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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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Do I go with the flow on this one? Or try and dial it back to friends only and if so how?
Q. I got back in touch with an old male friend around 9 months ago. We were close friends years ago and I was a good friend of his girlfriend. I've been in a relationship with someone else and whilst it started out as friends only, around 3 months in ...
A. 13 November 2018: It can get confusing as because I look at FWBs as emotionless relations. Sees like men don't want to date anymore, but they feel like they have to play some emotions in, to lure women into FWB situations. People who talk friends into sex are lazy ... (read in full...)
I'm married and in (unrequited) love with someone else for years. How can I get over her?
Q. Hello aunts. I am almost 35 and married, but deeply in love with someone else who does not feel the same way about me. For the long story, please read below. Year 1: A few years ago, halfway through a master’s degree, I had to quit school and ...
A. 13 November 2018: You want someone one you can't have. It's not that Manami has some endearing quality or that Asian mystique. In fact I feel she is a woman who is able to attract any man but doesn't actually want a real relationship. Perhaps based on the fact that ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is perfect, but I want an open relationship.
Q. Hi people. I met my current girlfriend a little over two years ago and I was not the social type back then. I never really went out a lot and hanging out with friends was pretty much 'indoor'. After I met her I became very outgoing. We went t...
A. 11 November 2018: I think it's the fact that she had played the field and you haven't, so you want to make it even. This should be the fact that she is not perfect for you. She is also not perfect, because you probably wanted a girl with no history, but since you ... (read in full...)
I can't believe he couldnt see how I felt.
Q. I love a guy who is a good friend of mine and he doesnt know that I love him. At present we are not at all in talking terms. Let me explain how all this happened. 6-7 months back it came to my realization that I love him because I sensed jealousy...
A. 11 November 2018: He has got to be dumb to not know. He thrives on unspoken feelings and your friendship only survives because of the uncertainty and the fantasy playing in his mind. That he is the hero and women secretly want him. I don't believe male female ... (read in full...)
Should I be strong and not burden people with my problems?
Q. I'm really upset but wondering if I have every right to be or if my boyfriend was spot on and I need to get a grip. I have two children with my ex, we were together 8 years but then he cheated with his now wife. They got married within months of...
A. 11 November 2018: You are not burdening people by saying you are upset. In fact your ex and his wife are setting a bad example for your daughter, and giving her a bad environment to grow up in. I think all the argument started because his wife senses that he still ... (read in full...)
Sometimes I feel lost about who I am.
Q. Hi All, Might sound like a silly issue raised, but I have a problem trying to have self belief sometimes. I feel I have come from a relatively tough background (in comparison to most people around me) divorced immature parents, a mother with a pe...
A. 10 November 2018: I think the true reflection of how you feel is when you get to be alone. All other things, entertainment and hobbies can be a distraction when you have an identity crisis. Outside measures of success such as career and a beautiful house do not ... (read in full...)
We got together for just sex things blossomed but I messed it up.
Q. I need advice on how I can either get over or fix something I started 7 months ago. . 5 years ago I drank in my local bar with my sister that night I noticed this older man eyes set on me all night which made me very uncomfortable at first. ...
A. 4 November 2018: He had a reputation as a player but at his age and as his sexual prowess starts to decline, he might want to settle down. He can understand why you panicked but you also have to be realistic that once you start a relationship, the excitement does ... (read in full...)
I think my bf is bored with me and I'm feeling insecure about sex
Q. So lately I’ve been feeling insecure about sex. Me and my bf had an argument that he was following strippers on Instagram. He ended up deleting it. I told him that it made me feel disrespected and insecure. He said that he thought about why he ...
A. 31 October 2018: Having you initiate 3 times a month is not a problem, only if you can give him the condition that he does not look for outside sources for excitement. There must be reasons that the other two relationships didn't work out, because they were too much ... (read in full...)
I think my bf is bored with me and I'm feeling insecure about sex
Q. So lately I’ve been feeling insecure about sex. Me and my bf had an argument that he was following strippers on Instagram. He ended up deleting it. I told him that it made me feel disrespected and insecure. He said that he thought about why he ...
A. 28 October 2018: I think he went behind your back and secretly looked for strippers on Instagram because instead of talking to you about initiating sex, he just assumed that good girls are passive and therefore are quiet about sex. He only went on the defensive and ... (read in full...)
My mother's controlling attitude has put a huge strain on my marriage and I was too much of a coward to deal with her. What do I do now?
Q. I dated my wife for 5 years, now we are happily married for 6 years with 4kids. My mother was ok with her the first 2 years of us being together but after that she hated my wife for no reason. My mother became jealous of our relationship then she ...
A. 25 October 2018: One of the hardest thing to face is mental illness within family. A denial tactic would be, mental illness exists everywhere else, but close to home. Part of the cowardice is the fear of pain when facing this fact, and accepting how bad it is ... (read in full...)
I need emotional support which my husband can't give me.
Q. Hi everyone.. its been months since my last post here. I had my 2 weeks old son now after long labor and he is perfect. Im the one who posted about trouble with my husband and mother in law. Things are not getting better. Im still living in my in ...
A. 22 October 2018: Your thoughts about upgrading your life are in the right track. He refuses to grow up and is living like a parasite. It is he who is losing respect here, not you. A person with an addiction problem can not think outside of himself. He is not in a ... (read in full...)
My husband wont discuss things and gives me the silent treatment.
Q. Hello and thanks I tried writing in before but can't seem to find my question. My husband is very popular, and 10 years younger than myself. His friends are a huge part of his life and I knew that from day one. Sometimes I do get a bit a...
A. 18 October 2018: Cultural differences can be bridged but not sexual orientation and lifestyles. I mean, bisexual people can be faithful just like anyone else. Your husband is simultaneously having relationships with other people behind your back. He was either ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 5 years is no longer sure he wants to be with me. I think he is going through some sort of life crisis
Q. Hi everyone. This is pretty long so just bear with me please. I (25F) and my boyfriend (30M) have been together for 5 years. We have lived together for all of that. Before dating, we were very good online gaming buddies for another 5 years. I m...
A. 13 October 2018: Thinking of the worst, he could be using his depression to stall the break up process. He sounds like someone who got a crush on someone else, probably at work. A new person is always going to be exciting. I would not want to have sex with a person ... (read in full...)
How do you tell if your mother is a narcissist?
Q. I know my mom is a narcissist. Or maybe I am. I don't know. I hope not....My question is ... how do you tell? Little bit of back story... I started watching Bates Motel and I'm noticing some overlap when the show is juxtaposed with my real lif...
A. 13 October 2018: I don't think either of you are narcissistic. Don't know why you would think you are becoming like her. Probably because you never had good female role models growing up, to guide you on how to have good relationships. You are still attached to her, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend’s family getting in the way of our relationship and they want to take my baby away
Q. I am really overwhelmed by a situation going on in my personal life with my partner. I am a mom of two, we live together, we have a one year old, I have a daughter and we live in an appartment inside his mom and step dad’s house who are not marr...
A. 13 October 2018: I am not alarmed by your story. This is also common in the US and Canada. We might not be able to relate because we are not familiar with the support system in El Salvador, such as affordable daycare and college financing. I suggest continuing your ... (read in full...)
It seems like boyfriend's love is fading not sure why
Q. Hi I’m sorry if this is long. I’ve been with my new bf for 4 months. Everything was perfect. He told me he loves me from the bottom of his heart he went on holiday for two weeks and we spoke lots on the phone and video called each other. When...
A. 13 October 2018: Your love language could be different. For him, saying romantic things mean that your relationship is promising and he really likes you. It doesn't mean he will keep on phoning and texting you when he's trying to catch on sleep. Especially if he ... (read in full...)
Dad needs some help in his relationship.
Q. Hello, Please could someone help give me some good advice, I don't know what else to do.... I am currently in a 10 year relationship and we have 3 young children and the kids are our worlds and we do love each other, but I am deeply disappoin...
A. 27 September 2018: She messed up. Lies are all bad but the more acceptable lie was that she was afraid you would judge her. She lied because she was in contact with her ex. That was not forgivable. As more truth comes out, you find that she has very low self esteem ... (read in full...)
Would women actually want a relationship with someone who already has a kid?
Q. Call myself c and my daughters mother m. I'll try to keep things short. Our relationship was great before the child came and we even got engaged. I'm not great with women or people in general and I struggle just to hold a conversation to get a tip ...
A. 27 September 2018: Probably single mothers want a dad with a kid. Those who are done with more kids. Women without children might want men without children also. You have to be prepared to be someone else's stepdad too. I don't know why you call yourself douche dad. ... (read in full...)
Confused and not sure if I'm in love anymore!
Q. Hey fellow cupids. I'm a little bit confused and have been for some time. I'm in a long term relationship and care for my partner, probably even love (sorry I'm not an emotional guy so it's hard to understand my feelings sometimes). For the last t...
A. 22 September 2018: I would be very scared if I have a long term boyfriend and he cares for me and probably loves me. I mean, have you said "I love you" to her and meant it? You may have started young and didn't know what sexual attraction feels like. You only know ... (read in full...)
How do I get the spark back it feels like we have grown apart
Q. I've been with my partner for 4 years nearly and I loved him dearly. he's a good man I get on well with all his friends and family but we went through a difficult stage for a few months recently we were arguing and it just seemed like he disagreed ...
A. 20 September 2018: If you want to get that spark back, you have to stop seeing that male friend and focus on your boyfriend. It takes time to rebuild the connection. You feel like your relationship is dying, indeed a part of it has to die. The part of it that causes ... (read in full...)
How do I stop self sabotaging.my relationships?
Q. Every time I get in a relationship I seem to always panic that I am annoying them or I over think things to must making up problems that aren't there making the situation 10x worse than what it is already. What can I do to try and stop this from ...
A. 20 September 2018: Naturally, men and women are wired to be attracted to each other. They would be busy making each other happy that they don't have time to worry about things. If you find a guy that's easily annoyed then he's the problem not you. You have to find out ... (read in full...)
Will he come back to his senses .... and me?
Q. Hi So my boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. Last year he lost his job and things were not great the fact that he never used to save or invested.I was there for him and supported him in any way I could.Last week he called Me asking h...
A. 20 September 2018: Guys like these are not worth your time. He cares more about his ego than his relationship. Even if he got a new job he would want a new girlfriend because he couldn't stand any girl to see him at his weak point. He was so set on giving up that he ... (read in full...)
My wife wants to use a sperm donor to ensure that our third child isn't autistic but I’m not sure how I feel about this.
Q. My wife (34f) and I (36m) have been married for just over six years and in many ways have an ideal marriage and are very much still in love. Despite two kids, we still have sex 2 - 3 times per week. We still find time for getaways nearby beaches, ...
A. 19 September 2018: Kids are challenging. Period. You can have a normal kid who doesn't have sensitivity issues or speech problems, but other things unknown to you. The kid with the other father's gene may feel he doesn't really belong. When he grows up he feels a lot ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my partner about this encounter I had?
Q. Hi I’m not proud of what I’m about to write I feel very ashamed I’ve been with my partner for 5 years I went out had a lot to drink and ended up going back to a mans place we had oral but not penetrative sex i think I done it as I’ve been unhappy in ...
A. 17 September 2018: Whether you tell him or not, you should end the relationship quickly. After you've had that encounter, there is no turning back. Telling a man you cheated can ruin his life forever. For him, it happened not because he hadn't shown you affections and ... (read in full...)
I feel my mother-in-law is inserting herself into my marriage!
Q. I love my husband very much, and I love my mom in law too, she's always there for us when we need her but she's also starting to annoy me. She doesn't seem to have boundaries. Btw, she is single. When she first started making me uncomfortable wa...
A. 17 September 2018: She is at an age where she worries she would die alone, and that's a terrible thought. She wants to be part of something and to belong, to the extent of trying to steal your time from him. All that she said and did, was to try to get more time with ... (read in full...)
I want a second child and my husband does not! It’s really becoming a problem for me! Advice?
Q. My husband and I are at a complete impasse. We have a 3yr old son who is amazing and I feel truly blessed to be his mommy, but I yearn for a 2nd baby! I have felt this way for over a year. And anytime I speak to my husband about it he is very ce...
A. 17 September 2018: Your reason for having another baby could be emotional and maternal. Have you listened to your husband about why he doesn't want another one? Many families have more than 2 children, that's true, but as resources are getting more expensive, no one ... (read in full...)
Why do I attract older women?
Q. A bit about myself. I consider myself somewhat of a dork. Not good at sports. Tall but not confident. Naturally skinny. I was never good at dating, girls liked to chat with me but I end up friend zoning them. I always thought this was due to my ...
A. 15 September 2018: Most online daters are looking for casual relationships. If women can pick they of course would pick better looking, younger men than mid aged men who are deflated in energy or down there too. You said you get dumped in relationships so you feel ... (read in full...)
My brother finally introduced us to his fiance - she's my ex!
Q. My brother has recently introduced the family to his new fiancée - but there's a massive issue. Basically he lives away and none of us have met her before - we only knew her name. We were all excited to meet her - but when he introduced her to ...
A. 12 September 2018: There has been a breakdown in communication in both sides of the family. Your family does not know about your child and her family does not know about you. There is nothing more un Christian like to raise a child without the support and ... (read in full...)
Why won't my feelings diminish for a LDR girl? Was it the crazy compatible sex I can't get over?
Q. Has anyone experienced something like this? I was with a girl for 2 months around one year ago. It was exciting, intense, then she left to China. I am in UK. I thought the feelings would die down but they didn't. She still talks and occasionally ...
A. 12 September 2018: It's the fact that she is still in contact with you, combined with you wanting what you can't have. Things are intense when they are unpredictable and sparse. She didn't tell you about her marriage prospects because you are oh so friendly with each ... (read in full...)
Am I just in love with the idea of being loved?
Q. Has anyOdy else experience what I am experiencing now? Although She is an attractive woman I have never had any feelings for her in the past. By accident I found out that she finds me physically attractive. I never realised that fancied my type. ...
A. 15 August 2018: I can talk from the other side as a woman because me and some guy have been having mutual crushes. He is not someone I would consider attractive at first, but I always notice him staring at me. It was his serious work ethic that turned me on. Then ... (read in full...)
I'm already cheating on my new boyfriend with an old FWB. How do I stop?
Q. Hey everyone. I'm about to admit to something bad so please don't be too harsh with me here. I have recently got into a new relationship with a man my age. We have been together for just over a month and were dating for about a month before that. I ...
A. 15 August 2018: Your new boyfriend is the same age so that implies the fwbs and you have an age gap. Those nasty greasy old farts, right? Preying on young girls and can't maintain relationships with women their same age. Mid life crisis, whatever.
You may thin... (read in full...)
How do I not get too attached to the new guy I'm seeing?
Q. How do I not get too attached to the new guy I'm seeing? We like all the same things to a spooky degree and we have a lot of chemistry. The only thing is his ex might be pregnant and she won't go to the drs because she is religious. Which I don't ...
A. 15 August 2018: The fact that he could go back to her means he's not ready for any new relationship. People stay in abusive relationships for their own reasons. He can use the abuse as reasons to leave her but also use the baby as reason to stay with her. They have ... (read in full...)
How do I handle my girlfriend's ex without punching him in the face?
Q. Hey people, I never usually ask questions like this online but I don't really know how to talk to anyone else about this. So sorry if this is all over the place. Anyway, I have been in a relationship with an amazing girl for the last 8 months an...
A. 8 August 2018: She is not all weak and needing protection. She has a choice to cut off friendships and build new ones with you. If her ex gets you to punch him, he wins while you make an embarrassment out of yourself.
She blocked him on social media, then agre... (read in full...)
I'm dating someone who says he is speaking to others. How do I take that?
Q. Dear Cupid readers I have went a date with someone recently, he said that's he's speaking to other woman. How do I take this? ...
A. 8 August 2018: It is distasteful because he has no reasons for telling you this. What he does in his private time is his own business, up until you two decide to be official. I would take that he's only telling you this to appear that he has options, so he is not ... (read in full...)
I told my touchy-feely autistic friend that I’m in love with him!
Q. He is autistic, he is very touchy feely with me, but when he asked me if I was attracted to him I said yes, he said he has a girlfriend. I know who his gf is. I am in love with him and I said this to gim- after I said this he invited me out t...
A. 3 August 2018: Autistic people still cheat. They are not immune to outside temptations. He is inviting you on a date. Don't pretend to go out with him as a friend because you know what this is leading to. You should get away from him because he is using you as a ... (read in full...)
I don’t like defending my online friend to my boyfriend!
Q. Hi everyone, This is kind of a weird situation. I have this online friend, who I've been talking to for about 13 years now. We have never met but I talk to him almost everyday. I consider him one of my best friends. We are very close and t...
A. 3 August 2018: As long as your friend is not taking too much time away from your relationship, I don't see the problem. Sorry I don't like your friend either because I don't believe in open relationships. Doesn't matter what your sexual orientation is. It doesn't ... (read in full...)
My wife is 35 but needs to grow up. I don't know how to get through to her
Q. So my wife and I have been married 8 years. I love my wife and we have a 4 year old together. Currently we are trying to buy a home. Most things are pretty good. She is someone who craves people to talk to and she gets that with a few friends from ...
A. 31 July 2018: If she does not have a crush on her friend's husband, it could mean she is having so much fun with them she otherwise wouldn't have if she stayed home with you and her daughter. Even if she came home at 5, she still has to make time with you and ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend & I had our first real argument. She doesn't want to let it go. How do I approach this?
Q. Hi Guys, I’ll keep this as short as possible. Basically had a bit of a disagreement with my GF of almost a year yesterday. We went to a supermarket to grab some things and she asked if we should swing by a McDonald’s on the way back. I sa...
A. 31 July 2018: I am the most soft spoken person ever, and I find a lot of people to be irritating. I find it's impossible to change people, so have to convince myself that it's the way they talk, and they mean no harm.
You have been with her for a year. Was that... (read in full...)
Not sure what to do as I am in a long term relationship but developed feelings for another!
Q. Hey Dear Cupid, I am confused and conflicted. I am in a long term relationship and have developed feelings for a work colleague. This is my first crush in a long time and this colleague is definitely my type, introverted, intelligent and ...
A. 29 July 2018: I think you have outgrown your relationship, or you just don't believe in long term relationships. People who are committed to the right person would not entertain thoughts of other people. They would be able to act professional and courteous at ... (read in full...)
I had sex with my best friend now I want to be his girlfriend!
Q. So I have been best friends with an American man for about 12.5 years now, we met online and started as penpals , we have emailed nearly every day for 12 years and always ring each other and there for each other if we were going through a tough ...
A. 29 July 2018: All this would be cleared up if you just talk about practical things like one of you moving to US or Ireland, permanently, not just as long as it's still romantic. People who conduct long distance relationships are in it for the thrill because they ... (read in full...)
My relationship was perfect for 4 years, now its constant drama? I blame TV. What should I do?
Q. I feel like Im a very simple creature. I just want sex, food, affection, and some nice things said to me every once in a while. My gf, she's more complicated. I literally don't know what she wants. One moment she's happy, the next she's sad, and ...
A. 29 July 2018: You should break up with her. If you broke up with her when everything was perfect, there will be more reasons to break up or to divorce when you got married. I don't think even a marriage certificate would mend her broken heart. She is on a mission ... (read in full...)
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