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| Latest articles: Off Limits Dating
No replies yet... 18 September 2013: Is Someone Off Limits for Dating? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Mastering the art of dating requires a number of skills such as being socially calibrated, effective communication and knowing what you want. One of the areas that comes up for ...
How to Deal with a Toxic Person
No replies yet... 18 September 2013: The Best Way To Deal With Toxic People By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Toxic people are defined in this article as people who lack the capacity to reason, or people have the capacity to reason but just do not want to reason with you. In t...
A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce
No replies yet... 31 August 2013: A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships One of the ironies of couples counseling that I often find myself doing is taking the couple through the pre-marital coaching process when they may already be...
A Frank Comment on Miley Cyrus
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31 August 2013: A Frank Comment On Miley Cyrus By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I do not normally comment on the antics of popular culture, as so much of what we see of movies and TV are fiction based romances and relationships. I tried my best to stay fo...
The Wedding Speech
No replies yet... 26 July 2013: The Wedding Speech Remember this day, your wedding day. Not for the dresses and suits, not for the extravagance, nor the dinner and dancing, but remember your wedding day because of the reasons you chose to marry your spouse. Remember who is it that...
Sexually Incompatible Couples
No replies yet... 19 July 2013: Sexually Incompatible Couples Sex is not the most important thing in a relationship. However, couples who love each other dearly and connect on so many levels, but whom are sexually incompatible tend to find that sex can be at the core of a numb...
Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2
No replies yet... 28 June 2013: Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2 Separation does not automatically lead to divorce unless you let it. It is up to you and your partner to put in the work so that it does not happen. In the event you are the only one trying to work on yourself and ...
Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2
No replies yet... 22 June 2013: Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2 One of the most damaging actions an individual can take is to start dating someone new when going through a separation with their serious long term partner (spouse, common-law partner or a defacto-union). When I use ...
The Frank Break Up Formula
No replies yet... 14 June 2013: The Frank Break Up Formula By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Breaking up with someone is rarely an enjoyable or pleasant experience. In fact, there are those individuals who stay in less than satisfying relationships, and even can go all the ...
The Frank Romance Formula part 3 of 3
No replies yet... 8 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 3 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 of 3
No replies yet... 3 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future
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3 May 2013: The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships The future is where actual seduction takes place. That is the key to seduction. It has very little to do with turning someone on when you see them. I...
The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons
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27 April 2013: The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Sometimes life will slap you down when it has a lesson to teach you. For some people, the slap may be a light swat, and for others the slap has to be a severe smack down. ...
Dating With Disabilities
No replies yet... 5 April 2013: Dating With Disabilities by Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I once went on a date with a woman that had severe food allergies. We went out to a movie and I wished she had told me ahead of time. Although she mentioned that she was deathly all...
Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen
No replies yet... 21 March 2013: Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Rejection is the worst best thing that can ever happen to you. Managing rejection is a necessary part in managing your love life. Over the course of your ...
Things they do not tell you about having kids
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15 March 2013: Things They Do Not Tell You About Having Kids By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I always try to be very practical and realistic in my articles. This can come across very negative, given that my topic is Relationships (and all things relative...
When Friendship Is Meaningless
No replies yet... 8 March 2013: Friendship Is Meaningless Stop Hanging Out With Friends Who Sexually Reject You By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Friendship is meaningless. There I said it. Now before you shoot one of your nasty emails to the editor, actually read this colum...
Who Cares What People Think? Depends...
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1 March 2013: How Much Should You Care About What Other People Think? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships T here will be times when we want to do something in our lives that is meaningful to us. It could be a decision related to abandoning education, wh...
Learn How to Choose the Right Fights!
No replies yet... 21 February 2013: Pick And Choose Your Fights By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Fighting in relationships is normal. The issue is not whether you fight. The issue is HOW a couple fights. Do they talk out their disagreements? Do they wait until they are alon...
Starting Over After V-day?
No replies yet... 14 February 2013: Starting Over? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Valentine’s day can be a day of reckoning for some people. Meaning, the events leading up to, on the day of, and afterwards can really wreck your life. This is one of the reasons I often refer to...
A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best
No replies yet... 6 February 2013: A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best By Frank Kermit, Relationships At my weekly relationship workshop last Saturday I issued one of my famous “Frankisms” that seemed to really resonate with the attendees. I was trying...
Asking Hard Questions
No replies yet... 1 February 2013: Asking Hard Questions By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships When trying to decide if you should be committed to someone, moving in with someone, getting engaged, and getting married, each new transition brings about the unpleasant task of askin...
Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix
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24 January 2013: Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix By Frank Kermit, Relationships If you ever had sex with someone that is about to get married, and have been invited to the wedding, do not go. This is especially true if the spouse-to-be feels uncomfortable havi...
Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy
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16 January 2013: Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Couples who are experiencing a transition in the status of their relationship may sometimes look to explore new ways of redefining their sex lives b...
Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships
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13 December 2012: Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships As the holiday season approaches, invitations begin to swarm in for get-togethers from family, friends and even office parties. It is a time of people coming together, and in some ca...
Couples in Transition
No replies yet... 29 November 2012: Couples in Transition By Frank Kermit, Relationships When a couple is going through a change in the status of their relationship they are a couple in transition. This includes couples that are transitioning from monogamy to non-monogamy, from no...
Your Home Is Your Seduction
No replies yet... 15 November 2012: Your Home Is Your Seduction By Frank Kermit, Relationships Your date is coming over to your place! You have seen each other a couple of times already, but this is different. This is YOUR PLACE, not some coffee shop or movie theatre or restaur...
The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey
No replies yet... 6 November 2012: The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey By Frank Kermit, Relationships The movie of your life is how we each envision our lives unfolding throughout our life span. This concept goes beyond simple fantasizing of what your life would be like. Writing ...
What Love Masks by Frank Kermit
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2 November 2012: What Love Masks By Frank Kermit, Relationships A mentor of mine taught me that love is not blind; it is just that categories are rigid. When you meet someone, you put that person in a category (lover, friend, temptation, fling, does-no...
The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work: An Article About EFT and Weight Loss
No replies yet... 2 November 2012: The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work An Article About EFT and Weight Loss I have a confession. I used to daydream about food. You know that point in the day when someone catches you; your head in your hands, that dreamy look on your face? If so...
Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type?
No replies yet... 1 November 2012: Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type? By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all have our “type”. By “type” I am referring to that type of person each of us is madly attracted too. Each of us has our preference of what we like, what turns us on, ...
Is there such a thing as Happily Single?
No replies yet... 19 October 2012: Is there such a thing as Happily Single? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Is being single really that bad? After all, when a person considers the amount of pain that a relationship or casual dating can cause, it may seem that just skipping the w...
Be Thankful For a Broken Heart
No replies yet... 11 October 2012: Be Thankful For A Broken Heart By Frank Kermit, Relationships Ok, I hate this. I really hate this part of the process. However, it is a necessary part of the process, and if I am expected to help encourage others to do it, first I have to demo...
Stop Talking About Your Ex On Dates!
No replies yet... 5 October 2012: Stop Talking So Much About Your Ex By Frank Kermit, Relationships So you are on a date with someone new. You are excited. You are nervous. You hope that this is finally going to be the one. You meet. So far, you both like what you see. This...
Dating in Social Circles
No replies yet... 29 September 2012: Dating In Social Circles By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dating can be tricky. Does the other person like you the way you think he or she might? Do you really like that person enough to get more serious, or do you want to keep it more casual a...
Frank Guide to Speed Dating
No replies yet... 21 September 2012: Frank Guide To Speed Dating By Frank Kermit, Relationships Every way to meet someone new is a good way. Though friends, through the Internet, blind dates, approaching someone you want to meet, at a workshop, matchmaking companies, business conv...
Relationship Goal Setting
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15 September 2012: Relationship Goal Setting By Frank Kermit, Relationships Setting goals in most areas of your life can be challenging. When it comes to relationships, there are even more challenges. Whereas in other areas of your life such as education, emplo...
Battling The Savior Complex in Relationships
No replies yet... 6 September 2012: Battling The Savior Complex By Frank Kermit, Relationships As children, many of us grew up on stories about the hero that saves a person, and in the process, earned the undying love and loyalty of the person saved so that the hero and that saved ...
Get Out Of Your Own Way!
No replies yet... 30 August 2012: Get Out Of Your Own Way By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest obstacles that a person can have as an obstruction on their path of finding happiness, peace and healing for their love life, is themselves. Although most people wou...
Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow
No replies yet... 26 August 2012: Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow By Frank Kermit, Relationships Young adults tend to discount how the choices they make today will impact their futures tomorrow. At least, when it comes to relationships. The bes...
Are You A Partner Or A Liability?
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17 August 2012: Are You A Partner Or A Liability? When it really is you and not them By Frank Kermit, Relationships “It’s not you, it’s me.” Have you ever heard that said to you when someone broke up with you? Have you ever been the one to use it when dump...
The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships
No replies yet... 9 August 2012: The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships There are 7 certain words that catch many people off guard when it comes to relationships. They are: Lust, Love, Sex, Dating, Commitment, Marriage, and Monogamy. ...
Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss.
No replies yet... 20 July 2012: Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss By Frank Kermit, Relationships Are you too nice when it comes to relationships? Do you walk on eggshells because you do not want to upset your partner? Are you reluctant to enforce your bounda...
Re-Establishing Trust in a Relationship Article
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12 July 2012: Broken Trust Takes More Than Time To Re-Establish By Frank Kermit, Relationships Trust is one of the most important components of a relationship. Love is a great start, but it takes more than loving someone, or being loved by someone, to make ...
Understanding Emotional Needs
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4 July 2012: Understanding Emotional Needs: What We Respond To Versus What We Should Like By Frank Kermit, Relationships Emotional needs are about what a person responds to. It has nothing to do with what a person should like. We all should be attracte...
Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date
No replies yet... 29 June 2012: Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date By Frank Kermit, Relationships When you are on a date, and the person you are getting to know says or does something that triggers a well-honed instinct that you need to stop dating that person, you hav...
The Art of Storytelling on a Date
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Art of Storytelling: Make or Break A Relationship Happy Ending By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the challenges that people face when they go on dates is that they may not factor in that others will not understand what they are trying ...
Swinger Beginner Advice
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Swinger Beginners: Keep it Out of the Work Place By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dear Frank, My husband and I recently returned from a business trip/vacation where a few of my husband's co-workers also brought their wives. We really hit it o...
When your Ex becomes a symbol and you can't get over it
No replies yet... 13 June 2012: When Your Ex Becomes A Symbol Relationship Symbolism of Why You Are Still Hooked By Frank Kermit, Relationships We are surrounded by the power of symbols. A symbol is more than just a design we recognize; symbols are a means of making meaning. ...
Ally Vs Enemy: Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men
No replies yet... 9 June 2012: Is She His Ally or His Enemy? Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men By Frank Kermit, Relationships The best way I know how to teach people about the emotional needs of men is to break it down to absolute fundamentals. If people can und...
Dating After A Break Up - Just How Long Should You Wait?
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1 June 2012: Dating After Breaking Up? The Sooner The Better By Frank Kermit, Relationships “How much time should I wait before I start dating again?” is a common question that I get asked from someone that has just recently gotten dumped, and still sufferi...
Relationship Redemption: How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure
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23 May 2012: Relationship Redemption How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all make mistakes in life. If you have ever tried to get into a relationship, are in a relationship, or are recovering from a relationship, ...
Finding The Meaning Of Your Life And Relationships
No replies yet... 15 May 2012: The Meaning of your Relationships Starts With The Meaning Of Your Life By Frank Kermit, Relationships Contemplate your death. No seriously. In order to make meanings of your relationships past, present and those you will have in the futur...
The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women
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10 May 2012: The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women By Frank Kermit, Relationships A woman can only play one of two roles in a man’s life. She is either his mother or his lover. She cannot be both. When a man addresses a wom...
Moving To The Next Level: Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships
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1 May 2012: Moving To The Next Level Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest mistakes people make in relationships is to promote someone up the hierarchy of commitment that has not really earned it. I...
Beware Your Friends when it comes to love
No replies yet... 15 April 2012: Beware Your Friends They May Not Want You To Be Loved By Frank Kermit, Relationships Mistakes Singles Make # 6… Seeking the approval of friends that influences your love life choices. Love may come and go, but a friendship can last a lifetim...
Are Relationships Worth The Risk?
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8 April 2012: Relationships = Risk But is it really worth it? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Given that there is so much risk in getting involved in relationships, or having sex for that matter, is it at all worth it to even bother? After all, a broken hear...
Tattoos and Relationships
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24 March 2012: Beware The L-I-N-K Of (L)ove and (INK) By Frank Kermit, Relationships While at a coffee shop a few weeks ago, I met a tattoo artist. He had his son’s name tattooed on his hand, and being the ever-inquisitive one, I asked him about his profession...
Open Relationships and Infidelity
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17 March 2012: Open Relationships Do Not Always Stave Off Infidelity By Frank Kermit, Relationships Some people believe that one of the surest ways to guarantee fidelity is to only do open relationships. The premise is that people only cheat in monogamous ...
What is a Relationship?
No replies yet... 10 March 2012: What is a Relationship? Is best defined by what it’s NOT By Frank Kermit, Relationships Over the years, I have been asked a number of times “What is a Relationship?” This is a harder question to answer than most people think. In my experience,...
Engaged! Now what?
No replies yet... 19 February 2012: Pre Marital Disclosure What you don’t know, you must know By Frank Kermit, Relationships Valentines day has come and gone. Some relationships have started. Some relationships have ended, and some relationships have proceeded to the next le...
Making Monogamy Work
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5 February 2012: Making Monogamy Work By Frank Kermit, Relationships Monogamy is easier than open relationships, because the rules are simpler...but the application of the rules of monogamy is not as easy. Monogamy works for monogamous people...however...
Single Parent Dating, Not Just a Single Issue
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3 February 2012: Single Parent Dating – More Than Just A Single Issue By Frank Kermit At least 40% of marriages end in divorce. Depending on the study you read, the percentage can be higher. Even though the break down of families continues, the drive that ma...
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Any advice on saving my relationship?
Q. i need to save my relatinship with my girlfriend! having a bad patch, we both love each other. any advice anyone?...
A. 25 September 2007: 12 hour shifts? Is that 5 days a week, or only 3 days a week?
Look, if you like your job, stick with it.
If you beleive that you and her have a real future together, and the job is not that important to you, then find a different job.
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He's hanging out with hsi mates 24/7 and makes my asking for a bit of time sound like a chore. Any tips?
Q. i've been with my boyfriend for nearly two and a half years,we've always had a great relationship but recently he's been hanging out with his mates 24/7 i wouldnt really have a problem with it but when i want to see him he's never around he's always ...
A. 21 September 2007: Well, I am very mean when it comes to things like this...but you could always make it an open relationship, and then ask out one of the mates he hangs with. Let's see where their loyalities are.
If he is not giving you the attention you want, sp... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I have herpes, I want to break up but I am afraid no one else will want me
Q. My bf and i have herpes. We found out a year ago and im still with him. I think i am with him cause im afraid someone else wont want me. He's getting mean. I wanna be with sumone else sum1 older but i dont kno if he likes me since we only e mail ...
A. 21 September 2007: You can still find love is you have herpes, but it is going to be more difficult.
If you want to end things with the BF, then end them, not becuase you have someone else, but becuase the relationship is over.
You are too afraid to be alone with... (read in full...)
My friends said they were coming to my wedding and then didnt show!
Q. I got married last weekend. I invited 15 of my own friends. Only 2 came, and they left really early too. About 8-10 other friends rsvp'd and said they were coming. They didn't show and only one bothered to tell me she couldn't make it because she ...
A. 21 September 2007: I would be furious.
Is it possible these people are not really your friends? Also, do they have a problem with your lifestyle or the person you married? Finally, could they just be jealous of you?
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
Any advice on saving my relationship?
Q. i need to save my relatinship with my girlfriend! having a bad patch, we both love each other. any advice anyone?...
A. 21 September 2007: What was the bad patch about?
-FBK... (read in full...)
I am 18, she is 15. Is it ok to date her?
Q. I've recently left my old job of which I got quite close to another person who worked there. I'm 18 but she is still 15, is it wrong if I try to make something happen- not having sex; but just having a good time together?...
A. 21 September 2007: You asked: is it wrong if I try to make something happen- not having sex; but just having a good time together?
Yes it is. She is a minor. You are not, at least not in some parts of the world.
I do not beleive in the subtext here. What ... (read in full...)
How do I figure out if I am being overly sensitive or if my feelings are legit
Q. Relationships are always stressful because I "over think" everything. I'm not sure my girlfriend is really right for me, so what do I ask myself to determine if I'm truly being overly sensitve or if what bothers me is legit?...
A. 21 September 2007: Firstly, if you stress out too easily, then do not get into monogamous relationships. Do not be exclusive and just date a number of people.
Next, start out by asking yourself what your boundaries are. What are your deal breakers? Are they rea... (read in full...)
My girlfriend broke up with me because I am a virgin. She now wants to have fun with me, what should I do?
Q. Hey people, So me and my ex broke up for summer, she said she needed space and wasn’t ready for the commitment. 3 months later, she has returned back to the uk. When I found out she was back I sent her an email and we got chatting on msn, she...
A. 19 September 2007: FB = fuck buddy, as in a friend with whom you have sex, but it is not a relationship. also known as
CSBF = casual sex between friends
I am offering an ebay auction for one hour of one on one time for this related topic if you are interested: ... (read in full...)
Within days of splitting he was in bed with someone new. But now he wants us to get back together. Can I trust him?
Q. Just need some thoughts..My bf and i have been toegther for 3 yrs, we had a bad break up, and got back together. Anyways we broke up again, I told him I hated him and stay out of my life forever....Anyways 4 days after the break up, he goes to ...
A. 19 September 2007: You Asked:....When Men do this.....Why do they do it, if they are going to come begging to come back???
Becuase for a man, sex and love are very different things.
Sex is healing, and having sex keeps us balenced. The physical act itself IS a... (read in full...)
My girlfriend broke up with me because I am a virgin. She now wants to have fun with me, what should I do?
Q. Hey people, So me and my ex broke up for summer, she said she needed space and wasn’t ready for the commitment. 3 months later, she has returned back to the uk. When I found out she was back I sent her an email and we got chatting on msn, she...
A. 18 September 2007: Look, part of growing up means that you are going to have to handle heartache. It is part of the risk you take in relationships.
Here is a beleif you might want to adopt...unless you have already been having sex for a few weeks, no woman sh... (read in full...)
Why won't she just break it off completely if this relationship is so bad?
Q. So my girlfriend and I starting our relationship a while back. We were together for 18 months, the last 6 of which were very shaky. Not for any terribly wrong reasons, but we had a lot of fights. Finally, she told me that we should break up, ...
A. 18 September 2007: Hey,
You: problem is that I only listen to it some of the time.
Which is why you only have half a relationship with her.
You: During that time, it seems like we're not in a relationship and the waiting game sucks,
Instead of wai... (read in full...)
Was my wife the victim of sexual assualt?
Q. Was my wife a likely victim of sexual assault or rape? Before we got together when she was 18 years old she attended a 4th of July party at which she played a drinking game with somef other college students and got so drunk she blacked out. She ...
A. 18 September 2007: Firstly, get your wife to a therapist, or counselor or someone that is a profession for this. Do not try to solve this yourself.
Secondly, it could have been a date rape, but it could have been that they were both drunk and not a rape. She did ... (read in full...)
Why won't she just break it off completely if this relationship is so bad?
Q. So my girlfriend and I starting our relationship a while back. We were together for 18 months, the last 6 of which were very shaky. Not for any terribly wrong reasons, but we had a lot of fights. Finally, she told me that we should break up, ...
A. 18 September 2007: You said: I've asked her time and again why she wouldn't just break it off completely if it's so bad to her, to which she answers that she doesn't know.
Becuase it is YOUR JOB as the man to break it off if she treats you like this, not her job ... (read in full...)
My two best friends that I have put even before my family have accidentally sent me an email with nasty things about me. What to do, pretty sure I can't get over this?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been greatly hurt by my two best friends. I have been there for them for the past 5 years, at any time and anywhere-no matter what. I have put them before my family and before my boyfriend. Last week i got an email from t...
A. 18 September 2007: Cut them out, and focus on mending your relationships with your family and bf.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
Is it possible to date your ex's brother?
Q. Please help me! I was in a bad relationship for 3 years and even lived with my ex's family for about a year and in that time I fell for my ex's younger brother. Since my ex was hardly ever around and his brother was, we found out we had more in ...
A. 18 September 2007: Is it possible? Yes.
Is it going to be more complicated than a relationship that is not related to your ex? Yes.
Is it worth the extra complications? Only you can tell if you are strong enough to handle that.
Just do not picture things li... (read in full...)
Some friends say I have changed because I don't smoke pot anymore. They say my boyfriend is controlling me.
Q. I have two specific friends who believe that my boyfriend is "controlling" because he told me he doesn't want to be in a relationship with someone who smokes pot. this is fine with me because it is not something that i am attached to so im not doing ...
A. 18 September 2007: Your "friends" are addicts and will say whatever they can to keep you in the same addiction. Drop them.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
The attached woman I'm seeing doesn't seem to make any decisions! Should I let her go?
Q. Hello a lil advice needed. I have broke off loads of contact wiv my affair after it started getting to heavy on my part wantin her to leave her fella. I know she does care stacks for me too but has no balls and i wish the sex had been crap cos we ...
A. 18 September 2007: Sounds like you are her boytoy, and she likes things just the way they are.
What makes you certain that she would not cheat on you in a relationship, when you were the other guy in this?
Cut all contact, and find someone that is not attached ... (read in full...)
My best friend is 17 and her guy is 53! Do I support her?
Q. one of my best friends is 17, 18really soon and shes been seeing this guy for about five months, they're havingsex and everything, theyve said "i love you" and when shes told her parents theyre moving in together. He's a really nice guy and hes not ...
A. 18 September 2007: Firstly, at 17 is it even legal for them to be together?
At 18, when they marry, the only issue is how they treat each other. If they treat each other fine, then support her. Just remember that you might end up being with someone that others m... (read in full...)
I've told my partner so many lies. I feel really bad about it.
Q. ive done so much stuff to the love of my life. i lied to him about things, i even kept secerts and weve been together for 5 years and have 2 childern together, and i dont no what to do i feel so bad, and now that he knows i feel better but he ...
A. 18 September 2007: Until you can explain what it is you lied about, it is hard to give advice.
The real question is, do you think you can stop lying?
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
His family don't approve of us and if I had someone else I would be happier! We are in our sixties.
Q. Please someone help...........the man that i have been dating 2yrs 9 months is 68 yrs old. i am 64. he broke up with me in july but we have started seeing each other again. he is afraid to tell his selfish family. when i go over to his house in his ...
A. 18 September 2007: You said: if i have someone else to date i would. when you get in your 60's there are not many available.
That said it all. Firstly, just becuase there are not that many out there is no reason to continue being unhappy. You may be unhappy ... (read in full...)
A guy in my dorm says his body is mine to explore, no commitments. What does that mean?
Q. I am in college and just met a guy two weeks ago who lives two doors down from me in my dorm. We have gotten pretty close in the past two weeks with great conversations and I even started giving him back rubs. I have to admit that at I really like ...
A. 18 September 2007: You said: told me that when I was massaging him that his body was mine to explore, no commitments. What does that mean? I joke about sex a good amount but I'm never serious....
Then don't joke about it, because you are leading him on, and he is ta... (read in full...)
My girlfriend broke up with me because I am a virgin. She now wants to have fun with me, what should I do?
Q. Hey people, So me and my ex broke up for summer, she said she needed space and wasn’t ready for the commitment. 3 months later, she has returned back to the uk. When I found out she was back I sent her an email and we got chatting on msn, she...
A. 18 September 2007: If you continue to see her, have sex, and get over it already. Even if it is a casual thing, lose your virginity so that your next gf does not do this to you as well.
Just do not get serious with her. She does not seem to have the maturity... (read in full...)
Within days of splitting he was in bed with someone new. But now he wants us to get back together. Can I trust him?
Q. Just need some thoughts..My bf and i have been toegther for 3 yrs, we had a bad break up, and got back together. Anyways we broke up again, I told him I hated him and stay out of my life forever....Anyways 4 days after the break up, he goes to ...
A. 18 September 2007: You told him you hated him and never wanted to see him again and broke up with him. Now you blame him for being with someone else? Get a reality check.
You were broken up. It was not cheating. He had EVERY right to be with someone that treated ... (read in full...)
He told his ex-girlfriend all about our sex life! What should I do?
Q. So, ive been seeing this guy for two months now. Im completely in love with him already, and he feels the same about me. But the other day when he was at work I couldnt help myself and took a peek at him IM messages. I looked at the conversation he ...
A. 18 September 2007: You violated his trust only to discover he violated your trust.
I think you should let him know what he did, and dump him.
There is no excuse for what either of you did, and that can either mean you are a match made in heaven, or a ticking tim... (read in full...)
Do you think my teacher might have the hots for me?
Q. I'm not really sure if my teacher is interested in me and I really need to find out. I'm going to say right now that I do NOT have a crush on him, i'm just wondering if I need to back away or not. For staters, he talks to me for as long as he can. ...
A. 18 September 2007: Do yourself and him a favor...start putting distence between the two of you. Limit your interactions to ONLY what you must talk to him for.
Becuase you already think he likes you, (and assuming you told some friend/s) if you do not start to limit... (read in full...)
A man at a bar poured a drink on me, my boyfriend beat him up, and now I'm torn
Q. i got a question and its kinda confussion abit i guess! today is my birthday and last night my bf and i went out to the club and he had gotten real jealious over a guy buying me a drink and asking me for my number, but you see i didnt acce...
A. 18 September 2007: Wow. You are angry at your bf for protecting you from the attacker that threw a bottle of beer on you, and you are making him ask you for forgivness?
Is this question for real?
How you would have felt if your bf did NOTHING to that other guy, ... (read in full...)
My friends hate my wife. Is it bad I don't really feel wrong about cutting each one of my pre-married out of the picture?
Q. I'm 24 and happily married. My wife and some of my friends before her do not get along. She's willing to work anything out, but those friends hate her and never want me to bring her. I used to have a big issue with confrontation and hone...
A. 17 September 2007: Unless the reasons they do not like your wife is due to things like she is a drug addict, or perhaps she will financially ruin you, then it is jealousy. Maybe your male friends are gay and secretly in love with you, or maybe they are just jealous. ... (read in full...)
My partner and I have sex w/ others, but we want a family one day. Am I crazy for doing this?
Q. I am a very sexual person..me and my boyfriend of 4 yrs like to engage in crazy sexual activities.we love eachother and are planning to have a family one day. Just last night I have let him have sex with another girl..he enjoyed it..it turned m...
A. 15 September 2007: Sounds like you are swingers, or into polyamory. It is different, and many couples do it. It just means you need lots more communciation that most couples, but no, you are not crazy. The only thing I would suggest is that when you are ready to ... (read in full...)
I aborted the child of a married man I had an affair with... What would you do?
Q. i had an affair with a married man for one year. i fell pregnant and he said it wasn't the right time for us to be having children but we would when i no longer worked with him and i had my own flat. i had the abortion, reluctantly but then he ...
A. 15 September 2007: Well, I can not tell you what I would do, becuase as a man, I do not think I can appreciate being pregnant and aborting it...at least not experience like a woman does.
What I can tell you is that having been in a situation with reverse sexual h... (read in full...)
My fiance is a control freak! He's forbidden me from wearing clothes I like and slapped me across the face!
Q. my fionce is controlling, weve bee together just over a year and at the beginning of the relationship it was so perfect! now, hes a control freak, i cant even wear the tops that i like. hes pinned me down by the throat wen weve bin arguin n slapped ...
A. 15 September 2007: Dump him, move on, and restrict all contact with him to "zero". -Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
My daughter's boyfriend is treating her like crap and it's driving me crazy!!
Q. I am the mother of a very attractive, smart, outgoing 17 year old. She has alot going for her. She has been dating a guy for two years (they started seeing each other in high school) they are two grades apart but only a year and a few months age ...
A. 15 September 2007: She is still a minor, and you have every right to step in here. Also, why did you wait until they had been dating 2 years? I have to ask if she learned how to let a man treat her by watching your relationships? If so, it might be time for both of ... (read in full...)
How likely is it to get pregnant when only the pull-out method is used?
Q. Hey guys...=) Well basicly last night I had unprotected sex...i know it was stupid...I definatly wont be taking risks again... i know the guy/his history etc so STI'S isn't an issue... but I'm worried there could be a possibility of getting pregn...
A. 15 September 2007: There is a word used to describe couples that use the pull out method over time...parents. -Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
Has anyone gotten back together when your girlfriend says they fell out of love?
Q. Has anyone gotten back together when your girlfriend says they fell out of love ? Me 24 and my girlfriend 26 have ben together for almost 3 years. Three weeks ago before we went to sleep told me that she thinks we need a break. That she needs t...
A. 15 September 2007: The ONLY times I ever heard of a turn around like that are those times where the girl sees the guy being with other girls...then they want you again. But the fact you had a "take a break" talk, is a Red Flag meaning it is over for her, but she ... (read in full...)
She is worried about all family and friend's expectations for her present relationship.
Q. Hello, just wonder what your views are on this. In love with my affair. She's in love too but still aint ditched her fella. Just carry on hoping she will one day start shutting him out cos it's getting stronger between me and her or ultimatum? What ...
A. 15 September 2007: I think she is leading you on. If she was THAT afraid of her fella, she wouldn't be with you at all. She is having her cake and eating it too. I do not see why you would want her to be with you...she is likely to feel very justified cheati... (read in full...)
I suffer with irritable bowel syndrome and the last couple days I have had really bad back and neck ache, I was just wondering is this something to do with my IBS?
Q. Hi, I suffer with irritable bowel syndrome and the last couple days I have had really bad back and neck ache, I was just wondering is this something to do with my IBS?...
A. 15 September 2007: To my knowledge they may not be related, HOWEVER, they may all be caused by the same things (severe change in weather, etc...). Look for something that might be cause of the 3, instead of one of the 3 causing the others. -FBK... (read in full...)
How can I make them understand that he makes me happy?
Q. Hi, i need some help I have just gotten into a relationship with a guy whos 19 (20 in november). I am 15 and turn 16 in december. Since getting with this guy I have become amazingly happy. We have spoken about the whole sex situation and have...
A. 15 September 2007: oops, I meant 15, not 13...the rest of the post still stands. -FBK... (read in full...)
How can I make them understand that he makes me happy?
Q. Hi, i need some help I have just gotten into a relationship with a guy whos 19 (20 in november). I am 15 and turn 16 in december. Since getting with this guy I have become amazingly happy. We have spoken about the whole sex situation and have...
A. 15 September 2007: It is not about what makes you happy. In some parts of the world, he could be going to jail right now. What makes this seem creepy is that the level of maturity for a man about 20 is very different than that of a girl only 13. That being said,... (read in full...)
Last week when I was home he didn't come home and I know he was with an escort again. What do I do?
Q. I have recently discovered that my partner has been paying for sex. I've been away a couple of times this year with our 6 month old and each time I've been away he has contacted an escort agency. Last week when I was home he didn't come home and I ...
A. 15 September 2007: You asked what you should you...I would suggest a frank discussion about what he is getting from escorts that he is not getting at home. Do you refuse to have certain types of sex that he can only get from the escorts? If so, can you handle giving ... (read in full...)
Please help me I dunno what to do and whom to believe......
Q. I'm 18 and living in California. I met my boyfriend 19 years of age online and also through mutual friends.. he lives in Florida which is 23,000 miles away and still I have not yet met him in person... when we first started talking on the phone his ...
A. 15 September 2007: You said: he was always making me promises of coming here or sending me a ticket to go there but it never happend. That is your RED FLAG right there. He is lying, the others are telling the truth. -Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
He says "your my girlfriend, not my mother". Should I be so concerned with his life choices?
Q. Hey its me again, about the should I chuck him or wait for a miracle. I've got another question, my boyfriend wants to do more pot which is completely against my morals. He has plans to do it this weekend. I want to use the old "three strikes your ...
A. 15 September 2007: For certain things, he needs to be his own man...but Drugs is NOT one of those things. For *%#$#@ sake, dump him. -Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
Is my fiance cheap? He makes 2800 a month and spend 2000 on my ring.
Q. Is my fiance cheap? He makes 2800 a month and spend 2000 on my ring....
A. 15 September 2007: According to some traditions, yes he would be considered cheap as he did not spend in relation to what he makes, a standard that was set by the BUSINESS that he is buying from. Then again, according to some traditions, you would be considered un... (read in full...)
If a female family member is home alone with her relative's husband, what are the chances she will have sex with him?
Q. what do think the chances are of a female family member on the wife's side having sex with the husband if she moves in with the husband and wife. especially if she is alone with him alot while is wife is at work....
A. 14 September 2007: Well, not everyone is going to cheat just because they have the chance to do it...however, unless you can help it, it is my opinion that it is best not to tempt fate. Most people in this situation do not plan for an affair, but it can and does ... (read in full...)
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