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... Send *tayc63088 a private message | | | *tayc63088's profile:My name is Stacey. I've been on this site for years. I come and go at times depending on how busy life is.
I've had my share of relationships. And quite a few odd ones at that. I love to give advice when I have been in a similar situation and feel I can help out some. I feel my most common advice is to COMMUNICATE. A lot of people write in about a partner they have been with for years and ask how to tell their partner such and such. A relationship needs communication. Be open and honest always.
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I love my husband but his habits of selfishness and laziness are starting to makes me feel unimportant and undervalued, and is putting me into a state of depression.
Q. I love my husband, but his habits of selfishness and laziness are starting to really eat at me. While I feel he loves me, I don't feel he cares about me. He doesn't seem at all concerned with what I might need or want, and everything seems devoted ...
A. 23 August 2012: This is your question too no?
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-love-him-but-hes-selfish-and-lazy.html
So is it your boyfriend or your husband?... (read in full...)
Is it worth continuing?
Q. My bf of 3.5years has a job that takes up most of his time. Between June-start of August I saw him for a total of about 4 hours. Now he's freed up for about a month and a half. We have spent 2 weekends together and now the next two he's busy with ...
A. 23 August 2012: I would suggest breaking up. You rarely see him anyway, I can't imagine that is any kind of relationship when you saw him for 4 hours in almost 2 months time. Maybe if he gets less hours or work changes for him you try to pick it back up but right ... (read in full...)
I love him but he's selfish and lazy. Why does he behave this way?
Q. I love my boyfriend, but his habits of selfishness and laziness are starting to really eat at me. While he constantly reminds that he loves me, I don't feel he does or cares about me. He doesn't seem at all concerned with what I might need or want, ...
A. 23 August 2012: I think he loves you he's just a lazy guy. And it's frustrating as hell. You have to do or initate most everything because he's content to just sit and take forever. Have you talked to him about it and shared how it makes you feel like he doesn't ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend likes to look at my sister's fake boobs, but when I said I wanted fake boobs he flipped out!
Q. Okay so short story.... My sister had tons of ummm "sexy" pictures on her computer.... Nude, and she has fake boobs..... Well my boyfriend of over a year decides to be a dick and goes on her computer and emails himself some of the nude photos!!! I ...
A. 23 August 2012: It's possible he doesn't want you to get them because he's afraid men will then look at you the way he looks at your sister. And he's too jealous to have you be a sex object to other men. To be honest it doesn't matter because you shouldn't be with ... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with him before I leave? I'm a virgin.
Q. So recently I met this guy in Georgia and ever since then him and I have been flirting and making out,and you can say that we are dating. The problem is I'm leaving in a few days and he tells me wants to have sex before I leave. I'm a virgin and I ...
A. 21 August 2012: Listen to person. You have nothing to gain from this, you probably will never see him again and you will lose your virginity to a summer fling. Please wait until you are in a committed relationship, it's much better and well worth it. He's the only ... (read in full...)
How do you deal with pubic hair growing back?
Q. For people who have sex regularly, how do you deal with the growing back of shaved pubic hair? It loses the smoothness after only 1-2 days, so doesn't it get uncomfortable for your partner with the stubble? Shaving the stubble creates hell for me. ...
A. 21 August 2012: I used to shave every single time I was in the shower and it hurt like hell as we'll as gave me red bumps. Which ended up looking awful and probably worse than hair does, lol. I eventually just started shaving down there once a week, I shave it all ... (read in full...)
How can I spice up my sex life?
Q. I would like to spice up our sex life but I don't know exactly how to do it its not like I can go to my mom for advise so I always see very helpful people on the site I'm willing to go to the ends of earth to make my man happy,should I buy toys or ...
A. 21 August 2012: Well definitely communicate with him. Tell him you would like to spice up your sex life and try some new things. I suggest going together to a book store and checking out the erotic section. They have books on different sex positions and that's ... (read in full...)
Re-met my Ex. At first it was so promising. Now the interest has tapered off. Is this how guys are with their friends?
Q. Is this really the way that blokes behave with their friends? My story is a little complicated, but in a nutshell... I met up with an ex again after many years apart, we had both moved on in that time and are in new relationships. However ...
A. 21 August 2012: Unfortunately we can't always get closure. It just comes in time when we accept that it's over. I think what you miss is your feelings between each other and the chemistry, not so much missing a good friend. I think he does mean that he could be sad ... (read in full...)
His Mom undermines my ability to discipline my child. We live with her. Would it be wrong to leave my Bf?
Q. I have been in a relationship for the last 3 years, the last year and a half has been nothing but an emotional roller coaster. Earlier this year we had financial troubles and so we moved back into my mother in laws house. I have a daughter...
A. 21 August 2012: You should get out and move into the apartment with your brother. Your boyfriend sounds like a child who is just happy to be back with mom and couldn't care less about your feelings. His mom is disrespecting you as a parent and has no right telling ... (read in full...)
Feeling single in this relationship
Q. Ok, here's my problem. My girlfriend and I started dating back in November of 2011, and we were great. She was always happy around me, any time we had together she seemed to love, and always wanted to spend more time always told me she missed me. B...
A. 21 August 2012: I agree with fatherly advice. It sounds like depression. It isn't normal to move in together then suddenly become numb to any emotions. I suffer from depression from time to time and that's exactly how it feels- numb and not wanting to do anything, ... (read in full...)
I am going on my first date, in quite a while, and would like some advice.
Q. I am going on a first date this weekend with a gentleman that I met online. We have taken all of the correct steps...email, text and then phone calls. I am extremely nervous and don't want to mess anything up. As you may be able to tell, I've not ...
A. 21 August 2012: Be yourself. Admit to being nervous if that's how you are feeling, it will break the ice as I'm sure he is nervous too, everyone is on a first date. Let conversation flow naturally as you did by talking on the phone. Don't put too much pressure on ... (read in full...)
I don't understand why is he acting this way?
Q. I met what seemed to be a really genuine guy on an online dating site. We spoke everyday for a week and arranged to meet. We had a fabulous first date and both agreed we clicked. We met up the next day and he came to my home and spent the night ...
A. 20 August 2012: K_c 100 has perfect advice. It was too soon for sex and far too soon for sharing so much emotional baggage. It just scared him off. There's no making a relationship with this guy so you need to move on. As hard as it is do not text him, you will ... (read in full...)
Preferably guys' opinions- Friendship between guys and girls, What do you think?
Q. I know a lot of experts on dearcupid.org think men normally don't befriend girls unless they want something more from the girls - either sex or romance. So what do you guys think about this?Do you agree that a lot of the time, guys and girls b...
A. 20 August 2012: I realize there are already many, many answers but I thought I would add anyway. I have never had a male friend that did not try to date me. They all act that way in the beginning but it changes very quickly and I begin to hear compliments then ... (read in full...)
Together 7 months, are we rushing it?
Q. I haven't long come out of a 2 year relationship, we split up because I had a miscarriage and it was the worst thing I've ever been through and my ex partner was not supportive at all, despite that I tried and tried to make the relationship work, ...
A. 19 August 2012: Why bother posting a question and asking what anyone thinks? You clearly don't care about any of the answers anyway. All very good answers from person12345 and they are being ignored because you know you are right and doing it anyway. So I'm just ... (read in full...)
Why didn't he call me back? Should I call one more time?
Q. I started talking to this guy that my sister hooked me up with. We talked a few times a week on the phone for about a month. We would talk anywhere from one to 4 hours! We finally hung out and I thought it went well. We got along and hung out for ...
A. 19 August 2012: Did you leave a voicemail when you called those times? If so, don't text or call anymore most likely he got it and decided not to call back. If you didnt, I would send one final text. Just say you tried getting in touch with him on wednesday and ... (read in full...)
Why did I sleep with my best friend's husband? I know I betrayed my friend. How do I fix this?
Q. My best friend, her husband and I have been friends since the 10th grade. My friend and I both got married 2 years after we left high school. I got divorced and they remained married. Throughout the 16 yrs that they've been married they both have...
A. 19 August 2012: And I find sunilal's advice deplorable. ... (read in full...)
Why did I sleep with my best friend's husband? I know I betrayed my friend. How do I fix this?
Q. My best friend, her husband and I have been friends since the 10th grade. My friend and I both got married 2 years after we left high school. I got divorced and they remained married. Throughout the 16 yrs that they've been married they both have...
A. 19 August 2012: This is a very sad dilemma to be in for sure. I'm not sure where to start so I'm sure I'll end up jumping all over the place. To answer your first question I think you didn't stop it from happening because you were drunk and probably have some ... (read in full...)
Does no really mean no?
Q. I've been getting a lot of nos lately. "No, I can't go out on a date with you." "No, I have a boyfriend." "No, you can not have my number." Those are just examples of what I've been going through lately. I don't get it. I can understand that ...
A. 19 August 2012: For me when I say no I mean I am not interested. And if the guy keeps trying he seems stalkerish and desperate. You are right to move on if a girl tells you no. Most likely she means it and to continue persuing her you can come off as creepy and ... (read in full...)
Problems with my sister are making me feel like I never want to see or talk to her again!
Q. Hi Everyone, well its been a long time ... and what fun we are having... my life is back on track .. me and my partner are having a ball - we love being with one another ... its great couldn't fault it however, there's one thing that's niggling at ...
A. 19 August 2012: Well she obviously doesn't like your partner enough to sever ties and relationship with you. We don't know why she feels that way towards your partner but it's clear. She said she wants nothing to do with you and acts awful when you do contact her ... (read in full...)
How do I get my ex to leave me alone?
Q. I split up with my boyfriend a year and a half ago and he left me with 2 kids and the mortgage to pay. He married after 8 months and has a baby on the way which depresses me no end. Because I struggled financially my home is being repossessed and ...
A. 19 August 2012: Wow ok. What you do is ignore his rants, don't drop to his level and send abuse back to him through text. Tell him you are done and that's it, no more, stop calling and texting you. Tell him if he comes by your house uninvited and let's himself in ... (read in full...)
LDR: Do I bank on her hooking up with other people and do the same myself? We are separated by a long distance.
Q. My girlfriend and I split up because she's going to college hundreds of miles away and I'm in another state. so it didn't make sense. I feel a strong connection with her and expect to love her for the next semester and try and spark things back up ...
A. 19 August 2012: Just go with the flow and what happens happens. If you feel too in love with your ex to have sex with another person then don't. If you want to then do, you arent together anymore for that exact reason. I agree with karlos, if you two were that in ... (read in full...)
Why does he give me mixed signals? Is it now time to give up all hope of connecting with the Teacher I loved as a teen?
Q. Nearly ten years ago I had a teacher that I fell head over heels for. He was only 5 or so years older than me and single. I was a pretty obnoxious teenager and I made my feelings known to him, and he rebuffed me (rightly so). However, he'd also ma...
A. 19 August 2012: He probably still feels weird because he was your teacher once. And he probably has some dating or social issues since he is "homely". I think you have made it more than clear that you like him and he hasn't reciprocated those feelings so you should ... (read in full...)
He can't stay hard now. Is he losing his attraction to me?
Q. Hi Me and my boyf have been together for about 4 months and have been having sex for about 3 months. At first we were doing it a lot! Around 3 times every time we saw eachother! But recently we start having sex and his penis goes limp, its happened ...
A. 19 August 2012: I had it happen with a boyfriend before my husband as well but he didn't know he problem. He got upset and thought it was some issue he was having. It was the same thing, we had sex everyday for a little while and eventually when we started trying ... (read in full...)
I want to go on the pill but I don't want to gain weight or have my breasts get larger
Q. I'm about to start the pill and i've heard so many people talk about how they gained weight when taking it. I asked my doctor if i'll gain weight being on it and he said he can't guarantee i won't, or will. But i really, really don't want to I hate ...
A. 19 August 2012: I've been on many pills for many years and never gained any weight. I also used Yasmin years ago, never had my boobs grow, unfortunately. I think you will be fine especially if you plan to keep your weight in check and a diet. If you find you are ... (read in full...)
Ladies: Is long hair on a man attractive?
Q. is long hair on a man unattractive? i have hair past my shoulders it is always clean and tidy tho. thanks...
A. 19 August 2012: Depends on what the woman finds attractive. I do not like a lot of hair on a man and have never liked long hair. Everyone has their tastes. ... (read in full...)
What makes big boobs more valuable?
Q. I have small breasts nd I hate them. I mean, they're healthy, and that's cool, but despite my feminine body still at 23 people say I look like a 10 year old boy. I don't. I have a defined waist, wide hips, a curvy butt, thick legs... I've never seen ...
A. 19 August 2012: I've dated a guy who did prefer small breasts to big ones he only ever dated girls with a smaller, thinner build. The man I'm married to know is more of an ass man anyway but had a bad experience with an ex with big boobs that sagged and were ... (read in full...)
He can't stay hard now. Is he losing his attraction to me?
Q. Hi Me and my boyf have been together for about 4 months and have been having sex for about 3 months. At first we were doing it a lot! Around 3 times every time we saw eachother! But recently we start having sex and his penis goes limp, its happened ...
A. 19 August 2012: When you have sex too frequently this will eventually happen. I won't pretend to understand all the working of the penis, but the same thing happened in my relationship in the beginning and he explained there's only so many times a man can go before ... (read in full...)
I'm twenty-nine years old and depressed about being a virgin.
Q. Here's my situation, I'm 29 going on 30 and I'm still a virgin, I haven't even been kissed yet, mainly I can attribute my situation to rock bottom self esteem due to being teased about my weight my entire life, basically I was raised to believe that ...
A. 18 August 2012: You do not need to meet a guy at a bar. And you certainly shouldn't have sex with some guy just because you are a virgin. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin, truly. Most guys are put off by women who are too "experienced". I'm not sure how ... (read in full...)
Help I'm afraid my man is too kinky for me!
Q. So let me begin by saying, that I am a very open minded and sexually liberated person, and I'm usually the one causing others to blush. The guy I am seeing now however... So I have begun dating this guy I met online, no where in his profile does...
A. 18 August 2012: That was probably the funniest post I've ever read on here. You think being mean and a dominatrix is tying him up and calling him names while using his credit card to buy stuff. If you didn't mean for that to be funny I'm sorry I laughed so hard. I ... (read in full...)
Is there a different way of handling this situation or should we just go our separate ways?
Q. I've been with my bf for 2yrs now. We have a lil girl thats 9 months, We have a great relationship good communication great sex everything is good! A few months ago he asked me how many partners have I had I told him 10 including him. It was too ...
A. 18 August 2012: We hear about retroactive jealousy on this site a lot. At first glance of the post I was going to reccomend having him check out some of the numerous posts people have put up for their partner's past that they can't handle. However when reading ... (read in full...)
Should I text or call her today/
Q. For a while now, I've been going to a local coffee shop where this really cute girl works. I finally built up the balls to ask her for her number, and we exchanged numbers. We were texting for a while yesterday, and next Wednesday (5 says from now) ...
A. 17 August 2012: If you want to call her then you should. It shows confidence as well as being able to take charge and shows you like her. Pushy is when you call too much or text too much. For instance she doesn't answer, you then proceed to call every half hour. Or ... (read in full...)
She'll never admit that she's out of line!
Q. Basically been with this women for 7-8 months and she constantly will never admit that she is out of line whether we have a debate or an argument. Below is our recent Skype chat which i believe she has gone to far with. As you read this conver...
A. 16 August 2012: Ok I read the whole conversation. A couple of things stood out. One being very obvious she is jealous of the friendship you have with Laura. [14/08/2012 21:33:36] LN xx: ok I reckon u will marry her* (Start of her trying to make an argument – ... (read in full...)
We haven't had physical contact since we married, could he be cheating?
Q. i have been married for eight years love my husband to bits but we have not had any physical contact since we got married, is this normal? do you think he is having sex with someone else, i feel like i have turned into his mother, i really feel i ...
A. 16 August 2012: You have not had sex AT ALL in 8 years? Or do you mean just not often? And by physical contact, do you mean he also doesn't hug/kiss you ever? If you have not had sex once in 8 years there is something very, very wrong. Do you initiate and he turns ... (read in full...)
I realized life is short, made a bucket list but don't have the money to do things!
Q. I don't really know how to say all this but, I'm 17 and would like a little advice. In May 2011 I almost lost my mother, she was fighting for her life and thankfully made it! In November 2011, I lost my grandad, this was a complete shock a...
A. 16 August 2012: You are still very young. Most of the things on your list will probably come in time but you have a long life ahead of you! I made a bucket list about 5 years ago I think, called it "My List" and saved it to my computer. I just sat and thought about ... (read in full...)
Did his feelings for me really change?
Q. I never thought I'd be one to seek out help from strangers but my current situation is tearing me apart by the minute and it's only been about 4 days. I've been seeing someone (romantically) for about 4 months but we've been getting to know ...
A. 15 August 2012: Everyone has good advice, especially gwydion. I think you just need to wait it out. Tell him you are there for him always if he needs someone to talk to. And basically just keep busy and continue on with your life. The not knowing is the hardest ... (read in full...)
Are women put off by skinny men?
Q. I know everyone has different tastes and personal preferences, but in general, are women put off by skinny men? I'm 23, and while I eat like a horse, I just have never been able to put on any tangible weight, and have virtually little muscle a...
A. 15 August 2012: I've always prefered skinny men. Never liked bulky men or men with muscles. My sister is the same way. I assume it's the same for women asking men if they like a woman with curves or a thin body type, all in personal preference. ... (read in full...)
I'm angry that my partner was eyeing women in bikini's
Q. hi i want some advise bout something just want to know is it me over reacting or would you not be happy what it is myself and my partner took the kids swimming and i hate my body i am size 14-16 and i feel massive and feel like i look disgusting in ...
A. 14 August 2012: I don't think you are overreacting. I would've been pissed too. It has nothing to do with the size you are, I'm a small girl and I'd be pissed if my husband looked anyone up and down. It's rude and it's pretty piggish. I don't ogle other men so I ... (read in full...)
I'm fed up with men!!
Q. I am seriously getting fed up now with men. I am 30, slim attractive and I do get a lot if male attention. Every guy I seem to meet it only seems to last a few months and then I think it's going well and they disappear. I don't chase after them but ...
A. 14 August 2012: Ok well since it keeps happening and you have no idea why, I'd just ask him. I don't think it is pathetic to ask someone you have been dating and intimate with what happened. People like open communication and honesty, being around him and acting ... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend but I cannot stand his personality any longer!!
Q. I love my boyfriend so much but I cannot stand his personality anymore. When we first met, it was like a match made in heaven. We are so passionate with each other and I have never been in love with anyone else the way I am now with him. The problem ...
A. 14 August 2012: Wow he's an ass. Kudos to you for knowing to breakup with him rather than ask us what you should do. Breaking up isn't easy, but you have to be confident and stick to your guns. If he begs you to stay or says he will try harder you have to ignore it ... (read in full...)
There's this guy. And he's cheating on his girlfriend.. with me!
Q. There's this guy. And he's cheating on his girlfriend.. with me. I'm the other girl. I honestly love him and think he's the one. However, he told me he's thinking of breaking up with his girlfriend to be with me, but he hasn't yet. and...
A. 14 August 2012: I already answered the second post of this identical question. But the responses are all about the same, listen to them. ... (read in full...)
Like her personality but not fully attracted to her physically. Do I stay or move on?
Q. I've been dating this woman I met online now for about two months now and I'll be honest when it comes to the physical attraction I just don't find her as attractive as I want to find a girl I date to be. I find myself looking at other women when...
A. 14 August 2012: There isn't much worse than dating someone you have no attraction to. And comparing them to other people you wish you were with... I've been there. It isn't shallow, it just is what it is. Everyone has their type. I wouldn't reccomend trying to ... (read in full...)
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