Is he done with me? He doesn't say so but his behaviour does.
Q. I met this amazing guy a few months ago. I wasn't interested in him at first, but he had been noticing me. He had feelings for me and he'd been analyzing his feelings for about 3 months before he finally told me about them. He told me he was ...
A. 19 July 2023: I would still BLOCK, delete and remove ALL access (to him and from him to you).
What he said made no sense because it was just words... He was trying out what combinations of words you might fall for. That is all.
And apparently, you ... (read in full...)
Is he done with me? He doesn't say so but his behaviour does.
Q. I met this amazing guy a few months ago. I wasn't interested in him at first, but he had been noticing me. He had feelings for me and he'd been analyzing his feelings for about 3 months before he finally told me about them. He told me he was ...
A. 18 July 2023: "Should I move on even without closure?"
You don't need him for closure, OP
He wasn't the one for you. That is your closure.
Getting closure is a unicorn of sorts. Even if he was man enough to tell you the "real" reason, it wouldn't auto... (read in full...)
Friend is annoyed that I can’t increase my budget for her daughters birthday gift!
Q. ? It was my friends daughters 7th birthday and I bought her a present of a particular tv cartoon character that she loves. The present cost me £25. Just to note- I asked her mum what she would like and her mum told me to get her this. W...
A. 29 June 2023: This is not a friend, this is a greedy entitled person.
Stop trying to be her friend. Don't worry about the gift, you GOT the kid what SHE said you should buy, it's NOT up to you to go return it and buy something fancier.
And the kid is 7! Sh... (read in full...)
Disruptive family at gym!
Q. ? ? ? ? ?Last year my friend and I joined the gym. We would attended classes as well as use the equipment. About 2 months after we joined a family of 5 also joined (we think they are mothers and daughters and niece and aunt) and ...
A. 29 June 2023: Do they come in consistently at the same time?
If so switch up when you go.
Also, if they mess around in a class TALK to the instructor after the class so you have SOMEONE who can back you up when talking to staff.
Nothing is going to c... (read in full...)
Is he done with me? He doesn't say so but his behaviour does.
Q. I met this amazing guy a few months ago. I wasn't interested in him at first, but he had been noticing me. He had feelings for me and he'd been analyzing his feelings for about 3 months before he finally told me about them. He told me he was ...
A. 29 June 2023: If I were you I would stop chasing him (because that is what you are doing right now).
Secondly, I think you were a bit over-dramatic with this "friend" and the "incident". I think she asked a STUPID and HURTFUL question but I think YOU took it ... (read in full...)
When am I supposed to say "I don't want to have sex"
Q. I'm not ready to have sex and I just plain don't want to. I get: "What's the point you said your an athiest" "Don't you at least do oral," at least?! Like it's the least I can do?! "Why bother your not a Virginia anyway" "You should of said tha...
A. 28 June 2023:
""Don't you at least do oral," at least?! Like it's the least I can do?!"
Say: "No." - (It is a complete sentence.)
""Why bother your not a Virginia anyway"" ( I'm guessing virgin was meant?)
Tell him: "It's not ABOUT "preserving" my... (read in full...)
Think my husband hates being a father. It's affecting our relationship
Q. I feel as though my "Don" husband hates being a father and regrets it. Our son "Johnny" is 4. We are both early 30s. Don makes snide jokes all the time about his intelligence, his abilities, etc. He doesn't really enjoy spending time with him and ...
A. 26 June 2023: "Is this relationship over?"
Yes, If you want your son to grow up not being bullied by his own father.
If he calls his son dumb when he can hear it and the interactions between them are often negative, it DOES affect him, plus he will SEE how ... (read in full...)
Should I move on or Stay with my mama boy fiance?
Q. I have been with my fiance since we were 16 years old we are now 31. we have 2 kids together and in April he proposed. As much as I love him and he really is the love of my life. I feel I have always bent over backwards for him. We had one ...
A. 25 June 2023: OP,
Why do you guys HAVE to live with either his mom or your parents?
I mean, I get it's nice to have "built in childcare" but have you two ever lived by yourselves with the kids? Your MIL and parents can still look after the kids if needed b... (read in full...)
No one will let me move on after placing my daughter for adoption
Q. I had a baby two years ago, my senior year in High School. It was in the middle of the pandemic, so I was home schooled anyway (because of the pandemic) and my parents were really pressuring me to keep the baby. The father was in my class, but he ...
A. 24 June 2023: Some people don't understand and some don't WANT to understand.
The thing is YOU and your BF made the choice you both felt was right for you two, you were young and didn't want to be parents. Giving your child up for adoption is not a bad thing, i... (read in full...)
Should I feel bad about ignoring him?
Q. ?Hi Cupid readers I would like some advice on a guy that I like at my local gym. I have asked for his help with the gym equipment and from there I have built up the courage to talk to him. Our first proper conversation I was surprised with h...
A. 22 June 2023: "Am I doing the right thing by not paying him any attention and putting no effort with him."
Yes, and stop feeling bad.
He SAID he wasn't interested so no need to feel bad. If he was interested and the "timing" was bad, he would have made ... (read in full...)
I've pushed boundaries and gone too far in creating an unhealthy friendship with a coworker who is also an indirect boss.
Q. I believe I have pushed boundaries and gone too far in creating an unhealthy friendship with a coworker who is also an indirect boss. I felt a connection as we are similar in age and for my career aspirations because I would like to be in a similar ...
A. 21 June 2023: Look elsewhere for a new job, it's not a good environment for either of you.
Or talk to her AFTER work and let her know that you feel you two need to stick to a totally professional work relationship. Maybe do it over email so there is a paper tr... (read in full...)
I’m jealous my best friend is in a new relationship
Q. Dear readers, I was dating but decided to take a break and be single. My best friend has been single longer than me and recently got a new boyfriend. I am honestly feeling somewhat jealous! I thought we were going to be single together and it ...
A. 21 June 2023: "Am I crazy for being jealous? "
In short, YES.
BE happy that she has found someone who has the potential for being her LIFE mate!
"I thought we were going to be single together and it made me feel comforted knowing I wasn’t single on my ow... (read in full...)
11 years with a non romantic man
Q. I have been with my SO for 11 years. We have two beautiful girls together. My problem is that he is not romantic. He doesn't put in effort into our relationship. There is never a night where he plans something, I have to plan any and everything w...
A. 21 June 2023: Relationships aren't 50/50 ever.
Some days one person is 10 or 20% and then the other (IF they are a good partner) pulls the rest of the load. However, that is not realistic if only ONE person is the one ALWAYS pulling the majority of the load. Bu... (read in full...)
Can I take my cat to my sister in laws house whilst I’m away?
Q. I need some advice please. I’m not sure if anyone can help as it’s not a relationship question. I have a 13 year old cat which I adopted 4 years ago. When I went on holiday 2 years ago, for 2 weeks, I left her at a recommended Cattery. Unfort...
A. 13 June 2023: Yes, I think your your cat will be OK AS LONG as your SIL do NOT let your cat outside.
If you are still unsure look to "kennel" your cat. contact your Vet and see of they recommend anyone closer by. But... that option will cost you.
... (read in full...)
Friends with an former fantasist lover? Bad idea
Q. Dear Cupid, Around a year ago, I made a new friend. We spent a lot of time together but it was for me purely platonic, never sexual or romantic though I enjoyed our friendship. Over time I suspected he might harbor deeper feelings but always assum...
A. 13 June 2023: OK OP, you need to wish him well and cut ties 100%
You were looking for a friend, HE wasn't. So you were already on different pages and in different books.
"he constantly jokes about killing me"
He said WHAT NOW? bTHAT isn't a joke, that... (read in full...)
Does he see us s friends?
Q. I have being friends with a guy for the past 4 years. He’s 26 and I’m 31. We originally worked together as flight attendants and on our first trip, we just hit it off. It was like we’d known each other for years. We messaged a lot, have good banter, ...
A. 13 June 2023: I think he sees you as a friend he occasionally has sex with.
But that is just MY guess.
I think if he saw you as more, he would have brought it up a long time ago.
If you are not OK with having casual sex with him, then keep up the talking... (read in full...)
Images of him with my friend haunt me
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for around seven months now and I am totally in love with him. After we first met and had been ‘talking’ for a few months I completely freaked out and started ignoring him for around two or three weeks. During ...
A. 15 May 2023: I think you need to dump them both.
Mostly though, the friend.
What kind of friend MOVES in on her BFF's maybe BF/maybe ex within 2 weeks? And without checking with you to see what's going on? I can tell you what kind of friend.. a SHITT... (read in full...)
Family drama first
Q. I am feeling torn. I have some family drama that I am doing my best to stay out of. Long story short, my eldest sister and my brother in law moved to my mom’s home due for convenience and allegedly it was only going to be a short period. I don’t ...
A. 15 May 2023: Urgh, that is a tough one.
How is your relationship with your sister? Because maybe you need to have a chat with her and tell her that SHE and her HUBBY need to give themselves a 3 months notice - find jobs (ANY JOBS) and move out. Because ... (read in full...)
Ex is happy and seems to be rubbing it in my face
Q. So this is really bugging me. I no longer like the guy to me he’s now unattractive and so arrogant but he treated me really badly and now he gets to be happy and it’s like he’s rubbing it in, how do you just be ok? So I was seeing this guy ...
A. 12 May 2023: He sounds like cancer you need to excise from your life - PRONTO.
" He then messaged me to tell me well he’s got this girl now and he’d chosen an ugly girl over me and how did that make me feel."
Wow, just wow. What kind of man would say this? ... (read in full...)
Is my sister hitting on my boyfriend?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for about a year. My older sister has been a source of drama for our relationship since the beginning. At first she use to be flirtatious with him when I wasn't around,always trying to impress him and get his ...
A. 11 May 2023: Stop listening to your sister when it comes to your BF.
You already know she is (perhaps) jealous of your
relationship and she wants to break you up, which means she will say and do anything to do it.
And ask your BF to minimize all contact... (read in full...)
Dumped by text
Q. BROKEN HEARTED OAP My partner of 4 years has just dumped me by text. He is a builder and we have had an up and down relationship. He has done work for me and I have paid him for it. Mates rate, which I thought was only fair. Unfortun...
A. 11 May 2023: OP, you can do better.
If he is expecting YOU (his partner) to give him jobs and pay him but he doesn't do a good job then he is delusional.
Why can he go on holiday for 6 weeks but you can not go away for 3?
Block his number, then delete ... (read in full...)
Is she or is she not pregnant?
Q. i have long distance relationship with 22 years old Ukrainian girl , we chat every week when i have my weekend. and we liked each other, and we planned for our meeting and she asked me to make her mother quickly suddenly, she disappeared from 19 ...
A. 11 May 2023: Pregnancy or not aside...
Do you really see the two of you having a future together?
She is 22, and you are in your mid 30's. Do you only know her over chat? So you have never met in person?
Now to the pregnant/not pregnant.
She says sh... (read in full...)
Widower’s dilemma
Q. My wife passed away three years ago and the loss helped me get closer to her family, particularly her sister, who herself is divorced. We’ve started hanging out together socially and we seem to get on really well, with similar tastes and ...
A. 8 May 2023: You know this isn't what SHE is looking for. And it wouldn't be great overall with the family, so your best bet would be to cut down the amount of time you spend with her.
The more you FOCUS on her, the harder it's going to be for you to find som... (read in full...)
Does former FWB want more this time?
Q. Hey there! So I used to be friends with benefits with this guy about a year ago but then I started to catch feelings for him and somehow we drifted apart. Now, months later, we ran into each and started keeping in touch again. He is still very ...
A. 8 May 2023: You need to USE your WORDS, OP
Tell, him:" hey, I'm very attracted to you and I really enjoy spending time with you, but I'm not looking to restart a FWB with YOU or anyone else."
If he then tells you he wants to DATE you properly and be ... (read in full...)
Infatuated with friend's girlfriend
Q. Hi just looking for some advice. I've become infatuated with my mate's girlfriend. I literally can't stop thinking about her. It should make me feel like a piece of shit and a terrible friend but in all honesty; he treats her like dirt and she ...
A. 8 May 2023: I have to agree with WiseOwlE,
Seems like you have outgrown your friend. And maybe it's time to distance yourself from him. He isn't a good person and yes, I do think people will judge you on the company you keep. Which means they think YOU are ... (read in full...)
Her family thinks I did something wrong
Q. Good morning Shortly, i had pretty neighbour and we liked each other, then we had sex for fun Suddenly we found out that she is pregnant and later we found that they was twin! We was happy and she introduced me to her family. Later when she wa...
A. 8 May 2023: Bogus post
Mods might wanna remove it.... (read in full...)
Rude charity worker tried to make me feel guilty. Am I at fault?
Q. So for around 2 years I’ve been donating regularly to an animal shelter. The lady that worked there was lovely- she often came to pick items up from my home (I don’t drive) and we’d have a nice chat. On occasions when I wasn’t home I’d leave the ...
A. 5 May 2023: Are you at fault?
No. Just block her.
You found a shelter where staff taking in the donations were actually grateful, she wasn't.
Don't feel guilty. Her ATTITUDE is why there are no more donations from you.
NO ONE in their right mind ca... (read in full...)
Love bombed
Q. Dear agony aunts and uncles. I think I got lovebombed. I met a 57 yr old man and we started dating. I wasn’t too keen on anything serious bc I as just out of a messy breakup. The new bf wanted to go on this big excursion for his birthday. I wanted a ...
A. 1 May 2023: Block him.
You weren't looking for anything serious and HE isn't serious nor does he care about you, whatsoever.
Why waste more time on someone who doesn't treat you nicely or with an ounce of respect?
What exactly does he have to offer?
... (read in full...)
Why does he want to see me less?
Q. My boyfriend I've been seeing for two years says he only wants to meet up every two weeks instead of every week and that doesn't work for me he also seems to want sex every time we meet up several times a night and day. He doesn't seem keen on ...
A. 1 May 2023: OP, are you sure you are the only woman he is seeing?
Secondly, if you want to settle down HE isn't it.
Lastly, why have you not asked him directly why he wants to see you less?
I'd like to hear his excuse... I mean reasoning...... (read in full...)
Partner cheated and I think he's back to cheating with the same girl
Q. Myself and my partner of 10 years decided last week that we would separate. He slept with a colleague in December 2022 and we tried to move past it, work on the relationship etc but after 4 months he said he couldn’t try any more than what he was ...
A. 21 April 2023: I'm sorry OP
Being cheated on SUCKS and for your SO to think you should just "suck it up and be OK with it 4 months later, is ridiculous. But with that said, IF you CHOSE to stay you CHOSE to work through it WITH him. That means that there ne... (read in full...)
I ignored my LDR boyfriend for 2 months. Now hes dating someone else
Q. My BF and I have been in a LD committed relationship, with the usual ups and downs. Pandemic took a bit of a toll on us. He likes to be stupid and say things just to upset me.. so I got fed up with it and ignored him the entire January and February ...
A. 20 April 2023: Oh OP
That isn't good.
"His mom told me that they approached him about it and he said it wasn’t serious, he was just playing around."
So what? You are his fall back person? His "I'll settle with this girl when I'm done playing around"?
... (read in full...)
My past is back to haunt me. Help!!
Q. I am in a big mess and not sure what to do. Around 15 years ago I had an affair with my boss who was much older than me. He was divorced and I was single so technically we weren’t doing anything wrong but we didn’t want our coworkers finding ...
A. 20 April 2023: You need to be honest and tell your BF BEFORE the dad does and also because it's the right thing to do in this situation.... (read in full...)
I ignored my LDR boyfriend for 2 months. Now hes dating someone else
Q. My BF and I have been in a LD committed relationship, with the usual ups and downs. Pandemic took a bit of a toll on us. He likes to be stupid and say things just to upset me.. so I got fed up with it and ignored him the entire January and February ...
A. 17 April 2023: OP
Let's say he wants to pick it back up with you.
DO you really want a guy who jumped to a new woman this fast? Even if you DID ignore him for 2 months.
Could you really trust him to not constantly look for "greener grass"?
I don't know ... (read in full...)
Did my ex come back after she learned I was moving on?
Q. Me and my ex have been talking again. We broke up over lockdown. I was mentally not there for her, so when we broke up, her male guy friend (married) who is 15 years older than her, started hinting and making moves. She has now revealed to me t...
A. 16 April 2023: Well, yeah she knew what she did was wrong (yet she still blamed you for the breakup, didn't she?)
And popping up with an "apology" when YOU moved on - or TRIED to move on. If you still have "strong feelings" for your ex, is that even fair to ... (read in full...)
Fed up of how my aunt treats me- how can I avoid her without upsetting the rest of my family?
Q. ? ?My dads sister is 15 years older than me (there’s a huge age gap between them) and she’s always considered me being like a younger sister and treated me as so. I have no siblings so when I was younger, I like the thought of her being my “bi...
A. 16 April 2023: Oh, your aunt is jealous of you...
Why do I think that? The whole "dress thing" She saw how good that dress looked at you and when you shouldn't afford it - SHE got it.
But that also means no more going shopping with her. She lost that "privi... (read in full...)
I ignored my LDR boyfriend for 2 months. Now hes dating someone else
Q. My BF and I have been in a LD committed relationship, with the usual ups and downs. Pandemic took a bit of a toll on us. He likes to be stupid and say things just to upset me.. so I got fed up with it and ignored him the entire January and February ...
A. 16 April 2023: "But deep down, I really still want to be with him"
WHY OP?
He does "stupid things and says stupid BS things" to the point where YOU decide that ignoring him is what you need to get some peace in your life.
And after only 2 months of not tal... (read in full...)
My ex calls me a man hater but he's the one who treated me badly
Q. My marriage ended 4 years ago after my ex husband said he wanted to move on with his life. He left me, 2 children and a dog. He called our marriage of 18 years “horrendous”, said he wished he’d never married me, etc and ripped me off in the ...
A. 14 April 2023: Your ex is an abusive, cheating idiot. YOU know this. HE knows this but doesn't want to own it or acknowledge it and even less to take responsibility for HIS own actions and choices.
How is that YOUR fault?
*hint hint* It's not. His behavio... (read in full...)
Should my partner not go to the wedding if I am not invited?
Q. I have been with my live in partner for over 20 yrs. His adult son (32 y/o) still won't accept me and refuses to see his dad if I'm around. The parents were divorces several years prior to our dating. The son has no relationship with his mother. ...
A. 13 April 2023: Of course, your partner should go to his son's wedding regardless if you are welcome or not! HE is his dad - YOU are no one to his son!
The son is OLD enough to decide WHO he wants to be around, and that includes you.
If you know this man (t... (read in full...)
Is this friendship ending my fault?
Q. Have I been immature or was I acting unreasonably? I had a best friend of 6 years and we haven't spoken in 7 months after an unexpected fallout. We were very close before and she was like a sister to me; we really trusted/loved each other....
A. 10 April 2023: Sometimes it happens. Who's at fault it is unimportant.
It sounds a bit like YOU became her fallback option. Someone to make plans with until she got a better offer.
I would just leave it be.
Who knows maybe she will grow up.
My guess is ... (read in full...)
I did not sign up for my wife's extravagant lifestyle and I am resentful
Q. I need some opinions and advice, as I am so stressed. My spouse owns her own business and since I met her over half a decade ago, her business has been rocky to the point that some months, she doesn't even take home a paycheck at all. The problem...
A. 6 April 2023: Sit her down with a financial planner/advisor. Make some REALISTIC budgets.
Ask her to STICK to them.
If the planner says to SELL the car, she sells the car. Buy a cheaper one.
Consider downsizing the house if it's too expensive, now IS a ... (read in full...)
Is she that busy or just blowing me off?
Q. I’m new to the area and looking for friends and to spend my time productively. I met a coworker who is also female and we agreed to meet to exercise. However while no set plans and a good reason it seems she always has an excuse. Last time she said ...
A. 5 April 2023: Maybe a bit of both?
I'd go work out on my own, and look for friendships outside of work.... (read in full...)
Need advice no judgements about friend
Q. So I am looking for possible advice please. Not judgement. It's jsut been my birthday, and like people do. My fiend messaged me to wish me a happy birthday. This led to a conversation and ultimate led to us messaging in a sexual way. This has n...
A. 2 April 2023: "Surely you have to be a little attracted to someone to message them in a sexual manner. More than once?"
For some, it's a game. It's just something to do to entertain themselves. He might be attracted to you but that doesn't mean he CARES.
... (read in full...)
My wife is committing benefit fraud. I don't want to report her but I want her to leave me alone
Q. I hope I don't look like I'm bitter with this question but I'd like to know your opinions with this. I have 2 daughters aged 17 and 19 and I've been paying child maintenance. Admittedly it was only £150 when they were both little but I've always ...
A. 2 April 2023: Does the money she is "fraudulently claiming" go toward the kids OR herself?
That is what I wonder.
If you report her HOW hard is it going to be on your youngest?
That would be my only concern.
Now the "blackmail" you got going there ... (read in full...)
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