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| Latest articles: Off Limits Dating
No replies yet... 18 September 2013: Is Someone Off Limits for Dating? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Mastering the art of dating requires a number of skills such as being socially calibrated, effective communication and knowing what you want. One of the areas that comes up for ...
How to Deal with a Toxic Person
No replies yet... 18 September 2013: The Best Way To Deal With Toxic People By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Toxic people are defined in this article as people who lack the capacity to reason, or people have the capacity to reason but just do not want to reason with you. In t...
A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce
No replies yet... 31 August 2013: A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships One of the ironies of couples counseling that I often find myself doing is taking the couple through the pre-marital coaching process when they may already be...
A Frank Comment on Miley Cyrus
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31 August 2013: A Frank Comment On Miley Cyrus By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I do not normally comment on the antics of popular culture, as so much of what we see of movies and TV are fiction based romances and relationships. I tried my best to stay fo...
The Wedding Speech
No replies yet... 26 July 2013: The Wedding Speech Remember this day, your wedding day. Not for the dresses and suits, not for the extravagance, nor the dinner and dancing, but remember your wedding day because of the reasons you chose to marry your spouse. Remember who is it that...
Sexually Incompatible Couples
No replies yet... 19 July 2013: Sexually Incompatible Couples Sex is not the most important thing in a relationship. However, couples who love each other dearly and connect on so many levels, but whom are sexually incompatible tend to find that sex can be at the core of a numb...
Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2
No replies yet... 28 June 2013: Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2 Separation does not automatically lead to divorce unless you let it. It is up to you and your partner to put in the work so that it does not happen. In the event you are the only one trying to work on yourself and ...
Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2
No replies yet... 22 June 2013: Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2 One of the most damaging actions an individual can take is to start dating someone new when going through a separation with their serious long term partner (spouse, common-law partner or a defacto-union). When I use ...
The Frank Break Up Formula
No replies yet... 14 June 2013: The Frank Break Up Formula By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Breaking up with someone is rarely an enjoyable or pleasant experience. In fact, there are those individuals who stay in less than satisfying relationships, and even can go all the ...
The Frank Romance Formula part 3 of 3
No replies yet... 8 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 3 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 of 3
No replies yet... 3 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future
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3 May 2013: The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships The future is where actual seduction takes place. That is the key to seduction. It has very little to do with turning someone on when you see them. I...
The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons
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27 April 2013: The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Sometimes life will slap you down when it has a lesson to teach you. For some people, the slap may be a light swat, and for others the slap has to be a severe smack down. ...
Dating With Disabilities
No replies yet... 5 April 2013: Dating With Disabilities by Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I once went on a date with a woman that had severe food allergies. We went out to a movie and I wished she had told me ahead of time. Although she mentioned that she was deathly all...
Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen
No replies yet... 21 March 2013: Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Rejection is the worst best thing that can ever happen to you. Managing rejection is a necessary part in managing your love life. Over the course of your ...
Things they do not tell you about having kids
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15 March 2013: Things They Do Not Tell You About Having Kids By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I always try to be very practical and realistic in my articles. This can come across very negative, given that my topic is Relationships (and all things relative...
When Friendship Is Meaningless
No replies yet... 8 March 2013: Friendship Is Meaningless Stop Hanging Out With Friends Who Sexually Reject You By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Friendship is meaningless. There I said it. Now before you shoot one of your nasty emails to the editor, actually read this colum...
Who Cares What People Think? Depends...
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1 March 2013: How Much Should You Care About What Other People Think? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships T here will be times when we want to do something in our lives that is meaningful to us. It could be a decision related to abandoning education, wh...
Learn How to Choose the Right Fights!
No replies yet... 21 February 2013: Pick And Choose Your Fights By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Fighting in relationships is normal. The issue is not whether you fight. The issue is HOW a couple fights. Do they talk out their disagreements? Do they wait until they are alon...
Starting Over After V-day?
No replies yet... 14 February 2013: Starting Over? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Valentine’s day can be a day of reckoning for some people. Meaning, the events leading up to, on the day of, and afterwards can really wreck your life. This is one of the reasons I often refer to...
A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best
No replies yet... 6 February 2013: A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best By Frank Kermit, Relationships At my weekly relationship workshop last Saturday I issued one of my famous “Frankisms” that seemed to really resonate with the attendees. I was trying...
Asking Hard Questions
No replies yet... 1 February 2013: Asking Hard Questions By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships When trying to decide if you should be committed to someone, moving in with someone, getting engaged, and getting married, each new transition brings about the unpleasant task of askin...
Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix
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24 January 2013: Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix By Frank Kermit, Relationships If you ever had sex with someone that is about to get married, and have been invited to the wedding, do not go. This is especially true if the spouse-to-be feels uncomfortable havi...
Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy
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16 January 2013: Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Couples who are experiencing a transition in the status of their relationship may sometimes look to explore new ways of redefining their sex lives b...
Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships
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13 December 2012: Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships As the holiday season approaches, invitations begin to swarm in for get-togethers from family, friends and even office parties. It is a time of people coming together, and in some ca...
Couples in Transition
No replies yet... 29 November 2012: Couples in Transition By Frank Kermit, Relationships When a couple is going through a change in the status of their relationship they are a couple in transition. This includes couples that are transitioning from monogamy to non-monogamy, from no...
Your Home Is Your Seduction
No replies yet... 15 November 2012: Your Home Is Your Seduction By Frank Kermit, Relationships Your date is coming over to your place! You have seen each other a couple of times already, but this is different. This is YOUR PLACE, not some coffee shop or movie theatre or restaur...
The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey
No replies yet... 6 November 2012: The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey By Frank Kermit, Relationships The movie of your life is how we each envision our lives unfolding throughout our life span. This concept goes beyond simple fantasizing of what your life would be like. Writing ...
What Love Masks by Frank Kermit
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2 November 2012: What Love Masks By Frank Kermit, Relationships A mentor of mine taught me that love is not blind; it is just that categories are rigid. When you meet someone, you put that person in a category (lover, friend, temptation, fling, does-no...
The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work: An Article About EFT and Weight Loss
No replies yet... 2 November 2012: The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work An Article About EFT and Weight Loss I have a confession. I used to daydream about food. You know that point in the day when someone catches you; your head in your hands, that dreamy look on your face? If so...
Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type?
No replies yet... 1 November 2012: Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type? By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all have our “type”. By “type” I am referring to that type of person each of us is madly attracted too. Each of us has our preference of what we like, what turns us on, ...
Is there such a thing as Happily Single?
No replies yet... 19 October 2012: Is there such a thing as Happily Single? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Is being single really that bad? After all, when a person considers the amount of pain that a relationship or casual dating can cause, it may seem that just skipping the w...
Be Thankful For a Broken Heart
No replies yet... 11 October 2012: Be Thankful For A Broken Heart By Frank Kermit, Relationships Ok, I hate this. I really hate this part of the process. However, it is a necessary part of the process, and if I am expected to help encourage others to do it, first I have to demo...
Stop Talking About Your Ex On Dates!
No replies yet... 5 October 2012: Stop Talking So Much About Your Ex By Frank Kermit, Relationships So you are on a date with someone new. You are excited. You are nervous. You hope that this is finally going to be the one. You meet. So far, you both like what you see. This...
Dating in Social Circles
No replies yet... 29 September 2012: Dating In Social Circles By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dating can be tricky. Does the other person like you the way you think he or she might? Do you really like that person enough to get more serious, or do you want to keep it more casual a...
Frank Guide to Speed Dating
No replies yet... 21 September 2012: Frank Guide To Speed Dating By Frank Kermit, Relationships Every way to meet someone new is a good way. Though friends, through the Internet, blind dates, approaching someone you want to meet, at a workshop, matchmaking companies, business conv...
Relationship Goal Setting
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15 September 2012: Relationship Goal Setting By Frank Kermit, Relationships Setting goals in most areas of your life can be challenging. When it comes to relationships, there are even more challenges. Whereas in other areas of your life such as education, emplo...
Battling The Savior Complex in Relationships
No replies yet... 6 September 2012: Battling The Savior Complex By Frank Kermit, Relationships As children, many of us grew up on stories about the hero that saves a person, and in the process, earned the undying love and loyalty of the person saved so that the hero and that saved ...
Get Out Of Your Own Way!
No replies yet... 30 August 2012: Get Out Of Your Own Way By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest obstacles that a person can have as an obstruction on their path of finding happiness, peace and healing for their love life, is themselves. Although most people wou...
Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow
No replies yet... 26 August 2012: Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow By Frank Kermit, Relationships Young adults tend to discount how the choices they make today will impact their futures tomorrow. At least, when it comes to relationships. The bes...
Are You A Partner Or A Liability?
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17 August 2012: Are You A Partner Or A Liability? When it really is you and not them By Frank Kermit, Relationships “It’s not you, it’s me.” Have you ever heard that said to you when someone broke up with you? Have you ever been the one to use it when dump...
The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships
No replies yet... 9 August 2012: The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships There are 7 certain words that catch many people off guard when it comes to relationships. They are: Lust, Love, Sex, Dating, Commitment, Marriage, and Monogamy. ...
Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss.
No replies yet... 20 July 2012: Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss By Frank Kermit, Relationships Are you too nice when it comes to relationships? Do you walk on eggshells because you do not want to upset your partner? Are you reluctant to enforce your bounda...
Re-Establishing Trust in a Relationship Article
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12 July 2012: Broken Trust Takes More Than Time To Re-Establish By Frank Kermit, Relationships Trust is one of the most important components of a relationship. Love is a great start, but it takes more than loving someone, or being loved by someone, to make ...
Understanding Emotional Needs
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4 July 2012: Understanding Emotional Needs: What We Respond To Versus What We Should Like By Frank Kermit, Relationships Emotional needs are about what a person responds to. It has nothing to do with what a person should like. We all should be attracte...
Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date
No replies yet... 29 June 2012: Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date By Frank Kermit, Relationships When you are on a date, and the person you are getting to know says or does something that triggers a well-honed instinct that you need to stop dating that person, you hav...
The Art of Storytelling on a Date
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Art of Storytelling: Make or Break A Relationship Happy Ending By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the challenges that people face when they go on dates is that they may not factor in that others will not understand what they are trying ...
Swinger Beginner Advice
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Swinger Beginners: Keep it Out of the Work Place By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dear Frank, My husband and I recently returned from a business trip/vacation where a few of my husband's co-workers also brought their wives. We really hit it o...
When your Ex becomes a symbol and you can't get over it
No replies yet... 13 June 2012: When Your Ex Becomes A Symbol Relationship Symbolism of Why You Are Still Hooked By Frank Kermit, Relationships We are surrounded by the power of symbols. A symbol is more than just a design we recognize; symbols are a means of making meaning. ...
Ally Vs Enemy: Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men
No replies yet... 9 June 2012: Is She His Ally or His Enemy? Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men By Frank Kermit, Relationships The best way I know how to teach people about the emotional needs of men is to break it down to absolute fundamentals. If people can und...
Dating After A Break Up - Just How Long Should You Wait?
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1 June 2012: Dating After Breaking Up? The Sooner The Better By Frank Kermit, Relationships “How much time should I wait before I start dating again?” is a common question that I get asked from someone that has just recently gotten dumped, and still sufferi...
Relationship Redemption: How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure
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23 May 2012: Relationship Redemption How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all make mistakes in life. If you have ever tried to get into a relationship, are in a relationship, or are recovering from a relationship, ...
Finding The Meaning Of Your Life And Relationships
No replies yet... 15 May 2012: The Meaning of your Relationships Starts With The Meaning Of Your Life By Frank Kermit, Relationships Contemplate your death. No seriously. In order to make meanings of your relationships past, present and those you will have in the futur...
The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women
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10 May 2012: The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women By Frank Kermit, Relationships A woman can only play one of two roles in a man’s life. She is either his mother or his lover. She cannot be both. When a man addresses a wom...
Moving To The Next Level: Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships
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1 May 2012: Moving To The Next Level Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest mistakes people make in relationships is to promote someone up the hierarchy of commitment that has not really earned it. I...
Beware Your Friends when it comes to love
No replies yet... 15 April 2012: Beware Your Friends They May Not Want You To Be Loved By Frank Kermit, Relationships Mistakes Singles Make # 6… Seeking the approval of friends that influences your love life choices. Love may come and go, but a friendship can last a lifetim...
Are Relationships Worth The Risk?
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8 April 2012: Relationships = Risk But is it really worth it? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Given that there is so much risk in getting involved in relationships, or having sex for that matter, is it at all worth it to even bother? After all, a broken hear...
Tattoos and Relationships
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24 March 2012: Beware The L-I-N-K Of (L)ove and (INK) By Frank Kermit, Relationships While at a coffee shop a few weeks ago, I met a tattoo artist. He had his son’s name tattooed on his hand, and being the ever-inquisitive one, I asked him about his profession...
Open Relationships and Infidelity
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17 March 2012: Open Relationships Do Not Always Stave Off Infidelity By Frank Kermit, Relationships Some people believe that one of the surest ways to guarantee fidelity is to only do open relationships. The premise is that people only cheat in monogamous ...
What is a Relationship?
No replies yet... 10 March 2012: What is a Relationship? Is best defined by what it’s NOT By Frank Kermit, Relationships Over the years, I have been asked a number of times “What is a Relationship?” This is a harder question to answer than most people think. In my experience,...
Engaged! Now what?
No replies yet... 19 February 2012: Pre Marital Disclosure What you don’t know, you must know By Frank Kermit, Relationships Valentines day has come and gone. Some relationships have started. Some relationships have ended, and some relationships have proceeded to the next le...
Making Monogamy Work
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5 February 2012: Making Monogamy Work By Frank Kermit, Relationships Monogamy is easier than open relationships, because the rules are simpler...but the application of the rules of monogamy is not as easy. Monogamy works for monogamous people...however...
Single Parent Dating, Not Just a Single Issue
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3 February 2012: Single Parent Dating – More Than Just A Single Issue By Frank Kermit At least 40% of marriages end in divorce. Depending on the study you read, the percentage can be higher. Even though the break down of families continues, the drive that ma...
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I find the whole "dating game" depressing...
Q. I am a disaster in relationships. I'm a really nice person, good fun and people like me as a friend. People say I'm pretty but every time I meet a guy I like, it always ends before it starts. It never gets past the second or third date and they ...
A. 24 November 2007: What criteria do you have in the men you choose to date? The answer to your troubles lies there. You are not dating the kinds of men that want to be with the person you are inside.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
Getting rid of insecurities.
Q. how do i go about getting her back after insulting her.and jumping to conclusions. how do i get rid of my insercurities...
A. 24 November 2007: Getting her back involves you FIRST changing, and then proving those changes to her.
Do you know who you are? Are you strong enough to take a chance that you could end up alone if she does not like what you have to say?
Destroy your ... (read in full...)
Dating...
Q. We've been going out for the past 5 years. Barely a month now, we haven't talked on phone because she told me she's ready for marriage and I'm not. I love this girl but I want to complete my masters, she doesn't understand so what should I do?...
A. 24 November 2007: Are you saying you do not want to marry her NOW, or are you saying you are not sure you want to marry her at all?
Five years without some form of long term committment is too long.
Have you thought about an engagement ring, or pre-engagemen... (read in full...)
I may be in love with a person I dated during the short time I was separated from my bf. Confused!
Q. I am 18 and have been with my b/f for 4 and a half years. I now think im in love with someone else who i dated before when me and my b/f broke up for about a month or 2! Im really confused but dont want to hurt anyone...Help!...
A. 23 November 2007: Date both of them, being honest about it, and give your boyfriend the same freedom to date other women.
Why did you two break up the first time?
If you can not handle him dating other women, then you know the answer.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
I've lost his trust through lying about my past...how can I reassure him I'm now telling the truth??
Q. Ok, I messed up. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 15 months. Of those, we've been having issues for about 8 months. I sorta sensed from the begining that he would dissaprove of my past. It's not a terrible past, but it involves a mutual f...
A. 23 November 2007: He is the one that could not handle the truth. The stuff he was asking about really is none of his business.
The real question is: If he knew the truth, would he still have dated you? If the answer is no, then dump him. If the answer is yes, ... (read in full...)
I just want an explanation about why she feels smothered???
Q. i cant stop thinking of the girl ive been seeing. you guys have answered my other problem.i cant keep her off my mind. i feel like im cheating when im with someone else. my heart says wait to see if she comes around ,but my brain is telling me to ...
A. 23 November 2007: A woman will feel smothered when
1-She feels she is getting certain types of attention from you that she knows she has not really earned
and
2-She starts to feel like a mother having to take care of a little boy becuase you are too depe... (read in full...)
All I seem to do is play with myself!
Q. Dear Cupid, I am wondering when I will get some sex, because at the moment all I seem to be able to do is play with myself which leaves more to the imagination. I have had several long term relationships and old girlfriends are gone. I like gi...
A. 23 November 2007: Stop touching yourself and stop letting your imagination get the best of you. Use that energy to figure out the kind of relationship you want, and then use the rest of that energy to pursue it.
It is not meant for it to come to you. It is up to... (read in full...)
Should I text him back?
Q. Ok just a quick problem. I was going out with a guy I really liked for 5 months. He broke up with me because he didn't have time for a relationship but ended up going out with another girl. He is texting me again asking how I am and stuff. Should I ...
A. 23 November 2007: No, do not text him back.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
We are sooooo connected yet he doesn't want to call me his girlfriend... yet!
Q. Dear Aunt, I and 24 and have been dating this 27 year old guy for like 2 months. Our chemistry is too great. Of all the people I have know, have never come across so connected to anyone. We both came out of bad break ups. I know he really likes me...
A. 23 November 2007: I think he is right to wait. 2 months is hardly enough time to earn the committment that comes with being called a girlfriend. My guess is that he learned from his break up that he wants to make sure that you earn it.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
Why has he had the sudden change of heart?
Q. Me and my partner of 3 years broke up sometime last year, I suspect he had met someone because he soon after started dating her. Well, for a whole year we remained friends and every so often he continued to tell me I should move on everytime I ...
A. 23 November 2007: He is addicted to the drama of your attention. I think that if the two of you got back together at this point, he would shortly thereafter abandon you again.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
Always going to be more than a best friend to him...
Q. I've been best mates with a guy for over a year now. However after 2 months of knowing him he told me he loved me. I told him straight, that i wasnt intrested but I'd hope we'd still be able to be friends. So we have tryed being friends for a while ...
A. 23 November 2007: Keep your distence. He can't seem to get over it, and thus your friendship is false.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
Am I justified in feeling like this or selfish??
Q. Hi, I have known my current boyfriend 4 years, we have been together on and off for periods of time over that four years and have a lot of history. He has a child from a previous relationship, who he does not currently see regulary, but ha...
A. 23 November 2007: 4 years on and off....it is the on and off part I focus on.
You are not justified.
His son MUST come first. He is a father first, your bf second. The fact you are on and off means he best focus on his kids needs first.
It also sounds ... (read in full...)
My gf has a very high sex drive, whereas I do not. What do I do?
Q. ok so this might sound kinda strange. my girlfriend has a very high sex drive i mean you could call her a sex nympho thats how she is, now the problem is that i just dont enjoy sex very much and have a very low sex drive. so my question is, w...
A. 22 November 2007: Either you accomdate her or she will eventually seek it elsewhere. If you can not accodate her, end the relationship and find someone more your speed.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
My gf has a rather promiscuous past, she says those guys were a mistake but still holds on to those memories. Should I be worried?
Q. Hi, I (25) have been with my girlfriend now for 6 months and we are very very serious.. She (24) was a bit promiscuous in the past but has now devoted herself to me!! She still is friends with these guys and had some pictures of them on her computer ...
A. 22 November 2007: You should not have earased the pictures...it was a great opportunity to test her loyality to you. You should have asked her to remove them fromher computer to see if she was serious about being devoted to you.
Her past is part of what makes he... (read in full...)
Drugs and gambling!!!! How can I help them?
Q. I need to know, how can you tell if someone close to you is using recreational drugs? What are the signs? Also my husband has a gambling adiction but wont get profesional help, what can I do?...
A. 22 November 2007: The BEST thing you can do for your husband with the gambling addiction is to keep your accounts and money SEPARATE from him. Make sure he has no access, as he will destory your credit.
This is not something he can promise not to do. It is an ad... (read in full...)
A boy from school said it's embarassing to be virgin. I do not agree. What do you think?
Q. a boy said at school in a pshe lesson that "if you are 14 and still a virgin its embarresing" although over half tutor are virgins.i dont think thats embarresing at all what do you think? its getting to me. ...
A. 22 November 2007: For some boys, it is. It certainly is for him, and many males feel this way.
For some girls, being a virgin represents them in a positive light, and they are not embarassed at all, but in fact, could be proud of it.
This is one of those generali... (read in full...)
Does a man feel anything emotionally for his mistress/sex partner, especially if he knows her well, yet does not love her?
Q. When a man has sex with a women he is not in love but knows her very well, is it a different experiance to making love or having sex with his wife? What is the difference to a man emotionally in having casual sex. Sex is meaningful to wo...
A. 22 November 2007: There are two things I could say about this.
1-Some men do separate their feelings between sex and love. Most do actually.
2-A man could develop feelings for a mistress. Rarely are they feelings of deep love. More like a really dear frie... (read in full...)
My bf is married. We are always thinking about each other, should I feel guilty? Please advise.
Q. My boyfriend is married. We've known one another for years and are best of friends. We are so comfortable with one another and can talk about anything with eachother. I love him with all my heart and my love only get stronger day by day. We are ...
A. 22 November 2007: If he is married, then your relationship is not just "unreal" it is "not real".
When a man truely loves another, he will leave his wife.
When a man truely does not love his wife anymore, he will leave her.
You sound like a great mistr... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has sent intimate photos of us to his ex!
Q. my boyfriend took some pictures of us in an intimate pose with my consent. However he recently sent these to his ex girlfriend I have confronted him about this and he is very sorry and says he has never done anything like this before and will never ...
A. 22 November 2007: He violated your first emotional need which is to protect your reputation. No telling where that pic has ended up.
Dump him. The only reason he would do that is he is still into his ex (for just sex, or a relationship).
You are being used o... (read in full...)
My wife's long ago BF still loves her.
Q. A married guy who is a former suitor of my wife still claims he loves my wife and have been telling her and their common friends about this. My wife does not love this guy but has a sympathetic attitude towards him and treats him as a special ...
A. 22 November 2007: This guy is a threat to your marriage. It does not matter if your wife loves him back or not. She wants to stay friends with a married man that openly tells all he is in love with her. At best, she is loving the drama and attention of this. At ... (read in full...)
My ex is still harrassing me and uses others to do it for him.
Q. I have had it. I am so sick of my ex bf and his stupid ways of geting back at me! I broke up with him 3 months ago and he is still making attempts to get my attention. I broke it off because he was abusive. Anyway, he got his friends to send me ...
A. 22 November 2007: Keep a printed record of every harassing email you get. Whenever possible, write back with the simple statement:
I know that X put you up to harassing me. Why would you do this?
Assuming they respond and CONFIRM that they acknowledge they... (read in full...)
My wife left me and the kids, her sister stepped up to the plate to help, but I'm falling for her, what should I do?
Q. My ex walked out on me and our kids and her younger sister came to stay with us for a while just to help me look after my children because suddenly becoming a single Dad without any warning was totally mind blowing to me. We've settled down a bit ...
A. 22 November 2007: I do not think getting rid of those feelings will happen.
I think it is a matter of not acting on them at this time.
Why did her sister step up? Did her family put her up to it, or does her sister fancy you as well, and has been waiting for... (read in full...)
My wife left me and the kids, her sister stepped up to the plate to help, but I'm falling for her, what should I do?
Q. My ex walked out on me and our kids and her younger sister came to stay with us for a while just to help me look after my children because suddenly becoming a single Dad without any warning was totally mind blowing to me. We've settled down a bit ...
A. 22 November 2007: I do not think getting rid of those feelings will happen.
I think it is a matter of not acting on them at this time.
Why did her sister step up? Did her family put her up to it, or does her sister fancy you as well, and has been waiting for... (read in full...)
I cheated, it will never happen again, but the guilt is driving me crazy, how can I go on like this?
Q. Hi everybody....Im coming to you a as a cheater. I feel like such a horrible person. Although I know Im not, I made one terrible mistake. The worst I have ever made in my life. I have been with my GF for a little over 3 years, and cheated on ONE ...
A. 22 November 2007: Do not tell her. Most people do that to reveil their own guilt, not for the benefit of the other person.
Part of being a man in this is to deal with, and live with the guilt. Keep it to yourself. If this was an ongoing affiar, I would say tell... (read in full...)
Why is he keeping touch?
Q. My ex and I broke up a little over a year ago. Our relationship didn't end on a great note so we didn't really talk nicely up until now. He is now contacting me through emails, it's only been a short time of talking but it has been every day. After ...
A. 22 November 2007: If he already has another girlfriend, and he is tlaking to you about new loves in your life...he probably just wants to see if you are free for a fling.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
Should I fight for him, or should I get over him?
Q. About 2 year ago, a friend I've been mates with for about 3 years said he was in love with me. He has always been a player and I didn't want that. I didn't feel the same and told him it was strictly friendship. We were always close. We hug all the ...
A. 22 November 2007: It sounds to me that the only reason you really love him is that you can not have him now. If the two of you were really suppose to end up together, you would have dated him the first time he asked you out. Sorry, but you missed it.
If he is sm... (read in full...)
I am very worried, why hasn't he called me back?
Q. I went for a party and met this cute guy. We exchanged numbers. It was after 3 weeks that we actually spoke .We went out one weekend and it was then he told me his age, 35 and I am 18 turning 19, I look more matured than my age, he looks much ...
A. 17 November 2007: Your welcome. Gald it helped. I wish you a good relationship.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
How do I start approaching girls??
Q. am 20 and i feel that i need a gilrfriend but i dont know when and how to start.please advice....
A. 17 November 2007: On my site, an associate of mine sells an ebook entitled:
The Art of Approaching Women without rejection.
HEre is the link so you can read about it:
http://franktalks.com/content=ShopJosephThundercatLairMatthews
That being said, even t... (read in full...)
I am very worried, why hasn't he called me back?
Q. I went for a party and met this cute guy. We exchanged numbers. It was after 3 weeks that we actually spoke .We went out one weekend and it was then he told me his age, 35 and I am 18 turning 19, I look more matured than my age, he looks much ...
A. 17 November 2007: You failed his test.
Do you really think you are the first young hot thing interested in him? If YOU wanted him, safe bet that other girls want him too.
High value guys need to be pursued, so that you can prove yourself a cut above other wome... (read in full...)
I'm torn between two men. And we're all best mates. Waht do I do?
Q. hi every one im 24 years old i have been fooling around behind my boyfriend of 3.5 years with his very bestmate but it gets worse than that the one im playing around with is going out with my very best friend and theyve been together for about 3.5 ...
A. 17 November 2007: When your bf finds out...and he will, it will end with him anyways.
If you MUST choose, go with the new guy. Hopefully he will do to you what he did to his last gf (you know, your other best friend?).
I suggest to start fresh, a clean s... (read in full...)
What should I do about different sex views.
Q. My girlfriend that I have been steady with for 5 months doesn't view sex the same way I do. She is very religious while I am not. However, we don't fight about religious views yet she won't do many sexual things because of it. She is very in...
A. 17 November 2007: You stop dating a girl that has different views about sex than you do.
Find someone else.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
Is it OK that my girlfriend talks to her ex husband
Q. My girlfriend is still talking to her ex-husband. She says they want to be friends and thats it nothing more. I tried to be ok with it but everytime I see them emailing eachother it really bothers me and makes me unhappy. Is it unfair fo...
A. 16 November 2007: Aer there kids in the picture? Is there a reason she MUST be friends with the ex? Does he have nude photos of her that he is going to use to blackmail her with? If not, then I would see this "friendship" as a red flag. How long have you two been ... (read in full...)
How do I stop myself looking for a replacement for my mother?
Q. How do I stop myself from looking for a girlfriend that is like my mum personally? I know it sounds odd, but I would prefer a girl who I want as a lover, rather than someone to replace my mum when I leave the house. How do I stop this trend? How ...
A. 16 November 2007: Firstly, do not let her do things for you, that you could do yourself. She is not there to take care of you. It is you that needs to take care of her. If you want to get out of seeking mommy mode, try being the daddy and treat her like your ... (read in full...)
A friend of mine has become infatuated with me... I'm not interested and have a boyfriend so don't know how to cope!
Q. I have been friends with this guy for eleven years. About two years ago he told me that he was absolutly in love with me. It scared the crap out of me cuz he sent me messages saying I'll love you until death. And I will always love you no matter ...
A. 16 November 2007: Let your "friend" know that if he continues his behavior, you will speak to his parents as well as school counselors.
If he is in love with you, he is not your friend, but an interested suitor. His interest sounds like is turning into obsessio... (read in full...)
Why do married men look at naked women on the internet?
Q. Why would a married man look at nude women on the internet after being caught once only to do it again?...
A. 16 November 2007: He is a man, and men love to look at women. Why are you so threaten by it?
Have you read the other stories on this board? Would you rather he be watching nude MEN? Would you rather he be having an affair?
If your married man is only looking ... (read in full...)
She wants to meet for coffee again. What's the most powerful and loving way to handle the situation?
Q. I have a friend who has cancelled our last two coffee appointments, either at the last minute or when she arrived at the cafe. I was angry with her the first time and angry with myself the second time. I believe in the sentiment behind the motto ...
A. 16 November 2007: Do not make any plans with her. She is using you as her Emotional Cookie Man, for the sake of the attention you give her. Do not give her attention until she PROVES she has earned it.
No coffee dates.
And make her see you be with othe... (read in full...)
Why am I still thinking of her???
Q. Hey, I feel a little stupid writing this and I'm just really confused about it. About two years ago now I had, had a very intense relationship with this girl for about a year, it all went downhill about six months into the relationship, she had been ...
A. 16 November 2007: It sounds to me like you are addicted to the drama of that relationship.
Drama is like a drug. It makes the good times seem great, the bad times intense, and make sex quite a roller coaster.
It is also very damaging emotionally as y... (read in full...)
Why am I still thinking of her???
Q. Hey, I feel a little stupid writing this and I'm just really confused about it. About two years ago now I had, had a very intense relationship with this girl for about a year, it all went downhill about six months into the relationship, she had been ...
A. 16 November 2007: It sounds to me like you are addicted to the drama of that relationship.
Drama is like a drug. It makes the good times seem great, the bad times intense, and make sex quite a roller coaster.
It is also very damaging emotionally as y... (read in full...)
I'm torn between This 2 guys and I'm totally going Insaaaanee!!
Q. I'm torn between This 2 guys and I'm totally going Insaaaanee!! The 1st one is Loving and caring, But the 2nd is just making me feel so "special"... I dont know how he manages that,most of the Time he is inavilable when i Call him,and is pusing m...
A. 16 November 2007: Why choose? Date both of them.
In time you will know for sure.
If however you wait too long, at some point, the nicer guy will either move on to some other woman that will appreciate him more, and the bad-boy will probably dump you for his... (read in full...)
Will he ever leave his wife for me???
Q. I'm in a relationship with a married man 25 years older than me. I fell in love with him almost 3 years ago, and tried (clearly unsuccessfully) to forget him. Then I gave him a letter in which I said that I feel something for him, ie love. His first ...
A. 16 November 2007: You asked: Can I still dream a little?
You could...however, the longer you stay with some other woman's husband, the less likely you are to find your own soul mate.
No, he will never leave his wife for you.
I wonder if it is YOU that... (read in full...)
How do you have... an interesting personality? What puts off women on a date?
Q. i have often wondered what it s that puts off women when i want to go on a date with them. I realise now that it is because i am boring. what do i have to do to have an interesting personality?...
A. 16 November 2007: Address her emotional needs. The root of this system is to ask the qwuestion:
Am I making her feel like my mother, or I am making her feel like my lover?
Each time she feels like she has to mother you, you failed her test, and she is put off. ... (read in full...)
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