication problems which is critical to a relationship. The anger problems worry me for ... (read in full...)
Disgusted by my fiancee's past relationship
Q. Hello, I'm due to marry my fiancee in December, I love her so much and she's perfect for me. I'm 36 so am no spring chicken, and have had past relationships that never worked out so I know what an awful lot I have to lose if I blow this one. ...
A. 7 June 2012: I'm not sure if I should answer since I don't have a great solution to tell you since I don't believe these feelings will go away. All I can say is I went/am going through a similar situation. It's called retroactive jealousy. I looked it up online ... (read in full...)
Has my boyfriend lost interest?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend almost 3 years but recently everything has been going down hill his mate is round 24/7 and never wants to go any where with me and we only now have sex twice a month when it used to be 3 or 4 times a week this problem ...
A. 21 May 2012: I assume you have asked him why the change- less sex, seeing friend more, etc... What was his answer?... (read in full...)
Should I try online dating when I still have feelings for my ex?
Q. I came out of a relationship about 2 months ago. I still have feelings for my ex but do want to move on. A lot of my friends have suggested internet dating. It sounds alright and i was maybe thinking of trying it but i do still have some feelings ...
A. 14 January 2012: Honestly depends on how hung up you still are. After my first relationship it had been a year and I still found myself thinking of him. Only after meeting and dating someone else did I finally move on. But I have also made the mistake of going out ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend told a friend he still misses his ex, what does this mean for us?
Q. Long story short: I stooped through my boyfriend's phone, found a text he sent to his best friend saying that he's been missing his ex a lot lately. They've been broken up for over a year, and we've been together for almost a year. He said he saw o...
A. 14 January 2012: I completely 100% disagree with the anonymous poster. Are you kidding me? What more can she want? How about a boyfriend who doesn't miss and long for his ex..? And ignore what's going on in his head? That isn't a relationship. That's 2 people dating ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend won't stop seeing this male friend of hers!
Q. My girlfriend won't stop seeing this male friend of her no matter what I tell her. I meet my girlfriend two years and six months ago and we have been officially together for two years and three months. She had a couple of male friend and I was...
A. 14 January 2012: I don't understand wanting to be friends with someone you have sexual history with either. My fiancee had a girl he was friends with who he had a sexual relationship with in the past. It made me extremely uncomfortable and did get to the point ... (read in full...)
My husband had a 2 hr long, intimate conversation with a girl and I cannot believe this is happening to me. What do I do now?
Q. First of all, I would like to thank everybody that takes the time to answer my question. I would just like to know what people consider cheating in a marriage, or if anyone has been in the same situation. I am 24yrs old, married for t...
A. 21 September 2011: It is just as bad as cheating whether it was the physical act or not. I can only imagine how bad it would hurt to read such a conversation. I am so sorry you are going through this right now. I can't believe anyone would be able to downplay this as ... (read in full...)
My mother can't afford the wedding, my b/f's family can but won't help!
Q. Me and my fiance are planning our wedding. I've always wanted to get married in a cathedral, and have a ball-gown style dress, and of course marry the man of my dreams. Unfortunately...my mom who would be fronting the bill, can't afford how much the ...
A. 21 September 2011: Well I am gonig through a similar situation. Although I do have a very different outlook on it. My parents are in dire financial straits right now. They helped my sister out with her wedding years ago, now they can't help me with mine at all. I ... (read in full...)
I want to ask ex-boyfriend's sister about what she said, but am not sure if its a good idea
Q. It's been a little over a yr. now since my ex-fiance and I parted ways after 7 yrs. together. He did the dumping and soon after became heavily involved with someone else. Through out this whole ordeal I remained in contact with his family, ...
A. 21 September 2011: It sounds like she meant that she wants him back together with you and she wishes he would just go back to you already. Unfortunately what she wants means little in what he is thinking, it just means she likes you and likes you 2 together. If you ... (read in full...)
Can I delete my 'Step Mum' from Facebook ?
Q. My step mother seems to be utterly obsessed with me. She is paranoid that my Dad favours me over her, (we do have a strong relationship but I'm his DAUGHTER not his lover) I was open to her in the beginning when she proposed to him after barely ...
A. 17 September 2011: I agree with anonymous. She is controlling and manipulating your dad and trying to do the same with you. She whines and throws a fit like a child and gets what she wants because your dad won't stand up to her. Don't give in to her too. You have a ... (read in full...)
Why does my wife wear sexy panties at work and granny panties at home?
Q. I'll try to keep this brief. She wears sexy panties and thongs to work but granny panties at home and sometimes, about 50% of the time, wears no panties to work. When questioned about no panties she explains she wore the same ugly pair because she...
A. 9 September 2011: Well lets see. I used to wear makeup to work, I'd wear thongs and like to look very nice. Now, being in a relationship and not trying to look great for any coworkers (because honestly... Why in the world should I take twice the time and uncomfort to ... (read in full...)
I felt betrayed! He proposed to me and then kisses my best friend??
Q. ok i have a boyfriend and we have been dating for six months and he proposed to me last week. then yesterday i saw him with my best friend kissing and i shouted at him and now he won't stop calling what to do?...
A. 9 September 2011: So so lucky. Seriously, it doesn't seem like it now, but you are truly lucky. You can still easily walk away at this point. You aren't married with joint accounts, shared everything, and having to face a divorce lawyer. Six months was too soon to ... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 8 September 2011: So to put out there, I haven't read any of the comments so I am unsure of other's feelings on this article. I came across your profile page and clicked on this article. I know a lot of your answers involve porn and you seem to be very educated about ... (read in full...)
Male, 20 and still a virgin
Q. Just as the title says. I absolutely hate myself for it too. What a loser i must be. Worse, everyone's always telling me how good looking i am and what a good sense of humour i have. So why the HELL cant i make it work for me?? Im a useless failure. ...
A. 24 August 2011: Oh please. You are 20, not 40, as another poster stated. It's a great thing. Believe it or not, not all girls want a guy who is a pig who f*cked whoever in their teens and bragged about it to their immature friends. A guy with confidence who waited ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend complains when I eat his food!!!
Q. Hi. Me and my bf have been togther almost 2 years and we are about to buy a house togther. He is fronting all of the deposit and paying for most of the fees (around £20,000). However, sometimes when I go round to see him and want to eat his food...
A. 24 August 2011: I didn't really see this as a negative question where the asker seems greedy or mooching. It reminds me of my fiancee and I in the very beginning of our relationship. He asked me to buy my own food. I felt hurt by it. It felt like he was keeping ... (read in full...)
Can I believe him even though these sites tell a different story?
Q. Really upset, i thought id found the man of my dreams now ive discovered him on fu##book and various other dating sites which were logged onto 2 weeks ago, the thing is we have been here before and he told me they were old sites which he couldn't ...
A. 24 August 2011: He is absolutely lying. Anyone who tries to keep their phone or email from you when you are in a serious relationship under the guise of "invasion of privacy" is hiding something. So that would be a red flag in itself. However, you already know he ... (read in full...)
Am I the only woman not threated by porn?
Q. I just read an article about porn here on DC so it made me interested to post a question. Am I the only woman who is not threatened by porn? I mean, I read a lot of questions here about it, of ladies breaking up with their boyfriends and w...
A. 24 August 2011: Personally I think it is an insecurity issue with women who hate it. It's like their bf/husband is really attracted to the women on the screen, which most normal women could never look like. I think it's a worry that the man wishes they could have ... (read in full...)
My mom thinks that wet bath mats and talking loudly are deal breakers! How do I get her to accept my relationship with my fiance?
Q. I was so worried to tell my mom I got engaged to my boyfriend. We went back to my hometown to tell her in person and I was so relieved when she seemed to take the news well (ish) that I cried. But my partner went home a couple of days before me, and ...
A. 31 July 2011: I would tell him everything. Personally, that's just how I am in my relationship. My fiancee is a big boy, he can handle if my mother is insane. Besides, he should know shouldn't he? He's marrying into it. My fiancee knows all about my seriously ... (read in full...)
How do I stop my new boyfriend losing interest?
Q. My new bf does not spend time with me. He always comes home late and goes to sleep. He does not have time to spend with me. How do I get his interest in me? Do you think oral sex would help to turn him on? Please advise....
A. 31 July 2011: Oh honey... no. You don't use sex to get a guy interested in you. He doesn't want to spend time with you? Why date him? A relationship tends to involve spending time together. Using sex to get him to come home has got to make you feel cheap. Get ... (read in full...)
He's cheated on me 5 times, constantly lies and disrespects me but he has my heart and I want him back....
Q. Dear Cupid How can i get over a guy whom i've been with for over 2 years now who has cheated on me 5 times, who constantly lies to me, who disrespects me, who doesn't show any affection or that he cares, who ignores me, doesn't communicate whenever...
A. 31 July 2011: It is very clearly a self esteem issue. Where that comes from I couldn't tell you. Maybe you already know where it started, maybe you should see a counselor to help you. Either way, this guy only makes it even worse on your self esteem. You already ... (read in full...)
Sisters are best friends while I am out in the cold.
Q. My sisters block me out of there lives. I am in the middle my older sister and I are 18 months apart and my younger sister is 6 years younger than me. My older sister has disliked me since birth and my younger sister was so much younger than me, ...
A. 31 July 2011: What I would do is a final conversation. Get them together and have a serious heart to heart talk. Explain exactly how you feel, explain anything you feel they may not understand, put it all out there. It'll basically be like a closure conversation. ... (read in full...)
Is this normal behavior?
Q. Is it normal behavior for your boyfriend to leave as soon as you are confrontational/negative because he doesn't want to waste a "second of his life arguing"? By leaving, I mean literally walking out the house and not returning 10-12 hours late...
A. 31 July 2011: Uh I'd have to disagree with the previous comment. You can't just leave any time something isn't 100% great and pleasant. In life and relationships you have arguments. Leaving and refusing to face them shows that you don't care about your partner's ... (read in full...)
Listen to my head or my heart?
Q. I need some advice on whether it's best to follow head or heart when making a decision about an unplanned pregnancy, please :( I found out at the doctor's today I'm 2-3 weeks pregnant, unplanned, and a big surprise as I have been taking the contr...
A. 23 June 2011: I agree 100% with the first poster. I was thinking the same exact thing. If you are going to be getting married and living together in the future, why would it matter to just have it happen a little sooner? I think when it became an actuality rather ... (read in full...)
When and how should you ask if you two are "exclusive"?
Q. So, when is it appropriate to ask, or at least hint, that you would like to be exclusive with someone you are dating? I ask because I have been dating a guy I met online for about three and a half weeks. We've been on four awesome, awesome...
A. 23 June 2011: Agreed. If he is serious about you, he wouldn't want you on the site or even the possiblity of you dating anyone else. Don't play mind games with him, but definitely don't devote everything either. Maybe inform him in so many words that you don't ... (read in full...)
Am I sick or evil for wishing bad things for my ex?
Q. ok, I hate myself right now. my ex was manipulative and lied and was insensitive and we broke up and now i look at her facebook page and see she is having fun, traveling with some new guy in Florida. and i cannot help but wish her BAD. i am je...
A. 23 June 2011: Just remember that everything happens for a reason. The person may seem happy and doing great and end up miserable with whomever she is out with. If someone was truly evil to you then they will get it back eventually. I've had exes that I wasn't ... (read in full...)
How do I tell her I don't want to hang out with her friends?
Q. How do I tell my fiancee that I don't like her friends, and that I am sick of her forcing me to hang out with them, and inviting them along on activities that were originally "just for us"??...
A. 17 June 2011: Being that she is your fiancee, I'd hope you are just able to talk to her. Going into marriage without good communication is a bad idea. It's a huge part of a successful relationship and I can't ever understand when people ask how to talk to their ... (read in full...)
Should she give the engagement ring back?
Q. After 2 years with a wonderful girl I proposed... She said yes! We were planning on moving in together and then got into an argument about money. She says I had a look in my eye like I was going to hit her.... I wouldn't touch a hair on her head! ...
A. 10 June 2011: Yepp, pretty much what they said was what I thought. Either she isn't serious about breaking up, she loves the ring because it her dream ring, or she wants to sell it. I can't possibly see her keeping it as a future engagement ring. I don't think ... (read in full...)
Mixed feelings and don't know which way to turn
Q. Hi, I posted a few months ago about my boyfriend and things are no better really. We have been together for 14 months now. I am 38, divorced and he is 43, divorced. We are meant to be getting engaged at Christmas but I am having doubts. I have ver...
A. 10 June 2011: I haven't been on the site in awhile so I just got the update you posted. I'm not sure if the problem is resolved now or not. But if it isn't, is there anyone in your life that could help you? A parent or sibling, a friend or co-worker? I wouldn't ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend ignores me when I talk!
Q. My boyfriend of one year ignores me. When I talk sometimes he just sits and says nothing. I am not asking for a long conversation, but even a "yeah" or "sure", I mean anything. It is extremely rude and driving me crazy. The other day I talked about ...
A. 9 February 2011: I'm sorry you are going through all of this. My boyfriend and I have since worked on the issue. It turned out if I didn't ask a question he really didn't know what to say in response. When he realized I just wanted to converse he has been trying to ... (read in full...)
I have having the lights on while having sex
Q. I wont let my Fiance keep the lights on during sex and he loves me and never complains but i am too insecure because of my body because i am fat and big is beautiful but i have like cottage cheese looking fat, oh anyways TMI sorry my Q is how can i ...
A. 6 February 2011: Me too. Anyone can have insecurities about their body. Like you, my boyfriend loves how I look and I'm a small girl, nothing unattractive, but I just don't like to be naked with all the lights on. What we have done is worked on it slowly. Started ... (read in full...)
Why did he say he fell for me, now changes his mind so quickly?
Q. Here's my story: I met a guy online. We were actually both trying to get off SpeedDate because we were fed up with online dating, it just wasn't working. We started up a conversation and it took off like a rocket. We fell in love, fell IN love and ...
A. 6 February 2011: Ok well first of all, you can't fall "in love" in 3 weeks online. You don't know the person and even knowing someone in person, you cannot fall in love in 3 weeks. What you did have was an extreme infatuation. It happened to me in the past. Online ... (read in full...)
Can you truly love someone and yet have sex with someone else?
Q. I have another posting with more details and a different question, but after reading some other posts (and just being honest with myself) I feel this question needs to be answered as well. Long story short, I met an amazing girl, we had a perfect...
A. 6 February 2011: No she does not love you. She wouldn't do what she did if she loved you. People like her, honestly I don't know if they are capable of true love. They think they feel it from time to time so they say it. But they don't really mean it. I can explain ... (read in full...)
Is it common for boys to come up from behind and grind on a girl when out clubbing?
Q. I am still fairly new to clubbing but I went out a few nights ago. And while I was there I noticed a lot of guys come up from behind and try to grind/dance with the girls. My first question is, is this common? and how should the girl react - is it ...
A. 6 February 2011: Ok. While it has been awhile since I have been to clubs I do remember it quite well. Yes, guys will come up behind you and grind on you. Completely random guys who have no clue what you look like even. If there is an empty space behind you, then a ... (read in full...)
There is a 3rd person in this relationship... His mother... Please advise on what I should do!
Q. my partner is a lot older than me - this is not the issue, however his past is! He's been living with his mum for a year to get some money behind him, we split up last summer and have now been back together 4 months. his mum this time round has not ...
A. 6 February 2011: The fact that his mom is dictating the time you spend with your boyfriend is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard. Especially if he is so much older. However it is his flat so he can give his mom a key if he chooses to. So if he is fine with ... (read in full...)
Mixed feelings and don't know which way to turn
Q. Hi, I posted a few months ago about my boyfriend and things are no better really. We have been together for 14 months now. I am 38, divorced and he is 43, divorced. We are meant to be getting engaged at Christmas but I am having doubts. I have ver...
A. 27 January 2011: Yeah. You should get it over with and not have any excuses. It'll always be something you are putting it off for because it isn't the most pleasant thing to have to do. But how many weekends are you going to do this with him? Why prolong it longer ... (read in full...)
Should I go to this party where there's a chance I could cheat on my boyfriend in a moment of weakness?
Q. Im going away for the weekend because i've been invited to a birthday party ...but my boyfriend is going away too and i was moaning to him about how hes gonna cheat on me ..but the thing is the party im going to has this guy who fancies me and said ...
A. 26 January 2011: No. Out of respect for your boyfriend you should not be around a guy who "can't control" himself around you. Especially if you feel you could cheat. Don't do it to your boyfriend if you love him. ... (read in full...)
Mixed feelings and don't know which way to turn
Q. Hi, I posted a few months ago about my boyfriend and things are no better really. We have been together for 14 months now. I am 38, divorced and he is 43, divorced. We are meant to be getting engaged at Christmas but I am having doubts. I have ver...
A. 26 January 2011: Oh and do not tell him where you are going. He could follow you. Just say "out" and leave. Don't hesitate or stand around, leave immediately. People are crazy when they are in denial and won't let it go. sorry I keep adding posts, lol.... (read in full...)
Mixed feelings and don't know which way to turn
Q. Hi, I posted a few months ago about my boyfriend and things are no better really. We have been together for 14 months now. I am 38, divorced and he is 43, divorced. We are meant to be getting engaged at Christmas but I am having doubts. I have ver...
A. 26 January 2011: I reread it and it sounds like it is your place. Tell him again firmly, "I am done. You WILL be leaving. I am sorry but I do not want to continue this relationship. No amount of talking or persuading or denial will change my mind. If you do not get ... (read in full...)
Mixed feelings and don't know which way to turn
Q. Hi, I posted a few months ago about my boyfriend and things are no better really. We have been together for 14 months now. I am 38, divorced and he is 43, divorced. We are meant to be getting engaged at Christmas but I am having doubts. I have ver...
A. 26 January 2011: You stand strong. You tell him it is in fact over. I don't know the living situation, if it is your house or his. But if it is his house then just leave. If it's yours, then tell him you will call the police if he doesn't get out. If you both own it ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend ignores me when I talk!
Q. My boyfriend of one year ignores me. When I talk sometimes he just sits and says nothing. I am not asking for a long conversation, but even a "yeah" or "sure", I mean anything. It is extremely rude and driving me crazy. The other day I talked about ...
A. 4 January 2011: Last night we had a fight and I left. Just for a drive, I needed to get out. I have never done that before. I've never left the house at 2am. He didn't do anything. He kept sleeping. I could've gone anywhere and he just didn't care. Didn't call or ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend ignores me when I talk!
Q. My boyfriend of one year ignores me. When I talk sometimes he just sits and says nothing. I am not asking for a long conversation, but even a "yeah" or "sure", I mean anything. It is extremely rude and driving me crazy. The other day I talked about ...
A. 4 January 2011: Seems like a nice excuse if he were 15 or we just started dating. Since he is 30 and we have been together a year I suppose this is how it is. He won't be learning anything new. And I still think it is rude to decide the dialogue is "annoying" or ... (read in full...)
Mixed feelings and don't know which way to turn
Q. Hi, I posted a few months ago about my boyfriend and things are no better really. We have been together for 14 months now. I am 38, divorced and he is 43, divorced. We are meant to be getting engaged at Christmas but I am having doubts. I have ver...
A. 15 November 2010: I agree with a previous poster that you should trust your gut instinct. And also another poster who said to look at this from a married woman's pov and how unhappy it would be. You should never marry someone with doubt. It will only be worse only ... (read in full...)
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