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Is it normal to think of naked pre-teen boys and girls when masturbating?

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Question - (11 January 2008) 46 Answers - (Newest, 25 March 2010)
A male United States age 22-25, anonymous writes:

Hi,

I am 18, but I am NOT sick. Sometimes, when I masturbate, I think of naked pre-teen boys and girls. Is this normal?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2010):

I had those thoughts at your age. I don't know if they were "normal" or not, but I can relate.

Just recognize the boundaries between your fantasies and reality. You can never act on these thoughts...you'll ruin not only your own life, but that of a child. The child will be forever changed by the behavior you fantasize about...for the worse and you, well, you potentially will end up in prison.

Keep your fantasies to yourself...grow up, be happy and hopefully find an adult person to love, make love with and spend the rest of your life with.

Be Happy and Prosper!

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A male reader, donkydick United Kingdom +, writes (23 March 2010):

i think it a bit strange why not think about girls / boys nearer your own age or older

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2009):

yes it is normal every teen does in in the world

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2009):

hello

I got the same fantasies but I hope I grow out of it. Anyway I cosndier sex with real children OUT OF THE QUESTION ENTIRELY

Not for own safty but for theirs

Long LIFe to PEDOPHILES Say NO TO CHILD RAPE, CHILD PORN OR ABUSE OT CHILDREN

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2009):

Considered by modern society as taboo, forbidden, and unbalanced, it is actually far more common than believed. This occurs at all ages, in men particularly, but it can be seen in women as well. For thousands of years the appreciation of younger people was accepted and even expected. Personally I believe there is healthy and unhealthy appreciation. Healthy is an admiration and enjoyment, unhealthy causes harm and danger. At your age, it's less of a concern. If you wish to avoid it in the future when you are older, try forcing yourself to think of girls or guys your own age. There's no guarantee this will work, but some experts believe thinking of a young partner creates positive reinforcement, strengthening the desire.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2009):

thats kind of wrong but just dont go farther than have fantasys

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2009):

Seek help

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2009):

hi yes its normal i think about pre teens wen i wank off its not hurtin any1 an orgasms are beta

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A male reader, DAVE911 United States +, writes (18 July 2009):

DAVE911 agony auntIts fantasy, it hurts no one and may make for a better orgasm

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A male reader, WilliamX Bahamas +, writes (1 June 2009):

Just THINKING of young boys and girls isn't really a problem. Every one of us has all manner of fantasies that we use when masturbating. Obviously you must not actually indulge in any kind of sexual contact with those under sixteen. But our thoughts are private to us and we can think what ever we like!

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A male reader, Thegreatone India +, writes (21 May 2009):

well personally i dont think its wrong....its like some ppl like fat chicks....or some have foot fetish or whatever....its just the way v r....i say v coz i`m one of `them` too....i know the law says otherwise but u shud free to watch or see whateva u want to fulfil ur desires but u shud limit urself 2 that....dont try to take advantage of any kid in any way....its realy traumatic for them....

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A male reader, unknown120 Australia +, writes (11 January 2009):

I also think of naked pre-teen boys when I do masturbation, since I was 7 year-old, I thought I was gay at that time, because the boys I think of was almost my age, they were around 7-9, only the one who has children voice which had not reach puberty yet. Then when I was 16, I start to think about pre-teen girls as well, So I thought that I was not gay, then untill I was 18 year-old I also think of naked teen girls at 13-16 year-old. Now I of peoples sons at the age 8 year-old. I want to see him naked everyday as a sexual thing I want to make love to him.This will slowly help you to change the way you think about kids in a very sexual way.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2008):

i am 15 now and when i masturbate i think of preteen boys i think im gay but i like girls aswell is this normal?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2008):

i think about underage girls in my masturbation all the time because well i am a preteen dont let it go further because u might get the impulse to do it to preteens dude thats all im going to say

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A male reader, thekidoftoday United States +, writes (9 December 2008):

i am 15 years old i was raped when i was 4 years old by my perverted boy cousin for 5 years ive been masturbating since i was 6 and ive tought about both girls and boys i dont think this is unusual so take it from me leave your thoughts fanasty and dont bring then to life or u might cause another kid like me to come out into the world

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A male reader, malate Thailand +, writes (17 October 2008):

I also think of naked pre-teen boys when I do masturbation, since I was 14 year-old, I thought I was gay at that time, because the boys I think of was almost my age, they were around 11-13, only the one who has children voice which had not reach puberty yet. Then when I was 16, I start to think about pre-teen girls as well, So I thought that I was not gay, then untill I was 18 year-old I also think of naked teen girls at 16-19 year-old. Now I am 36, I have married for almost 10 years, I have 1 son at 8 year-old. I see him naked everyday as normal thing. I love him as I am the father of him. I am ready to protect him from all bad things. I am now still love to see naked pre-teen boys and girls. But, there are not as sexual way, I love to see the beautiful shape of childhood as the beautiful masterpiece of art. Try to think this way, then you will not turn on when you see the picture of naked child. Try to think that you are their parrent. You love them, you want to protect them from bad things. This will slowly help you to change the way you think about kids. God bless you.

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A male reader, malate Thailand +, writes (17 October 2008):

I also think of naked pre-teen boys when I do masturbation, since I was 14 year-old, I thought I was gay at that time, because the boys I think of was almost my age, they were around 11-13, only the one who has children voice which had not reach puberty yet. Then when I was 16, I start to think about pre-teen girls as well, So I thought that I was not gay, then untill I was 18 year-old I also think of naked teen girls at 16-19 year-old. Now I am 36, I have married for almost 10 years, I have 1 son at 8 year-old. I see him naked everyday as normal thing. I love him as I am the father of him. I am ready to protect him from all bad things. I now still love to see naked pre-teen boys and girls. But, there are not as sexual way, I love to see the beautiful shape of childhood as the beautiful masterpiece of art. Try to think this way, then you will not turn on when you see the picture of naked child. Try to think that you are their parent. You love them, you want to protect them from bad things. This will slowly help you to change the way you think about kids. God bless you.

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A female reader, Tii3RN3Ybbs. United Kingdom +, writes (6 October 2008):

Tii3RN3Ybbs. agony auntYeah its totally normal,

but if your thinking about both boys and girls,

then have u ever concidered u might be bisexual? x

you don't need to worry being sexualy active and thinking of sexual things, and bascitly normal :) x

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2008):

Well, I have woundered if it was normal as well.

Get help while you can I have had problems with this type of thing when I was in my 20's.

Stop Now.

It is not normal and there may be underlying things to deal with.

Bobby.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2008):

Whats normal? Who's the standard of normal sexual behavior that were supposed to put our selves up against? If there was a norm to conform to we would be humans pretending not humans being. There is unhealthy behavior but this guys not practicing that. He has normal male fantasies , any guy that says otherwise is a lier. sexual attraction can not be controlled its a part of humans most basic instincts it is a part of our survival. If this guy were to react to his urges , fantasies of younger girls or boys it would be unhealthy. Whats important is that he learns to differentiate between reality and fantasy. And get on with his life and not let all those on this site tell you how sick you are get you down. Only four (4) groups would look at this question pedophiles, concerned mothers, law enforcement , and Psy professionals or students. Which are you?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2008):

Yes it is normal

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008):

YES. It it very normal for an man to develop a sexual attractant. However make sure that it all stays a fantasy. If for some reason it crosses the line, and becomes actuality, you could mess up your life and your record. Plus it could cause the preteen to lose their self esteem.

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A female reader, hello1 United Kingdom +, writes (9 March 2008):

hello1 agony auntWow came back and looked at this question, seems all the sickos have come on! all I can say is, I hope you all die a slow and painful death.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2008):

Theologyofthebody.com please check it out

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2008):

Find some healthier fantasy. You are obviously troubled by your thoughts and this cannot be good. Don't mess with kids, it could emotionally scar them for life (preteen or otherwise)

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2008):

People are strange with their answers. Firstly I would say there really is no "normal" None of us could possibly aspire to that. The important thing here is to realise that sexuality is a creative process influenced by our own cultural and social environment. Clearly if you fantasise about kids you are simply immature. Not a crime. However it also shows that in some ways your parents or guardians have not been there for you. This is common. Your emotional immaturity can be dealt with by the discipline of a good further education. Try to read some good books and see some serious films from world cinema. As you mature so will your sexuality. You should quickly realise that the best sexual fantasy is one that involves someone you love. Good luck...

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2008):

jesus hello1, chuck on some judgmental attitude why don't you?

don't get so sanctimonious.

you think he chose to be this way?

how about hopping off your high horse.

nature could just have easily dealt YOU this hand.

think about it.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2008):

Whatever gets you off will work.

Just don't act on those fantasies, especially with underage kids.

As long as it's your private fantasy and stays that way,what's the harm?

I do it all the time,if I see a really hot underage girl I take a mental picture of her, then at the first opportunity,

I masturbate while thinking of her and other young girls.

But that's as far as it goes and that's what gets me off.

Try it you'll like it!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2008):

It is quite normal, I do it all the time.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2008):

Yes, it is wrong. Snap out of it.

BUT it is much more normal than you think.

Get out of la-la land, people. There have been studies that show a large percent of men show signs of arousal at images of . . um, "underage" sexuality/explicit images. Similar studies show attraction towards females in men goes FAR below the legal age.

The fact that you're only 18 means you probably DO NOT HAVE A PROBLEM. You say you've been to a trained professional who agrees. If you ask me, as long as this doesn't go further than it already has, or becomes some kind of regular exclusive thing for you, you'll grow out of it someday and move on.

Don't let uneducated internet people get you down.

Hell in some parts of the world the legal age is 13 years old and its considered OK. Those people would be treated like murderers in the US.

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A female reader, crzay5carol United States +, writes (13 January 2008):

It's normal. We all have our own fantasies. It's what turns you on. Honestly as long as you don't do those things in real life, your fine. I have my own different types of fantasies. No one can tell you that anything is normal. This world is filled with crazy things and crazy thoughts. We're allowed to think the way we want . Theres no rules or laws that tell us we aren't.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2008):

Oh - I forgot to add - I do NOT have a problem. If I was only thinking about pre-teens, then I would have a problem. I also think of girls MY age, too. I actually do get turned on by the SLIGHTEST thing that is sexual. I get turned on by over-18 porn, too. And I am never coming on here, again. BYE.

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A female reader, hello1 United Kingdom +, writes (12 January 2008):

hello1 agony auntAs you keep the two things seperate then that's okay. I don't agree with with you think, but I know no one choses to be a pedophile. Just don't act on your thoughts. Also I don't think you should have children when your older, the temptation may get stronger.

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A female reader, Laura1318 Malaysia +, writes (12 January 2008):

Laura1318 agony auntYou can think of anything which can stimulate you as long as you know reality and fantasies..Whatever you want to think is your business.If you ask 100 people , all will give you different opinions.If you think it is wrong and your conscience troubles you ,then don't do it.

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A male reader, jm81690 Canada +, writes (12 January 2008):

jm81690 agony auntIt's not normal, harsh as this sounds if you keep that up your going to end up in trouble for having child pornography on your computer, or maybe even something worse.

Which is an instant pass to jail, and I'm sure you've got a good idea what happens to people charged with sex related crimes in jail, especially when it involves kids.

For your sake and the sake of any kids you may get a desire for in the future, get help man, as soon as you can.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2008):

I think that you do need to get some help... no offense.. I mean, I am 18 too.. and I always like to think of older men... but children are out of the question... -- the reason child porn is against the law in USA!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2008):

Stem1981,

No, I have NEVER had a relationship like that. I do feel like I have a little bit of low self-esteem, and it may be because I feel very stressed in high school. I do not, and would not ever go out and have sex with a child. I like girls my age - don't get me wrong. And I get off much more looking at 18+ porn, than thinking of pre-teens, anyway.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2008):

No its not normal. Thinking of preteens at the age of 18 shows that your sexuality didn't develop properly. I don't know why this has happened but you have got to work it out, perhaps enlist the help of a psychotherapist and work out this problem. Cause it is a problem and it is not normal.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2008):

While I did view child porn, I no longer do it, or have any intention of doing it, ever again. My parents know that I looked at it, and I have been to a psychologist. He said I was fine.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2008):

Thanks, guys. Trust me - I will NEVER take it a step further. I know better than to do that. While I did view child pornography, I know the difference between reality and fantasy, and would NEVER act on my fantasies.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2008):

Hi, Good on you for being brave to ask this question. I dont know if what you are feeling is normal but it does depends hugely on the type of thoughts you are experiencing. I dont agree with LJ001 as she says 'Don't let anyone tell you this is wrong, or sick okay'. I think the majority of society would deem it as wrong and as sick.

firstly: What is masturbation?

Masturbation is the physical stimulation of the sexual organs to produce feelings of pleasure. As a male your body has matured to a certain point where masturbating will eventually result in semen being expelled from the penis, usually accompanied by a very good whole-body feeling known as orgasm.

The fact that you will be experiencing these pleasures whilst thinking about children is a concern as it shows that this is something that turns you on and clearly makes the experience more enjoyable for you.

However, this does not make you a criminal or a peodophile just simply means that you have some negative sexual tendancies and may have a psychosexual disorder in which an adult's arousal and sexual gratification occur primarily through sexual contact with pre - teens. I am not a doctor, just giving my opinion.

Have you ever had a sexual relationship with an adult and have you got a low self-esteem. I am only asking this as you may see sexual activity with a child less threatening than that with an adult.

Ask yourself whether you think what you are feeling is wrong and if you agree then get help and fast.

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A female reader, duskyrowe United Kingdom +, writes (11 January 2008):

duskyrowe agony auntSo LJ001, you don't think it is neccessarily wrong or sick to think about pre-teen boys or girls whilst masturbating. How would you feel if it was your sister/brother or son/daughter was a victim of fantasy through mastubation? Would your views still stand the same?

Anybody who has sexual fantasies of any kind regarding children needs professional help before this gets completely out of hand and I suggest LJ001 researches a little more thoroughly before she passes on any ridiculous comments concerning such delicate yet disturbing matters.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2008):

Just thinking those thoughts will stop being enough one day and you'll find that you need something more. That's where the problem begins. Don't let it get that far. If you find yourself in the situation where you're thinking about looking for photos or whatever then go get some help from a proffessional. Until then, try not to worry too much.

Good luck

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2008):

Don't let anyone tell you this is wrong, or sick okay. That is the first thing. And, just before I start, I think hello1 is very incorrect, and is showing no empathy.

Although I do think this is a little unusual, it's not necessarily wrong or sick. However, if these thoughts turned into a desire to see them naked on the internet, or you begin watching child porn, I would say this is wrong.

Don't feel guilty, or bad about these thoughts, but please don't let it go further. It's illegal to make or watch porn of a child, and is descriminating their rights.

Please, respect children, and don't let the thoughts go further.

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A female reader, naturesb United States +, writes (11 January 2008):

naturesb agony auntHello, The previous person was strait and to the point,l I fully agree. Do yoursellf a favor and seek counseling, there is nothing wrong with going for help..it can be a rewarding experience and provide much personel growth.

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A female reader, hello1 United Kingdom +, writes (11 January 2008):

hello1 agony auntNo it's not. It's very wrong, why would you want to think of kids? Go see someone and get help

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