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| Latest articles: Off Limits Dating
No replies yet... 18 September 2013: Is Someone Off Limits for Dating? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Mastering the art of dating requires a number of skills such as being socially calibrated, effective communication and knowing what you want. One of the areas that comes up for ...
How to Deal with a Toxic Person
No replies yet... 18 September 2013: The Best Way To Deal With Toxic People By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Toxic people are defined in this article as people who lack the capacity to reason, or people have the capacity to reason but just do not want to reason with you. In t...
A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce
No replies yet... 31 August 2013: A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships One of the ironies of couples counseling that I often find myself doing is taking the couple through the pre-marital coaching process when they may already be...
A Frank Comment on Miley Cyrus
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31 August 2013: A Frank Comment On Miley Cyrus By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I do not normally comment on the antics of popular culture, as so much of what we see of movies and TV are fiction based romances and relationships. I tried my best to stay fo...
The Wedding Speech
No replies yet... 26 July 2013: The Wedding Speech Remember this day, your wedding day. Not for the dresses and suits, not for the extravagance, nor the dinner and dancing, but remember your wedding day because of the reasons you chose to marry your spouse. Remember who is it that...
Sexually Incompatible Couples
No replies yet... 19 July 2013: Sexually Incompatible Couples Sex is not the most important thing in a relationship. However, couples who love each other dearly and connect on so many levels, but whom are sexually incompatible tend to find that sex can be at the core of a numb...
Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2
No replies yet... 28 June 2013: Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2 Separation does not automatically lead to divorce unless you let it. It is up to you and your partner to put in the work so that it does not happen. In the event you are the only one trying to work on yourself and ...
Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2
No replies yet... 22 June 2013: Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2 One of the most damaging actions an individual can take is to start dating someone new when going through a separation with their serious long term partner (spouse, common-law partner or a defacto-union). When I use ...
The Frank Break Up Formula
No replies yet... 14 June 2013: The Frank Break Up Formula By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Breaking up with someone is rarely an enjoyable or pleasant experience. In fact, there are those individuals who stay in less than satisfying relationships, and even can go all the ...
The Frank Romance Formula part 3 of 3
No replies yet... 8 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 3 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 of 3
No replies yet... 3 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future
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3 May 2013: The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships The future is where actual seduction takes place. That is the key to seduction. It has very little to do with turning someone on when you see them. I...
The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons
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27 April 2013: The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Sometimes life will slap you down when it has a lesson to teach you. For some people, the slap may be a light swat, and for others the slap has to be a severe smack down. ...
Dating With Disabilities
No replies yet... 5 April 2013: Dating With Disabilities by Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I once went on a date with a woman that had severe food allergies. We went out to a movie and I wished she had told me ahead of time. Although she mentioned that she was deathly all...
Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen
No replies yet... 21 March 2013: Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Rejection is the worst best thing that can ever happen to you. Managing rejection is a necessary part in managing your love life. Over the course of your ...
Things they do not tell you about having kids
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15 March 2013: Things They Do Not Tell You About Having Kids By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I always try to be very practical and realistic in my articles. This can come across very negative, given that my topic is Relationships (and all things relative...
When Friendship Is Meaningless
No replies yet... 8 March 2013: Friendship Is Meaningless Stop Hanging Out With Friends Who Sexually Reject You By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Friendship is meaningless. There I said it. Now before you shoot one of your nasty emails to the editor, actually read this colum...
Who Cares What People Think? Depends...
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1 March 2013: How Much Should You Care About What Other People Think? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships T here will be times when we want to do something in our lives that is meaningful to us. It could be a decision related to abandoning education, wh...
Learn How to Choose the Right Fights!
No replies yet... 21 February 2013: Pick And Choose Your Fights By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Fighting in relationships is normal. The issue is not whether you fight. The issue is HOW a couple fights. Do they talk out their disagreements? Do they wait until they are alon...
Starting Over After V-day?
No replies yet... 14 February 2013: Starting Over? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Valentine’s day can be a day of reckoning for some people. Meaning, the events leading up to, on the day of, and afterwards can really wreck your life. This is one of the reasons I often refer to...
A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best
No replies yet... 6 February 2013: A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best By Frank Kermit, Relationships At my weekly relationship workshop last Saturday I issued one of my famous “Frankisms” that seemed to really resonate with the attendees. I was trying...
Asking Hard Questions
No replies yet... 1 February 2013: Asking Hard Questions By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships When trying to decide if you should be committed to someone, moving in with someone, getting engaged, and getting married, each new transition brings about the unpleasant task of askin...
Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix
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24 January 2013: Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix By Frank Kermit, Relationships If you ever had sex with someone that is about to get married, and have been invited to the wedding, do not go. This is especially true if the spouse-to-be feels uncomfortable havi...
Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy
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16 January 2013: Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Couples who are experiencing a transition in the status of their relationship may sometimes look to explore new ways of redefining their sex lives b...
Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships
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13 December 2012: Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships As the holiday season approaches, invitations begin to swarm in for get-togethers from family, friends and even office parties. It is a time of people coming together, and in some ca...
Couples in Transition
No replies yet... 29 November 2012: Couples in Transition By Frank Kermit, Relationships When a couple is going through a change in the status of their relationship they are a couple in transition. This includes couples that are transitioning from monogamy to non-monogamy, from no...
Your Home Is Your Seduction
No replies yet... 15 November 2012: Your Home Is Your Seduction By Frank Kermit, Relationships Your date is coming over to your place! You have seen each other a couple of times already, but this is different. This is YOUR PLACE, not some coffee shop or movie theatre or restaur...
The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey
No replies yet... 6 November 2012: The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey By Frank Kermit, Relationships The movie of your life is how we each envision our lives unfolding throughout our life span. This concept goes beyond simple fantasizing of what your life would be like. Writing ...
What Love Masks by Frank Kermit
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2 November 2012: What Love Masks By Frank Kermit, Relationships A mentor of mine taught me that love is not blind; it is just that categories are rigid. When you meet someone, you put that person in a category (lover, friend, temptation, fling, does-no...
The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work: An Article About EFT and Weight Loss
No replies yet... 2 November 2012: The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work An Article About EFT and Weight Loss I have a confession. I used to daydream about food. You know that point in the day when someone catches you; your head in your hands, that dreamy look on your face? If so...
Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type?
No replies yet... 1 November 2012: Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type? By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all have our “type”. By “type” I am referring to that type of person each of us is madly attracted too. Each of us has our preference of what we like, what turns us on, ...
Is there such a thing as Happily Single?
No replies yet... 19 October 2012: Is there such a thing as Happily Single? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Is being single really that bad? After all, when a person considers the amount of pain that a relationship or casual dating can cause, it may seem that just skipping the w...
Be Thankful For a Broken Heart
No replies yet... 11 October 2012: Be Thankful For A Broken Heart By Frank Kermit, Relationships Ok, I hate this. I really hate this part of the process. However, it is a necessary part of the process, and if I am expected to help encourage others to do it, first I have to demo...
Stop Talking About Your Ex On Dates!
No replies yet... 5 October 2012: Stop Talking So Much About Your Ex By Frank Kermit, Relationships So you are on a date with someone new. You are excited. You are nervous. You hope that this is finally going to be the one. You meet. So far, you both like what you see. This...
Dating in Social Circles
No replies yet... 29 September 2012: Dating In Social Circles By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dating can be tricky. Does the other person like you the way you think he or she might? Do you really like that person enough to get more serious, or do you want to keep it more casual a...
Frank Guide to Speed Dating
No replies yet... 21 September 2012: Frank Guide To Speed Dating By Frank Kermit, Relationships Every way to meet someone new is a good way. Though friends, through the Internet, blind dates, approaching someone you want to meet, at a workshop, matchmaking companies, business conv...
Relationship Goal Setting
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15 September 2012: Relationship Goal Setting By Frank Kermit, Relationships Setting goals in most areas of your life can be challenging. When it comes to relationships, there are even more challenges. Whereas in other areas of your life such as education, emplo...
Battling The Savior Complex in Relationships
No replies yet... 6 September 2012: Battling The Savior Complex By Frank Kermit, Relationships As children, many of us grew up on stories about the hero that saves a person, and in the process, earned the undying love and loyalty of the person saved so that the hero and that saved ...
Get Out Of Your Own Way!
No replies yet... 30 August 2012: Get Out Of Your Own Way By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest obstacles that a person can have as an obstruction on their path of finding happiness, peace and healing for their love life, is themselves. Although most people wou...
Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow
No replies yet... 26 August 2012: Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow By Frank Kermit, Relationships Young adults tend to discount how the choices they make today will impact their futures tomorrow. At least, when it comes to relationships. The bes...
Are You A Partner Or A Liability?
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17 August 2012: Are You A Partner Or A Liability? When it really is you and not them By Frank Kermit, Relationships “It’s not you, it’s me.” Have you ever heard that said to you when someone broke up with you? Have you ever been the one to use it when dump...
The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships
No replies yet... 9 August 2012: The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships There are 7 certain words that catch many people off guard when it comes to relationships. They are: Lust, Love, Sex, Dating, Commitment, Marriage, and Monogamy. ...
Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss.
No replies yet... 20 July 2012: Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss By Frank Kermit, Relationships Are you too nice when it comes to relationships? Do you walk on eggshells because you do not want to upset your partner? Are you reluctant to enforce your bounda...
Re-Establishing Trust in a Relationship Article
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12 July 2012: Broken Trust Takes More Than Time To Re-Establish By Frank Kermit, Relationships Trust is one of the most important components of a relationship. Love is a great start, but it takes more than loving someone, or being loved by someone, to make ...
Understanding Emotional Needs
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4 July 2012: Understanding Emotional Needs: What We Respond To Versus What We Should Like By Frank Kermit, Relationships Emotional needs are about what a person responds to. It has nothing to do with what a person should like. We all should be attracte...
Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date
No replies yet... 29 June 2012: Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date By Frank Kermit, Relationships When you are on a date, and the person you are getting to know says or does something that triggers a well-honed instinct that you need to stop dating that person, you hav...
The Art of Storytelling on a Date
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Art of Storytelling: Make or Break A Relationship Happy Ending By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the challenges that people face when they go on dates is that they may not factor in that others will not understand what they are trying ...
Swinger Beginner Advice
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Swinger Beginners: Keep it Out of the Work Place By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dear Frank, My husband and I recently returned from a business trip/vacation where a few of my husband's co-workers also brought their wives. We really hit it o...
When your Ex becomes a symbol and you can't get over it
No replies yet... 13 June 2012: When Your Ex Becomes A Symbol Relationship Symbolism of Why You Are Still Hooked By Frank Kermit, Relationships We are surrounded by the power of symbols. A symbol is more than just a design we recognize; symbols are a means of making meaning. ...
Ally Vs Enemy: Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men
No replies yet... 9 June 2012: Is She His Ally or His Enemy? Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men By Frank Kermit, Relationships The best way I know how to teach people about the emotional needs of men is to break it down to absolute fundamentals. If people can und...
Dating After A Break Up - Just How Long Should You Wait?
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1 June 2012: Dating After Breaking Up? The Sooner The Better By Frank Kermit, Relationships “How much time should I wait before I start dating again?” is a common question that I get asked from someone that has just recently gotten dumped, and still sufferi...
Relationship Redemption: How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure
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23 May 2012: Relationship Redemption How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all make mistakes in life. If you have ever tried to get into a relationship, are in a relationship, or are recovering from a relationship, ...
Finding The Meaning Of Your Life And Relationships
No replies yet... 15 May 2012: The Meaning of your Relationships Starts With The Meaning Of Your Life By Frank Kermit, Relationships Contemplate your death. No seriously. In order to make meanings of your relationships past, present and those you will have in the futur...
The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women
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10 May 2012: The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women By Frank Kermit, Relationships A woman can only play one of two roles in a man’s life. She is either his mother or his lover. She cannot be both. When a man addresses a wom...
Moving To The Next Level: Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships
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1 May 2012: Moving To The Next Level Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest mistakes people make in relationships is to promote someone up the hierarchy of commitment that has not really earned it. I...
Beware Your Friends when it comes to love
No replies yet... 15 April 2012: Beware Your Friends They May Not Want You To Be Loved By Frank Kermit, Relationships Mistakes Singles Make # 6… Seeking the approval of friends that influences your love life choices. Love may come and go, but a friendship can last a lifetim...
Are Relationships Worth The Risk?
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8 April 2012: Relationships = Risk But is it really worth it? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Given that there is so much risk in getting involved in relationships, or having sex for that matter, is it at all worth it to even bother? After all, a broken hear...
Tattoos and Relationships
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24 March 2012: Beware The L-I-N-K Of (L)ove and (INK) By Frank Kermit, Relationships While at a coffee shop a few weeks ago, I met a tattoo artist. He had his son’s name tattooed on his hand, and being the ever-inquisitive one, I asked him about his profession...
Open Relationships and Infidelity
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17 March 2012: Open Relationships Do Not Always Stave Off Infidelity By Frank Kermit, Relationships Some people believe that one of the surest ways to guarantee fidelity is to only do open relationships. The premise is that people only cheat in monogamous ...
What is a Relationship?
No replies yet... 10 March 2012: What is a Relationship? Is best defined by what it’s NOT By Frank Kermit, Relationships Over the years, I have been asked a number of times “What is a Relationship?” This is a harder question to answer than most people think. In my experience,...
Engaged! Now what?
No replies yet... 19 February 2012: Pre Marital Disclosure What you don’t know, you must know By Frank Kermit, Relationships Valentines day has come and gone. Some relationships have started. Some relationships have ended, and some relationships have proceeded to the next le...
Making Monogamy Work
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5 February 2012: Making Monogamy Work By Frank Kermit, Relationships Monogamy is easier than open relationships, because the rules are simpler...but the application of the rules of monogamy is not as easy. Monogamy works for monogamous people...however...
Single Parent Dating, Not Just a Single Issue
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3 February 2012: Single Parent Dating – More Than Just A Single Issue By Frank Kermit At least 40% of marriages end in divorce. Depending on the study you read, the percentage can be higher. Even though the break down of families continues, the drive that ma...
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She's broken my heart. What can I do?
Q. I have a problem. I really, really, -REALLY- like this girl. I've known her for over a year, and we both admit we'd be great for each other. I've never felt any kind of close connection to anyone like I do with her. The only person who comes...
A. 11 January 2008: Look dude, if the only other girl that you know that would be of interest to you is her sister, then THAT is your real problem. You need to start making lots of new friends, instead of staying at home and waiting for her. This leads to being ... (read in full...)
Why did he bother texting me?
Q. My boyfriend split up with me on friday, blaming me for the majority of problems in his life, and being quite cruel about me as a person. I told him what I thought of what he said and left it at that. It is now tuesday and I get my first contact off ...
A. 9 January 2008: He sounds unstable, and potentially abusive. Also, he might just be texting you to line you up for the sex he misses (if you had sexual contact).
If you do let him back in, go slowly, as his behaviors could get violent. Blaming you for all his ... (read in full...)
Why do I find it hard to get over people?
Q. How come I find it hard to get over people? My last 2 girlfriends I'm having difficulty getting over and I still miss them (well, one!) and want her back. The counsellor said that it may be because I lost my Dad. What do you think?...
A. 9 January 2008: It sounds like Fear of Abandonment. After the death of your dad, you felt abandoned, and now when ever someone you care about leaves, you experience the anchor to those feelings. That is my guess based on what you have written.
For a man, the... (read in full...)
Is it ok to be involved with your 1st cousin?
Q. Is is ok to be with your 1st cousin ? i live somewhere where it is legal, but is it really acceptable in todays society, please give me your honest opinion. Thankyou....
A. 9 January 2008: First, if it is legal where you are, then you are OK.
Next, there will ALWAYS be people that can not handle something about another's relationships. Whether it is 1st cousins, a sexual fetish, inter-racial, inter-faith, open relation... (read in full...)
I found my brother and his business partner making out, they are both married, should I say something?
Q. I just went by my brother house to pick something up of mine, I have a key, so I went on in the house. When I opened the door, he was making out with his female business partner. I played it off like I didn't notice, and I don't think he or she ...
A. 9 January 2008: Stay out of it. No one will appreciate you for saying anything to anyone. Not your family, and not the people being cheated on. If any of them lose their business or get divorced from this, many of the people involved will blame you for saying ... (read in full...)
30 and pregnant, my bf does not agree to keep the baby, but my mother says it is my last chance to have a child, so what should I do?
Q. im 30. im pregnant but my bf says he doesn't want a baby. i told my mum and she said that it's my last chance to have 1. Is my mum right and what should I do?...
A. 7 January 2008: If you keep choosing losers like the bf, then now or later, you may as well have a child now.
If you actually want to have a solid family, you still have about 5-7 years before it starts to get riskier, and then another 3 years after that with hig... (read in full...)
I'm 18 and planning to have a baby. Do you think it is a wise decision at this age?
Q. hi the as you may know previously i had a boyfriend but now we have broken up and i am with a new man, would you think it was mad if we decided to have a baby i am 18 and he is soon to be 21 please can you help us thanks lovesickpup...
A. 7 January 2008: It is a bad idea. You will regret it. Your child deserves a stable home and family, and you are too young to provide it. You know it, that is why you are asking advice here.
-Frank B KErmit... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I have BOTH felt very rejected and let down by these two couples (our only friends.) They many times ignore and exclude us if we do not contact firstly. Your thoughts?
Q. I was wondering if I could have some opinions as to what you would do in my situation. My social life consists of my boyfriend and his friends (2 other couples). I have tried, for absolute YEARS to consider both of these couples to be my OWN fr...
A. 7 January 2008: Why would you want to be friends with people that take advantage of others this way? That is the only question you need to ask yourselves.
Also, put your efforts into making new friends.
These old friends might just be jealous of you a... (read in full...)
This girl is notorious on chasing after other girls boyfriends, and now she is after mine! What do I do to make her back off?
Q. I have some friends that I've had since elementary school (we are all in our 2nd year of university now). One of them has over the years turned into a bit of a party girl, and she's notorious for sleeping with other girls boyfriends. I'll call her ...
A. 7 January 2008: What I find amazing is that during all that time that she was doing it to other people, YOU STAYED FRIENDS WITH HER, and now you are surprised that she is doing it to you.
Do you really assume this is the first time she made a play for your guy... (read in full...)
I believe he's telling me the truth - but is there any future in this?
Q. I have been in a 2 1/2yr affair with a married man. He is everything I have ever wanted. I didn't go looking for this, it just happened as if it were meant to be. He told me from the start, his marriage was broken due to infidelity,but he never ...
A. 7 January 2008: If he has not left her by now, he is never going to. You are too old to be waiting for him, and young enough to start your own family with someone else.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
She's broken my heart. What can I do?
Q. I have a problem. I really, really, -REALLY- like this girl. I've known her for over a year, and we both admit we'd be great for each other. I've never felt any kind of close connection to anyone like I do with her. The only person who comes...
A. 7 January 2008: First, whatever you do, do NOT become her therapist, and NEVER listen to her talk about her problems with you. That will end any chance of you dating her in the future.
Go out with other girls. She needs to see you as a desired and sexual m... (read in full...)
I'm shy - how do I get her number?
Q. im 20 and i like the 17year old cashier that works at the same store as me, its a little "corner store" type place. My problem is im too shy to actually ask her on a date or for her number, i can talk to her and make jokes with her but i just cant ...
A. 7 January 2008: Do not ask for the number or a date directly. Too much pressure on either of you. I would suggest that you plan to go on an outing somewhere (ideally that caters to her interests), and when you next speak with her, just invite her along to meet ... (read in full...)
How do I tell people I'm gay?
Q. hi, im 17 yrs old and become a bisexual at the age of 15 but never told anyone! except people on msn and stuff....how can i deal with this? and tell people im gay? please help!...
A. 7 January 2008: First consider who you would want to tell, and why. Also, depending on that, you might want to hold off telling people until you are sure they can handle it (no point in telling your family yet if they are going to throw you out of the house).
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My husband wants me to sleep with a male prostitute to get pregnant!
Q. I'm 24, my husband's 26, and we've been married for 3 years now. We have a good lifestyle and our sex life is good. My husband is a very nice person, well-liked and popular and doesn't get jealous when I'm with other guys or on girls' nights ou...
A. 7 January 2008: I also think he wants to use this as an excuse to dump you. The story is so ridiculous, who would believe you if you did get pregnant.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
My husband wants me to sleep with a male prostitute to get pregnant!
Q. I'm 24, my husband's 26, and we've been married for 3 years now. We have a good lifestyle and our sex life is good. My husband is a very nice person, well-liked and popular and doesn't get jealous when I'm with other guys or on girls' nights ou...
A. 7 January 2008: DO NOT bring any children into the marriage with your husband. SOmething is going on here. It could be a host or reasons. Maybe he is sterile, maybe he is worried about passing a disease to his child, maybe he has a madonna/whore complex that ... (read in full...)
His ex is pregnant and he doesn't love her...should I still date him?
Q. So I use to go out with this guy for 2 months. Then we broke up and later on he got with this girl but then they broke up. During the time that he was with that girl, he would still try to contact me and try to keep it cool with me. So once him and ...
A. 7 January 2008: Let it go. He comes with too much baggage. He needs to focus on taking care of the child (Assuming it is his). Stay away until you know for sure it is not his. After that, do not trust him with the birth control, as he is obviously not ... (read in full...)
Sacred for her because some of the girls are going to do bad stuff to her! What should I do?
Q. Hi, I'm 15 and I'm really into sports. I play netball for my county and last year, my school netball team did really well @ national schools, so my team was invited to rain with the senior girls @ our school, after school. We did well i guess, ...
A. 7 January 2008: Find a way to let her stay in the room with you to help keep her safe. Work it out to three in a room.
This is abuse and bullying, and you need to report it to whoever is in charge. This girl could get raped, get a disease, or worse. Report t... (read in full...)
I love him but I dislike his whiney, grating voice! Am I too picky?
Q. This problem may sound silly but although I love my boyfriend very much I am not attracted to his voice. This seems ridiculous as I have known him 2 years and you'd think I could have made that decision on the first date but its not that it ...
A. 7 January 2008: Are you being too picky? That depends on whether or not
1) you have other options (are there other people that want to date you as much as him)
2) how important those things are to you really.
You hate that he calls you "sweety"....soun... (read in full...)
What can I say to him to help bring his confidence back?
Q. This is mroe advice for my friend. I have a male friend - he's one of my best friends and I love him to pieces - not in a romantic way, but as a friend. We're really close. A while ago he told me he was in love with me, and although I adore him, ...
A. 7 January 2008: There is nothing you can do for him, because anything you tell him would be seen as a lie. If you tell him he is good boyfriend material, then why are YOU not dating him?
The BEST thing you can do for him is introduce him to other women. Either ... (read in full...)
We've been together 6 years but he's told me he loves his ex as much as me, and he wouldn't be able to resist her if the chance came up. Do I stay or leave him??
Q. My partner and I have been together for 6 years and I have a Daughter from a previous relationship who calls my partner Dad(No contact with my ex).When we first got together he explained that he and his ex were still friendly and i accepted ...
A. 3 January 2008: My opinion has not changed. He needs to cut all contact with his ex. They do not have children together to share custody, and thus I see no reason for them to be "this close".
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
I felt a strange sense of achievment when one of my childhood bullies appologised, but how do I truly forgive them when the memories are resurfacing?
Q. how do I forgive them? When I was at school, I was bullied indecently, I dont know why, but once one started the rest followed like sheep. I have tried all my life to put those 5 years behind me, but its always there. It wasnt just a few kids eit...
A. 31 December 2007: I am on my way out the door for NYE for a couple of days. When I get back, I will respond proper. Thinking of you.
-Frank... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's Mom gets into our arguements and doesn't like me, do I tell her to butt out?
Q. me and my boyfriend been dating for 1 year and 4 months. last night i got drunk and talked to him about everything and how i feel about him, even the bad stuff. so we got into a fight and his mom got into it. She is pathic... shes not a good ...
A. 31 December 2007: You do not tell her to butt out. You are a minor, and we can assume that so is your BF. THis is between him and her.
Stop spending time around his mom, and make it a point not to get into an arguement with him, when she is within ear shot.
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My 24 year old son has started drinking again after 7 years of sobrioty
Q. My 24 year old son has started drinking again after 7 years of sobrioty....What should I do?...
A. 31 December 2007: Call your local AA, and attend a meeting. They will be able to best advise you. Go without your son if you must.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
When should I tell a man that I have HPV?
Q. I am a 21 year old single female and i was just wondering when to tell a man im interested in that i have an STD. I dont want to scare him off (im pretty sure i have done that in the past) by doing it too soon, but i dont want him to think i was ...
A. 31 December 2007: I do not know what HPV is, or how dangerous it is. What I do tell everyone with an STD is that you be honest about it if and when it leads to anything that would make it spread. This does not mean to tell everyone about it...you do have a right to ... (read in full...)
My girlfriends want sex but I'm scared I'll feel guilty
Q. Hi, I am 23 I have two girlfriends who wants to have sex with me. but i fear guilty after having sex with them. although I am interested in sex with them. We dont have a long time plan or marriage plan as such. but fear of guilt after sex ...
A. 31 December 2007: You need to come to terms with your guilt issues. Either you will avoid sex, or you won't. Make up your mind.
That being said, if you date women that want sex (most all of them do, unless you date a woman that has the same guilt issues as you d... (read in full...)
We've been together 6 years but he's told me he loves his ex as much as me, and he wouldn't be able to resist her if the chance came up. Do I stay or leave him??
Q. My partner and I have been together for 6 years and I have a Daughter from a previous relationship who calls my partner Dad(No contact with my ex).When we first got together he explained that he and his ex were still friendly and i accepted ...
A. 31 December 2007: Your daughter is getting more and more hurt everyday. The longer you let this go on, the longer she will get more attached to him.
Your bf is a wimp. He wants to break it off with you, but does not have the balls, so he is trying to break it... (read in full...)
My friend is 7 months pregnant and in denial, after hiding the pregnancy from everyone
Q. I've just found out my friend is 7 months pregnant - but she's kept the pregnancy a secret from everyone - family, friends, the father of the child (it was a one night stand with a friend). She's in total denial and won't talk to anyone about it....
A. 31 December 2007: Stay out of it. This is not your problem. Her family knows now, and they are the ones that can best help her deal with it. She has some major issues and choices to make, and if you get involved, no matter what happens, she is so far in denial, ... (read in full...)
I'm still a virgin wife!
Q. hi evry body i really feel i am so depressed i keep crying i am married women i love my husband like crazy and he too but the problem is i am still a virgin after 8 moths of narried he scared to hurt me and once he try its just not stand any more i ...
A. 31 December 2007: Well, either he is gay, possibly asexual OR, he is dealing with guilt issues. SOme guys have a hard time with the thought of having sex with a "wife" unless for acts of procreation. If he was brought up very religiously then that could be a ... (read in full...)
I felt a strange sense of achievment when one of my childhood bullies appologised, but how do I truly forgive them when the memories are resurfacing?
Q. how do I forgive them? When I was at school, I was bullied indecently, I dont know why, but once one started the rest followed like sheep. I have tried all my life to put those 5 years behind me, but its always there. It wasnt just a few kids eit...
A. 31 December 2007: Stop apologising.
I think you need to find closure through redemption. Something that will pull the pain from inside you, and release it.
Here are my suggestions...
1-Write a book. Write down what happened to you, how you feel about it, a... (read in full...)
My heart tells me it will be fine and there is no need to upset our 11 year old by kicking his daddy out, despite of his affair and his soon-to-arrive child. Any insight, please?
Q. A few months ago I found out that my husband was having an affair. I was devastated, as is natural. He decided however that he was going to break it off with her and make it work with me and our son. About a month ago (2 or 3 months after they ...
A. 31 December 2007: Well, first I would insist on a DNA test just to make sure the child is his.
Next, I do not understand why your husband is still seeing her, and asking for visitation rights to a child that has yet to be proven is his.
You need to get proof tha... (read in full...)
I'm confused about my girlfriend's behaviour, first she seemed like she didn't care anymore, then suddenly she wanted to move in together. How do I know this is the right thing to do?
Q. I'm kinda delicate now so go easy... My girlfriend and I have been going out for three years last September, and even before that we had been friends for about six years. She went away to University when we had been going out for two years and even ...
A. 27 December 2007: Look, moving in together is a big step, and if you have ANY hesitations for whatever reason, do not do it. Period.
If you live together long enough, depending where you live, you will be considered common law marriage. Are you sure you want tha... (read in full...)
I've been in a relationship with my cousin for the past 4 months but now her family is getting argumentative about it, what shall we do?
Q. I've been in a relationship with my cousin for the past 4 Months'. We're very happy together. But her family is getting very argumentative about it now. I was just wondering if anyone can advise me on what I should do?...
A. 27 December 2007: Well, what you are doing is only illegal if you or your cousin are minors at this point. Then her family would be right to step in.
If not minors, then you have better be freakin serious about her, otherwise a broken relationship with your cou... (read in full...)
When coming home early from a hunting trip I found a used condom on our bedside table! Should I confront her? And what about the extraordinarily amount of semen, does that mean she has a much younger lover?
Q. My wife and I are in our 50's in age. To my knowledge there has not been any extramarital encounters that I have been aware of and no reasons to think otherwise until recently. My wife works late night shifts and I arrived home early one morning...
A. 27 December 2007: Before you say ANYTHING to her, talk to a family lawyer. That is your first step. You are focusing on the wrong thing right now. You are trying to figure out who, and are too concern with his sexual performance, when you need to be thinking about ... (read in full...)
I'm a nice bloke and get on with girls very well but seem to be crap at chatting them up, what am I doing wrong??
Q. Hello Iam a nice bloke (even if I do say so myself) Ive got a fantastic friend who I love very much she is a girl and she see's me as a friend. Ive only ever had one serious relationship. I get on with girls very well but seem to be crap at chating ...
A. 27 December 2007: You are only making women feel comfortable with you, and you are not making them feel attraction for you. THey see you as a friend, and not a lover, because you bring out the "mothering" instinct in women. They only way to get a girl that already ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin and my boyfriend and I feel ready to have sex. Just a few questions.....
Q. My boyfriend and I feel ready to have sex. Just a few questions..... Approximately how long will it hurt after we've had sex? (I'm a virgin) He's had sex before, and I don't know what position would be most comfortable. Should we stick wit...
A. 27 December 2007: You wrote: He's against birth control, and I don't think there is any possible way for me to get it. Is it ok just for condoms or is it still too risky?
Red Flag. This means he did not use birth control in the past. If he considers co... (read in full...)
I am in love with my step niece. What should I do?
Q. My step niece and I are very close in a relationship and we are so crazy about each other! I don't know what to do because the families will disown us if they find out. I've never been so happy in my life! Please tell me what I can do it would ...
A. 26 December 2007: She is your step niece? Thus you are not blood related. Can you please explain who married who and who is related to who...it makes all the difference.
-Frank B KErmit... (read in full...)
Erotic humiliation...
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a dominant female and my boyfriend is very submissive and because of this our relationship works well. I like to dress him up in my underwear and tease him and he quite clearly enjoys this. In fact he enjoys cross dressing co...
A. 26 December 2007: Yes, there would be.
This is part of your sexual relationship with him, and forcibly involving others in it, by sending them pictures, would in fact be an act of harassment for which you both could be liable.
In differnet countries, and s... (read in full...)
I'm a student and I want to have fun. Should I go and work in this german brothel?
Q. i am a young black woman living/studying in germany. german men show me a lot of attention and i like it. a friend of mine (german girl) who works at a place called the sexy inn (a brothel)says i would make a lot of money working as an escort. i ...
A. 21 December 2007: Oh, one more thing...
at the following link is an interview I did with a woman that is part of a group the fights for the rights of sex workers.
http://www.franktalks.com/?content=pastshow_sexworkerrights
It will give you great informati... (read in full...)
I'm a student and I want to have fun. Should I go and work in this german brothel?
Q. i am a young black woman living/studying in germany. german men show me a lot of attention and i like it. a friend of mine (german girl) who works at a place called the sexy inn (a brothel)says i would make a lot of money working as an escort. i ...
A. 21 December 2007: Hi There,
I have some experience with working girls and the sex industry. I will not tell you not to do it, but this is what concerns me for you:
"i am an art student and model and just wanna have some fun. what's the harm?"
You fail to r... (read in full...)
I like her, we sleep together, yet she says she just wants to be friends. What's going on?
Q. i have this girl i like living with me sleeping in the same bed as me and acting like my girlfriend yet when i ask for a kiss or anythink that suggest we are going out she says she just wants to be friends. what should i do?...
A. 21 December 2007: When you say sleep together, you mean without sex?
Sounds like she is using you as her Emotional Cookie Man. She keeps you around for attention and an ego boost, but you do not address her emotional needs that make her feel love and attracti... (read in full...)
My gf is violent when she has her period. She even punched me in the face! What should I do?
Q. i have been with my girlfriend now for 2 years. We have a good relationship the majority of the time but things go a bit ugly when she has her period. I know that may seem a stupid reason but I think this may be an exception. Since we started ...
A. 21 December 2007: Walk away and find a woman that will not resort to violence. Her period is NO excuse.
Depending on where you live, the laws are against men in these situations. If she hits you first, and starts to lose control, and you need to defend yourself... (read in full...)
He sometimes lets his female friends stay over. This bothers me. Should it?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly two years now, he has many female friends and is a real sosial butterfly. He has his female friends over to stay occasionaly or goes over to stay over at there house's am I odd if this bothers me? He's ...
A. 21 December 2007: So all that time he is spending nights at girls homes, and they are spending the nights with him...and nothing is going on.
Is your boyfriend secretly gay and using you as a cover?
I think you are odd for believing his story. If he is a man,... (read in full...)
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