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... Send *tayc63088 a private message | | | *tayc63088's profile:My name is Stacey. I've been on this site for years. I come and go at times depending on how busy life is.
I've had my share of relationships. And quite a few odd ones at that. I love to give advice when I have been in a similar situation and feel I can help out some. I feel my most common advice is to COMMUNICATE. A lot of people write in about a partner they have been with for years and ask how to tell their partner such and such. A relationship needs communication. Be open and honest always.
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My boobs become very painful around my periods... do you think anything could be wrong?
Q. am 17 years old and a bit over weight as a result my boobs are quite big am a 44dd but for the past couple of moths right around my periods my boobs become very painfull a started my periods when i was nine and this has never been a problem before i ...
A. 27 May 2008: Breasts get sore around your period, it is very normal. I wouldn't worry about having breast cancer unless you feel a lump, and if you do get it checked out immediately. Otherwise you are completely normal as I also have painful/sore breasts around ... (read in full...)
Whats the time span for having sex with someone else, after a break up with a boyfriend?
Q. Whats the time span for having sex with someone else, after a break up with a boyfriend. im curious? thanks! ...
A. 27 May 2008: When you are ready. If you are over your ex and ready to have sex then do it. Nothing is stopping you, you are a single lady now. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Does this dream mean anything?
Q. This may seem like an awkward question but here goes, last night I had a dream that I was making out with a girl but she wasn't my girlfriend, it was my best friend I've known for 6 years, and I used to like her before I met my girlfriend. Can ...
A. 26 May 2008: Were you thinking about her right before you fell asleep? Dreams don't really mean anything. I have had dreams where I am in love with random guys I can't stand or dating Dave Matthews... Don't read too much into it. The dream itself doesn't mean ... (read in full...)
I'm trying so hard to get over him and move on but I need my things back!-Help
Q. My boyfriend and I recently broke up. He said he needed to take care of some things and I should keep in mind that he has to do what he has to do. Don't really know what that means cos' if he was to break up, he should have said so and that he ...
A. 26 May 2008: Call and if he doesn't answer show up at his house when you see he is home. He cannot ignore you, it is your stuff and you have a right to get it back. Bring a friend preferrably. Get your things and go. Good luck. ... (read in full...)
What's the big deal with a guy being younger than a girl?
Q. yeah so I'm 15 and I like my friends who's 16. I asked her out and she likes me but she thinks its wierd being with a younger guy. Most girls think this but I don't get it. I know I don't act like I'm a yr younger or she woulnt stand me. All it is ...
A. 23 May 2008: Most likely it is your ages right now. When I was in school it was a big deal dating someone younger but now being in the twenties it doesn't matter at all. There is something about dating a lower grade I guess. Any girl who cares so much about it ... (read in full...)
He doesn't answer my messages... should I dump him?
Q. i havent seen my boyfriend in a week.he doesnt answer calls or texts or get bk to me when he says he will.is he cheating and should i get rid off him ?...
A. 23 May 2008: It all depends on you. Some people can do these types of relationships, some cannot. I would not be able to go a week without hearing a word from my boyfriend. There is being busy but come on... not even 15 minutes to talk in a whole week...? I ... (read in full...)
She went to her ex after hanging out with me... is there anything I can do?
Q. ok. i met a girl last month we met up a few times on the weekends and text, emailed and talked on the phone all the time. we both really liked eachother a lot. the problem was though that she had come out of a relationship that she was in for 4...
A. 23 May 2008: She is addicted to him. She most likely does love him. A lot of times after a tough break-up we tell ourselves we don't care or weren't in love in attempts to get past it. Also you were a rebound, plain and simple. There is no way to get over a 4 ... (read in full...)
I'm panicking because I'm 3 days late!
Q. I am in an absolute panic. My period is 3 days late, I had protected sex (my partner wore a condom) but I keep going into a panic that it may have broken. I'm 21, and I have just started jogging for an hour a day (which I did not do before) could...
A. 20 May 2008: Stress and strenuous frequent exercise can cause your period to be late. Also you mention you are normally irregular. Calm down! You used protection so you should be fine. There are many reasons for being late, so don't worry! If you are over 2 ... (read in full...)
Its my first time, I'm 13! help!
Q. hey, my name is maria. im 13 years old, and my boyfriend is 15. weve been together for a year, and im ready to have sex for my first time. im not scared or anything, but i am nervous! its not his first time, so i dont know what he expects out of m...
A. 20 May 2008: I will not say you are too young. Whether I think this or not, you will have sex anyway and you came here for advice, not to hear how young you are. He knows it is your first time, he shouldn't expect you to be a pro at it. If he does he is a jerk. ... (read in full...)
Can a relationship ever be the same when a partner has cheated?
Q. can a relationship ever be the same when a partner has cheated. my boyfriend cheated on me about 9 months ago. we had been together for 3 years and hes my first love. he said he was sooo sorry and that he loved me. we got back together but it w...
A. 20 May 2008: You didn't miss out on an amazing guy, the timing was just very very off. If it is meant to be then this guy will come back into your life when you are ready. You are not over your ex so there really is no way you could be in another relationship ... (read in full...)
Any of you had experiences like this before?
Q. This one is long and complicated. So im 17, and have liked this boy [michael] since november. its not that i liked him from november, but rather my friend [claudia] was talking about how she and he were talking about music, and it was then i ...
A. 20 May 2008: You may be reading too much into it. You were drunk and may or may not have made of fool of yourself, we have all been there. Whether he expects you to talk to him or not, do it! Don't get drunk either. You want to hold an actual conversation with ... (read in full...)
How do I avoid the stains?
Q. Hey :] hope someone can help me, this may seem funny but really its getting rather expensive :D, basically me and my boyfriend have only recently tried out handjobs and he prefers me to be on bottom. Is there anyway he can finish and not make suc...
A. 20 May 2008: Take his shirt off... Come on.... (read in full...)
Is this site legal?
Q. hi i no this isnt a relationship question but ive heard some other aunts talking about it before, is ******.com illegal in the UK? thanks xx [moderator comment: site name removed. No it's not illegal. Just inappropriate]...
A. 20 May 2008: No nevermind, the moderator answered your question for you. It is not illegal, just inappropriate for this site. Glad your question was answered :)... (read in full...)
Is this site legal?
Q. hi i no this isnt a relationship question but ive heard some other aunts talking about it before, is ******.com illegal in the UK? thanks xx [moderator comment: site name removed. No it's not illegal. Just inappropriate]...
A. 20 May 2008: Why not remove the question? There is no way to answer this.... (read in full...)
Can I get rid of a UTI without prescription drugs?
Q. Is there anyway to get rid of a uti without prescription drugs? I've had several in the past, so I'm pretty sure I know I have one. But I don't have insurance right now, and can't afford a doctor visit. I've heard of home remedies, but don't know ...
A. 20 May 2008: Lots of Cranberry juice and cranberry pills, available at drug stores I believe. It's all my friend does and gets over it in a bit. Good luck!... (read in full...)
It's only 4" when hard, what can I do about it?
Q. I'm 20 years old and i only had sex once when i was 18. I think it's cuz of my penis size, it's only 4 inches on hard. So someone tell me what should i, do cuz i feel embarrassed by it. ...
A. 19 May 2008: A girl will love you despite your size. It isn't bullshit, I loved my ex aside from his size. Wait until you are comfortable enough and when you feel like she loves you. You don't need to tell her as a warning beforehand. There is nothing you can do ... (read in full...)
I'm starting to obsess over my weight again and think I have a problem.
Q. this really isnt a relationship problem but its deff a problem... okay well since a recent brake up with my bf i have had very low self esteem. I used to have an eating disorder, I was always working out and finding some way to lose weight. Well now...
A. 19 May 2008: You need professional help. No one on here will be able to help with your bulimia. It is a serious problem that can also lead to anorexia nervosa. Just us telling you to eat more won't do anything. A licensed therapist will be able to get to the ... (read in full...)
What's best for my child's sake? Do I stay or leave?
Q. Hi, i'm in a relationship of 8 years, and in the end we don't sleep with each other, or ever kiss or hug, i dont want to kiss her. I have one child and i think that i'm in it for her, so i can look after her. Our relationship has been dead for year...
A. 19 May 2008: If the only reason you are staying is for the child you should get out of the marriage. Your daughter will grow up watching an unhealthy marriage and it will affect her without anyone even knowing it. She may grow up not showing affection to her ... (read in full...)
She swears the break up has nothing to do with another guy. How can I know if there is a chance for us?
Q. my x gf is 10 yrs. older than me and we were together for 6 months before she broke up with me last week. we have had trouble in the past and even broke up for a weekend, two weeks before she ended it. since we have been back together ever...
A. 19 May 2008: Yeah I think that would be a good idea. Just to get her mind off her stresses and relax for a few hours. Good thinking! I'm glad I helped you out :)... (read in full...)
Should I be upset that my husband sends over 100 text mesaages a month to her?
Q. I am afraid that my husband of 21 years is having an emotional affair with a women at work. I have confronted him several times only to hear shes married, its nothing quit sweating about it, however, he works 5 to 5 and he tells me hes has no time...
A. 18 May 2008: As you said, you should walk. Sending 100 messages when he doesn't have the time to send them to you? And texting her as soon as he wakes up and right before he goes to bed? Hell no this is nothing innocent. And what does it matter if she has a ... (read in full...)
She swears the break up has nothing to do with another guy. How can I know if there is a chance for us?
Q. my x gf is 10 yrs. older than me and we were together for 6 months before she broke up with me last week. we have had trouble in the past and even broke up for a weekend, two weeks before she ended it. since we have been back together ever...
A. 18 May 2008: There could possibly be a chance but give her time! Talk to her about her problems, don't talk about getting back together all the time. If or When she is ready, she will let you know. She is obviously going through a lot right now she needs to deal ... (read in full...)
I know I am better without him but it is sad to realise I invested time in a bad relationship!
Q. Hi Cupids! I've posted on here many times about my ex bf of nearly three years cheating on me the entire time with many different girls. We've been broken up for seven months now with absolutely no contact for one and a half months. But lately I...
A. 18 May 2008: Aw I feel your pain. And as you already know you are so lucky to be out of the relationship. Of course it is sad to feel like you wasted your time with someone who didn't care about you, but don't regret anything. Everything happens for a reason. As ... (read in full...)
I looked up the net history: my dad has been viewing porn sites! I'm scandalised!
Q. im 16 and my mum and dad have split up and im fine with that and i have a great relationship with both of them. my dad recently bought a new laptop and ive been on it every now and again but now im starting to get worried. i looked up the hist...
A. 18 May 2008: Yes finding porn on your parents computer is quite awkward. I would advise not confronting him as he is a grown man who can look at whatever he wants. As for your younger brother finding it, maybe ask your dad to delete the history or tell him how ... (read in full...)
My ex won't stop calling. I want to respond but it hurts too much! What do I do??
Q. My ex is moving across country for a job. He said he just wants to be friends---so I am trying to honor that request. No email, text, call, etc. He keeps doing all of that and doesn't understand that it hurts me too much to keep in contact during ...
A. 17 May 2008: He still wants you in his life he just doesn't want to be in a relationship with you. Let him know you are not ready for a friendship at this time and you need a little while to get over it. Tell him you 2 will be friends later but for now you need ... (read in full...)
I lied to my ex about my past and feel awful, am I?
Q. Ok, a few hours ago, I posted about feeling awful because I lied to my ex and now I lost him. I had lied several times concerning my past. The thing is he was very jealous about it. For instance, if a song by a band that one of my ex crushes liked...
A. 17 May 2008: As I posted to your other question, no you are not awful. And even not knowing the things you lied about it turns out I was right, your ex is an insecure prick. How were you ever happy with this guy...??? He got jealous over spin the bottle from 3 ... (read in full...)
She refuses to give me a chance, but she's all I can think about!
Q. I love her more than anything in the world and yet she refuses to give me a chance. I keep asking her to give me a chance but she keeps saying she's not attracted to me. But she's all I can think about and she is driving me crazy, why can't she ...
A. 17 May 2008: It has nothing to do with her understanding you, if she isn't attracted then that is that. Most likely you won't be able to change her mind. Once a girl sees you in a certain way it is very very hard to change. She isn't attracted to you in that way ... (read in full...)
Am I a horrible person for having lied?
Q. Am I a horrible person for having lied? My ex broke up with me yesterday. It was because I came clean about some stuff after I had lied to him some other times before. It involved my past. I hid a lot of things about my past. According to mos...
A. 17 May 2008: I disagree with the previous poster. It is not ideal to lie but the guy judged you and made you feel terrible for the truth! I don't feel you are in the wrong, your ex is. So he is the great guy while you are the one who is terrible because you ... (read in full...)
Can a relationship make you depressed?
Q. Do you think a relationship can make you depressed? My boyfriend is taking me for granted and it is making me depressed and it is to the point where I am starting to avoid him. It seems like when I make an effort to connect with him, I ge...
A. 17 May 2008: How about calling one time and leaving a voicemail or message? This way he will definitely get it and will call back basically when he wants to. And don't call over and over, like the previous poster said guys like when their girlfriend is a bit ... (read in full...)
What should I do with my parents' rules, because they're straining my relationship with my girlfriend?
Q. soo... my parents rules since i've moved back in are a lot more tight then what i wanna live by bc they are really putting a strain on my relationship with my gf of over a year.. so i've started looking at appartments and i'm going to get one here ...
A. 16 May 2008: If your parents are anything like mine then there isn't much you can do to change their mind. Your are in college and have a full time job and a serious girlfriend, it doesn't sound like you are out making trouble, unless you just left that part ... (read in full...)
He doesn't call me like he used to. Am I wasting my time?
Q. i have been seeing this guy for 4 years, i love him so much, but this days he is gone to drinking and partying and never calls me as frequent as he used to. when i call him and ask him why he says he has no money also he tells me he really loves ...
A. 16 May 2008: If he loves dancing and you are his number 1 girl why wasn't he dancing with you...? Very rude and you should have definitely let him know so. It doesn't sound like he cares as much as you do. He seems to be great without talking to you and partying ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend blames me for everything. Are all men like that?
Q. My boyfriend blamed me when things went wrong for him and wouldn't consider that there were MANY factors well beyond his (or anyone's) control! Is it traditional for men to blame women, and if so is it an indication that he actaully feels very ...
A. 16 May 2008: And no not all men are like that. Unhappy ones are.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend blames me for everything. Are all men like that?
Q. My boyfriend blamed me when things went wrong for him and wouldn't consider that there were MANY factors well beyond his (or anyone's) control! Is it traditional for men to blame women, and if so is it an indication that he actaully feels very ...
A. 16 May 2008: Sometimes in relationships we expect our partners to make us happy, it doesn't work like that. We have to be happy with our own lives to be happy in the relationship. He is expecting YOU to make everything right and happy but it isn't your job to do ... (read in full...)
I regret hanging up on him and now he wont call me. I want him back!
Q. Hey please help. I broke with my boyfriend and we have had our fights. We had a very big one day. We called each other names and that is so not me. He called me after the fight, but of course i hung up on him and i regret it. Now he doesn't call ...
A. 15 May 2008: I don't know the guy so I can't say how he will react. If he doesn't answer the phone then yeah leave a voice mail for him. If he doesn't call back then maybe he needs more time to get over it.... (read in full...)
I think my friends have spread rumours about me...should I forgive or plot to get even?
Q. Today at school my friend really hurt me. Her and this boy went and told everyone that i am not a virgin. It's really affecting me becasue people are calling me slag and becasue i am normaly quiet and keep out the way people are saying "its always ...
A. 14 May 2008: Don't get even with her, it puts you on her level. You are better. Ignore it and you don't need to forgive her either. Tell her she should get a life rather than making up crap about you. Tell her "I'm sorry you are such a crappy friend." Or ... (read in full...)
So here is me. I just sit on my bottom, doing nothing at home most of the time.
Q. So here is me. I just sit on my bottom, doing nothing at home most of the time. I want to do something this summer. I've never had a G/F, and I really don't care for one, but i always think it would be nice to have someone sweet te be there in your...
A. 14 May 2008: Saying hi is nice. What made you approach this one particular girl? That is what you say. You esentially tell her why you are approaching HER out of every other woman in that place. You don't have to be creepy about it. Maybe say, Hi, how are you? I ... (read in full...)
What do men like? I feel I am socially awkward.
Q. im a 20 year old woman and have never been on a date before. i wouldnt say that i am unattractive physically however i am very socially awkward and can come across as 'standoffish'. so any tips on how i can come across more likeable, confident...
A. 14 May 2008: There is no specific answer, I promise you, no one can give you one. Not every guy will like the same type of girl, it is impossible, so there is no way to tell you what guys like in girls. It varies greatly. Some guys like overly sexual girls who ... (read in full...)
Did he break up with me over sex?
Q. ugh=( heyy everyone! I have been so stressed out lately, you see me and my ex split up about idunno 2 weeks agoish and drama seems to circulate me whereever i go. People have told me that he broke up with me due to me not letting him hit it...He ...
A. 14 May 2008: You just answered your own question, you said he called and told you it didn't end over sex. Stop listening to what other people say ! I think I remember you from another post asking about the girls who say crap to you about your relationship, ... (read in full...)
Does it get any better? Do I drop hints or tell her it was blah?
Q. So my g/f (i'm also female) finaly returned the favor, but the first time it was blah. And it has happened like 4 times since then, but it hasn't gotten any better. What am I to do? I don't want to say something and offend her. And I definatly ...
A. 14 May 2008: This is what I faced with my ex boyfriend, a complete lack of knowing what to do down there, lol. Well what I eventually did after getting over the- afraid to hurt his feelings- stuff was direct him. First off if you are in a sexual relationship you ... (read in full...)
The prom is in a few days and I can't dance! Can anyone help?
Q. prom is in few days. I cannot dance and dunno wot to as Im going with a girl who expects me to dance. Any websites or anything that might help? ...
A. 14 May 2008: Ok I don't know how your dances go but here is how mine was- slow dancing and dirty dancing. The girl grinds on the guy etc and he does not have to have any skill at all, just kind of stand behind her put your hands on her hips. Slow dancing is very ... (read in full...)
Any tips on how to let the guy at work know I like him?
Q. I like this guy at work. How can I let him know without being too foward or unprofessional? Any tip? I'm super shy around guys. (I've been turned down several times before) ...
A. 14 May 2008: What I always did was ask for help with something. I am a bit shy as well. Just be flirtatious but subtle about it. Smile, laugh, talk... I wouldn't just tell him you like him though unless you have a feeling he might feel the same way. If you are ... (read in full...)
I don't have kids yet, but I'm considering quitting my job to be a stay-at-home mom.
Q. I'm considering quitting my job to be a stay-at-home mom. I've been working all my life. I don't have kids yet, but planning to soon. I heard it gets lonely. Should i do it?...
A. 14 May 2008: That is what I used to want to be, just a stay at home mom. My sister was a stay at home mom for 2 years before getting back into the work force. I was told you get very bored and the monotony of it all gets overwhelmingly depressing at times. But ... (read in full...)
I regret hanging up on him and now he wont call me. I want him back!
Q. Hey please help. I broke with my boyfriend and we have had our fights. We had a very big one day. We called each other names and that is so not me. He called me after the fight, but of course i hung up on him and i regret it. Now he doesn't call ...
A. 14 May 2008: Why do you feel you are supposed to be mad? And why can't you let it go? As someone who has messed up quite a bit in her life from getting mad you should trust me- call him. Don't ruin whatever future you could possibly have because of a fight. And ... (read in full...)
So here is me. I just sit on my bottom, doing nothing at home most of the time.
Q. So here is me. I just sit on my bottom, doing nothing at home most of the time. I want to do something this summer. I've never had a G/F, and I really don't care for one, but i always think it would be nice to have someone sweet te be there in your...
A. 12 May 2008: Get a job. Get a hobby. Join a gym. Volunteer. Go out to malls or book stores or anywhere. Clubs are not the place to look for a sweet, caring person to be in your life. More like a one night stand type place. Or thats what girls assume a guy is ... (read in full...)
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