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My long term boyfriend's mother can't accept me and won't clarify why. Any ideas on what I can do?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years,on and off. We got back together on a serious basis in June. I am very frustrated cos his mum doesn;'t want to accept me.I am not allowed to go to his house. I feel humiliated by it, as I have never met the ...
A. 4 November 2008: Well what a nasty piece of work your boyfriend has turned out to be, he is the one who is a control freak not you.
Ditch this spineless wimp!!!... (read in full...)
Met a guy off the internet, had sex and I like him. How do I tell him about my son?
Q. I'm 19, and I've been meeting guys off the internet. I've already met 3 this week, I've had sex with 2 of them and realised I like 1 of them. I've met him twice, but we only met for sex. He wants to meet me again and knows I have an 8 month old son. ...
A. 19 January 2008: Glad to have been of help. I still think you should take it on step at a time with this guy and do not show yourself desparate to find a substitute father for your son otherwise you may just shoot yourself in the foot.
I don't think it is a goo... (read in full...)
Did I make a mistake by not telling him I am a virgin?
Q. hi everyone, ive recently had my first kind of relationship but it only lasted 3 weeks the guy i was kind of seeing was a lot older then me and more exprienced he had 3 children,anyway i stayed round his house about 4 times and really wanted to have ...
A. 17 January 2008: I don't think you have anything to be ashamed about, this guy clearly made you feel inferior because of your inexperience. Move on and find someone who wants you for yourself, hopefully the next guy will be more understanding and treat you with more ... (read in full...)
Met a guy off the internet, had sex and I like him. How do I tell him about my son?
Q. I'm 19, and I've been meeting guys off the internet. I've already met 3 this week, I've had sex with 2 of them and realised I like 1 of them. I've met him twice, but we only met for sex. He wants to meet me again and knows I have an 8 month old son. ...
A. 15 January 2008: You are going in a completely wrong way to find a father for your son.
1. Meeting them for casual sex is wrong and you can catch a STD off these guys.
2. I think you should concentrate on being a good role model for your son and also concent... (read in full...)
My best friend is being beaten by the father of her baby..how do I help her?
Q. My best friend is being beaten by the father of her baby. This is quite complecated so bear with me please. My friend had a baby a year ago with her then boyfriend, she has a flat and its ment to be for her and baby only but the dad lives there ...
A. 15 January 2008: Do yourself a great favour for your friend, tell her to go to the police and get this scumbag arrested. She is not only putting her life in danger but her child's. He is nothing but a vile bully and needs to be out of her life and put behind bars. ... (read in full...)
She came to school the other day claiming she has lost her virginity to her friend's uncle and I know it's true as I have seen them together but I don't know what to do about it?
Q. Me and my best friend are 14. Recently she has been having trouble at home and is now living with another friend and her family, including her 40 year old uncle. She came to school the other day claiming she has lost her virginity to her friend's ...
A. 14 January 2008: This guy is a paedophile of the worst kind and it makes me sick to the stomach that he is still walking the streets.... (read in full...)
How do I walk away from someone I love so much?
Q. hey, i wrote in a cuple weeks ago asking should i stay or walk away from my married boyfriend, the thing is. i got 1 reply saying stay, i saying leave and 1 saying run. the thing is i no he's not happy where he is. i no he's not. if you read my f...
A. 14 January 2008: Hi Sue how are you Hun? I feel that I just had to reply to your letter. What I am gonna tell you, you will not like but please hear me out.
You are a young woman with needs, ie you want stability loyalty and love in a relationship, and sadly in... (read in full...)
I always "freeze" when having to take the conclusive steps to end my marriage, because of the abuses. What to do about the indecisiveness?
Q. I really need help to make a very big decision - that is to leave my husband. I am 35 - no children. What I guess I am asking is why I have deliberated over it for so long when the evidence that we are not right for each other is so obvious. I ha...
A. 11 January 2008: Do yourself a favour my darling. Get out of this loveless dead end marriage once and for all,you owe him nothing and he certainly does not deserve any more chances from you.
I was in a similar situation 4 years ago, I lived with this guy who unde... (read in full...)
She acts like we are a couple, holding hands, cuddling. It would be great if we'd be together, but she already has a bf!
Q. I have a friend from uni who i've known for just over a year. She started with her boyfriend about the same time I met her, didn't bother me to start with, I wasn't really attacted to her. During this time she tried to kiss me but I turned away. ...
A. 11 January 2008: Shikari 424 is right, she will probably do the same if you ever get into a relationship with her. By all means be friends with her, but refrain from getting too intimate with her, as I feel that she is toying with your affections. She seems way too ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to think of naked pre-teen boys and girls when masturbating?
Q. Hi, I am 18, but I am NOT sick. Sometimes, when I masturbate, I think of naked pre-teen boys and girls. Is this normal?...
A. 11 January 2008: So LJ001, you don't think it is neccessarily wrong or sick to think about pre-teen boys or girls whilst masturbating. How would you feel if it was your sister/brother or son/daughter was a victim of fantasy through mastubation? Would your views ... (read in full...)
According to his rules, he's allowed to sleep with other girls, but I cannot sleep with other guys. If I went along with his idea what does this say about me?
Q. My ex and I have been seeing each other for awhile now. I REALLY like him, maybe even love him. He has said that he cares about me a lot, more than any other girl. We're not committed to each other although I do have deep feelings for him and I ...
A. 11 January 2008: Sorry to say this, but I can't believe you wrote this letter asking us whether its ok for your bf to sleep with other girls and that he has forbidden you to sleep with other guys whilst you are away from each other. Do you have Doormat tattooed ... (read in full...)
Does having a baby affect your ability to have an orgasm?
Q. To start off b4 i had my daughter i have never had an issue with having an orgasim. Does pregnancy affect your ability to orgasim? Ive had one a few times but it took a long time when b4 it didnt take much. How do i get things back to the way they ...
A. 10 January 2008: Giving birth to a child makes a woman's vaginal entrance become slack due to it being stretched due to childbirth. Have you tried doing your pelvic exercises? This will help you to tighten up the vaginal muscles, you can even do this during sex. I ... (read in full...)
My fiance can't come through sex, he wants a blow job which I find revolting
Q. okay. I've been in a relationship of a little over a year now and engaged for a bit of it. But my finance can't cum during sex. he can cum using his hand fine, this bothers me a bit, but I have gotten over it to some extent. I still feel bad for ...
A. 10 January 2008: Hi Hun, I must admit I used to hate giving head to my previous lovers, but now I rather enjoy it as long as my bf washes down there before hand and vise versa when he returns the favour. There is nothing worse than going down on a guy and all you ... (read in full...)
We fell in love and everything seemed fine, then one day he just left. He refuses to talk to me and I don't know what went wrong, how can I move on from this?
Q. My friend and I were very close for a long time and one day we felt in love.. We started dating and things were great after that.. We had ups and downs like any other relationships.. One day he just left.. I don't know what went wrong.. He refuses ...
A. 10 January 2008: Samurai Rick is right, this jerk did not have the balls to call closure on this relationship so he took the coward's way out and is giving you the silent treatment. Take it from a wise old owl like me, go out there and start having fun with your ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is overweighted and since I think we might start having sex soon I want to be prepared, what is the most comfortable positions for us regarding he is much heavier than me??
Q. This is a bit of a strange question but something I'm curious about. Started seeing a guy. He's not massively obese but he is overweight. I don't mind that though cos he's such a lovely guy and he makes me laugh loads. We've been getting closer ...
A. 10 January 2008: Here are a few positions that are great if your partner is on the cuddly side. Spoons, woman on top and doggy position. Sex burns off more calories than a workout at the gym and is a lot more fun Lol. Hope this helps my dear. Happy Loving Dusky xxx... (read in full...)
Which is hotter - blonde or brunette?
Q. A bit of a survey here... Are girls hotter as blondes? or brunettes? I would love to know your personal preferance... thnx xoxo ...
A. 10 January 2008: Dear anonymous reader, there are plenty of gorgeous brunettes out there. Courtney Cox Arquette, Natalie Imbruglia, The Corrs but to name a few. So stop running us brunette women down, we are not all as hairy as orangutangs thank you very much. There ... (read in full...)
Does a bigger Penis mean better sex?
Q. I can't stave off something that has made me massively insecure and jealous. My girlfriend of 3 and a half years recently broke up with me for another guy. It was the worst experience of my life, literally :( but it's been 4 months since then and ...
A. 10 January 2008: No not an ounce of difference.... (read in full...)
We've been together 6 years but he's told me he loves his ex as much as me, and he wouldn't be able to resist her if the chance came up. Do I stay or leave him??
Q. My partner and I have been together for 6 years and I have a Daughter from a previous relationship who calls my partner Dad(No contact with my ex).When we first got together he explained that he and his ex were still friendly and i accepted ...
A. 10 January 2008: I sincerely hope you are doing the right thing here, but surely the statement he made about still being in love with his ex is still going to haunt you forever more. I mean, from anything eg every time you guys quarrel you may throw things about his ... (read in full...)
We've been together 6 years but he's told me he loves his ex as much as me, and he wouldn't be able to resist her if the chance came up. Do I stay or leave him??
Q. My partner and I have been together for 6 years and I have a Daughter from a previous relationship who calls my partner Dad(No contact with my ex).When we first got together he explained that he and his ex were still friendly and i accepted ...
A. 9 January 2008: DUMP HIM DUMP HIM DUMP HIM !!!!!!!!!!!... (read in full...)
My ex dumped me after some very weird behaviour on his part...
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me after we went on a trip to meet his family. I had had the feeling he was going to, i don't know why, but still i wasn't expecting it! He was acting weird the whole weekend, just not himself and then broke up with me ...
A. 9 January 2008: You are well rid of this loser, Hun move on and find a man who treats you like a Princess and not a Doormat.... (read in full...)
We have been intimate and become close, but we're not officially a couple. Am I his girlfriend or... a mate?
Q. well, em recently (lke 2 weeks) been seeing this amazing guy which i am very very attracted to. we have been intimate and become close. but in front of his mates and people when he is chattin to them on the phone he says " oh i'm with a friend a...
A. 9 January 2008: You are still very young to be thinking about commitment and two weeks is far too early to sleep with someone without knowing where this relationship is going. Men in general are not always in touch with their emotions either like us girls, yes you ... (read in full...)
Every time I make a suggestion, my boyfriend yells at me. If I do not, he is not pleased either. What am I doing wrong?
Q. I'm trying to make my 3-yr relationship with my b/f work out but at times he seems impossible to please. Some examples: We'll be driving in the car, and he'll tell me that I should look ahead and see if there's traffic coming on my side of the car, ...
A. 9 January 2008: Tell your loser of a bf to Get a life!! and dump him now.... (read in full...)
Is it best to pass your driving test before having a baby?
Q. hi there, as you know i asked previously that i would like to have a baby with my new boyfriend and i am considering it as we are getting our own house and ive got my driving test at the end of the month and my boyfiend earns alot as he works two ...
A. 8 January 2008: You sound like you will make a brilliant mother, but judging by your age group don't you think you should wait a few years. I become a mother at the age of 20, my children are 19 and nearly 18 and I am very proud of them indeed. My son is at college ... (read in full...)
She's a bit bigger than I thought she would be, and I only half like her. Should I have sex with her and marry her?
Q. i am unmarried and one girl loves me alot. we become friends through a dating site. but the first day i met her i felt very bad due to the reason she is not so good looking. Actually she is a fat girl and that to, too much. As, such i ignored all ...
A. 7 January 2008: You have got to be the most dispicable man I have ever come across, just because this poor woman does not meet your criteria you cruelly criticise her appearance. She may not have the body of Angelina Jolie, but I bet she has more compassion and and ... (read in full...)
Is my g/f's job a potential problem for our relationship?
Q. My girlfriend has started working at a nightclub (as an assistant manager.) Not a stripclub, but a dance club. She's a recording artist and is well known in the entertainment scene here. I'm really not interested in dating a woman who is at the ...
A. 6 January 2008: What century are you living in 19th or 21st? This young lady sounds like a very hard working and ambitious who wants to make something of herself. If you can't accept her chosen career, then why are you with her? It seems to me you want a Cook and ... (read in full...)
Is this guy really sincere? He has not text me in months.
Q. Ages ago, I met a guy. We met at an after party and really hit it off. Lots of chemistry and sparks. He bought me a drink, and we had a nice chat together. He had a smashing sense of humour, not to mention completeply gorgeous. Forgot to get ...
A. 6 January 2008: I get the vibes that this guy is dangling you on a piece of string. 1) He starts off mega keen wanting to take you out to dinner when he has gets more money. 2) He cruelly cuts you dead without so much as a call and text. Leaving you feeling like ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for 'doggy fashion' to hurt like this?
Q. Me and my bf have been together for over a year now, and have recently started having sex. Don't get me wrong, I love it. But I've began to have a problem. He wants doggy all the time... He has this way of making sure we do it, and I try to move ...
A. 3 January 2008: Reader anon. Doggy also means having vaginal sex too and not just anal sex. It is so called this position because that is the way dogs and other animals do it.... (read in full...)
Am I unique?
Q. My boyfriend keeps telling me i am unique because i can not seem to "cum" for a man. He says every other woman can except me, and it's starting to get irritating! can anyone recommend any way i can try to do this without feeling or looking like an ...
A. 3 January 2008: No you are not unique, there are 1000s of women who cannot reach an orgasm. Your bf sounds like an insensitive jerk, if I was you I would kick him to the kerb. How dare he critisise you for not cumming for him. Next time he tells you that you are ... (read in full...)
Do I have false hopes that we will ever be together?
Q. Very complicated. I have been dating a married man for 2 years. When we first met things were really good. He works in my home town and lives about 7 hours away so we were able to be with each other a lot. His work schedule is 3weeks on 1week off. ...
A. 2 January 2008: Sorry to say this, but What goes around comes around. You broke up a family to be with a jerk, who has very little regard for anyone but himself. Now you know how his wife feels, when he is away from you he is doing exactly as he pleases. Its his ... (read in full...)
His mother STILL MOTHERS HIM and that makes it hard to accept our relationship. What can I do?
Q. hi, ok my problem is quite silly really, but i am with a realy great man in a relationship and have been for over a year now. i find it difficult to accept his relationship that he has with his mother. we are both adults, but she treats him like ...
A. 1 January 2008: Where does this woman get off? By dictating to your bf about when he can go out, his mother is taking the p*ss and you guys are letting her by giving into her every whim. If you want this relationship to survive, then I suggest you both stand up to ... (read in full...)
His parents aren't happy because our familes are from different backgrounds. What can we do?
Q. Hi, I am currently having problems with my boyfriend. Basically, im not sure if im over reacting on an issue that has come up. Me and my partner come from different backgrounds. Im white british and he is british asian. I knew when we started ...
A. 1 January 2008: I'm afraid you are on a losing battle here, as your bf is denying your relationship and in my opinion this guy has no respect for you period. You guys must have had some inkling that his family was not going to fully accept you from the start. If he ... (read in full...)
What is adequate wear for a wedding, please?
Q. I've been invited to a wedding, please excuse the fact that this isn't entirely a "dear cupid" question, but I would really asppreciate some advice as to what I should wear! I haven't been to a wedding since I was 10...I'm just really stuck as ...
A. 31 December 2007: I would wear a dress with matching bag and shoes.... (read in full...)
My husband has molested our daughter for years. What should I do now?
Q. I would like your opinion on this serious issue. I was in bed with my husband over 20 years ago when my daughter, then aged about 2, climbed into be between us. After some time, I noticed my husband was getting aroused and I thought he was masturba...
A. 30 December 2007: You should have gotten away from him all those years ago when you suspected he was abusing your daughter. Any parent with some sort of shadow of a doubt about this person would have taken their child out such an awful environment. If I was you and ... (read in full...)
He denies we're an item. What should I do?
Q. Help.My boyfriend says he loves me but i can't see it. He's denying our relationship in his work and don't want others to know that we're together....What shall i do? I love him so much....
A. 24 December 2007: Dump him !!!!!... (read in full...)
Happy Xmas from DearCupid
Q. Happy Xmas everyone :-) The aunts who share their wisdom, the people who share their questions and the team of moderators who keep everything flowing onto the site! Plus the 350,000 people who visit each month Have a great Xmas! Feel free t...
A. 24 December 2007: Merry Christmas to all my fellow Dear Cupid Aunts and Uncles and have a fab 2008 Dusky xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx... (read in full...)
I'm 12 and upset that there are so many in my grade that are already having sex. I'm worried about everyone and I didn't think I would have this drama till high school. What should I do?
Q. I'll try to make this short. Ok, i'm worried and kinda just upset. i'm 12 in 7th grade and I already know about 8 people in my grade who have had sex and gotten drunk. One of them used to be a good friend of mine who actually lost their virginity ...
A. 24 December 2007: Leanne it is not illegal for first cousins to have sex, so therefore it does not count as incest.... (read in full...)
My live-in gf only enjoys masturbating together but gets defensive over intercourse. Haven't had sex in yrs, I'm tempted to accept my colleague's sexual insinuations?
Q. I haven't had sex with my girl since 2003. We live together. We were from a long distance relationship. I love her. I cook for her. I make her feel good. But everytime I try and engage with her intimately, she brushes me off. Then less than...
A. 20 December 2007: My heart really goes out to you it really does. First your gf refuses to have sex with you at all, she then sleeps with another guy and to top it she lets you play with her imtimately and then cuts you dead to go any further. This little madam needs ... (read in full...)
He is my first date with an uncircumcised penis and that... turns me off. I want to break up, should I tell him why?
Q. I've been dating this guy for a little over 3 months now. I think he's great and want to have a long-term relationship with him. The problem is, I don't sleep with my boyfriends until we've dated a little while aad I'm sure I really like them for ...
A. 17 December 2007: Why are you so surprised about the answers the others have given you? Have you ever thought of dating a guy who is Jewish as they are circumcised for religious reasons? Just a thought!!... (read in full...)
I got sexy underwear and my partner (62) told me I looked like a prostitute. We haven't had sex in years and we plan to get married. Please advise.
Q. My partner is not interested in sex. We have been together 4 years. At first things were Ok but got worse and worse.I tried to pep things up and got some sexy, tasteful underwear, but he told me I looked like a prostitute. We have had sex about 3 ...
A. 17 December 2007: Why do you want to marry a man who does not comply with you intimitely? He probably thinks that when you reach a certain age sex is no longer an issue, he should realise that you are a woman who still has sexual needs as well as emotional ones too. ... (read in full...)
My long term boyfriend's mother can't accept me and won't clarify why. Any ideas on what I can do?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years,on and off. We got back together on a serious basis in June. I am very frustrated cos his mum doesn;'t want to accept me.I am not allowed to go to his house. I feel humiliated by it, as I have never met the ...
A. 15 December 2007: What a nasty piece of work his mother is, don't be intimidated by the old witch. Anybody who judges people by the colour of their skin, is nothing but narrow minded bigot. As Lulu said arrange a meeting with her and see how she reacts by meeting in ... (read in full...)
He says he will brake up with his girlfriend of 7 yrs but want to wait till after the holidays. What do you think, will he be lying to me too? (I'm 21, he's 35)
Q. Im kind of seeing this man whos 14 years older than me, he asked me out and we got drunk and had intercourse, the next day he told me that he wanted to be honest with me, that he has a girlfriend and said he would brake up with her soon, but he ...
A. 12 December 2007: If this guy tells you he is not having sex with his gf, chances are he is lying through his back teeth. This is the oldest trick in the book, ie my gf doesn't understand me and we don't have sex either. This creep is having his cake and eating it my ... (read in full...)
Why does knowing about her 16 previous partners bother me so much?
Q. OK I'm going through something really silly. It's bothering the hell outta me. My current gf who's 30 years old told me that she had 16 previous partners before me. I've had 7 before her. But it's bothering me a lot! The strange thing is that ...
A. 12 December 2007: Oh for goodness sake, get a grip. So she has had 9 more partners than you at the age of 30. If you are so concerned, why are you dating her? As long she had been practising safe sex, that is all that matters. Women do sow their wild oats as much as ... (read in full...)
Two women, one big choice!
Q. Hi there, It's the old story: two women, who to choose? Just want some perspective. I met a girl Rachel (28) in June this year online. She is a pretty girl. We talked on MSN for a month or so and on the phone. She said that she wasn't ready fo...
A. 12 December 2007: If you are not keen on Samantha, please tell her and stop wasting her time. What has Samantha's past got to do with you anyway? I think you are way too judgemental. I dated a good few guys before I met my current boyfriend on line too and no way ... (read in full...)
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