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writes:I think Ive fallen for a boy who I was seeing back in the summer but we finished 2 months ago. I miss him so much and although we had a massive argument when we split up we have only just started talking again and Im really happy. The only thing is, I think he see's me as just a friend and it hurts cos I just wanna be with him again. Whats worse is that he is a drug dealer and recently I have found myself buying drugs from him just so I can see him and talk to him. He is so nice looking and confident and so many people fancy him I feel lucky that I went out with him and gutted that its my fault we split up. Its driving me crazy and I dont know what to do anymore. Please help.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (24 November 2007):
 Yes, I am sure he was really a nice, generous guy...who would made you buy drugs just to see him. Very nice and generous indeed.
Don't be too upset for being thought of as a potential drug addict...however you need to take some responsibility for your actions. You do not get to control how other people are going to interpret your purchasing of drugs, nor dating a drug dealer. If you were that offended being thought of as a drug addict, then GOOD. It is obvious you do not like drugs...now if you could also let that beleif be reflected in who you choose to date, that would be even more healthy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am not a drug addict thank you, I came on here for advice not insults. Anyway, since Ive received all your answers Ive really looked at the full picture and am actually quite embarressed that I wanted someone so much. Yes he's a drug dealer but he was also a nice, generous guy and thats wot I fell for. When you like someone so much I think you would do anything to see them wouldnt you? Thats why I bought the drugs. But not anymore. Ive deleted his number I know I can do better than him.
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reader, Frank B Kermit +, writes (24 November 2007):
Yeesh.
He is not your boyfriend, he is just your drug dealer.
You bought drugs from him, just to see him? That sounds like denial to me.
A drug dealer? Sounds like you are in lust, not love...or just an addict that is looking for an excuse.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2007): Confidence is sexy, but is it any demonstration of any actual value? A confident loser is still a loser. And if you're confident AND a loser at the same time, then you're probably downright stupid about life in general. And the fact that other girls want him doesn't mean anything. Lemmings running over a cliff. Go visit a local prison and see the worst guys in there. Every single hopeless violent loser who is in there for the long haul usually has no problem getting women to come see him and have his babies.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2007): you settling for a piece of shit guy. unless you consider yourself crap. if not i would suggest you moving on. if not honestly it's going to be your loss.
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reader, Giles  +, writes (24 November 2007):
Before I give this answer, you should know that I have little patince and tolerance for drug dealers. My best friend from childhood days died of a drug OD.
It never ceases to amaze me how desperate people are! Why are you so determined to have for this guy? So he's good looking! So he's self confident! So what? Apparently his looks are so good that he's blinded you to a slighty obvious fact: HE'S A DRUG DEALER, DOLL! But this may or may not concern you, depending on your stance of drugs or what type of drugs they are (If this gent is a pharmacist, the two of you have my soncerest apologies! Go get him!)
But, if he peddles anything that goes in your nose or your veins, stay away! You don't want that karma coming after you too, trust me!
One other thing: I remember when a previous girlfriend and I broke up a long time ago. For a while afterwards I was also gutted, remembering all the good times, wanting them back. Then we went out for drinks the one night, and all those stark realities of WHY WE BROKE UP IN THE FIRST place came back to me. So just remember: You broke up with him for a reason, thats not going to change, dearie.
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