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No replies yet... 18 September 2013: Is Someone Off Limits for Dating? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Mastering the art of dating requires a number of skills such as being socially calibrated, effective communication and knowing what you want. One of the areas that comes up for ...
How to Deal with a Toxic Person
No replies yet... 18 September 2013: The Best Way To Deal With Toxic People By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Toxic people are defined in this article as people who lack the capacity to reason, or people have the capacity to reason but just do not want to reason with you. In t...
A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce
No replies yet... 31 August 2013: A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships One of the ironies of couples counseling that I often find myself doing is taking the couple through the pre-marital coaching process when they may already be...
A Frank Comment on Miley Cyrus
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31 August 2013: A Frank Comment On Miley Cyrus By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I do not normally comment on the antics of popular culture, as so much of what we see of movies and TV are fiction based romances and relationships. I tried my best to stay fo...
The Wedding Speech
No replies yet... 26 July 2013: The Wedding Speech Remember this day, your wedding day. Not for the dresses and suits, not for the extravagance, nor the dinner and dancing, but remember your wedding day because of the reasons you chose to marry your spouse. Remember who is it that...
Sexually Incompatible Couples
No replies yet... 19 July 2013: Sexually Incompatible Couples Sex is not the most important thing in a relationship. However, couples who love each other dearly and connect on so many levels, but whom are sexually incompatible tend to find that sex can be at the core of a numb...
Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2
No replies yet... 28 June 2013: Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2 Separation does not automatically lead to divorce unless you let it. It is up to you and your partner to put in the work so that it does not happen. In the event you are the only one trying to work on yourself and ...
Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2
No replies yet... 22 June 2013: Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2 One of the most damaging actions an individual can take is to start dating someone new when going through a separation with their serious long term partner (spouse, common-law partner or a defacto-union). When I use ...
The Frank Break Up Formula
No replies yet... 14 June 2013: The Frank Break Up Formula By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Breaking up with someone is rarely an enjoyable or pleasant experience. In fact, there are those individuals who stay in less than satisfying relationships, and even can go all the ...
The Frank Romance Formula part 3 of 3
No replies yet... 8 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 3 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 of 3
No replies yet... 3 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future
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3 May 2013: The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships The future is where actual seduction takes place. That is the key to seduction. It has very little to do with turning someone on when you see them. I...
The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons
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27 April 2013: The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Sometimes life will slap you down when it has a lesson to teach you. For some people, the slap may be a light swat, and for others the slap has to be a severe smack down. ...
Dating With Disabilities
No replies yet... 5 April 2013: Dating With Disabilities by Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I once went on a date with a woman that had severe food allergies. We went out to a movie and I wished she had told me ahead of time. Although she mentioned that she was deathly all...
Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen
No replies yet... 21 March 2013: Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Rejection is the worst best thing that can ever happen to you. Managing rejection is a necessary part in managing your love life. Over the course of your ...
Things they do not tell you about having kids
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15 March 2013: Things They Do Not Tell You About Having Kids By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I always try to be very practical and realistic in my articles. This can come across very negative, given that my topic is Relationships (and all things relative...
When Friendship Is Meaningless
No replies yet... 8 March 2013: Friendship Is Meaningless Stop Hanging Out With Friends Who Sexually Reject You By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Friendship is meaningless. There I said it. Now before you shoot one of your nasty emails to the editor, actually read this colum...
Who Cares What People Think? Depends...
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1 March 2013: How Much Should You Care About What Other People Think? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships T here will be times when we want to do something in our lives that is meaningful to us. It could be a decision related to abandoning education, wh...
Learn How to Choose the Right Fights!
No replies yet... 21 February 2013: Pick And Choose Your Fights By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Fighting in relationships is normal. The issue is not whether you fight. The issue is HOW a couple fights. Do they talk out their disagreements? Do they wait until they are alon...
Starting Over After V-day?
No replies yet... 14 February 2013: Starting Over? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Valentine’s day can be a day of reckoning for some people. Meaning, the events leading up to, on the day of, and afterwards can really wreck your life. This is one of the reasons I often refer to...
A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best
No replies yet... 6 February 2013: A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best By Frank Kermit, Relationships At my weekly relationship workshop last Saturday I issued one of my famous “Frankisms” that seemed to really resonate with the attendees. I was trying...
Asking Hard Questions
No replies yet... 1 February 2013: Asking Hard Questions By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships When trying to decide if you should be committed to someone, moving in with someone, getting engaged, and getting married, each new transition brings about the unpleasant task of askin...
Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix
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24 January 2013: Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix By Frank Kermit, Relationships If you ever had sex with someone that is about to get married, and have been invited to the wedding, do not go. This is especially true if the spouse-to-be feels uncomfortable havi...
Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy
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16 January 2013: Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Couples who are experiencing a transition in the status of their relationship may sometimes look to explore new ways of redefining their sex lives b...
Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships
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13 December 2012: Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships As the holiday season approaches, invitations begin to swarm in for get-togethers from family, friends and even office parties. It is a time of people coming together, and in some ca...
Couples in Transition
No replies yet... 29 November 2012: Couples in Transition By Frank Kermit, Relationships When a couple is going through a change in the status of their relationship they are a couple in transition. This includes couples that are transitioning from monogamy to non-monogamy, from no...
Your Home Is Your Seduction
No replies yet... 15 November 2012: Your Home Is Your Seduction By Frank Kermit, Relationships Your date is coming over to your place! You have seen each other a couple of times already, but this is different. This is YOUR PLACE, not some coffee shop or movie theatre or restaur...
The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey
No replies yet... 6 November 2012: The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey By Frank Kermit, Relationships The movie of your life is how we each envision our lives unfolding throughout our life span. This concept goes beyond simple fantasizing of what your life would be like. Writing ...
What Love Masks by Frank Kermit
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2 November 2012: What Love Masks By Frank Kermit, Relationships A mentor of mine taught me that love is not blind; it is just that categories are rigid. When you meet someone, you put that person in a category (lover, friend, temptation, fling, does-no...
The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work: An Article About EFT and Weight Loss
No replies yet... 2 November 2012: The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work An Article About EFT and Weight Loss I have a confession. I used to daydream about food. You know that point in the day when someone catches you; your head in your hands, that dreamy look on your face? If so...
Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type?
No replies yet... 1 November 2012: Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type? By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all have our “type”. By “type” I am referring to that type of person each of us is madly attracted too. Each of us has our preference of what we like, what turns us on, ...
Is there such a thing as Happily Single?
No replies yet... 19 October 2012: Is there such a thing as Happily Single? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Is being single really that bad? After all, when a person considers the amount of pain that a relationship or casual dating can cause, it may seem that just skipping the w...
Be Thankful For a Broken Heart
No replies yet... 11 October 2012: Be Thankful For A Broken Heart By Frank Kermit, Relationships Ok, I hate this. I really hate this part of the process. However, it is a necessary part of the process, and if I am expected to help encourage others to do it, first I have to demo...
Stop Talking About Your Ex On Dates!
No replies yet... 5 October 2012: Stop Talking So Much About Your Ex By Frank Kermit, Relationships So you are on a date with someone new. You are excited. You are nervous. You hope that this is finally going to be the one. You meet. So far, you both like what you see. This...
Dating in Social Circles
No replies yet... 29 September 2012: Dating In Social Circles By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dating can be tricky. Does the other person like you the way you think he or she might? Do you really like that person enough to get more serious, or do you want to keep it more casual a...
Frank Guide to Speed Dating
No replies yet... 21 September 2012: Frank Guide To Speed Dating By Frank Kermit, Relationships Every way to meet someone new is a good way. Though friends, through the Internet, blind dates, approaching someone you want to meet, at a workshop, matchmaking companies, business conv...
Relationship Goal Setting
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15 September 2012: Relationship Goal Setting By Frank Kermit, Relationships Setting goals in most areas of your life can be challenging. When it comes to relationships, there are even more challenges. Whereas in other areas of your life such as education, emplo...
Battling The Savior Complex in Relationships
No replies yet... 6 September 2012: Battling The Savior Complex By Frank Kermit, Relationships As children, many of us grew up on stories about the hero that saves a person, and in the process, earned the undying love and loyalty of the person saved so that the hero and that saved ...
Get Out Of Your Own Way!
No replies yet... 30 August 2012: Get Out Of Your Own Way By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest obstacles that a person can have as an obstruction on their path of finding happiness, peace and healing for their love life, is themselves. Although most people wou...
Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow
No replies yet... 26 August 2012: Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow By Frank Kermit, Relationships Young adults tend to discount how the choices they make today will impact their futures tomorrow. At least, when it comes to relationships. The bes...
Are You A Partner Or A Liability?
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17 August 2012: Are You A Partner Or A Liability? When it really is you and not them By Frank Kermit, Relationships “It’s not you, it’s me.” Have you ever heard that said to you when someone broke up with you? Have you ever been the one to use it when dump...
The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships
No replies yet... 9 August 2012: The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships There are 7 certain words that catch many people off guard when it comes to relationships. They are: Lust, Love, Sex, Dating, Commitment, Marriage, and Monogamy. ...
Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss.
No replies yet... 20 July 2012: Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss By Frank Kermit, Relationships Are you too nice when it comes to relationships? Do you walk on eggshells because you do not want to upset your partner? Are you reluctant to enforce your bounda...
Re-Establishing Trust in a Relationship Article
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12 July 2012: Broken Trust Takes More Than Time To Re-Establish By Frank Kermit, Relationships Trust is one of the most important components of a relationship. Love is a great start, but it takes more than loving someone, or being loved by someone, to make ...
Understanding Emotional Needs
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4 July 2012: Understanding Emotional Needs: What We Respond To Versus What We Should Like By Frank Kermit, Relationships Emotional needs are about what a person responds to. It has nothing to do with what a person should like. We all should be attracte...
Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date
No replies yet... 29 June 2012: Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date By Frank Kermit, Relationships When you are on a date, and the person you are getting to know says or does something that triggers a well-honed instinct that you need to stop dating that person, you hav...
The Art of Storytelling on a Date
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Art of Storytelling: Make or Break A Relationship Happy Ending By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the challenges that people face when they go on dates is that they may not factor in that others will not understand what they are trying ...
Swinger Beginner Advice
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Swinger Beginners: Keep it Out of the Work Place By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dear Frank, My husband and I recently returned from a business trip/vacation where a few of my husband's co-workers also brought their wives. We really hit it o...
When your Ex becomes a symbol and you can't get over it
No replies yet... 13 June 2012: When Your Ex Becomes A Symbol Relationship Symbolism of Why You Are Still Hooked By Frank Kermit, Relationships We are surrounded by the power of symbols. A symbol is more than just a design we recognize; symbols are a means of making meaning. ...
Ally Vs Enemy: Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men
No replies yet... 9 June 2012: Is She His Ally or His Enemy? Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men By Frank Kermit, Relationships The best way I know how to teach people about the emotional needs of men is to break it down to absolute fundamentals. If people can und...
Dating After A Break Up - Just How Long Should You Wait?
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1 June 2012: Dating After Breaking Up? The Sooner The Better By Frank Kermit, Relationships “How much time should I wait before I start dating again?” is a common question that I get asked from someone that has just recently gotten dumped, and still sufferi...
Relationship Redemption: How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure
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23 May 2012: Relationship Redemption How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all make mistakes in life. If you have ever tried to get into a relationship, are in a relationship, or are recovering from a relationship, ...
Finding The Meaning Of Your Life And Relationships
No replies yet... 15 May 2012: The Meaning of your Relationships Starts With The Meaning Of Your Life By Frank Kermit, Relationships Contemplate your death. No seriously. In order to make meanings of your relationships past, present and those you will have in the futur...
The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women
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10 May 2012: The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women By Frank Kermit, Relationships A woman can only play one of two roles in a man’s life. She is either his mother or his lover. She cannot be both. When a man addresses a wom...
Moving To The Next Level: Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships
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1 May 2012: Moving To The Next Level Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest mistakes people make in relationships is to promote someone up the hierarchy of commitment that has not really earned it. I...
Beware Your Friends when it comes to love
No replies yet... 15 April 2012: Beware Your Friends They May Not Want You To Be Loved By Frank Kermit, Relationships Mistakes Singles Make # 6… Seeking the approval of friends that influences your love life choices. Love may come and go, but a friendship can last a lifetim...
Are Relationships Worth The Risk?
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8 April 2012: Relationships = Risk But is it really worth it? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Given that there is so much risk in getting involved in relationships, or having sex for that matter, is it at all worth it to even bother? After all, a broken hear...
Tattoos and Relationships
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24 March 2012: Beware The L-I-N-K Of (L)ove and (INK) By Frank Kermit, Relationships While at a coffee shop a few weeks ago, I met a tattoo artist. He had his son’s name tattooed on his hand, and being the ever-inquisitive one, I asked him about his profession...
Open Relationships and Infidelity
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17 March 2012: Open Relationships Do Not Always Stave Off Infidelity By Frank Kermit, Relationships Some people believe that one of the surest ways to guarantee fidelity is to only do open relationships. The premise is that people only cheat in monogamous ...
What is a Relationship?
No replies yet... 10 March 2012: What is a Relationship? Is best defined by what it’s NOT By Frank Kermit, Relationships Over the years, I have been asked a number of times “What is a Relationship?” This is a harder question to answer than most people think. In my experience,...
Engaged! Now what?
No replies yet... 19 February 2012: Pre Marital Disclosure What you don’t know, you must know By Frank Kermit, Relationships Valentines day has come and gone. Some relationships have started. Some relationships have ended, and some relationships have proceeded to the next le...
Making Monogamy Work
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5 February 2012: Making Monogamy Work By Frank Kermit, Relationships Monogamy is easier than open relationships, because the rules are simpler...but the application of the rules of monogamy is not as easy. Monogamy works for monogamous people...however...
Single Parent Dating, Not Just a Single Issue
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3 February 2012: Single Parent Dating – More Than Just A Single Issue By Frank Kermit At least 40% of marriages end in divorce. Depending on the study you read, the percentage can be higher. Even though the break down of families continues, the drive that ma...
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I'd like to get back together w/ my ex even though she cheated on me.
Q. My ex cheated on me with a womanizer. they were together for 8 months and then he cheated; everyone warned her but she wouldn't listen! I still have strong feelings for her, and (very illogical) would like to get back with her).. However, I don't...
A. 25 February 2008: Hi Tommy,
I got an email from her this morning, saying that she feels she can tell me anything, so that is good to hear.
Sorry, but I disagree. It sounds like she sees you as a friend, not a lover. She should not be telling you things about... (read in full...)
My fiance cheated and she's pregnant. He told her in front of me that he doesn't love her but will I ever trust him again?
Q. I found out a few months ago that my Fiance had been cheating on me for 2years and the girl is now pregnant. He told her infront of me that he doesnt love her and has always loved me but couldnt seem to get rid of her. Will i ever be able to trust ...
A. 1 September 2007: You asked: Does nobody think I could ever get over this?
Not if you let this turkey back into your life.
You asked: every other thing about him is so perfect and I never thought he'd do something this bad
Perfect? HE LEFT YOU WHE... (read in full...)
My fiance cheated and she's pregnant. He told her in front of me that he doesn't love her but will I ever trust him again?
Q. I found out a few months ago that my Fiance had been cheating on me for 2years and the girl is now pregnant. He told her infront of me that he doesnt love her and has always loved me but couldnt seem to get rid of her. Will i ever be able to trust ...
A. 1 September 2007: You asked: Does nobody think I could ever get over this?
Not if you let this turkey back into your life.
You asked: every other thing about him is so perfect and I never thought he'd do something this bad
Perfect? HE LEFT YOU WHE... (read in full...)
I'm not keen on giving oral. But I want to please him. I feel a bit guilty?
Q. ok well me (20) and my new boyfriend (26) have started having sex and hes given me oral but i havent given him yet because it makes me feel sick doing it so ive only done it twice before. i want to please him but im worried as i will be rubbish as ...
A. 31 August 2007: Hi Duce00 et al,
Perhaps some info...In any couple and with any gender, when one partner is not getting the sexual attention they crave over a long period, it is more than likely that, assuming the sexual attention is important enough to the pers... (read in full...)
I'm not keen on giving oral. But I want to please him. I feel a bit guilty?
Q. ok well me (20) and my new boyfriend (26) have started having sex and hes given me oral but i havent given him yet because it makes me feel sick doing it so ive only done it twice before. i want to please him but im worried as i will be rubbish as ...
A. 31 August 2007: There is two things here:
1-Doing it makes you feel sick
2-You are worried that you are not good.
If it is #2, then consider that the only way to get good at something is to practice. I doubt he is expecting super skills out of you, and if he i... (read in full...)
My fiance cheated and she's pregnant. He told her in front of me that he doesn't love her but will I ever trust him again?
Q. I found out a few months ago that my Fiance had been cheating on me for 2years and the girl is now pregnant. He told her infront of me that he doesnt love her and has always loved me but couldnt seem to get rid of her. Will i ever be able to trust ...
A. 31 August 2007: You are young enough to find someone that will not secret saddle you with step children sired out of infidelity.
Find someone else.
This isn't forgetting to put the toilet seat down, or opening his mouth about a secret when he should not have.... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant by the guy I've been having an affair with! I dont need judging, I just need some advice...
Q. I have been seeing this guy for years. Before you judge me you don't have to live my life and there is a lot of screwed up stuff in my marriage. I am married and scared to death of my husband. I found out that I am pregnant and don't know what to ...
A. 31 August 2007: Wow. Ok, what I am going to say is not going to be popular.
Firstly, I think you should terminate the pregnancy, or put the child up for adoption. When a child comes into the world, it deserves to have certain things like love, support, and be c... (read in full...)
My friend is Bi curious and I love her! She said she wanted to experiment with me. Should I tell her I love her????
Q. Hi, I hope you can help! I'm 20 and I was recently joking with my friend that's also a girl that I would give her oral sex and have sex with her because she has never had it and I said that she is missing out on it! She's never had any sexual e...
A. 31 August 2007: I would suggest that you have sex first, and in the heat of the moment, tell her. Telling her beforehand might scare her off if she sees herself as only curious and not fully bi.
If you tell her in the heat of the moment, and later she starts t... (read in full...)
I'm scared to death because my boyfriend is stalking me..
Q. okay heres the thing! I'm scared to death because my boyfriend is stalking me.. he loves me so much. He cries every time we part. Okay it may seem sweet but it gets annoying. He wants to marry me, and we have only been togetehr for 2 weeks.. he ...
A. 31 August 2007: Firstly talk to your parents, and his if possible. This relationship needs to end now. He sounds unstable. It is not love, but possesiveness. If he continues to pursue you, look into speaking to your principle (assuming you go to the same ... (read in full...)
How can you tell if someone is cheating? I suspect my dad is, on my mum!
Q. How can you tell if someone is cheating on their wife...i suspect my dad may be cheating on my mom with a close relative. ...
A. 30 August 2007: Stay out of it. This is between your parents and not for you to get involved with.
If you MUST get involved, talk to the parent you think is cheating, but I would advise against it.
Fact is, you have NO IDEA if they themselves have an open rel... (read in full...)
His family say i look like his ex wife from 13 yrs ago, he says he took 5 years to get over her and I dont want to be someone elses shadow!
Q. Well I had a bf (he's 35, I'm 26) that I had been dating for about five months. We got along great and were very much inlove. When we were getting to know each other we had talked a little about our exes. He had told me that he had been married and ...
A. 30 August 2007: I'm the poster. I don't know what you mean by "a relationship built up in his mind." What does that mean?
For some people when they are in a relationship, they start to envision a future with this person...kids, good times, bad times, what lif... (read in full...)
I virtually met my ex after over 37 years, without our spouses' knowledge, and we love each other again...
Q. I found my ex-girlfriend after 37 years, she in Denmark and I in Canada. We e-mail, MSN and talk (hours every day) without our spouses knowledge. We are both happily married. Now we tell each other how we love each other agin and plan to meet. Any ...
A. 30 August 2007: What exactly is it that you are trying to recapture here? The fact that your spouces do not know means you know what you are doing is wrong.
My advice is NOT to meet, and to grow up.
Cut off contact with her, or divorce your spouce.
-Fran... (read in full...)
How do you get someone to accept a relationship is over and deal with depression?
Q. How do you get someone to realize a relationship is over and start taking healthy steps to put their life back together. My ex is still severely depressed. He won't go out and socialize, meet new people or do anything to create a support system ...
A. 30 August 2007: As long as you keep showing him attention for his bad behavior, he will continue this bad behavior.
Contact his friends and family. Let them know what is going on, and that he is making you think he is suicidal...then cut ALL contact with him... (read in full...)
My husband senses the closeness I have with my cousin. We are both married, should we pursue a relationship together?
Q. I have been married twice. The first, was very short at a very young age. The second, is my current husband. We have been married and together between 5-10 years. We share several children. He has a child from a previous relationship and we ...
A. 30 August 2007: You asked: My husband senses the closeness we share and doesn't want me talking to him, or questions me about it. What should I do?
You should listen to your husband. Are you sure you want to go for divorce number 3?
Should we still t... (read in full...)
Would it be wrong to have a gay relationship with my ex-teacher?
Q. Hi everyone. I'm a 16-year-old bisexual female, turning 17 in November. Anyway, I've become very attracted to a 28-year-old female friend of mine. She's actually one of my ex-teachers, but we get along great and have loads in common. I geniun...
A. 30 August 2007: Wait until you are 18 (or whatever the legal age in your home country is), and that she has no chance of ever being your teacher again.
Once that is out of the way...go ahead.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
My girlfriends giving me the cold shoulder and i dont know why???
Q. Hi folks my girlfriend came home from classes today kinda distant (or so it seemed) When I asked her about it, she didnt respond until later, phoning me to give me some cold shoulder sandwich. I overreacted, said how i didnt deserve that ou...
A. 30 August 2007: Firstly, her mood may have NOTHING to do with you, and unless you can pinpoint something specific do not even Assume you did anything wrong to begin with.
Stop being so apologetic. You were right to get angery. She is treating you like shit. ... (read in full...)
I live in NYC and he is in Philly and that sometimes when we see each other he just isn't as excited anymore that I'm coming to visit. How do I get my relationship back on track and get that spark back into our lives.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years and recently he has told me that he loves me and wants to make the relationship work but doesn't feel the same passion that he used to. I live in NYC and he is in Philly and that sometimes when we ...
A. 30 August 2007: It is normail to love the spark over time, and wanting to try to rekindle it, but I ahve to ask:
Why are you in different cities? After 5 years, wouldn't one of you made efforts to be in the same city as the other?
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
She's very affectionate with her male friend..trying not to jump to conclusion but struggling here. Any advice?
Q. Hi, I've been with my g/f for 3 years and although we're currently living 50 miles away cos of my work, I hoped she could move to be with me soon, We get to see each other at only weekends, I haven't been pushy asking her to move as I know it would ...
A. 30 August 2007: I think that it is possible that nothing is going on with the friend, but that she just LOVES the attention.
Start seeing other girls, and have as many female friends as possible. If all she is missing is the attraction for you, this will bri... (read in full...)
I talk to this guy as a mate but he has a girlfriend. She sees me as a threat. What should I do?
Q. One of my best friends introduced me to a guy. He claims he has been trying to talk to me for a long time. And I know he has but I never gave him the time of day. Now we've been talking for about a year... He has a girlfriend. He claims he likes me ...
A. 30 August 2007: It sounds like she is right...you are a threat.
Do you want to be with him? Yes or No. If you do, make your move. If not, end the friendship, as he obviously has a thing for you.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
I fancy my mates guy. She doesn't want him anymore so should i go there?
Q. Theres this boy I fancy.But hes going out with my mate. Though she recently told me, she wants to dump him.If she dumps him should I make a move? HHEELLPP!!...
A. 30 August 2007: You are too young to be plotting against your friend like this.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
Is my ex trying to make me jealous by calling my mate????
Q. Well...most of you know my story from past posts...the guy i love and i go to different colleges and after a great summer where we saw each other almost every day we are now both back at school and not seeing each other exclusively. Everyone on ...
A. 30 August 2007: I think you need to consider that your ex is trying to get your friend into bed, which is why he calls her.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
I hadn't seen him for 12 years. I like him. Does he just see me as a friend???
Q. hey dearcupid.. I am 14 and met up with this guy today and have known him since i was born as our parents were really good friends. Today was the first time i saw him in 12 years or so. At first it was slightly awkward as i fancied him and ...
A. 30 August 2007: This can not be a real question.
You fancied him when you were only 2 years old, and now want to know if you are just friends?
You remember him from 2 years old? its been 12 years, and......
Oh please, this can NOT be a real question. ... (read in full...)
He's a major flirt! It's very frustrating!
Q. What to do? Should I ask him to leave? We've been married for nearly twenty years and have two doting children. But you can bet that almost every holiday we have ends up in frustration and near separation, because of his prolonged eye-contact with a ...
A. 30 August 2007: If the worst he is doing is looking at other women, then GET OVER IT.
If he is cheating on you, has children with other women, then you have something to complain about.
Try turning it around. You be the one to point out girls for him to look ... (read in full...)
I asked her to the cinema but she hasn't called or txt? Why not???
Q. I asked a girl to the pictures. She's a good mate of mine. She said she'll tell me next week. She said she'll ring otherwise i should ring. It's thursday and she hasn't! Why not? She seems happy and up for it, but i'm unsure whether i should call ...
A. 30 August 2007: Firstly, she is NOT your eveything. That kind of devotion must be earned, and if she does not even call you back, that is NOT earning being your "everything". It is this kind fo neediness that will scare her off if you keep it up.
Next, you are ... (read in full...)
We have an age gap and his children dont approve. What to do???
Q. I am 24 and my boyfriend is 51 with two teenage boys. This past weekend we both had said to eachother that we are 'forever'. Well last night his sons had sat him down and expressed how they do not approve of the age gap. Now for him and myself, we ...
A. 30 August 2007: I am happy for you that you found love with this man, and assuming he remembers that he and you are the adults, he is going to do the adult thing.
That being said, I can honestly say that if I were one of his sons, I would feel the same way. You... (read in full...)
His family say i look like his ex wife from 13 yrs ago, he says he took 5 years to get over her and I dont want to be someone elses shadow!
Q. Well I had a bf (he's 35, I'm 26) that I had been dating for about five months. We got along great and were very much inlove. When we were getting to know each other we had talked a little about our exes. He had told me that he had been married and ...
A. 30 August 2007: What does this all mean??
Chances are his family just wants to see him happy, and they think you will make him happy. His sister getting involved was not good, but he started it when instead of staying with you to deal with it like a man, or ... (read in full...)
Help for a man that can't commit.
Q. Are there any books, articles, other help for MEN WHO CAN'T COMMIT/LOVE? When you google it, all you find are books warning women about these men or how/why women fall for men like this. How about HELP for the man himself??? (He wants it! He ...
A. 23 August 2007: WOW. I can not begin to imagine the war going on himside right now.
There are two things I am going to suggest.
1-He must first cater to the little boy in him, show some love and tenderness. This will help him get closure on that part of ... (read in full...)
My wife is bi and wants to explore women. I am ok with that, but have some fears.
Q. Hell All, I am a 28yr old Male from Michigan, I shall call myself "Travis". I recently have gotton married to "Anne" she is 26. Before we married she stated that she is BI-Curious and would like to explore her curiosity. Well after being marr...
A. 22 August 2007: I gave some Frank Advice on threesomes, on this topic on youtube. See if you can track down the video. Here are some ground rules:
She is not to explore with any current friends or co-workers, as it could turn sour, and ruin your connecti... (read in full...)
I discovered my boyfriend has a profile on a gay website!!!
Q. Background: I am living with my boyfriend of 4 years. I am in my 30's he in his mid-40's. He was previously married for 14 years and has two kids. I have 2 kids from previous marriage as well. He is in the military, and last year I left my job, ...
A. 21 August 2007: I think he will refuse to deal with the truth about himself as long as you refuse to find a way to deal in an open relationship that will satisfy his orientation.
This is a catch 22 being set up. You want him to accept himself, but that means (a... (read in full...)
Help for a man that can't commit.
Q. Are there any books, articles, other help for MEN WHO CAN'T COMMIT/LOVE? When you google it, all you find are books warning women about these men or how/why women fall for men like this. How about HELP for the man himself??? (He wants it! He ...
A. 20 August 2007: Hey there,
My site is Franktalks.com, and if you read my profile, all the links to the books are there.
As for what is the matter, it could be one of two things.
The first is that he is holding out for something better. However, from w... (read in full...)
Was he staring at my chest?
Q. I really fancy my teacher and I want to know if he fancies me back.One day in my school corridor when I was going into a lesson,I flicked my hair(more obviously than I actually had intended to) and he looked at me really suprised...I though at first ...
A. 18 August 2007: You are playing a dangerous game. Flicking your hair...the flirting...you are playing with fire. He is your teacher, and he could lose his job, and even go to jail for the way you go out of your way to intice him. If you really fancy him, STOP ... (read in full...)
I am in love with her but she just wants to be friends.
Q. Hi I’m single and a bloke. The problem is I’m in love with a girl that I know who just wants to be friends but the worst thing it’s hard for me to accept this. Is there anybody out there can help!!...
A. 18 August 2007: Stop chasing her, and stop being her friend...no listening to her problems (no being her terapist).
The only way she will see you as a sexual being now, is for you to date other women. She needs to see that other women desire you. Once that hap... (read in full...)
How can I tell if I'm bisexual or not?
Q. i go to an all girls school and am around alot of girls permanently i have kissed a girl before and other things but i dont see that as being bisexual i just see it as experimenting and being young, i have a boyfriend who i love alot and am boy ...
A. 18 August 2007: Hi There,
I did an interview with a bisexual woman about this, and you can listen to it at this link:
http://franktalks.com/?content=pastshow_leclerc
There are people that consider any experimenting to be a form of bisexuality, and others ... (read in full...)
He talks about my sister when we are having sex.
Q. i have a boyfreind who is just a lil older than me. he is 24 and im 17 .we got along so well in the begining of our relationship and now its just falling apart it seems .he asked me if i wanted to have a threesome with my sister! i feel uncomfor...
A. 18 August 2007: What do you do?
You DUMP any man that would make a pass at your sister just becuase you are not around.
How can you expect him to respect you or your boundaries, when you would still continue to be with him after that?
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
My last two relatioship have ended by the man i love dying.
Q. Okay.So this is my story. I have not made this up. I met the love of ny life, my soulmate, and we were together for 4 years. He was ill with depression (we thought) then he died suddenly with Crohns disease. I met someone else rapidly-...
A. 18 August 2007: Hi Jo,
Whoa...I almost do not beleive this story. Tragic.
Firstly, the person you have to love first is you. I do not see it as you losing these men, as much as I see you as their gift of love for a life that was destined to end when it did.... (read in full...)
Help for a man that can't commit.
Q. Are there any books, articles, other help for MEN WHO CAN'T COMMIT/LOVE? When you google it, all you find are books warning women about these men or how/why women fall for men like this. How about HELP for the man himself??? (He wants it! He ...
A. 18 August 2007: Yes, my book "I'm a Man, That's My Job: The Philosophy of a Seducer" is designed to turn boys into men, and get them to grow up once and for all. The section on the meaning of life (base life philosophies # 8) is key. It is an inner game workbook ... (read in full...)
He went to a strip club, it's upsetting.
Q. I have been going steady and am now engaged to a great guy. I do however have a problem which is causing great concern for me. I really love this man. I found out after a night out that he went to a strip club and this really upset me, since th...
A. 18 August 2007: To respond to this question: As for the men who think it's o.k. let me ask this, is it o.k. if the shoe is on the other foot...if your woman strips on amateur night because she likes the attention men give her?
YES. Going to a male strip club or ... (read in full...)
I'd like to get back together w/ my ex even though she cheated on me.
Q. My ex cheated on me with a womanizer. they were together for 8 months and then he cheated; everyone warned her but she wouldn't listen! I still have strong feelings for her, and (very illogical) would like to get back with her).. However, I don't...
A. 18 August 2007: It is OK to want her back, but it is not ok to take her back just because she asks.
The best way to play it cool is to play it honestly WITH A CHALLENGE.
Let her know that you "would" like her back, BUT she has to EARN your trust again. Sh... (read in full...)
I want to give my husband the best blow job ever, but i dont know how.
Q. My husband and i have been trying new things i want to give him the best blow job ever but not sure how he is the only man i have done this to. He would tell me it was good even if it wasn't Come on guys help me out....
A. 18 August 2007: Ok, I have to admit, I really (REALLY) like the advice in this thread ;)
There is a book out written by a gay man, written for women on this topic of how to give a man oral. I don't know the name of it (never looked into it), but it seems to... (read in full...)
He went to a strip club, it's upsetting.
Q. I have been going steady and am now engaged to a great guy. I do however have a problem which is causing great concern for me. I really love this man. I found out after a night out that he went to a strip club and this really upset me, since th...
A. 18 August 2007: I have to ask what it is about strip clubs that makes you so angry? Is it that he is looking at other girls? Do you worry he will cheat on you with them? Do you think it is morally wrong?
I am also going to suggest that if he likes going th... (read in full...)
She is moving in with three guys she does ot know.
Q. My girlfriend of 4 months is really good looking!! but im worried she is moving in with three guys she doesnt know!!! Should i be worried? Will she find them more attractive, or fall for one of them, they must fancy her that is why they gave ...
A. 18 August 2007: Firstly, if she is that good looking, you can bet she ALREADY gets hit on alot.
Next, you have only been dating for 4 months...unless the two of you have made exceptional long term plans, she is free to live with who she wants.
Do I think th... (read in full...)
My 11 year old daughter is looking at porn on the internet.
Q. I found out my 11 year old daughter looks at porn on the internet. She doesn't know I know yet. Should I say something to her? If so, what? And should I tell my wife first?...
A. 18 August 2007: Firstly talk to your wife, so that she knows.
She is 11...depending where she is getting the porn from is the issue for me. Is she getting it from someone that is an internet phedophile? THAT is the major issue for me.
SHe is old enough to be... (read in full...)
A friend of mine fooled around with another friend's fiancee... should I tell?
Q. My friend is getting married in two days and the night of her bachlorette party another friend of mine fooled around with her finance. I am not sure what to do with this information, I know that if I tell my friend what happened she might not ...
A. 18 August 2007: If it were you in this situation (being cheated on)...what would you want? Really, honestly...not what you think you should want, but what you really really would want. Would you want to be told?
Either way, there will be consequences.
If y... (read in full...)
I discovered my boyfriend has a profile on a gay website!!!
Q. Background: I am living with my boyfriend of 4 years. I am in my 30's he in his mid-40's. He was previously married for 14 years and has two kids. I have 2 kids from previous marriage as well. He is in the military, and last year I left my job, ...
A. 17 August 2007: Ouch.
Look, it is OK to get angry, but do not let the emotional control your actions.
See out that support group I mentioned earlier. You will be around people that can understand your feelings right now.
He is mostly likely bi...maybe... (read in full...)
I discovered pictures of an ex, over 4 years ago I believe which were all of her in posing in underwear.
Q. Hi There I am writing as in a new relationship - 4 months ish. I am totally infatuated with this guy and he seems just as keen but something is still niggling at me all the time telling me I couldn’t be as lucky to get someone I like this much l...
A. 17 August 2007: I am a guy about to get married, and I have EVERY nude/semi-nude pics of my exs...somewhere in the house. I do not look at them, unless I come across them, but it is more of curiousity and memory lane, than any serious attachment.
No, it does not... (read in full...)
I discovered my boyfriend has a profile on a gay website!!!
Q. Background: I am living with my boyfriend of 4 years. I am in my 30's he in his mid-40's. He was previously married for 14 years and has two kids. I have 2 kids from previous marriage as well. He is in the military, and last year I left my job, ...
A. 14 August 2007: There are support groups for people with gay and bi partners. I would suggest that you look one up and see if you can meet others in similar situations.
They may have you along the rest of the path you are on.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
I discovered my boyfriend has a profile on a gay website!!!
Q. Background: I am living with my boyfriend of 4 years. I am in my 30's he in his mid-40's. He was previously married for 14 years and has two kids. I have 2 kids from previous marriage as well. He is in the military, and last year I left my job, ...
A. 13 August 2007: Hey There,
You said: I realized at that point, that I never really knew my brother. One of the most important people in my life, and because of my misguided intolerence I didn't really know him. It was truly heartbreaking for me, and I vowed at... (read in full...)
I discovered my boyfriend has a profile on a gay website!!!
Q. Background: I am living with my boyfriend of 4 years. I am in my 30's he in his mid-40's. He was previously married for 14 years and has two kids. I have 2 kids from previous marriage as well. He is in the military, and last year I left my job, ...
A. 11 August 2007: First things first: Get yourself tested for STDs. Now.
Next,
He is either gay or bi. Would you still want to be with him if her were bi? If so, work on reaching a point where you are strong enough for the truth, and he is comfortable enou... (read in full...)
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