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writes:Hi,I am 18, but I am NOT sick. Sometimes, when I masturbate, I think of naked pre-teen boys and girls. Is this normal? Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2008): Well, I have woundered if it was normal as well.
Get help while you can I have had problems with this type of thing when I was in my 20's.
Stop Now.
It is not normal and there may be underlying things to deal with.
Bobby.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2008): Whats normal? Who's the standard of normal sexual behavior that were supposed to put our selves up against? If there was a norm to conform to we would be humans pretending not humans being. There is unhealthy behavior but this guys not practicing that. He has normal male fantasies , any guy that says otherwise is a lier. sexual attraction can not be controlled its a part of humans most basic instincts it is a part of our survival. If this guy were to react to his urges , fantasies of younger girls or boys it would be unhealthy. Whats important is that he learns to differentiate between reality and fantasy. And get on with his life and not let all those on this site tell you how sick you are get you down. Only four (4) groups would look at this question pedophiles, concerned mothers, law enforcement , and Psy professionals or students. Which are you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2008): Yes it is normal
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): YES. It it very normal for an man to develop a sexual attractant. However make sure that it all stays a fantasy. If for some reason it crosses the line, and becomes actuality, you could mess up your life and your record. Plus it could cause the preteen to lose their self esteem.
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reader, q1605 +, writes (10 March 2008):
 OK all you people that hate pornography...we might have found a honest to god positive use for it. YOU there go get a playboy that has a spread of Pamela Anderson. She's in just about every one. Look at it. Yes they are fake but who cares. Air brushed? semantics. Kind of leaning to the cheap and tinsel side of the spectrum. Fucking A-right she is. Now are there any visions of children dancing through your head. While you are looking at her. If there are this isn't a phase you are going through. Keep impulses in check until you sort this out and you may need professional help. Acting out is wrong and will land you in jail not to mention wrecking the few innocent years of life that are afforded to children these days. Were you tampered with as a child. Inappropriate behavior begets inappropriate behavior. But its not license for you to perpetuate it. Break the cycle.
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reader, Ask oldersister +, writes (9 March 2008):
 I dunno, I think this is a very fine line. I don't think being aroused by pre-pubescent children is that normal and could turn into a fetish if left unchecked. My son is 12 and if an adult were fantasizing about him right now, the thought is very disturbing to me and i have a boy! Not a girl. I don't know if this is a compulsive thought of yours or not but it's worth looking into.
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reader, hello1  +, writes (9 March 2008):
 Wow came back and looked at this question, seems all the sickos have come on! all I can say is, I hope you all die a slow and painful death.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2008): Theologyofthebody.com please check it out
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2008): Find some healthier fantasy. You are obviously troubled by your thoughts and this cannot be good. Don't mess with kids, it could emotionally scar them for life (preteen or otherwise)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2008): People are strange with their answers. Firstly I would say there really is no "normal" None of us could possibly aspire to that. The important thing here is to realise that sexuality is a creative process influenced by our own cultural and social environment. Clearly if you fantasise about kids you are simply immature. Not a crime. However it also shows that in some ways your parents or guardians have not been there for you. This is common. Your emotional immaturity can be dealt with by the discipline of a good further education. Try to read some good books and see some serious films from world cinema. As you mature so will your sexuality. You should quickly realise that the best sexual fantasy is one that involves someone you love. Good luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2008): jesus hello1, chuck on some judgmental attitude why don't you?
don't get so sanctimonious.
you think he chose to be this way?
how about hopping off your high horse.
nature could just have easily dealt YOU this hand.
think about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2008): Whatever gets you off will work.
Just don't act on those fantasies, especially with underage kids.
As long as it's your private fantasy and stays that way,what's the harm?
I do it all the time,if I see a really hot underage girl I take a mental picture of her, then at the first opportunity,
I masturbate while thinking of her and other young girls.
But that's as far as it goes and that's what gets me off.
Try it you'll like it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2008): It is quite normal, I do it all the time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2008): Yes, it is wrong. Snap out of it.
BUT it is much more normal than you think.
Get out of la-la land, people. There have been studies that show a large percent of men show signs of arousal at images of . . um, "underage" sexuality/explicit images. Similar studies show attraction towards females in men goes FAR below the legal age.
The fact that you're only 18 means you probably DO NOT HAVE A PROBLEM. You say you've been to a trained professional who agrees. If you ask me, as long as this doesn't go further than it already has, or becomes some kind of regular exclusive thing for you, you'll grow out of it someday and move on.
Don't let uneducated internet people get you down.
Hell in some parts of the world the legal age is 13 years old and its considered OK. Those people would be treated like murderers in the US.
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reader, crzay5carol +, writes (13 January 2008):
It's normal. We all have our own fantasies. It's what turns you on. Honestly as long as you don't do those things in real life, your fine. I have my own different types of fantasies. No one can tell you that anything is normal. This world is filled with crazy things and crazy thoughts. We're allowed to think the way we want . Theres no rules or laws that tell us we aren't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2008): Oh - I forgot to add - I do NOT have a problem. If I was only thinking about pre-teens, then I would have a problem. I also think of girls MY age, too. I actually do get turned on by the SLIGHTEST thing that is sexual. I get turned on by over-18 porn, too. And I am never coming on here, again. BYE.
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reader, hello1 +, writes (12 January 2008):
As you keep the two things seperate then that's okay. I don't agree with with you think, but I know no one choses to be a pedophile. Just don't act on your thoughts. Also I don't think you should have children when your older, the temptation may get stronger.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (12 January 2008):
 You can think of anything which can stimulate you as long as you know reality and fantasies..Whatever you want to think is your business.If you ask 100 people , all will give you different opinions.If you think it is wrong and your conscience troubles you ,then don't do it.
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reader, jm81690  +, writes (12 January 2008):
 It's not normal, harsh as this sounds if you keep that up your going to end up in trouble for having child pornography on your computer, or maybe even something worse.
Which is an instant pass to jail, and I'm sure you've got a good idea what happens to people charged with sex related crimes in jail, especially when it involves kids.
For your sake and the sake of any kids you may get a desire for in the future, get help man, as soon as you can.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2008): I think that you do need to get some help... no offense.. I mean, I am 18 too.. and I always like to think of older men... but children are out of the question... -- the reason child porn is against the law in USA!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2008): Stem1981,No, I have NEVER had a relationship like that. I do feel like I have a little bit of low self-esteem, and it may be because I feel very stressed in high school. I do not, and would not ever go out and have sex with a child. I like girls my age - don't get me wrong. And I get off much more looking at 18+ porn, than thinking of pre-teens, anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2008): No its not normal. Thinking of preteens at the age of 18 shows that your sexuality didn't develop properly. I don't know why this has happened but you have got to work it out, perhaps enlist the help of a psychotherapist and work out this problem. Cause it is a problem and it is not normal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2008): While I did view child porn, I no longer do it, or have any intention of doing it, ever again. My parents know that I looked at it, and I have been to a psychologist. He said I was fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2008): Thanks, guys. Trust me - I will NEVER take it a step further. I know better than to do that. While I did view child pornography, I know the difference between reality and fantasy, and would NEVER act on my fantasies.
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reader, stem1981 +, writes (11 January 2008):
Hi, Good on you for being brave to ask this question. I dont know if what you are feeling is normal but it does depends hugely on the type of thoughts you are experiencing. I dont agree with LJ001 as she says 'Don't let anyone tell you this is wrong, or sick okay'. I think the majority of society would deem it as wrong and as sick.
firstly: What is masturbation?
Masturbation is the physical stimulation of the sexual organs to produce feelings of pleasure. As a male your body has matured to a certain point where masturbating will eventually result in semen being expelled from the penis, usually accompanied by a very good whole-body feeling known as orgasm.
The fact that you will be experiencing these pleasures whilst thinking about children is a concern as it shows that this is something that turns you on and clearly makes the experience more enjoyable for you.
However, this does not make you a criminal or a peodophile just simply means that you have some negative sexual tendancies and may have a psychosexual disorder in which an adult's arousal and sexual gratification occur primarily through sexual contact with pre - teens. I am not a doctor, just giving my opinion.
Have you ever had a sexual relationship with an adult and have you got a low self-esteem. I am only asking this as you may see sexual activity with a child less threatening than that with an adult.
Ask yourself whether you think what you are feeling is wrong and if you agree then get help and fast.
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (11 January 2008):
 So LJ001, you don't think it is neccessarily wrong or sick to think about pre-teen boys or girls whilst masturbating. How would you feel if it was your sister/brother or son/daughter was a victim of fantasy through mastubation? Would your views still stand the same?
Anybody who has sexual fantasies of any kind regarding children needs professional help before this gets completely out of hand and I suggest LJ001 researches a little more thoroughly before she passes on any ridiculous comments concerning such delicate yet disturbing matters.
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reader, Leanna +, writes (11 January 2008):
 Just thinking those thoughts will stop being enough one day and you'll find that you need something more. That's where the problem begins. Don't let it get that far. If you find yourself in the situation where you're thinking about looking for photos or whatever then go get some help from a proffessional. Until then, try not to worry too much.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2008): Don't let anyone tell you this is wrong, or sick okay. That is the first thing. And, just before I start, I think hello1 is very incorrect, and is showing no empathy.
Although I do think this is a little unusual, it's not necessarily wrong or sick. However, if these thoughts turned into a desire to see them naked on the internet, or you begin watching child porn, I would say this is wrong.
Don't feel guilty, or bad about these thoughts, but please don't let it go further. It's illegal to make or watch porn of a child, and is descriminating their rights.
Please, respect children, and don't let the thoughts go further.
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reader, naturesb +, writes (11 January 2008):
 Hello, The previous person was strait and to the point,l I fully agree. Do yoursellf a favor and seek counseling, there is nothing wrong with going for help..it can be a rewarding experience and provide much personel growth.
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reader, hello1 +, writes (11 January 2008):
No it's not. It's very wrong, why would you want to think of kids? Go see someone and get help
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