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| Latest articles: Off Limits Dating
No replies yet... 18 September 2013: Is Someone Off Limits for Dating? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Mastering the art of dating requires a number of skills such as being socially calibrated, effective communication and knowing what you want. One of the areas that comes up for ...
How to Deal with a Toxic Person
No replies yet... 18 September 2013: The Best Way To Deal With Toxic People By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Toxic people are defined in this article as people who lack the capacity to reason, or people have the capacity to reason but just do not want to reason with you. In t...
A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce
No replies yet... 31 August 2013: A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships One of the ironies of couples counseling that I often find myself doing is taking the couple through the pre-marital coaching process when they may already be...
A Frank Comment on Miley Cyrus
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31 August 2013: A Frank Comment On Miley Cyrus By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I do not normally comment on the antics of popular culture, as so much of what we see of movies and TV are fiction based romances and relationships. I tried my best to stay fo...
The Wedding Speech
No replies yet... 26 July 2013: The Wedding Speech Remember this day, your wedding day. Not for the dresses and suits, not for the extravagance, nor the dinner and dancing, but remember your wedding day because of the reasons you chose to marry your spouse. Remember who is it that...
Sexually Incompatible Couples
No replies yet... 19 July 2013: Sexually Incompatible Couples Sex is not the most important thing in a relationship. However, couples who love each other dearly and connect on so many levels, but whom are sexually incompatible tend to find that sex can be at the core of a numb...
Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2
No replies yet... 28 June 2013: Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2 Separation does not automatically lead to divorce unless you let it. It is up to you and your partner to put in the work so that it does not happen. In the event you are the only one trying to work on yourself and ...
Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2
No replies yet... 22 June 2013: Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2 One of the most damaging actions an individual can take is to start dating someone new when going through a separation with their serious long term partner (spouse, common-law partner or a defacto-union). When I use ...
The Frank Break Up Formula
No replies yet... 14 June 2013: The Frank Break Up Formula By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Breaking up with someone is rarely an enjoyable or pleasant experience. In fact, there are those individuals who stay in less than satisfying relationships, and even can go all the ...
The Frank Romance Formula part 3 of 3
No replies yet... 8 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 3 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 of 3
No replies yet... 3 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future
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3 May 2013: The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships The future is where actual seduction takes place. That is the key to seduction. It has very little to do with turning someone on when you see them. I...
The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons
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27 April 2013: The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Sometimes life will slap you down when it has a lesson to teach you. For some people, the slap may be a light swat, and for others the slap has to be a severe smack down. ...
Dating With Disabilities
No replies yet... 5 April 2013: Dating With Disabilities by Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I once went on a date with a woman that had severe food allergies. We went out to a movie and I wished she had told me ahead of time. Although she mentioned that she was deathly all...
Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen
No replies yet... 21 March 2013: Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Rejection is the worst best thing that can ever happen to you. Managing rejection is a necessary part in managing your love life. Over the course of your ...
Things they do not tell you about having kids
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15 March 2013: Things They Do Not Tell You About Having Kids By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I always try to be very practical and realistic in my articles. This can come across very negative, given that my topic is Relationships (and all things relative...
When Friendship Is Meaningless
No replies yet... 8 March 2013: Friendship Is Meaningless Stop Hanging Out With Friends Who Sexually Reject You By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Friendship is meaningless. There I said it. Now before you shoot one of your nasty emails to the editor, actually read this colum...
Who Cares What People Think? Depends...
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1 March 2013: How Much Should You Care About What Other People Think? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships T here will be times when we want to do something in our lives that is meaningful to us. It could be a decision related to abandoning education, wh...
Learn How to Choose the Right Fights!
No replies yet... 21 February 2013: Pick And Choose Your Fights By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Fighting in relationships is normal. The issue is not whether you fight. The issue is HOW a couple fights. Do they talk out their disagreements? Do they wait until they are alon...
Starting Over After V-day?
No replies yet... 14 February 2013: Starting Over? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Valentine’s day can be a day of reckoning for some people. Meaning, the events leading up to, on the day of, and afterwards can really wreck your life. This is one of the reasons I often refer to...
A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best
No replies yet... 6 February 2013: A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best By Frank Kermit, Relationships At my weekly relationship workshop last Saturday I issued one of my famous “Frankisms” that seemed to really resonate with the attendees. I was trying...
Asking Hard Questions
No replies yet... 1 February 2013: Asking Hard Questions By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships When trying to decide if you should be committed to someone, moving in with someone, getting engaged, and getting married, each new transition brings about the unpleasant task of askin...
Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix
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24 January 2013: Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix By Frank Kermit, Relationships If you ever had sex with someone that is about to get married, and have been invited to the wedding, do not go. This is especially true if the spouse-to-be feels uncomfortable havi...
Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy
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16 January 2013: Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Couples who are experiencing a transition in the status of their relationship may sometimes look to explore new ways of redefining their sex lives b...
Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships
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13 December 2012: Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships As the holiday season approaches, invitations begin to swarm in for get-togethers from family, friends and even office parties. It is a time of people coming together, and in some ca...
Couples in Transition
No replies yet... 29 November 2012: Couples in Transition By Frank Kermit, Relationships When a couple is going through a change in the status of their relationship they are a couple in transition. This includes couples that are transitioning from monogamy to non-monogamy, from no...
Your Home Is Your Seduction
No replies yet... 15 November 2012: Your Home Is Your Seduction By Frank Kermit, Relationships Your date is coming over to your place! You have seen each other a couple of times already, but this is different. This is YOUR PLACE, not some coffee shop or movie theatre or restaur...
The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey
No replies yet... 6 November 2012: The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey By Frank Kermit, Relationships The movie of your life is how we each envision our lives unfolding throughout our life span. This concept goes beyond simple fantasizing of what your life would be like. Writing ...
What Love Masks by Frank Kermit
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2 November 2012: What Love Masks By Frank Kermit, Relationships A mentor of mine taught me that love is not blind; it is just that categories are rigid. When you meet someone, you put that person in a category (lover, friend, temptation, fling, does-no...
The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work: An Article About EFT and Weight Loss
No replies yet... 2 November 2012: The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work An Article About EFT and Weight Loss I have a confession. I used to daydream about food. You know that point in the day when someone catches you; your head in your hands, that dreamy look on your face? If so...
Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type?
No replies yet... 1 November 2012: Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type? By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all have our “type”. By “type” I am referring to that type of person each of us is madly attracted too. Each of us has our preference of what we like, what turns us on, ...
Is there such a thing as Happily Single?
No replies yet... 19 October 2012: Is there such a thing as Happily Single? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Is being single really that bad? After all, when a person considers the amount of pain that a relationship or casual dating can cause, it may seem that just skipping the w...
Be Thankful For a Broken Heart
No replies yet... 11 October 2012: Be Thankful For A Broken Heart By Frank Kermit, Relationships Ok, I hate this. I really hate this part of the process. However, it is a necessary part of the process, and if I am expected to help encourage others to do it, first I have to demo...
Stop Talking About Your Ex On Dates!
No replies yet... 5 October 2012: Stop Talking So Much About Your Ex By Frank Kermit, Relationships So you are on a date with someone new. You are excited. You are nervous. You hope that this is finally going to be the one. You meet. So far, you both like what you see. This...
Dating in Social Circles
No replies yet... 29 September 2012: Dating In Social Circles By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dating can be tricky. Does the other person like you the way you think he or she might? Do you really like that person enough to get more serious, or do you want to keep it more casual a...
Frank Guide to Speed Dating
No replies yet... 21 September 2012: Frank Guide To Speed Dating By Frank Kermit, Relationships Every way to meet someone new is a good way. Though friends, through the Internet, blind dates, approaching someone you want to meet, at a workshop, matchmaking companies, business conv...
Relationship Goal Setting
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15 September 2012: Relationship Goal Setting By Frank Kermit, Relationships Setting goals in most areas of your life can be challenging. When it comes to relationships, there are even more challenges. Whereas in other areas of your life such as education, emplo...
Battling The Savior Complex in Relationships
No replies yet... 6 September 2012: Battling The Savior Complex By Frank Kermit, Relationships As children, many of us grew up on stories about the hero that saves a person, and in the process, earned the undying love and loyalty of the person saved so that the hero and that saved ...
Get Out Of Your Own Way!
No replies yet... 30 August 2012: Get Out Of Your Own Way By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest obstacles that a person can have as an obstruction on their path of finding happiness, peace and healing for their love life, is themselves. Although most people wou...
Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow
No replies yet... 26 August 2012: Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow By Frank Kermit, Relationships Young adults tend to discount how the choices they make today will impact their futures tomorrow. At least, when it comes to relationships. The bes...
Are You A Partner Or A Liability?
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17 August 2012: Are You A Partner Or A Liability? When it really is you and not them By Frank Kermit, Relationships “It’s not you, it’s me.” Have you ever heard that said to you when someone broke up with you? Have you ever been the one to use it when dump...
The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships
No replies yet... 9 August 2012: The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships There are 7 certain words that catch many people off guard when it comes to relationships. They are: Lust, Love, Sex, Dating, Commitment, Marriage, and Monogamy. ...
Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss.
No replies yet... 20 July 2012: Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss By Frank Kermit, Relationships Are you too nice when it comes to relationships? Do you walk on eggshells because you do not want to upset your partner? Are you reluctant to enforce your bounda...
Re-Establishing Trust in a Relationship Article
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12 July 2012: Broken Trust Takes More Than Time To Re-Establish By Frank Kermit, Relationships Trust is one of the most important components of a relationship. Love is a great start, but it takes more than loving someone, or being loved by someone, to make ...
Understanding Emotional Needs
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4 July 2012: Understanding Emotional Needs: What We Respond To Versus What We Should Like By Frank Kermit, Relationships Emotional needs are about what a person responds to. It has nothing to do with what a person should like. We all should be attracte...
Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date
No replies yet... 29 June 2012: Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date By Frank Kermit, Relationships When you are on a date, and the person you are getting to know says or does something that triggers a well-honed instinct that you need to stop dating that person, you hav...
The Art of Storytelling on a Date
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Art of Storytelling: Make or Break A Relationship Happy Ending By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the challenges that people face when they go on dates is that they may not factor in that others will not understand what they are trying ...
Swinger Beginner Advice
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Swinger Beginners: Keep it Out of the Work Place By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dear Frank, My husband and I recently returned from a business trip/vacation where a few of my husband's co-workers also brought their wives. We really hit it o...
When your Ex becomes a symbol and you can't get over it
No replies yet... 13 June 2012: When Your Ex Becomes A Symbol Relationship Symbolism of Why You Are Still Hooked By Frank Kermit, Relationships We are surrounded by the power of symbols. A symbol is more than just a design we recognize; symbols are a means of making meaning. ...
Ally Vs Enemy: Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men
No replies yet... 9 June 2012: Is She His Ally or His Enemy? Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men By Frank Kermit, Relationships The best way I know how to teach people about the emotional needs of men is to break it down to absolute fundamentals. If people can und...
Dating After A Break Up - Just How Long Should You Wait?
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1 June 2012: Dating After Breaking Up? The Sooner The Better By Frank Kermit, Relationships “How much time should I wait before I start dating again?” is a common question that I get asked from someone that has just recently gotten dumped, and still sufferi...
Relationship Redemption: How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure
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23 May 2012: Relationship Redemption How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all make mistakes in life. If you have ever tried to get into a relationship, are in a relationship, or are recovering from a relationship, ...
Finding The Meaning Of Your Life And Relationships
No replies yet... 15 May 2012: The Meaning of your Relationships Starts With The Meaning Of Your Life By Frank Kermit, Relationships Contemplate your death. No seriously. In order to make meanings of your relationships past, present and those you will have in the futur...
The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women
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10 May 2012: The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women By Frank Kermit, Relationships A woman can only play one of two roles in a man’s life. She is either his mother or his lover. She cannot be both. When a man addresses a wom...
Moving To The Next Level: Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships
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1 May 2012: Moving To The Next Level Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest mistakes people make in relationships is to promote someone up the hierarchy of commitment that has not really earned it. I...
Beware Your Friends when it comes to love
No replies yet... 15 April 2012: Beware Your Friends They May Not Want You To Be Loved By Frank Kermit, Relationships Mistakes Singles Make # 6… Seeking the approval of friends that influences your love life choices. Love may come and go, but a friendship can last a lifetim...
Are Relationships Worth The Risk?
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8 April 2012: Relationships = Risk But is it really worth it? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Given that there is so much risk in getting involved in relationships, or having sex for that matter, is it at all worth it to even bother? After all, a broken hear...
Tattoos and Relationships
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24 March 2012: Beware The L-I-N-K Of (L)ove and (INK) By Frank Kermit, Relationships While at a coffee shop a few weeks ago, I met a tattoo artist. He had his son’s name tattooed on his hand, and being the ever-inquisitive one, I asked him about his profession...
Open Relationships and Infidelity
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17 March 2012: Open Relationships Do Not Always Stave Off Infidelity By Frank Kermit, Relationships Some people believe that one of the surest ways to guarantee fidelity is to only do open relationships. The premise is that people only cheat in monogamous ...
What is a Relationship?
No replies yet... 10 March 2012: What is a Relationship? Is best defined by what it’s NOT By Frank Kermit, Relationships Over the years, I have been asked a number of times “What is a Relationship?” This is a harder question to answer than most people think. In my experience,...
Engaged! Now what?
No replies yet... 19 February 2012: Pre Marital Disclosure What you don’t know, you must know By Frank Kermit, Relationships Valentines day has come and gone. Some relationships have started. Some relationships have ended, and some relationships have proceeded to the next le...
Making Monogamy Work
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5 February 2012: Making Monogamy Work By Frank Kermit, Relationships Monogamy is easier than open relationships, because the rules are simpler...but the application of the rules of monogamy is not as easy. Monogamy works for monogamous people...however...
Single Parent Dating, Not Just a Single Issue
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3 February 2012: Single Parent Dating – More Than Just A Single Issue By Frank Kermit At least 40% of marriages end in divorce. Depending on the study you read, the percentage can be higher. Even though the break down of families continues, the drive that ma...
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He wants to know my fantasies... but they are SO dirty, I don't think he could handle it.
Q. My boyfriend wants me to tell him my fantasies, but I'm so nervous. Some of them are really DIRTY. For example, I have rape fantasies, one of the most common I know, but kind of hard to explain. Especially since I want it rough. Not just him taking ...
A. 6 August 2008: If he could not handle it, do not share them with him yet. Tell him to read the book My Secret Garden which is all about women's sexual fantasies. If he can handle what is in that book, THEN he has proven he can handle anything you have to tell ... (read in full...)
I'm engaged but I find one of my male friends very sexy, Is this okay?
Q. I'm 19 and I am in a very loving relationship that has lasted about 4 years almost, I'm engaged and very much in love with my fiancee. The problem is I find one of my male friends very attractive, and I dont know if is normal to find anyone else but ...
A. 6 August 2008: Yes, it is normal to find lots of people attractive even if you are in love with someone.
No, that does not make it OK to act on those attractions if you have promised someone that you would not.
-Frank B Kermit
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Suffering because of my virginity - but it is my choice to be a virgin, until I meet my ideal girl. Do you think she exists?
Q. My dear friends I need advice... Tell me if you this I'm crazy or not... I am a virgin, and the age of 21. Why am I a virgin? because it's my choice. I have had many, many chances to have sex, and yet...I want to waitti marriage. Not jsut for...
A. 2 August 2008: Is it possible that she exists? Maybe...however it is up to you to ACTIVELY seek her out.
Where would a girl like that go? Where would she hang out? What events would she be at? What organizations would she join? Where would she work?
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One minute we are great together and the next we are at each other's throat. So what should be done?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been on and off for about 8 years. We have had some amazing times together and have also had huge huge arguments. One minute we are great together and the next we are at each others throat. For the longest, Ive been wanting ...
A. 2 August 2008: The two of you are trapped in a repeating dysfunctional behavior pattern (now that he is ready, you repeat the pattern by being unsure).
Simply put I do not think your relationship has a future. Marriage does not change the repeating behavior... (read in full...)
I like to see him but when he comes in front of me I just turn away like I don't care... why? And why does he not approach me at all??
Q. well i am 19 years old and i am totally in love with this guy studying in the same university with me..i just see him around the campus and i am head over heels for him..we kinda exchange looks but then i quickly look down i am that around him..i ...
A. 2 August 2008: The elusive obvious....the reason he will not approach you is because when he is in front of you YOU PLAY GAMES and turn away as if you do not care. He would be more inclined to speak to you if you stopped rejecting him.
You are addicted to the d... (read in full...)
What could anyone recommend for a man who is miserable in marriage and staying in it for the kids sake?
Q. What could anyone recommend for a man who is miserable in marriage and staying in it for the kids sake? I have been with my wife for 7 years (married 6) and for the last year or two I have been insanely unhappy. I'm in no way perfect, so I won'...
A. 30 July 2008: Have you explored what your emotional needs are? Maybe it is just a matter of you defining what you need to feel your emotional needs are satisfied and once you are able to communicate that to her, your feelings of affection should return. As a ... (read in full...)
I'm so scared I may lose her to this man she had an affair with!
Q. Several months ago my wife told me that she had been having an affair with a man she works with. I am devastated and really want our marriage to work. She tells me that she's been miserable for a long time and fell in love with this other man. She ...
A. 30 July 2008: You are NOT a failure. It takes two for any relationship to work or fail.
First, see a family lawyer. Know what your rights are so that you will be ready for the worst. It may be the wake up call you need.
Next, you are trying to make h... (read in full...)
How can I make more friends and have a fun social life?
Q. Hi, I know I might sound immature saying this, but I'm just frustrated and I wanted to see if anyone had any suggestions. My regular friends never seem to have time for me anymore and I really wnat to amke new ones(not to replace the old ones, but ...
A. 30 July 2008: Here is what I suggest to create some new social circles for you. Pick one night of the week, say Thursday night. Make it a point to go out every Thurs. The key to making this work is to do something different every week. Never repeat. One ... (read in full...)
My fiance trusts me about the night I went clubbing but my mum threatens she isn't coming to the wedding!
Q. hi all i am getting married in five weeks time last week me and partner had a big fight due to the stress of it all and fri night he was not feeling well so i went out on the lash and got talking to a guy we chatted nothing else and went clubbin...
A. 28 July 2008: This is between you and your fiance. If he does not have a problem with it, so be it.
Plan your wedding anyways. If your mother does not come, it will be her loss.
However, I do beleive she will attend. Afterall, if she is worried about wh... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is troubled by our ten year age difference. How can I help her get over this?
Q. I'm 40 and the girl I'm dating is 30. She's troubled by the age difference, mainly because of a mortality issue. Other than that she said I'm a great guy, etc, but wanted to break off our early relationship. I convinced her to give us another month ...
A. 28 July 2008: I just completed a full lecture on this, and turned it into a 3 CD set. In it I explain that her feelings of this mortaility issue comes directly from her emotional need of Fear Of Abandonment. In my CDs I explain a number of ways to deal with ... (read in full...)
I'm confused about giving oral sex. Are there guys who just don't like it, or haven't I got it quite right?
Q. Confused...for the last 10months ive been contemplating whether to give my boyfriend a blowjob or not...i was so unsure just because i was scared i would do it wrong...or incase he didnt like them cuz the subject never came up...and we are doing ...
A. 27 July 2008: Maybe he thinks you are only doing it for him, and he does not want to feel like he is forcing you...I mean you have been dating for almost a year and never did it.
-Frank B Kermit
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I cheated on my boyfriend with a female friend of mine. How do I regain his trust?
Q. About 2 months ago I cheated on my boyfriend. I recieved oral sex from another female friend of mine. It tore me up to do it, but I was under the influence. Not that that is any excuse. The whole time I was with her it hurt me so bad to hurt him, I ...
A. 27 July 2008: He will be looking at your actions to see if he can trust you again.
1-Stop drinking or whatever you were under the "influence" of. That would be a good first move to show him that you will not make the same error again
2-Break your friendship ... (read in full...)
Things have got a bit weird since I kissed my best friend.
Q. Ok this may take a while ..lol I was wondering if anyone could give me some advice on what to do- normally I would be good at this kind of thing but I feel lost on this one. Me and my best friend have been hanging out 5 years now- I feel a big ...
A. 27 July 2008: Long term a friendship between men and women who are attracted to each other will be a threat to your future relationships, so it was going to be time limited anyways.
Instead of making a declaration of love, why not just continue to hand out with... (read in full...)
What do I do so that I do not hurt anyone?
Q. I can't decide! there's this girl in my school that I really like, but there's this other girl who likes me, I don't wanna hurt anyone.What should I do?...
A. 27 July 2008: Well, I would suggest to go out on dates with both of them, and take it from there.
If you do not feel comfortable with that, my advice is to date the girl that likes you. She has already proven that she appreciates you, and that makes her more... (read in full...)
The baby turns out NOT to be my boyfriend's but he still supports him, should I meet this other woman?
Q. ive been dating this guy for a five years and he had a baby scare with someone right before our relationship got serious. the baby turns out not to be his and he still takes care of the child just to be a good guy by being a good support. my main ...
A. 27 July 2008: He is supporting a child that is not his just to be a good guy? He is making a huge mistake and is going to suffer for this long term. He had his out, and he did not take it. Red Flag.
Stay away from him. Chances are he still carries a torch fo... (read in full...)
It seems that when we are at home, sex is not as good as when we travel. Or is it me?
Q. my wife and i just got married. on the honey moon we had the best sex ever. it seem like when we go somewere else it the best but when we are home its not so good. is it me. i cum to fast and i want to give her a vaginal orgasum wile having sex.can ...
A. 27 July 2008: Of course sex will be better during the getaways. At home are all the reminders of the stress and pressures of everyday life. Remove the stress, have more enjoyable sex.
Are you living in a city? Do you by chance live close to an area she grew... (read in full...)
She has a boyfriend but opens up to me about everything! How can I show her how much I love her?
Q. I've been talking to a girl EVERY DAY for the past 5 months or so. Most of the calls came from her, and we talk for hours. We never went a day without talking. About 2.5 months ago, I admitted to her that I was in love with her (wrote a long le...
A. 27 July 2008: Age will not be the issue. If she says it is, she is using that as the excuse to not hurt your feelings. It means that she just does not see you as a lover material.
It is easier for her to say "I don't date men younger than me" instead of "You ... (read in full...)
She has a boyfriend but opens up to me about everything! How can I show her how much I love her?
Q. I've been talking to a girl EVERY DAY for the past 5 months or so. Most of the calls came from her, and we talk for hours. We never went a day without talking. About 2.5 months ago, I admitted to her that I was in love with her (wrote a long le...
A. 27 July 2008: I did a lecture on exactly this topic called: From Friends To Lovers: Stop Being Her Emotional Cookie Man.
You are currently in the category of her brain that makes her see you as a friend. She will never date you until you change that.
... (read in full...)
I'm interested in group sex, any advice?
Q. i am interested in group sex but i would like to know about the advantages and disadvantages of group sex and how can i enjoy more with different type of sex. my some friends and their wives are also interested to join in group sex with me and my ...
A. 25 July 2008: Two books:
The Lifestyle by Terry Gould
Swinging A Societal Phenomena by Jean Hamel
Documentary:
Swinging in America
Free downloadable interviews
on my website http://www.FBKradio.com
with a variety of swingers, authors and sex experts wh... (read in full...)
Is it my fault that he hit me, or do I just keep getting with jerks?
Q. My past boyfriends have been abusive towards me and before I got with the guy I'm with now I told him that I was afraid to get hurt again and he promised me that he wouldn't ever hurt me. Well we've been together for 8 months now and he's hit me at ...
A. 21 July 2008: You are not responsible for who is attracted to you.
You are not responsible for who you are attracted to.
But you ARE responsible for who you CHOOSE TO DATE.
And you are fully responsible for STAYING with an abusive man after he hits you.
... (read in full...)
What is this feeling my ex is talking about?
Q. My ex girlfriend and me are still very close, in fact, we are best friends and prob will be for life, but she has something happen to her thats a little weird. Every time i say something sweet to her now, like ill always be there for you or you look...
A. 20 July 2008: You're friendship with her is hurting you both, and just so you know...at some point one of you is going to get serious with someone else, and that close friendship of yours will be a threat to any new relationship either one of you tries to build ... (read in full...)
How can I get an orgasm?
Q. I'm 24 years old and have never had an orgasm. I've been close but never made it there. What are somethings I can try to get one. Toys don't work...
A. 20 July 2008: Hi There,
An associate of mine has a website that teaches men and women to help women experience orgasms. This is not any sort of porn, but a demonstration video set on the topic. Good for couples.
http://www.se... (read in full...)
She is only 15, too young to date with me?
Q. Me and my best friend have had feelings for each other for a long time. Now me, im very respectful when it comes to the ladies. I understand that if someone is too young for sex, then thats the way it is and im fine with that. There is a 4 year age ...
A. 20 July 2008: First of all, in the USA what you are wanting to do (date and get sexual...) is illegal for your age group.
Next, you are OK with waiting another 5 years or so for sex? Are there religious reasons at play here? If not, I find it odd that a m... (read in full...)
He told me to leave him alone and stay away. I haven't heard a word for a week. Should I wait?
Q. don't know what to do here. the man i've been sleeping with for four years jusy recently cursed me out like a dog for coming down to his told me to leave him alone and to stay away from him. i in turn sent him a letter saying i was sorry for making ...
A. 20 July 2008: Well it depends on what you did. If you did something really bad, chances are he is serious and does not want to see you again. If he is just angry, give him his space.
-Frank B Kermit
www.frankadviceforwomen.com
... (read in full...)
Help! I don't want to marry my fiance - should we break up for good?
Q. Ok so here goes....my boyfriend and I have been together for over two years. I'm 29 and he's 33. We've both been married before (me for 1 yr, him for 7 yrs) in love-less marriages. I have huge doubts about our relationship and I broke off our en...
A. 19 July 2008: Never get married when you already have doubts. If you can not make it work in a marriage-less relationship, getting married will NOT make anything workout.
Maintain a good relationship with him for the sake of your child and make sure the chil... (read in full...)
Is getting seductive texts from an ex considered cheating?
Q. Does it mean a current boyfriend is cheating if he gets seductive text messages from an ex.... He claims he's not cheating.....this was just something stupid that happened.... I need help with this one....I trust him!!!!...
A. 19 July 2008: No, it is not considered cheating, however if he
1-does not tell you about it
or
2-does not tell the ex to stop
it is considered DISRESPECTFUL to your relationship.
Are you in an exclusive relationship, or are you both open to dating othe... (read in full...)
It seemed like he was keen on seeing me again so should I find out his number and contact him?
Q. Hi there, I met an awesome guy at a party last night and I'm just looking for a bit of advice on what I should do next. At the party we chatted for a bit and then he walked me home when I'd had a little (a lot, oops) too much to drink. It was a ...
A. 19 July 2008: Get his phone number from a mutual friend and call him. Invite him out to a public place for a coffee and cake as a thank you for his being a gentleman. Take it from there.
-Frank B Kermit
www.frankadviceforwomen.com
... (read in full...)
Should I use his sweater as an excuse to contact him?
Q. hello everyone, i'm really in need for some help here. i made out with this guy at a party. it was great... and when we said goodbye he said "see you soon". i got his sweater and wanna use that as an excuse but don't know how tbh... any advice? ...
A. 19 July 2008: Get his phone number from a mutual friend on the premise to return his sweater. Once you call him, set a date and time to meet with him again at a public place like a coffee shop, and once you get him there, start talking.
-Frank B Kermit
... (read in full...)
Should I use his sweater as an excuse to contact him?
Q. hello everyone, i'm really in need for some help here. i made out with this guy at a party. it was great... and when we said goodbye he said "see you soon". i got his sweater and wanna use that as an excuse but don't know how tbh... any advice? ...
A. 19 July 2008: Get his phone number from a mutual friend on the premise to return his sweater. Once you call him, set a date and time to meet with him again at a public place like a coffee shop, and once you get him there, start talking.
-Frank B Kermit
... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants to stop having sex and says other guys are hot. Is she going to break up with me?
Q. I think my girlfriend of 6 months ( were both 18) is going to breakup with me soon but she claims she doesnt want to. I dont know if this girl is a person who is good for me. I feel like I love her and she claims the same about me but she just makes ...
A. 19 July 2008: No doubt about it. She wants the relationship to end, but she want YOU to take the responsibility of ending it, so she is doing things to push you away.
Why would you stay in such an emotionally abusive relationship like this? Love is not enou... (read in full...)
Should I tell my family I'm bisexual?
Q. Hey Guys, Basically Im 16 and Ive recently discovered im bisexual. Im Not out yet, except to a few close friends. I really want to tell my family, and get the whole thing off my chest, but almost my whole family are homophobic. I have a gay cousin w...
A. 19 July 2008: My advice is NOT to out yourself until such a time as you are completely independent of your family to support yourself. Until then, keep it quiet.
-Frank B Kermit
www.FBKradio.com... (read in full...)
My boyfriend lied about his grades to get into college. Now he has to prove the grades, so do you think I could edit mine to put his name on them?
Q. My boyfriend lied about his grades on his college application form as he knew he would not get in without them. He had his interview today and they have agreed to let him in aslong as he proves what grades he got.. The grades he used are pretty ...
A. 17 July 2008: What you are thinking of doing is fraud and is illegal. YOU could suffer more than he, because he could claim it was your idea and that he did not know what you were planning. He should take make up courses and get better grades on his own.
Be sm... (read in full...)
Why did he go back to his ex when everything was great?
Q. I met this guy in May, we dated for a little and then became exclusive. Everything was great! We had so much in common and he was continuously telling me he hasn't felt this way in a long time and that he couldn't get enough of me. He would text ...
A. 17 July 2008: You asked: I really don't think he wanted to go back to his ex..but why do they?
All people (men and women) repeat behavior patterns, even if it is not in their best interests. This is why habits are hard to break, and people go back to rela... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my best friend and she tells me her sorrows. The pain just pierces my heart. I can't stand it any longer.
Q. I'm in love with my best friend.she's dating someone else which really hurts me. But now her boyfriend went to another country, she told me about her sorrows which actually hurts me too. Now she's single and i don't wanna talk to her and meet her. ...
A. 17 July 2008: Stop listening to her problems. You are becoming her therapist, and she can not develop romantic feelings for you.
If you want to make her have the chance at having feelings for you, you need to make her feel like a lover, not a mother. ... (read in full...)
What things should I know about relationships so I can keep this great girl?
Q. Im with this girl who im very attracted to mentally and physically. shes 17 shes smart and has a voice older for her age. we are bascially taking it slow. and its almost perfect bc like she said, i dont have to prove anything when im with you. like ...
A. 15 July 2008: Identify what her particular emotional needs are, and continue to address them. Protecting her reputation, cater to the little girl in her, address any fear of abandonment, handle whatever her sexuality is, be honest with her even if it would upset ... (read in full...)
He is asking me to marry him but his age is an imposing hinderance to me...
Q. Iam 24 years of age. i have recently met a 42 year old man who is very kind, loving and considerate in evry possible way. However, the age difference between us makes me fear to commit to him. he is asking me to marry him but his age is an imposing ...
A. 15 July 2008: As long as you are both of legal age, and that the relationship would be based on mutual affection and respect, and not to fill some emotionally dysfunctional void on either of your parts, why not just go out with him?
I just completed a lecture ... (read in full...)
Just how risky is the 'pull out' method?
Q. Hi, My partner and I have sex all the time without using protection. I am waiting for my next period to get an implamon though (maybe). I'm also more then aware of the invention of condoms so this is not the advice I am looking for. What I ...
A. 15 July 2008: There is a word to describe couples that use the pull out method.
The word is "parents".
-Frank B Kermit
www.franktalks.com... (read in full...)
I like a man 14 years my senior - what should I do? I can't keep my mind off him.
Q. In my job I have met a lot of people. I first met "tony", the manager of a different department, when I was cleaning. He struck me as odd and quirky but I was not attracted to him. I thought he was good looking, but nothing more. Then one day I just ...
A. 14 July 2008: As long as you are both of legal age, and that the relationship would be based on mutual affection and respect, and not to fill some emotionally dysfunctional void on either of your parts, why not just go out with him?
I just completed a lecture ... (read in full...)
My boss informed me that a passenger complained about my body odour! I feel this was over the top!
Q. hello, today at work i was pissed of quite a bit as my boss said that a passenger (i work in airport security) had complained about my body odour. now i have clean clothes and a shower before work every day and wear deodourant, no-one has even made ...
A. 4 July 2008: The team leader was doing harassment on you. No question.
I once was in charge of a guy that had bad body odor in an office environment. One day, I took him aside in an area that no one could hear or see us, and I politely but firmly told him... (read in full...)
What responsibility do you have to someone cheating on their husband?
Q. This question is theoretical... You have a very good friend, who is married, and she is cheating on her husband with another man. At a party, the lover makes a full out pass at you (because he figures all this woman's friends cheat too...)....
A. 1 July 2008: Ok, the first things I am going to ask you is this: If it was your partner/lover (regardless of affair) that made a pass to one of your girlfriends, would you want to be told?
If yes, then tell her. If not, then do not tell her. It really i... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Over 600,000 visitors last month!
Q. Just a quickie We broke the 600,000 unique users/month (i.e. people!) last month. According to google analytics we had 638,310 visitors from June 1st to June 30th. Doesn't seem that long ago we passed the half a million mark. Thanks to all t...
A. 1 July 2008: Andrew, you truly have made the world a better place with the structure of this site. Congrats and Thank You.
-Frank... (read in full...)
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