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writes:Ages ago, I met a guy. We met at an after party and really hit it off. Lots of chemistry and sparks. He bought me a drink, and we had a nice chat together. He had a smashing sense of humour, not to mention completeply gorgeous. Forgot to get his number before I left, but he managed to track down my number by asking a friend of mine for it who gave it to him. He began texting me and we chatted loads for about 3 weeks, both through text, on the phone and over msn. We just really got on and "clicked" with eachother. He said he wanted to take me out to dinner but wanted to wait until the end of month so he could save up enough money to take me out somewhere dead nice. I told him I didn't mind where we went, but he insisted he wanted to take me somewhere nice for our first date. Got all excited about it and then right out of the blue he stopped texting and went completeply silent. Stopped replying to my emails. I was a bit heartbroken to be honest. But that was months ago, and I accepted the fact he had simply gone off me or met someone else - neither of those were ever confirmed to me, but I just got over it and moved on. Anyways the other night we bumped in to eachother again and started chatting. Hit it off once again, same sparks, same chemistry, and then the next day he started texting me again. I really like him but still remember what happened last time. I dont want to get my hopes up, and then for him just to go silent again. What should I do? Should I give him a second chance or just politely tell him thanks but no thanks.
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reader, Oblivia  +, writes (6 January 2008):
 If you like him, give him a chance. I agree though that the first thing you should do before deciding what you want is to get an explanation on why he just disappeared before. You can ask in a casual way if you don't feel like being accusive. Tell him that when someone you have frequent contact with suddenly seem to have disappeared from the face of the earth you get really worried something bad had happened to him. Tell him that you had appreciated if he had told you if something had come up that prevented him from talking to you, and that you expect him to be honest with you. Then see how he reacts/responds to this and take it from there. Is he someone you can trust or not?
Good luck!
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (6 January 2008):
 I get the vibes that this guy is dangling you on a piece of string. 1) He starts off mega keen wanting to take you out to dinner when he has gets more money. 2) He cruelly cuts you dead without so much as a call and text. Leaving you feeling like crap wondering what you have done. 3) He waltzes back into your life as if nothing has happened without an explaination as to why he never contacted you all that time. If I was you I would demand an explaination as to why he cut you dead, don't let him get away with it, you are worth so much more than that Hun. There are plenty more fish in the sea my dear. Trust me on that one, anyway good luck and keep me informed. Dusky xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2008): Hi Hun
It does sound abit strange but give him the benifit of the doubt, Dont get your hopes up as sometimes people can say alot of things they would like to do but just dont follow it through, He didnt mention to you the other night why he had stopped contact? There is one reason I may be a little weary of and that is he already may have a partner, So sweetheart go into this with your eyes wide open not your heart, Give him a chance if you like him that much but always be prepared and strong. And I hope he is the perfect man you see TAKE CARE WITH LOVE MANDY xxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (6 January 2008):
 Once bitten twice shy. You should be better prepared this time around and more wiser. A man should be given another chance.Two chances are all he will get.If you think he does not qualify , then turn the tables back on him and don't reply his texts. LOL!
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