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| Latest articles: Off Limits Dating
No replies yet... 18 September 2013: Is Someone Off Limits for Dating? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Mastering the art of dating requires a number of skills such as being socially calibrated, effective communication and knowing what you want. One of the areas that comes up for ...
How to Deal with a Toxic Person
No replies yet... 18 September 2013: The Best Way To Deal With Toxic People By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Toxic people are defined in this article as people who lack the capacity to reason, or people have the capacity to reason but just do not want to reason with you. In t...
A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce
No replies yet... 31 August 2013: A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships One of the ironies of couples counseling that I often find myself doing is taking the couple through the pre-marital coaching process when they may already be...
A Frank Comment on Miley Cyrus
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31 August 2013: A Frank Comment On Miley Cyrus By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I do not normally comment on the antics of popular culture, as so much of what we see of movies and TV are fiction based romances and relationships. I tried my best to stay fo...
The Wedding Speech
No replies yet... 26 July 2013: The Wedding Speech Remember this day, your wedding day. Not for the dresses and suits, not for the extravagance, nor the dinner and dancing, but remember your wedding day because of the reasons you chose to marry your spouse. Remember who is it that...
Sexually Incompatible Couples
No replies yet... 19 July 2013: Sexually Incompatible Couples Sex is not the most important thing in a relationship. However, couples who love each other dearly and connect on so many levels, but whom are sexually incompatible tend to find that sex can be at the core of a numb...
Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2
No replies yet... 28 June 2013: Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2 Separation does not automatically lead to divorce unless you let it. It is up to you and your partner to put in the work so that it does not happen. In the event you are the only one trying to work on yourself and ...
Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2
No replies yet... 22 June 2013: Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2 One of the most damaging actions an individual can take is to start dating someone new when going through a separation with their serious long term partner (spouse, common-law partner or a defacto-union). When I use ...
The Frank Break Up Formula
No replies yet... 14 June 2013: The Frank Break Up Formula By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Breaking up with someone is rarely an enjoyable or pleasant experience. In fact, there are those individuals who stay in less than satisfying relationships, and even can go all the ...
The Frank Romance Formula part 3 of 3
No replies yet... 8 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 3 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 of 3
No replies yet... 3 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future
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3 May 2013: The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships The future is where actual seduction takes place. That is the key to seduction. It has very little to do with turning someone on when you see them. I...
The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons
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27 April 2013: The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Sometimes life will slap you down when it has a lesson to teach you. For some people, the slap may be a light swat, and for others the slap has to be a severe smack down. ...
Dating With Disabilities
No replies yet... 5 April 2013: Dating With Disabilities by Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I once went on a date with a woman that had severe food allergies. We went out to a movie and I wished she had told me ahead of time. Although she mentioned that she was deathly all...
Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen
No replies yet... 21 March 2013: Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Rejection is the worst best thing that can ever happen to you. Managing rejection is a necessary part in managing your love life. Over the course of your ...
Things they do not tell you about having kids
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15 March 2013: Things They Do Not Tell You About Having Kids By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I always try to be very practical and realistic in my articles. This can come across very negative, given that my topic is Relationships (and all things relative...
When Friendship Is Meaningless
No replies yet... 8 March 2013: Friendship Is Meaningless Stop Hanging Out With Friends Who Sexually Reject You By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Friendship is meaningless. There I said it. Now before you shoot one of your nasty emails to the editor, actually read this colum...
Who Cares What People Think? Depends...
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1 March 2013: How Much Should You Care About What Other People Think? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships T here will be times when we want to do something in our lives that is meaningful to us. It could be a decision related to abandoning education, wh...
Learn How to Choose the Right Fights!
No replies yet... 21 February 2013: Pick And Choose Your Fights By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Fighting in relationships is normal. The issue is not whether you fight. The issue is HOW a couple fights. Do they talk out their disagreements? Do they wait until they are alon...
Starting Over After V-day?
No replies yet... 14 February 2013: Starting Over? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Valentine’s day can be a day of reckoning for some people. Meaning, the events leading up to, on the day of, and afterwards can really wreck your life. This is one of the reasons I often refer to...
A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best
No replies yet... 6 February 2013: A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best By Frank Kermit, Relationships At my weekly relationship workshop last Saturday I issued one of my famous “Frankisms” that seemed to really resonate with the attendees. I was trying...
Asking Hard Questions
No replies yet... 1 February 2013: Asking Hard Questions By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships When trying to decide if you should be committed to someone, moving in with someone, getting engaged, and getting married, each new transition brings about the unpleasant task of askin...
Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix
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24 January 2013: Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix By Frank Kermit, Relationships If you ever had sex with someone that is about to get married, and have been invited to the wedding, do not go. This is especially true if the spouse-to-be feels uncomfortable havi...
Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy
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16 January 2013: Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Couples who are experiencing a transition in the status of their relationship may sometimes look to explore new ways of redefining their sex lives b...
Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships
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13 December 2012: Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships As the holiday season approaches, invitations begin to swarm in for get-togethers from family, friends and even office parties. It is a time of people coming together, and in some ca...
Couples in Transition
No replies yet... 29 November 2012: Couples in Transition By Frank Kermit, Relationships When a couple is going through a change in the status of their relationship they are a couple in transition. This includes couples that are transitioning from monogamy to non-monogamy, from no...
Your Home Is Your Seduction
No replies yet... 15 November 2012: Your Home Is Your Seduction By Frank Kermit, Relationships Your date is coming over to your place! You have seen each other a couple of times already, but this is different. This is YOUR PLACE, not some coffee shop or movie theatre or restaur...
The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey
No replies yet... 6 November 2012: The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey By Frank Kermit, Relationships The movie of your life is how we each envision our lives unfolding throughout our life span. This concept goes beyond simple fantasizing of what your life would be like. Writing ...
What Love Masks by Frank Kermit
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2 November 2012: What Love Masks By Frank Kermit, Relationships A mentor of mine taught me that love is not blind; it is just that categories are rigid. When you meet someone, you put that person in a category (lover, friend, temptation, fling, does-no...
The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work: An Article About EFT and Weight Loss
No replies yet... 2 November 2012: The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work An Article About EFT and Weight Loss I have a confession. I used to daydream about food. You know that point in the day when someone catches you; your head in your hands, that dreamy look on your face? If so...
Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type?
No replies yet... 1 November 2012: Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type? By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all have our “type”. By “type” I am referring to that type of person each of us is madly attracted too. Each of us has our preference of what we like, what turns us on, ...
Is there such a thing as Happily Single?
No replies yet... 19 October 2012: Is there such a thing as Happily Single? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Is being single really that bad? After all, when a person considers the amount of pain that a relationship or casual dating can cause, it may seem that just skipping the w...
Be Thankful For a Broken Heart
No replies yet... 11 October 2012: Be Thankful For A Broken Heart By Frank Kermit, Relationships Ok, I hate this. I really hate this part of the process. However, it is a necessary part of the process, and if I am expected to help encourage others to do it, first I have to demo...
Stop Talking About Your Ex On Dates!
No replies yet... 5 October 2012: Stop Talking So Much About Your Ex By Frank Kermit, Relationships So you are on a date with someone new. You are excited. You are nervous. You hope that this is finally going to be the one. You meet. So far, you both like what you see. This...
Dating in Social Circles
No replies yet... 29 September 2012: Dating In Social Circles By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dating can be tricky. Does the other person like you the way you think he or she might? Do you really like that person enough to get more serious, or do you want to keep it more casual a...
Frank Guide to Speed Dating
No replies yet... 21 September 2012: Frank Guide To Speed Dating By Frank Kermit, Relationships Every way to meet someone new is a good way. Though friends, through the Internet, blind dates, approaching someone you want to meet, at a workshop, matchmaking companies, business conv...
Relationship Goal Setting
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15 September 2012: Relationship Goal Setting By Frank Kermit, Relationships Setting goals in most areas of your life can be challenging. When it comes to relationships, there are even more challenges. Whereas in other areas of your life such as education, emplo...
Battling The Savior Complex in Relationships
No replies yet... 6 September 2012: Battling The Savior Complex By Frank Kermit, Relationships As children, many of us grew up on stories about the hero that saves a person, and in the process, earned the undying love and loyalty of the person saved so that the hero and that saved ...
Get Out Of Your Own Way!
No replies yet... 30 August 2012: Get Out Of Your Own Way By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest obstacles that a person can have as an obstruction on their path of finding happiness, peace and healing for their love life, is themselves. Although most people wou...
Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow
No replies yet... 26 August 2012: Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow By Frank Kermit, Relationships Young adults tend to discount how the choices they make today will impact their futures tomorrow. At least, when it comes to relationships. The bes...
Are You A Partner Or A Liability?
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17 August 2012: Are You A Partner Or A Liability? When it really is you and not them By Frank Kermit, Relationships “It’s not you, it’s me.” Have you ever heard that said to you when someone broke up with you? Have you ever been the one to use it when dump...
The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships
No replies yet... 9 August 2012: The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships There are 7 certain words that catch many people off guard when it comes to relationships. They are: Lust, Love, Sex, Dating, Commitment, Marriage, and Monogamy. ...
Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss.
No replies yet... 20 July 2012: Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss By Frank Kermit, Relationships Are you too nice when it comes to relationships? Do you walk on eggshells because you do not want to upset your partner? Are you reluctant to enforce your bounda...
Re-Establishing Trust in a Relationship Article
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12 July 2012: Broken Trust Takes More Than Time To Re-Establish By Frank Kermit, Relationships Trust is one of the most important components of a relationship. Love is a great start, but it takes more than loving someone, or being loved by someone, to make ...
Understanding Emotional Needs
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4 July 2012: Understanding Emotional Needs: What We Respond To Versus What We Should Like By Frank Kermit, Relationships Emotional needs are about what a person responds to. It has nothing to do with what a person should like. We all should be attracte...
Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date
No replies yet... 29 June 2012: Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date By Frank Kermit, Relationships When you are on a date, and the person you are getting to know says or does something that triggers a well-honed instinct that you need to stop dating that person, you hav...
The Art of Storytelling on a Date
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Art of Storytelling: Make or Break A Relationship Happy Ending By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the challenges that people face when they go on dates is that they may not factor in that others will not understand what they are trying ...
Swinger Beginner Advice
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Swinger Beginners: Keep it Out of the Work Place By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dear Frank, My husband and I recently returned from a business trip/vacation where a few of my husband's co-workers also brought their wives. We really hit it o...
When your Ex becomes a symbol and you can't get over it
No replies yet... 13 June 2012: When Your Ex Becomes A Symbol Relationship Symbolism of Why You Are Still Hooked By Frank Kermit, Relationships We are surrounded by the power of symbols. A symbol is more than just a design we recognize; symbols are a means of making meaning. ...
Ally Vs Enemy: Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men
No replies yet... 9 June 2012: Is She His Ally or His Enemy? Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men By Frank Kermit, Relationships The best way I know how to teach people about the emotional needs of men is to break it down to absolute fundamentals. If people can und...
Dating After A Break Up - Just How Long Should You Wait?
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1 June 2012: Dating After Breaking Up? The Sooner The Better By Frank Kermit, Relationships “How much time should I wait before I start dating again?” is a common question that I get asked from someone that has just recently gotten dumped, and still sufferi...
Relationship Redemption: How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure
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23 May 2012: Relationship Redemption How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all make mistakes in life. If you have ever tried to get into a relationship, are in a relationship, or are recovering from a relationship, ...
Finding The Meaning Of Your Life And Relationships
No replies yet... 15 May 2012: The Meaning of your Relationships Starts With The Meaning Of Your Life By Frank Kermit, Relationships Contemplate your death. No seriously. In order to make meanings of your relationships past, present and those you will have in the futur...
The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women
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10 May 2012: The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women By Frank Kermit, Relationships A woman can only play one of two roles in a man’s life. She is either his mother or his lover. She cannot be both. When a man addresses a wom...
Moving To The Next Level: Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships
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1 May 2012: Moving To The Next Level Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest mistakes people make in relationships is to promote someone up the hierarchy of commitment that has not really earned it. I...
Beware Your Friends when it comes to love
No replies yet... 15 April 2012: Beware Your Friends They May Not Want You To Be Loved By Frank Kermit, Relationships Mistakes Singles Make # 6… Seeking the approval of friends that influences your love life choices. Love may come and go, but a friendship can last a lifetim...
Are Relationships Worth The Risk?
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8 April 2012: Relationships = Risk But is it really worth it? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Given that there is so much risk in getting involved in relationships, or having sex for that matter, is it at all worth it to even bother? After all, a broken hear...
Tattoos and Relationships
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24 March 2012: Beware The L-I-N-K Of (L)ove and (INK) By Frank Kermit, Relationships While at a coffee shop a few weeks ago, I met a tattoo artist. He had his son’s name tattooed on his hand, and being the ever-inquisitive one, I asked him about his profession...
Open Relationships and Infidelity
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17 March 2012: Open Relationships Do Not Always Stave Off Infidelity By Frank Kermit, Relationships Some people believe that one of the surest ways to guarantee fidelity is to only do open relationships. The premise is that people only cheat in monogamous ...
What is a Relationship?
No replies yet... 10 March 2012: What is a Relationship? Is best defined by what it’s NOT By Frank Kermit, Relationships Over the years, I have been asked a number of times “What is a Relationship?” This is a harder question to answer than most people think. In my experience,...
Engaged! Now what?
No replies yet... 19 February 2012: Pre Marital Disclosure What you don’t know, you must know By Frank Kermit, Relationships Valentines day has come and gone. Some relationships have started. Some relationships have ended, and some relationships have proceeded to the next le...
Making Monogamy Work
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5 February 2012: Making Monogamy Work By Frank Kermit, Relationships Monogamy is easier than open relationships, because the rules are simpler...but the application of the rules of monogamy is not as easy. Monogamy works for monogamous people...however...
Single Parent Dating, Not Just a Single Issue
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3 February 2012: Single Parent Dating – More Than Just A Single Issue By Frank Kermit At least 40% of marriages end in divorce. Depending on the study you read, the percentage can be higher. Even though the break down of families continues, the drive that ma...
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If a female family member is home alone with her relative's husband, what are the chances she will have sex with him?
Q. what do think the chances are of a female family member on the wife's side having sex with the husband if she moves in with the husband and wife. especially if she is alone with him alot while is wife is at work....
A. 14 September 2007: Well, not everyone is going to cheat just because they have the chance to do it...however, unless you can help it, it is my opinion that it is best not to tempt fate. Most people in this situation do not plan for an affair, but it can and does ... (read in full...)
My friend got back w/ her abusive ex and said we can no longer talk! I'm tired of her getting hurt! What can I do now?
Q. I need some advice on dealing with a friend and her boyfriend. First some background info: I met her at a church we were attending when I was 14 and she was 7 in 1994, I'm now 27 and she's 20. When we met we hit it off instantly and we were like ...
A. 14 September 2007: You can not help someone that does not want to be helped. Stay out of it. Give her a hotline or support group information, and then it is up to her.
You are in love with her, but she only sees you as a friend.
She is with him because he fulfi... (read in full...)
My sister and I are in love. Should we continue our relationship?
Q. I've always thought of my self as an ideal big brother. My household has always been unstable home. Having a natural protective nature to those close to me since birth, In my infancy I had made it my silent duty to defend my little sister from ...
A. 14 September 2007: To Lovehasnobounds,
Have you READ THE POST?
Firstly you acknowledge that other siblings that have married have gone to prison...are you telling this boy that he should commit an illegal act?
Secondly, why not first encourage him to learn a... (read in full...)
My best friend died, I will do a speech tomorrow at the funeral, please advise me.
Q. okay this isnt a love problem but the thing is my best friend luke died on the 4th of september and his funeral is tomorrow, ive been asked to do a speech and i need help what do i write about and if there is some poems what people know could you ...
A. 13 September 2007: I gave the eulogoy at my father's funeral. Here are the guidelines I followed:
1-Start with: If you could sum up everything he was in one phrase what would that phrase be? Then briefly explain it.
2-What were the three things that made him mos... (read in full...)
My best friend died, I will do a speech tomorrow at the funeral, please advise me.
Q. okay this isnt a love problem but the thing is my best friend luke died on the 4th of september and his funeral is tomorrow, ive been asked to do a speech and i need help what do i write about and if there is some poems what people know could you ...
A. 13 September 2007: I gave the eulogoy at my father's funeral. Here are the guidelines I followed:
1-Start with: If you could sum up everything he was in one phrase what would that phrase be? Then briefly explain it.
2-What were the three things that made him mos... (read in full...)
How can I balance between disciplining my bf's daughter and being liked by her at the same time?
Q. My boyfriend has a daughter (age 7) from his previous marriage. She lives with her mom and I get to see her every other weekends. His daughter likes me a lot, but sometimes I don’t know how to say no to her. She likes to play rough with my boyfriend ...
A. 13 September 2007: Ok, this extra info helps.
After 2 years and no moving in, it sounds like you ARE going to be a step mom...unless you and your bf have discussed otherwise.
You said: If I was the parent, I will definitely not let my kid do that
Well, if... (read in full...)
A week before our wedding he got cold feet and pulled out. How do I get him to marry me if he isn't ready???
Q. dear cupid and 2 everyone reading this letter of mine, i need help. i need advice" i was with my fiancee for 3year now.he promis of marrying me,last august we plan to get married" evrything is set. 1 week before the cevil wedding he back it out,he ...
A. 12 September 2007: You asked: How do I get him to marry me if he isn't ready???
I think the better question is: Why the hell would you want to marry a man that is not ready to marry You????
Let me put this into another perspective for you:
If a young man a... (read in full...)
I'm married to the man I wanted to make him jealous with, but I'm still in love with him, which my husband knows. Do I reestablish contact?
Q. While in school i met a guy and fancied him, he was shy and took him a year to kiss me. This was wrecking my head so i tried to make him jealous and be more manly so to speak. So this other guy fancied me and i went out with him, i got pregnant and ...
A. 12 September 2007: Why don't you ask your husband what you think he should do? It affects him and his children (assuming they are all his; you give enough reason to suspect otherwise) more than it could affect anyone of us on this site. See what he has to say. He ... (read in full...)
I've seen bruises, suspect she's mistreated by her ex who came back. I want to help her, how do I get her to see the light?
Q. I have a best friend have known her(she is female) (i am Male) for 15 years,totaly platonic ,she has alot of guy friends. I am in the middle of this argument with her. She is like a little sister to me,but i have to step in,she was dating a guy...
A. 12 September 2007: You can not help someone that does not want to be helped. Stay out of it. Give her a hotline or support group information, and then it is up to her.
You asked: I am at the end of my rope in trying to figure it out,
It is not your place to fi... (read in full...)
Separated from my wife of 25 years because of her affair with my employee. I'm in a new relation and the wife's apologised!
Q. hi i have seperated from my wife of 25 years last year we have 3 children 21 17 and 8 she was having an affair with my employee, they have moved away, and now she wants to come back and live with me , i have formed a new relations...
A. 12 September 2007: Slow down dude. I think you should see this an opportunity.
For all you know, your wife only wants you back becuase he dumped her and she has no where else to go. There is no guarentee that she would not run off again.
I think that you s... (read in full...)
By him losing his temper, I think he's guilty of chatting with her. When men get defensive, is that a sign of guilt?
Q. When men get defensive, is that a sign of guilt? My b/f's ex girlfriend tried to I.M him the other night for the first time, in like 6-8 months. She has never completely disappeared from his life, but continues to re-surface from time to tim...
A. 12 September 2007: Nope. Men can get defensive just by being accused or nagged. Men and women experience anger and rage differently. A man is not more honest with angery...in my experience that applies more to women as they are usually the ones that have more ... (read in full...)
I'm a lesbian and still miss my ex girlfriend! I'm with someone new but there is something missing. How can I forget the ex???
Q. hi im feeling really confused,i was with my lesbian partner for 19 months on and off,we had a really rocky relationship,but we loved each other totally but just could not work through our problems,i was in a real mess i was totally depressed and ...
A. 12 September 2007: Find redemption. Make peace by forgiving yourself. Went through the same thing with my ex. Basically, you have built up a future life in your head with that woman, and you need to say goodbye to that future, and build a new one for yourself.
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Do I stay with my dependable guy or go back with my ex?
Q. Should I go back to my ex? I broke up with my ex 6 months ago and miss him like crazy. I recently started dating my best friend of a year whom admitted he has loved me for a little under a year. My ex made and still makes me feel beautiful and we...
A. 12 September 2007: I think you should tell your dependable guy the truth about how you are feeling, so that he knows you are using him for security. Give him the option of leaving you. Wouldn't YOU want that if YOU were in that situation?
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
My one night stand gave me an std! He wants a relationship now. I really like him though so should I tell him about it?
Q. hi ,im 22, i first met a guy 23 yrs old at the night i wnet out with my friend we locked eyes exchanged numbers.. then after few attempts of going out for a drink one day.. we finnaly made it.. he told me he had a baby by another lady .. and i ...
A. 12 September 2007: TELL HIM ABOUT THE INFECTION. Why would you even need to question this, Unless you are not sure he gave it to you, and you are worried you gave it to him.
As for a relationship...no, not yet. Figure out what you would want in a partner and see ... (read in full...)
How can I balance between disciplining my bf's daughter and being liked by her at the same time?
Q. My boyfriend has a daughter (age 7) from his previous marriage. She lives with her mom and I get to see her every other weekends. His daughter likes me a lot, but sometimes I don’t know how to say no to her. She likes to play rough with my boyfriend ...
A. 12 September 2007: You do not mention the nature of the relationship with your bf, and what role if any you are to play in her life. Are you her dad's gf, or are you her Step-mom? It makes a difference.
If you are going to be her parent, it is not about being li... (read in full...)
Do you think the topic of when to get married should be discussed while we date?
Q. Do you think the topic of when to get married should be discuss while we date? We have been dating for 2 years already. I dislike forcing him to propose to me when he’s not ready. We are thinking about moving in together in the next 6 months. My ...
A. 12 September 2007: The business is his excuse to keep putting it off. The fact that you have been together for 2 years and still not talked about it is a RED FLAG.
I would suggest that instead of asking him WHEN, maybe the both of you need to ask WHAT.
What ar... (read in full...)
Everyone around me seems to be getting engaged but my guy doesn't seem to want to! Any guys advice would be a bonus!
Q. I'm 30. My partner and I have been together for nearly 4 years and while I love him dearly, I'm getting really frustrated that everyone around me seems to be getting engaged, married and/or having kids whereas I'm still 'single' (we don't even ...
A. 6 September 2007: Do you want to marry him just becuase "everyone else is getting married", or do you want to marry "him"? Once you answer that, you will know what to do next.
If you are just jealous of others, then that is a sign you need to find someone else. H... (read in full...)
My children don't approve of me dating younger women!
Q. I am a sedate older guy and I like to date young girls (not under 18 young). My children (also over 18) always harrass me and my girlfriend saving I am perverted. My girlfriend and I get along well. We go out and on road trips every few months. I ...
A. 6 September 2007: You say: They saw it disrespects their mom (deceased).
If this is the reason, and I think it is, then no woman that makes you happy will ever be good enough for them. I suggest that you put your will in place to make sure that none of your gir... (read in full...)
Will he ever marry me?
Q. Dear Cupid: My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. We have talked about marriage and he has said that since he has been married before that he will not get married again or he will, it will just be in 10 to 15 years. He was ma...
A. 6 September 2007: I doubt he will marry you. If marriage is important to you, then find someone else. If marriage is NOT important to you, then stick with him.
Aside from marriage, do you plan to have kids...with him? If he does not know if he wants kids wit... (read in full...)
Does my married boyfriend still love me?
Q. My married boyfriend is scared to death of his wife. I bought him a cell phone and now I havent heard from him in three weeks but he is listening to all my messages is there any hope he loves me still?? His wife and him have not been happy for six ...
A. 6 September 2007: If your married boyfriend is still married, then he does not love you enough to have divorced his wife, regardless if he says otherwise.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
What is the best way to tell a guy you messed up in a relationship??
Q. what is the best way to tell a guy you messed up in a relationship?? ...
A. 6 September 2007: Tell him honestly and directly if you must. Esp, if he has the means of finding out. Better he hears it from you.
The sooner the better.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
During a break my guy got with a barmaid. Hes back with me but he's still drinking in the pub she works in. I want him to stop drinking there!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years we broke up in March for 6 weeks and during that time he started seeing the barmaid of the local bar he drinks in. We got back together and she kept on phoning him even though he was back with me. ...
A. 6 September 2007: If it were me, I would NOT be going back to that bar. I think you are right to request that he does not.
If he does not get it, leave him. It reflects just as bad on you for staying with (and getting back together with) a guy like that.
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I'm 16 and my ex wont stop telling me how great her boyfriend is. Shes a good friend but I'm getting sick of it!
Q. hi am 16 and my ex wont leave me alone, she call me 24/7 and she always talking about how great her new BF and gettinng sick of her crap, and i really do not know what to do. she a really nice friend but sometime it feels like she never liked me or ...
A. 6 September 2007: You don't know what to do? Why are you taking her calls to begin with when you should be out trying to meet as many new girlfriends as possible?
When she talks about him, tell her to stop, and YOU change the topic of conversation. If she can ... (read in full...)
Is it unhealthy to never date anyone but one person in your life?
Q. I have a question... Is it unhealthy to never date anyone but one person in your life? Let me explain.. I've been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half and we love each other very much. I never dated, kissed, or made love with anyone else ...
A. 6 September 2007: People will tell you what they want to hear, and could just be trying to hurt your relationship becuase they are JEALOUS of you being so happy.
It is not unhealthy...it is just different.
Are you unhappy? If so, date other people.
ARe y... (read in full...)
What do you do when the person that you love just isn't capable of giving you love back?
Q. What do you do when the person that you love just isn't capable of giving you love back. She tells me she loves me, but is seemingly incapable of the thoughtful intimacy that lets someone know you love them. She has her issues as I have mine. But ...
A. 6 September 2007: Love should come naturally, irrespective of ones past.............right?
Wrong. That is idealized thinking, but does not always work in the real world.
You have to decide how important this aspect is to you.
If it is so important tha... (read in full...)
She said her daddy would rather spend time with me instead of her. I feel bad about being the bad person getting in between their relationship. How can I rectify this?
Q. My boyfriend has a daughter from his previous marriage. I’ve been a very good girlfriend to be friendly with his daughter. I was told she likes me a lot and thinks I’m a cool person. The closer I am with her, the more things I learn about how she’s ...
A. 6 September 2007: She said: She said her daddy rather spends time with me instead of her.
Is this actually true, or is it the interpretations of a child about what she assumes an adult is thinking?
Are you feeling guilty, or were you already looking for an e... (read in full...)
Why do some men show extra affection to their girlfriend in front of other women?
Q. Why do some men show extra affection to their girlfriend in front of other women? This happens to me sometimes in public places, like the grocery store. It is like these men are showing off. As if I am going to be jealous, or impressed. I could ...
A. 6 September 2007: Maybe it has little to do with showing off to you, and more to do with making his woman feel special by him showering her with attention so that she does not feel threated by other women.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
Can a guy and a girl be platonic "friends" and nothing more?
Q. I need opinions here! Do you think it is possible for a guy and a girl to just be friends or is there always/almost always romantic feelings at some time for the other person?...
A. 6 September 2007: Short term, I think it is possible, but long term I don't think so. I think that adults who are in serious relationships, and if they are looking to be monogamous will not be so open to the idea of their spouces hanging out with "friends" of the ... (read in full...)
Had sex with my twin sister's husband. Not sure if I should tell my sister or wait to see if I'm preganant...
Q. Hi my name is Stacy. I need some advice. I have had sex with my twin sister's husband. I do not know if I should tell her or not. I know it is wrong for me to have done that. The first time it was only anal sex just because I was curious and my ...
A. 4 September 2007: It sounds like he wants to get you pregnant on purpose....basically I think he WANTS to divorce your sister, but feels he needs a major reason, and wants to put the blame on you.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
The guy I'm dating, Is dating another guy too. The other guy treats him bad. What should I be doing?
Q. I've been dating this guy for almost 2 months now we haven't really gotten serious. He is dating another guy which I am fine with since we aren't serious. However this guy does really hurtful things and I hear about it all the time. Everytime this ...
A. 1 September 2007: If you were serious with him, in an open relationship, then YES, you get involved.
As it stands, you are not serious with him, so you do not get a say in who he spends his time with.
That being said, if you are not that serious, then st... (read in full...)
A married woman is flirting with me at work, what can I do to avoid this situation?
Q. Hi, apologies for the length of this... but I really need your help. I'm 23 years old, single, and have been working for a large company for 2 years now, and recently a married woman (she's 34) has been flirting with me. I've told her no, st...
A. 1 September 2007: Hi Rick,
Firstly, you need to get proof. Carry a pocket recorder with you. If you do accuse her of sexual harassment (that is what this is), you will need proof, as she will accuse you of the same thing, and men are not beleived against women wi... (read in full...)
Myself and my husband to be have been trying for a baby for almost a year without any luck. My cycle has become erratic, has anyone got any suggestions please help!!!
Q. Myself and my husband to be have been trying for a baby for almost a year without any luck. My cycle has become erratic, has anyone got any suggestions please help!!!...
A. 1 September 2007: Stress can ruin your chances at conception. I would suggest start to have sex for the fun of it, when you feel like it, and not use protection. The lack of stress might help your cycle become more regular and your body will turn itself on more ... (read in full...)
I love to perform oral sex on my girlfriend on a daily basis, as many times as possible, but it is even better when she is on her period and I insist that she sits on my face...
Q. hello my name is vince and I am curious to know whether anybody else out there believes in vampires, I believe I am of this origin. I love to perform oral sex on my girlfriend on a daily basis, as many times as possible, but it is even better when ...
A. 1 September 2007: In every city you might find a BDSM/sexual fetish culture. Start online, and go to some fetish events. You will find like minded people there.
There are only two things in this that I want to address:
1-Health
2-Consent
For #2, ... (read in full...)
My fiance cheated and she's pregnant. He told her in front of me that he doesn't love her but will I ever trust him again?
Q. I found out a few months ago that my Fiance had been cheating on me for 2years and the girl is now pregnant. He told her infront of me that he doesnt love her and has always loved me but couldnt seem to get rid of her. Will i ever be able to trust ...
A. 1 September 2007: You asked: Does nobody think I could ever get over this?
Not if you let this turkey back into your life.
You asked: every other thing about him is so perfect and I never thought he'd do something this bad
Perfect? HE LEFT YOU WHE... (read in full...)
My fiance cheated and she's pregnant. He told her in front of me that he doesn't love her but will I ever trust him again?
Q. I found out a few months ago that my Fiance had been cheating on me for 2years and the girl is now pregnant. He told her infront of me that he doesnt love her and has always loved me but couldnt seem to get rid of her. Will i ever be able to trust ...
A. 1 September 2007: You asked: Does nobody think I could ever get over this?
Not if you let this turkey back into your life.
You asked: every other thing about him is so perfect and I never thought he'd do something this bad
Perfect? HE LEFT YOU WHE... (read in full...)
My sister and I are in love. Should we continue our relationship?
Q. I've always thought of my self as an ideal big brother. My household has always been unstable home. Having a natural protective nature to those close to me since birth, In my infancy I had made it my silent duty to defend my little sister from ...
A. 31 August 2007: In my work, I have gotten exactly this type of situation before where siblings become lovers, or fall in love.
I want you to know that growing up in such an abusive home, you were forced to grow up fast. You had the emotional understa... (read in full...)
He left me and our 3 children twice, for someone else, but now says he wants us back. AGAIN. What should I do?
Q. Hi I had three children with my partner of 9 years. He left me during my second pregnancy but I gave him a second chance and we got back together. He then left me when I was 7 months pregnant with our 3rd child after having an affair with a (r...
A. 31 August 2007: Do not take him back. He is looking for a temporary stay until his next adventure.
If he left only once before, I would have said give him a chance...maybe.
He left you TWICE?
Fool you once, shame on him.
Fool you twice, shame on you.... (read in full...)
How can I convince my sister in law to have sex with me?
Q. Q. I am married for the last thirteen years but I am in love with my younger sister-in-law for the last eleven years. I always fantisize about her during sex with my wife. I have an obssessive compulsive disorder about her. I told her that I wanted ...
A. 31 August 2007: It is not about how you FEEL about her. That you can not control. You can not control WHO you love, or lust....
That being said...
You CAN, and are totally Responsible for controling your ACTIONS.
Just because you may lust/love her, d... (read in full...)
I'm not keen on giving oral. But I want to please him. I feel a bit guilty?
Q. ok well me (20) and my new boyfriend (26) have started having sex and hes given me oral but i havent given him yet because it makes me feel sick doing it so ive only done it twice before. i want to please him but im worried as i will be rubbish as ...
A. 31 August 2007: Hi Duce00 et al,
Perhaps some info...In any couple and with any gender, when one partner is not getting the sexual attention they crave over a long period, it is more than likely that, assuming the sexual attention is important enough to the pers... (read in full...)
How can I convince my sister in law to have sex with me?
Q. Q. I am married for the last thirteen years but I am in love with my younger sister-in-law for the last eleven years. I always fantisize about her during sex with my wife. I have an obssessive compulsive disorder about her. I told her that I wanted ...
A. 31 August 2007: Do you really think what you are comtemplating is OK because you have OCD????? You are a man. It is your responsibility to get the treatment you need.
I think you should do your wife a favor, and divorce her. SHe deserves better than this.
... (read in full...)
I'm not keen on giving oral. But I want to please him. I feel a bit guilty?
Q. ok well me (20) and my new boyfriend (26) have started having sex and hes given me oral but i havent given him yet because it makes me feel sick doing it so ive only done it twice before. i want to please him but im worried as i will be rubbish as ...
A. 31 August 2007: There is two things here:
1-Doing it makes you feel sick
2-You are worried that you are not good.
If it is #2, then consider that the only way to get good at something is to practice. I doubt he is expecting super skills out of you, and if he i... (read in full...)
My fiance cheated and she's pregnant. He told her in front of me that he doesn't love her but will I ever trust him again?
Q. I found out a few months ago that my Fiance had been cheating on me for 2years and the girl is now pregnant. He told her infront of me that he doesnt love her and has always loved me but couldnt seem to get rid of her. Will i ever be able to trust ...
A. 31 August 2007: You are young enough to find someone that will not secret saddle you with step children sired out of infidelity.
Find someone else.
This isn't forgetting to put the toilet seat down, or opening his mouth about a secret when he should not have.... (read in full...)
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