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writes:I've been dating this guy for a little over 3 months now. I think he's great and want to have a long-term relationship with him. The problem is, I don't sleep with my boyfriends until we've dated a little while aad I'm sure I really like them for them, not just attracted to them.This past weekend we went out for a romantic dinner and back to his place to watch a movie. I intented to fool around for the 1st time with him, but not go all the way, maybe oral if I wanted too. Well fooling around, I took off his pants/boxers, and was surprised. He isn't circumcised. This is the 1st guy I have ever seen that wasn't, and I was completely turned off. I ended up giving him a handjob only because I was so gagged out by his penis.I don't want to break up with him, but I also know that I will never ever be attracted to his naked body (because of his uncircumcised penis). My older sister married a guy from Italy who isn't circumcised, and she hates it. She has sex with him (and doesn't enjoy it), but will never touch him or give him oral. It is a big fight in their marriage, I think he knows that he repulses her. I don't what to get into the same situation.I would think it wouldn't be right of me to suggest that he get's it fixed since we're only dating 3 months, and he is 28 years old. But I know I will never ever be able to be happy with his penis. I guess I need to break this off before I get more attached. Should I tell him why?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2008): well I'm married to a man who is uncircumsized and its a wonderful sexual feeling, orgasim's back to back Wow. Woman to woman don't break up wit a good man. just cause he isn't circumsized. you might love it uncircumsized. don't knock it until u tried it. Good Luck..
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2008): well I'm married to a man who is uncircumsized and its a wonderful sexual feeling, orgasim's back to back Wow. Woman to woman don't break up wit a good man. just cause he isn't circumsized. you might love it uncircumsized. don't knock it until u tried it. Good Luck..
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): "My theory is if God wanted it to be circumsized he would have created them that way"
^^comment from Misti Hdz
sorry but I'm going to have to shatter your theory. If god wanted it to be circumsized, he would have created him that way? Nobody is created circumsized. It's a procedure that is done that god never intended, that's why every male is born with foreskin and uncircumsized. It is supposed to be like that for a reason. God wanted everyone to be uncircumsized, that's why he created all men with the foreskin. (assuming there is a god). Were born with it for a reason, just like we have 5 fingers, 2 hands, etc. If foreskin was a serious problem, then through evolution, males would have lost the foreskin, and males would be born without the foreskin.
To the "medical doctor" who said that uncircumsized penises have a better chance of catching an std, please tell me that was a punchline. Uncut or not, if you stick ur dick in an infested pussy, your probly going to catch the std. And if you wear a condom, an uncut penis still has the same chances for catching an std or not as a cut penis.
Oh yeah, and to the original poster, Jenna1980. That's fucking shallow. I hope he breaks up with you because you have small tits. Or your ass isn't plump enough. Whatever you heard about uncircumsized penis, it probably isn't tru. If anybody is worried about the uncut penis "smelling", have him take a shower before you have sex, like a normal couple should. Just like he don't want his girls pussy smelling like a fish. So wash up before ya'll have sex.
An uncut penis pulled back looks the same as a cut penis. So how the hell does it look ugly? Then you must think cut penises look ugly too? I feel ashamed to live in a society where women don't prefer the penis the natural way. What a shame.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): Jenna, I think you might as well tell him why, although at 28, he's probably decided not to get circumcised on his own. I've known some women who broke up with guys because they were uncircumsised, so you won't be the first. He may have had girls break up with him for the same reason anyway. My wife, who is your age, thinks uncircumcised penises are "disgusting," and compares them to women who don't trim or shave their bush. On a related note, a friend of mine from law school broke it off with a girl who was a year behind us because her bush was so big, "it had its own weather system." I thought that was overreacting, but maybe it's because he liked going down on women and I didn't (my wife shaves down there, and I've found that licking her isn't so bad after all). I did think my friend should have asked his girl if they could shave or trim it rather than just breaking up with her, but there's certainly less involved in trimming bush than getting circumsised.
I was actually circumcised when I was 21, so in answer to BigPenis's question, you get some pain meds and don't go dancing for a few days, but after a few weeks you're ready to go. I think the sex was better afterward being circumcised because the head is always rubbing against the vagina instead of being covered up half the time, and it feels good to have the shaft rub and tug against the vagina instead of just having the inside of the penis move back and forth inside the skin. It's also a lot easier to use condoms without the foreskin moving up and down and often pushing the condom forward past the head.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008): It sounds more to me like you & your sister have been brainwashed by society to think that circumsised is better. I have recently & for the first time been having sex with an uncircumsised man & it is waaaay better than with a circumsised one. The best sex of my life! Get over what it looks like, or better yet, learn to love it in its natural form, and enjoy it. You are a lucky girl!
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reader, BigPenis  +, writes (15 June 2008):
 Okay..Jenna1980...I respect your opinion and value it. I am 19 years old and am uncircumcised. Every person is entitled to what they like and what attracts them. Dont listen to stupid ass comments describing you as shallow, uneducated or whatever crap. You want to break up..its your relationship!!!
PS. I have a question: After reading this post and people saying just cut it off..which I am not sure of doing...Does it hurt alot?? Be honest please!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2008): I am sixteen and I have been with 3 girls. None of them had a problem with my uncircumcised penis, in fact one of them said they preferred uncircumcised to circumcised. It a matter of opinion but you should not base a relationship on whether their penis is circumcised or not, if your like him as a person taht should be enough.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2008): hey girl. i had the same problem as u have. one of my first times seeing the umcircumsized penis's was with a boy that i had been dating and when i finally reached down in his pants i felt it and was disgusted. i beleive it was the fact of what i heard abouth them. every since that night i backed away from him and eventually we lost contact. i never told him y and he always ask how did we grow so far apart. we had been dating for 6 mnths.
time rolled by and now i find myself in the same situation and when i turned to my friends i found that a lot of them were dealing with the same situation. this time i just went ahead and embraced his dick. the first time i hated it i felt nasty and i was scared of it but i wanted him to feel comfortable with me. now i love it and i must admit he has been the best that i have ever had in my life. sexually. sometimes it does smell and i dont know how to tell him. but ive come to love him and love his dick. its just a mind thing and what u are use to seeing
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2008): You dont know what you are missing. I am a 45 year old American woman born and raised in the southwith 6 kids. I had seen them but only in pictures. I too had the same bad attitude about uncut penises that you do . Boy was I wrong. I married a man from Holland 5 years ago same age as me , umcut and it is the best I have EVER had period . I was afraid I would hurt him at first so I just took it slow until i learned what all I could do with it , which yes I had to do after decades of only cut ones.They are extra fun to play with ,, you are making a mistake , approach it with an open mind first , not by what your sister tells you .
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2008):
"I am uncircumcised myself. But as an Physician I would recommend circumcision."
"As a man myself I find the guys opinions on this post quite defensive and hypocritical."
Your quite right, the guys opinions do seem quite hypocritical when you look at your own post. Im uncircumcised, I dont smell and my sex life is great. The reason for this issue is physicians like yourself using it as an excuse to make money
The fact is its the media and stupid gossip collums that make women believe these stupid things about uncircumsised guys smelling funney and having a higer chance of having aids.
If its down to sexual prefference alone then fine you dont like it I dont want to sleep with someone who doesnt find me attractive find some other sap who will chop bits of his anatomy off to please you as you seem to think its your right.
But to be honest I dont think it is sexual preference its ignorance and intolerance. I liek the way I am and im proud to be natural and not bowing to female pressure to be any different. Im not a sheep following the masses and for anyone in the medical proffesion who says otherwise be quite theres no evidence and its simply down to a matter of opinion. As with most things
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2008): would you be hurt if your boyfriend broke up with your breasts weren't big enough? i'm sure it would make you feel insecure.
he would feel insecure too if you told him that you didn't like the look of his penis.
anyway, if you really really want to break up with him, PLEASE don't say anything about how his dick looks, just make something up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2008): I'm sorry I am a medical Doctor and I have to speak out. I am quite surprised with the judgment on this post. In particular, the judgment and ignorant comments made in large by the men. This woman is not being judgmental at all. She is simply expressing her honest opinion about her sexual attraction to her boyfriend. I find her honesty to be rare and very mature. In fact, I see female patients all the time who have a problem with male partners who are uncircumcised. There is commonly a different odor because an uncircumcised penis is more difficult to clean. As a man myself I find the guys opinions on this post quite defensive and hypocritical. There are guys who are completely turned off by women with small breast. This is very much the same thing. And sex is different with an uncircumcised penis. Not worst or better but different. This has a lot to do with psychologically being attractive to the guy's body. That will affect how good vaginal intercourse will be. The same holds true for women who are only attracted to circumcised penises. Sexually desiring a partner is very important to the welfare of any lasting relationship. It is not fair for her or him to have a partner who is not truly desired by both parties. Also, while being uncircumcised is natural it is actually less healthy. An uncircumcised penis has a much higher chance of contracting an STD or infection due to bacterial that forms because of bad hygiene. I am uncircumcised myself. But as an Physician I would recommend circumcision.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2008): seriously u sound like one of those girls who has to hav everything perfect. I mean its not like every guy would like your body. its your choice but leave him alone, he will end up hating himself. u can break up with him but dont tell him to get it cut.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2008): Listen girl,
There are plenty of uncircumsized men in this world. Never settle for less than you want, go get exactly what you want. It's a bit of a shame because its seems like you like the guy's other qualities. But admitting that you are not attracted to him physical because of his uncircumsized penis is a mature decision in your own right.
Don't listen to the other people on this post. In fact, you don't even have to listen to me. Just listen to yourself, and decide what it is that you really want.
P:S: I was in the same situation, adored the guy and all his other qualities, but finally i could not longer ignore, being the sexual being that i am, the fact that i was turned off by his uncirced penis. For me, sex didn't feel the same, and giving head was less enjoyable. Also he was super-sensitive and always came really fast, even after 6 months of dating. Eventually I gave it up because I knew we were just not compatible sexually. I was sad at first, but in the end it was a smart decision.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2008): i really do not understand why this is a big deal...they both look the same when they're hard...so it does not matter.
but i guess you like whatever you see first...personally i would not mind either way.
and if you think about it...its just skin or no skin.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2008): You are obviously very immature about the opposite sex and sex in general. Perhaps some study in both departments might enlighten you to the point that you can appreciate nature. What about a circumcision for yourself? And if you haven't had enough opportunities to observe a natural penis, that might also help your education in that department. You need to become natural-anatomy literate. What ever gave you the notion that a guy should have surgery performed on his natural body before he or you can enjoy natural sex with natural genitals? Hygiene is required for the whole body, genitals et alia. So that's no excuse. What about penis size? Are you about to advocate surgery in that department, also, if the natural thing doesn't satisfy your illiterate notions?Perhaps you should join a convent.
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reader, Lady lilly  +, writes (4 May 2008):
To the guy who is 16 sayin "now i'm scared to have sex with my gf after readin this, Man i feel sorry for you reading this because even tho i understand the question that has definately touched sum sore points with people, I want to say your girl friend is with you because she is into u not just cause of how your diddle is lookin, I am 30 and from NZ i have never heard this as an issue b4 and have always gone with "ITS NOT WHAT IT LOOKS LIKE ITS HOW YOU USE IT"!!!
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reader, Misti Hdz +, writes (3 May 2008):
 I am married to a guy who is not circumsized, and truthfully I prefer circumsized penises but there is no difference in the way sex feels, and at first I was repulsed just like you but then I felt bad because it wasn't his choice to be like that he was born at home and didn't have the hospital services available to him like most of us do, and I doubt his dad was going to do it with a butcher knife. Give it a little time and see what happens. My theory is if God wanted it to be circumsized he would have created them that way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2008): Hey, I agree with you, circumcised penises are more aesthetically pleasing! Dont worry, you have come one here asking for advice, and you dont deserve to be answered with such arrogance! Dont listen to these highly judgemental people, many of whom are probably hypocrites..Id like to see how many of these men -who feel they have the right to call you shallow- would react if they were going to do it doggy style with a girl, only to realise that she had alot of coarse dark ass crack hairs! Would you ask her to wax.. or is it ok because God put it there hmm?? Women have to do go through alot to suit SOME mens taste eg- monthly painful and expensive waxing, daily shaving legs. When you consider this... it is funny that people call you shallow!Alright, nobody has the right to tell anyone to cut off anything... but this is your personal taste, and nobody should be so quick to judge either. They end up being just as closed minded as they claim you are. If I was you... just pull back the foreskin and get stuck in to some uncircumcised penis! Otherwise... what if the next guy is uncut too? If even that is too much, just tell him you've never been with an uncut guy before, and ask him to pull it back for you! Hopefully he wont be as nasty as alot of the people here!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2008): You were born with foreskin.An uncut penis is natural. Cut penis is not, so you should not prefer that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): ok I would be freaked out too. but I don't think you should break up with him so soon. give it time and if you're still so repulsed by it then I guess break it off. in the end its what makes you happy.. people can call you shallow or whatever but I'd rather be called shallow and be with someone who im attracted to than be with someone im repulsed by. you can't change the way you feel about certain things. even if they do sound ridiculous to some people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2008): get over it you over sheltered, undercultured, uneducated, narrow-scoped pansy
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2008): Ok, you sound like one of the rich female...well you know that's always had money throughout their whole life and all of a sudden is down in the wrong end of town and whining because everything is so nasty. Ewww this and Ewww that. There's always something wrong when something is out of the ordinary and stop being so shallow. Suck it up and grow up or stop having sex! There is nothing wrong with an uncircumsized man. If the roles were reversed, would you want to be thrown to the curb because your parents didn't have you circumsized? You have to think about others' feelings other than your own. This is something you can get around. So get over it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2008): this is ridiculous!
i agree this girl is extremely shallow. there is way more to a relationship than his penis. you obviously aren't mature enough to be having sex.
and by the way.... not all American girls are this way... im an American girl and i could care less whether a man is circumcised or not.
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reader, previasc96 +, writes (23 April 2008):
This is why women should watch porn when they're young LOL! You don't love cock enough, that's why you can't stand hooded ones. If you did't suck and and play with it so much in the past, it wouldn't matter what is looks like, just as long as it feels good inside of you. You're just like guys who won't go near a vagina if it's not shaved! That's ridiculous!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2008): i just started going out with this guy and we were fooling around and i realized he wasn't circumcised. i was a little shocked at first because i didn't know he wasn't circumcised but then i gave it a little time and I'm fine with it know you just have to get used to it and if your going to dump him for that then your shallow there should be more to the relationship then just his penis.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2008): grow up...natural is always better
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2008): ha ha ha, you're so wrong..
I'm uncircumcised too, and you know what? - girls just love my penis!!!
... what a great deal if the cook is circumcised or not ))
you're probably the only one who really cares about it!
so lol!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): im uncircumsised after reading this im kinda scared to like even fuck my girlfriend because i dont know what she'll say i ddnt even know it was a big deal till just now...whoaaa..and im only 16
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reader, Hydro +, writes (3 April 2008):
im uncircumcised and the girls Iv been with has had no problems some of them says it a little bit more plesurable but i last a little bit less longer not by long though
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2008): I'm uncircumcised and the girls I have been with says its more plesurable and but it last only a little bit shorter
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2008): I just started dating a man that is a wonderful person, and guess what, he is not circumcised!!! It doesn't matter to me because that is the way that God created all men from the beginning. The practice of circumsion has been carried down through generations and thought of as a normal practice. The intimacy with him is even better than with a man that has been circumcised. God made the vagina and the penis and I know he knew what he was doing when he didn't make the penis the way we think it should be. Try it and see, I can guarantee that there is nothing wrong with a man that is not circumcised.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008): I think you should give him oral sex. Look at he women in porn. They perform oral sex on a lot of uncircumcised men. So it can't be that bad.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2008): I just started dating the MOST AWESOME man in the world (ok, that's my opinion). He is not circumsised and that does not bother me in the least... I have never been with a man before that wasn't so I felt a little awkward, but I can learn and look forward to it. I'm sure that we will work this out and it is no way a deal breaker as far as I'm concerned.
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reader, daisydaresyou  +, writes (3 March 2008):
I find this so weird, because in Europe getting unnecessarily circumcised is completely rare and only done by Jews and Muslims as a routine.
I have had boyfriends who were both circumcised and not so I really can't see what the big deal it - it's just a piece of skin, you can't feel any difference during sex, and once the guy is hard the skin is pulled down so it looks just the same.
I feel somewhat sorry for guys who are circumcised, because it reduces sensitivity a lot, so they feel less there.
Basically you need to get over yourself. Where does this weird reaction come from anyway? Is this a normal reaction to uncut (normal!) dicks?!
PS You can't fix what ain't broken. End of.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2008): you sound really shallow
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2008): Why did your sister marry a guy from Italy if she thinks he is repulsive?What the hell is wrong with you (and your sister) for that matter?An ugly dick is an ugly dick, circumcised or not. Do yourself a favor and stay in America, you really shouldn't travel around the world.As for penis talk, I am uncircumcised, and I was quite a whore in my younger days. Guess what? Only ONE girl ever noticed that I wasn't circumcised. And apparently it didn't bother her much at all since she didn't ask until after she had finished with her business...(I am speaking of American girls, by the way -- I've been with quite a few. No other girl in the world would even waste time thinking about such inconsequential matters.) Go get a crusty overly circumcised penis and enjoy using lots of lube, cheers
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reader, Cherriepie +, writes (22 January 2008):
 Baby, you are so wrong. My boyfriend is uncircumsized and when when he's fully erect it looks no different than any other guy. He keeps it clean, it's well proportioned and there's nothing smelly or repulsive about it! And also sex with him is awesome! The extra skin is has a nice cushioning effect when we have sex. Do not knock it until you have tried it hun. In fact I wont go back.... I prefer guys with the extra skin now.
Your sister is a bad influence on you, I think. Your letting her realionship with her husband throw you off. If you like this guy...if you any feelings for this guy, you are being absolutely silly if you're going to throw him away because of your sister's stupid problem.
My thing is you should go all the way with your boyfriend and stop this prejudice you have with him now. The only way you will convince yourself that he's good for you if for you to DO IT.
As for asking him to get it fixed...thats crazy. That's like saying its broke! Its not broke..its perfectly normal! I would never ask a guy to to cut up his dick. That's what he was born with. When I have children my boys won't be circumcized either.
If you break up with this guy on the grounds of his penis being uncut you are an itch with a B in front of it. And the real loser is you.
The 95 percent average you threw out there is also pretty off. Where did you get that?? The majority of guys are cut, but the figure is not that big...be for real sister! Grow up!
And to mister "I would never sleep with a woman with a tattoo"....are you kidding!! You would reject a girl with a tattoo? That's just as bad! You two shallow people should just get a room.
Another thing...when you put a condom on a guys penis...which you should be doing....how can you tell if its cut or not...you can't! which proves this arguement to be about a shallow prejudice anyway.
Shallow people stay on the other side of the room. I’m happy being in the real world with normal people and accepting and loving who they are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2008): Well, one of my previous boyfriends was uncut, and at first I was just as turned off as you... but you know what? I've discovered that because he slides in and out of his foreskin and not actually in and out of your vagina, you will never be chafed or dried out! I enjoyed an uncut penis a lot, so give it a try! :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2008): tell him. and my goodness, you really shouldn't have waited so damn long.
i'm putting myself in HIS position, and trust me, we do not need you shallow whores wasting our time.
if your not digging it, get out... he'll find someone a thousand times better guaranteed. so don't feel bad for him.
but... next time you look in the mirror... i hope you realize what you're looking at.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2008): Have you tried pulling the skin back during oral? My girlfriend pulls it back with her lips, keeping it moist, it's great. Once it's pulled back it's the same as a circumsized one. hate to see a couple broken up over something so trivial.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2008): You are an absolutely shallow, selfish, narcissistic and might I add, TYPICAL AMERICAN WOMAN. If something this minor disgusts you, then break up with this guy! DO HIM A FAVOR!
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reader, Collaroy  + ♥, writes (7 January 2008):
 To me you sound like a shallow insensitive young lady.
I'm sure though you will meet someone equally shallow and insensitive to enjoy your life with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2008): well... its nothing wrong with an uncircumcised penis... u just have to expierence with it.. it is because u just used to seeing circumcised penis and expierence with it.. maybe u shall be more expierence with an uncircumcised penis then u will not have problem with it.. its all natural that he is uncircumcised n its nothing to worry about all u have to do is just make sure he keep it clean daily and thats the way to keep it healthy n sex shall not be a big problem with it... ^_^ take care i hope this help it!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2007): The skin of the penis you dont like so much, is still part of a penis, in the same way a girls outer parts, sometimes called piss-flaps are part of her vagina, they all have a lot of feeling in them, they may or may not look pretty, but they sure do feel good, and you guys who have had it cut off dont know what your missing.it keeps the head moist and protected from constant rubbing in underware that has to cut down on feeling.
As to hygene if you dont wash it, then it will smell, boy or girl, its not a reason to cut it off, tell him or her to wash.
If you dont like the look, then pull the skin back over the head, and it stays there.
You have to be a guy with a foreskin to know how good it feels, so I dont expect girls or guys who dont have one to know what its like, but I think all guys should have a choice, and not mum, dad or some religion to have the say on what hapens to that |
