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writes:Hi there, my girlfriend for 5 months now needs space but she says she loves me. It's been about a week now and she texts me I do miss you. Why is that she told me that she needed to be single for a while and be on here own and she can't be my girlfriend? I don't understand a month before that she was talking about getting married? Help what do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007): What happened in order to make her need space in the first place?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (28 November 2007):
 I'm with Frank B. Kermit in yet another one.
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reader, frizzylizzy  +, writes (28 November 2007):
 Hi there, to be honest if she needs space after just 5 months together that is a serious problem. You should still be in the happy honeymoon period together. I think you need to nip this in the bud and just ask her straight out what's going on.. You don't deserve this, The fact you have given her a week already is enough... Just tell her you need to know where you stand and she still doesn't know by now I'd walk away if I were you..Good luckLiz
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (28 November 2007):
You really have no choice but to give her the space she requires. She's not really sure about her feelings for you. If you truly love this woman,WAIT! But as a man i would seriously advise you to move on because seperations rarely work to bond couples unless in a marraige of many years.You are surprised that she's acting like this even when she was talking of marraige earlier on.If she still felt what she's feeling then she could still be talking of marraige but sadly true,her feelings for you have faded off.Meet other women and stop depressing yourself about her.You can't force her to love you.All the best.
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reader, BadAsh6705 +, writes (28 November 2007):
 yes I think you need to tell her that it is confusing to you that she says she wants her own space and then says she is missing you...tell her to take time to think about things, but you can't wait forever! Then all you can do is leave her be and let her come back to you if she decides that is what's right.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (28 November 2007):
 You give her space, and make it a point to date other women. She is unsure about her feelings for you, and there is nothing like her seeing that other women desire you as well to make her realize the mistake she is making.
Look, anytime someone wants a "break" it is a RED FLAG. For all you know she just wants to be free to date someone else without permanently losing you through cheating.
Get out there and meet other women. Do NOT call her, and have no contact with her.
-Frank B KErmit
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (28 November 2007):
 Hi
I think your gf doesnt know what she wants because why would she text you telling you how much she misses you if she needs some space? You better put your foot down on this one. tell her how much her actions are confusing you, because you did gave her a space yet she is the one who cant give herself a space. she need to learn to be honest and stop messing-up your mind, you are only human and each one of us has a limit, so before you get to the limit sit her down and have some ground rules for this seperation otherwise you will be going back and forth not knowing what she wants. you have a life to live so does she.
Jovial
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reader, KeRrI117  +, writes (28 November 2007):
 Obviousley she wants to be with you but she may be thinking about her commitment to you and what her feelings are. Every girl needs space, maybe you could ask her how she feels and what she wants out of the relationship just maybe you and her might be thinking about the same things.
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reader, alf51175 +, writes (28 November 2007):
Maybe she wants to be sure of you being the one. But, she needs to know that you are not there as her back up plan. Let her know how you feel about her and then don't be so available to her when she calls or texts. Miss a call here and there, be busy when she calls, but don't blow her off. Don't always be the last to respond to a text. Make her want to need to hear from you. Make yourself the prize not her.
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