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| Latest articles: Off Limits Dating
No replies yet... 18 September 2013: Is Someone Off Limits for Dating? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Mastering the art of dating requires a number of skills such as being socially calibrated, effective communication and knowing what you want. One of the areas that comes up for ...
How to Deal with a Toxic Person
No replies yet... 18 September 2013: The Best Way To Deal With Toxic People By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Toxic people are defined in this article as people who lack the capacity to reason, or people have the capacity to reason but just do not want to reason with you. In t...
A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce
No replies yet... 31 August 2013: A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships One of the ironies of couples counseling that I often find myself doing is taking the couple through the pre-marital coaching process when they may already be...
A Frank Comment on Miley Cyrus
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31 August 2013: A Frank Comment On Miley Cyrus By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I do not normally comment on the antics of popular culture, as so much of what we see of movies and TV are fiction based romances and relationships. I tried my best to stay fo...
The Wedding Speech
No replies yet... 26 July 2013: The Wedding Speech Remember this day, your wedding day. Not for the dresses and suits, not for the extravagance, nor the dinner and dancing, but remember your wedding day because of the reasons you chose to marry your spouse. Remember who is it that...
Sexually Incompatible Couples
No replies yet... 19 July 2013: Sexually Incompatible Couples Sex is not the most important thing in a relationship. However, couples who love each other dearly and connect on so many levels, but whom are sexually incompatible tend to find that sex can be at the core of a numb...
Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2
No replies yet... 28 June 2013: Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2 Separation does not automatically lead to divorce unless you let it. It is up to you and your partner to put in the work so that it does not happen. In the event you are the only one trying to work on yourself and ...
Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2
No replies yet... 22 June 2013: Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2 One of the most damaging actions an individual can take is to start dating someone new when going through a separation with their serious long term partner (spouse, common-law partner or a defacto-union). When I use ...
The Frank Break Up Formula
No replies yet... 14 June 2013: The Frank Break Up Formula By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Breaking up with someone is rarely an enjoyable or pleasant experience. In fact, there are those individuals who stay in less than satisfying relationships, and even can go all the ...
The Frank Romance Formula part 3 of 3
No replies yet... 8 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 3 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 of 3
No replies yet... 3 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future
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3 May 2013: The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships The future is where actual seduction takes place. That is the key to seduction. It has very little to do with turning someone on when you see them. I...
The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons
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27 April 2013: The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Sometimes life will slap you down when it has a lesson to teach you. For some people, the slap may be a light swat, and for others the slap has to be a severe smack down. ...
Dating With Disabilities
No replies yet... 5 April 2013: Dating With Disabilities by Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I once went on a date with a woman that had severe food allergies. We went out to a movie and I wished she had told me ahead of time. Although she mentioned that she was deathly all...
Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen
No replies yet... 21 March 2013: Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Rejection is the worst best thing that can ever happen to you. Managing rejection is a necessary part in managing your love life. Over the course of your ...
Things they do not tell you about having kids
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15 March 2013: Things They Do Not Tell You About Having Kids By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I always try to be very practical and realistic in my articles. This can come across very negative, given that my topic is Relationships (and all things relative...
When Friendship Is Meaningless
No replies yet... 8 March 2013: Friendship Is Meaningless Stop Hanging Out With Friends Who Sexually Reject You By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Friendship is meaningless. There I said it. Now before you shoot one of your nasty emails to the editor, actually read this colum...
Who Cares What People Think? Depends...
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1 March 2013: How Much Should You Care About What Other People Think? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships T here will be times when we want to do something in our lives that is meaningful to us. It could be a decision related to abandoning education, wh...
Learn How to Choose the Right Fights!
No replies yet... 21 February 2013: Pick And Choose Your Fights By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Fighting in relationships is normal. The issue is not whether you fight. The issue is HOW a couple fights. Do they talk out their disagreements? Do they wait until they are alon...
Starting Over After V-day?
No replies yet... 14 February 2013: Starting Over? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Valentine’s day can be a day of reckoning for some people. Meaning, the events leading up to, on the day of, and afterwards can really wreck your life. This is one of the reasons I often refer to...
A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best
No replies yet... 6 February 2013: A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best By Frank Kermit, Relationships At my weekly relationship workshop last Saturday I issued one of my famous “Frankisms” that seemed to really resonate with the attendees. I was trying...
Asking Hard Questions
No replies yet... 1 February 2013: Asking Hard Questions By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships When trying to decide if you should be committed to someone, moving in with someone, getting engaged, and getting married, each new transition brings about the unpleasant task of askin...
Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix
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24 January 2013: Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix By Frank Kermit, Relationships If you ever had sex with someone that is about to get married, and have been invited to the wedding, do not go. This is especially true if the spouse-to-be feels uncomfortable havi...
Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy
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16 January 2013: Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Couples who are experiencing a transition in the status of their relationship may sometimes look to explore new ways of redefining their sex lives b...
Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships
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13 December 2012: Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships As the holiday season approaches, invitations begin to swarm in for get-togethers from family, friends and even office parties. It is a time of people coming together, and in some ca...
Couples in Transition
No replies yet... 29 November 2012: Couples in Transition By Frank Kermit, Relationships When a couple is going through a change in the status of their relationship they are a couple in transition. This includes couples that are transitioning from monogamy to non-monogamy, from no...
Your Home Is Your Seduction
No replies yet... 15 November 2012: Your Home Is Your Seduction By Frank Kermit, Relationships Your date is coming over to your place! You have seen each other a couple of times already, but this is different. This is YOUR PLACE, not some coffee shop or movie theatre or restaur...
The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey
No replies yet... 6 November 2012: The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey By Frank Kermit, Relationships The movie of your life is how we each envision our lives unfolding throughout our life span. This concept goes beyond simple fantasizing of what your life would be like. Writing ...
What Love Masks by Frank Kermit
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2 November 2012: What Love Masks By Frank Kermit, Relationships A mentor of mine taught me that love is not blind; it is just that categories are rigid. When you meet someone, you put that person in a category (lover, friend, temptation, fling, does-no...
The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work: An Article About EFT and Weight Loss
No replies yet... 2 November 2012: The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work An Article About EFT and Weight Loss I have a confession. I used to daydream about food. You know that point in the day when someone catches you; your head in your hands, that dreamy look on your face? If so...
Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type?
No replies yet... 1 November 2012: Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type? By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all have our “type”. By “type” I am referring to that type of person each of us is madly attracted too. Each of us has our preference of what we like, what turns us on, ...
Is there such a thing as Happily Single?
No replies yet... 19 October 2012: Is there such a thing as Happily Single? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Is being single really that bad? After all, when a person considers the amount of pain that a relationship or casual dating can cause, it may seem that just skipping the w...
Be Thankful For a Broken Heart
No replies yet... 11 October 2012: Be Thankful For A Broken Heart By Frank Kermit, Relationships Ok, I hate this. I really hate this part of the process. However, it is a necessary part of the process, and if I am expected to help encourage others to do it, first I have to demo...
Stop Talking About Your Ex On Dates!
No replies yet... 5 October 2012: Stop Talking So Much About Your Ex By Frank Kermit, Relationships So you are on a date with someone new. You are excited. You are nervous. You hope that this is finally going to be the one. You meet. So far, you both like what you see. This...
Dating in Social Circles
No replies yet... 29 September 2012: Dating In Social Circles By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dating can be tricky. Does the other person like you the way you think he or she might? Do you really like that person enough to get more serious, or do you want to keep it more casual a...
Frank Guide to Speed Dating
No replies yet... 21 September 2012: Frank Guide To Speed Dating By Frank Kermit, Relationships Every way to meet someone new is a good way. Though friends, through the Internet, blind dates, approaching someone you want to meet, at a workshop, matchmaking companies, business conv...
Relationship Goal Setting
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15 September 2012: Relationship Goal Setting By Frank Kermit, Relationships Setting goals in most areas of your life can be challenging. When it comes to relationships, there are even more challenges. Whereas in other areas of your life such as education, emplo...
Battling The Savior Complex in Relationships
No replies yet... 6 September 2012: Battling The Savior Complex By Frank Kermit, Relationships As children, many of us grew up on stories about the hero that saves a person, and in the process, earned the undying love and loyalty of the person saved so that the hero and that saved ...
Get Out Of Your Own Way!
No replies yet... 30 August 2012: Get Out Of Your Own Way By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest obstacles that a person can have as an obstruction on their path of finding happiness, peace and healing for their love life, is themselves. Although most people wou...
Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow
No replies yet... 26 August 2012: Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow By Frank Kermit, Relationships Young adults tend to discount how the choices they make today will impact their futures tomorrow. At least, when it comes to relationships. The bes...
Are You A Partner Or A Liability?
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17 August 2012: Are You A Partner Or A Liability? When it really is you and not them By Frank Kermit, Relationships “It’s not you, it’s me.” Have you ever heard that said to you when someone broke up with you? Have you ever been the one to use it when dump...
The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships
No replies yet... 9 August 2012: The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships There are 7 certain words that catch many people off guard when it comes to relationships. They are: Lust, Love, Sex, Dating, Commitment, Marriage, and Monogamy. ...
Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss.
No replies yet... 20 July 2012: Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss By Frank Kermit, Relationships Are you too nice when it comes to relationships? Do you walk on eggshells because you do not want to upset your partner? Are you reluctant to enforce your bounda...
Re-Establishing Trust in a Relationship Article
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12 July 2012: Broken Trust Takes More Than Time To Re-Establish By Frank Kermit, Relationships Trust is one of the most important components of a relationship. Love is a great start, but it takes more than loving someone, or being loved by someone, to make ...
Understanding Emotional Needs
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4 July 2012: Understanding Emotional Needs: What We Respond To Versus What We Should Like By Frank Kermit, Relationships Emotional needs are about what a person responds to. It has nothing to do with what a person should like. We all should be attracte...
Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date
No replies yet... 29 June 2012: Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date By Frank Kermit, Relationships When you are on a date, and the person you are getting to know says or does something that triggers a well-honed instinct that you need to stop dating that person, you hav...
The Art of Storytelling on a Date
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Art of Storytelling: Make or Break A Relationship Happy Ending By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the challenges that people face when they go on dates is that they may not factor in that others will not understand what they are trying ...
Swinger Beginner Advice
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Swinger Beginners: Keep it Out of the Work Place By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dear Frank, My husband and I recently returned from a business trip/vacation where a few of my husband's co-workers also brought their wives. We really hit it o...
When your Ex becomes a symbol and you can't get over it
No replies yet... 13 June 2012: When Your Ex Becomes A Symbol Relationship Symbolism of Why You Are Still Hooked By Frank Kermit, Relationships We are surrounded by the power of symbols. A symbol is more than just a design we recognize; symbols are a means of making meaning. ...
Ally Vs Enemy: Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men
No replies yet... 9 June 2012: Is She His Ally or His Enemy? Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men By Frank Kermit, Relationships The best way I know how to teach people about the emotional needs of men is to break it down to absolute fundamentals. If people can und...
Dating After A Break Up - Just How Long Should You Wait?
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1 June 2012: Dating After Breaking Up? The Sooner The Better By Frank Kermit, Relationships “How much time should I wait before I start dating again?” is a common question that I get asked from someone that has just recently gotten dumped, and still sufferi...
Relationship Redemption: How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure
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23 May 2012: Relationship Redemption How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all make mistakes in life. If you have ever tried to get into a relationship, are in a relationship, or are recovering from a relationship, ...
Finding The Meaning Of Your Life And Relationships
No replies yet... 15 May 2012: The Meaning of your Relationships Starts With The Meaning Of Your Life By Frank Kermit, Relationships Contemplate your death. No seriously. In order to make meanings of your relationships past, present and those you will have in the futur...
The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women
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10 May 2012: The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women By Frank Kermit, Relationships A woman can only play one of two roles in a man’s life. She is either his mother or his lover. She cannot be both. When a man addresses a wom...
Moving To The Next Level: Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships
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1 May 2012: Moving To The Next Level Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest mistakes people make in relationships is to promote someone up the hierarchy of commitment that has not really earned it. I...
Beware Your Friends when it comes to love
No replies yet... 15 April 2012: Beware Your Friends They May Not Want You To Be Loved By Frank Kermit, Relationships Mistakes Singles Make # 6… Seeking the approval of friends that influences your love life choices. Love may come and go, but a friendship can last a lifetim...
Are Relationships Worth The Risk?
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8 April 2012: Relationships = Risk But is it really worth it? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Given that there is so much risk in getting involved in relationships, or having sex for that matter, is it at all worth it to even bother? After all, a broken hear...
Tattoos and Relationships
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24 March 2012: Beware The L-I-N-K Of (L)ove and (INK) By Frank Kermit, Relationships While at a coffee shop a few weeks ago, I met a tattoo artist. He had his son’s name tattooed on his hand, and being the ever-inquisitive one, I asked him about his profession...
Open Relationships and Infidelity
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17 March 2012: Open Relationships Do Not Always Stave Off Infidelity By Frank Kermit, Relationships Some people believe that one of the surest ways to guarantee fidelity is to only do open relationships. The premise is that people only cheat in monogamous ...
What is a Relationship?
No replies yet... 10 March 2012: What is a Relationship? Is best defined by what it’s NOT By Frank Kermit, Relationships Over the years, I have been asked a number of times “What is a Relationship?” This is a harder question to answer than most people think. In my experience,...
Engaged! Now what?
No replies yet... 19 February 2012: Pre Marital Disclosure What you don’t know, you must know By Frank Kermit, Relationships Valentines day has come and gone. Some relationships have started. Some relationships have ended, and some relationships have proceeded to the next le...
Making Monogamy Work
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5 February 2012: Making Monogamy Work By Frank Kermit, Relationships Monogamy is easier than open relationships, because the rules are simpler...but the application of the rules of monogamy is not as easy. Monogamy works for monogamous people...however...
Single Parent Dating, Not Just a Single Issue
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3 February 2012: Single Parent Dating – More Than Just A Single Issue By Frank Kermit At least 40% of marriages end in divorce. Depending on the study you read, the percentage can be higher. Even though the break down of families continues, the drive that ma...
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He sometimes lets his female friends stay over. This bothers me. Should it?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly two years now, he has many female friends and is a real sosial butterfly. He has his female friends over to stay occasionaly or goes over to stay over at there house's am I odd if this bothers me? He's ...
A. 21 December 2007: So all that time he is spending nights at girls homes, and they are spending the nights with him...and nothing is going on.
Is your boyfriend secretly gay and using you as a cover?
I think you are odd for believing his story. If he is a man,... (read in full...)
16, My parents aren't speaking to eachother because of me. Can I get a place of my own?
Q. dear cupid im currently having problems with my parents as they are not speaking to each other because of me. this started today when they made me go college and i didnt want to, so i ended up shouting and screaming at them and saying stuff i d...
A. 21 December 2007: There is something you can do.
Go to college and find a program in there you like.
You are 16. The only way you were able to deal with this issue was to lose your temper and then desrie to get violent with them. You need to shut up, grow up... (read in full...)
Help! My marriage is a mess and I'm making it worse!
Q. Augh... I dont even know where to begin. I am married for 5 years. We have two children. My husband has serious anger issues. He yells and says really disrespectful things and he even hit me once. I told him that if he didnt change I would leave ...
A. 21 December 2007: Men and women were not meant to be friends, as there will always be sexual tension.
You have to make a choice.
If you want to save your marriage, end the friendship.
If you want to save the friendship, end the marriage.
Which one d... (read in full...)
I am one of the targets of the undeserved negative publicity to my religion (I'm a mormon.) How can I dispel some of the rumours and separate fact from fiction?
Q. Ok.. This is kind of a touchy question, and I'm not even sure if I should be asking this or not. I'm LDS (a mormon) and there's a lot of publicity and rumors flying around the media and everywhere else about my religion, especially now with Mit...
A. 21 December 2007: Here is what I suggest...
Write out a Q&A booklet, and once that is completed, hold a little seminar inviting people to attend. The point is NOT to recruit, the point is to inform.
In fact, if you make it about 100 Q&A, you can even self pu... (read in full...)
I think she's overweight. I'm falling in love with her but I'm not attracted to her.
Q. I have met a wonderful person via the use of Eharmony.com and we are now seeing each other in real life and having a spectacular time. I find everything about her to be just what I never knew I needed in a person, but am now so thankful for having. ...
A. 11 December 2007: Congrats man!
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
Could we be prosecuted?
Q. I have been involved in a loving sexual relationship with my sister's eldest son for close on ten years now. We became intimately involved when he was seventeen years old, and I thirty-one. We have a beautiful nine-year old daughter together. Our re...
A. 1 December 2007: You need to see a lawyer. I know that where I am, siblings my not marry, and the "closest" relative one can marry is a cousin. I do not know about nephews.
There are two things at issue here. The fact he is your nephew, may or may not be a leg... (read in full...)
My ex - I've hit a low point now after some great progress this week
Q. Hi All, I’m feeling really low today. I don’t know why but I feel like I’ve been crushed. I don’t understand how my ex-girlfriend can treat me the way she did, find someone else while we were going out, and then jump straight into another relation...
A. 30 November 2007: Actually, I can very much relate. When I first moved in with my then fiance now wife, she entered a depression too.
An accident made her unable to work in her chosen profession, and all of her freinds and family abandoned her for being with me.... (read in full...)
How do I tell my mum about this girl I so want to meet?
Q. I have a few issues that needed sorting. I'm getting there thanks to everyone on here. Anyway I'm 22 and to be honest I'm a secretive person. I don't tell my family I talk to people on the net because I believe it would be frowned upon. I'm close ...
A. 28 November 2007: If you are 22, then you do not have to tell her ANYTHING.
IF this is a problem, then the solution is to fix THIS, so that things that should not be a problem will not be a problem.
Are you still living with your mom? HAve you looked into bein... (read in full...)
We've been together 6 years and he still won't commit to me!
Q. Why has my boyfriend of 6 years never committed to me and just enjoys visiting twice/three times a week? He's not soft, he has his own flat and life. I am really fed up with the set up even though I think I love him and want some happiness ...
A. 28 November 2007: He does not want to marry you. If he did, he would have made his move by now. If you want more commitment, FIND SOMEONE ELSE.
He is getting from you exactly what he wants. To only see you 2-3 times a week and not live or commit to you.
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Men!!! Why are they so confusing?
Q. Men! why are they confusing, ok.. I am happy happy happy wid my boyf..4 years..we have ups and downs..but all good..! we both share the same best mate..he use to be my boyfs best pal..but now hes mine too! we have a laugh..and when i first met...
A. 28 November 2007: Do you have this much fun with your bf?
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
?She needs space what do I do?
Q. Hi there, my girlfriend for 5 months now needs space but she says she loves me. It's been about a week now and she texts me I do miss you. Why is that she told me that she needed to be single for a while and be on here own and she can't be my ...
A. 28 November 2007: You give her space, and make it a point to date other women. She is unsure about her feelings for you, and there is nothing like her seeing that other women desire you as well to make her realize the mistake she is making.
Look, anytime someone ... (read in full...)
My ex - I've hit a low point now after some great progress this week
Q. Hi All, I’m feeling really low today. I don’t know why but I feel like I’ve been crushed. I don’t understand how my ex-girlfriend can treat me the way she did, find someone else while we were going out, and then jump straight into another relation...
A. 27 November 2007: Lets have a crack at this:
I've learned she's already met someone else (after just a week). Does she just want SOMEONE/ANYONE there for her? Just wants to feel loved? Perhaps this is the real thing this time? Maybe a rebound? Maybe she met him ... (read in full...)
She feeds my insecurities by showing signs that she still feels for him, how can I get this off my chest when she wont speak about it?
Q. I've been in a serious relationship for just about 2 years. I adore her and I know she loves me. OK. i'll get just down to it. Her ex!! He was her first and i know she was crazy about him and I know she still thinks he's the 'perfect' guy. i ...
A. 24 November 2007: The real reason she can never feel for you what she felt for him is that you tolerate being insulted and disrepected in your primary relationship. No woman could ever love a man that does not FIRST respect himself. Only a desparate or needy man ... (read in full...)
I want to tell her I love her, if she rejects me should I show her how badly it affects me?
Q. hi. I need some help on how to tell a girl i love her. I've liked her for a year now. I thought i would stay friends but we're good friends but i love her too much. I've asked her a cinema few times but somethin always come up. Happened twice. Dunno ...
A. 24 November 2007: You do NOT tell her you love her. You already asked her out and she made excuses.
If you show her how hurt you are, she will lose even more attraction for you, not gain any. Trying to get her to go out with you becuase of pity makes her feel... (read in full...)
I want to tell her I love her, if she rejects me should I show her how badly it affects me?
Q. hi. I need some help on how to tell a girl i love her. I've liked her for a year now. I thought i would stay friends but we're good friends but i love her too much. I've asked her a cinema few times but somethin always come up. Happened twice. Dunno ...
A. 24 November 2007: You do NOT tell her you love her. You already asked her out and she made excuses.
If you show her how hurt you are, she will lose even more attraction for you, not gain any. Trying to get her to go out with you becuase of pity makes her feel... (read in full...)
I cheated on her and she won't take me back because she's been hurt this way before. I can't move on, what should I do?
Q. Hello, I have a question. I had an eight month relationship with a wonderful, beautiful young lady. I had never felt this way about any girl in my life, and I am sure that I was, and still am, in love with her. However, a little while ago, I cheated ...
A. 24 November 2007: Don't be freinds. You don't have to be enemies, but if being friends is going to hurt then do not do it.
Doing something drastic is usually a sign of the unconscious wanting to create a catalist to make something happen that consciously you were... (read in full...)
I'm inclined to trust him one less time...am I setting myself up for more heartache??
Q. Dear cupid, I'm confused, depressed and all sorts! My boyfriend is sexually manipulative and he mentally abuses me occasionally and iv looked on over 30 websites about people like him, male and female a like. We have sat and talked about it and he w...
A. 24 November 2007: You asked: Am I just putting myself up for more pain, heartache and confusion?
Yup.
For two reasons. The first is that just knowing what he is doing is not enough to stop what he is doing. It is part of who he is, and that is how he has su... (read in full...)
My fiance talks to his ex wife every day, why does he do that?
Q. Does anyone know why someone would talk to their ex every single day more than they talk to their Fiancee? I have been dating my Fiancee now for almost 2 years and he talks to his ex-wife every single day. Sometimes more than he talks to me. I wo...
A. 24 November 2007: Just to be clear:
I think he is taking advantage of your good nature and using you. That is what I meant by marrying you for the wrong reasons.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
I want my ex back. He's a drug dealer and I've even bought drugs from him just so I can see him! What should I do?
Q. I think Ive fallen for a boy who I was seeing back in the summer but we finished 2 months ago. I miss him so much and although we had a massive argument when we split up we have only just started talking again and Im really happy. The only thing is, ...
A. 24 November 2007: Yes, I am sure he was really a nice, generous guy...who would made you buy drugs just to see him. Very nice and generous indeed.
Don't be too upset for being thought of as a potential drug addict...however you need to take some responsi... (read in full...)
My fiance talks to his ex wife every day, why does he do that?
Q. Does anyone know why someone would talk to their ex every single day more than they talk to their Fiancee? I have been dating my Fiancee now for almost 2 years and he talks to his ex-wife every single day. Sometimes more than he talks to me. I wo...
A. 24 November 2007: No kids and still in contact?
Red Flag.
Friends or not, it is sign that he is not marrying you for the right reasons.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
His sexy talk makes me feel cheap
Q. my boyfreind talks dirty to me whenever i give him a blow job and its making me feel cheap. i dont mind it sometimes in bed, it can be hot, but he does it nonstop when im giving him oral sex. he says stuff like do you love my big co*k, and suck me ...
A. 24 November 2007: Firstly, he is not going to understand, as you are turned on by it sometimes, and not other times. Which means, if the context is changed, you are good with it. Thus it is your problem not his.
Next, if it is the issue of him talking ALL THE ... (read in full...)
Is love selfish? Opinions please!
Q. My question: Is love selfish? does someone only love because it makes them happy inside? would someone love a person who doesn't make them happy? look at these questions while you answer my question. - why do people stop loving a person? when the...
A. 24 November 2007: My question: Is love selfish?
Check out the dictionary def'n of Love and Selfish.
Also, I think there is a difference between selfish and self-centered. Selfish is when you do things for your own best self interest. Self-centered is... (read in full...)
While my boyfriend and I were temporarily split up, I slept with an ex. Does my boyfriend need to know?
Q. I recently started dating a man who I've liked for many years. But we split up for a short while beceuse of a misunderstanding and I thought we wouldn't get back together so I got drunk then slept with an ex boyfriend (bearing in mind I didn't cheat ...
A. 24 November 2007: You did not cheat. You are entitled to your privacy.
However, the chances are high that he will find out, and if you think he would not take it well, then yes, tell him (no details)if he asks. Do not lie about it. Otherwise, you can always t... (read in full...)
My ex - I've hit a low point now after some great progress this week
Q. Hi All, I’m feeling really low today. I don’t know why but I feel like I’ve been crushed. I don’t understand how my ex-girlfriend can treat me the way she did, find someone else while we were going out, and then jump straight into another relation...
A. 24 November 2007: Hey there,
I appreciate you writing back in such a professional manner.
you said:
I was 100% committed to her and supported her emotionaly, I was affectionate and romantic.
This may be part of the problem. Her behavior is such that she kn... (read in full...)
She suspects she's pregnant but missed an appointment to find out. Can I get a test for her elsewhere?
Q. Ok, well i slept with a friend a few weeks ago, and she told me she was late for her period. She told me she was going to go to the doctors today to have a pregnancy test but failed to get an appointment, only one being in another weeks time. Im not ...
A. 24 November 2007: Are you sure it's yours? You did have a casual relationship. Was she seeing anyone else that you know about? Before you committ to stepping up, find out the facts.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
How can I find time to work, study AND meet new men?
Q. I am working all day and try to study for government exams at night like 3 or 4 hours a day and to study a bit more at weekends, I go out with some friends my age but I have no crush on any of the guys nor them on me, my best 3 girl mates are ...
A. 24 November 2007: First, you will never FIND time, you need to MAKE time.
Second, hanging out with girls that already have partners is NOT the way to find a partner yourself.
Hang out with single girls that WANT to attract men.
Can you change your job to s... (read in full...)
I want to break up with my girlfriend as I'm not happy with her but I don't want to break her heart
Q. Hi. I am currently in an unhappy 2 and a half year relationship. I really want to break up with my girlfriend. Trouble is she really adores me and i am so terrified at breaking her heart. I know what to do but i just need some support and advice on ...
A. 24 November 2007: If you are not able to handle the risks invovled in relationships, then do not get into them. Breaking up is the risk you take.
You do not have to be cruel about it, but you DO need to be direct and honest about it. Her heart is ALREADY breaking... (read in full...)
Are guys put off by a woman having had emotional problems in the past?
Q. As a guy, when you are dating a woman would you be put off if she had 'emotional baggage' or some kind of traumatic past? Even if she's had therapy and gotten past it and moved on, would it freak you out if she asked you if the two of you can take ...
A. 24 November 2007: It depends...
for sex, most guys do not care, and they are not interested in a long term investment. They just want the sex.
for relationships, you would need to prove that you could address his emotional needs first. Once you do that, a guy w... (read in full...)
I want my ex back. He's a drug dealer and I've even bought drugs from him just so I can see him! What should I do?
Q. I think Ive fallen for a boy who I was seeing back in the summer but we finished 2 months ago. I miss him so much and although we had a massive argument when we split up we have only just started talking again and Im really happy. The only thing is, ...
A. 24 November 2007: Yeesh.
He is not your boyfriend, he is just your drug dealer.
You bought drugs from him, just to see him? That sounds like denial to me.
A drug dealer? Sounds like you are in lust, not love...or just an addict that is looking for an excuse... (read in full...)
I'm confused about what my boyfriend wants from me
Q. Basically my boyfriend wants more of a relationship from us, i thought we were gonna break up because i can't give him more at this point in time. Now he's telling me he still want's more but that we wont see eachother as much (So we can do our own ...
A. 24 November 2007: Firstly you are too young to be going out clubbing. It is not even legal for someone your age to be going to clubs.
Secondly, ask HIM what he wants. He sounds like he wants to give you your space, and wants some freedom too, but wants a committm... (read in full...)
Is it wrong of me to tell my ex to stop coming to see the kids, when he does nothing for them anyway?
Q. My ex and i have been broken up for almost a month, Three days ago he moved in with his new girlfriend, leaving me and his kids at his mothers house. Right now we have nowhere else to go and i am trying to find an apartment, but anyway he comes and ...
A. 24 November 2007: Are you trying to punish him, or your children? Think about that carefully. If you interfere with thier relationship, you punsih Both sides.
Also, you DID choose him, right? Was he always like this?
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants a threesome, he's willing to do it male/male/female; should I give him a male/female/female one with my sister?
Q. my bf of 9 years wants a threesome I told him if I give him one that I want a mfm which he is fine with, he is getting his best friend cuz he say he can trust him. should I give him a fmf with my sister? if anyone has tried this what should I ...
A. 24 November 2007: Threesomes, sure.
With your sister, No.
With his best friend, No.
Those that I know that tried it ALWAYS had long term negative results. Everything from an affair starting with the sister, to having to end it becuase of akwardness wh... (read in full...)
I have a small penis, how can I improve the sensation of penetration for my girlfriend?
Q. i have a very small penis and i would like to hear any suggestions on how to improve the penetration sensation for my girlfriend...
A. 24 November 2007: Learn everything you can about foreplay, massage, using sex toys, etc...
depending on how small you actually are, you might not be able to get into certain positions. If you can become a master at making her orgasm without penetration, your siz... (read in full...)
I love her so I do not want her to regret taking this step! - as I am going away for 2 yrs to school. She is willing to have her first time with me.
Q. im 17 my gf is 14 weve been together for 7 months and she wants me to take her virginity but im going off to school in august of 2008 for at least 2 years but our love is true. please help i love her so much but i dont want any regrets ...
A. 24 November 2007: Becuase of the age issue, find out if it is even legal for the two of you to be together. The USA has some of the most strict laws about this sort of thing.
The second issue for me is that sometimes very young girls that have not found a certain ... (read in full...)
She said she could not come to lunch with me today but offered to meet up next week. Is she trying to avoid me?
Q. hi. today i asked my crush if she wanted to go for lunch. she said that she couldnt today but offered to meet up next week. We get on well together andwork together in our practical groups and i'll walk her home. do you think that she is tryi...
A. 24 November 2007: The fact that she made a suggestion for next week means that she still wants to see you, but can not right now.
If however, she KEEPS posting it...then stop calling her, and make sure that she knows you are spending that time with other women.
... (read in full...)
Being the older cousin... I have to give my little cousin (14) tips about making out. Any suggestions?
Q. hey my little cousin is 14 and hes been asking me on tips on making out for the first time. any help on what to tell him or a web site i can go to(no porn). K thanks!...
A. 24 November 2007: Are you sure this is for your cousin? Afterall, if you already knew from experience, then you would not need to ask here.
At 16, maybe the best advice you could give him is to wait.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
Get over it. Move on. Your happiness and sanity are more valuable than a husband who cheats or a so-called girlfriend who took part in that. Your opinions?
Q. i have been reading a lot about affairs. just wanted to get in my two-cents. my husband left me over 20 years ago - we had been married 14 years at the time and did not want children. my girlfriend was having an affair with him the last year or ...
A. 24 November 2007: Good for you.
I hope that you do find love in your future.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
How can I overcome my trust issues and stop behaving so bad towards her??
Q. I have a problem with my relationship with my girlfriend, i love her and dont want to split up or hurt her, but i am being a pig. I dont trust her, when she goes out with her friends, i dont like it and when she comes back i sulk and dont talk to ...
A. 24 November 2007: Before you start calling yourself a pig, can you answer the following question:
Has she done anything that violated your trust in the past?
Are her friends good people, or do you not trust her friends, and thus do not trust her in their company... (read in full...)
My ex - I've hit a low point now after some great progress this week
Q. Hi All, I’m feeling really low today. I don’t know why but I feel like I’ve been crushed. I don’t understand how my ex-girlfriend can treat me the way she did, find someone else while we were going out, and then jump straight into another relation...
A. 24 November 2007: Firstly, just because she ended up with another guy does not mean she likes him more than you...she could just be doing it out of security. Easier to be in a different relationship than to be alone.
Next, she treated you that way becuase you pres... (read in full...)
How can I move this friendship on to an actual relationship?
Q. I am best friends with a guy, now we're stuck in this fling thing where I really like him and I want something proper but I don't think he does. I've tried to make it stop and just move on as I don't want a fling, I want a proper relationship but I ...
A. 24 November 2007: Why buy the cow when he gets the milk for free. You never give him enough time to miss you. Also, aside from the sex, do you address his other emotional needs?
The fact that you break away and get pulled back in is a sign that he can not trus... (read in full...)
I find the whole "dating game" depressing...
Q. I am a disaster in relationships. I'm a really nice person, good fun and people like me as a friend. People say I'm pretty but every time I meet a guy I like, it always ends before it starts. It never gets past the second or third date and they ...
A. 24 November 2007: What criteria do you have in the men you choose to date? The answer to your troubles lies there. You are not dating the kinds of men that want to be with the person you are inside.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
I think she's overweight. I'm falling in love with her but I'm not attracted to her.
Q. I have met a wonderful person via the use of Eharmony.com and we are now seeing each other in real life and having a spectacular time. I find everything about her to be just what I never knew I needed in a person, but am now so thankful for having. ...
A. 26 October 2007: I never said you were using her for her body (obviously!)...but a person can use another for other things like security, or comfort, or or lifestyle, or just to have another person around so not to be lonely or still looking for the right person. ... (read in full...)
I think she's overweight. I'm falling in love with her but I'm not attracted to her.
Q. I have met a wonderful person via the use of Eharmony.com and we are now seeing each other in real life and having a spectacular time. I find everything about her to be just what I never knew I needed in a person, but am now so thankful for having. ...
A. 26 October 2007: Break it off NOW. She deserves to be with someone who has it more together.
Simply put, you are not ready to be happy with her. And becuase of this, you are using her.
Set her free, so that she may find someone that does find her attractive. ... (read in full...)
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