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| Latest articles: Off Limits Dating
No replies yet... 18 September 2013: Is Someone Off Limits for Dating? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Mastering the art of dating requires a number of skills such as being socially calibrated, effective communication and knowing what you want. One of the areas that comes up for ...
How to Deal with a Toxic Person
No replies yet... 18 September 2013: The Best Way To Deal With Toxic People By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Toxic people are defined in this article as people who lack the capacity to reason, or people have the capacity to reason but just do not want to reason with you. In t...
A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce
No replies yet... 31 August 2013: A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships One of the ironies of couples counseling that I often find myself doing is taking the couple through the pre-marital coaching process when they may already be...
A Frank Comment on Miley Cyrus
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31 August 2013: A Frank Comment On Miley Cyrus By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I do not normally comment on the antics of popular culture, as so much of what we see of movies and TV are fiction based romances and relationships. I tried my best to stay fo...
The Wedding Speech
No replies yet... 26 July 2013: The Wedding Speech Remember this day, your wedding day. Not for the dresses and suits, not for the extravagance, nor the dinner and dancing, but remember your wedding day because of the reasons you chose to marry your spouse. Remember who is it that...
Sexually Incompatible Couples
No replies yet... 19 July 2013: Sexually Incompatible Couples Sex is not the most important thing in a relationship. However, couples who love each other dearly and connect on so many levels, but whom are sexually incompatible tend to find that sex can be at the core of a numb...
Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2
No replies yet... 28 June 2013: Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2 Separation does not automatically lead to divorce unless you let it. It is up to you and your partner to put in the work so that it does not happen. In the event you are the only one trying to work on yourself and ...
Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2
No replies yet... 22 June 2013: Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2 One of the most damaging actions an individual can take is to start dating someone new when going through a separation with their serious long term partner (spouse, common-law partner or a defacto-union). When I use ...
The Frank Break Up Formula
No replies yet... 14 June 2013: The Frank Break Up Formula By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Breaking up with someone is rarely an enjoyable or pleasant experience. In fact, there are those individuals who stay in less than satisfying relationships, and even can go all the ...
The Frank Romance Formula part 3 of 3
No replies yet... 8 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 3 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 of 3
No replies yet... 3 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future
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3 May 2013: The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships The future is where actual seduction takes place. That is the key to seduction. It has very little to do with turning someone on when you see them. I...
The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons
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27 April 2013: The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Sometimes life will slap you down when it has a lesson to teach you. For some people, the slap may be a light swat, and for others the slap has to be a severe smack down. ...
Dating With Disabilities
No replies yet... 5 April 2013: Dating With Disabilities by Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I once went on a date with a woman that had severe food allergies. We went out to a movie and I wished she had told me ahead of time. Although she mentioned that she was deathly all...
Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen
No replies yet... 21 March 2013: Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Rejection is the worst best thing that can ever happen to you. Managing rejection is a necessary part in managing your love life. Over the course of your ...
Things they do not tell you about having kids
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15 March 2013: Things They Do Not Tell You About Having Kids By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I always try to be very practical and realistic in my articles. This can come across very negative, given that my topic is Relationships (and all things relative...
When Friendship Is Meaningless
No replies yet... 8 March 2013: Friendship Is Meaningless Stop Hanging Out With Friends Who Sexually Reject You By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Friendship is meaningless. There I said it. Now before you shoot one of your nasty emails to the editor, actually read this colum...
Who Cares What People Think? Depends...
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1 March 2013: How Much Should You Care About What Other People Think? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships T here will be times when we want to do something in our lives that is meaningful to us. It could be a decision related to abandoning education, wh...
Learn How to Choose the Right Fights!
No replies yet... 21 February 2013: Pick And Choose Your Fights By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Fighting in relationships is normal. The issue is not whether you fight. The issue is HOW a couple fights. Do they talk out their disagreements? Do they wait until they are alon...
Starting Over After V-day?
No replies yet... 14 February 2013: Starting Over? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Valentine’s day can be a day of reckoning for some people. Meaning, the events leading up to, on the day of, and afterwards can really wreck your life. This is one of the reasons I often refer to...
A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best
No replies yet... 6 February 2013: A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best By Frank Kermit, Relationships At my weekly relationship workshop last Saturday I issued one of my famous “Frankisms” that seemed to really resonate with the attendees. I was trying...
Asking Hard Questions
No replies yet... 1 February 2013: Asking Hard Questions By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships When trying to decide if you should be committed to someone, moving in with someone, getting engaged, and getting married, each new transition brings about the unpleasant task of askin...
Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix
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24 January 2013: Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix By Frank Kermit, Relationships If you ever had sex with someone that is about to get married, and have been invited to the wedding, do not go. This is especially true if the spouse-to-be feels uncomfortable havi...
Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy
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16 January 2013: Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Couples who are experiencing a transition in the status of their relationship may sometimes look to explore new ways of redefining their sex lives b...
Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships
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13 December 2012: Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships As the holiday season approaches, invitations begin to swarm in for get-togethers from family, friends and even office parties. It is a time of people coming together, and in some ca...
Couples in Transition
No replies yet... 29 November 2012: Couples in Transition By Frank Kermit, Relationships When a couple is going through a change in the status of their relationship they are a couple in transition. This includes couples that are transitioning from monogamy to non-monogamy, from no...
Your Home Is Your Seduction
No replies yet... 15 November 2012: Your Home Is Your Seduction By Frank Kermit, Relationships Your date is coming over to your place! You have seen each other a couple of times already, but this is different. This is YOUR PLACE, not some coffee shop or movie theatre or restaur...
The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey
No replies yet... 6 November 2012: The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey By Frank Kermit, Relationships The movie of your life is how we each envision our lives unfolding throughout our life span. This concept goes beyond simple fantasizing of what your life would be like. Writing ...
What Love Masks by Frank Kermit
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2 November 2012: What Love Masks By Frank Kermit, Relationships A mentor of mine taught me that love is not blind; it is just that categories are rigid. When you meet someone, you put that person in a category (lover, friend, temptation, fling, does-no...
The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work: An Article About EFT and Weight Loss
No replies yet... 2 November 2012: The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work An Article About EFT and Weight Loss I have a confession. I used to daydream about food. You know that point in the day when someone catches you; your head in your hands, that dreamy look on your face? If so...
Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type?
No replies yet... 1 November 2012: Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type? By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all have our “type”. By “type” I am referring to that type of person each of us is madly attracted too. Each of us has our preference of what we like, what turns us on, ...
Is there such a thing as Happily Single?
No replies yet... 19 October 2012: Is there such a thing as Happily Single? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Is being single really that bad? After all, when a person considers the amount of pain that a relationship or casual dating can cause, it may seem that just skipping the w...
Be Thankful For a Broken Heart
No replies yet... 11 October 2012: Be Thankful For A Broken Heart By Frank Kermit, Relationships Ok, I hate this. I really hate this part of the process. However, it is a necessary part of the process, and if I am expected to help encourage others to do it, first I have to demo...
Stop Talking About Your Ex On Dates!
No replies yet... 5 October 2012: Stop Talking So Much About Your Ex By Frank Kermit, Relationships So you are on a date with someone new. You are excited. You are nervous. You hope that this is finally going to be the one. You meet. So far, you both like what you see. This...
Dating in Social Circles
No replies yet... 29 September 2012: Dating In Social Circles By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dating can be tricky. Does the other person like you the way you think he or she might? Do you really like that person enough to get more serious, or do you want to keep it more casual a...
Frank Guide to Speed Dating
No replies yet... 21 September 2012: Frank Guide To Speed Dating By Frank Kermit, Relationships Every way to meet someone new is a good way. Though friends, through the Internet, blind dates, approaching someone you want to meet, at a workshop, matchmaking companies, business conv...
Relationship Goal Setting
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15 September 2012: Relationship Goal Setting By Frank Kermit, Relationships Setting goals in most areas of your life can be challenging. When it comes to relationships, there are even more challenges. Whereas in other areas of your life such as education, emplo...
Battling The Savior Complex in Relationships
No replies yet... 6 September 2012: Battling The Savior Complex By Frank Kermit, Relationships As children, many of us grew up on stories about the hero that saves a person, and in the process, earned the undying love and loyalty of the person saved so that the hero and that saved ...
Get Out Of Your Own Way!
No replies yet... 30 August 2012: Get Out Of Your Own Way By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest obstacles that a person can have as an obstruction on their path of finding happiness, peace and healing for their love life, is themselves. Although most people wou...
Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow
No replies yet... 26 August 2012: Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow By Frank Kermit, Relationships Young adults tend to discount how the choices they make today will impact their futures tomorrow. At least, when it comes to relationships. The bes...
Are You A Partner Or A Liability?
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17 August 2012: Are You A Partner Or A Liability? When it really is you and not them By Frank Kermit, Relationships “It’s not you, it’s me.” Have you ever heard that said to you when someone broke up with you? Have you ever been the one to use it when dump...
The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships
No replies yet... 9 August 2012: The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships There are 7 certain words that catch many people off guard when it comes to relationships. They are: Lust, Love, Sex, Dating, Commitment, Marriage, and Monogamy. ...
Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss.
No replies yet... 20 July 2012: Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss By Frank Kermit, Relationships Are you too nice when it comes to relationships? Do you walk on eggshells because you do not want to upset your partner? Are you reluctant to enforce your bounda...
Re-Establishing Trust in a Relationship Article
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12 July 2012: Broken Trust Takes More Than Time To Re-Establish By Frank Kermit, Relationships Trust is one of the most important components of a relationship. Love is a great start, but it takes more than loving someone, or being loved by someone, to make ...
Understanding Emotional Needs
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4 July 2012: Understanding Emotional Needs: What We Respond To Versus What We Should Like By Frank Kermit, Relationships Emotional needs are about what a person responds to. It has nothing to do with what a person should like. We all should be attracte...
Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date
No replies yet... 29 June 2012: Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date By Frank Kermit, Relationships When you are on a date, and the person you are getting to know says or does something that triggers a well-honed instinct that you need to stop dating that person, you hav...
The Art of Storytelling on a Date
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Art of Storytelling: Make or Break A Relationship Happy Ending By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the challenges that people face when they go on dates is that they may not factor in that others will not understand what they are trying ...
Swinger Beginner Advice
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Swinger Beginners: Keep it Out of the Work Place By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dear Frank, My husband and I recently returned from a business trip/vacation where a few of my husband's co-workers also brought their wives. We really hit it o...
When your Ex becomes a symbol and you can't get over it
No replies yet... 13 June 2012: When Your Ex Becomes A Symbol Relationship Symbolism of Why You Are Still Hooked By Frank Kermit, Relationships We are surrounded by the power of symbols. A symbol is more than just a design we recognize; symbols are a means of making meaning. ...
Ally Vs Enemy: Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men
No replies yet... 9 June 2012: Is She His Ally or His Enemy? Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men By Frank Kermit, Relationships The best way I know how to teach people about the emotional needs of men is to break it down to absolute fundamentals. If people can und...
Dating After A Break Up - Just How Long Should You Wait?
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1 June 2012: Dating After Breaking Up? The Sooner The Better By Frank Kermit, Relationships “How much time should I wait before I start dating again?” is a common question that I get asked from someone that has just recently gotten dumped, and still sufferi...
Relationship Redemption: How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure
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23 May 2012: Relationship Redemption How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all make mistakes in life. If you have ever tried to get into a relationship, are in a relationship, or are recovering from a relationship, ...
Finding The Meaning Of Your Life And Relationships
No replies yet... 15 May 2012: The Meaning of your Relationships Starts With The Meaning Of Your Life By Frank Kermit, Relationships Contemplate your death. No seriously. In order to make meanings of your relationships past, present and those you will have in the futur...
The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women
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10 May 2012: The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women By Frank Kermit, Relationships A woman can only play one of two roles in a man’s life. She is either his mother or his lover. She cannot be both. When a man addresses a wom...
Moving To The Next Level: Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships
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1 May 2012: Moving To The Next Level Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest mistakes people make in relationships is to promote someone up the hierarchy of commitment that has not really earned it. I...
Beware Your Friends when it comes to love
No replies yet... 15 April 2012: Beware Your Friends They May Not Want You To Be Loved By Frank Kermit, Relationships Mistakes Singles Make # 6… Seeking the approval of friends that influences your love life choices. Love may come and go, but a friendship can last a lifetim...
Are Relationships Worth The Risk?
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8 April 2012: Relationships = Risk But is it really worth it? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Given that there is so much risk in getting involved in relationships, or having sex for that matter, is it at all worth it to even bother? After all, a broken hear...
Tattoos and Relationships
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24 March 2012: Beware The L-I-N-K Of (L)ove and (INK) By Frank Kermit, Relationships While at a coffee shop a few weeks ago, I met a tattoo artist. He had his son’s name tattooed on his hand, and being the ever-inquisitive one, I asked him about his profession...
Open Relationships and Infidelity
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17 March 2012: Open Relationships Do Not Always Stave Off Infidelity By Frank Kermit, Relationships Some people believe that one of the surest ways to guarantee fidelity is to only do open relationships. The premise is that people only cheat in monogamous ...
What is a Relationship?
No replies yet... 10 March 2012: What is a Relationship? Is best defined by what it’s NOT By Frank Kermit, Relationships Over the years, I have been asked a number of times “What is a Relationship?” This is a harder question to answer than most people think. In my experience,...
Engaged! Now what?
No replies yet... 19 February 2012: Pre Marital Disclosure What you don’t know, you must know By Frank Kermit, Relationships Valentines day has come and gone. Some relationships have started. Some relationships have ended, and some relationships have proceeded to the next le...
Making Monogamy Work
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5 February 2012: Making Monogamy Work By Frank Kermit, Relationships Monogamy is easier than open relationships, because the rules are simpler...but the application of the rules of monogamy is not as easy. Monogamy works for monogamous people...however...
Single Parent Dating, Not Just a Single Issue
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3 February 2012: Single Parent Dating – More Than Just A Single Issue By Frank Kermit At least 40% of marriages end in divorce. Depending on the study you read, the percentage can be higher. Even though the break down of families continues, the drive that ma...
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I think she's overweight. I'm falling in love with her but I'm not attracted to her.
Q. I have met a wonderful person via the use of Eharmony.com and we are now seeing each other in real life and having a spectacular time. I find everything about her to be just what I never knew I needed in a person, but am now so thankful for having. ...
A. 11 December 2007: Congrats man!
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
How do you have... an interesting personality? What puts off women on a date?
Q. i have often wondered what it s that puts off women when i want to go on a date with them. I realise now that it is because i am boring. what do i have to do to have an interesting personality?...
A. 16 November 2007: Address her emotional needs. The root of this system is to ask the qwuestion:
Am I making her feel like my mother, or I am making her feel like my lover?
Each time she feels like she has to mother you, you failed her test, and she is put off. ... (read in full...)
We fight a lot because I bring up my ex.
Q. hey ... i have a boyfriend whom am pretty serious about even though it hasnt been too long since ive bin with him...also there is my ex boyfriend whom i dated for 3 years and now its also been over 3 years to our break up. i somehow cant quit tal...
A. 16 November 2007: Well, if you want to push your boyfriend away, so you can have an excuse to return to your ex, you are doing a great job. That is the ONLY reason I can think of that a woman would talk about her ex to her new guy.
I think he is right, and you need... (read in full...)
My wife's getting frustrated.
Q. I'm 33 years old and happily married with 2 children. When having sex i lose my erction halfway through. I withdraw and my wife will restimulate me. When i restart having sex i then feel the need to ejaculate immediately. This is so frustrating as ...
A. 16 November 2007: Short term solution: Get a strap on and use that as well as sex toys like vibrators and such. It will not fix the problem, but she will get some pleasure out of it.
Long term, there are erectile dysfunction clinics for you to check out. A number... (read in full...)
How much more should I be wating for her.
Q. hi there? ypu know i'm confused and i need some advice down here? i just had a girl(whom i love so much) that lives very far away from me she used to have a boy friend whom she says she used to love him very much i don't know what happened but they ...
A. 16 November 2007: You NEVER wait. Go out and date other people. I really beleive that if she liked you enough, she would not wait. She would be with you now. Women wait for guys that are not that important to them. They do not wait for guys they are really ... (read in full...)
My mom is involved with my friend - how do I react? They won't talk about it.
Q. hello i have a problem my mom is having sex with my friend and they both won't talk about it many times i caught him coming out of my house and many times i heard his voice in my mom room i don't know what to do i can't talk to mom and i can't ...
A. 16 November 2007: Both your mom and your friend are ADULTS and are entitled to their privacy. (I am assuming they are adults by your age, if this is wrong, correct me please).
There is nothing for them to discuss with you, nor check in with you. The same rules wi... (read in full...)
My mother and sister complain all the time saying they do not feel close to my wife. This is so stressful.
Q. i have had a problem with my mother and sister since i got married two years ago. my mother and sister complain all the time saying they do not feel close to my wife. my wife is a loving person however has a different personality which they can not ...
A. 16 November 2007: Your marriage is in trouble, and YOU are the one that has to take control.
You state: the bottom line is that my sister is not happy with my wife so i am the one who has to suffer.
Why does your sister have this much influence on your life? Y... (read in full...)
When I told other people about our relationship of 2 yrs, he denied and said it was a one night stand. Why does he want to keep it a secret?
Q. im in love with this guy ive been seeing for 2 years we was just friends first and now we r very secret about are relasonship and he want tell no one but i told a few people he didnt get mad about it he just denied it saying we just had a one night ...
A. 16 November 2007: When a man loves a woman, he usually wants to tell everyone to make sure they know she is off limits.
My guess is that he sees you as a sex-buddy, but does not want to committ to you. He could be involved with other women, or maybe just waiting ... (read in full...)
Do players always move on??
Q. GUYS, again, bringing up the player question. I asked about it yesterday under the heading "Does a player ever change his tune." I met with him last night and we had a talk. He swears that he is true, but I really would like to solicit some of ...
A. 15 November 2007: Hey There,
HEre is the link:
http://www.lulu.com/browse/preview.php?fCID=875085
THe emotional needs of men are on page 54 with an explanation.
They are based on my years of research with players, and being a player. Addressing these em... (read in full...)
Do players always move on??
Q. GUYS, again, bringing up the player question. I asked about it yesterday under the heading "Does a player ever change his tune." I met with him last night and we had a talk. He swears that he is true, but I really would like to solicit some of ...
A. 14 November 2007: Yes, Players can and do settle down, IF he meets a woman that fully addresses his top ten emotional needs. That is my experience, and in working with many of them.
However, if the player is not honest about who he is, or what his expectat... (read in full...)
Should I tell her I know the truth?
Q. About 10 months ago, I broke up with my boyfriend of a year, under duress from my parents - so it wasn't my choice. I said i wanted to remain good friends, because prior to dating we were great friends. Within three weeks of our breakup he declares ...
A. 13 November 2007: Nope. I still say do nothing.
You broke up with him. At that point it is none of your business how he chooses to live his love life.
You are mad at that girl for being with him, because if it was not for your father, YOU WOULD STILL BE W... (read in full...)
I slept with my my bf's brother 8 yrs ago. Sometimes we're happy, sometimes he suddenly brings up this issue. Why?
Q. I have fallen in love with a guy who has been a friend of mine for so long. I really love him and his daughter so much. I have always gone to him for relationship advice and other issues. We have been living together and working on a relationship ...
A. 13 November 2007: If he has not gotten over it after 8 years together, he is not going to get over it now.
How would you feel if he had slept with your family member before being with you? Are you sure you would be OK with that? What about if that family m... (read in full...)
Not sure about virginity.
Q. Im 26 and im not quite sure if Im a virgin or not. Ive `put it in` (twice) but I didnt come. So Im not sure. It could just be unfinished business.. Its been 5 years since I last tried. So I might just class myself as a virgin anyway....
A. 13 November 2007: Technically you are not a virgin, however emotionally you still are a virgin (if you want to look at it that way). 5 years is a long time not to be affection, esp in your 20s.
I run a seminar and tele-consults for adult male virgins.
Check o... (read in full...)
Should I tell her I know the truth?
Q. About 10 months ago, I broke up with my boyfriend of a year, under duress from my parents - so it wasn't my choice. I said i wanted to remain good friends, because prior to dating we were great friends. Within three weeks of our breakup he declares ...
A. 12 November 2007: Are you sure you are not jealous and just looking for an excuse? What your EX bf does, or who he does really is not your business. You broke up with him because of your parents...so you say. You already showed him that you are the one that cannot ... (read in full...)
My first time and I can't keep it up. What's wrong?
Q. I have recently encountered an embarrassing problem. Last night, I lost my virginity. I was ready, so I don't regret my decision at all. Thing is, I had a REALLY hard time maintaining an erection. Honestly, I don't know how we managed it since I was ...
A. 11 November 2007: You are nervous, and it does happen, for first times.
Your body simply may not be used to the new sensations of condoms and her body's touch. Esp if you are used to touching yourself...your body becomes accustom to your own hand and sensatio... (read in full...)
Maintaining your innocence and how to deal with people who would verbally hurt you for it.
Q. i am a 26 year old male and a virgin still, but sadly years ago i havd dealt with various of my peers saying pretty blataint, hurtful and overall devestating comments to me just for being a virgin from my high school days up until my early 20's. i ...
A. 11 November 2007: Unfortunately, your virginity is a stigma at your age for your gender, and it does affect how others may perceive you.
I have to ask you some questions: Do you try to offer advice to people about sex-related issues for which you do not have exp... (read in full...)
Surely I'm Better For Her... But She's Chosen Him
Q. She has a guy, but he's made her cry multiple times and chooses games and cars over her... I've been talking to her for several months and also spent time together... we had unbelievable chemistry like soulmates... We both said we made each other ...
A. 4 November 2007: Even though you had sex...she is STILL with him. It is not the history alone. Out of her 10 emotional needs giving her good sex addresses the needs, but there is something more he is giving her that you are not in some way, which is more important ... (read in full...)
Every day there's a insult from my gf of 3 yrs or her kids. Should I break up?
Q. my girlfriend of 3 yrs will only give about 30%, wont come to my house i have to go there. always tells me how wrong iam and that her and her kids are right, ALWAYS, every single thing is done when she says, its not what WE can do to make this work, ...
A. 3 November 2007: Dude, why would you tolerate this behavior from ANYBODY?
I think you know the answer, and you are just asking for someone to give you permission.
If you continue to let people treat you badly, you will keep getting into crap relationships li... (read in full...)
I cheated with his brother, how can we sort this one out.
Q. I have a boyfriend and we are having problems near enough all the time, we have been together for a year. He hasnt got alot of trust for me as 2 weeks into our releationship i cheated on him with his brother ever since when we argue he says things ...
A. 3 November 2007: You don't. There are some things that simply can not be sorted out, and sleeping with his brother is one of them.
Perhaps you might want to try not being in relationships for a couple of years, until you are a little more mature and can be more ... (read in full...)
Surely I'm Better For Her... But She's Chosen Him
Q. She has a guy, but he's made her cry multiple times and chooses games and cars over her... I've been talking to her for several months and also spent time together... we had unbelievable chemistry like soulmates... We both said we made each other ...
A. 3 November 2007: Let me fill you in.
That guy, as bad as he is, addresses her emotional needs.
You do not. That is why she chose him over you.
Also, let me show you something.
You said: "i'd do anything for her and would always treat her right..."
Th... (read in full...)
My girlfriend was unfaithful, what should I do?
Q. Hi I'm 19 and I've been with my girlfriend for 2 years. We took a gap year round the world together for 5 months having the best moments of our life. We hardly fight, and we have loved each other so much in the last 2 years, and I never would have...
A. 3 November 2007: When she said: "... she was worried I'd find someone better than her...." She was trying to brace you for it, as this is what she was thinking for herself.
Is is possible to trust a person again? Yes, but trust must be EARNED. Until she earn... (read in full...)
We're meant to be together, but he wants a two year break, saying we're too young
Q. I apologise that this is long but i'm really upset and need help. I was with my boyfriend for a year 8 months and we were so close. We'd known each other since kids and he thought I was the one he wanted to spend his whole life with. I was hi...
A. 3 November 2007: If you were really meant to be, he would NEVER have wanted a break in the first place.
My guess is that he wants to play the feild and get some sexual experience, but did not want to cheat on you. I wonder if you and he ever discussed being in... (read in full...)
Does she resent me for disciplining her child? Are we 'pulling in different directions'?
Q. I have a simple question that I would really love to have some responses on. If I punish my soon to be step son, by taking his cell phone off him for a week, for mocking and back talking me, and his mother agrees with me that he needs to learn a ...
A. 3 November 2007: So basically he is a spoiled brat, and his mother will ALWAYS give into him. Sorry, dude, but I think this is a dead situation waiting to croak.
Walk away. Not just because of the fact this kid is going to go out of his way to wreck your rel... (read in full...)
I discovered my dad is having sexual online relationships with over 20 different men. What do I do?
Q. I am 19 and no longer live at home. One day i went to my parents house to visit but they were not there. So i thought i would check my email while i waited. When i went onto yahoo mail, my dad had not signed out of his account and something just ...
A. 3 November 2007: Say nothing. It is not your business. The only way you could have such graphic pictures in your head is that you read MORE than just glancing at it, which you should not have done.
For all you know your parents have an open relation... (read in full...)
Should I marry him after High School?
Q. Why is it not right to fight at a young age? I'm currently 17 years old and dating a 16 years old who is goin to be 17 in Feb. We've dating for a year and one month, those days was the best of my life and the worst. While we been into the roughest ...
A. 2 November 2007: If you have to ask at all, then no, do not get married.
Regardless of age, love just simply is not enough, and if you are fighting this much, your relationship does not sound like it is going to be able to handle it when more of life's major ch... (read in full...)
Does she resent me for disciplining her child? Are we 'pulling in different directions'?
Q. I have a simple question that I would really love to have some responses on. If I punish my soon to be step son, by taking his cell phone off him for a week, for mocking and back talking me, and his mother agrees with me that he needs to learn a ...
A. 2 November 2007: I believe that she will take this behavior into your marriage with you. The two of you need to sit down and discuss boundaries when it comes to your stepson. If you can not agree to set boundaries, do's and don't and messures of discipline, you ... (read in full...)
Should I arrange a threesome? Does she really agree to it?
Q. Hi For the past 10 years or so I have always been turned on with the thought of having a 3 some with my wife and another guy. on a recent holiday i arranged for a guy to give her a full body massage.again this was a major turn on for me. Our s...
A. 31 October 2007: Sometimes what a woman says when turned on in foreplay is not what she would be ready for as a surprise.
I would suggest that the two of go the local swingers club together as voyeurs the first few times, and if something happens, let it happen t... (read in full...)
We have oral sex but she doesn't want a relationship. What should I do?
Q. my girlfriend broke up with me 1month ago.she say's she is not happy and I am not the one. we have been talking on the phone 3 times a week. We decided to go out we went shopping then dinner then to my house we had oral sex. But she still says ...
A. 28 October 2007: Starting seeing other girls. She needs to see that other women are into you, to solidify her attraction to you.
Also, make her EARN your commitment. You are giving it too easily, and that is making her doubtful.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
I think she's overweight. I'm falling in love with her but I'm not attracted to her.
Q. I have met a wonderful person via the use of Eharmony.com and we are now seeing each other in real life and having a spectacular time. I find everything about her to be just what I never knew I needed in a person, but am now so thankful for having. ...
A. 26 October 2007: I never said you were using her for her body (obviously!)...but a person can use another for other things like security, or comfort, or or lifestyle, or just to have another person around so not to be lonely or still looking for the right person. ... (read in full...)
If she shaves before going out, does that mean anything?
Q. ok following up here with my last question..thanks for the feedback!! I talked to my GF and she still claims nothing happened other than virtual sex and I guess I believe her. I feel a bit of a panzy for not being tougher on this issue but I guess ...
A. 26 October 2007: Firstly, it is not on her, it is ON YOU. The fact you do not understand that is why she is cheating on you.
And yes, she IS cheating on you. It has nothing to do with that time of the month.
I think you are in denial, as it is less painful ... (read in full...)
Which is more important to you? Penetration or orgasm?
Q. I am taking a poll. I would like to know what people think to gauge what is 'normal' This is mostly for the women, but men can chime in, too, if they have something pertinent to say. I am one of those women who just doesnt cum by intercou...
A. 26 October 2007: Great question. In my experience, the act of penetration has a psychological effect on the couple that mutal orgasms do not have.
Even as a man, if I had to choose for myself, the importence of penetration for the psychological effects are more... (read in full...)
I think she's overweight. I'm falling in love with her but I'm not attracted to her.
Q. I have met a wonderful person via the use of Eharmony.com and we are now seeing each other in real life and having a spectacular time. I find everything about her to be just what I never knew I needed in a person, but am now so thankful for having. ...
A. 26 October 2007: Break it off NOW. She deserves to be with someone who has it more together.
Simply put, you are not ready to be happy with her. And becuase of this, you are using her.
Set her free, so that she may find someone that does find her attractive. ... (read in full...)
I hate women, why!?
Q. OK, I am having immense feelings of hatred towards women. I am a funny, smart and relaxed (and tall and reasonably good looking!!) guy, but I have ZERO success with women! I HATE how they won't talk to you unless you talk to them. I hate how they ...
A. 21 October 2007: You sound like you are filled with resentment rather than hatred. You resent the fact that dispite being brought up to beleive that men and woman are equal, there is still an expected double standard of the man still having to lead the interaction, ... (read in full...)
Cheated on my husband and now I'm pregnant.
Q. I am in love with a man and he is really good to me. However, I cheated on him and he was always working and not making any time for fun with me. I am pregnant and wondering if I should tell my husband?...
A. 18 October 2007: Is there a question about the paternatiy of the child? If so, you had better tell your husband, and get some information on the other guy who might be the father.
The paternaty laws are changing right now, and women can now be sued for fraud if... (read in full...)
My boyfriend keeps XXX photo's of his ex on the computer
Q. hi there my boyfriend of 1 year has xxx photos of his ex girlfriend he deleted them from the computer when i found then as i was very upset about it then 5 months ago but the other day he has put them back in a hidden file what do i do i am 41 and ...
A. 17 October 2007: I do not think he should have gotten rid of them. There is no certainty you will be with him forever, and they are part of his past.
What I think is the major problem here is that he has them out on his computer, and is not safe guarding them. H... (read in full...)
Will my friend of 11 years ever make peace with my wife?
Q. i have a friend of 11 years and he hates my wife. I've stayed with her by my side through a recent argument we are having which has ended up with me not seeing my buddy for a few weeks, maybe even a month already. he's written back to me online ...
A. 17 October 2007: I went through something similar...turns out the friend was gay and interested in me. Your priority is your wife, future mother of your children. Not your friend. Don't you see it?
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
Should I let them keep their little secret?
Q. I share an apartment with my older sister. A few weeks back I came home early and caught her and my older brother in her bed having sex. I was shocked at first and have not said anything. I have since found them two more times. I think this is ...
A. 17 October 2007: They are adults at this point, and it is none of your business. Stay out of it. However, if the circumstances make you feel uncomfortable, consider moving out, or at least ask them not to involve you by coming over to do it while you live there.
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I feel betrayed. How should I feel?
Q. ive been with this girl for 7months and we have a baby on the way. she always told me she had slept wit two guys before me. i come to find out from somebody other than her last night it was four guys before me she denied it and out of nowhere she ...
A. 17 October 2007: Is the paternity of the child in question is the main issue. The fact she lied to you probably makes you feel you can not trust her, and THAT is why you are making a big deal about it. Once the kid is born, have a DNA test done to prove it.
... (read in full...)
I found out my husband has been watching gay porn!
Q. I just found out that my husband of 13 years has been watching gay porn on our computer when I go to bed earlier than he does. I'm completely floored and haven't talked to him about it yet. We do have sex but not as much as I would like. I don't ...
A. 17 October 2007: Before you confront him, make sure all your finances are in order...just in case he can not face the fact you know, and tries to dissappear on you with the savings. I am not kidding.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
My husband wants me to get rid of the dog, we fight about it, but I can't do it!
Q. I am 26, my husband is 32. We've been married a short time and have a 6 mo. old and another on the way. I stay home, he works. We rescued a puppy last feb. he was 10 weeks old. My husband has grown increasingly annoyed with the dog, and now is ...
A. 17 October 2007: You are putting a dog ahead of your relationship with the father of your children, who currently happens to be your husband. You do not have your priorities straight.
Although I think the media has protrayed pit bulls unfairly, the facts are stil... (read in full...)
How do I handle my situation?
Q. My Guy Asked me to get married in the most romantic way and yet here I am 2 months later asking for help.. He was married before, although that ended badly they talk (which in my opinon is a good thing At least for the kids and the new wife (me) ...
A. 17 October 2007: Is it cold feet, or he is really unsure that he wants to marry you? There is a difference. He might just have nerves because he already has one ex wife. If he is unsure becuase he fears another divorce, that is more than understandable, then as ... (read in full...)
Lost in life, any suggestions please?
Q. Dear All I would appreciate some help please; I'm lost in my life. I see myself as mature. Two girls have manipulated me recently (not literally but have pretended to be close and maybe a little bit more, 1 stole my heart and ran which hurt) and ...
A. 16 October 2007: Hey,
It sounds like you have been through a rough time. Firstly do not look to women to make up for the love you are missing in your life. You are too vulnerable right now, and will come off as too needy, which means they will turn against ... (read in full...)
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