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No replies yet... 18 September 2013: Is Someone Off Limits for Dating? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Mastering the art of dating requires a number of skills such as being socially calibrated, effective communication and knowing what you want. One of the areas that comes up for ...
How to Deal with a Toxic Person
No replies yet... 18 September 2013: The Best Way To Deal With Toxic People By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Toxic people are defined in this article as people who lack the capacity to reason, or people have the capacity to reason but just do not want to reason with you. In t...
A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce
No replies yet... 31 August 2013: A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships One of the ironies of couples counseling that I often find myself doing is taking the couple through the pre-marital coaching process when they may already be...
A Frank Comment on Miley Cyrus
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31 August 2013: A Frank Comment On Miley Cyrus By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I do not normally comment on the antics of popular culture, as so much of what we see of movies and TV are fiction based romances and relationships. I tried my best to stay fo...
The Wedding Speech
No replies yet... 26 July 2013: The Wedding Speech Remember this day, your wedding day. Not for the dresses and suits, not for the extravagance, nor the dinner and dancing, but remember your wedding day because of the reasons you chose to marry your spouse. Remember who is it that...
Sexually Incompatible Couples
No replies yet... 19 July 2013: Sexually Incompatible Couples Sex is not the most important thing in a relationship. However, couples who love each other dearly and connect on so many levels, but whom are sexually incompatible tend to find that sex can be at the core of a numb...
Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2
No replies yet... 28 June 2013: Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2 Separation does not automatically lead to divorce unless you let it. It is up to you and your partner to put in the work so that it does not happen. In the event you are the only one trying to work on yourself and ...
Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2
No replies yet... 22 June 2013: Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2 One of the most damaging actions an individual can take is to start dating someone new when going through a separation with their serious long term partner (spouse, common-law partner or a defacto-union). When I use ...
The Frank Break Up Formula
No replies yet... 14 June 2013: The Frank Break Up Formula By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Breaking up with someone is rarely an enjoyable or pleasant experience. In fact, there are those individuals who stay in less than satisfying relationships, and even can go all the ...
The Frank Romance Formula part 3 of 3
No replies yet... 8 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 3 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 of 3
No replies yet... 3 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future
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3 May 2013: The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships The future is where actual seduction takes place. That is the key to seduction. It has very little to do with turning someone on when you see them. I...
The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons
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27 April 2013: The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Sometimes life will slap you down when it has a lesson to teach you. For some people, the slap may be a light swat, and for others the slap has to be a severe smack down. ...
Dating With Disabilities
No replies yet... 5 April 2013: Dating With Disabilities by Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I once went on a date with a woman that had severe food allergies. We went out to a movie and I wished she had told me ahead of time. Although she mentioned that she was deathly all...
Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen
No replies yet... 21 March 2013: Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Rejection is the worst best thing that can ever happen to you. Managing rejection is a necessary part in managing your love life. Over the course of your ...
Things they do not tell you about having kids
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15 March 2013: Things They Do Not Tell You About Having Kids By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I always try to be very practical and realistic in my articles. This can come across very negative, given that my topic is Relationships (and all things relative...
When Friendship Is Meaningless
No replies yet... 8 March 2013: Friendship Is Meaningless Stop Hanging Out With Friends Who Sexually Reject You By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Friendship is meaningless. There I said it. Now before you shoot one of your nasty emails to the editor, actually read this colum...
Who Cares What People Think? Depends...
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1 March 2013: How Much Should You Care About What Other People Think? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships T here will be times when we want to do something in our lives that is meaningful to us. It could be a decision related to abandoning education, wh...
Learn How to Choose the Right Fights!
No replies yet... 21 February 2013: Pick And Choose Your Fights By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Fighting in relationships is normal. The issue is not whether you fight. The issue is HOW a couple fights. Do they talk out their disagreements? Do they wait until they are alon...
Starting Over After V-day?
No replies yet... 14 February 2013: Starting Over? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Valentine’s day can be a day of reckoning for some people. Meaning, the events leading up to, on the day of, and afterwards can really wreck your life. This is one of the reasons I often refer to...
A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best
No replies yet... 6 February 2013: A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best By Frank Kermit, Relationships At my weekly relationship workshop last Saturday I issued one of my famous “Frankisms” that seemed to really resonate with the attendees. I was trying...
Asking Hard Questions
No replies yet... 1 February 2013: Asking Hard Questions By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships When trying to decide if you should be committed to someone, moving in with someone, getting engaged, and getting married, each new transition brings about the unpleasant task of askin...
Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix
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24 January 2013: Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix By Frank Kermit, Relationships If you ever had sex with someone that is about to get married, and have been invited to the wedding, do not go. This is especially true if the spouse-to-be feels uncomfortable havi...
Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy
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16 January 2013: Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Couples who are experiencing a transition in the status of their relationship may sometimes look to explore new ways of redefining their sex lives b...
Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships
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13 December 2012: Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships As the holiday season approaches, invitations begin to swarm in for get-togethers from family, friends and even office parties. It is a time of people coming together, and in some ca...
Couples in Transition
No replies yet... 29 November 2012: Couples in Transition By Frank Kermit, Relationships When a couple is going through a change in the status of their relationship they are a couple in transition. This includes couples that are transitioning from monogamy to non-monogamy, from no...
Your Home Is Your Seduction
No replies yet... 15 November 2012: Your Home Is Your Seduction By Frank Kermit, Relationships Your date is coming over to your place! You have seen each other a couple of times already, but this is different. This is YOUR PLACE, not some coffee shop or movie theatre or restaur...
The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey
No replies yet... 6 November 2012: The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey By Frank Kermit, Relationships The movie of your life is how we each envision our lives unfolding throughout our life span. This concept goes beyond simple fantasizing of what your life would be like. Writing ...
What Love Masks by Frank Kermit
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2 November 2012: What Love Masks By Frank Kermit, Relationships A mentor of mine taught me that love is not blind; it is just that categories are rigid. When you meet someone, you put that person in a category (lover, friend, temptation, fling, does-no...
The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work: An Article About EFT and Weight Loss
No replies yet... 2 November 2012: The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work An Article About EFT and Weight Loss I have a confession. I used to daydream about food. You know that point in the day when someone catches you; your head in your hands, that dreamy look on your face? If so...
Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type?
No replies yet... 1 November 2012: Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type? By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all have our “type”. By “type” I am referring to that type of person each of us is madly attracted too. Each of us has our preference of what we like, what turns us on, ...
Is there such a thing as Happily Single?
No replies yet... 19 October 2012: Is there such a thing as Happily Single? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Is being single really that bad? After all, when a person considers the amount of pain that a relationship or casual dating can cause, it may seem that just skipping the w...
Be Thankful For a Broken Heart
No replies yet... 11 October 2012: Be Thankful For A Broken Heart By Frank Kermit, Relationships Ok, I hate this. I really hate this part of the process. However, it is a necessary part of the process, and if I am expected to help encourage others to do it, first I have to demo...
Stop Talking About Your Ex On Dates!
No replies yet... 5 October 2012: Stop Talking So Much About Your Ex By Frank Kermit, Relationships So you are on a date with someone new. You are excited. You are nervous. You hope that this is finally going to be the one. You meet. So far, you both like what you see. This...
Dating in Social Circles
No replies yet... 29 September 2012: Dating In Social Circles By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dating can be tricky. Does the other person like you the way you think he or she might? Do you really like that person enough to get more serious, or do you want to keep it more casual a...
Frank Guide to Speed Dating
No replies yet... 21 September 2012: Frank Guide To Speed Dating By Frank Kermit, Relationships Every way to meet someone new is a good way. Though friends, through the Internet, blind dates, approaching someone you want to meet, at a workshop, matchmaking companies, business conv...
Relationship Goal Setting
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15 September 2012: Relationship Goal Setting By Frank Kermit, Relationships Setting goals in most areas of your life can be challenging. When it comes to relationships, there are even more challenges. Whereas in other areas of your life such as education, emplo...
Battling The Savior Complex in Relationships
No replies yet... 6 September 2012: Battling The Savior Complex By Frank Kermit, Relationships As children, many of us grew up on stories about the hero that saves a person, and in the process, earned the undying love and loyalty of the person saved so that the hero and that saved ...
Get Out Of Your Own Way!
No replies yet... 30 August 2012: Get Out Of Your Own Way By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest obstacles that a person can have as an obstruction on their path of finding happiness, peace and healing for their love life, is themselves. Although most people wou...
Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow
No replies yet... 26 August 2012: Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow By Frank Kermit, Relationships Young adults tend to discount how the choices they make today will impact their futures tomorrow. At least, when it comes to relationships. The bes...
Are You A Partner Or A Liability?
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17 August 2012: Are You A Partner Or A Liability? When it really is you and not them By Frank Kermit, Relationships “It’s not you, it’s me.” Have you ever heard that said to you when someone broke up with you? Have you ever been the one to use it when dump...
The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships
No replies yet... 9 August 2012: The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships There are 7 certain words that catch many people off guard when it comes to relationships. They are: Lust, Love, Sex, Dating, Commitment, Marriage, and Monogamy. ...
Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss.
No replies yet... 20 July 2012: Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss By Frank Kermit, Relationships Are you too nice when it comes to relationships? Do you walk on eggshells because you do not want to upset your partner? Are you reluctant to enforce your bounda...
Re-Establishing Trust in a Relationship Article
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12 July 2012: Broken Trust Takes More Than Time To Re-Establish By Frank Kermit, Relationships Trust is one of the most important components of a relationship. Love is a great start, but it takes more than loving someone, or being loved by someone, to make ...
Understanding Emotional Needs
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4 July 2012: Understanding Emotional Needs: What We Respond To Versus What We Should Like By Frank Kermit, Relationships Emotional needs are about what a person responds to. It has nothing to do with what a person should like. We all should be attracte...
Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date
No replies yet... 29 June 2012: Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date By Frank Kermit, Relationships When you are on a date, and the person you are getting to know says or does something that triggers a well-honed instinct that you need to stop dating that person, you hav...
The Art of Storytelling on a Date
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Art of Storytelling: Make or Break A Relationship Happy Ending By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the challenges that people face when they go on dates is that they may not factor in that others will not understand what they are trying ...
Swinger Beginner Advice
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Swinger Beginners: Keep it Out of the Work Place By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dear Frank, My husband and I recently returned from a business trip/vacation where a few of my husband's co-workers also brought their wives. We really hit it o...
When your Ex becomes a symbol and you can't get over it
No replies yet... 13 June 2012: When Your Ex Becomes A Symbol Relationship Symbolism of Why You Are Still Hooked By Frank Kermit, Relationships We are surrounded by the power of symbols. A symbol is more than just a design we recognize; symbols are a means of making meaning. ...
Ally Vs Enemy: Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men
No replies yet... 9 June 2012: Is She His Ally or His Enemy? Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men By Frank Kermit, Relationships The best way I know how to teach people about the emotional needs of men is to break it down to absolute fundamentals. If people can und...
Dating After A Break Up - Just How Long Should You Wait?
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1 June 2012: Dating After Breaking Up? The Sooner The Better By Frank Kermit, Relationships “How much time should I wait before I start dating again?” is a common question that I get asked from someone that has just recently gotten dumped, and still sufferi...
Relationship Redemption: How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure
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23 May 2012: Relationship Redemption How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all make mistakes in life. If you have ever tried to get into a relationship, are in a relationship, or are recovering from a relationship, ...
Finding The Meaning Of Your Life And Relationships
No replies yet... 15 May 2012: The Meaning of your Relationships Starts With The Meaning Of Your Life By Frank Kermit, Relationships Contemplate your death. No seriously. In order to make meanings of your relationships past, present and those you will have in the futur...
The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women
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10 May 2012: The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women By Frank Kermit, Relationships A woman can only play one of two roles in a man’s life. She is either his mother or his lover. She cannot be both. When a man addresses a wom...
Moving To The Next Level: Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships
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1 May 2012: Moving To The Next Level Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest mistakes people make in relationships is to promote someone up the hierarchy of commitment that has not really earned it. I...
Beware Your Friends when it comes to love
No replies yet... 15 April 2012: Beware Your Friends They May Not Want You To Be Loved By Frank Kermit, Relationships Mistakes Singles Make # 6… Seeking the approval of friends that influences your love life choices. Love may come and go, but a friendship can last a lifetim...
Are Relationships Worth The Risk?
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8 April 2012: Relationships = Risk But is it really worth it? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Given that there is so much risk in getting involved in relationships, or having sex for that matter, is it at all worth it to even bother? After all, a broken hear...
Tattoos and Relationships
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24 March 2012: Beware The L-I-N-K Of (L)ove and (INK) By Frank Kermit, Relationships While at a coffee shop a few weeks ago, I met a tattoo artist. He had his son’s name tattooed on his hand, and being the ever-inquisitive one, I asked him about his profession...
Open Relationships and Infidelity
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17 March 2012: Open Relationships Do Not Always Stave Off Infidelity By Frank Kermit, Relationships Some people believe that one of the surest ways to guarantee fidelity is to only do open relationships. The premise is that people only cheat in monogamous ...
What is a Relationship?
No replies yet... 10 March 2012: What is a Relationship? Is best defined by what it’s NOT By Frank Kermit, Relationships Over the years, I have been asked a number of times “What is a Relationship?” This is a harder question to answer than most people think. In my experience,...
Engaged! Now what?
No replies yet... 19 February 2012: Pre Marital Disclosure What you don’t know, you must know By Frank Kermit, Relationships Valentines day has come and gone. Some relationships have started. Some relationships have ended, and some relationships have proceeded to the next le...
Making Monogamy Work
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5 February 2012: Making Monogamy Work By Frank Kermit, Relationships Monogamy is easier than open relationships, because the rules are simpler...but the application of the rules of monogamy is not as easy. Monogamy works for monogamous people...however...
Single Parent Dating, Not Just a Single Issue
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3 February 2012: Single Parent Dating – More Than Just A Single Issue By Frank Kermit At least 40% of marriages end in divorce. Depending on the study you read, the percentage can be higher. Even though the break down of families continues, the drive that ma...
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SITE NEWS: Over 600,000 visitors last month!
Q. Just a quickie We broke the 600,000 unique users/month (i.e. people!) last month. According to google analytics we had 638,310 visitors from June 1st to June 30th. Doesn't seem that long ago we passed the half a million mark. Thanks to all t...
A. 1 July 2008: Andrew, you truly have made the world a better place with the structure of this site. Congrats and Thank You.
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I don't know what to do? I am not ready to be a father, I need your guidance.
Q. Need advice, I recieved an email from a girl I slept with about 6 weeks ago, saying she is now pregant, wants to keep the baby and wants nothing from me and is willing to cut off all commuication. I don't know what to do? I am not ready to be a fa...
A. 27 June 2008: Here is what I suggest,
Say NOTHING until you have the child DNA tested. There is a chance that it might not be yours.
In the meanwhile, check with a lawyer to know what your rights and obligations are in your territory. For example, if you ... (read in full...)
Group sex may be fun, but at the same time, I feel it's cheating.
Q. my boyfriend and i have a great sex life (when we find time lol) well we are planning a camping trip with another couple (who are married) for next weekend. my boyfriend mentioned to me that they may ask us to join them for group sex, because they...
A. 27 June 2008: If you want to try it, then try it, but if you are too hesitant, then do not even go on the camping trip at all. You know they are going to ask, and if you are not interested, do not put yourself in a situation where you might be uncomfortable. ... (read in full...)
I'm not attracted to either gender. Is something wrong with me?
Q. hi, well here it is plain and simple. I am not attracted to girls or guys. i am disgusted when it comes to sexual relationships and things like that. i find the human body, of both males and females, to be beautiful, but i am in no way attracted to ...
A. 26 June 2008: Yes, there are others like you. They are called asexual.
There is an entire community online for asexuals to learn about asexuality. This site is led by a guy named David Jay.
I did an interview with him and you can listen/download it for free ... (read in full...)
How do you get over the love of your life?
Q. Straight out. How do you get over the love of your life....
A. 25 June 2008: Read the book "We" by Robert Johnson. It will help you figure out if what you have was based on Romantic Love or not, and gives you what you need to get over her IF it is based on Romantic Love (not the same as real love).
Start there. If you d... (read in full...)
It's been over a year since I found a tape of my boyfriend and his ex having sex! How do I get over it?
Q. About one year ago, i found a tape of my boyfriend and his ex having sex. I threw it away and he rerecorded it over one of my tapes. I still can't get over it but he tells me that we need to move on. It's been over a year since it happened. It still ...
A. 23 June 2008: You Said: "He continually lied to me about having it"
Ok, so from what I gather, it isn't that he cheated on you (correct me if I am wrong about cheating), the issue is trust in that he lied to you about having it. If you knew the truth would yo... (read in full...)
Why is it men run when things get serious?
Q. Hi. need some someones perspective on this please. i'm left feeling very down and confused. Why is it that men run when things get serious? and this guy is 40! I been online dating for a while now as i don't get much time to myself and my friends ...
A. 22 June 2008: It really sounds like his own issue. Sounds like he is refusing growing up and using creative avoidance to get in his own way.
At the same time, you must consider too that when a man gets seriously involved with a woman, he is risking quite a ... (read in full...)
After my husband cheated I don't believe men are nice... can I really trust someone?
Q. Since my husband cheated me, I am unable to trust any other men. I see all men in the same eye.Everyone is same. They all are shits! But I want to live a happy life. How can I see others in a different way? Or are there anyone who is good? Can I get ...
A. 19 June 2008: You have been hurt and that is not fair.
However, how would you advise the man who married a woman only to learn that she was unfaithful to him?
If he now believed that all women cheated, and that he could not love another woman, and that ... (read in full...)
Should I go against myself and be a FWB, and enjoy myself with him and be heartbroken if he finds true love elsewhere, or do I cut my losses and run?
Q. I'm 32 and recently began chatting online to a really great 37 year guy. We got on really well, and after about a month, we met up. And got on really really well. I stayed at his and we had a great weekend together. (yes we slept togethe...
A. 17 June 2008: In all honestly, I think you need to be listening to your biological clock. You are 32 and if you have interests in having your own family, you really don't have that much time left in terms of having children in a healthy risk free manner. The ... (read in full...)
Do you think it's okay for a 19 year old to party till late or travel to a different city with friends?
Q. I would like to know your opininon for the following question 1) Do you think its okay for a 19 year old to party out with her friends until late in the night (say about 3 am) 2) Does she have the right to plan a trip with her friends to a dif...
A. 17 June 2008: If the 19 year old in question is living independently and is already responsible for herself in all other respects, then yes.
Otherwise, it is a sign that she is not the best judge of character (if she can not take care of herself, it is doubtful... (read in full...)
Do people who fall in love quickly also fall out of love quickly??
Q. My g\f has dumped me. At the beginning of our one year relationship she was all over me, almost clingy and more or less in love with me straight away. Now after a few weeks of arguing she has dumped me and just gone cold, just like that. I can't ...
A. 16 June 2008: There is a difference between Romantic Love (instant/infatuation/passionate/temporary) and Real Love (Long Lasting/Realistic). A good book to read to understand the difference so that you never let this happen to you again is
"We" by Robert John... (read in full...)
I'm above my fiance financially, he depends on his dad. Should I end this?
Q. Please tell me if there's anything wrong in this. I'm above my fiance financially, he doesn't have a regular income and somehow depends on his dad, who seldom helps him. We want to get married in seven months time. Do I cut off?...
A. 16 June 2008: It sounds to me that you are looking for a reason to break off with him, and using money as an excuse.
-Frank B Kermit
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How do I build up the spice in our marriage and allow my husband to keep his porn?
Q. okay i found out my hubby looks at porn occasionally which i don't mind really as long as it isn't excessive we have great sex and i know he loves me i mean i get a little jealous sometimes but i haven't talked to him about it yet i definitely want ...
A. 16 June 2008: Well, since you both enjoy porn, why not watch some together?
My guess is your jealousy is not rooted in him watching the porn, as much as, his paying attention to something other than you. You obviously feel very secure in your marriage not to m... (read in full...)
How do I deal with a superficial boyfriend?
Q. I have been dating a guy for about 3 months, and things were going pretty fabulously. We both use "Love", and we both talk about the possible future together. Then we were doing a "relationship status check", and he said his only issue with the ...
A. 13 June 2008: He says he is embarrassed by your appearance and wants a future with you? No. Start seeing other people now. This is the red flag. I wonder how controlling he is going to turn out to be when it gets more serious. Is he going to slight you every ... (read in full...)
Is it weird that I fancy transvestites?
Q. Is it weird that I fancy transvestites? I am a 19yo female in a loving realtionship but I keep fantasising about trannies and have started masterbating watching this porn.. Is this normal or just weird?...
A. 12 June 2008: Not weird, just different.
In fact, there are a number of trans-people that would love to meet you and be in relationships with you.
I did an interview with a trans-gendered person (Micheline Anne Montreiul) on my website www.fbkradio.com... (read in full...)
Would it be wrong to marry my fiancee and keep things as they are with my boyfriend?
Q. I am not sure what i am doing anymore. I am due to get married very soon, but although i love him in a way, i am having an affair with another man. To make it all worse, it has been going on on and off for 8 years, the other man is married, and ...
A. 12 June 2008: Yes, what you are doing is wrong. Do not get married. You boyfriend deserves better than you and deserves a better life than you could ever give him.
-Frank B Kermit
www.frankadviceforwomen.com
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My wife wants me to watch her with another man! What do you think?
Q. my wife wants me to watch her with another man. It really turns me on, but I don't want to ruin things. What do you think?...
A. 12 June 2008: There is a book I am going to recommend to you to read before this happens. The title of it is "Sperm Wars" and it will explain WHY it would turn you on to watch.
Next, learn everything you can about swinger culture and polyamory before you do a... (read in full...)
Is there anybody out there who feels as though being a wife and motherhood has enriched their lives rather than detracted from it?
Q. i am 23 years old. i live with flatmates, the same age as me, i have for 2 years. i have a university degree, a challenging, satisfying and well paying job. the majority of my friends are single, love to party and are out socializing at every opp...
A. 11 June 2008:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1021293/How-mothers-fanatical-views-tore-apart.html
The full link
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Is there anybody out there who feels as though being a wife and motherhood has enriched their lives rather than detracted from it?
Q. i am 23 years old. i live with flatmates, the same age as me, i have for 2 years. i have a university degree, a challenging, satisfying and well paying job. the majority of my friends are single, love to party and are out socializing at every opp...
A. 11 June 2008: Here is an article that I discussed on my own private forum. It was written about the daughter of a militant feminist. The daughter wanted a husband and a family, and she has an incredible perspective.
http://ww... (read in full...)
It's that time of year when the girls start exposing more flesh... Do they mind it when the boys start looking?
Q. It's that time of year in the northern hemisphere when girls' tops get a bit more revealing and boys start looking a bit more. So, sticking to the topic of hemispheres, how do girls feel when boys check out their boobs? Is it fun? Is more than ...
A. 10 June 2008: It is not a question of IF she wants attention...if she dresses to get attention, she wants attention.
It is a question of WHAT kind of attention you give her.
There are ways of looking at women that are complimentary and make her feel good ab... (read in full...)
Man advice please!
Q. i,ve been seeing a guy of 43 for 14mths, i,ve never met his family tho they know of me. were quite close an he,ll spend most of his time with me, then he,ll back off an not contact me for few days.this has carried on all through the ...
A. 10 June 2008: He has been with you for 14 months (over a year?) and you still have not met his family? Red flag.
He is not serious about you. I think he enjoys your company, likes the sex, and such, but he does not want to make a commitment to you. It could... (read in full...)
Has any one got back with an Ex? Did it work?
Q. I've recently got back in touch with the guy I dated when I was in school and he seems interested again, but even though he's the only guy I ever truly loved, something is holding me back from getting back with him. Has anyone else ever got back ...
A. 10 June 2008: I worked on myself and got back my ex-fiance after 7 years apart...I had changed, but our dynamic was still the same. I am a firm believer that unless what broke you up the first time has been completely eliminated, you will break up again.
For e... (read in full...)
It's been over a year since I found a tape of my boyfriend and his ex having sex! How do I get over it?
Q. About one year ago, i found a tape of my boyfriend and his ex having sex. I threw it away and he rerecorded it over one of my tapes. I still can't get over it but he tells me that we need to move on. It's been over a year since it happened. It still ...
A. 10 June 2008: Did he cheat on you, or was this before you two become a couple? If he cheated on you, this is a different story. If it was from before you guys met, then it really is none of your business, and you need to grow up.
I don't understand somethin... (read in full...)
Is this due to low self esteem or could I be gay?
Q. I am a woman and at 23 I am still a virgin. I have had boyfriends in the past but found it hard to be intimate. I am attracted to men but I am sexually attracted to women. is this due to low self esteem or could I be gay? I need help!...
A. 19 April 2008: There are different forms of attraction. You could be emotionally attracted to one gender, and physically attracted to another. Visit www.FBKradio.com where you can listen to an interview I did with a bisexual woman on this topic. Listening is ... (read in full...)
Am I too young for alcohol and smoking? I'm 15...
Q. Ok so im 15 now but I starting drinking when i was 14 and there are only a few people in my grade that do because we are like the popular people...so is it really that young i mean it doesnt feel that way at all and also i smoke not pot but ...
A. 16 April 2008: Your user name says age 22-25.
Your question says age 15.
Which one is the lie?
You say: i dont really seem the harm and i dont think im too young
Of course you don't. You are already used to lying, so what is a couple more lies to yo... (read in full...)
I don't want to give up on my dream job, but I can't afford to work for free, any advice?
Q. I have always wanted to work as a features writer for a womens lifestyle magazine. The problem is that the only way to get a job in this industry is to do loads of unpaid work expereince and to hang around and just hope that a job offer comes along! ...
A. 9 April 2008: Start your own website writing the type of articles you want. A blog would be a good start, and they are relatively 10$ a month for the site, plus 10$ a year for the domain name.
In the meanwhile, submit an article here and there. Keep your day... (read in full...)
I'm having casual sex with my gay best friend, is this okay?
Q. Got myself in to a bit of a pickle. I have a best friend - we'll call him Harry. He's gay and for years he has always sort of been my "gay best friend." We do everything together and everyone has always joked we're like a couple. We stay over at ...
A. 8 April 2008: Your friend is bi not gay. I did an interview with a bisexual woman on this topic and you can listen to it free on www.FBKradio.com
Sometimes, the way a person sees himself and identifies himself must be so set in stone, that changing it could be... (read in full...)
Potentially Gay boyfriend and relationship trouble!
Q. Hi, i just need some advice on this issue (it's kind of long!): So I'm in college and my boyfriend of 3 years and I were involved in this performing arts activity that had us travel two hours away from school every weekend. We ended up staying...
A. 8 April 2008: Your BF is bisexual. I did interviewed a woman on bisexuality and you can listen to it for free at www.FBKradio.com
I think that if your BF did it once, he will do it again. He might be disgusted with himself, but that alone does not mean he ... (read in full...)
It's been 3 years since we broke up but I still having feelings for him!
Q. Hi me and my boyfriend were together for 3 years then I broke up with him because we were not getting along. I went on to have another 3 year relationship with someone else it has since ended. I have told my ex how I feel about him in a card/let...
A. 8 April 2008: This really depends on WHY you guys broke up. What was the reason? Did you cheat on him? Did you leave him for someone else?
In these situations, you need to prove that you have so changed, that you are not the person that hurt him so. Also, w... (read in full...)
I don't know if he wants to marry me. I'm really confused. Please help.
Q. How long does it take for a guy to know whether he wants to marry you or not? I have been dating a guy for three years - We both are divorced - We both said we would never marry again at the start. He hints and makes comments about 'someday' and ...
A. 21 March 2008: He does not want to marry you. If he did, you would already be married (or at least engaged) and he would make sure you knew it. That is how men (at least those of us that have it together) are.
-Frank B Kermit
www.frank... (read in full...)
Parental Rights
Q. Hello All. Thanks for reading and resonding to my question! :) Here it goes! My girlfriend and I have broken up, and she's 4 months pregnant... with my baby. We were talking about names the other day, and I want to have both last names and she ...
A. 19 March 2008: Just to be clear...
are you absolutely certain that this child is yours?
Could the reason she does not want the child to carry your name is because she knows something that she did not tell you about?
Don't commit to ANYTHING until you get D... (read in full...)
Desperate and confused...
Q. I have been with my partner for 10 years, he already has a partner an 2 kids, we have son together and have just brought a house together, even though he still lives at home with his family. I can't stand this double life any more he calls me his ...
A. 16 March 2008: Who would stand to benefit, and who would suffer if this comes out in the open now? You have been content to be a secret relationship until now, so what has made you want to change things?
First thing to do is get a DNA test done to get proof he... (read in full...)
She hates the ejaculating inside of her, but only after 4 years she tells me this!! I feel hurt and disoriented.
Q. I have been seeing a woman for over four years and have had what I thought was a great relationship. We have recently been talking about marriage. However, last week after sex she told me that she absolutely hates the fact that I ejaculate inside ...
A. 7 March 2008: You are not making too much of this. This has been bugging her for four years and only NOW she tells you while you talk about MARRIAGE?
Red Flag.
She does not want to be married to you and is trying to give you an excuse to break up with he... (read in full...)
It's my first relationship, how do I know if he's the one?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 months. We are 22 and it is my first relationship. For the last two months I have been continuously questioning whether or not he is "the one for me." It often leads me to believe that he is not. Then I ...
A. 7 March 2008: My own personal rule to help deal with your situation is as follows:
1-If in doubt, stay out. Stay out of long term expectations and thinking, stay out of getting married, stay out of commitments.
My suggest is that you not be monogamous toget... (read in full...)
On A Search For Either Escorts Or Massage Parlours Any Advice Welcome.
Q. Hi All I have never had a girlfriend or sex and I am in my 20's, I am fed up waiting for the right female to come along as I know it will probably never happen so I have decided to look for sex either in a massage parlour or hire an escort as I n...
A. 29 February 2008: Hi THere,
I do seminars and telephone-consults for adult male virgins such as yourself. The one thing I can tell you is going to sex workers may relieve the sexual (physical) cravings temporarily, but they do not fill the emotional cravings... (read in full...)
How can I get over my issues, and just enjoy the relationship as it is?
Q. The man I'm dating this year doesn't really give a promise of comittment to me but he wants to be together when he has free time. Although i try to accept it and i pretend to him that it doesn't really matter sometimes it's difficult to hide my true ...
A. 28 February 2008: I have some questions for you. Why do you want a commitment from him? Do you want children with him, or do you already have your own children and just want the security of a provider? I ask this because of your age.
Mid thirties, and if you a... (read in full...)
Why does it have to be so damm hard to figure out what women want in order to have a lot of sex?
Q. Why does it have to be so damm hard to figure out what women want in order to have a lot of sex? Do most women want a lot of sex or is it only men? Why do you have to spend 10 times more time figuring out the issues rather than having wild sex? No ...
A. 28 February 2008: You sound very frustrated and angry. Yes, women enjoy sex just as much, if not more, than men. However, the question is do you know how to be the kind of man that women feel SAFE having that kind of sex with?
I spent the last ten years working ... (read in full...)
He's dying......And I think I'm going to break....
Q. I fairly recently split up with an ex... I was very much in love with him.... but there was a big distance between us and I very rarely saw him... I was so unhappy I ended things. Since I have found a lovely guy nearer... who I am happy with.... But ...
A. 27 February 2008: Respect his wishes. He has enough to focus on, and you are now a symbol of rejection for him.
I was in the same boat. One of my exs called me to say she got cancer. The last time I saw her was during a kemo session of hers. After that, I ... (read in full...)
I found out my girlfriend of 7 years was having relations with another man...
Q. This is probalbly the dumbest question there is.... I found out my girlfriend of 7 years was having relations with another man. This was last April that I found out. It's almost been a year of recovery and trying my best. Well everything was f...
A. 27 February 2008: What she did was not fair to you...but what you are doing is not fair to yourself. How is she suppose to respect you when you don't respect yourself? If this is not the kind of relationship you want, then BREAK UP WITH HER.
Take this as a sign s... (read in full...)
She isnt in a hurry to marry me, and told me to find someone else if I cant wait. Is she trying to discourage me?
Q. Am a guy of 27,i've been dating a lady since 1999.Last year i presurise that we should get married but she told me to wait till end of 2009 and if i'll not wait she can release me to look for another.Could she be trying to discourage me or what?Kin...
A. 27 February 2008: This is a Big Red Flag.
How old is she, and does she have a reason to wait? For example, does she wish to wait until she finishes school?
If there is no reason to wait, it may be a sign that she isn't REALLY interested in marrying you, an... (read in full...)
I want a sexual relationship with my mother in-law! Has anyone experienced this?
Q. I've seen this topic brought up a few times, but I thought I'd ask advice from anyone here that might have experience on this. I know - this is horrible to say or think, but I really hope to make this work so spare me the preaching. I am extremely...
A. 27 February 2008: Grow Up. That is the best advice I can offer you.
I sincerely hope your wife leaves you before you have children with her.
Of all the women you could cheat with, your mother in law? There is something emotionally damaged about you.
-F... (read in full...)
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