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| Latest articles: Off Limits Dating
No replies yet... 18 September 2013: Is Someone Off Limits for Dating? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Mastering the art of dating requires a number of skills such as being socially calibrated, effective communication and knowing what you want. One of the areas that comes up for ...
How to Deal with a Toxic Person
No replies yet... 18 September 2013: The Best Way To Deal With Toxic People By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Toxic people are defined in this article as people who lack the capacity to reason, or people have the capacity to reason but just do not want to reason with you. In t...
A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce
No replies yet... 31 August 2013: A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships One of the ironies of couples counseling that I often find myself doing is taking the couple through the pre-marital coaching process when they may already be...
A Frank Comment on Miley Cyrus
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31 August 2013: A Frank Comment On Miley Cyrus By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I do not normally comment on the antics of popular culture, as so much of what we see of movies and TV are fiction based romances and relationships. I tried my best to stay fo...
The Wedding Speech
No replies yet... 26 July 2013: The Wedding Speech Remember this day, your wedding day. Not for the dresses and suits, not for the extravagance, nor the dinner and dancing, but remember your wedding day because of the reasons you chose to marry your spouse. Remember who is it that...
Sexually Incompatible Couples
No replies yet... 19 July 2013: Sexually Incompatible Couples Sex is not the most important thing in a relationship. However, couples who love each other dearly and connect on so many levels, but whom are sexually incompatible tend to find that sex can be at the core of a numb...
Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2
No replies yet... 28 June 2013: Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2 Separation does not automatically lead to divorce unless you let it. It is up to you and your partner to put in the work so that it does not happen. In the event you are the only one trying to work on yourself and ...
Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2
No replies yet... 22 June 2013: Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2 One of the most damaging actions an individual can take is to start dating someone new when going through a separation with their serious long term partner (spouse, common-law partner or a defacto-union). When I use ...
The Frank Break Up Formula
No replies yet... 14 June 2013: The Frank Break Up Formula By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Breaking up with someone is rarely an enjoyable or pleasant experience. In fact, there are those individuals who stay in less than satisfying relationships, and even can go all the ...
The Frank Romance Formula part 3 of 3
No replies yet... 8 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 3 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 of 3
No replies yet... 3 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future
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3 May 2013: The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships The future is where actual seduction takes place. That is the key to seduction. It has very little to do with turning someone on when you see them. I...
The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons
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27 April 2013: The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Sometimes life will slap you down when it has a lesson to teach you. For some people, the slap may be a light swat, and for others the slap has to be a severe smack down. ...
Dating With Disabilities
No replies yet... 5 April 2013: Dating With Disabilities by Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I once went on a date with a woman that had severe food allergies. We went out to a movie and I wished she had told me ahead of time. Although she mentioned that she was deathly all...
Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen
No replies yet... 21 March 2013: Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Rejection is the worst best thing that can ever happen to you. Managing rejection is a necessary part in managing your love life. Over the course of your ...
Things they do not tell you about having kids
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15 March 2013: Things They Do Not Tell You About Having Kids By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I always try to be very practical and realistic in my articles. This can come across very negative, given that my topic is Relationships (and all things relative...
When Friendship Is Meaningless
No replies yet... 8 March 2013: Friendship Is Meaningless Stop Hanging Out With Friends Who Sexually Reject You By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Friendship is meaningless. There I said it. Now before you shoot one of your nasty emails to the editor, actually read this colum...
Who Cares What People Think? Depends...
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1 March 2013: How Much Should You Care About What Other People Think? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships T here will be times when we want to do something in our lives that is meaningful to us. It could be a decision related to abandoning education, wh...
Learn How to Choose the Right Fights!
No replies yet... 21 February 2013: Pick And Choose Your Fights By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Fighting in relationships is normal. The issue is not whether you fight. The issue is HOW a couple fights. Do they talk out their disagreements? Do they wait until they are alon...
Starting Over After V-day?
No replies yet... 14 February 2013: Starting Over? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Valentine’s day can be a day of reckoning for some people. Meaning, the events leading up to, on the day of, and afterwards can really wreck your life. This is one of the reasons I often refer to...
A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best
No replies yet... 6 February 2013: A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best By Frank Kermit, Relationships At my weekly relationship workshop last Saturday I issued one of my famous “Frankisms” that seemed to really resonate with the attendees. I was trying...
Asking Hard Questions
No replies yet... 1 February 2013: Asking Hard Questions By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships When trying to decide if you should be committed to someone, moving in with someone, getting engaged, and getting married, each new transition brings about the unpleasant task of askin...
Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix
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24 January 2013: Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix By Frank Kermit, Relationships If you ever had sex with someone that is about to get married, and have been invited to the wedding, do not go. This is especially true if the spouse-to-be feels uncomfortable havi...
Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy
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16 January 2013: Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Couples who are experiencing a transition in the status of their relationship may sometimes look to explore new ways of redefining their sex lives b...
Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships
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13 December 2012: Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships As the holiday season approaches, invitations begin to swarm in for get-togethers from family, friends and even office parties. It is a time of people coming together, and in some ca...
Couples in Transition
No replies yet... 29 November 2012: Couples in Transition By Frank Kermit, Relationships When a couple is going through a change in the status of their relationship they are a couple in transition. This includes couples that are transitioning from monogamy to non-monogamy, from no...
Your Home Is Your Seduction
No replies yet... 15 November 2012: Your Home Is Your Seduction By Frank Kermit, Relationships Your date is coming over to your place! You have seen each other a couple of times already, but this is different. This is YOUR PLACE, not some coffee shop or movie theatre or restaur...
The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey
No replies yet... 6 November 2012: The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey By Frank Kermit, Relationships The movie of your life is how we each envision our lives unfolding throughout our life span. This concept goes beyond simple fantasizing of what your life would be like. Writing ...
What Love Masks by Frank Kermit
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2 November 2012: What Love Masks By Frank Kermit, Relationships A mentor of mine taught me that love is not blind; it is just that categories are rigid. When you meet someone, you put that person in a category (lover, friend, temptation, fling, does-no...
The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work: An Article About EFT and Weight Loss
No replies yet... 2 November 2012: The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work An Article About EFT and Weight Loss I have a confession. I used to daydream about food. You know that point in the day when someone catches you; your head in your hands, that dreamy look on your face? If so...
Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type?
No replies yet... 1 November 2012: Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type? By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all have our “type”. By “type” I am referring to that type of person each of us is madly attracted too. Each of us has our preference of what we like, what turns us on, ...
Is there such a thing as Happily Single?
No replies yet... 19 October 2012: Is there such a thing as Happily Single? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Is being single really that bad? After all, when a person considers the amount of pain that a relationship or casual dating can cause, it may seem that just skipping the w...
Be Thankful For a Broken Heart
No replies yet... 11 October 2012: Be Thankful For A Broken Heart By Frank Kermit, Relationships Ok, I hate this. I really hate this part of the process. However, it is a necessary part of the process, and if I am expected to help encourage others to do it, first I have to demo...
Stop Talking About Your Ex On Dates!
No replies yet... 5 October 2012: Stop Talking So Much About Your Ex By Frank Kermit, Relationships So you are on a date with someone new. You are excited. You are nervous. You hope that this is finally going to be the one. You meet. So far, you both like what you see. This...
Dating in Social Circles
No replies yet... 29 September 2012: Dating In Social Circles By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dating can be tricky. Does the other person like you the way you think he or she might? Do you really like that person enough to get more serious, or do you want to keep it more casual a...
Frank Guide to Speed Dating
No replies yet... 21 September 2012: Frank Guide To Speed Dating By Frank Kermit, Relationships Every way to meet someone new is a good way. Though friends, through the Internet, blind dates, approaching someone you want to meet, at a workshop, matchmaking companies, business conv...
Relationship Goal Setting
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15 September 2012: Relationship Goal Setting By Frank Kermit, Relationships Setting goals in most areas of your life can be challenging. When it comes to relationships, there are even more challenges. Whereas in other areas of your life such as education, emplo...
Battling The Savior Complex in Relationships
No replies yet... 6 September 2012: Battling The Savior Complex By Frank Kermit, Relationships As children, many of us grew up on stories about the hero that saves a person, and in the process, earned the undying love and loyalty of the person saved so that the hero and that saved ...
Get Out Of Your Own Way!
No replies yet... 30 August 2012: Get Out Of Your Own Way By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest obstacles that a person can have as an obstruction on their path of finding happiness, peace and healing for their love life, is themselves. Although most people wou...
Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow
No replies yet... 26 August 2012: Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow By Frank Kermit, Relationships Young adults tend to discount how the choices they make today will impact their futures tomorrow. At least, when it comes to relationships. The bes...
Are You A Partner Or A Liability?
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17 August 2012: Are You A Partner Or A Liability? When it really is you and not them By Frank Kermit, Relationships “It’s not you, it’s me.” Have you ever heard that said to you when someone broke up with you? Have you ever been the one to use it when dump...
The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships
No replies yet... 9 August 2012: The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships There are 7 certain words that catch many people off guard when it comes to relationships. They are: Lust, Love, Sex, Dating, Commitment, Marriage, and Monogamy. ...
Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss.
No replies yet... 20 July 2012: Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss By Frank Kermit, Relationships Are you too nice when it comes to relationships? Do you walk on eggshells because you do not want to upset your partner? Are you reluctant to enforce your bounda...
Re-Establishing Trust in a Relationship Article
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12 July 2012: Broken Trust Takes More Than Time To Re-Establish By Frank Kermit, Relationships Trust is one of the most important components of a relationship. Love is a great start, but it takes more than loving someone, or being loved by someone, to make ...
Understanding Emotional Needs
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4 July 2012: Understanding Emotional Needs: What We Respond To Versus What We Should Like By Frank Kermit, Relationships Emotional needs are about what a person responds to. It has nothing to do with what a person should like. We all should be attracte...
Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date
No replies yet... 29 June 2012: Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date By Frank Kermit, Relationships When you are on a date, and the person you are getting to know says or does something that triggers a well-honed instinct that you need to stop dating that person, you hav...
The Art of Storytelling on a Date
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Art of Storytelling: Make or Break A Relationship Happy Ending By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the challenges that people face when they go on dates is that they may not factor in that others will not understand what they are trying ...
Swinger Beginner Advice
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Swinger Beginners: Keep it Out of the Work Place By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dear Frank, My husband and I recently returned from a business trip/vacation where a few of my husband's co-workers also brought their wives. We really hit it o...
When your Ex becomes a symbol and you can't get over it
No replies yet... 13 June 2012: When Your Ex Becomes A Symbol Relationship Symbolism of Why You Are Still Hooked By Frank Kermit, Relationships We are surrounded by the power of symbols. A symbol is more than just a design we recognize; symbols are a means of making meaning. ...
Ally Vs Enemy: Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men
No replies yet... 9 June 2012: Is She His Ally or His Enemy? Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men By Frank Kermit, Relationships The best way I know how to teach people about the emotional needs of men is to break it down to absolute fundamentals. If people can und...
Dating After A Break Up - Just How Long Should You Wait?
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1 June 2012: Dating After Breaking Up? The Sooner The Better By Frank Kermit, Relationships “How much time should I wait before I start dating again?” is a common question that I get asked from someone that has just recently gotten dumped, and still sufferi...
Relationship Redemption: How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure
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23 May 2012: Relationship Redemption How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all make mistakes in life. If you have ever tried to get into a relationship, are in a relationship, or are recovering from a relationship, ...
Finding The Meaning Of Your Life And Relationships
No replies yet... 15 May 2012: The Meaning of your Relationships Starts With The Meaning Of Your Life By Frank Kermit, Relationships Contemplate your death. No seriously. In order to make meanings of your relationships past, present and those you will have in the futur...
The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women
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10 May 2012: The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women By Frank Kermit, Relationships A woman can only play one of two roles in a man’s life. She is either his mother or his lover. She cannot be both. When a man addresses a wom...
Moving To The Next Level: Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships
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1 May 2012: Moving To The Next Level Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest mistakes people make in relationships is to promote someone up the hierarchy of commitment that has not really earned it. I...
Beware Your Friends when it comes to love
No replies yet... 15 April 2012: Beware Your Friends They May Not Want You To Be Loved By Frank Kermit, Relationships Mistakes Singles Make # 6… Seeking the approval of friends that influences your love life choices. Love may come and go, but a friendship can last a lifetim...
Are Relationships Worth The Risk?
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8 April 2012: Relationships = Risk But is it really worth it? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Given that there is so much risk in getting involved in relationships, or having sex for that matter, is it at all worth it to even bother? After all, a broken hear...
Tattoos and Relationships
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24 March 2012: Beware The L-I-N-K Of (L)ove and (INK) By Frank Kermit, Relationships While at a coffee shop a few weeks ago, I met a tattoo artist. He had his son’s name tattooed on his hand, and being the ever-inquisitive one, I asked him about his profession...
Open Relationships and Infidelity
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17 March 2012: Open Relationships Do Not Always Stave Off Infidelity By Frank Kermit, Relationships Some people believe that one of the surest ways to guarantee fidelity is to only do open relationships. The premise is that people only cheat in monogamous ...
What is a Relationship?
No replies yet... 10 March 2012: What is a Relationship? Is best defined by what it’s NOT By Frank Kermit, Relationships Over the years, I have been asked a number of times “What is a Relationship?” This is a harder question to answer than most people think. In my experience,...
Engaged! Now what?
No replies yet... 19 February 2012: Pre Marital Disclosure What you don’t know, you must know By Frank Kermit, Relationships Valentines day has come and gone. Some relationships have started. Some relationships have ended, and some relationships have proceeded to the next le...
Making Monogamy Work
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5 February 2012: Making Monogamy Work By Frank Kermit, Relationships Monogamy is easier than open relationships, because the rules are simpler...but the application of the rules of monogamy is not as easy. Monogamy works for monogamous people...however...
Single Parent Dating, Not Just a Single Issue
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3 February 2012: Single Parent Dating – More Than Just A Single Issue By Frank Kermit At least 40% of marriages end in divorce. Depending on the study you read, the percentage can be higher. Even though the break down of families continues, the drive that ma...
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Lost in life, any suggestions please?
Q. Dear All I would appreciate some help please; I'm lost in my life. I see myself as mature. Two girls have manipulated me recently (not literally but have pretended to be close and maybe a little bit more, 1 stole my heart and ran which hurt) and ...
A. 16 October 2007: Hey,
It sounds like you have been through a rough time. Firstly do not look to women to make up for the love you are missing in your life. You are too vulnerable right now, and will come off as too needy, which means they will turn against ... (read in full...)
To all the men: what keeps you interested and committed to us?
Q. To All The Men: How does a woman keep your interest over the long haul of a loving relationship? What do you look for in a mate, what will keep you from straying to a younger woman who gives you some attention? What will make you want to be ...
A. 16 October 2007: Hey Anon Female,
You said: im so glad that im a woman,we seem to know who are the faithful ones,players and users and well mine cant be trusted and i give him everything frank has mentioned.
Before you discredit my research and proven ... (read in full...)
Do all men lie?
Q. I've been Internet dating for approximately a year now and have dated four men five to 20 times during that time period. All four lied a great deal, often about silly, everyday things. My ex also lied a great deal. Why do men feel the need to lie so ...
A. 15 October 2007: No, not all men lie.
I have to ask on what criteria do you choose your dates? Do you present yourself as someone that will handle the truth well? When a couple of people lie to you, that is on them. WHen it seems like everyone is lying to you, ... (read in full...)
Do I talk to my man about my ex?
Q. I was in a marriage that my ex was having affairs.I think im still trying to deal with that. my ex wants to go get help and work on things. i have been dating a guy for about 9months now and my ex is upset that im seeing this man.He wants our fami...
A. 9 October 2007: If you have any intention, even the slightest thought about returning to the ex, (which it sounds like you do) tell the new bf, so he can make choices too. Otherwise you are just using him, and he will find out anyways, but then, you will have ... (read in full...)
His daughter is lonely and clings to him.
Q. what should my bf do about his pregnant daughter? she has a child and a husband but apparently her husband does not meet her emotional needs so she tries to get these met by her father. she is very lonely and has something definitly missing from ...
A. 9 October 2007: You are only his gf, and she is his family. Until you become family, you will always be second behind her.
She is pregnant, and her husband is a loser, so it falls onto her father to step up. Unfortuneately, your bf does not seem to have the... (read in full...)
His other woman might be pregnant. What do I do?
Q. i'm in a relationship with a man who has someone else and she might be pregnant what should i do ?...
A. 9 October 2007: Was this an open relationship or was there a cheat going on here?
In eitehr case, the answer is the same. The couple with a child takes precidence. Stay out of it for now. If the child is his, stay out of it completely for his child's ... (read in full...)
We were happy until I found out about my fiance's secret affair with my mother.
Q. I just found out that my fiancee who I have been with for 8 years and have a 3 month old son with had an affair with my mother. She told me a couple of days ago, she said that it happened about 2 years ago. A month before he proposed to me actually...
A. 9 October 2007: I am curious as to the motivation. WHY did your mother tell you? As I see it, there was no reason to UNLESS she is trying to break the two of you up, so she can nail him again.
Bottom line is that one of them has got to go. If you decide t... (read in full...)
My Husband has rented pornos - should I be worried?
Q. I just found out my husband has rented several porns that imply that the actresses are teens even though they are not. They are depicted as teens and the title includes the word teen in them. Should I be worried?...
A. 9 October 2007: If you have teenage daughters, esp if they are not his daughters, then yes, be worried.
If not, then it is just a festish, (the corpurtion of innocence and getting the girl he never could when he was a boy), and try to watch them with him, so ... (read in full...)
Why should I give him a BJ? I don't get anything out of it!
Q. ok it seems my man wants a bj all the time but he wants me to finish it without my getting any pleasure what should i do about this ...
A. 9 October 2007: You do not state if he does things for you that he does not like. Does he? Does he go down on you?
Sometimes, it is not about the pleasure we get from performing a sex act with our partners, it is the about the pleasure that it offers your par... (read in full...)
Should I remain nice about this?
Q. I have been with someone for almost 2 years now. Her ex has always been a problem in our relationship. I want her to remain friends, but most of the experience I have had with their relationship is behind my back and inappropriate. I have tri...
A. 9 October 2007: What the heck are you doing?
No, do NOT continue to be nice about this. THis was not soemthing to ever be nice about.
Why the hell would you want your FIANCE (FUTURE WIFE) to be friends with an ex who she is sneaking around with BEHIND YOUR... (read in full...)
I have a new partner, we want to live together, but because of her pension we can't.
Q. i have met a new partner we have been seeing each other for 6 weeks we get along extremely well we are both aquarians the idea of living together in the future came up and she has straight out said that due to her pension if we were to move in she ...
A. 9 October 2007: Too soon to be thinking about this, HOWEVER, unless you live in a Home, and are just in apartments, you might try living in apartment right next to each other or across the hall from each other.
She is right to worry about her pension. It is no... (read in full...)
I cant get her past out of my head, but I need to so that we can have a life together
Q. My girlfriend of almost two years, “Sara”, just asked me to marry her. She is a realist. And for a women like “Sara” to have reached a point in her life where she would even consider marriage again (as she was briefly married to her high school ...
A. 8 October 2007: One of the BEST articles about jealousy that helped me deal with it is called:
Jealousy and the Abyss. You can find it on the net.
It helped me, maybe it can help you too.
You honest is impressive. I Respect you.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
I'm athletic and confident but I'm still a virgin. Please help!
Q. I'm 22 years of age and have never really been in a long-term relationship. Up until a couple of years ago, I had no self-confidence and could never understand how anyone would want to be with me, let alone how they could find me remotely attract...
A. 7 October 2007: I think you are right to be worried about admitting being a virgin. You do have an advantage though, as you are 22. At 25, the real stigma hits. Losing your virginity at 23-23 is somewhat acceptable as you will be seen as a late bloomer. ... (read in full...)
I'm a 24 year old virgin. How do I get close to girls?
Q. Like the title says im a 24 year old male virgin with next to no experiance with girls. I mean really none, not even kissing etc, also not big into partys and disco's, prefer meeting up, hanging out, going to cinema, renting dvd just chating ...
A. 7 October 2007: Firstly take a massage course. It will give you something to talk about, AND make you comfortable with knowing how to touch a woman.
Next I give seminars for adult male virgins to help them get to their first time. Read the reviews from virgins ... (read in full...)
How do I get my girlfriend to confess?
Q. my girlfriend had sex with my cousin on our sons first b day.we were all drunk. she says she is really sorry.we separated for about a month.now we are back together.it dosn't feel right though.we don't have sex very often and when we do she just ...
A. 6 October 2007: One of the ways to get someone to confess is to accuse them of something much much worse, and getting them to confess to the lessor crime is their way out. However, even if you learn the truth, you must be ready for the bad feelings afterwards. For ... (read in full...)
She is going away. What to do?
Q. My Fiance has just supprised me that She is supposed to join a College for 3 yrs in the US from January 2008.My greatest worry is, I might lose her since she will be away for that long. She might come back married to someone else. Please, what can I ...
A. 6 October 2007: Marrying right away her will not make her faithful or secure her to you necessarily. Are you able to immigrate with her? Would marriage help you immigrate?
Otherwise, I think you need to accept that she is going, and the risk that this is the e... (read in full...)
Why won't he have sex with me?
Q. he never touches me in a sexual way any more. I have not changed (since having a baby). infact, i have lost weight, i dont have stretch marks, or unslightly post pregnancy marks..... I am clean, and always try to dress well, be clean etc. When ...
A. 6 October 2007: He sees you as a "mother" figure, not a "lover" figure. it is screwing with his mind.
Can you leave the baby with family for a 3 day weekend, and go someplace just you and him to rekindle? Bring some marital aids with you...maybe a B&B in the c... (read in full...)
My daughter has turned her back on her family in favour of an older man! What should I do?
Q. Help me my daughter 19 previously a loving member of our family has found a 34 boyfrind(manfriend) who has whisked her away to live in a flat with him. We have never met him, and although we tried to reason with her, and then just resorted to being ...
A. 6 October 2007: This does not add up for me. Is it possible that there was something about your family that was not loving to her, or made her happy that she would WANT to get away from you all?
Also, did you try to stop them from being together in any way? Is... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend that I showed another guy my nipple ring?
Q. Dear Cupid I have been going out with my adoreable boyfriend for nearly a year now and things are brilliant however, I tend to get a bit too drunk when i am out with my girlfriends and last weekend I showed some random guy my nipple ring. ...
A. 6 October 2007: Firstly, stop drinking. No matter how this turns out.
Next, yes you'd better tell him. Mainly becuase one of your girlfriends WILL talk about it to someone, and he is bound to find out. If he finds out from someone else, he will never trust an... (read in full...)
My husband dated this woman while we were separated, and she says her child is his, which I can't accept! We're happily married and also have a child together. Should I stay with him?
Q. Hello Need some advice. My boyfriend at the time who is now my husband separated for a little over a year. We have recently gotten married and are happy. Until I found out that the girl he was dating had a baby, and she says that it is his. Nee...
A. 6 October 2007: Thanks. ...I think?
-Frank B Kermit (I assume you meant K instead of H)... (read in full...)
Holding out until marriage, but the plans haven't begun.
Q. I have been with my fiance for 6 years and engaged for 2 and a half of them. We have never had sex. She says she wants to wait until marriage and I agreed to that. So I proposed with the intention of getting married soon after. Now its 2-1/2 ye...
A. 5 October 2007: Dude, she is enjoying a free ride, and you are giving her permission to use you.
YOU are the one to lead this relationship. She is NOT your mother. Stop waiting for her to set the date, or start to make plans.
Set the date, and start the pl... (read in full...)
Son-in-law is controlling father-in-law's dating life
Q. what do you think about a son-in-law controlling his father-in-laws date life? the father-in-law fears that the son-in-law will take it out on his daughter when he finds out that the father-in-law is back with his girlfriend after being broken u...
A. 5 October 2007: The father in law needs to find his balls, and live his own life. It is up to HIM who gets the inheritance, and if the son in law is worried (and I understand why he should be),get a will written up once and for all.
"Take it out on his daughter... (read in full...)
Holding out until marriage, but the plans haven't begun.
Q. I have been with my fiance for 6 years and engaged for 2 and a half of them. We have never had sex. She says she wants to wait until marriage and I agreed to that. So I proposed with the intention of getting married soon after. Now its 2-1/2 ye...
A. 5 October 2007: I do not understand part of your post. Are you living together or not yet?
After six years what the heck are you two waiting for? I think she does not want to marry you, but does not want to hurt you. How old are you guys anyways? If you are ... (read in full...)
My husband dated this woman while we were separated, and she says her child is his, which I can't accept! We're happily married and also have a child together. Should I stay with him?
Q. Hello Need some advice. My boyfriend at the time who is now my husband separated for a little over a year. We have recently gotten married and are happy. Until I found out that the girl he was dating had a baby, and she says that it is his. Nee...
A. 5 October 2007: Firstly, get a dna test to find out if it is really his. She could be wrong or lying.
Next, you were separated. I know you don't like it, but what did you expect? People date others when they separate.
If he cheated on you, I could understand... (read in full...)
I love him but don't want to sacrifice my chances of having kids on him maybe never being ready for anything official. What should I do?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 and 1/2 years, from day 1 we both knew it was serious and agreed this was it together forever etc. We have talked about marriage and babies etc. Thing is its always in the future and even though I have my ...
A. 5 October 2007: You have a biological clock, he does not.
Call it quits and find someone that wants you enough...if he hasn't married you and made you a mother by this point, he does not want to. If you pressure him into it, he will just abandon you later. ... (read in full...)
I cant get her past out of my head, but I need to so that we can have a life together
Q. My girlfriend of almost two years, “Sara”, just asked me to marry her. She is a realist. And for a women like “Sara” to have reached a point in her life where she would even consider marriage again (as she was briefly married to her high school ...
A. 5 October 2007: Based on your reply, you both experimented. However you came to one conclusion about your beliefs about sex, and she would have continued that lifestyle if not for you.
I think you are right to be concerned.
Here is a conversation the... (read in full...)
My daughter said my partner of 7 yrs tried to take a photo of her in the shower. He says he "walked in" texting me not realising someone else was there. I want to believe both!
Q. I have been with my partner for 7 years and thought evrything was great after being in a bad marriage. Tonight my 19year old daughter sent me a txt saying he tried to take a photo of her in the shower . When i challenged him about it he said he was ...
A. 5 October 2007: If your daughter is right, you know this is the end of your relationship with him and rightly do.
If your daughter is wrong...is this a chance you really want to take letting them continue in the same house?
What I do not understand is ho... (read in full...)
I have a sexual relation with my... half brother. Is it wrong, since it doesn't hurt anybody, or should I stop it right away? It's pure lust and we both pursue other relations...
Q. Somebody please help me, I have a big problem and there is nobody else I can talk to about it. Im very embarrased talking about and i know i will probably be judged.i guess i wouldnt blame anyone for judging me. Anyway, its a long story so here ...
A. 5 October 2007: Half brother or full brother, you already know what you need to do becuase you keep it such a secret. If there was nothing wrong with it, you would be open about it. Since you keep it such a secret, then you know you need to stop.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
I am engaged but recently hooked up with another guy - my former teacher!!
Q. Okay, first of all I know I've been stupid but I really need advice! I'm 20 and left school about 3 years ago and during my last two years I developed a huge crush on one of the teachers. I am now engaged to a different guy but about two weeks ag...
A. 5 October 2007: Break off your engagment. Be honest about what you are doing with both guys. Stop using these guys.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
I just found out my ex had clymidia
Q. I had a one night stand with my ex a year an a half ago, I've recently found out that he had chlamydia, what should i do?????...
A. 5 October 2007: Calm down. Stop having sex until you are cleared. Contact him and get information from him, and get tested as soon as possible. Until you know anything for sure, do not jump to any conclusions.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
My dad is having an affair with my best mate!
Q. I'm a 17-year-old student in college here in England, I have a good social life and friends. I am satisfied with my life, doing well in my studies. However, a recent incident has made me upset and made me question whether my best friend really is...
A. 5 October 2007: Firstly, you must understand that this is something beyond your control. Secondly, no, that friend is no friend.
The way I read your email is that your father was having a homosexual affair with your friend. That being said, there are support ... (read in full...)
I want to propose to my girl. Any suggestions?
Q. I want to propose to my girl. Can anybody suggest some ideas?...
A. 4 October 2007: I proposed to my wife just before new years, when the whole family was over. It was the first time she had met them all (we live in a different city), and it was my way to proving that I was serious about her to all of them. Just be ware of ... (read in full...)
I cant get her past out of my head, but I need to so that we can have a life together
Q. My girlfriend of almost two years, “Sara”, just asked me to marry her. She is a realist. And for a women like “Sara” to have reached a point in her life where she would even consider marriage again (as she was briefly married to her high school ...
A. 4 October 2007: It depends on your beleifs about sex. Would you have lived her lifestyle if you had the opportunity? If yes, you can not hold it against her. If no, then she feels differently about sex than you do, and chances are you will not last long term. ... (read in full...)
How do I tell him I had a foursome?
Q. Shall I get back with him? I started going out my ex in Jan this year, we fell in love with each other and were really happy and even lived with each other at one point, we went away on holiday and he proposed and I said yes!! Soon after we ret...
A. 4 October 2007: Do NOT get back together with the ex. The fact is you are not sure about it. I think you are too young and have some growing up to you. No one rebels when they are with the right person. You want him back because you are lonely and sad. It has ... (read in full...)
Having a gay relationship with my cousin but don't want to break our families' hearts, I'm not even sure I'm a lesbian!
Q. Hi, Last week I finished with my boyfriend because i dont love him anymore. I have been going out clubbing with my girl cousin and she is a lesbian. I've recently started fancying her and i told her how i felt on a friday then she told me she has ...
A. 4 October 2007: Until you know more about yourself and your orientation, I think it best to be quiet about it. You are both still young, and assuming the relationship does not last over the next couple of years, then keep it quiet for now.
If the relation... (read in full...)
To all the men: what keeps you interested and committed to us?
Q. To All The Men: How does a woman keep your interest over the long haul of a loving relationship? What do you look for in a mate, what will keep you from straying to a younger woman who gives you some attention? What will make you want to be ...
A. 4 October 2007: Address our top ten emotional needs and you have us committed. THe specificis are different for each man, but the categories are the same:
A man will either see you as his ally or enemy. It will be based on how well you address the followin... (read in full...)
Do I continue to flirt with my brother's best friend or leave it?
Q. I'm crazy about my brothers friend who he lives with. My worry is, do I continue to flirt with him and generally try my best to get together with him, or leave it because he's my brothers best friend? My brother is very protective of me and I wo...
A. 4 October 2007: The problem is not that he is your brother's friend...the problem is that they live together. If you were prepared for a serious (marriage track) relationship, then sure, go for it. If it is just a fling or casual get together, then at least wait ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my fiance with a guy we both use to work with
Q. I cheated on my fiance with a guy we both use to work with. My fiance and I are no longer together. I am no longer working with the guy I cheated with. My ex fiance is also no longer working there. I really like this other guy a lot. So my ...
A. 4 October 2007: Being with that guy means that your cheat will eventually become public knowledge as it will become part of your story together. Assuming your ex does not know yet, are you ready for the reprocussions? You and the new guy may very well lose some ... (read in full...)
Not sure if he is mad with me for not letting him live with me
Q. I told him he could not live with me, I haven't heard from him ever since. Is he mad or just moved on for good?...
A. 3 October 2007: What's the context? Why did you not want to move him to move in?
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
We're engaged but then she starts acting weird... turns out she had a "crush" on another guy and is wondering "what if"... Will this work for us?
Q. My fiance and I have been together about 1.5 years. We just recently got engaged and everything was fine. We had talked alot prior to the engagment and she had told me thats def. what she wanted. But soon after our engagment she started acting ...
A. 3 October 2007: Dude...RUN.
A man deserves to have a wife that sees him as number one in her life. If she is questioning it at all, break it off and find someone else.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
I'm constantly tired. What's wrong with me?
Q. Hello, i have a health problem. I am always tired, constantly tired and i fel like i have no energy at all. I am 18 now and it has been this way since i was about 9. I have had two blood tests since then for being tired, checking for anemia and diab...
A. 2 October 2007: Sleep Apnea is not about the hours of sleep you get. It is when your throat closes up and you stop breathing in your sleep for a few seconds at a time, and your brain must force you to wake up just enough (not fully wake up) to get your breathing ... (read in full...)
I'm constantly tired. What's wrong with me?
Q. Hello, i have a health problem. I am always tired, constantly tired and i fel like i have no energy at all. I am 18 now and it has been this way since i was about 9. I have had two blood tests since then for being tired, checking for anemia and diab...
A. 2 October 2007: Have you been tested for sleep apnea at a sleep clinic? I suffered the same thing. I was always tired and exhausted. They did tests to find out at first that I had asthma, and was not getting enough oxygen at times. Once I got the astham ... (read in full...)
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