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writes:i am a 26 year old male and a virgin still, but sadly years ago i havd dealt with various of my peers saying pretty blataint, hurtful and overall devestating comments to me just for being a virgin from my high school days up until my early 20's. i honestly to this day still can never forget any of the comments said to me by some of my peers when sex is concerned. i should not matter how old you are when you lose your sexual innocence should it? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007): There is nothing wrong with being a virgin at your age. Some girls would like you more because of it.
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reader, duskyrowe  +, writes (11 November 2007):
 One question. Are you holding on to your virginity, for someone who is worthy to take it? There is nothing wrong with that, because some people tend to lose their virginity just because of peer pressure and they perceive sex as something they are missing out on. Sex is sadly used and abused as something sordid nowadays, instead of sharing such a beautiful thing with someone thay love and honour. There is too many unwanted pregnancies and STD in this day and age, because people believe it will never happen to them until it is too late. But as Frank said there is a stigma attached about male virgins at your age, even with women too. I am wondering if find sex disgusting and overrated or scared of sex in general? Also was sex ever discussed in your house at all or was it a TABOO subject? When you do finally lose your virginity, please practise safe sex. Good luck Dusky xx
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (11 November 2007):
 Unfortunately, your virginity is a stigma at your age for your gender, and it does affect how others may perceive you.
I have to ask you some questions: Do you try to offer advice to people about sex-related issues for which you do not have experience that would cause them to make those comments in the first place?
These people who hurt you are not your friends. I would suggest to start making a solid new circle of friends and peers, and when the topic comes up, simply refuse to talk about it by claiming: "A gentleman does not speak of such things publicly".
What you do not say is if your waiting was a CHOICE (for example religious reasons), or if you would be open to it, but it just has not come your way. An adult male virgin is seen in the worst possible light because of the possible meanings behind his adult virginity.
In the case of religion, I have found people are more (not totally) accepting of it. If you just haven't gotten around to it, yes, it can be viewed as abnormal.
I give seminars and consultations on this exact topic. Here is the webpage: http://www.franktalks.com/?content=frankseminar_amv
Please read the stories from other adult male virgins there, as they will be able to related to your situation.
Based on the people I have helped, I can tell you the pain gets worse as you get older. The age of 24-25 is when it really starts to get bad for similar reasons as you are going through now.
-Frank B Kermit
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