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I don't feel like a woman because I have a small chest!

Q.   I am 28 years old and am 4'10" and weigh about 95 lbs and my chest is rather small....is that a big deal for men? My husband says he doesn't care and that I'm perfect, but is he telling the truth? He's always told me that he is a "butt" man and I ...

A.   2 May 2008: butts rule :P... (read in full...)

My heart is broken into little bits and he wont take responsibility

Q.   I apologize that this is very long, i feel i need to explain the events, please if you could, just give me some insight: Our 1 year anniversary would have been next week. I met him, and fell for him right away, he always told me he always knew w...

A.   17 April 2008: Get the hell rid of this guy!!!!! Step aside, do his actions really seem that of a loving caring boyfriend? Is this relationship truly making you happy? There are millions of guys out there, dont settle for anything less :) Good Luck.... (read in full...)

I feel guilty about watching a sex video of an ex boyfriend, is that considered cheating and should I tell my current partner?

Q.   I have been in a great relationship with my boyfriend for over a year now, but I got into it right after I broke up with my ex of 8 months. My ex and I made a sex video that I had on my computer, and during the first few months of my new ...

A.   16 April 2008: If I was your boyfriend I wouldn't want to be told, you say yourself it would upset him to know so why bother. I wouldn't consider it cheating. You realise what you did was'nt appropriate and you appear to honestly regret it, put it behind y... (read in full...)

Am I missing her or just missing being in a relationship?

Q.   Hey Cupids. Perhaps you can help me. My ex and I started dating last may/june. She was always on/off with me, some nights telling me she never wants to let me go, others giving me the cold shoulder. This resulted in her breaking up with...

A.   30 March 2008: Thanks for your advice all. dearkelja, I would agree its easier for me to fall back to her again rather than seek out someone else, and I would question her motives if she made contact again. rhythmandblues2, I think she was afriad of it get... (read in full...)

Why cant I find Mr. Right?

Q.   What is wrong with me? I am soo desperate and ready to meet someone and date them etc However, any guys that I meet or seem to want to go out with me, I have no interest in whatsoever. There are a few guys that text me a lot, wanna see me etc but I ...

A.   26 February 2008: Were not all heartbreakers :) Strange though, the only girl I ever really liked messed me around too. I really want to find someone again but similar too you after half a year, I dont settle for anything, we just have to hold on and wait for them... (read in full...)

Wasn't prepared for returned feelings.

Q.   Hey all only me, So I had my graduation ceremony today and saw my ex again for the first time in 3 months since she broke up with me. It was bittersweet. We didnt speak, or even make eye contact, but we must have see each other walk up on stage...

A.   1 February 2008: Thanks for the advice Taurusscorpioascendent and Mistify. Since yesturday she has been on my mind constantly. I'm tired of feeling like this, ever since our first breakup last june she has been the first and last thing on my mind everyday... (read in full...)

Do I give my ex a third chance????

Q.   Hi Aunts My relationship with my has always been very on/off. We have both just graduated and she had previously broken up with before over the summer. I was totally destroyed and spent my whole summer trying desperatly to get over her. We got talk...

A.   18 January 2008: Yes I do still have feelings for her, when it was good is It was amazing. I really dont know whether to give it another go, I think about her a lot. I just cant be sure she's changed, maybe she has. ... (read in full...)

Why is he STILL contacting me?

Q.   I hadn't heard from my ex fiance since christmas eve, after I told him for the thirtieth time very sternly to not contact me, and then just today I got a text from him asking where a certain restaurant was that he forgot how to get to, also saying ...

A.   14 January 2008: You mention he is your fiance. 3 months is very early to get over someone who you fell in love with and were willing to spend the rest of your life with. He is obviously still in love. The directions are irelevant I think you know that, he wants to ... (read in full...)

I want him to beg.

Q.   Hi everyone, I really need some advice. My boyfriend treated me bad. I am willing to forgive him this time though!! As long as he learns from it. The only thing wrecking my head is im the 1 contacting him and asking to meet up. He isn't crawling or ...

A.   14 January 2008: I think its just your ex trying to maintain a bit of pride. You cant really force him to beg. Play hard to get maybe? Although If he treated you badly why do you want him back?!!!!! Find yourself someone who will treat you right.... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is going on a trip to Florida and didn't invite me to come. I'm thinking of maybe breaking up with him, but I'm scared to make a mistake then??

Q.   my boyfriend is going away to florida for a week with his friend who is turning 21. They're going to stay at his other friend's apartment when they get there. We've been together for three months now and i do love him a lot but i don't think it's ...

A.   27 December 2007: Hi, Is this perhaps more a trust issue than you feeling bad about him not inviting you I wonder? You say you dont want to make him feel handcuffed, so whats the problem? He swears he wont cheat, you love him, let him have some fun. Its only a w... (read in full...)

I want my ex back. Do I show her I want her, or play hard to get?

Q.   Last weekend I split up with my girlfriend of 15 months; she said that although I am "perfect in every way", there is simply "something missing" and that as long as she feels that way she will not be entirely happy in the relationship. This came as ...

A.   26 November 2007: Man my ex was EXACTLY the same!!!! Same situation - she's at uni, not many friends and such we had a lot of contact - on the phone or msn every day. She was a little mixed up and felt she needed to be more independant and not rely on me so much. Sh... (read in full...)

I miss her so much it hurts! Should I call her or should I wait to not ruin the work of getting over her?

Q.   Hey all my original post is here: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-ex-has-been-giving-me-the-runaround.html So i've now started a new job since uni graduation, I am living in a new location, new house with new people. The thing ...

A.   17 November 2007: thanks anonymous and hlskitten. I really wish i was'nt so hung up over this girl. Its the togetherness and intamacy I miss, it takes me a long time to find a girl I like - it was 2.5 years between my ex and the girl before. I cant handle wa... (read in full...)

We didn't talk for a couple of weeks after an argument; soon after that, she got engaged, came back, left again. It's been a month and she's trying to contact me from hidden no. I don't know what to do.

Q.   i am going through the worst feeling inside ive ever had. i had been with my ex off and on for 5 years. just recently we got into an argument and didnt talk for a couple of weeks and the next thing i know she's engaged! she went on vacation ...

A.   17 November 2007: Hey, god I think out ex's are related! I know exactly how you feel, I have been on/ff with my ex since early this year. One day she tells me she loves me and that I am her world, the next she is blunt telling me over the phone she does'nt want me ... (read in full...)

II would kill to get back with my ex!

Q.   why can't he understnad that i love him soo much and i will kill for him to get back with me? i would really do anything to get him back if only i knew how! any advice would really help ....

A.   12 November 2007: Perhaps he doesn't know, talk to him !... (read in full...)

We were friends with benefits, now I want a serious relationship, can I trust him?

Q.   Alright so we started out as a one night stand about 3 years ago when I was 16 and he was 23. After that we became friends with benefits and remained that way for a long time, while I was completely in love with him. I started applying pressure to ...

A.   1 November 2007: Hey, GET RID OF THIS GUY!! He knows he can get away with cheating and you will always come back if he lays on a bit of sweet talk. The more times you keep going back the stronger it reinforces the idea he can get away with it. Where is your se... (read in full...)

She's not speaking to me

Q.   the girl im with at the moment is not speaking to me after we had a weekend away together, i have been with her for a while and last night we was having a text chat like we normally do and she asked me about my past relationships, and because i ...

A.   31 October 2007: Hi, What is it with girls and not replying quck enough to texts eh I would give her a day or two to cool off, then go and speak to her face to face if possible, if not ring her. Explain your reasons for not texting back, it freaked you out a li... (read in full...)

I find her offer extremely tempting, but I have some concerns about it

Q.   Hi i have been given the come on by a mates wife, he recently had a affair and she found out. now she want to try and see what its like with someone else. she proposed that we should get together and try it. we have done some kissing and pe...

A.   31 October 2007: Hi, I think this is a very bad idea! You have a wife, end of story! Remeber those vows you took at the alter. You risk losing everything if your wife found out, could you live with the guilt knowing that you had cheated on her? You need... (read in full...)

Overnight tips on getting rid of spots!

Q.   Hi, I have a day tomorrow, and my face just exploded with zits! OMG! Does anyone have some quick tips that I could use to get rid of them, or at least hide them?...

A.   30 October 2007: Ok I'm a guy, but hey, we all have skin! I find that 'concealer stick' works well, you can get it from most stores. Dont pick at them unless you really must...pop....err gross :P ... (read in full...)

Lack of communication is hurting me

Q.   Been going out with this girl for a few months now. Everything was great for the first few weeks, but college has kinda taken over our lives. It has become harder and harder to see each other, so I text her once a day just to check in. Sometimes, ...

A.   29 October 2007: Hi, You need to sit down and talk with her face to face. There is no point in skirting round the issue, you should'nt feel stupid about it - confront the issue,its sillier to carry on pretending its ok when it obviously bothers you! When you are... (read in full...)

Help!!! How do I get a second chance at love with my ex?

Q.   My ex and I broke up at the beginning of the summer. He initiated it, saying he wasn't ready and just couldn't do it. I was heartbroken (and still am). Truthfully, we both made mistakes leading to the break-up. He was emotionally closed off and that ...

A.   29 October 2007: Heya, I Think sending a cheque along with a letter would be a nice gesture. Try to make the letter light hearted and casual, no mushy stuff or confessions of burning love. Just offer your friendship and make no other attempts to contact him afte... (read in full...)

I feel like an addict

Q.   Hey Cupids, Why cant I just let go! Even through my ex walked all over my heart and totally took my feelings for granted I still think about her all the time and am fighting the urge to pick up the phone and call her! I have the possibility...

A.   29 October 2007: Thanks Anonymous, Shania and Egghead. Sex i think is part of the answer yes, although I dont see her as a trophy girlfriend. I am guilty of running back to her, although its only because she gives me false hope 'this time will be differen... (read in full...)

Is it love or addiction?

Q.   Hey Aunts, My original post is here is you want to read: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-treat-her-like-a-princess-but-she.html I hav'nt spoken to my ex since sunday night, i was quite angry and I didnt part on good terms. Her depressi...

A.   27 October 2007: Thank you Oblivia, you make a good point about part of her recovery is realising she cant treat people badly, even the 'nice guys' - and so I should walk away. Still, easier said than done, but I'm holding up for the moment. Thanks again all. ... (read in full...)

I'm now looking for a 'normal' relationship rather than a long-distance one. Where can I go?

Q.   Hi everybody. Good news! I'm feeling a fair bit better than I have been over the past.. several months. I guess I finally realized that maybe my ex isn't worth worrying about. In any case, I'm not certain I'm ready to move on as such, but I ...

A.   26 October 2007: Hey Andy! Girls hey, why would we want another :P I would like to know this too actually. Do you go out much to bars or anything? maybe a place to start, although i've always found that really hard and maybe thats not your type of girl. Datin... (read in full...)

Is it love or addiction?

Q.   Hey Aunts, My original post is here is you want to read: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-treat-her-like-a-princess-but-she.html I hav'nt spoken to my ex since sunday night, i was quite angry and I didnt part on good terms. Her depressi...

A.   25 October 2007: Thanks so far guys. No hard feelings peoriaman. This is the root of my issue, do I help her at the risk of hurting myself again? or do i turn my back and walk away when I know she needs help?... (read in full...)

Is it love or addiction?

Q.   Hey Aunts, My original post is here is you want to read: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-treat-her-like-a-princess-but-she.html I hav'nt spoken to my ex since sunday night, i was quite angry and I didnt part on good terms. Her depressi...

A.   24 October 2007: Just to answer your questions peoriaman, I never cheated, betrayed or in any way given her reason to feel hurt by me. I have always been loving and supportive towards her and have picked her up in times of need. ... (read in full...)

I treat her like a princess but she keeps breaking my heart. What can I do?

Q.   Hey Cupids, Really need your help right now. To cut a long and complicated story short. Met a girl at uni, had a relationship, she broke up with me over the summer. She returned a few months later wanting a casual thing. I could'nt do that, but we...

A.   23 October 2007: Thanks Danielepew, eyeswideopen, terrifenby and anonymous. Your advice does make perfect sense, i do feel she knows that she can reel me in at any time. I do want to show her that I am not to be played with but this is very hard for me. She is o... (read in full...)

I treat her like a princess but she keeps breaking my heart. What can I do?

Q.   Hey Cupids, Really need your help right now. To cut a long and complicated story short. Met a girl at uni, had a relationship, she broke up with me over the summer. She returned a few months later wanting a casual thing. I could'nt do that, but we...

A.   22 October 2007: surprisingly 'terrifenby', she actually said that to me. She said she knows I love her and i will always be there when she needs cheering up. And yes that tore my heart out.... (read in full...)

I treat her like a princess but she keeps breaking my heart. What can I do?

Q.   Hey Cupids, Really need your help right now. To cut a long and complicated story short. Met a girl at uni, had a relationship, she broke up with me over the summer. She returned a few months later wanting a casual thing. I could'nt do that, but we...

A.   22 October 2007: Yeah me and andy already know each other :) although I hav'nt been on this site in a while. Would it be a bad idea to call her? ... (read in full...)

I promised myself that I won't see him again. How can I keep to it?

Q.   I decided not to call him again after he said to me that he didn't want to marry me or see me often. However, i don't know if i can keep this decision for ever. I think that i will change my mind as i am feeling that i miss him. However i don't want ...

A.   12 October 2007: Why did he not want to marry or see you often? Perhaps he is not ready for marriage, this does not mean he does'nt love you though. ... (read in full...)

I think I am in love with someone on this site but I have only 'spoken' to them once. Help!

Q.   i think i'm in love with someone on this site. i know that sounds insane but everytime i read something they have written i think "omg this person is amazing, so understanding and everything i want". i've never even spoken to them apart from one ...

A.   20 September 2007: Perhaps you should register and then you can add them onto your friends list and get chatting! ... (read in full...)

In second year of uni and never had a bf. Any ideas?

Q.   I'm just starting my second year of university (engineering), and yet have never had a boyfriend. I really would like to have at least some sort of relationship, but I have only ever had one guy ask me out, and he was a creep who admitted he asked ...

A.   20 September 2007: Hi, I was in the same situation. I also did engineering and know exactly what you mean. Being a guy there were only a handful of girls on my course, I guess engineering just is'nt as popular with the girls, so I went through the whole of uni right ... (read in full...)

I've just come out of the hospital and found out I've failed uni, my relationship is strained and my friends are moving on! How can I cope?

Q.   hey ppl im so low at the moment.within the past week my whole life seems to have fallen apart. this time 2 weeks ago i had the world at my feet. i had the most perfect boyfriend in the world with an amazing relationship, great health, a place at a ...

A.   19 September 2007: Hey, I am a recent university graduate myself. Surely you can gain mitigating circumstances for you exams or coursework? I dont know about your uni but most a lot of courses do not hold any weight on the first year, in other words you can bare... (read in full...)

My girlfriend broke up with me because I am a virgin. She now wants to have fun with me, what should I do?

Q.   Hey people, So me and my ex broke up for summer, she said she needed space and wasn’t ready for the commitment. 3 months later, she has returned back to the uk. When I found out she was back I sent her an email and we got chatting on msn, she...

A.   19 September 2007: thanks again Frank, just another, what is a 'FB fling'? Again your advice is solid. Thanks... (read in full...)

My girlfriend broke up with me because I am a virgin. She now wants to have fun with me, what should I do?

Q.   Hey people, So me and my ex broke up for summer, she said she needed space and wasn’t ready for the commitment. 3 months later, she has returned back to the uk. When I found out she was back I sent her an email and we got chatting on msn, she...

A.   18 September 2007: Hey thanks Frank and Tommy. I do not have certain beliefs about sex, such as waiting until marriage. Part of me would like to see her just to gain some experience so to speak, the other part of me cares for her and cant deal with the heartach... (read in full...)

After what she's done, how can I keep us together?

Q.   My wife and I have been happily married for almost 2yrs, last week she meet with a male work friend for coffee. When she got home it had turned into a flight, coffee and a movie. I was ok with the coffee, but when it changed to something more, ...

A.   17 September 2007: Why on earth would she want to keep seeing this guy if she knows it could be risking your marriage and happiness. This friend of hers, does he know she's married, what purpose would it serve to keep meeting up with him other than to keep him inte... (read in full...)

Is it ok to sleep with an ex?

Q.   hay guys is it ok to have sex with an x? right heres my story! we broke up 3 weeks ago and been meeting to hang out as friends eva since as we have kinda been mates before! weve been having a right laugh, a bit of flirting then the other night ...

A.   17 September 2007: Make sure you know that it is just for fun otherwise you will end up getting hurt. If you are deep down hoping somthing more may come from it when he has made it clear otherwise, you are simply setting yourself up for heartache. It can be diff... (read in full...)

Part of me thinks that I could do the "casual relationship," but I fear that I would be stuck in a loop of heartbreak everytime I "left in the morning."

Q.   hey all, Me and my ex dated before the summer, she broke up with me before she went home. The breakup was very sudden and out of the blue for me, she told me she didnt want to be in a relationship and needed space. So she returned the other d...

A.   16 September 2007: Thanks for your advice bitterblue and Oblivia. As much as I know I should break free I cant, the hurt is still raw and I miss her to much to break contact completly. We had a good relationship (well from my perspective anyway)in the past and my ... (read in full...)

We broke up 3 months ago but I still wish she would come back. How can I get over her?

Q.   Hey all, So my ex,I cared and loved her, we never argued, had similar interests, could talk to each other for hours, we enjoyed each others company, we spent all our spare time with each other, we would talk online each night if we weren’t toget...

A.   11 September 2007: Hey thanks for the advice so far. I have only been awake for an hour and already she has consumed my thoughts, I miss her so much its hard to bear. How do i draw the line between being passionate and determined, or clingy and desperate? I rea... (read in full...)

I've a long distance relation, my boyfriend is very insecure, misinterpreting my friendship with the ex and is jealous in general. How do I cope with this?

Q.   Hiya, I have a problem with my boyfriend. We've been dating for quite a while and I love him very much. He's incredible in every possible way, except for one - he's very insecure and gets jealous easily. I feel that I'm at the end of my rope he...

A.   26 August 2007: Hey, I agree with the posts below, is it really worth maintaining contact with your ex if you risk losing your "incredible" boyfriend? Of course your boyfriend is going to start to get a bit jealous, you and your ex have history, even if you see ... (read in full...)

She is coming back earlier now.

Q.   Hey all, My situation is in more detail here if you feel like a read. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-had-the-girl-i-had-always-day.html Anyway, to cut a long story short my ex left me before she went home for the summer holidays. She is ...

A.   23 August 2007: Hey thnks for the advice so far, She is coming back to start further studies at university, I think she mentioned she was coming back earlier becuase the start of term date was'nt confirmed before she left, this is what I presume anyway, i coul... (read in full...)

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