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writes: I get the feeling this girl at my university likes me but I don't know if I'm getting the wrong end of the stick or not. I'm 21 and so is she. We have been friendly over the last 18 months, being part of a large group that went clubbing together regularly. We'd usually have a bit of harmless flirting but not much else considering we were both in relationships at the time. Last November I split up with my ex but a few months ago her sister died so I have been there for her just as a friend during tough times. Many of our friends think we are back together but we're not, and nobody quizzes me more on the topic than this girl. Pretty much everytime I see her or chat to her online she asks and I keep on saying no. I do definitely like her and would love to be in a relationship with her in the future, my ex and I will go our separate ways when the uni year ends. A few other hints I think I'm getting from her are she once asked a completely random question just to strike up a conversation online with me, she came up to me in a club and said she really wanted to get with this other guy but why would she tell me? And she has decided to live in the same halls of residence as me net year as opposed to living in a private house with her closest friends. What d'you reckon? Does she like me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2010): hi there ,yes you are absolutely right.She does like you and whatever she is hinting is just to know whats on ur mind..remember the confused u are she is too...now i will tell you what to do ...either you can make a direct approach or indirect one ....the direct is slightly risky but i tell you risk sometimes pays off....the direct is just when u are chatting just tell her that had u not been in relationship u would have loved to be his bf ......trust me boy it will be evry smooth and keep on talking letting her feel special tell her she is very lovable and sweet and if anytime u feel that she is not having the same feelings u can just shrugg off just giving it a tinge of fun.....the indirect is that u too go and tell her that u like a gurl and u think she likes you too ..but tell her that u can do it just after ending up smoothly with ur ex ....i bet she will open up ...remember boy i have done the direct way with my first meet but thats better only when u need to get into bed fast and fuck ,...but if relationship means more than that then take time go by indirect method and delay sex
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reader, BeSimplyTrue  +, writes (18 May 2010):
 I would say it's likely that she likes you in the way you like her. You're reading a lot of signals that could mean something, like how she told you she was interested in a guy at the club and how she signed up to live in the same residence hall as you.
But, what is your relationship/friendship like other than the flirting and the friendship? Does the flirting come from true physical and emotional attraction? As friends, what kind of activities do you do together? Your friends asked you if you were together, so it seems like they think of you as a couple. That could mean something about how they view your body language toward each other--a mutual attraction, not just you being attracted to her.
However, something you said confuses me: "I do definitely like her and would love to be in a relationship with her in the future, my ex and I will go our separate ways when the uni year ends." You and your ex are broken up, right? Officially broken up? So why can't you go from harmless flirting to asking out this girl right now? What are you waiting for? Unless you want to wait some more because of the death of her sister, I'd say you should go for it. The longer you wait, the more likely it is she thinks you want to be "just friends" and you don't want her to give up on you and find somebody else. You don't want her to think you're the kind of guy who's to scared to ask her, doesn't really like her, or worst of all, just sits around. If you like her, ask her out!!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (18 May 2010):
 Ask her for a date and you will know where you stand with her.This would also send her a clear signal that you are interested in her.
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reader, *destiny* +, writes (18 May 2010):
hello, i'm not certain if i would say she likes u because there's not much information that tells me she does. You said that you guys flirt, but i honestly think flirting with someone doesn't always mean that you like them. I believe, if you like this girl and would like to possibly have a relationship with her and have a feeling that she might like you as well, the only way to find out where you guys are as friends is to ask her. Take a chance, and just ask her if possibly she has feelings for you, more than friends. I think it i better to take a chance and find out the truth rather than always wondering "what if" GOOD LUCK!! *destiny*
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