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female
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*radu8
writes:I found out that my boyfriend is interested in having sex with a transgender, should I confront him or should I just let him leave his fantasy? Reply to this Question |
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reader, gradu8 +, writes (13 April 2008):
gradu8 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Now He wants to act like nothing ever happened...... He doesnt even want to talk about it..... I am so upset by the whole situation. I think he is unable to admit that he has a bisexual curiosity. I guess I am stuck with the whole situation cause we live together. We just bought a house together, so now I am miserable
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female
reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (11 April 2008):
 Ah happened to my friend in a similar situation. She checked his phone history and found out her boyfriend had cheated on her and when she confronted him, HE blamed HER cause she shouldnt have been looking through it... No it isnt the same situation exactly, but its an attempt to shift the blame or avoid embarrassment by making you feel like the bad guy. Don't back down. Apologize for looking through the history, that you werent looking through anything specfic on purpose, then came across transgender things. He just doesnt want to explain himself so is making it about something else. Since you approached it in a loving way, I dont think you should feel bad about looking through anything. Get him to explain himself.
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reader, gradu8 +, writes (9 April 2008):
gradu8 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI confronted him on this matter ina loving way. He got very defensive and accused me of beign mistrustful because I found the infromation by looking at his history on his computer. Now I am the one who is wrong. What now?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008): Have you heard the term ...."down-low"? If he knows this is a man, then your man is as gay as he transgender! Move on to straight men baby and leave the down-low and those who indulge with this type of sex with men alone
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (9 April 2008):
Talk to him. Find out why etc. Maybe once he explains it you will understand and feel better? I think not bringing it up will only make it worse for you and give you weird ideas about him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008): Yuk! Talk to him, maybe he should see a sexologist.
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