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writes:hi. I need some help on how to tell a girl i love her. I've liked her for a year now. I thought i would stay friends but we're good friends but i love her too much. I've asked her a cinema few times but somethin always come up. Happened twice. Dunno if it was excuse although she spoke to me perfectly fine afterwards.If i asked her to watch film and eat, and told her at the end i love her whilst holding her hand would that be a good idea?I know i will be really depressed afterwards if she rejects me. At school i will see her. Do you think i should let her see my state afterwards so she see's the instant change in me? Because i'm a guy who is caring and always laughin. And if she see's me sittin alone outside in the cold all day when i don't have lessons she may realise its coz of her.I know i will want to be left alone for few days until i can get over the shock because i cant explain how much i love her! I know there's plenty more girls out there but i don't care. At the moment all i see, hear and think is this girl of my dreams!Can somebody tell me if this is a good idea? Any other tips!
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reader, mr.shy guy  +, writes (2 December 2007):
if you really love somebody, show it. . . not by hurting her to see you with somebody else . . .
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reader, rolled_gold  +, writes (25 November 2007):
Definitely don't tell her you love her at this stage. When you ask her out again, be specific about it ... dinner and a film sounds good - maybe suggest going to your favourite restaurant or something, and suggest a night to do it - just make it sound as though you know what you wanna do, women/girls like that.
That way she'll know you're serious and will be more likely to say yes, and you can save the love part of it until things develop a bit more...
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (24 November 2007):
 You do NOT tell her you love her. You already asked her out and she made excuses.
If you show her how hurt you are, she will lose even more attraction for you, not gain any. Trying to get her to go out with you becuase of pity makes her feel like your mommy. It does not work for relationships.
The BEST thing you can do is date other women. When she sees that other girls want you, she will start to want you as well.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, Frank B Kermit +, writes (24 November 2007):
You do NOT tell her you love her. You already asked her out and she made excuses.
If you show her how hurt you are, she will lose even more attraction for you, not gain any. Trying to get her to go out with you becuase of pity makes her feel like your mommy. It does not work for relationships.
The BEST thing you can do is date other women. When she sees that other girls want you, she will start to want you as well.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2007): oh,don't shy dear.just ask her.then you will have interesting love with her.
thanks
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reader, Dr. John  +, writes (24 November 2007):
 Don't give up before you start the race.
If you worry that she will reject you then you could psycologically set yourself up to fail.
Go in with the thought that she will accept you with open arms. Then you won't experience what is known as a self fulfilling prophecy.
I think you should sit down with her and tell her just how you feel.
Even if she does reject you, this will at least give you the chance to ask her to just give it a shot and see how the relationship goes. I hope it goes well. Doc
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