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anonymous
writes:Me and my boyfriend have been together over a year and it's only been the last 4 months we've been sexually active.We've done everything but sex; masturbating each other, oral (inc. 69er). I just seem to get so horny as soon as we get in, he'll hug me or kiss me in a certain way and after like a few more kisses I'll be so horny and I always want more.We haven't had sex yet so I'm wondering if I'm so horny because i want to have sex but i scare myself so we don't. And also because i have yet to experience an orgasm.So my questions areWhy do i get so horny so quickly?Is it bad i always want more?And could it have anything to do with: not having sex yet and wanting to experience an orgasm?Is it a bad thing that i have such a high sex drive?Any help would be great.
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (9 June 2011):
 "Why do i get so horny so quickly?" Because you are young.
"Is it bad i always want more?" No, but be careful.
"And could it have anything to do with: not having sex yet and wanting to experience an orgasm?" Yes, normal.
"Is it a bad thing that i have such a high sex drive?" Absolutely not, and also normal.
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (9 June 2011):
Why do i get so horny so quickly?
Some people get more horny quicker or slower than others, and it also depends how much physical chemistry you have with your partner, but you are designed to get horny to someone that you are attracted to that you want to have sex with.
Is it bad i always want more?
What makes you think it would be either good or bad to want more. We are designed to want more, these urges are designed so that we have sex with the people we are attracted to, in order to procreate. The sex drive is natures way of ensuring procreation happens for the survival of the species.
And could it have anything to do with: not having sex yet and wanting to experience an orgasm?
Yes, not having had sex, your curiosity may add to your sex drive.
Is it a bad thing that i have such a high sex drive?
You are designed to want to have sex, to procreate. What makes you think it is either a good or a bad thing? It isn't something to judge, it is your nature, we are all designed with a drive to have sex, in general.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2011): most woman don't orgasm from sex (by that I mean actual intercourse) fyi!! So i'm quite shocked you haven't had one from oral !!
You are young and curious about sexual intercourse, which is probably making you horny! lol. (Enjoy the feeling, 'cause you only get real sexual chemistry with a few people in life...
Is there a reason why you haven't had full sex yet btw? Just curious?
You have only been experiencing sexual contact for 4 months, so yeah, it's new and exciting, (your sex drive may wane after a while, so enjoy it! lol)
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (8 June 2011):
 Because you are young and your hormones are responsing naturally to something that is sexually stimulating.
You are designed to become excited and want to procreate.
But, because you have a heart and mind, you can decide and make wise choices about WHEN to have sex, not just react to impulses.
Making out is FUN! Especially with someone who is skilled at kissing!
No, you are not bad or wrong for responding normally.
However, if you think you might be interested in having sex with your bf you should talk about it with your Doctor and your bf about protection and expectations.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2011): Because you are normal and you are designed by "evolution" or "God" if you want, to have sex, procreate, raise children, and die.
It's just being human.
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reader, muso888 +, writes (8 June 2011):
Hi,
I am glad you are enjoying your relationship so much! I have an extremely high sex drive (higher than my boyfriends) and I see it as no bad thing. Also, it will probably come in waves of more and not so much depending on life. So long as your boyfriend enjoys you just as much how can it be a bad thing?
If this is the first time you have ever been sexually active I would think that it is probably very normal to be so horny so quickly. To find that you enjoy a new activity will always make you want more. And yes, the desire to want to experience an orgasm probably does add to this.
Also, if you are really very in love with your boyfriend it is no suprise that you find yourself aroused quickly around him. How lucky you are :)
So, in short, you don't need any help! You are a healthy, hotblooded lady experiencing this stuff for the first time and enjoying it. Have fun!!
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