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Will guys judge me because of my lack of sexual experience?
Q. This might sound very crazy but I desperately need some wider opinions on this. I dated my boyfriend for two years and despite being together for so long, we never had sex. It wasn't that I didnt want to sleep with him or that I had specific ...
A. 5 April 2010: Yes, better men are out there. Maybe two-in-ten, depending on age range and nation. I may be wrong, but I think that young men in England are probably fairly equivalent to Americans, and there are, at least, still respectful young ones in Texas. ... (read in full...)
Will guys judge me because of my lack of sexual experience?
Q. This might sound very crazy but I desperately need some wider opinions on this. I dated my boyfriend for two years and despite being together for so long, we never had sex. It wasn't that I didnt want to sleep with him or that I had specific ...
A. 4 April 2010: You do not have to explain anything to anyone, and should consider your virginity a virtue. Most any man worth your interest would cherish that you are a virgin willing to give it up to him. ... (read in full...)
Lust & passion-how fast is too fast?
Q. There's a guy I like and we flirt loads but can't start a relationship yet because of awkward situations for both of us. We both want to start something when the situations change but for now we have to keep it just on a friendly basis. I'm prett...
A. 3 April 2010: Well I don't know much about relationships on the Emerald Isle, but in America, affairs can move forward rather quickly, even right-away. In my opinion, though, it's entirely personal. We can't say what's right for anyone else. In my fairly long ... (read in full...)
I've never even kissed a girl before. Is this normal?
Q. Help, I have recently became depressed because I have never been kissed before let alone have had a girlfriend. Is this normal? All the other males have girlfriends and it makes me sick and depressed when I can't find one of my own, hell some are ...
A. 30 March 2010: You should not be worried about this at your age. Your time will come and it will simply be easily forgotten soon. Just smile at the next girl you fancy and see what happens. You will need to make the first move, and she will most likely allow a ... (read in full...)
I cum too fast!
Q. So my problem is that, I cum too fast. The second my boyfriend sticks it in, I just cum and idk what I can do to keep myself from cuming so fast. Any tips? Is anything wrong with me? ...
A. 30 March 2010: Well I must agree with most of the other responders. Lucky you and him! In more than 45 years of sexual activities, I think I've only known a few women quite so orgasmic. One girlfriend was very recent, and I was thrilled to so easily supply ... (read in full...)
Are you likely to fall pregnant having sex during your period?
Q. Me and my boyfriend had sex well i was on my period and we did it the pull out way cuz we both herd that it was unlikely to get pregnit well your on it. Does any one know what the chances or percentage that i could be pregnit? I wouldnt really mind ...
A. 30 March 2010: The truth is that it is a possibility, but rather unlikely, that pregnancy would occur as a result of intercourse during a menstrual period. You are most likely at or near the time of ovulation, which typically occurs about midway between periods. ... (read in full...)
Do guys get excited when they get a little thigh action?
Q. Do guys get excited when they are touching a girl's legs? Especially the upper part of the leg?...
A. 29 March 2010: Well I do, but then I can get excited touching any part of a woman under the proper circumstances. ... (read in full...)
Porn problems...
Q. Just to warn you guys, yes this is another girl who is insecure over porn question. I, like most women, am with a guy who happens to watch porn. Yes, it does make me a bit insecure. I am thinking though if I could understand it a bit better...
A. 28 March 2010: Well I'm much, much older, but in my opinion, guys watch porn primarily as stimulus to masturbate. Unfortunately, the result after awhile can be that the guy becomes more dependent upon porn stimulus than real sex, amazing as that may sound. Excess ... (read in full...)
Will an std harm my unborn child?
Q. i been together with my boyfriend for about 6 months ...i love him with all my heart ...he was my first and the only guy i been with ... like 2 weeks ago i went to the doctor and got a check up...she called me yesterday and told me i tested posi...
A. 28 March 2010: For goodness sake, don't ask us, ask your doctor!... (read in full...)
I not longer feel like sex, why is this?
Q. Recently I really haven't felt like sex at all, even when my boyfriend initiates it i'll go along with it but i never feel the same urges i used to say 3 months ago? Nothing has changed in our relationship and i know passion dies out a little b...
A. 27 March 2010: My suspicion would be that you are not being pleasured, as with sexual orgasms. You did not say, but certainly, if the sex does not please you, then the desire is diminished. Additionally, you are very young, and things will almost certainly change.... (read in full...)
1st Time Questions 2
Q. I am the same guy from yesterday's post 1ST TIME QUESTIONS(Today me and my girlfriend(we both virgins) had to go to a date for sex 1st time in 2 and a half year relationship. I asked about condoms, pills, protection etc). I want to thank all the ...
A. 26 March 2010: 1. It is not unusual for you to have some difficulty with erection your first time, or even the next few times. Technically, this is probably due to performance anxiety, or in other words, you are just nervous about it. I doubt that you need Viagra, ... (read in full...)
Have any other guys overcome feeling inhibited when it comes to sex?
Q. Alright...First off I feel really stupid and emasculated to even ask this, but I think there has to be other guys in my shoes or who have been in my shoes. First off, I'm 31, male and recently divorced after being married for quite a few years. I...
A. 26 March 2010: Well you're still fairly young, and in my 45-plus years of experience with wives and many girlfriends, I've knowingly encountered only two of the type of woman who enjoyed what I'll call "abusive' sex, even if not harmful in any way. Like previous ... (read in full...)
How can I make my girlfriend squirt?
Q. how can i make my girlfriend squrit? ive been wanting to make her but idk how to help me...
A. 26 March 2010: The answer was nailed by "quiet-echo." Very few women "squirt" but many do emit a small amount of a female form of semen through their urethra during a big orgasm. Is is usually unnoticed due to all the other fluids associated with sex, such as both ... (read in full...)
I am not interested in sex anymore, ...am I falling out of love or just bored with the same ol things.
Q. READ THIS!!!! PLEASE GIVE ME ADVICE!!! okay. so. my boyfriend and i are both 20 years of age. have been dating for 3 years now, and for the past year, i have completely lost almost all of my sex drive that i used to have with him. like most relati...
A. 25 March 2010: You almost answered this issue yourself. You are bored with the routine relationship and turned-off by the reality of a man who has become self-centered. Such is one of men's worst tendencies.... (read in full...)
What sexual positions are good for couples with large height variations?
Q. me and me gf are really different when it comes to height,I am a foot and a half taller than her so intercourse is complicated are ther any positions that we could use that doesn't strain our hurt either partners?...
A. 25 March 2010: Woman-on-top.... (read in full...)
Will my penis please a girl?
Q. I'm 17 years old and my penis is 6.5 long and 5 inches around,basically im nervous about sex, do i have good length and girth to please a girl?...
A. 25 March 2010: You're fine. Slightly above average. Don't think about that anymore.... (read in full...)
She said I was too small for her. Do other girls think the same?!
Q. I was with my girl and one thing led to another at that time... When the pants came off, she just looked blankly and told me bluntly "Hun... you're sorta too small. I... don't think you can do it for me." Then she got up flustered, apologiz...
A. 25 March 2010: Please allow me to add one more bit of advice here. In my youth, I called it the "angle of the dangle," but rarely had the opportunity to explain to anyone else or improve upon the terminology.
Seems like I tried to describe this intercourse meth... (read in full...)
I don't want sex but I still pleasure him orally and he wants more help!!!
Q. I'm a 26 year old healthy woman who has absolutely no interest in sex or any type of physical intimacy. When I first met my bf, I would have sex with him to make him happy but it did nothing for me (we've been together for 9 months). Now I've tol...
A. 25 March 2010: For some men, you would be a dream come true, but I think that you should consider more exploration regarding the reason for your asexuality. If you are content with a lack of personal sexual satisfaction, so be it, but there is more to life than ... (read in full...)
She said I was too small for her. Do other girls think the same?!
Q. I was with my girl and one thing led to another at that time... When the pants came off, she just looked blankly and told me bluntly "Hun... you're sorta too small. I... don't think you can do it for me." Then she got up flustered, apologiz...
A. 24 March 2010: Well I'm not a girl, but I'm a very experienced older man, and I'll tell you one thing that makes up for slight size issues. Become a master at cunnilingus (oral pleasuring) and you will be able to please almost any woman on the planet. Do her ... (read in full...)
He says my vagina is too tight. Is that good or bad?
Q. My guy and I have been together for a while. We just recently had a conversation about our sex life and he says that my Pussy is too tight. He enjoys himself, I am always wet enough, my hygine is great, but I'm too tight. I am 27 years old and all ...
A. 24 March 2010: Does he also bemoan a beautiful spring day? ... (read in full...)
How can I have an orgasm?!
Q. i have been having sex for almost 5yrs now an not once i have ever experienced an orgasm. wat's wrong wit me??? what can i try to get 1???...
A. 23 March 2010: Unfortunately, many women on the planet never or rarely experience orgasm as a result of intercourse, or even other sexual activities, but I believe that this is primarily a result of ignorance, laziness or ineptitude on the part of the man. In ... (read in full...)
Problems in bed are making me feel insecure. Should I say something?
Q. Hi I am 35 and dating a guy who is 46. He is very handosome and fit. We have been dating for 3 months and he refers me as his GF. We spend weekends together at my place and his place. We travel together and he invites me to all parties, dinners...
A. 22 March 2010: Well I don't know whether the classification of an American guy makes much difference, but his supposed popularity, handsomeness and other indications may not portend a lasting relationship for you.... (read in full...)
Sex has changed what do I do?
Q. My boyfriend and i dont have sex like we use to and he swears he not cheating, what do I do?...
A. 22 March 2010: Love evolves, and sometimes we lose it. It is better to have loved than never have it, but sometimes we have to keep looking for the right combination. ... (read in full...)
Height verses penis size!
Q. okay, the girl i am dating now is around 5'5" and very good shape. She has a very nice body not fat not too skinny. but my question is i am 6' tall with a 6" length and 5" width penis. is there any way that her being that little that i might hurt ...
A. 20 March 2010: No, you are not that much larger than average size and a woman's vagina is quite capable of expansion. As others suggest, begin slow and gentle at insertion, but more importantly, precede that with ample foreplay, possibly including cunnilingus. Do ... (read in full...)
After how many dates is it ok to have sex?
Q. So I met this guy (We'll call him Mike) in September. It took us a while to finally get together, but in January we went on our first date. In February, Mike and I went on two dates (the second of which, we kissed for the first time and ultimately ...
A. 17 March 2010: Firstly, in response to the original question posed by "sunflowerpower" of the U.S.A., I must agree with several others that there is no set guideline to go by when deciding when intercourse has become appropriate. We are all different, not only by ... (read in full...)
After how many dates is it ok to have sex?
Q. So I met this guy (We'll call him Mike) in September. It took us a while to finally get together, but in January we went on our first date. In February, Mike and I went on two dates (the second of which, we kissed for the first time and ultimately ...
A. 17 March 2010: "I agree, DoubleM. I think there are a number of reasons for this."
What are the reasons?... (read in full...)
After how many dates is it ok to have sex?
Q. So I met this guy (We'll call him Mike) in September. It took us a while to finally get together, but in January we went on our first date. In February, Mike and I went on two dates (the second of which, we kissed for the first time and ultimately ...
A. 17 March 2010: In my opinion, "quiet-echo" makes a lot of sense. Admitted, I'm a much older man, but well remember my youth when oral sex was really considered a more personal experience saved for those very special lovers or those truly loved. I'm very permissive ... (read in full...)
How can I learn to have squirting orgasms?
Q. i been with some of my ex's in the past, and they made me cum but i all ways wanted them to make me squirt, n they try, but i cum instead of squirting, how can i get my self to where i aquirt?...
A. 16 March 2010: Well, I agree with most other postings thus far, especially that "squirting" is quite rare. But as I have consistently and persistently added before, many (if not most) orgasmic women DO emit at least a small amount of a fluid from the urethra ... (read in full...)
Cut short on pleasure.
Q. Okay, ive been with my boyfriend for a year now. I love him more than anything and am 'head over heels' as they say. However i feel like im being cut short when it comes to sex. Im definetely an oral type of girl and i orgasm every time, dont get me ...
A. 16 March 2010: Yes, I believe this indicates signs of selfishness. He loves the BJs but rarely returns the pleasure, which should almost always be a two-way deal. In a twist you may find somewhat interesting, I sometimes "give" my woman oral my woman oral without ... (read in full...)
Impotent man who has completely lost his sex drive.
Q. My husband is impotent. The doctors don't know anything wrong with his health. He does not know why. He never wants sex,and he gets limp,when finally we have some. I don't know what to do anymore. It goes on like this 5 years ago. I can't...
A. 15 March 2010: Unfortunately this seems an almost universal issue after some 15-20 years or more of marriage these days. Have you not tried ED-assisting prescriptions like Cialis or Viagra? Works pretty good, but a sexual desire must also be much of the solution. ... (read in full...)
How can I tell him I want foreplay without making it sound like I am saying he does not know how to please a woman?
Q. My current BF is my first serious relationship. I was a virgin before I met him and he wasn't. His experience though consisted of two short term GF's (2-3 months each) and two one night stands. Even though I didn't enter this relationship wit...
A. 13 March 2010: Well, I've never felt "offended" in the least - that's how I learned!... (read in full...)
How can I tell him I want foreplay without making it sound like I am saying he does not know how to please a woman?
Q. My current BF is my first serious relationship. I was a virgin before I met him and he wasn't. His experience though consisted of two short term GF's (2-3 months each) and two one night stands. Even though I didn't enter this relationship wit...
A. 13 March 2010: Well, I've never felt "offended" in the least - that's how I learned!... (read in full...)
Boyfriend forced me to swallow.... what to do?
Q. I love my boyfriend very much; however, he did something very mean last night. He knows I do not swallow, I HATE it! Makes me want to gag, not really the taste, but the feel alone. Anyhow, I let him do other stuff to me, facials, pearl n...
A. 12 March 2010: Even requiring you to do anything beyond your desire is unacceptable, and forcing it is or should be an end to the relationship. Many women gladly share mutual oral pleasure and that's what he needs, but apparently you are not the one. ... (read in full...)
Would most guys pull any girl that’s interested? Or are they more particular than that?
Q. Hey. When it comes to girls, I’d like to know where guys draw the line. Would most guys pull any girl that’s interested? Or are they more particular than that? The guy I fancy reluctantly said that he’d pull me and I keep on catching his eye at s...
A. 12 March 2010: At your age level, nothing should be considered serious. And the chances that your crushes on one guy or another will endure is almost certainly a fantasy.... (read in full...)
Losing my sex drive at 52! Help
Q. i am a 52 year old male ,i am loosing my sex drive fast what can i do...
A. 12 March 2010: Not much information offered at all, but Viagra or Cialis helps part of the potential problem but does not create desire. Your mind does that. ... (read in full...)
My penis jumps with my heartbeat -- is this normal?
Q. okay, when i have an erection i for some reason have a pulse. that is my penis kind of jumps at the beat of my heartbeat. is this normal? ...
A. 10 March 2010: Quite normal, especially when young and aroused.... (read in full...)
Is lesbian sex sexual intercourse???
Q. Is lesbian sex sexual intercourse? That is, can a women still be a virgin after 'having sex' with another woman?...
A. 10 March 2010: Well, it may be a loss of innocence, but technically not a loss of virginity, which is being vaginally penetrated by by a man's penis. ... (read in full...)
Long-term damage from anal?
Q. Hi I was just reading some questions about anal sex and it said that anal sex can damage you in later life. Well I have had anal sex and have been doing so for a few years. I don't do it very often - about once a month. I was wondering if I could ...
A. 9 March 2010: No personal experience, of course, but I've heard and read that anal sex may eventually result in hemorrhoids, which makes sense to me. The anal opening is designed for something other than intercourse. ... (read in full...)
Bedroom tips?
Q. My boyfriend said to me today that I'm not experimental with sex and that we are confined to four postions. But he said he is happy with our sex life. Any tips for the bedroom?...
A. 8 March 2010: In my opinion, most couples settle into doing a few sexual positions that work for them, and four positions is at least adequate. In other words, if it pleases, then do what brings about the desired result. But if boredom sets in there are plenty of ... (read in full...)
Do most prefer 'curvy' women?
Q. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-is-it-only-the-mans-biology-thats.html I want an opinion from the uncles of this site.Hopefully men will be able to shed more light on this. Is it true that majority of men only like curvaceous figur...
A. 5 March 2010: Well I have to agree much with "strontiumdog" in that I enjoy whatever my woman has, but it is mainly because I'm considered a much older man now. My preference would be athletic or somewhat curvy, but help me find that among American women over 50 ... (read in full...)
I ejaculated in her face and now she is ignoring me.
Q. Well it all started when my freind suggested we hav sex ill admit it was great but it all went wrong when she went to finish me off she sucked me then told me to cum in her mouth i couldnt hold it long enough and ejaculated that hard i ended up ...
A. 5 March 2010: Give her time. Sharpen your aim if you get another chance. Also consult a dictionary about spelling the English language.... (read in full...)
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