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I have been trying to squirt and it just wont happen

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Question - (19 March 2011) 9 Answers - (Newest, 19 March 2011)
A female United States age 30-35, *ranian writes:

I have been trying to squirt and it just wont happen. My husband hits my gspot and I feel like I have to pee but when I try to let it go I cant! I push it out like if im peeing and nothing comes out. Im frustrated because I want to experience that sort of orgasm. From what Ive read, every women can squirt. What am I doing wrong?

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A female reader, dmartin89 United Kingdom +, writes (19 March 2011):

dmartin89 agony auntOnly about 5% of women can squirt, I have no idea why you think all women can...

I suggest you do some research on Google. Wikipedia should give you satisfactory results.

Also there is a very big difference between getting "wet" and "squirting". Wetness comes from a gland by the cervix and the vaginal wall. "Squirting" fluid comes from the female prostate, around the urethra.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2011):

What you are doing wrong is not relaxing..You are concentration so much on having this orgasm(too much thinking) that you miss it...Next time your husband hits you g-spot try and enjoy the sex as much a possible which is much more important only then can you achieve the types of orgasms you read about...Let yourself go and enjoy sex with you husband it is far more fufilling than the mchanics you read about, then maybe who know an orgasm so great may catch you unaware...

Girl enjoy sex in all totality with your hubby and stop cramping your style

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A reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2011):

@ angziety and OP

I think most women have sex to cutloose and for personal enjoyment. At the very least, you do it just for personal release. In the best circumstance, you do it to release with someone else you happen to love like your husband.

I guess what I'm saying is that if you're literally frustrated during sex because you can't achieve a particular physical reflex, then you might be trying too hard. In my opinion, sex should be fun or at the very least relaxing, not an excercise.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2011):

You should be thankful you don't squirt. Unfortunately, I do and I wish I didn't. I don't get it why women complain about not being able to do it. It only makes a mess, and it shortens my orgasm. I find non squirting orgasms much more satisfying and fulfilling. When I squirt, it is a very intense feeling, but very short and afterwords I feel kind of disappointed, because it ended so abruptly.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2011):

If sex has becomes an excercise for you to achieve a porn stunt, then I think you are missing the point of sex.

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A male reader, sebaslookingforward Argentina +, writes (19 March 2011):

Squirting is a myth. It most likely does not exist. It is only on porn videos. Yeah, it looks cool, but it is NOT real.

Now, DoubleM could be right. A very FEW girls MAYBE squirt, or so I have read. But the existance of squirting is related to porn. You just get wet, you will not be able to squirt.

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A female reader, live2loveandlearn United States +, writes (19 March 2011):

According to what I've read on the subject, one needs to be very calm and aroused in order for this to happen. The very fact that you are trying so hard (and getting frustrated from the lack of success) could very well be hindering you. It is much similar to men trying to last longer in bed - you think about it too much and then it clouds your mind and you wind up not getting what you desire (in this case, orgasming too soon).

It may be a good idea to try to not squirt for a while. Get use to the feeling again, but don't try to anticipate doing it or preparing your body for it. Just enjoy the sex, and who knows, you may squirt on your own!

The medical research I've read disagrees with the idea that all women can squirt. Most women may only achieve this once in their lifetime, if at all. If you really want to try though, then there is certainly no harm! Good luck!

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A female reader, babymonkey422 United States +, writes (19 March 2011):

babymonkey422 agony auntSame exact thing for me, I've tried to for a long time and yeah it feels like you have to pee all of the sudden, but just like you said, when I try to "push it out" nothing happens and then afterwards I have a weird and annoying pressure behind my clitoris.... If you find something that works for you, please let me know!

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A male reader, DoubleM United States +, writes (19 March 2011):

DoubleM agony auntVery few women squirt. Whatever you read must have been in a tabloid.

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